Speak Out : Nudity & Sexuality While Growing Up
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I would like to get input on nudity & sexuality. I am not trying to make this a discussion about nature vs nurture. I am more or less curious about when developing men first found their attraction towards the adult male body. I know some guys have had close relationships to other male members in their family in terms of seeing what a naked man looks like & even input on sexual discussions.
Allow me to elaborate. I grew up in a small town. I only have one sister as a sibling; no brothers. I did not have too many friends while growing up either. I assume the majority of guys will say they saw other guys naked in gym class. Growing up in a small town, I did not see other naked guys in the gym either. We had the option to shower, but were not required to shower. Rather, the students brought a change of clothes for gym class. I saw guys in underwear when changing, but never anyone fully nude. I also saw my dad in his underwear sometimes, but never naked. Although my dad are close, I grew up in a very sheltered household. My parents never had ‘The Talk’ with me, nor have they ever discussed the topic of ‘sex’ with me.
Growing up as a teenager & young adult, I did not have an attraction for men, until much later in life. Much like a lot of men, I had learned a lot about myself & others in college. I was always young for my class. I started college when I was 16. During this time frame, I did not have the attraction for men. Now, I have an attraction for men, after a sexual experience in my early 20’s (another long story) with guy during graduate school. Thinking back, I have had some very hot roommates in college from a superficial perspective, but I do remember not having any attraction for any of them back then. If I felt the way I do now back when I was younger, I would been in trouble because I would been drooling like crazy.
This brings me to the main discussion at hand. I am curious to know when most guys have found their attraction for the naked male body. From some conversations with other members, some men have told me they have always been attracted to men from an early age. They have seen the naked man body either from family members (i.e. friends, brothers, uncles, fathers) and have begun to appreciate the male body. Some families are very open with nudity & sexuality. Everyone has different experiences & background.
Here are some experiences some guys have shared:
* Some men have had brothers, best friends, or fathers who they have seen naked. Some men go the gym & pool on a regular basis when they see other men (friends, family, colleagues) naked on a regular basis. For example, I have one 45 year old gentleman who once led a married life, but now leads a gay life. This guy had suppressed his urges when younger, attempted to live a straight life, got married, had kids, only to lead a gay life when they became older (again, this is a completely different discussion). He stays in close contact w/ his 20 year old sons & they go to the gym together on a regular basis. According to the father (who is well endowed), him & his sons crack jokes in the locker rooms because both of his sons are more hung than their father. They have an inside joke where the father tells his sons, their mother must have slept w/ the milkman.
* Also, I have heard stories of childhood friends fooling around. This seems to happen a lot everywhere apparently. Young boys experiment with other boys their own age.
* Some experiences are not always consensual. I had a guy telling me, him & his friend were forced to have sex with his friend’s older brother & his high school buddies at the age of 14. Although they were forced to bottom by older high school boys, they enjoyed it. I even chatted w/ another guy who told me when he was about 16 years, his uncle & 4 other guys had sex w/ him. They basically took turns topping him. Each one topped him, shot their loads into his butt one-by-one, while the others watched. I told these guys this was basically rape, but apparently, they enjoyed it (again, a whole other story). Some guys are simply subjected to more experiences & grow up faster than others.
* Men in the military have seen a lot of nudity. They share quarters with virtually no privacy. It seems they will see each other naked on a daily basis in the showers. From some stories, they will even masturbate in their bunkers without caring who sees them.
* I had a chat with a guy who said him & his dad would pee in the toilet together when growing up. It was how his dad had potty trained him and also learned of how the adult male body looked (public hair & developed penis). When he grew up & had his own kids, he continued the same ritual. He too, also would pee together in the toilets with his sons when they were being potty trained. I was taken back by this, but I am sure this is normal for some households.
Here are some of my own personal experiences during my college years:
* I had a roommate who would talk regularly with his dad on the phone. My roommate was talking to his dad on the phone about a girl he had been dating. His dad directly asked my roommate if he ‘f****d his girlfriend yet’. It was new to me to have this type of open discussion with your father from my experience. My roommate was also very comfortable with nudity. Everyday after class, he stripped down in boxers as soon as he came home. This was the first time I had seen a naked man. Again, I was 16, he was 18. I was shy with my own body. I would always avert my eyes (as I should) when he changed his clothes. I was more embarrassed about seeing him naked than he was about me seeing him naked.
* I had a friend in college. I visited his household. He had 5 brothers & raised by a single dad. His dad was a contractor & customized their home’s layout. The older boys (ages 18 & 20) shared a room. The younger brothers (ages 8, 14, & 16) stayed in a larger bedroom. All the boys shared a large customized Jack & Jill bathroom connecting the two bedrooms. The bathroom had an opened floor plan with no doors from either bedroom, but had a doorway entrance from the hallway with no lock. It contained a double sink, urinal, an open walk-in shower with three shower heads, & toilet behind a half wall. It had an open floor plan so there was no privacy anywhere. It was literally like a gym. One wall had a full length mirror & little lockers for storage. When they were preparing in the morning, all the boys were in the bathroom (in the shower, taking a piss, shaving, brushing their hair). Again, no walls, so everyone could see everyone else in the bathroom. Lots of naked bodies or guys just in their towels. Although the father had his own bathroom connected to the master bedroom, he also bonded with his sons as they got ready in the morning. Obviously, all the boys saw their dad naked while growing up from a young age & even the younger boys saw their older brothers naked on a daily basis. My friend who was the second oldest brother had also mentioned their dad was very open & honest about sex. Their dad had ‘The Talk’ with all of them. The older brothers who shared a room, had their room next to their dad’s room, & you could even see a box of condoms on dresser in plain sight at the doorway. Anyone who walks past the bedroom could easily see the box condoms, & obviously, it is not an issue for the dad to see an exposed box of condoms on his eldest son’s dresser.
* I had a classmate who shared a room with his older brother at the dormitory in college who lived two doors down from me. I had once stopped by for some class assignments. My classmate invited me into his room to pick up some books. To my surprise during my visit, his brother was having sex under the sheets with his girlfriend. This happened on more than one occasion. I was young & naive at the time at the age of 16. Growing up from sheltered, small town, sexual acts were unknown to me. My classmate and I were doing some work another time in this dorm room. His brother came home with a girl & did not realize it at first, but she began giving him oral sex in a dorm room with us a few feet in the same room. The brothers had a relationship where they were close enough to have sex with another girl while the other brother was in the room. They would even both have sex with their girlfriends at the same time in their own separate beds.
* College is definitely a time when an individual learns a lot of new experiences. It is also when I had learned penises come in various shapes & sizes (i.e. cut/uncut, girth, length). Again, this was first time I had seem other nude men for the first time & I also did not have attraction for other men during this time period. My second roommate was also an attractive, well-endowed guy who had no qualms about nudity. When closer to bedtime, he would strip down & sleep in his tighty whities. In the morning, he would wake up with his morning wood. He leisurely prepared for the day walking around dorm room with his morning wood pitching a tent in his underwear. His tighty whities would be stretched so far, it looked like they were about to rip at any second. He would have to have been at least nine inches (minimum). You could see his bush from the large opening in his waist band, his testicles exposed at each legs opening of his tighty whities. He would even talk to me casually as he changed his clothes without hiding his boner. Thinking back, he had to have been 6 inches flaccid. I think he enjoyed making me nervous with his nudity because my back would always be turned to him when has was naked, and he would also try to spark up a conversation.
* I had one college buddy invite me & some other guys into his family’s home for a holiday weekend. He had lived his dad & two brothers (one older & one younger). His dad was very nice & invited us into his home. They literally had a bachelor pad. The father had an open bar in their home & a massive entertainment center. In the living room, they had several shelves of DVD porn videos. They were displayed openly as you see many households display their movie collection on their living room shelves. My friend told me their dad was like an older brother who was very open & honest w/ them. His father’s room was right off the living room and you could see a large, clear glass bowl of condoms on his nightstand in plain sight.
To conclude, I know this topic could easily be swayed towards other topics, but I wanted to tie everything in together with how exposure to nudity & sexuality could affect a person’s orientation. Again, I had no sexual feelings towards men in my younger years when hormones are raging. It was not until later life my feelings had changed in my mid-20’s. As mentioned before, if I felt the way I do now when I was a younger adult, I would been attracted to a lot of the younger men I had known. I recall having no desires towards them as a younger adult.
Now that I have an attraction towards men, I have been thinking about when or how the transition may have happened. For me, it happened a lot later in life because I was oblivious to sex & nudity. Obviously exposure to nudity & sexuality plays a role. I am curious as to how other guys had exposure to the naked male form, their knowledge of sexuality, & how it played a role into their current orientation status.
Stewie_Griffon
I never had the talk. My dad never came out in his underwear. We were not close. I found a porno(straight) on a vhs tape. I was attracted to cocks. I was 14. He hit his porno grin a friend. Once he got a gay one on accident. Ijerked off to it for a week before he erased it. I thought I would grow out of it and pursued the straight life, which I enjoy. Call me bi. Still married after 20 yrs…still like cock. I have done better with my kids
When I was 13 I would dress up in my older sister’s clothes. Then one time a friend of mine told me I looked kinda pretty and wanted to fuck me so I let him. It felt good and we did it 4 more times that day. At times we would have other friends gatherings and I would dress up and take guys on two at a time. I felt like a girl and loved it.
I grew up in a very conservative and religious house hold. There was no male other than myself in our house hold. I am bisexual and am equally attracted to men and women bodies. My attraction to men started in High School while on the wrestling for my High School. A very handsome African American friend of mines who looked like Phillipp Michael Thomas, was my wrestling partner we would grab one another while practicing. His Beautiful Honey Colored Skin, Black Curly Hair and Hazel Eye’s were very enchanting to say the least. He was the catalyst to me seeing men as sexy and someone to share my sex with.
mine happened at a real young age of 12 or 13 when I was molested by this guy and then I was reallyinto sucking guys off so went to a store restroom and did that
I was molested in a shed, made to suck cock and it was my only sexual experience and was afraid to make it public. I went through school always nervous about some one finding out, I believe it pushed me to Bi-sexualism. This was the most painfull part of growing up. Other wise yea, I wanted to see and compare cocks after my molestation. Although I always thought I was small, I now know I was average to above oh well . Life is good……Now.
I was raised in a very religious household and baptist. Sex was not talked about so when l came into puberty at 12 there was no guidance. Me and 3 friends would have sleepovers where we would rub each others penises. There was no orgasym. This went on for a good while. Then 2 of the boys stopped and no more sleepovers. So me and the 1 boy kept on for a year and he stopped. We gave each other oral sex but no orgasym. There was a very popular book that came out in the early 70s called “Everything you wanted to know about sex but are afraid to ask”. My parents sat a copy in my bedroom and I found it. There was a chapter on homosexuality. It told in detail where to find men for sex. I read it and went to my local park. My first real experience was there with a man in his 30s. I was 16. I certainly knew what I wanted then. Since then it’s always been clear. Men for me, no physical attraction for women. And I’m 58 now.
I was left alone to discover my sexuality and begin experimenting with it at my own pace, my parents were very encouraging and helpful by giving us lots of messages that the body and it’s biology are a beautiful thing… since I was never sexually abused as a child or a young person, I never had to reconcile my sexy urges with guilt…so the idea of taking advantage of someone’s lack of experience was never very alluring to me. I’m very happy to be getting life long enjoyment with my body and sharing my sexuality with the people I choose in a way that enhances my my feelings of being a man and feelings of connectedness with my partners. I’m fetish free and every sexual encounter I have is absent of exploitation or manipulation. When love comes along, as it does every so often, that’s when sex becomes even more intimate and cosmic, and I love encountering my love naked, free, honest and unashamed! I do admit I project some fantasies here and there, but they never come from a place of darkness…it’s all about fun and hotness! Man is an evolving creature…amazing heights the natural powers (like the natural powers of a hurricane) of sex and sexuality have propelled us to! and what a baffling legacy of
shame, repression and obsession for thousands of years we have inherited! It’s OUR choice to make what we do with all that history and all that power. I think it becomes more and more reconciled with each individual that arrives at a more actualized place. so that our love (and not our confusion and guilt) is the force that shapes the consciousness of the future.
This is how I have chosen to reproduce…!
To the writer – I think you can keep it short and concise next time. I couldn’t read this in one shot, and there are too many winding themes it becomes hard to keep up.
My personal experience:
I have always found men attractive from as early as 3 or 4 years. I remember sneaking into our guest room as soon as I saw my 17 year old visiting cousin step out to shower. I would stay under the bed for hours hoping to see his naked body when he returned. I was 7 yrs old at that time.
I also had a very sheltered life, where my religious parents kept a 24/7 watch on us so never had the chance to mess around.
I had sexual education from frequent summer camps (Scripture Union camps and Boys’ Scout camps) so I was very well informed from 6 or 7 years.
I saw naked guys shower everyday; from the summer camps, through my private boarding high school to resident halls in college. I masturbated so often to many of those images.
But never did I ever even touch another dude until my mid twenties – I was virgin all through college. I was always in leadership positions in church and school so wanted to avoid scandals.
Mom and step dad were always naked and kept me that way too, for reasons i cant just talk about,
i would say mine started when i found my dads stash of porn all types too. but my attraction to men started when i would go to the gym and see men naked and showering. even in the steam rooms. i did not really start exploring my attraction until 6 years ago. hooking up and try all sorts of things. and i have never looked back i love it so much. i even bottomed a few times it was amazing.
Why does is matter? Sexual awakening happens when it happens. I am gay and always have been. It has nothing to do with nudity, neither. I had crushes on boys for as long as I can remember. Like 5 and six years old. It was emotional. I loved these crushes with my heart before I even knew what sex was, or before thinking in sexual terms. It was instinctual not to talk about my crushes because I never knew other gay men. I came out at 19. I am a gay man who is a top, but do not care for sex without emotional involvement. My sexual awakening happened with the onset of puberty. Then I found guys to be really smoking hot, so that by the time I saw a naked dude I found it attractive. My imagination had not let me down. Quit looking for the answer to self-exploration in others. The answers lie in you. Ask yourself what about the male body attracts you. But really, being gay is about sooo much more than just sex. I would suggest you stop overthinking it and just ride the tide.
My dad and I would shower when I was younger till about 6 or 7. saved water and taught me how to shower. Also we used to pee in the toilet together. helps potty train boys and gives them something to aim at (as the streams cross you “sword fight” with the streams but always towards the bowl). However, not sure when I became attracted to the adult male figure as I still like my partners twinkish. lol
The first naked male body I saw was quite by accident. It was my father and I was awe struck. I was nine years old, the hair and his big penis. I didn’t know what to think. But I knew that I liked it. My first sexual experience happen several years later when I was 12 almost 13. A fried who was 15 behind our garage. He told me to put his penis in my mouth. I did so, he came, but I didn’t know what that was about and I thought he peed in my mouth. Later that same day he showed me what happened to hen he rubbed his swollen hard penis. Just amazing. We would have sex several times a day behind the garage. I liked it so much.
I am the youngest of 6 children, 3 boys and 3 girls. Us boys would walk arinf arond I our under wear until pubiity. I would also bathe and shower with my older brother, he was 7 years older than me. I can remember showering with him up intol the time he has hair on his pubs. Also growing up I had a male friend and we also would be nude as much as we could. If we home alone we be nude with boners but nothing sexually took place. We would always play in the woods near our home and hang out nude in your “camp” we woild go streaking. I became sexual active at age 13. I also remember playing doctor with me cousin at about 8 yrs of age. Till this day I still like being nude as much as possible.
No nudity in the home as a child. In middleschool, highschool and college there were gang showers. Even in the later years, I never thought about having sex with anyone else while in them. That’s not why were we there.
I’m comfortable “in my own skin” when it’s out for others to see. That happens now again at group gatherings. Some of my buds call me “hot”. Not sure why because I’m a middle-aged white guy with a few extra brats under his belt. But hey if “what they see is what they want” who am I to rain on their parade?
Grew up attracted to both sexes, actually. Experimented from the age of 10 or so. As an adult I live as a non-practicing bisexual who has a male partner but still loves the female anatomy.
My attraction and sex with men started in my early fifties, when I was in chat rooms with other bi and gay men. After my first time with another guy, I had to try it again. After that I loved it and wanted more. I now enjoy getting together with men of all ages for man2man sex.
I sexually ‘awakened’ when I saw my father (and his perfect cock) naked at times, as far back as 4 years old. I started jerking off at 11, and never stopped. Why would I?
Except for a couple of amateur encounters, I was preoccupied with life in my 20’s and didn’t come out til I was almost 30. I assume the original poster knows that everyone’s experience is obviously unique and different, so I’m guessing this posting is just about his own curiosity in others? Just looking to ‘dish’? lol.
Darklamp71104 shared a brilliant reply.
Just like most was from a small town. It wasn’t till later in life where received a blow job from a guy giving them on the beach to a group. My curiosity grew from that point on until I tried all, now I am a full on bisexual and enjoy both men and women equally.
I know for me I can remembering knowing I liked men as early as 5, in elementary school I always had little crushes and there was one boy that we would experiment and play around until the 1st grade then he stopped from there I was molested and was told I would get in even more trouble if I told, from there I was an on-call fuck… I never knew what I was really doing until I found my grandpas holy grail of porn (st8 and tranny) I was the on-call fuck until I was in high school when he got locked up, then I stopped having sex came out and practiced celibacy. I moved away for college and that when I really started to enjoy my sexuality… To this day I don’t know where the feeling of being attracted to guys at a young age came from but to this day I live as a out gay man
I was attracted to the male body starting in my early teens but was painfully shy so I did not have any same sex encounters till I was in my 20’s, I always slept in the nude starting when I was 7 or 8 years old (Had a brief period when I would wet my bed) so nudity was very natural to me and also having 7 brothers who are all 1 or 2 years apart in age helped by me seeing the male body at different stages of pubescence development. If I had not been so shy when I was younger, I would have experimented more with grammar school classmates that I had desires for and high school classmates who were hot and I wanted to get fucked by them. Used to have a gym class fantasy that while changing into my gym clothes, all the guys who had their locker in the same row as mine was at would start feeling up on me and then I would suck their cocks and they would take turns fucking me and cumming in my ass….again…too shy…so it never happened…but a great fantasy to jerk off to.
I’m not sure nudity had anything to do with my sexuality. I sucked a classmate’s dick when I was 9? How that happened, I don’t know…it just happened. He went straight, I went bi, and I ran into him at a Sears store 30 years later, and we traded phone numbers to catch up. Two days later, we got the REST of it done while his wife and kids were out shopping. Amazing, how that happened while picking out Craftsman tools at the same time back then.
My first experience was when I was 9 when a friend and I played with each others cock. Then when I was 12 another friend and I started jacking each others cock. Then one night he was spending the night at my house and we got naked in my bed and he asked me to suck him off. I didn’t hesitate I went right down on him and sucked him off and swallowed his cum. He returned the favor. We played with each other for the next 3 years when we found girls. Him and I never played again but a few years later I started back and have been doing it ever since!
although nudity may have been a trigger for you, i don’t think that rings true for everyone. we can even see differences in these comments.
i was raised a conservative, Pentecostal Christian, the same as my younger, twin brothers. my father did have “the talk” with us, showered with us, and peed with us at a young age to train us. still, i turned out bi leaning more towards me (out to some fam and friends), one twin bi and leaning towards women (not out and doesn’t know i know), and the other twin completely straight.
all raised the same way, all different orientations.
When I was 11 or so, I saw my first real man cock in the locker room at the YMCA. He came out of the shower and looked huge… At least to my eyes… At the time my buddy and I would mess around jerk each other and even try some cock sucking, so I was impressed… … But once I got laid by a woman, I had no focus on guys for years… Then when I was in my 20s I went into a porn shop and wondered why there was a hole in the side wall of the video booth… And then someone said hello as only a glory hole can allow … Eventually these visits led me to try some different things and now I’m am fully bi. And haven’t looked back since.
I was raised in a very religious home and an only child. The only sex talk I received was when I was 10. I was watching TV and love boat came on. There was an episode with an exotic male dancer and I watched intently and started playing with my penis. Dad spanked me and told me never do that again.
My first sexual experience was when I was 12 my friend from up the street showed me how to jack off. First time I came I shot right into my mouth 4 times. He told me to hold it and then he French kissed me. It was a fun summer. He moved just before school started.
As far as nudity goes our next door neighbors were nudists and from Denmark. They would be nude in the back yard all the time. I would wonder over from a young age and chat. Sometimes I join then nude and sometimes not. I never associated being nude with sex. The husband was huge flaccid never saw him hard. The wife was a massage therapist at a local health rehab center. It was just something you did when hanging out. Mostly outdoors. Still do when I have the chance.
I was always curious about the male body but not until my college years did I really see sex it was more appreciation of the male form. I walked in on twin brothers having anal sex in there dorm room. I just stood there stunned and wishing I had a brother. They invited me to join in. I did and was hooked.
I’m married bi and HIV poz undetectable now. Guys be careful out there!
As a father, I have some very definite opinions about this – the first of which is lamenting our current cultural (US culture) aversion to personal nudity, and outright obsession (combined with fear) of sexuality… Our “puritan” heritage is rearing its ugly head, leaving our kids with the notion that nudity somehow is directly associated with sexuality – and worse, that it is somehow BAD.
I teach my kids that there is nothing wrong with your body, and you certainly should not be embarrassed by it. Further, there is no reason to get ANGRY if someone accidentally sees you naked. (Even if you have an erection!)
That’s not to say there shouldn’t be some degree of personal privacy (I can’t say as I agree with peeing side-by-side with children, but I’m not aghast at it either). Yes, feel free to close the door while you’re changing. But if someone surprises you, don’t panic! Feel free to cover up. But don’t get angry and don’t be embarrassed. It’s just a naked body, and there are some 3-4B of them around — so even if you’re a one-in-a-million, there are thousands more exactly like you!
Sexuality is another thing: for me, I speak openly with my children about sexuality – and with an older daughter who is openly gay, we are non-judgmental (and I don’t permit derogatory speech about sexuality). But having sex with a child in the same room crosses a line for me. Other adults in the room (or in an adults-only public environment – like a bar) is fine (and kinda kinky) – but children are different. We shouldn’t take their innocence casually or too early.
In a way, it’s kinda like the nudity thing – if (actually, WHEN) a child walks in on you having sex, you shouldn’t be embarrassed (or angered) by it — but you shouldn’t flaunt it in front of them either. It’s just life!
These are my opinions – remember how much you paid for them before you judge them!
I don’t think there’s a connection. If you’re gonna like cock you’re gonna like cock, regardless of when you first saw one.
I have to say I was four when I started connecting the dots. Mom would throw me into the tub with dad to bathe (no, no incest theme here)but when he’d be toweling his head dry, I’d make the comparisons between his big hairy cock and my little guy. I remember dad taking me to the municipal pool and me locking in my tracks to watch a group of five naked teenagers horseplaying in the showers, golden boys with summer tans leaving box-cut lily white butts….and their cocks, nnngh, like beautiful birds lying in nests of pubic hair. Dad just about ripped my arm out of my socket to get me through the showers. Came out to my babysitter later that year, telling her I was gonna marry a boy and she came unglued. That’s when I learned to keep my thoughts on sex to myself.
My brother and I shared the same bedroom. I was about 13 laying in bed naked at night with a woodie. Very warm night, and about 11 pm my brother came in and got the full view.
He said wow little bro not bad. I just turned my bare ass towards him as he undressed and went to his bed. About 20 min later he asked if I was sleeping which I replied no. He said look, and there he was naked and a woodie.
He asked if I ever jacked and I said no. Then and there he started to jo and asked if I wanted to try it. I was all hesitant and he came over beside me and said go ahead, touch it. As I recall my little dick was throbbing and the rest as you can guess is history.
Many times after that we would see each other naked and never thought anything about it. Only saw my Dad a few times in the shower. I was better hung then him and his only comment as I was drying off was, “geeze, very nice.”
He never touched me nor I him…oh to back the clock up a few years!
I was raised in a small town with an older sister, too. We sound very similar in some ways. For me, I was always very feminine growing up and this lead to being called out as homosexual in class one day by a class mate. Small town attitude was not to correct the classmate who did this, but just let it be. I was tormented all through high school which forced me to try and like girls. I was very a-sexual all during puberty due to the scandal at school with me being the center of attack. Well, I did sometimes see an uncle of mine when we would all go shopping. We would go to pee at the dept store restroom and they had no dividers, so I saw my uncles cock. it was huge and hung into the water in the urinal. I always wanted to see his cock from then on. He had 5 kids so I think his wife liked that big cock. It was pretty too. Fat, long, hanging and thick. I didn’t realize I was attracted to me until I was about 18. I finally admitted, I think. I remember going to the mall in the big city and cruising the mens room. They too had no dividers between the stalls, so you could catch a glimpse of cock sometimes. And one day a guy was stroking his dick. He was much older than me and so I approached him and he asked to go to a local park and we could explore my curiosity. When we got there, I asked him about guys taking it in the butt. I was naive and knew NOTHING. he said, let me show you. He bent me over and fucked me and I felt like a piece of used trash when it was over. He wasn’t the best first time experience. Well, I got over it and began a new relationship with a guy I just met through a local radio station. We would chat for hours and finally met after a few months of flirting on the phone. This was my first experience with the male naked body and the wonderful body parts. It was heaven and I finally knew I was gay.
I knew I was different when I was 5 years old. But my first experiences were when I was 10 or 11. The neighbor kid was 4 years older than me. He had a huge stash of porn magazines. He taught me how to jack off, but I never had an orgasm. The next year I had my first wet dream. I had to show him and we messed around quite a few times after that.
There was a neighbor kid on the other side of our house. He was the same age as me. We hung around a few times but we weren’t close. One winter day we went sledding. After sledding, we went to his house to get hot chocolate and warm up. He went into the bathroom and came out completely naked with an erection. Him and I messed around pretty much everyday until we went to high school. That is when he got his first girlfriend.
My parents never had a talk with me. When I was 14, my mom gave me a church book that her parents had given to her when she was growing up. My dad had quite the porn collection. I learned everything from his porn and from other kids at school. It wasn’t until I started going to college that I realized I was gay. I had too much fun with other guys and the glory holes on the campus.
Chip, i like you and agree completely
I have been playing with my dick since I was 8 I loved it I could dry orgasm at least 6 times in a row, ooh how I miss dry orgasm, I first slid a hair brush handles in my bottom when I was 10 the first time I went in was like my mind opened up not to mention my boy hole haha I new i wanted to be fucked since then, I didn’t have my first cum till I was 13 that was a shock cuz I had been jerking off n have orgasms for yrs before that so cumming was diffident.
I have to agree with darklamp .He kept it simple and to the point.I always knew.Being gay is more than the sexual act. The author Stewie could have kept it a lot more simple. Not trying to question what he wrote. The thing that stuck out the most is and it was mentioned several times that he had no attraction to men until later then most of us I found the attention to detailin every non encounter he was yet to exexperience..I know for myself was when i figured out what an orgasm was i fantasized about what got me off and that was men .I’d think he had to be born in a cave and not a small town to be totally ignorant to not know what nudity and sexuality. Just my thoughts.
I had a an older brother – by 5 years – who I shared a bedroom and a bathroom with growing up. He wasn’t the least bit shy at all. Always saw him naked to and from the shower and changing and even jerkin off. He slept naked too. So, I grew up being the same kind of way. I didn’t think anything about being naked around him – but no, we didn’t do anything together besides jerking off (in our own beds) to some videos and shared a chick once (I’m bi). When I was younger, I just remember watching him sometimes and not being able to wait until I could get to do what he did – stroke and cum – cause it looked so good. So, when I got to high school and joined the baseball team in my 2nd year, I didn’t think anything about showering after home games or practice but definitely, not everyone did – and we’re talking like 20 years ago and still had the group showers. Guys always popping wood – had the occasional JO session with a smaller group of guys – that I usually ended up starting. ha. Then came college… my roommate first year and I got along really well and ended up moving out into a apt together and got to be really not shy around each other. There were plenty times we jumped into the shower together to get ready to go out and he was really the first guy that actually became a friend with benefits. But it all started with growing up not being a shy kid.
I know I wasn’t born gay or had any feelings towards boys or men. I saw naked my older brother, father, locker room views with awe and nothing more. I was however molested by an uncle from 8-12, when I hit puberty at 11, it was me who went there looking for it. At around 12, a friend my age asked me if I wanted to go naked? We did, but he got more than he bargained for, I used him like I was used… for a cum dump, it was consensual though. I fucked him just about every day from 12 on. The first time I came (about 13)was in him, I felt this strange over powering rush come over me, then this pounding pulsation coming from my groin as I was fucking him… I pulled out to see what the fuck was happening and saw what looked like this sticky glue like string coming from his ass to my cock head, I was almost light headed. I stuck it back in till it stopped. I didn’t tell him what happened, cause I didn’t know what happened. I had heard the term cum before, but never knew what it really was or how it happened. From that time on, I’ve been chasing that first time cum, it was breathe taking… He figured it out that I was coming in him, I remember him telling me that his mother asked him what was in his underwear in the laundry? I was like, oh shit! He had to make sure after that that he tried to shit out my cum and or wipe good… We met for years, even after I was married, then I moved away. Then it was newspaper adds, then the internet, craigslist & A4A… It’s just acting out, I’m not looking to get into any relationship, it’s just sex. BTW, when I started having the sex with my friend, I stopped going over my uncles house looking for sex with him. I had been my uncles bottom, but then I had my own bottom & that’s what I look for now. I did enjoy a cock in my ass, but truth be told, my asshole was tore up, so much scaring from being fucked so much as a kid, it’s too painful to get fucked. I did have my friend fuck me a couple times (early 20’s), he was huge & I tore more, so that was the last time I bottomed. I do like getting fingered though.