Hot or Not: Spit Domination
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So, you and your hookup or regular fuck buddy are getting hot and heavy when all of a sudden he spits on your face, what will your reaction be? Will you be in shock or will you be turned on?
We are bringing this up because a curious Adam4Adam reader wrote to us saying he wants to hear what you think about this subject and how many A4A members are into it. His curiosity stemmed from his best friend’s experience while hooking up during New Year’s Eve and also that he had seen guys spitting into each other’s mouths in porn a couple of times recently. Is spit fetish more common than we think it is?
Our reader said he doesn’t mind getting spat on in his ass before getting rimmed or on his dick before blow job but spitting on a person’s face without a warning is a huge no for him. He added that his best friend was in complete shock (had his mouth been wide open, the spit would have landed on his mouth). His best friend quickly instinctively wiped the spit from his face and sternly told his hook up that he doesn’t play that.
We did a little digging and that is called spit domination. I always say everything in life is relative; it applies to sex acts, too. According to this article, the author is also only quoting another writer by the way, “A slap can be aggressive or playful, hurtful or stimulating. Likewise, a wad of spit can be contemptuous or loving, depending on the intention. There’s nothing inherently demeaning about wanting to devour your lover’s liquid essence.” In addition, the author said spit domination’s origins can be traced back to BDSM and the act involved the “dominant partner spitting into their submissive partner’s face and/or mouth.” The submissive on the other hand, “may also be forced to swallow the liquid spit.” Lastly, in spit domination, spitting is seen in the same way as ejaculation, ‘facials’ and bukkake (sex act in which one participant is ejaculated on by two or more men) in particular.
If it were you, would you swallow your hookup’s spit? Do you find spit domination hot or not? More importantly, have you tried it before? Did you like it? Why or why not? Share with us your spit domination stories in the comments section below. Also feel free to send your blog posts suggestions if you’d like us to discuss a special subject, the email is [email protected]
No, its definitely not for me, its right up there with being pissed on.
My thoughts exactly.
Lamar, I understand the feeling completely. Read my post in reply to Dominique further down.
agree…i think it’s gross and a definite deal breaker
Love it on both sides, giving and receiving, Dom/Sub play is hot and spitting is just another tool to use, to submit to a guy means you do what he wants
Hell-to-the-NAW. A guy spit in my mouth unexpectedly once while we were kissing. It wasn’t like they hocked a loogie into my mouth; more like they just let their mouth stay open over mine long enough until a lot of salive built up (like if you’re at the dentist getting a cleaning and you don’t swallow for about 20 seconds), and then just let it drain into my mouth while our mouths were intertwined. It gave me the answer as to why he had stopped moving his tongue for a few seconds during the kiss. It took everything in my power not to punch the fuck out of him. I quickly got up, got dressed and left before I lost what lil’ self-control I possessed.
I wouldn’t eat a loogie off the floor, and it is certainly no better served directly from the source. There are just some body fluids that don’t need to be shared, & spit and blood & scat are the top three. At least with cum, you have some warning, cuz most people announce when they are about to climax. OR, they ask you do you swallow right before they do which gives you the opportunity to decline. But to spit on someone, or in their mouth without any kind of warning . . . I don’t like ANYONE spitting on me, even if they’re the same race as me — just like I don’t like the word “nigga” being spouted at me by another black person. But being black, getting spit on takes on a WHOLE other meaning if the person who spit on me is of another race. So there’s layers to it in my case. And yes — the guy who spit in my mouth was white.
As a fellow black man, I COMPLETELY agree with you. I had almost the EXACT same experience as you… a guy I hooked up with on this site… (icetenor) actually had the gall to spit in my mouth. I was at his place which, in my mind, made all the difference. While we were kissing, he positioned himself over me. To my surprise, he then used his tongue to push a huge glob of spit into my mouth. Although I didn’t do it, my first reaction was to punch him FULL FORCE directly in the testicles. Needless to say, things ended very abruptly and I left after cursing him out
I also had an experience years ago where another guy tried to violate. For anyone who’s had someone try to cum in your mouth when you didn’t want that, this is the one way to make it stop. While going down on him, he said he was about to cum. As I began to pull back, he grabbed the back of my head and try to hold me in place. He obviously wanted to force my head down on his cock so he could shoot down my throat. When I realize what he was doing, I knew what I had to do. I grabbed the base of his cock to keep him from shooting and then bit down on his dick… quite hard. Not only did it keep him from cumming in my mouth but I’m pretty sure that it cured him of attempting to forcing an act on someone that they didn’t want.
As a fellow black man, I COMPLETELY agree with you. I had almost the EXACT same experience as you… a guy I hooked up with on this site… (icetenor) actually had the gall to spit in my mouth. I was at his place which, in my mind, made all the difference. While we were kissing, he positioned himself over me. To my surprise, he then used his tongue to push a huge glob of spit into my mouth. Although I didn’t do it, my first reaction was to punch him FULL FORCE directly in the testicles. Needless to say, things ended very abruptly and I left after cursing him out.
I also had an experience years ago where another guy tried to violate. For anyone who’s had someone try to cum in your mouth when you didn’t want that, this is the one way to make it stop. While going down on him, he said he was about to cum. As I began to pull back, he grabbed the back of my head to try to hold me in place. He obviously wanted to force my head down on his cock so he could shoot down my throat. When I realize what he was doing, I knew what I had to do. I grabbed the base of his cock to keep him from shooting and then bit down on his dick… quite hard. Not only did it keep him from cumming in my mouth but I’m pretty sure that it cured him of attempting to forcing an act on someone that they didn’t want.
I would not find that sexy at all. I’d slap the fuck out of him! #GROSS
I was a sub once for 3 guys who tied me up. They tied my wrists behind my head and tied my legs eagle spread and shaved all the hair off my body,–pits, chest, pubes, legs and called me names like pussy boy. They continually spit all over my hairless body and made me open my mouth and spit in it and made me swallow their spit. They pissed in my mouth and made me swallow it called me a cock sucker piss boy. They took turns fucking my ass and then pissed on my ass and then they made me open my mouth and each jerked and filled my mouth with their cum and made me swallow it. They jerked me off and lubed their cocks with my cum and made me suck my cum off their cocks and called me cum eating fag boy. It was hot and they blew a big load out of me, too. 3 guys loads with my own was a lot of cum to swallow. lol
I love sex as well as the next guy but spitting on me during sex is a complete turnoff. Spit sometimes stink and just plain out nasty. A little bit of spit during French kissing with a hottie is okay as long as the guy knows how to kiss and keep his spit to a minimum. I think something like this should be discussed beforehand because it could lead to physical violence. Some guys appears to be turned on by it and I respect that as well. As for me, Hell-u-ah naw!!!!
I really don’t think it’s a racial thing while you are having sex with someone. It is a sexual thing. Like all sexual acts you are in charge of what you will or will not do. If you want to take it off the menu let your partner know. All parties should be comfortable and all acts should be consensual.
If someone spits in my face or in my mouth they will get a knee in the nuts. It’s nasty and disrespectful. Like your a piece of garbage. spitting on an ass hole to lube it up for fucking is fine.
I don’t make a habit of spitting on or into another person, that said, however if I was asked to I certainly would without any hesitation even though it’s not something I normally would do.
I am the dom top, if I want to abuse my bitch boi, I’ll use and abuse him as I see fit. He’s here for one reason and one reason only, he has no limits, his limits are my limits.
Spitting on someone ?
Wow this is a questioned to be asked
Has nothing to do with being open minded sexy hot or being dominated or otherwise .
This is truly DISGUSTING . You exchange spot during kissing and being intimate
But by no means
there’s nothing “Hot” about it and to those who are in to this “spit domination” .
Remember what spit is – Saliva . It helps & digests your food and if you are doing this & it to to even just a hookup …..
Honestly it shows how much you think of someone .
Which clearly you don’t !!!
This sense of domination is hideous and ridiculous .
What you are you Not even an animal , and just a disrespectful douche
& To do this to anyone…..People need to stop looking to porn For ANY KIND OF reference for what they do SEXUALLY ESP AS GAY MEN
Porn is just that Porn – it’s not real so why would you use it as an excuse or the reasoning for engaging in this
TRUST ME -Spit at me
You’ll get your ass kicked
My dad use to always to us growing up
he said “Spitting on somebody has to be one of the Lowest things you can do to somebody”
So the article is against French kissing. I can get that.
I think spit domination is the most ridiculously over-used device, to the point of silliness and just being a joke, in all of porn. And a huge turn-off. I mean, like, if it was being felt, and was spontaneous, in a handful of situations, okay. But to be an obligatory element in so many pornos? Not even!
I can see why some guys do like it, but it’s not for me. Either giving or receiving.
I think it would be hot, if your really into your guy. My BF and I kiss and were always exchanging spit with each other as we kiss.
That’s totally different BJJJ.
Read your response to Domonique. Right on point with most of what you wrote sir!!!
Spit on my hole Daddy. I’m a bottom who leans towards submissive but this is indeed a grey area. If I’m in a relationship or regular fuck buddy situation with you, spitting and cum swapping can be on the table. Just a random hook up? Not so much. And even then, spit in my mouth not in my face. Unless you kiss me immediately after and then it’s ok.
Dominique, I can understand about you being spit upon, as it’s very degrading, just like the N word. I also can understand that it would even be worse with spit coming from a white guy. I am white, and I admit that white people are the ones that put black people into the position’s of hate that still exists today. I have never had any kind of dislike for people of another race or nationality. The only reason their is so much crime, hatred, shootings, within the black races is because of the hatred that whites caused toward black people. Spitting on anyone, black or white, out of hatred, dislike, distrust is horrible. Their are many stereotypes among different races, that should be thrown out with the garbage. I bet you are a very nice lovable person. You deserve a big hug and thumbs up from sharing your feelings about yourself and spitting, etc. As you can also tell I DO NOT like the idea of sub and dom sexual play. Sexual fun should be mutual.
Now on the flip side though, some guys like the idea of sharing each other especially when their deeply in love and into each other. (And I mean real close and deeply in love). I admit it’s not for everyone though. When your deeply into each other, it’s like the two of you are so close that it becomes a deep bonding and turn on, be it spit, cum, or even pee. It’s like WOW, I have some of my lover in me and mine in him. That is completely different from spitting etc. because of dislike, hatred, or doing it just for a sexual turn on. That type of sharing is because of the love and closeness for each other. Now, also you may think I’m completely crazy, but yes I am white, and my BF, best friend, lover is black, and yes we are quite close, sharing nearly everything from our upbringing, jobs, likes, dislikes, things about our families, etc. It’s much more than just sex. We help each other, go places, travel, shop, dine, etc. I must say we have at times gotten into some deep kissing, (not spitting), and yes we share our saliva while as we tongue each other deep in the mouth, etc. We also have swallowed each others cum. It gives me a warm nice feeling of bonding knowing I have some of his “fluids” in me. But I must admit this is something that one gets into during true love for each other, and not just plain ol’ sex.
@BJJJ I love it that you and mate have a very intimate and sharing, caring relationship, sounds like you two are actually good for/ nurturing and a comfort for each other. You truly have each others respect, sounds like a very passionate relationship built on trust; actually knowing each other, sounds very mature. Your taking the time-energy learning about each other, I really hope and believe this will be a lasting bond on multiple levels. It’s just that the spitting thing seems kinda ‘wicked,’ or twisted. I love really deep kissing as it always never fails to give me an absolutely ragging woody w/someone I’m very attracted to.
Yes, it’s definitely for me; it’s right up there with being pissed on. 😉
Dominique, get over yourself.
Oh HELL NO!
Scat, piss, spit, no thanks, easy pass, it is just humiliation is how I see it, just don’t understand how some are into this…..
No, no…..oh, and Hell NO!
It’s not the saliva it self, it’s the way it’s done. It’s like word’s; you can call someone a bitch as a compliment or a derogatory intention.
I’ve seen the spitting in porn and if I was hard, I lost my boner once one guy spit in the other guys face.
For those who like it, to each he s own, but spitting on me is a no no and a invitation to get your ass kicked, and not in a good way.
no…definitely not…it’s gross as hell
and when i first saw it in a porn video
the whole video just went south for me
and i turned it off
“….you and your hookup or regular fuck buddy are getting hot and heavy when all of a sudden he spits on your face..*
How much of a moron is a guy to think hauling off and suddenly spitting on someone’s face is probably going to be ok? For sure, playfully threatening as a means to to test the water, to open discussion, is fine. Maybe the receiver could be into it. Great IF he is.
But given the general many many cultures demeaning message behind just quagging on someone is brainless. Usually not hot. Usually not sexy. Usually a clear way to say “fuck you.”
If guys are into spitting, great. Submissive guys COULD be. But maybe not. Before using your mouth to spit, use it to talk!
love having my ass spit on but not my fave…
He double L to the no. Gay sex is about affirmation not degradation.
It could be a good thing if we are both really horny! Kind of like taking some piss on occasion.
I don’t find that hot at all. I would knock the hell out of any dude that did that. #GROSS
For me it is fine…your already sharing spit if your kissing. As a sub i like the idea of being spit on or having Sir spit in my mouth as being marked by him or accepting his domination. I do think it is a personal decision that should be discussed though
I spit on and in my subs all the time. They eat it up.
It’s no big deal really. After all, when you kiss you are just swapping spit anyway.
I love it when a guy gets so turned on he spits in my face as it turns me on and the element of surprise is quite nice….I dig it…but I also like drinking another guys piss after blowing his cock, which really turns me on. Wishing more guys enjoyed pissing in a guys mouth for him to drink down. I love it.
Fuck yea it’s Hot! I love it.
Just like piss play is!
Wimps can’t take it though!
BIGUY4ORAL…Right on bro. Spit n piss!
And I love love love deep sloppy tongue bashing kissing too.
I know a lot of this blog has also turned into a racial discussion as well. And I can see why. The way blacks were treated by whites years ago, (and still today), it would be very degrading to have a white person spit (or do something else degrading) to someone who is of the black race. I would never spit, call someone the “N” word, or anything else derogatory to someone who is black or of a different race. So many times white guys get their sexual kicks by being able to hook up with a black person, and have sex, just for the challenge of doing it with someone who is black, and then brag about it to his white friends. If doing something like that isn’t racist, well what is? Let alone spitting in or on that person during a sexual encounter. I have never liked the Dom/Sub play, especially when it involves different races. No one person is better than the other, regardless of whether it be during sexual play or in the workplace, etc. No one race or nationality is superior than the other. Yes, I am white, but still I”m very ashamed and abhorred of what my white forefathers did to black people, the Indians, Hispanics, and other races in the establishment of the United States and other countries. Why can’t we just greet each other with a smile, a nice pat on the back saying a job well done. A nice “How you doing”, spoken to someone can go a long ways.
Why are you mixing racism in here?
It has nothing to do with a white man spitting in a black man’s face, or a black man spitting in a white man’s face. It’s about aman spitting in another man’s face as a kink or domination/sub role play.
Dave, you’re too smart not have figured that out…
There are those wht guys, that love the degradation of blk men (victims) of their brand of racism. However, the reverse is also true I’m sure.
Then there’s the race-play, I care for that either…
I once years ago, on this very site met online a latin dude who propositioned me. I asked if he considered himself a wht-latin, (florida-thing) ‘yes’ was his answer, I said later then, he called me a nigger; dude’s lips were fuller than mine and I know why, lmao! Weeks later met him in a park at his behest; reminded him of who I am I proceeded to beat the livin’ shit out of him, leaving him unconscious. I get terribly aggressive about racism. You guys block his account on here.
Nobody has the right to degrade anyone because of their race, looks, nationality, or even if someone just plain doesn’t like somebody. However, I don’t believe being violent to someone who has degraded you is necessary either. Most guys will just avoid the person or walk away, but I also understand that anger is a very strong force, as my anger also can get out of control at times, over different situations. I agree though that this man that Lamar met probably “had it coming”
if the sex is HOT….hell ive been face fucked to the point of my slobber runs down my chin or on his cock….then he kisses you….just another form of being a sub or dom….i agree its not for everyone but it can be hot and makes great lube….