Hot or Not : Rough Sex
I was browsing on A4A when I started noticing username with adjective “rough…” or “power…”, ” dom…”, “sub…” etc and I thought, wow there’s a lot of guys who seem to like rough sex. Do gay men like it more rough than straight guys/girls?
I was thinking that since we are 2 men and that men tend to like to go rough…. But then I thought, some guys (especially bottoms) tend to be more romantic or sensual. So I don’t know. Let me know what sex position you are and if you like rough sex, if you are more sensual, or if it simply depend on your mood?
Dave
My guy and I start out rough with him taking my cock balls deep down his throat while I eat his ass like a lifer in prision. Then after an hour we slow it down and get each other off really well. He is on the younger side so ya have to get that energy curve flattened out to finish well.
I like rough sex as long as we ease into it. I’m a bttm sub, I like being tied up, spanked etc. Some guys think they can just force it in without warning it up first and it’s not enjoyable for me.
There’s an awful lot of stereotyping and overgeneralizations going on here.
I, personally, am totally vers. I enjoy playing at all points along the spectrum from dom to sub, rough to romantic, tender to terrifying.
I wouldn’t enjoy being just one thing all the time.
No, It’s not cheating at all. It takes a very special person to date a voyeur. Looking and not touching is a respectable action in a relationship. Watching the scene should get him hot and bothered enough to go home and have steamy sex with his man,
Really depends on my mood and the other guy but rough can be very hot with an aggressive guy that is only concerned wwithhis pleasure. Being used for his satisfaction can be a lot of fun as long as you can trust the guy.
I am bottom though I do top once and a while. It really depends on my mood if I want rough sex or not and I usually mix the roughness with the sensual romance to make the other guy feel the passion and really get him cumming hard and making me cum hard as well.
Wow. Awesome picture Dave. Love tops with natural non trimmed butts…I think like you said bud. Depends on the mood….
I rough it rough and to be dominated. Just hard for me to find tops that like the same thing.
I’m a bottom and i typically like my sex to be rough. The harder my ass is pounded the better it feels. And if my partner grabs me by the hair, neck, hips or shoulders and pounds even harder it just feels awesome. I also enjoy it when he slips an arm around my neck and puts me into a choke hold while driving into my ass.
re: Indiana Dave — hmmm next stop Indiana!!! *wink
Well considering that the very vast majority of gay men live the no strings attatched lifestyle. Rough sex is pretty much all thats left to us. No one wants to be made love to and rough sex is the only sex they know or care to have. Its quick fun release that they can walk away from and not put a single thought towards it later, until they herk off or find the need for sex again. And then most of them wont ever come back to you for more. Why when theres thousands of different dicks to ride and experience. Sex has become the cheap trade of gay society and how we base everything on now. From love to relationships. Sex MUST come first. And thats truly sad because weve lost and forgotten the value of our fellow man. Everyone is just meat for everyone else’s beast.
but it’s not just a gay thing, the whole hook up culture is becoming very trendy for all orientations.
It all depends on a few factors. Who the other guy is, how horny we are, and my mood.
Hot! Luv a top who can tear my boipussy up!
I am a Bisexual Male, and a total top. I like to pound a sexy clean Ass. I like to also make Love to a sexy clean man giving him my Cock nice and slowly rhythmic almost. It just depend on the mood
I’m not a fan of rough sex; I’m pain avoidant and have not associated pain with pleasure in my brain.
I will admit that it’s hot in porn when they’re being rough, but seeing is not the same as doing, and rough sex hurts. I might be hard when you start but the moment you begin to plow me too hard and I’m feeling the sharp pain, that’s a libido-killer and a weenie-shrinker for me. Pain turns me off, not on.
I am a total bottom. I want the dick to ease right into my asshole. Once that’s done I want my partner to fuck the hell out of me. I’m always telling my partners don’t be scared. After I get fucked I prefer to feel it for a couple days.
Start out slow and sensual, then fuck me like you hate me.
I don’t want to hurt anybody. I try to be a sensitive and gentle lover (top). But I’m also a big, powerful, passionate man. At 210# of muscle on a life-long, worked-out, jock body… I imagine getting butt fucked by me gets pretty intense before it’s over. I’m always honored and flattered when a man lets me mount him. I respect a man who is so inclined to me and I want him to crave my cock and what I’m doing. But I do love when my buddies go: “…ungh, ungh, ungh, ungh…” till they squirt in spite of themselves.
I like to start out soft and slow and work up to hard and rough. Once I’m used to it,,, the rougher the better. Total sub bottom here. Whatever is given to me,,, I take.
Definitely depends on the mood but being a bottom I love and aggressive top that likes to take charge in bed. It is really hot if I am with him for the first time and he takes total control. The biggest turnoff for me is when I am hot and bothered and the top ask me, “is it okay or do you mind?” Shit, take my ass however YOU want!!!
i can top and bottom but i always love to star nice slow and passionate then work to hot heavy and rough but keeping it passionate and romanic can be amazing as well
I think it’s hot, but my boyfriend is more of the “making love” sort. I love rough sex and will take it whenever I can, but I wouldn’t want a regular diet of it.
I’d like to say rough from start to finish, but in truth I’m mildly nice so when I enter my bottom I have no issues with him catching his breath upon my entry, and once I sink balls deep I again will let him catch his breath. In many ways that’s his last chance to opt out cause once I start pumping I’m not stopping. I’m never looking to make love, I looking to fuck. I love to plow a hole until I nut. I stop only before I nut to let him feel it grow in spasms as I shoot my seed into my condom.
My views aren’t shared by all and I understand that, but I’ve never found any shortages of horny bottoms to plow.
Good hunting bois.
I’m a versatile top. I usually enjoy rough sex in terms of the actual fucking. I don’t want to be bitten or hit or tied up or anything, but I like to pound when I’m fucking and get pounded when I’m being fucked. I feel like that expression and connection between two men is so raw and vulnerable and animalistic. It reaches to our primal selves, and most of the time we’re trying to uphold all these different expectations of what men, gay men, etc. are supposed to be like. So it’s in a lot of ways a strong release of all that pent up energy.
When I’m dating someone it builds up. I spend time kissing and existing in more of the “love” aspect of sex, but that energy builds up too so even my boyfriends tend to be guys who can pound me or take a hard fucking.
Not into rough sex, passionate sex is good though.
i love aggressive tops, and ones that can work up to the full out rut session, but it takes me a bit of time get into the aggressive action. that being said, i’d always told my friends, if you’re not bouncing on the bed like basketball, you’re top’s not doing you right.
finding those kinds of tops is a challenge at times. at least out here in BC anyways
Love it rough and raw, deep and lots of cum. Totally horny bottom in dayton ohio. Love taking loads
I like it hard and rough. When we are done I want my jaws sore, my ass afire, my nipples raw! I want to be sorry I asked for it but want to do it again. Love a good rape scene, gang bang as well. But that’s just me…
I like it both rough and easy. I bottom most the time. Having a strong man to hold me down tie me down and then have fun turn me on and it turn him some pain, but no marks. Next time a nice quite night holding each other as we get off.
The more brutal the better for me. I like to be man handled and raped hard. I like the pain of being beaten with a belt, and I LOVE to be fisted. It’s the most incredible, intense feeling……
I love it rough. The rougher the better. Just love it when a top or tops ram their cocks balls deep hard into me. Especially if i am tied up in a sling or tied up on his bed. I usually cum without touching my cock when i am rough fucked by a top.
I am a 52 y/o total bottom, I have taken a lot of cock through the years and have been become a quite experienced bottom. Lately, I have been hooking up with much younger guys that always comes back for more because I can take a good long pounding. I have been told that guys their own age can’t take it like I can that is why they have been looking for older more experienced bottom. Bang me hard baby!
If the bottom is into it the rougher the better. But it doesn’t usually happen the first time with someone. I like guys that understand its all bout my pleasure first..
I am bottom, enjoy it very much rough or romantic! Enjoy alot of kissing before during and after! Love it when my hung top gets hold of my hips and pounds me hard! Very enjoyable for both. Like it deep!
I am 99% top but have had a cock in my ass a few times. It has to be the right guy. I love slow, romantic sex that builds. The I idea of pounding a guy until I cum, or vice versa, is a total turn off. I want to be inside a guy and enjoy him until I blow my load in him. For me the longer I make it last the better the orgasm. If I am getting sucked, the same way… slow and gentle…
I’m not into the rough stuff too much, that being said, I occasionally enjoy playful slaps on my ass and while in missionary position, feeling his balls slap against my ass while he’s putting it deep in my ass, because I then know what’s next, his eyes get glassy and shoots his load into my love hole.
Im fully vers and i hate rough sex.. theres this stereotype that because you a man yo like it rough or if you a bttm you want romance.. BULLSHIT! I hate rough sex.. its a turn off and mood killer, just like poppers and drugs. No sir.. give me a man that’s assertive over aggressive man and i be happy… i need a man to match me… when i want sex, you will know and i want that in a guy.
I am a bottom. It depends on the mood of the top as to whether sex is rough or gentle. I like it both ways, but prefer when a hot top gives me long, deep, hard strokes, especially when he is about to cum.
If the top is in a gentle loving mood, a slow steady grind is very hot, but if he is in a power and aggressive mood I love it.
Rough all the way, No punching or kicking. I walk in and put in a head lock,taken down tied or held and than fucked. Put a hood over me and gang banged one in each end until they cum. Got into eletro’s lately and liking it. I don’t even need to see what the guy/guys looks like to use me as long as they enjoyed themself.I’m 55 yr and found the 40’s to 70’s year old guys much better than the younger that think their hot and rough. Experience does come with age.
ROUGH SEX OMG Im a BTTM so it’s a turn on. It’s also depends on who I’m sexually involved with.
Total bottom here, love slow gentle romantic men, but those guys are hard to find. My ex had over ten fat inches and he knew how to slowly ease that black monster past the barriers and then he fucked. Sometimes it seemed like hours of love making before i could feel him building to a pounding climax. Oh for the days in San Antonio
Too much info here, but 99% of the xxx hardcore porn
i jack off to is really rough and aggressive sex.
If a top knows what he’s doing then rough and aggressive
gets me off. But that is in regards to porn.
I real life, I’ve found that guys are all too
preoccupied with “tenderness and cuddling” (yaaaaaawn)
Sadly, all of the guys i have hooked up with
seem to really scoff at rough sex.
Even if ahead of time, we have hoth agreed that
we will get down and dirty. Wtf?
I am more into the primal side of man to man sex.
While every guy I’ve fooled around with is into
the “softer side of sex” pffft.
Guess i will have to enjoy rough sex vicariously
FUCK.
I’d be happy with sex in general at this point lol
I prefer sensual sex any day. If a person prefers rough sex, then I feel they will be the type that will be abusive in a relationship. I had a guy punch me in the chest during sex, so I punched him in the face and told him to get out. Not my type of sex.
Good for you Kirt!!
The punching during sex is ludicrous.
However some men enjoy being physically abused, which is the craziest thing in the world.
Always found it highly erotic to be “handled” rough and let my top take control. Almost something I need more than want. I have always enjoyed giving pleasure I guess that’s when I’m in control. To be looking up as my top cums knowing I just did that.
passionate sex is great 4 me
I was told that I’m too old to be on Jack’s.
I’m 42 so what’s your take?
HELL YES!!! I’m a Gay MALE… and I want to KNOW i’ve been with a MAN! Maybe it’s due to the fact that I came out long ago when being effeminate wasn’t as acceptable, but I prefer
Alpha-type, Physicality, strength when it comes to just sex…I like to show I can Take it(as well as sometimes give)all he can let loose.. That doesn’t mean I’m not into romance or affection – but RAW/ PHYSICAL/ROUGH sex is exhilarating…beyond what most would find acceptable to most females…
I’m a bottom and honestly I do not like it rough… When a guy starts to bang away & get rough, it ends up being a huge turn off for me.
Rough ‘n tough is good. After all, it’s two men. I used to be the romantic one as a young bottom, then HIV made that a dangerous situation, so after years of avoiding that and generally being on top, I like some rough stuff here and there. Some bottoms just want to be romantic, like I was, and I never forgot where I came from, so I will accede to their wants in that area. It’s all about being versatile and experienced enough to have excitement in any number of scenarios, while keeping your partner in mind. After all, with my years of experience, I can do a lot of different things well. Those who can’t…well, that’s on them.
It depends on the guy and mood but to answer a more physical aspect as to why guys take it rough
Guys have a prostate that gets stimulated by the dick so when something is pleasurable the brain shuts down pain receptors and tells you body it wants more. A women does not have any of these so for her anal sex has zero physical pleasure
Also most men are wired to be alpha males and it is kinky to take the submissive role. I my self am very Dom so when I’m getting fucked I want that top to be more aggressive then me and show me that he owns my ass only one guy made me feel like I was finally getting a proper fuck. It was thick and even after unrolling the condom on his cock there was a 1.5″ of cock that the condom was not long enough to cover.
I like rough sometimes I’m a bottom and it depends on me. sometimes I like to be made love too and then I want it rough, nasty and raw.
Generally speaking I would say not but that is my opinion…sensual more gentle sex is more my style…also rough sex without proper lube and such can be a very painful experience!
I am a bottom and I am like what Tina Turner said in the song “Proud Mary”. I like start nice and easy, but as the passion builds, it like it rough! I like for my top to manhandle me a little bit. I’m somewhat sadomasochistic
Im luv some good hot rough sex but u gotta get to that level start out slow get heated open that hole get deeper thrust harder fuck like animals in heat. Im a top i start slow then speed up with some good hot fucking. Then theres times when i btm luv it senual then fuck my brains out
I like it rough but not too rough. When my lover is ready to cum I want him to slow down and kiss me while he is squirting his cum inside me.
Any gay man who overgeneralizes and says that all gay man today are only about the sex is probably in fact one of the people upon whom he casts dispersions. There is an infinite variety of human beings and being a gay man makes you, yes, human. It is highly unlikely that one subset of the human race just so happens to exhibit only one characteristic of human interaction. The odds are against that.
I love to hookup with a dominant black top, call me a bitch tell me on your knees suck this dick.. Then bend me over and fuck me like the slut I am I’m a total bottom that loves being used by black men! There something really hot about that for me, I love taking that nut wherever he wants to unload …I do love it
When I was on my forties, I was fortunate to meet the high school football star — 18 years old, cute as hell, and with a 9-inch dick — who would tear my ass apart and pound me without mercy. I didn’t get much sexual pleasure — as it hurt like hell, my hole wasn’t used to such a big dick and such ferocity — but I wouldn’t have traded those 77 fuckings in two years for nothing!
as a true versa top I love to give and take a hard dick, I don’t like BD/SM type rough whips n paddles and such. But we like to start with kissing and let the passion take us where it may. I can take and give a good hard pounding, as long as we both are enjoying what the other is dishing out it’s all good. It’s not about brutalizing your lover, up to a certain point pain n pleasure are connected so yes it’s hot….DDDD
George …. where have you been all my life !
Vers here who likes it to be mixed but always passionate.
Jack hammering or trying to bruise me is boring. Pull my hair a little while making out, bite my nipples and ask me to pound you hard while we kiss and I’m happy. Porn fantasies are rarely that enjoyable I’m real life
What exactly is “rough sex”. Sex that some guys would consider wild is mild for others. Sex that is just physical and loud could be considered “rough” but for others, sex would need to include toys, restraints, apparel, etc. to be considered “rough”.
The great thing about sex for men is that sex is available in a wide range of options. Some of them are “soft and tender”. Others are “over the top”. And given mens’ constant desire for sex, finding sex partners is generally relatively easy. Difficulties arise, however, when egos are too large, or when “requirements’ are too restrictive, or when a “RIGHT NOW” expectation is a must.
Being clear about expectations in profiles helps ensure regular satisfying sex. Being willing to discuss expectations about sex before meeting up with a guy for the first time does as well.
Imo it depends on the dude you with and what kind of mood you’re in. Me personally im a bottom and I enjoy being pounded and I enjoy the sensual and passionate strokes as well……depend on my mood. If im on my late night early morning man hunt then im looking for that dude thats gonna pound my hole out and show my hole no mercy……that dude that gonna choke me up, smack the hell outta my ass, talk dirty, call me names and just totally disrespect my ass. The dude that will pound me out leave wide open laying there drenched in his DNA like I was a cheap trick he found on a conner. Other than that I like a man thats versatile in his sex style…..a man that can make love to me, kiss me and caress me and then also be able to flip me over and beat my hole up all crazy. Thats the best. But like I said it really all depends on the mood im in.
Depends on the guy, but definately can get into rough plowing! Bottom here. Had a buddy that kept a poorer bottle under my nose the whole time he pounded my ass and told me what a dirty little whore I was. I kinda liked it!
Lol, popper bottle
I’m with George – I like having slow, gentle, sex. I don’t mind turning up the speed a bit if the bottom really wants it a bit faster, but I never want to feel like I’m ‘tearing him up’ – as that is definitely possible. Honestly, it benefits me, too – after enough fucking (and I only fuck raw), the shaft of my cock gets pretty tender – and the faster we fuck, the faster that happens. I’d prefer to keep both of us as capable of enjoying sex again in the near future as possible.
Now, I have to admit that watching videos that involve rough sex can be very erotic, though honestly, part of that is probably because there’s also a tendency for the participants to be vocal and verbal, and that’s a big turn-on for me. Can occur in gentler scenes, but as most people produce porn to trip certain triggers, they tend to be extreme in whatever direction they take it, and it seems rough sex is more popular.
I like rough talk, but not so much rough sex. I like for it to be a Lil hard when I’m getting fucked, but for the most part slow and sensual.
I am a total bottom and love rough sex
Actually I encourage it just as he slips it in. To have a rock hard cock pounding away at your hole is a wonderful feeling.
No rough sex is out for me I do not find it hot at all. It is like bang bank ok it over. I do enjoy hot, sweaty long sex with lots of touching, kissing, body touching, cumming all over each other hot. But I never can find anyone who likes it as well
I’m well-endowed. Bottom who want a pounding…step this way.
That unfortunately is what most men want from me when they find out how big my dick is.
I actually prefer show and rhythmic.
I don’t mind rough sex, but that’s just one possibility.
HOT4DICK-Jerry I tend to agree with you, Matt where are you located at???? DDDD
I am a bottom and with me it has always depended on the top and the vibe we get from one another. On occasion with the right top who’s knows what they are doing, I’ve had a lot of fun and it was very passionate, but if they didn’t know what they were doing it can make it very unpleasant. I do like rough sex when there is passion involved, i.e. kissing my neck, sucking nipples, hell even a little nibbling here and there and penetrating me deep, that sort of thing.
As a vers, I really enjoy the passionate and sensual side when I top. My experience as topping has been more with those who have little or no experience. Tear up their ass? They’ll never want it again.
But when I bottom, I ask him to listen carefully to me. I don’t bottom much these days so I tend to be pretty tight. Pain absolutely does not turn me on! I cringe when guys look like they’re getting raped. No thanks to that!
But when my man eases in and I get used to his cock, I want it deeper and can be a complete bitch to get what I want.
So I suppose it does depend on the mood. But for me, sensuous and long is the mood I like and I’ve found others have generally been in agreement.
Rough sex is stupid reckless careless insensitive irresponsible – just plain crazy. Any bottom that likes it ruff has probably been doing every day twice a day for the last 20 years. Rough sex is not pleasure for a normal person. And a top who thinks he has deliver it ruff needs to be forced to lay on his stomach and experience what it feels like to have someone pounding your ass like it has no bottom!
Needless to say ruff sex is proven to make one bleed and that opens up a whole new can of worms.
It’s interesting to see that “rough sex” for many here has to include anal. Someone MUST pound someone else.
An out-of-town bud and I had had to wait months to meet up with each other when I had a business trip to his town. After we had a great meal and some talk time over a couple of drinks, we headed back to his place. Once the door closed, we just about broke furniture and tore things up. By far the best “let ‘er rip” experience I’ve ever had! We tore into each others’ bodies in tremendous ways, each taking and then letting ourselves be taken for a couple of hours in different rooms including the bathroom.
There wasn’t much talk. More carrying and pushing each other around his home. Guess both of us were open to whatever the other suggested. The shower stall was INCREDIBLE.
And no one was fucked in the process.
The morning? Well that’s maybe another story for another post … “It’s the morning after and you did not leave your bud’s bed after a night of fun. What happened then?”
I am a versatile bottom who likes it rough, receiving & giving. The romance comes after Orgasm in the after glow of hard pounding sweaty SEX!
Rough sex? Oh yeah! Fuck me like I owe ya money!!!
I have always been the type of bottom that likes to ride, but seldom, and I mean VERY seldom, turn the control over to the top. I’m always afraid that he will take it too far. Often when I let a top have his way, I get very uncomfortable and stop him. (Tops love this… NOT).
But there is a man that has changed sex for me. He isn’t “rough” until I’m ass in the air. I go so insanely crazy for him that I let him tear this ass up. In fact, even if we are out of lube and it hurts like hell, I still let him go to town on me. He can take me anytime, anywhere, any way he wishes. My ass is his.
So… With hime, it is as rough as he wishes to make it…
I love rough sex. I have one top I see not nearly often enough. The last time, he tied me up and spanked with a belt until I was begging him to stop. He then walked in front of me and throat fucked me until his 9 inch cock was rock hard. He then got out a tube of ben gay, smeared it on his cock, and used it for lube to fuck my brains out. Totally hot and I often masturbate at the memory of it.
I think it is impossible to generalize. What “kind” of sex a person has is usually dependent on the connection/chemistry/relationship prior to sex, the local of the sex and the state of mind.
I love sex, active (top) or submissive (bottom). I’ve had all kinds of sexual experiences, as I am sure most of you have. The experiences I remember and enjoyed most involved switching roles (sometimes several times), having a previous relationship (sometimes just a previous hookup), communication before, during and after sex, a strong sense of wanting and being wanted, and yes… with those variables, I released my inhibitions, leading quickly to animalist and very rough sex (while still being careful to not cause undue, lasting pain, like when a top stupidly shoves his dick in a bottom’s ass without any prep of the bottom’s anal muscles), although I’ve met some people who like that sensation and the pain that goes with it.
I guess it depends on how rough, but I love it a little rough. Not into pain though, so don’t go too far.
Hi. I’m a 25 yeast old bi bottom. I’m really into the fantasy of rough sex. However, my tastes have evolved a bit. I find that whatever a guy wants to do with me, I’m more than eager to do, so that takes the fun out of it for me. Recently, I’ve been really interested in guys getting me high and messed up before fucking me, that way I feel I am at his mercy no matter what, and that gets me so hard. I know I probably shouldn’t be doing this, but I haven’t found another fantasy to replace this.