Speak Out: Bareback Only?
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Hey, guys! How do you respond when your hookup tells you they prefer to go bareback, or when you both are already in the bedroom all hot and bothered but suddenly he refuses to have sex with condom?
We’re asking because time and again we’d stumble upon a thread that says bareback is all the rage among young gay men these days specifically among 18-30 years old. But others contradicted this, saying that age had nothing to do with it, that they met men over 40 both online and face-to-face who also prefer not to use condoms during sex.
Having said that, are you one of those guys who prefers bareback sex? Why or why not? And more importantly, how often do you meet someone else who says they don’t normally bareback but that they forgot to bring a condom? They say most of their hookups—tops and bottoms alike—don’t even ask if they are on PrEP or if they are STD-free. Have you ever been in this kind of situation? If so, what did you do? Did you have unprotected sex with the guy anyway? Why or why not?
One of the commenters in these types of threads pointed out that most of these guys who prefer bareback sex are into it as a fantasy only, that the idea is just a jerk off material to them. That in real life there is no way most of them would go through with doing it raw with a complete stranger. Well, as for me, I always try to live by this saying: an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. But that’s just me, what about you?
Anyway, I will repeat one of the questions in the thread mentioned above because I am really curious to hear your answer: how is random bareback sex still so common these days? Are you personally cool with bareback sex? And lastly, under what circumstances would you have bareback sex? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
LOVE, LOVE BB but have to be very selective in who I BB with, either being the top or bttm. I find it more erotic and love the skin to skin feel, condoms can and are a mood breaker but do know they are needed just keep in mind they are not a 100% protection.
You just know this is only an excuse to call us filthy disease spreading vermin in the comments.
Like a4a, just say you hate HIV + men. Say guys that bareback on PrEP are stupid and going to end up getting it too. You pretty much just use these posts as a socially acceptable way to let the comment section attack people at risk of or living with HIV. It’s gross and not hard to see.
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE , THANKS FOR CALLING THIS ONE OUT AND CALLIN THIS WHAT IT IS
GOOD FOR YOU CARLOS !!
I tell them not going to happen, always safe sex for me
It’s not age-bound, and too many men are happy to share their infections and viruses with others, and young men are completely stupid to let someone infect them with anything. Barebacking is never okay unless, perhaps you are in a porn shoot where it is a controlled environment and everyone has been tested, but that’s only if they never leave the studio. The age-old STDs are becoming treatment-resistant, and they are all a danger to your life. AIDS is partly treatable, but only preventable by safer sex. Prep is not a guarantee, nor is being undetectable. The science keeps changing. As soon as they announced that undetectable men could not transmit the virus, someone else found it lurking in their testicles. And if their health changes, do you think they know at which moment they become detectable and infectious again? So much misleading information, so many lies are out there. Your life is precious, and so is your one body. Treat it with respect. That doesn’t mean working out. That means caution, not mutilation. There seems to be a trend of being dirty during and about sex. Yuck. Bad manners, to say the least. There just is NO flexibility on this. Only a married couple that is absolutely monogamous could perhaps enjoy bareback sex.
Thank you!
It is shameful of the porn producers to encourage barebacking by setting such a bad example. One more example of their exploitation of the audience to make more bucks. They don’t care how many lives get ruined. Wouldn’t it be nice to see them boycotted?
I cannot believe that this is even a topic. I am a medical professional and have worked in the HIV/AIDs arena since the plague of the 1980’s. The infection rate among young gay men is increasing again. There seems to be a unhealthy consensus among this group that ‘PREP’ and the new pharmaceuticals will either prevent transmission or ‘eradicate’ the virus. These drugs are not aspirin, they can have long term side effects on your body and vital organs such as liver, kidneys and musculoskeletal degeneration among others. Besides HIV, there is a long list of STD’s can can be transmitted via unsafe sex, many of them with life long & life threatening (ie kaposi sarcoma) consequences. There is a reason it’s called UNSAFE SEX. Condoms are cheap, your health isn’t and neither are the pharmaceuticals and treatment. Be safe, know your status, use your brain rather than your dick or ass and make the right & only choice!
Bareback, aka REAL sex.
Sorry, we don’t all want a rubber barrier between us.
Simply stated: Condoms make most men go soft, lucky are the men who can stay hard when wearing a condom. That being said, why are we not using the “Female type of condom that the bottom inserts before anal sex? Female condoms are almost impossible to find easily at a local drug store and on line, and if you do find them the cost is very high! Female condoms claim to be as safe as the traditional male condom, and what man enjoys wearing a restrictive tube around their cock, while bottoms mostly do not feel the female condom?
I have a big dick. I have a great body. I get a lot of men wanting sex. They assume because I look as I do I must be having sex 24-7. I have to be a complete promiscuous whore, right? I’m actually not a whore. Some assume I am into sketchy sex because I’m hung. Again, not my thing. I love watching sketchy sex, sure, but not doing it. When I say I only fuck with the magnums I’ve brought, some get volcanic with rage. SO BE IT! I don’t want STDs, nor HIV, nor shit actually on my dick. I use condoms. My brother and his husband bareback but they are also monogamous. The choice to go bareback is a personal decision, but if your partner wants a condom on he isn’t lesser than. Make a decision and live with it.
First of all, let’s be honest: we all “prefer” bareback sex. Condoms are a mood killing hassle and they ruin the best feeling a person is supposed to experience.
What alarms me is the increasing number of profiles I see who say they want bb sex AND they are HIV+. Is that some indication that they will only have sex with someone else who’s positive or do they really expect neg. guys to take all the risk because there is no longer a risk to the positive guy, for HIV anyway.
I agree with Dave. Prevention is the wisest course and PrEP is NOT a complete prevention.
I was reading a comment recently where some guy stated:
“Out comes the condoms, there goes my boner, out the door I go”
I get it, there’s no FUN planning the event, so many want to LIVE in the moment, … and in all fairness, I hear so much negativity on both sides, so I want to share some perspective here.
I am REALLY new at this (guys) and I am educated, and kind, and I care for others, so I am unsure why it is so upsetting or wrong for me to also care about my health and well being? I hear about rude Poz-phobic guys, and yes, I have seen some of that here. I have several friends who are Positive and have been loving and supportive of me, and I love and support them. One friend is freed up by his diagnosis and does not use protection because as he puts it, he is undetectable, and only goes with other undetectable guys. Another friend practices safer sex practices to avoid other STDs such as syphilis (which is making a BIG come back recently) and I understand his philosophy. One of the reasons we never hooked up was I wanted to build a friendship with BOTH, and while there were some ‘jump at the chance’ moments, I never did jump, and those friendships grew deeper and better than the sex ever could have been in that moment. Now, looking back, only one knew his status, and we talk all the time about what it means to them, and how much more grateful we all are for the ‘deeper, more meaningful’ friendship.
While I understand it is our right to use our bodies as we deem fit, and it is great to eat a greasy cheeseburger on occasion, drink 10+ drinks at a party, down a pint of ice cream when my serotonin wont kick in, OR to jump on an attractive guy in the moment — I have YET to be told why “bareback” is more important than my peace of mind or long term health consequences. Maybe we will create a pill that will one day block or annul the harm we put upon our bodies, and even then it will still be wiser to plan ahead, then mend, after the event.
Will I ever bareback? That is a decision for my future. If I am in a loving trusting relationship, yeah, I can see the possibility of no holds barred passion — however, THAT is a gift I will give the man I love and trust, not the next hook-up or momentary judgement call … and no skin on skin, raw contact, is more important than my long term health
I cam out in the late 1980s when the message was, “NEVER WITHOUT A CONDOM!” Having from a distance watched the AIDS epidemic explode in America’s large cities, I heeded the warnings. I was TERRIFIED. I didn’t go bareback until I met my first boyfriend–who later became my husband–in 1995.
The hard work done by AIDS care organizations to promote the message of always using condoms probably saved my life by scaring me into never engaging in risky sex. I am forever grateful.
I’m happy you posed this question. I’m so tired of reading BB or Bareback because porn has created this fantasy that gay men are trying to constantly live. As a top, i don’t want to feel another dude’s nut in a hole i’m fuckin! In fact, i don’t know alot of tops that do. I pass on all BB and Cumdumps! Just fuckin’ gross!
Oh, you want to have bareback sex? Here are your clothes. There is the door.
My husband died from complications of AIDS thirty years ago next month. I don’t care if you think it feels better or is sexier or if you think it’s OK because you are on PrEP. Bareback sex is dangerous and stupid. If you think otherwise you have no place in my life.
Please leave.
A good friend of mine recently told me “I must have fucked at least 1,000 guys. And I never once used a condom”.
I asked if any guys requested he wear one. He said “no”.
That’s all I need to know
unfortunately this day an age 20 minutes of pure fun isn’t worth get an std.
Lol, I commend the author for limiting his personal bias against raw sex to the sentence “how is random bareback sex still so common these days?”
The more salient question in the age of PrEP and U=U is “how are articles like this still getting greenlit?”
Raw sex feels better, and for many the fluid exchange is part of enjoyment. What I wrote ten years ago after the “Swiss Statement” on HIV remains more true now than ever:
Condoms suck dogshit. If you want condoms to become popular (and *NO*, they never actually got very popular), ADVOCATE FOR BETTER CONDOMS.
ten years later, articles like this are all that condom advocates can muster?
You’d better do better if you take your own goals seriously.
Just The Way I Like It! As Long As He’s Disease Free. 2 Negs Don’t Make A Poz.
YES! Now, what does a “neg” and a “thought I was neg” make?
YES, I love bareback and yes to all your questions. I do, do some screening with strangers.
Really?! You have the take home test? You wait for the results then jump into bed? What kind of screening do you do exactly?
A lot of guys like bareback because it just feels better and having a guy cum in you is pretty intimate. I had a guy I messed with a lot and we didn’t use condoms. I was okay with it
I only really want to bareback with a boyfriend to be honest, or someone long term
How do I respond? “If you’re not gonna wrap it, you can go home and whack it.” It won’t ever happen when we’re already in the bedroom. That policy is in place before they make it thru the front door.
I think bareback is awesome when your in a committed relationship but the reality is you never know when your partner is as committed there for protect yourself wrap it up!
I bareback only, bottom mostly. My profile states this and it drives me crazy when I hook up with a guy and he pulls out a condom. Not gonna happen, It don’t feel good , they try jab their dick in cause they going limp. They are not 100% sure. No need to lecture me I know the risk.
Well, back in the day, yes I am older. HIV was really new, and mostly gay men came down with it. And had no knowledge of what it was let alone how it was contacted. So a lot of people died due to this mystery disease. And I had known a bunch that did. Condoms were there, but most men didn’t like the feel of them around their dicks, and that was the biggest complaint. Plus carrying them in a wallet , kind of gave off the same impressions in the jeans as a Skoal dip can. And it was a bother to carry them around all the time. Plus if you ran across the hot hunk that you couldn’t keep your ass or dick away from, well some one had semen leaking form said hole. So with all the HIV meds available (very effective, but extremely costly) its like oh what the hell I’ll just take a pill and everything is good. People will differ with their opinion of wether being poz undetectable is the new negative. And yo have those that won’t touch a tainted cock work a ten foot pole, yet you have others dying (physically and figuratively) to contract the bug, IE bugchasers. I unfortunately got ahold of a bad wiener and low and behold am now sero converted. I am on meds that keep my viral load down, but my T cells aren’t the best. And it was my fault for being the dick slut that I am and not using protection. So I can’t blame any one but me. All I can say is now that I have it it’s there, and not much I can do to reverse it. So if I play with poz or undetectable, it’s ok by me. Ps most meds are around the $2500.00 mark a month, and with the insurance companies re structuring the medicine, co pays are at33% leaving the individual with about an $800.00 copy. So condoms are the cheaper alternative. And I am not sure how much pREP is, but it’s too late for this guy. So bareback is the he way it was intended to be, and it’s natural, and the feeling is better all around, plus it’s awesome to feel a guy bust a nut in you. Some will agree and some will disagree. So it’s basically about what you want and how it pleases you and your partner, trick, conquest, what ever you call him. So far I’ve been lucky to have not had the bad stuff happen to me like many of the people I knew who passed. The problem is if you need an organ transplant, it’s harder to get on a list, and if you do, they give you anti rejection meds that wipe out your already messed up immune system. Which usually causes the HIV to dig in and take an even stronger hold of your already wrecked immune system. So it’s pretty much a lose, lose situation. People still die to the complication of HIV, but it more likely that you will get struck by lightning than die from HIV. That’s my look at it, take it for what it’s worth. Piss I was a health care worker that dealt with people wit early HIV diagnosis, and had to administer some really harsh drugs, to combat the virus. So bad were these drugs, I had to wear a respirator and a gown to administer the drug, the partners had to wait outside of the room. The vapors would hurt a normal healthy lungs. And they were some of the best patients I have ever had to treat, God rest their souls.
As someone who is poz but undectable and who hooks up with mostly other poz undetectable guys, I don’t top unless I know them fairly well. By that time condoms aren’t usually an issue for either of us. And when I bottom I enjoy feeling a guy unload inside me, not a balloon. Undetectable = uninfectious. Even the CDC agrees.
NO! The CDC DOES NOT agree … in fact here is what they say after they warn that “Gay Men and MSM (men who have sex with men), are among those at highest risk for STDs! Here is there webpage:
https://www.cdc.gov/std/life-stages-populations/stdfact-msm.htm
What I find most amusing is the norm these days is bb. When I go to video stores, sex clubs, campgrounds, resrts, etc. And there is a lot of sex happening, most everyone goes bb. Unfortunately, it seems to be the norm and not the exception.
Im in my fifties and if im attracted enough to have sex with someone then im attracted enough to bareback. I do check my potential partner out before i go down on him, and definitely ask some questions. If things dont look or feel right then its off. If it is right then i like the intamacy of his loads in my mouth and manpussy bare!
When I first started bottoming about four years ago a condom was a requirement. I quickly found out that three out of four guys lose their hard on when putting on the condom. That meant I only got assfucked about 25% of the time when I’d find an interested lover so I stopped requiring it. Then I started asking if they were STD free or HIV undetectable (undetectable = untransmittable) but I believe that most people are clean or they wouldn’t be having sex. Maybe I’m naïve in that respect.
The truth is that we can cure every disease and if I get HIV then I can take the meds to make myself undetectable so I’m not worried about it
It’s terribly painful to someone who has had many friends DIE from AIDS to see all this nonsense about bareback sex with a hookup.
I understand some folks are ignorant, they see the ads showing these gorgeous guys taking their ‘once a day’ anti-retrovirals and doing just fine, they think an HIV infection isn’t much worse than the flu. That’s the sad part. Few of us would infect ourselves with heart disease which disables you in a dozen years, or a slow growing cancer, that’ll give you a lower quality of life for whatever time you get to stay on the planet. Yet we say “OK” to barebacking, with all of the uncertainties that come with the practice.
Why? Oh, the condoms ‘chafe’ me. I can’t ‘feel’ you, baby! I’m fine, don’t worry. In 2018 we should be seeing an incredible drop in HIV infections (sexually acquired) but we aren’t. All of us who pay taxes pay a lot more, medicines for people on welfare and Medicaid cost taxpayers billions of dollars a year, and don’t really give you symptom free happy lives like you see on TV. For most of us on this site, be honest- do you really know who you are with. Don’t take a chance.
I guess I’ll be honest…yes I like it raw. I mainly bttm but I top on occasion too. I didn’t used to be that way preferring condoms but I had some fucked up situations happen to me in college that made me just say fuck it (date raped and gang raped)… I use raw sex mainly as a coping mechanism for the daily stresses of life (work troubles, relationships troubles, etc)…I want to be more up front with it but there’s still a stigma to admitting you prefer it that way… I get tested regularly but I find myself leaning towards guys who are kinda sneaky about because it’s less questions asked…I would feel better about this if I didn’t feel the need to hide that I like to be fucked raw and hard…
Barebacking is a fantasy, and reality of mine. I just love the feel of the warm dick and cum inside me
As a neg Vers male i have to say i do prefer bb. I will respect a guy’s request for rubbering up, but i still prefer without. Oh btw, I am on prep.
I have been FB with a guy for a couple years and we have both been tested so we always bareback, but we don’t play with others. What Is a new twist for me is that positive guys, who are undetectable, want to bareback, because the CDC says it is not transmitable.
As a performer who has been only in productions when the act has been bareback I think that the agreement to do it has to be settled before arriving to bed. You have to say why and listen the response. Yes, I create fantasies in bareback but I know what I am doing and the consequences. Precisely the latter is what the people has to learn. If you are not sure to engage in bareback sex use protection. If you do make sure to schedule an appointment to check up. Many people hides the truth about hiv and std status as well as they might not know.
I steer clear of bareback only guys. It indicates to me a wreckless lack of self-respect not to mention the lack of respect for the dopey tops who are willing to dip their dicks in that hole.
I personally prefer bareback, but have only done so with someone I know fairly well. Condoms are just not as easy to take via the back donor and while wearing not as sensitive to the top.
All that being said, protection is important.
Bareback, rawdawg, unprotected sex, is the new man in 2018. Yes in the str8 community too.
Scenario: they say they don’t play without condoms but as soon as they get you over, they don’t look for condoms at all. They go in bare. I’ve heard so many lies. Some even start with one then slip it off like I wouldn’t notice. Then we hear the most infamous lie of 2018 gay sex: I’m on Prep. I say Really? What do you do for a living? Because Prep is EXPENSIVE. $1300 without insurance. That’s just an excuse to have raw sex.
I’m mostly a top. With that said I had bareback sex once, it was great. I did trust the guy. I have not had bareback sex since then. Always had a condom on the night stand. I think unprotected sex should only be with one person. Even if you are on Prep. Would I do it again, only after my partner and I got a clean bill of health etc.
That you have to ask “why bareback sex” is homophobic.
Grow a dick. Without a condom on it. You already did? Well, chop it off then. Apparently it’s useless meat.
While there certainly isn’t any great joy to be found showering in a raincoat, as a very active total daddy top, I’ve never once Fucked anyone worth contacting ANY std(s) from.
In my profile and and in my conversational chats I’m very honest, very upfront and very uncompromising on this issue, no condom = no sex, no debate……
IDK why, but I always seem to catch some lingering burn when you piss UTI after forcefully fudge packing fecal matter into my cock slit.
While sex is best, and hot oral is intense, jacking off is so under rated and doesn’t require another dose of antibiotics, it’s wrap my member or lose my number…..
What I find most interesting is people who list themselves as bareback only typically also list themselves and HIV positive. The fact thatsomeone’s + really doesn’t bother me. But you know that you’re positive and you want to go bareback with anyone who let you I have an issue with that. Granted I have the right to say no but you should care more for others than that. I chatted with a guy one time and said he was bareback and had 20 Partners the night before.
Bareback sex is the only way to go! It feels so much better. Love the feeling of a man’s raw cock inserting into my ass. Besides condoms irritate my ass. So I am a total barebacker and don’t regret it at all!!!
I love getting barebacked. The cock feels and glides so much better. Every once in a while I’ll have a guy fuck me with a condom on and it reminds how great bareback is. Plus, I love the feeling of getting filled with cum and squeezing it out, eating it and using it to jerk myself off. I do make sure they are STD free.
Just looked at your profile. If I wasn’t in Maine I’d be in you. Your ass is perfect. I’d blow loads into you all night. And I’d throat that cock until you exploded down my throat and begged me to stop. Awesome profile!
Damn, wish you were here 😉 That sounds really hot. And thanks.
I take my chances as this is a fantasy and reality for me. I love the feel of a warm dick inside me and a load of warm cum.
Good Morning,
I would firmly say that I will not do it bareback. If that means that I have to go home and jerk off myself then that is what I would do !! As you said an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
I love this question/topic. I am very much in to BB sex. I love it. The feeling is amazing, far better then wearing a condom. I am tested very regularly, pop my blue tic-tac every morning, take hep shots/boosters regularly and go through a VERY rigorous cleaning or decontamination procedure after having sex so I feel somewhat safe (yes I still know I can catch something and I’m rolling the dice).
That being said my profile lists BB as my preferred choice. Having listed as being on PrEP was detrimental to hooking up so I deleted that and the bs that came with it. I can not even begin to tell you how many guys I’ve fucked when their profile lists “condom only” or “safe play only”. It was like a game or joke to see how many guys I could BB whose profiles said safe only. I’ve yet to meet a die hard “safe player only”.
There was a guy on adam who wrote in his profile “if your profile lists unsafe sex or no condom presence, do not hit me up” then listed condom as preference. I do actually chat on adam as well as look for hookups. So we chatted. Got to know each other. He invited me over and when he did he said,”just so you know if we get to the point of sex you’ll be wearing a condom!” I accepted. Went over. We got right to the bedroom. The kissing, rimming and sucking were amazing. He reached over grabbed a condom and lube and and put it on me. I began fucking him and he was into being fucked hard so I obliged. All of a sudden he lunged forward and I thought I hurt him. He is on all fours, he turns around and looks at me. All he did was look at me, no motions no words. I pulled off the condom and he put his head back down on the bed and arched his back (he saw me take it off. No stealthing). I placed the tip of my cock in the opening to his hole. He backed into it. Fucked him for an hour in many different positions. Trust me, he loved it. We never discussed health status, PrEP, test results…etc. He just let me fuck him BB. When we were done and getting dressed he asked,”you’re clean right?” I reassured him I was. I’ve fucked him regularly now for almost 6 months. This is not an uncommon story for me. It happens all the time. I can not even begin to tell you how many guys I’ve had the “are you clean conversation” with AFTER sex.
For me finding the safe player and fucking him BB is just as awesome as sex. The getting into where I’m “not supposed to be” is the rush. It’s my High. For me, it’s better than any drug.
What’s fucked up is my bf and I were both tested together, both on PrEP and he is the only one I’m vers with. When we fuck each other it’s always safe. We go through a box of trojans in a weekend. We are in an open relationship as we don’t get to see each other a lot.
For all the haters and advice givers: I’ve never raped anyone, I’ve never done anything illegal, I’ve never stealthed anyone. It clearly states in my profile I am into BB SEX (damn I love it so much) and I’m am sure to mention it in our chat. All the sex I’ve ever had the person knew I was going in raw it was never a surprise. Mutual consent. The only precaution I don’t take is wearing a condom.
It’s really scary because there’s so many other STDs you can contract. HPV, Herpes, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, genital warts, Hepatitis. Bareback sex is not worth the risk.
Mostly prefer bareback. Top here so I know my risk is lower anyway. Got on Prep mostly to protect the guys I play with. It’s also a pragmatic thing with me. I’m a daddy so if I’m with a young hot guy, condoms can be ok, but not usually as turned on by older guys so may not stay hard if I have to wear a condom. Can’t really say that as it makes me sound like dick that I’m not that attracted, but that’s the math of the thing.
I am responsible for my own health. I do not engage in bareback sex at all. I do not have sex with men who want to bareback.
I came of age in the 80s..and once aids reared its head I only played safe. That said…I am a total bottom and love a guy cumming in me…and I do sometimes do bare hookups again
First off
To you from moderates this if you don’t post this
it’s because you can’t handle the truth
But Let me start off by saying this .
Who doesn’t and wouldn’t like bareback sex ?
Honestly
The feeling of really of really being with someone that close -that intimate and that “raw” as some so charmingly put it … and yes
I say that sarcastically & snarky .
But who wouldn’t like bareback sex ??
-the fact you’re not having to generally worry about having a condom and to not really worry about possible STDs or HIV transmission even if you’re on Prep
Sure bareback sex is Amazing!
I had it & Hell I’ve had lots and enjoyed ALL of it!
but the stigma that’s still runs rampant by HIV negative gay men BUT being placed behind in this post on HIV positive people by this BLOG
– It is absolutely HORRENDOUS
YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSRAND UNLESS YOU HAVE HIV TO KNOW THE SCRUTINY AMD OSTRACIZING AMD HORRIBLE SHUNNING JUDGMENTAL BEHAVIOR YOU RECEIVE AND EXPERIENCE
Regardless of what the CDC says about being undetectable and it’s not transmittable
THEN WHY USE CONDOMS ,
But like there’s never been risk
B4 HIV I. THE BEGINNING ANX LEADING UP TO PRESENT DAY
It is an attack on HIV + people id say partly
Yes it’s a great ? To ask
But the fact that ANYONE HAVING SEX
ESP GAY MEN & let’s be very clear and honest ESP IF (YOU)
THEY HAVE MUTIPLE SEX PARTNERS , IF engaging in PNP , orgy & group sex but even those who have oral sex and I’m finding so many who claim this
and I’m sorry I use the site but even Adam for Adam as a side posting all these advertisements for porn if you click on any of those links your lead to porn were there unprotected sex group sex orgy sex bareback sucks multiple partners you can tell some drug use poppers whatever else and let’s be honest here people are taking this idea that this is what kind of sex you engaging in being gay being with other men
& YOU “ committed -married or open” TYPE relationships ….
You are but YOU ALL who have sex esp with difffrent people but ESP GAY MEN
YOU ARE CULPABLE AND VERY MUCH HAVE A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY EVERYTIME YOU HAVE SEX and NEED TO F*cking TAKE Absolute Responsibility for your/their behavior and actions and every time you or whoever else has/have sex with
Even with or those somebody(s) in that . YOU MAY NOT know them or whoever
– for more than a one night stand/
Hookup or even if it’s a regular ongoing encounter with whoever and how ever many you all have sex with
Regardless…..
-unless you’re in a fully “monogamous & truly committed both been tested & never go outside those boundaries” Type of relationship .
YOU ARE AT RISK EVERYTIME !
It’s part of the dynamic and esp present day but yet the 30 almost 40 past years Especially…..
& There is way too many gay men who take this position about being coupled/ partnered & married
And YES YOUR even “open relationships” that you’re somehow truly committed but yet you f*ck other people YOURE AT RISK BIG TIME !
Even Using Condoms and on Prep
Here’s a WAKE UP CALL AND REALITY CHECK !!!
There’s a reason why millions and millions have died from HIV and have gotten infected with other STDS
It happens Daily , weekly , monthly , year after year &
over the years
But it happened over decades ,over (STDs )centuries
People got sick and some died from them or like hepatitis . You still have it and yes it still happens in present day
ALSO know this !!
THERE is the reason Why there is the spread of this disease HIV and other STDs
like HIV has been for 30+ years ALMOST 40
especially since the discovery and onslaught of HIV on society AND THE LGBTQ community
But Esp moreso AMONGST gay & bi men from the past 30+ years
There’s way too many gay men who have this ideology or that take this position IM SEEING ALOT MORE about coupled /partnered /married and yes even You open relationship – types
I know the gay men and bisexual and other people in general
I’m sure have engaged in this kind of set up open partnered married but have sex with others —that you’re somehow truly committed but yet you f*ck other people
Know this!!!
AND HEAR ME VERY LOUD AND CLEAR AS IF IM YELLING IT
YOU ARE VERY MUCH AT RISK
EVERYTIME YOU DO !
Sorry but ya are !!
& THERE is the Reason why there is the spread of disease like HIV and OTHER STD/ STI -infections
—they’re diagnosed daily ,weekly monthly and year after year like it has been for 30+ years since especially HIV
& as long as this behavior continues
HIV and STDS WILL CONTINUE TO AFFECT AND INFECT Many many others …..
Hello there is even the fact that there’s people who don’t know or care whether they are + or other possible Stds
Who don’t know the status of whoever they have sex with and even beyond that.
All Of You who engage in any sex —let’s be honest & very risky behavior
Regardless of your “set up” or understanding /agreement with whoever you’re with
These are all facts . Disagree? .. TOO BAD
ITS THE TRUTH !!!
And to you who moderates this
if you don’t post this
it’s because may not agree & you can’t handle the truth
I know how Gay men are and I’m myself am bisexual but to any other people in general
I’m sure if have you engaged in any sex or any of this risky other behavior . Remember YOU , you are responsible – & just like anyone and everyone you have Sex with is as well
Jer, thank you for your interesting comments which I believe to be true. I NEVER have had anal without a condom and anybody that insists that I should can hit the road. Hep C was a serious illness that had a terrible treatment that only worked 60% of the time, but has become more treatable now. I am not convinced that being HIV+ or having any other STDs mean that they are all totally curable. I am the only one responsible for my well being, but to each their own.
How do I know that I had a great time after going out?
When I get home, I take off my underwear and throw it up to the ceiling. If it sticks there, it means that I had a great time!
How do I know that I had a great time after going out?
When I get home, I take off my underwear and throw it up to the ceiling. If it sticks there, it means that I had a great time.
How do I know that I had a great time after going out?
When I get home, I take off my underwear and throw it up to the ceiling. If it sticks there, it means that I had a good time.
As a bottom, how do I know I had a good time after a night out?
Simple. When I get home, I take off my underwear and throw it up to the ceiling. If it sticks there, it means that I had a good time.
Bareback.
During a first time hookup.
With a guy you don’t know at all?
You chose to do that?
And then everyone is supposed to be understanding, compassionate, and careful about what they say to you when you’re HIV+ or have some other STD? (See recent blog topic.)
Because he said he’d play safe and then told you “no”?
And you said “ok”
You’re a victim? Really?
Victim, me a victim? Perish the thought! I am an all-time winner! I don’t know where you are getting the idea that what we want is “everyone is supposed to be understanding, compassionate, and careful about what they say to you when you’re HIV+ or have some other STD?”.
I do not give a damn about what the backward and retarded people think. I don’t care about what primates think! The people who hookup with me are either already HIV positive or HIV-negative tops on PrEP or who know that the risks are much, much lower for an HIV-negative top who fucks raw).
You said “STD”? How about a capsule of Doxycycline or Cipro before sex as a PROVEN prophylaxis for syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, etc.? It works ALL the time. Just speak to your primary care physician and ask him to prescribe theses meds to be used on an “as-needed” basis. If he does not want to, then get a new primary care physician.
And if you are HIV-negative on Prep or HIV-positive on antiviral treatment with undetectable load, you are already protected against new HIV infection (for the HIV-negative people on PrEP) or against any new HIV variants by the HIV treatment (if you are already HIV-positive: minimum of three different drugs that attack the HIV virus in different ways).
When the top fucks me raw and leave me with my man hole flooded with warm and precious man milk, I certainly do NOT think about myself as a victim. I am the happiest man on earth!
You are part of the same group of people tying to impose your notions that EVERYONE (men or women) is or should be bisexual and that “every man who likes other man” is or should be versatile. You people want to impose these and other ideas around the world even if the consequences will be the explosion of the Yellowstone Super Volcano. You might get your wish! We already gave you a warning on 12 January 2010.
In the meantime, I suggest that you take your insipid comments, push them deep into your derrière, and stir well!
It should be : “people trying” and not “people tying”.
You people and your groups are behind the creation of the HIV virus starting in the 1960s for the sole purpose of stopping the sexual revolution (heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual) which did not coincide with your concepts of human society.
The “gay or homosexual” community in large cities, because it was assumed to be a “closed” group, was chosen as the target for the “example to be taught” in order to frighten the rest of the world. The epidemics would be limited to this group as they assumed. However, they forgot to take into account the “bisexual community” which would transfer the HIV virus from the “gay or homosexual” community to the “straight” or “heterosexual” community.
True, humans did not have the science and/or technology to develop the HUMAN Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) by themselves in the 1960s so they obtained the help of some renegade Extraterrestrial population to do it.
I do NOT expect you to agree with what I just said since you are a member of these deleterious, criminal, and guilty groups that we are going to root out ONCE AND FOR ALL.
Would be interesting to know the age distribution of the responses yes or no on requiring condoms. I suspect that those of us who lived through the AIDS = death era might skew more towards to always requiring
A few points from the perspective of a 50 year old, married gay male:
1) Condom sex can be hot. Not all condoms are the same so experiment with different kinds and go with the one(s) that feel best for you. And don’t forget the importance of lube. Lube your dick before you put the condom on and also before you insert said dick into your partner. The lube inside the condom will increase the sensation for the top and fucking a bottom with lube makes it better for the bottom.
2) I always fuck my husband raw. When we play with others, solo or together, it’s usually with a condom. Raw sex is fun (but so is condom sex) and having a 3rd over that we both know and trust who can tag team my husband raw can be fun but you need to know who that 3rd really is.
3) Learn to use adult words when talking about sexual health. If you ask “are you clean” then you’re not asking an informed question. The better questions/answers are related to your status, frequency of being tested (for HIV, HPV, Hep A,B,C, Syphillis, etc). If I ask if you’re clean and you say no, I’m going to invite you to shower with me as a form of foreplay. Clean is not a health status. Likewise if you ask if I’m clean, my answer won’t matter because there’s no way I’m going to consider playing with you uncovered because you’re using words that will lead to an uninformed decision. If you tell me you’re on PrEP and then say you were last tested 12 months ago, then I know you’re not a truthful person as your physician should be testing you quarterly in order to renew the prescription.
4) My husband and I have played uncovered with others. But that’s after knowing the other guys well, determining that they have the potential to be a repeat play date and talking with them about status, likes/dislikes, fantasies, physician, etc. The idea of letting someone make a health choice for me when I don’t even know their name is something that I don’t find smart. Making an informed decision is something that requires truthful questions and answers and a keen sense of who you are, what you want and what risks you’re willing to take.
Excellent comment. It baffles me that we are seeing an increase in HIV. Of course, even if one is on prep, as many are, the idea of how many penises and anuses must have genital warts is beyond estimate…
That’s for sure! Stats for herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, are spiking off the roof!
I don’t understand what’s with the stigma with condoms intelligent straight men have been using them for years, and it has kept them out of court for support. If a condom makes you dick soft you need to lay on someone’s couch so you can Overcome the psychological paralysis
I have to admit when i first say this posting I was very curious what the replies would be. As a Total Bottom I admit also that I prefer to BB. The realities of the world also though are what they are and I do try and be careful. Also been my experience BB is far more the norm then many realize
You why so many younger guys will risk having bareback sex? Because they do not have enough friends or know enough that were or are, either AIDS/HIV or DEAD!
While it might be wreckless from a disease prevention standpoint, most guys I know who bareback are looking for greater intimacy and spontinaity. They also don’t want sex to be shamed like it was when condoms and abstinence were proclaimed as the only solution to HIV’s spread.
Condoms for disease prevention are great, but as others have mentioned condoms have many problems: they have to be stored in controlled temperature environments, they reduce sensitivity for the top (and change the feel for the bottom). Fit is also often a challenge.
I know guys who would never bareback, and I respect that. I don’t pull any tricks or withhold the possibility of sex. I keep condoms that fit around for that possibility.
Personally I bareback most of the time. I test regularly and get treated when I catch anything. I also inform my partner(s).
I got tired of beating myself up about “safe” sex. I don’t do anonymous cum dump situations, but sex is part of life and I was too serious and not enjoying it.
I like the fluid exchange, and I like the way not having a barrier feels. I don’t like STIs but I’d rather deal with them occasionally than use condoms.
There is now evidence-based confirmation that the risk of HIV transmission from a person living with HIV (PLHIV), who is on Antiretroviral Therapy (ART) and has achieved an undetectable viral load in their blood for at least 6 months is negligible to non-existent. (Negligible is defined as: so small or unimportant as to be not worth considering; insignificant.)
This is from the CDC but as others have stated, condoms protect you from other STD’s.
Frankly i prefer sex raw. Top or bottom. I came out when the “new disease” was just bring noticed. When i finally got into being fucked it was always bare. I don’t stay hard putting on a rubber to top. And yes, I’ve buried Hot friends who died from AIDS related complications.
Still neg after all these years.
On Prep now tho
I had unprotected sex one time in 1980. I was hitch hiking out in the boonies in upstate Michigan. An older guy picked me up, got me drunk and then pulled off the road into a secluded area and taught me all about man-sex. I was too drunk to stop him and once he had his cock in me, I didn’t want him to stop anyway. He fucked the shit outta me bareback with the fattest cock I’ve ever seen. Fortunately, the alcohol had me relaxed enough to take it. Since that day, I’ve never had a cock in me that didn’t have a rubber on it. I don’t think it’s that big a deal to get fucked with a covered cock. Yeah, bare feels better, but getting fucked feels good enough with a condom that I don’t want to have to go without just because someone doesn’t like condoms. If he doesn’t like fucking me safe, I’ll find someone who does. I can’t go without cock but I’m NOT going to risk getting diseases!
If you know the status of each other without a doubt, go and bareback But that’s the key thing, “without a doubt”. Probably not too often do we really know our partner’s status “without a doubt.” In the heat of the moment, we may let down our guard and go skin to skin. I have to really question, if that’s really wise. when we are dealing with the future of our lives.