Speak Out: Have You Been Typecast Into A Sexual Role?
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Whether we want to admit it or not, we’ve all been a little guilty of a little stereotyping when it comes to our sexual partners. At first sight, we’re liable to label someone a top or a bottom without knowing anything else about them.
Understandably, it can get a little frustrating for the people being typecast, as evidenced by a post on the subreddit r/askgaybros. User majoraswhore shares the sexual role stereotyping he’s received as a black man.
He writes: “As a black guy, I’m almost always expected to be a top. I’m really vers and enjoy the going back and forth. I’m black and for non-black guys, I’m almost always expected to be the top. With black guys I’m expected to be the bottom. Initially I thought I was a bottom, but now I’ve been slowly becoming a top.”
Some of the responses echo the same frustration. User cman999, for instance, says it can get annoying. He writes: “ I am a pretty “masculine” acting/looking guy if you want to use that term. Am also fairly fit and well muscled. Most people just presume I want to top. I mean I am pretty vers so I don’t really mind but it can get a bit annoying.”
He continues: “Not a huge fan of people without asking or without any prompting telling me how excited they are to bottom for me or whatever it’s usually a turn-off and I am just like ‘yea… sure.’”
User NerdyDan adds: “Asian dudes are expected to be sub bottoms and nothing else. I make it pretty clear that I am versatile and I am a power bottom when I do bottom.”
Adam4Adam has a pretty diverse group of users, and for good or bad we may hold some stereotypes about what sexual roles they take on. Have any of you Adam4Adam blog readers experienced this sexual role typecasting? How did you react to it? Has it ever turned you off? Share your thoughts and stories with us in the comments section below!