Speak Out: A Relationship Without Anal Sex?
When it comes to sex in relationships, whether it’s a gay relationship or a straight one, there’s always a focus on who’s penetrating who. After all, there’s a reason why gay guys identify as tops or bottoms.
Recent years, however, have seen the term “side” get more prominence. Urban Dictionary defines a side as “a gay man who does not partake in anal-penetrative sex; a gay man who enjoys all aspects of intercourse with the exception of anal penetration.”
It’s something more and more people are doing, although they may not entirely be sure if it’s “normal.”
Take, for instance, this question from r/askgaybros. Reddit user SuperJus10 says he and his boyfriend are perfectly happy with just blowjobs and mutual masturbation, but he also wonders if it’s a common thing or if he and his boyfriend are just weird.
Responses to his post have been very supportive, ranging from people saying there’s no harm so long as they’re both happy and satisfied, to those saying sex should be comfortable and fun and they shouldn’t have to try something that turns them off.
One interesting thing in the responses is Reddit user ForgetMeThereafter, who is into penetrative sex but his partner isn’t. He says that the two of them are in an open relationship, and he only does anal when they do a threeway or he hooks up with someone else.
This Reddit question did make us curious about something. Adam4Adam blog readers, would you guys be open to a relationship that didn’t involve anal sex? Or do you feel that penetrative sex always has to be a part of the sexual repertoire? Are you in a relationship right now much like the one mentioned on Reddit? How do you manage? Tell us all about it in the comments section below!