Speak Out: Are You the Marrying Kind?
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Hey, guys! Are you single, married, or in a (monogamous or non-monogamous) relationship? Moreover, are you the marrying kind? And what do you think about monogamous and non-monogamous relationship in general?
We are asking because a study revealed that younger gay men preferred monogamy at 90 percent while a whopping 92 percent would love to get married someday. The study explained that the “preference for monogamy among single men seemed to cut across ages,” that is, whether they were 18 or 40, what the respondents seek is a monogamous relationship. However, it would seem that the older the respondents are, the more they are open to the “possibility of a non-monogamous relationship.”
According to Gay Star News, the researchers Blake Spears and Lanz Lowen are said to be “a non-monogamous couple for 36 years.” The couple conducted the study titled “The Couples Study” because they assumed that “long-term couples might offer valuable perspectives and hard-earned lessons.”
I think that the results of the study aren’t surprising at all. While some people are not the marrying kind, most people do want to get married at some point in their life and I really do think this is true for most, irrespective of their sexuality. As Ricky Martin sang a long, long time ago, Nobody Wants to be Lonely, and being perpetually single can sometimes be lonely, do you agree? Inversely, not everyone who’s in a relationship is happy.
Having said that, we would love to get married someday because we want to be with the person we love for life, one who loves us back. And of course we want to build a family and a future with them but, that’s just me. And I do have friends be it gay or straight, male or female who are happily single and they plan to be (single) for the rest of their lives. They say it isn’t in them to take care of other people.
Anyway, how true are the results of the study for you? Do you also want to get married someday or are you not the marrying type? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
Been together 19yrs, married for 10 and non-monogamous. Play together and separate. There’s no room for jealously at the end of the day or it will never work! We both have complete confidence the other will be there! We took vows to do so! It’s been tested by a few men … to no avail … it gives me comfort to know I am loved unconditionally and trusted to be there! Monogamy has always been an unrealistic expectation for me. I’ve been lucky to find someone who shares the same reality! As they say … the couple that plays together stays together
I don’t know about the marrying thing but the picture of these two guys are fking HOT. If I could I would marry to both of them. At the same time. ..
I honestly don’t think most can get married for long periods without a little cheat. Too many cheaters here so no lol!
I’m the marrying kind. Monogamous relationship only and I feel that a good couple romances each other as if they were still in the honeymoon stages.
Everything they told you that is BAD about marriage is TRUE and everything they told you that was GOOD is a LIE.
I spent 31 years with the same guy and finally got married June 25, 2014 when it became legal in Indiana and have no regrets Just wish it could of happened 30 years earlier
I want to get married lots of times!!!!
I am def not the marrying type. I am very selfish at times and kinda moody. Sometimes after working 50 hours a week, I want to spend the entire weekend alone just watching tv and enjoying my lavish home. I don’t talk to noone the entire weekend if I chose not too. When I was in relationship with different girlfriends they would always try to plan our weekends. I hated that. I hated that ” how was your day shit ” and what I hated most was everytime I was about to leave the house she would ask “where you going honey? I hated that shit…..i tried hard but it wasn’t for me. Being in a relationship or married you have to compromise and sometimes do things you don’t want to do and talk to them even when you’re not in the mood. Sex is important in a relationship or marriage so I had to do that even if I didn’t want to. A performance. As far as marrying a dude I wonder sometimes would that be different and I reality kicks in and I’ll say hell no. I enjoy me too much to share me. I can have guys come over for dinner and sometimes spend the night. That’s when I’m in the mood and that is often. But the good thing is that they have to eventually leave and I can control when I want to do that. So in a nutshell I am def not the marrying type unless I find someone just like me. Lol
Am I the marrying kind?
NOPE!
Gay men before the mainstreaming have a non-traditional view of sexuality that is not part of the conservative and neo-liberal “family values, monogamy, and nationalistic love of country” reflected in marriage and military service. The mainstream has returned to these values since Reagan in 1980. Gay culture has been “assimilated” into the same neo1950S McCarthyism duo of marriage and the military. Such progress!! We too are free to be Donna Reed, Father Knows Best, and Leave It To Beaver fantasies to keep us sedated just like returning Rosie the Riveter to the kitchens of 1956 instead of the factories of 1944. All we need to make it a perfect Big Lie is an end to abortion, no contraception, and letting corporations run the country.
Sound familiar dupes?
I am a widower from a hetero relationship, but have realized that I am gay. I would love to find Mr Right and if/when that day comes I would want to get married again. I do not believe in open relationships because I am and have always been a “one man man.” By the way, I am 61
I was told from a very early age that one day id make a great housewife,,i still believe that witj all my heart,,
Marriage is a heteronormative construct. Nothing more.
I am the marrying type. I would like to marry a different man everyday!
LOL.