Speak Out: How Do You Feel About Age Differences?
Troye Sivan, openly gay pop star and latest cover boy for Attitude, revealed something about his teenage years that a lot of gay men are probably familiar with.
In an interview that’s now been reported on various sites, Sivan admitted that he lied about his age on a gay dating app and “did stuff that a 17-year-old boy shouldn’t have to do.”
As he recounts to the magazine, Sivan would find himself meeting up with older guys after lying about his age. During these meet-ups, he said his heart would be “going a million miles an hour” as he wrestled with the fear of something bad happening to him.
Sivan also talks about how, looking back at those times, he felt creeped-out by the willingness of these older men to meet up with him, especially since his smaller frame made him look even younger than he was.
“When I see photos of myself, from when I was that age, and I think of the guys that I was meeting up with and talking to, I think: ‘Wow, I looked really, really young,’” he recalls. “[It makes me feel] Kind of a little bit creeped-out, but at the same time I really don’t have any regrets. Maybe I wasn’t ever truly scared, just really uncomfortable.”
Sivan’s teenage experience, however, isn’t something unique. For sure, any one of you Adam4Adam readers have had a relationship or sexual encounter with someone much older than you. It’s something that happens so often that articles like “Why Have Massive Age Differences Long Been Common in Gay Dating?”
All of the gay men interviewed for that article had conflicting thoughts on the appropriateness of an age difference between two gay guys dating. For instance, one of the interviews initially had generally positive thoughts of the relationship he had with a 19-year-old when he was 14, saying that the 19-year-old had a huge impact on how he perceived himself and his sexuality. Another person interviewed was a 56-year-old in a relationship with a 25-yhear-old, who said his partner’s perspective in life enriched his own.
On the flip side, the guy who dated a 19-year-old when he was 14 later realized that he “could have been fine without some college student intervening on my behalf.” The report also cites a study titled “Age Preferences Among Gay and Bisexual Men”, where a 42-year-old chef explains his anxiety about dating younger guys: “I often feel my hackles go up, because my upbringing is coming to the fore and it’s like, ‘You vile seducer of youth.’”
We want to hear what you guys think. Have any of you had a relationship with someone much older or younger than you? Was it any more difficult or easier than relationships with guys the same age? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below.
Daddy issues.
Same reason why some women date older men. They are seeking the approval and love they never got from their fathers.
Wrong and shallow opinion, full of stereotyping and generalization Dr. Phil
Wrong, very often true. Stereotypes are generalizations based on truth. Not shallow, not a stereotype, but labeling someone is stereotyping, so you are the guilty one.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with a stereotype or a generalization, precisely because it is a distillation of a pattern perceived by people who have the ability to recognize patterns, a skill which is unevenly distributed in the population. It has little to do with the pop-TV personalities like Dr. Phil. An inaccurate stereotype or generalization is a different matter; people who aren’t skilled at pattern recognition should STFU.
LOL. Such a typical thing to say. Not even the case.
We’ll for me. Young guys are attracted to me. I’m fine with that.
I am 28 years older than my fiancé! We have no problem with the difference in our age and to the best of my knowledge none of our friends have a problem either!
Glad to hear, Marc!
The beautiful boy is an Apollonian ideal from time immemorial. Combine that with men’s continued adolescence makes for an easy combo. I think gay men are often stuck in a state of arrested development. Then you figure that gay men are considered unattractive after the age of thirty. Get some money or success and you can have a twink. Are you shocked that men in their forties or fifties often have a young man as a companion? These are men who have no children or things which could complicate matters. Think about many older men just pay escorts or hustlers. Why go through that if there wasn’t something larger at play?
The other problem is that articles like this one still see things through—God help me, I can’t believe I am spouting this post-modern horseshit—a heterosexual lens. Gay life is not straight life and never has been. It is why I do not understand the bourgeois constraints the “movement” puts upon everyone.
Gay life is difficult because, ironically, it is the apotheosis of masculinity. Worship of the aesthetic ideal of the same sex and the constant quest for gratification. It is when we try to jam this demimonde into the box of Judeo-Christian tradition of the nuclear family that it gets all gummed up. Gays are not straights who just like members of the same sex. We have our own history and traditions and norms. And one of the norms are that we live in a fun house version of Dorian Gray.
My fiancé is 19 and I’m 40 and we are in love we have been together for over a year! He is the love of my life. He says he loves me and I make his life complete! I love him and I don’t care what other people think. Religion states you need to fit into this little box or you are evil. Bull you love who you love! Be yourself and don’t be ashamed of who you are!
19… you are an old fool. I barely knew what dorm I wanted to live in at 19 let alone be married to a 40 year old man. You should marry someone age appropriate because at 30 you’ll be an old man to him.
I already commented on my comment below but I want to say to you directly you have a lot of nerve to make such a judgment because you are an immature indecisive little douche at 19 doesn’t mean everybody else is or could be and I can tell you something I’ve met a lot of people different ages just like you at different ages in life and I can guarantee you it’s not about the age or the number
it’s about YOU just being an Indecisive clearly an absolute douche now and at that ripe age of 19 as well
If the other guy has a good working dick and he treats me with respect, far be it for me to care whether he’s 18 or 80.
I’m one of the older guys (53 years old), but get hit on by younger guys regularly and this is all by not having a picture of my face as a profile pic. I am flattered but have no interest whatsoever in men young enough to be my son (he’s 26). Somehow it feels awkward to me. I like to stick with mature men by age who can engage me in meaningful dialogue as well. I love to get good head both physically and intellectually and I can more easily find that with mature men.
exactly!!
My man is 25, I’m 56. His energy has refreshed me, make me feel and act younger. While he has benefited with a stable secure man, I get the most—new life and love.
You are paying for it and setting yourself up fir major heart break. While some age differences work anything more than 10 years statistically is doomed. May December relationship
My late husband and I were 18 years apart. For a time, it was an obstacle for us, but when we hit that sweet spot of love, it didn’t matter. Sure, I wished he was ten years younger, but that wasn’t something I could control or change. So I didn’t press my wish upon him.
Wow, this story hits home. Met a guy on adam4adam who claimed he was 18 about to turn 19. We chatted for a week or more. We talked about everything. I won’t lie, I wanted in this guy’s pants in the worst way. I’m 39 and here was an 18yo hitting on me! Wow that never happens I thought. We talked about everything. He was so cool, very VERY smart. We talked about colleges he was looking at near where I worked and he lived 5miles from me. The distance was about 90 miles. I told him I wouldn’t mind taking him back and forth if he ever needed to come home. One day the stars aligned and we were both home with nothing to do. He invited me over to his parents place. We went out to the guest quaretes over the “3car garage” (is was nicer than any house I’ve ever seen. The main house was prob worth $4.5millon. So this was def the rich kid. He had a brand new X5 in his drive way with his name on the plate. He talked about gong to Med school outside of Boston. He had all the paperwork to prove he was looking as he showed me and asked my opinion. im just a dumb high rise construction supervisor. Wtf do I know about med school? So I gave the best answers I could. We hooked up. I’m def not the first guy this teen has ever had sex with. He gave amazing head (AMAZING!!!) and was one of the HOTTEST bottoms I’ve ever fucked. Def not a newb as he could take a pounding from the get go. Best kisser I’ve ever kissed and eyes that would melt an I-beam. I was so amazed. I spent a life time developing these skills. We hooked up a lot. And the sex got better each time. We had sex in a lot of public places as well. Huge turn on for both of us. This went on for two years. Yes two years I’ve been fucking this teen. He told me stories of college and his roommates. And how tough classes were. I so wanted to fuck him in his dorm room but it never happened. I noticed he came home a lot. And when he did he had me come over. So fast forward 2 Years. I’m sitting in the blistering sun at my nephews graduation watching the graduates receive their diploma. Two students behind my nephew is the teen I’ve been fucking for two years. He was actually 16 when we met. You could imagine I was about to have a heart attack. I wanted out of there like NOW!!! So I went to the store and bought him a graduation gift. Like always he sent me a text to come over and I did. I was in a panic as I climbed the stairs. He asked,”what’s in the box? is that for me?” I said, “yup.” He opened it and saw the congratulations graduate card on top. he looked up at me as if to say “how did you know?” So I told him I saw him at the graduation. He burst into tears. And the apologies came out as fast as a gatlin gun. He begged me not to tell his parents. The tears were streaming down his face. I had to ask him why would you do that. He had some lame daddy issue answers through all the tears. He was just a mixed up kid. Needed guidance. Then he told me his dad left when he was a kid and never had a man around (apparently mom is a lesbien). I understood and accepted his apology. I also became that real daddy figure for him. 1st lesson was where he fucked up and how he’s not to do that shit again. All of the college paperwork he showed me was from the hs auditorium and letters he doctored up on his computer cutting and pasting a school crest on the letter heads. Even used diffferent types of paper. I made him shread them right there in front of me. We still see each other but not as often. He is soooo beautiful, inside and out. Just a lil mixed up. But he is actually attending college and doing very well. He will be a doc some day.
I can sort of relate but with a better result: I’m 58, married to my wife of many years, completely hidden in the closet and seek out sex with younger guys. And for me, it’s not about relationships, per this article; it’s simply sex and nothing more. Generally, I set my cut-off age at about 22, but have fucked around with guys as old as early 50s too. I’d go lower in age if not for the potential dangers, starting with the obvious one (don’t touch a minor – EVER – I have lasting chilling memories of that NBC show “To Catch a Predator”), but also because guys that young generally (not all of them of course) take safe sex too lightly. So I was on a recent biz trip seeking a guy from 22 to 50 to come to my hotel room. An 18-year-old responded. Hot pix, sounded nice, but was a good 4 years below my age limit. But my dick took control of my brain, so I responded to him. I insisted he take a picture of his driver’s license, which he did. Showed clearly he had turned 18 about 4 months prior. Um…OK my dick-brain figured. Next would be how to meet? What if he doctored the license pic and showed up with a Fed or something? My life would be game/set/match over. Still, my dick-brain had the guts to go ahead with this, so we met at a nearby fast food place. He showed up…alone. I told him to follow me by about 3-4 strides and to make like we didn’t know one another, which he did. Followed me into the hotel and to my room. So this has a very happy ending – he was an amazing lay; we had great sex. I have no regrets. About the only downside was, I contacted him after to see if he’d want to hook up next time I was in town, but he didn’t respond, so it was a one-off. But ohhhh what a great one!
Left one thing out of my post: Why am I into younger guys? Because they’re so goddamn fucking delicious, that’s why. (Personal taste/preference, that’s all.)
I like men. Young boys and twinks do nothing for me. I see these older gay guys gawking over them all the time…glad I am not one ’em!
I know there are people who set upper or lower limits [noone over 30, noone under 25, noone +/- 10 of my age, etc] but I also know there are those who seek younger for the enthusiasm, or older for experience. Three essentials, if this is to be beneficial, are these: each must be open enough to listen and look at the other’s perspective; each must be sure of the essentials in his perspective but open to other possibilities; each must know and be agreeable on the terms of the association, be it general friendship, sexual exploration, broadening horizons, exclusive, casual, whatever may be.
I remember several much younger but legal guys I got with. They sought me precisely because I was older, experienced, fun but sensible, sensitive of others but not self-centered–so they could explore without being judged and I could show them nuances that get learned over time, as well as tell them that certain attitudes from porn and blogs are just not accurate, so they could avoid being a stereotype or being exploited. I taught them that they can say “maybe”, or “not yet”, or “no” regardless of what was already started, and hate or anger or pressure pretty much meant a guy wasn’t someone they needed to be with. They would also ask about life situations or crises, for my insight. And I got to remember that life is not a rut or routine, and to get a look at the world from fresh eyes. So I say, if it’s respectful, mutual, and sensible, with no attitude or baggage allowed, it can really be beneficial to both.
That little shit went as far as to falsify his age to seek out people for a consensual act. He really didn’t need to do this but went great lengths to get it. Unknowingly, his partners probably thought they was doing something legal. Conversely, as a 61 year old, I’d be creeped out if I found out the fellow I hooked up was as young as a grandson.
Years later, it has become “regret sex.” He’d better not play the rape card. Just like a college girl. He would hurt the credibility of the metoo movement if he went that route. Is that little bitch doing it for fame?
Now ask me how I really feel about it.
My first 3 sexual encounters were with men in their 40’s, I was 18. I have no regrets and was glad to get with a guy who knew what he was doing.
I was lying about my age since I was 14. Back then you did not have the groups and social avenues you have today to meet guys your own age. Up until the late 90’s being in the closet wasn’t as much of a choice as it was a requirement to protect yourself from the stigma of being gay.
Even as I got older and finally came out I found myself more attracted to older men rather than to men my own age.
Interestingly enough, when I was younger, as a teenager and during my early twenties, I often had sexual encounters with older men. Now that I am 55, I mostly engage with men in their twenties and thirties.
You are paying for it and setting yourself up fir major heart break. While some age differences work anything more than 10 years statistically is doomed. May December relationship
I think all young men should occasionally date and sleep with an older man. The experience teaches you things that are good, bad and otherwise. I am grateful for the older men that I went with when I was younger and for helping the next generation now that I am older. Everyone 15 to 80 should be having sex with each other.
I am older, and I thoroughly enjoy sucking and getting fucked by younger cocks. When it is dark, and they are horned up…it doesn’t really matter, now does it? I, of course, am in very good shape…and that helps.
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Yes I was 57 and was meeting with a 19 yr old for several years. The 1st time he came to my place he had just turned 19 a few weeks earlier. When I opened the door. I was surprised to see how young he looked. He had hit me up late one night. I was about to call it a night. We chatted for a CPL hours. But when he got to my place I was ready to go. But I was freaked I asked him for ID he showed me a legit Drivers license. I invited him in he was ready to play orally. But had no clue about what is needed for anal play. I took him to the restroom and showed and explained about how to do a enema. He was ready to do anything. He told me several times about how he had been wanting to get fucked. When he came out of the can naked and hard I figured that it was all good. He became a regular at my place. I knew he was on the DL that was ok with me. He lived about 45 min from me. When he asked me to come to his place. I was hoping to start a full time relationship with him. But as time went by I knew that was not going to happen. He ended up marrying his HS gf. He still came to my place about once a month. I moved away a few months ago. But as time went on his visits became less often I moved in Feb his last visit was before Thanksgiving weekend.
But I have met several young men in their 20’s I never chased them but just looked and sent a smile or a flirt to them from then on it was up to them if they wanted to meet me or not.
So I have no problem with age younger or older
In my ill spent youth I would not talk to anyone over 30. I’m now paying the price for my ignorance. Karma is a bitch. I’m in my 70’s now and I’m still attracted sexually to much younger guys. I may be suffering from arrested development or I’m so inundated with images of hot young guys, that it’s difficult to find older guys erotic. I think this idolization of youthful beauty effects the straight community also. I think there is a history of symbiotic relationships between older men any younger guys. The one that comes to mind is the Homosexual Greek Army of Athens. The ancient Greeks had an army where
the Older Men fought on the front lines and their ” boy” supplied them with new weapon from the protected center. Because the older men were fighting to protect the younger boys, not the state, made them one of the most feared armies of any other Greek armies.
My man is 56 yo and I am 28 yo. He’s met my family and they don’t care. They are happy I have a person who treats me well. I work for WFM and he is in high high end real estste. My family is wealthy and I get lots of help outs. He is well off too. So I don’t view him as my sugar daddy because I already have a dad and he’s awesome!! I don’t come from a broken home. So she is just a dumb number.
When I was 14, I started fucking a guy who was 60 and by 16, I had three grandfathers over 60. Two have since died. I’ll be 30 this summer, but they provided me with the “fathering” I never had growing up. The sex was fun and it worked out very well for me all things considered. I am not interested in following suit, but it’s not the end of the world either that it happened to me.
Millennials generally treat us pandemic survivors as wallets and with contempt. I kept myself clean all those years FOR THAT? No WAY, José…the youngsters of today aren’t worth my time.
Interesting comments and article. There is a reason that the age of consent in Europe and many other countries is 16. Many of those 16 year old young men know full well what they want. A dear friend who turns 76 this year remembers at 20 the gay bars in the Phoenix area allowed minors in and as the night would wind down the minors had often picked the man they wanted to go home with for the night. There was a time that the older did teach the younger men. Before the age of the internet, having role models was critical for so many of those young and gay. Today, following the law, I see no issue between consenting adults of disparate ages for overnight trysts, love, and LTR’s. Another good friend is 87 and he has two lovers both around 40 years old and all three love each other total. Seems people need to mind their own business. If there is love, if there is consent, who really should care???
If you are happy together, go ahead. Gay life is different, but we see a lot of people with significant age gaps, smaller age gaps etc…it’s all about whether your relationship is built on the right foundation/
I have known that I was a bisexual guy since 12. I had my first gay experience at age 19 with a 37 year old man. I am 31 now and I still prefer older men. Well older men when I bottom, but I like younger guys when I top. So I don’t mind an age discrepancy as long as the sex is good.
Age is just a number…stop dwelling on this and let people be loving with another human of their own choosing..its nobody’s business but the two people in love…PERIOD!
It’s a case of mind over matter – if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.
For a good time, I just like a beautiful guy. But anything more serious I would prefer someone closer to my age within a 5-10 yr. radius. Sexually the young guys can be nice to look at but the intensity of my attraction is like a 5 or 6 at the most. When I’m with an appealing guy that is around my age or older, the intensity can be from a 7-10. Me being 44 years of age.
I’m in a relationship that’s 27 years difference. I’m 27 and he’s 54. We are doing great! It’s all about chemistry and communication!
But back to Troye… I find it very problematic that we are skipping over the fact the he went on these interviews shaming men that don’t have hang ups over age. He went out of his way to put himself in those situations, lying on sites (when it clearly states for 18 and over before you sign up!), and deceiving men to think that he is of legal age. And he found it disgusting!? Boy grow up! this is not the behavior we should be endorsing..
I’m older and enjoy playing with guys my age as long as they are not overweight or smokers. I keep myself trim and I know others can do that if they try.. Sometimes that is difficult to find.
And yet, I attract guys younger than me. A bit of chat and they sense that I care and can listen. I now know they have quite a bit of experience. Young guys are fucking chicks in the ass so as not to worry about pregnancy, so they already know quite a bit about anal sex. They seem to get lots of blow jobs as well. Making out with men, though, seems to be new to them, and they seem to enjoy that as a new sensation. I have a full trimmed beard, and that seems to excite them, and they like the sensation of a tickly kiss.
For long term, it’s more sketchy. Some younger guys are truly quite immature. That can work ok sometimes, but it’s a big difference in some cases. Their dreams of maybe having kids is going to take a lot of commitment. And if I see them checking out girls while I’m with them, I know they are still experimenting with their sexuality and they still are not certain.
Wow…I’m 36 years old and I have dated guys 20 to 60. It all boils down to the individual. I’ve dated immature guys in their 40s and 50s and immature guys in their 20s and 30s. I’ve dated mature guys in the exact same above-mentioned age range. It depend on the person. I dated older guys that were excellent in bed and younger guys that were excellent in bed. I had bad sex with the exact same age range above-mentioned. Same as when it comes to conversation, sanity, trust and finance. So it’s just a individualistic thing and I love my age. I get to experience both!!!!!
i love blowing older guys and fucking younger ones.
I started sucking my 21yr old cousins dick when I was 12… he was sleeping nude and I instinctively knew I wanted my mouth on it… when I was 15 he took me camping with a couple friends of his and I serviced all of them that weekend… one was a black guy… who eventually became the first guy to fuck me… I’ve always had a thing for older guys … even now that I’m in my 50’s I still like my age group … what I’m finding with younger guys under 30… is a lot want sugar daddies … I’m not really into that…. when I see a glaring age difference in couples it makes me wonder if they’re in that kind of thing and it kind of creeps me out…
I meet my boyfriend when i was 34 and he was 19.
He was and still is the best thing that came into my life. Im now 64 and he’s 51 and were still couple to this day.
If it’s about the looks department, age is all relative, it really goes down to how well you take care of yourself. I’ve seen handsome fit older men (that typically looks a few years younger and have good genes) and younger out of shape men. People like to stereotype older men and this article makes it seem like a novelty to want an older man, when I see twinks with older guys all the time lol!
I am 60 yo.i have no problem sleepi g with younger men. I think they a r e fucking hot. My last one was 35 yo
I’m 22, but have been playing with older men since I was 16. I had several unsatisfactory sexual encounters with younger guys prior to meeting my first older man. Suffice it to say, I’ve been meeting with that man since. I feel bad that our relationship started out with a lie, but I don’t regret my actions. He helped me explore my sexuality at my own pace and I will forever be indebted to him for it. For a time I was biased against younger men. Today, I just judge the man. If he gets hard and there’s attraction, why should we deny ourselves the chance to connect?
It’s great to see an overall view here that age isn’t an issue. In reading profiles, when an upper age is cited that seems to come from guys under 35 who seek partners who are “athletic”, “VGL”, “like myself”, etc. When there’s a lower one, it’s from guys who are not looking for sons or boy toys.
I’ll chat with guys of any (legal) age. Tend to handle those who cite they’re 25 (or less) carefully. So far those with that are loooking for emotional or financial daddies while I prefer men who can stand on their own two feet. Have buds in ages from late 20s to 80s, all quality men who are responsive and respectful when it comes to sex. Funny, none of them list any of the many confining preferences in their profiles that many guys do.
The biggest problem couples with a large age gap experience are jealousy and insecurity, often with the older partner believing that their younger partner will one day be attracted to someone their own age. It can make you feel younger to date someone younger but it can also make you feel older and more conscious of your appearance.As with all aspects of the dating process, stay flexible and keep an open mind. Qualities developed through emotional maturity are the ones most likely to ensure the success of the relationship rather than anything to do with chronological age. And finally, people shouldn’t ever lie about your age. Any relationship that is built on dishonesty will have insecure foundations which, sooner or later, will rock its stability.
I love it. For men in their 60s, the dating pool is too small, and if you are more youthful, most men your age are too old, retiring, aging, facing their end. Young people need nurturing and return affection easily, and are horny and less-spoiled, weird or eccentric. They have potential. They can take care of you when you need it. They are beautiful to look at, and those that prefer older men are usually more mature, have older souls. The best head I’ve had is from a 19-year-old. Too many men are shockingly bad at sex, and forget about making love. At least you can train a young one. They are energizing and amusing. Try finding an old man like that. Few and far between. It’s the same reason a straight man picks a girl 20 years younger or more. We are men.
Age should not be a major issue if there is q connection, that being said it should still be kept within the law. Although as a younger teen I wanted to be with an older man, I didn’t act on that until I was 18, because I didn’t want someone to be in trouble. Looking back now almost 10 years since I was 18, I have a better understanding as well of generational gaps and still find myself liking older men as well as men my age. But I still base my relationships off of a connection and common interests rather than an age. No matter how old or young your partner is, you should always be willing to learn from them in some form. This isn’t just a gay/bi thing, this goes for all orientations. An age is just a number, and I’ve met many people of all ages that are mature or immature. The connection just has to be there, and for those dating older they need to keep in mind the health of the person they are dating or life expectancy. For those dating younger they met need to keep in mind the generation gap and possible lack of knowledge and that they will play a role in shaping that person to the man he will become.
I’m 58 and have been in a relationship with the same man, about my age, for about 20 years. On the side, I’ve been seeing 4 different guys for several years: a 34 year old for 11+ years, a 42 year old for 8 years, a 40 year old for 7 years, and a 40 year old for 4 years. I have a high sex drive, and they need it. It sounds crass, but if you have a big dick, you are passionate in bed, you’re in shape, and you’re basically a nice guy, you can have great connections with bottoms of any age.
I would like to say that there’s a few close minded people in this blog especially one in particular Mr. Jamie
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you know who you are
it’s one thing to have an opinion but it’s quite another where you are literally judging what somebody else is engages in or going to do especially with that of the younger person
some of these people might be involved already awhile and it’s about maturity so you have a lot of nerve to sit make the statement
Any way …To comment
I was 25 when I started dating guys as I had come to the conclusion I was attracted to men and I think that probably the first couple guys I’d dated were probably in her 40s at the time
I don’t mind it but they seem to be too much of a common older man where they’d rather just sit on the couch at home and I really do get wanting to maybe go to work ,come home and just sit down at that age but even now where I am in my 40s
I would dare say that I do like younger guys
I have never really found a guy that has / was right around my age that I got along with him
I guess for me it’s feels weird to me now that I would be seeing someone like my parents age and it seems like recently I’ve been talking to early 20 somethings and I get along with them and to get with one possible or to be with one
I wouldn’t mind ….so I just think lotta people need to mind their business and if there’s attraction if there’s love -there is mutual anything else
I would dare say that I do like younger guys
I have never really found a guy that was right around my age that I got along with plus as far as younger
I guess for me -it’s feels weird to me now that I would be getting with someone like my parents age and it seems like recently I’ve been talking to early 20 somethings and it could be hypocritical
But I get along with them and to get with someone in their 20s and be with one – I wouldn’t mind so….
I just think of people need to mind their business because if there’s attraction if there’s love there’s whatever so be it , I’ve had sex with 40-year-olds when I was 25 and I’ve had sex with as young as 18 and I was in my late 30s Hell at 43 newly 44 I’ve been with some guys recently that this past month (I recently just turned 44 now) and they were in their early 20s -so whatever
To me …. if you like each and you make each other happy . That’s what should matter
All I can say is be careful if any of you guys hook up with someone under 18. None of us want to be sent to the slammer, or cause problems with this or any other website, as illegal activity could get this site and others shut down. If you meet up with a young guy, just make sure he’s of age, check his ID, etc. Law enforcement also use these sites for entrapment. We all love to hook up with young guys, but as for me, I mainly see older men, usually guys at least 40, and even into their 80s. The youngest I have even been with was probably in his late 20s, and that was many years ago.
I started getting hit by young guys when I started using A4A and Grindr. It was disturbing at first because I had this idea that a large age difference was somehow “wrong.” I had several very open discussions with some of those young guys about their interest in someone much older, and they always said “hot is hot, no matter the age.” So I even went to bed with a couple of 25 yo. To be perfectly honest, I prefer someone around my age who has not only experience in bed, but who knows himself and what he likes and wants because all that makes sex much better. But st the same time I’m not afraid of hitting on a younger guy if I think he’s hot. That’s what I’ve learned.
I think Troye had to be politically correct in his interview. He had to say he was creeped out a little in dealing with older guys. But he found it exciting anyway. As an entertainer, he needs to set and example to the youth of the world. And right now in many parts of the world and the USA, any contact with a person under 18 is a big NO. So he can’t be seen as advocating for younger older relationships even if he did like it. It certainly satisfied his needs and I’m glad he admitted to it. I think there are a number of younger people who do the same thing, it goes unreported, and they enjoy it. We only hear of the relationships gone wrong. I believe if a younger person is out there looking for older guys to mess with, they certainly know what they want. I for one am very happy they want to. As an old guy, I find the best sex is with a willing 18yo. And if they claim to be 18 and are 17 and I don’t know it, and they are happy, so be it.
Since I hit 40, that was 18 years ago, I will take a 40-60 something and up any day. I don’t even do guys in their 20’s. They just don’t appeal to me. I state in my profiles that I am looking for mature guys so it’s very rare that I even get hit on by 20 something guys. When it happens I tell them how adorable/beautiful they are and thank them for hitting on this old man, but I like guys closer to my own age. My other line is, You don’t even qualify for the age restriction here. If you came over you would have to bring your daddy! That’s for the one’s who are respectful! Ones who aren’t get “If you come over here you will do exactly as I say, just like the thousands of other guys!!! That’s whether you’re fucked up or stone cold sober and if you need drugs, etc then bring it with you!!! Because I don’t know why I should pay you for showing you the best sex of your entire life that you don’t even know is possible”!!! As far as looks go…there’s a different type of beauty for every age!!! And I definitely would not want to look like I did in my 20’s again! I feel sad for older men who think they were beautiful in their 20’s and can’t see the beauty of their current age!
Are you kidding me, really? I don’t think that has ever been one gay adolescent who hasn’t had a crush on an older man, and of course the reverse as well. I can think of many myself as a child that I fantasized about that were of many different races even. Being later 50’s, I see younger men that I find really hot, its really a problem though as I just can’t quite get there; me and a significantly younger man, young enough to be my son. It’s fun to get offers, though, “daddy dick”, lol!
I so agree with Dean, I want one of those beautiful old men like me at the same point in our lives, as I’m really good with getting older. I’m too old fashioned in a way, for someone so new.
I look 4 maturity first,a man age,looks,cock size CUMS second,in this Homo lifestyle its hard to live good,if u can understand me on that,I love all,the beauty of a man is like the beauty of this world!