Speak Out: What Have You Learned From Hooking Up?
For some of us, hooking up is still a new and thrilling experience that pumps some adrenaline into our system. And then there are those of us who have really gone around the block, so to speak. They’ve probably seen and done it all, and might have a thing or two to say to the newbie just starting out.
It was exactly the insight of these more experienced men that Reddit user u/i_respondWith_a_song was interested in. His post on the r/askgaybros subreddit called on gay guys who’ve slept with over a hundred men to share their most surprising insights, and Reddit did not disappoint.
The most upvoted response, for instance, was from u/gamefreakcs91, who says he’s surprised by how many guys just want to talk or experience some physical intimacy. He shares, “On more than one occasion I’ve found myself chatting with a guy and next thing you know I’m privy to insecurities, breakups, etc. It’s like guys just need to vent and be heard. I don’t mind indulging them.”
User u/sacredbandofbros, on the other hand, says that hooking up with more than a hundred men has expanded his mind.
“My tastes have been fully explored and refined to where I know exactly what i like and don’t like. My mind was expanded, types i used to find unappealing i now find very attractive,” he explains. “I’ve grown a lot since I started having sex. I love sex and theres no reason why safe sex can’t be practiced as much as you’d like while keeping it mentally healthy.”
There were also those that had much more sobering realizations, like user u/leemo88, who says “It can easily become an addiction, a need to please. Submitting yourself to the enjoyment of others is fun to start, but emotionally draining due to a sense of failure when you can’t get what you need and crave anymore.”
We now you Adam4Adam blog readers are an equally sexual bunch, so we’d like to pose the same question to you guys. What have you learned from hooking up? Tell us about it in the comments section below!