Gay Stuff : Why Do We Close Our Eyes When We Kiss?
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Have you ever wondered why we close our eyes when we kiss?
Truthfully I haven’t so, er, yeah. Whenever I kiss someone, I close my eyes and that’s it, no overanalyzing. For me, closing my eyes was natural, instinctive if you will although it’s probably the same for everyone.
Although I must confess I did try kissing with my eyes open one time because I wanted to see my then boyfriend’s facial expression. I was curious you see. I wanted to know if he was enjoying our kiss as much as I did. Anybody here who also felt curious at one point? Did you try kissing your partner with your eyes open as well?
Naturally, I found out kissing with my eyes wide open was a bad idea. Not only did it feel strange, the kiss was also a lot less enjoyable. Unfortunately, I wasn’t the only one who felt the difference because he opened his eyes and caught me looking at his face. I probably freaked him out or something because he stopped and asked me what was wrong. Lol.
Anyway, if you performed this little experiment as well and found the kiss you’re sharing with him felt suddenly a lot less intense well, apparently there is a good explanation as to why.
According to a study on common kissing practice conducted by psychologists Polly Dalton and Sandra Murphy, the “brain is unable to cope with the combination of visual data and tactile sensation of kissing.” In short, if our eyes are busy looking at our partner, our brain focuses on the visual aspect more than our other senses like our sense of touch. However, if we shut our eyes, our brain’s focus goes to the sense of touch, hence the deep sensual kiss and heightened pleasure we experience. For more information on the study which was published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance, click here.
Having said that, do you love kissing? When was the last time you kissed someone else? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
I’ll have to wait until I have my first kiss.
Kissing … a major yes. Whenever I’ve encountered a guy who didn’t kiss. or didn’t do it reasonable well, the rest of the encounter came up short. Either he was a dead fish, or a cum and run guy, or he just developed into something weird during the meeting.
I get it that for some guys it’s just “too personal”. Not sure how taking a guy’s cock up your ass or down your throat isn’t personal. But some guys just can’t do it. It’s something I always vet early before agreeing to meet a guy. If they don’t kiss, fine. It’s a reason for more discussion which ofter reveals other reasons we’re not a reasonably good match.
Eyes open or eyes closed? It’s never an either or thing. More closed than open, but it depends on what we’re doing.
“When was the last time you kissed someone else?” gunna be doing it this afternoon at the hotel and pounding a sweet ass in, love kissing , helps build the mood and gets us both hot.
If you’re kissing a frog you’d rather not see it.
I suppose it depends on what part of the man you are kissing.
I believe that we close our eyes in order to feel the other persons passion or at least that’s how I see it
This may not be related, but does anyone else suck with their eyes closed?
I can really get into sucking my boyfriends dick and balls for hours with my eyes closed. But it’s not the same with my eyes open. Anybody else make this connection?
Yes. Always thought it was strange that I did this because I love seeing cock and balls so much.
I closed my eyes when I sucked “Rob-30” balls because they were as dirty as potatoes that were just pulled from the ground.
Kissing with eyes open is one of my first tests of compatibility. If a guy will do that it tells me he’s able and willing to be more engaged in general. I like to see that he’s enjoying the kiss, or not, while it’s happening. Same is true when fucking. Enjoyment, or not, always shows in the eyes, in my opinion.
Bingo.
Eyes open…and both of you comfortable…indicates you and the guy are connected. It could be said if you can’t have sex and be eye to eye, you’re deluded if you think you and he are anything significant. Not to say there’s anything wrong with mechanical sex…it gets he job done. But is it sustaining?
For one, this is not a “gay thing” but a human being thing. Everybody or at least most people tend to always close their eyes when they kiss somebody else. Like you mentioned above; it is a natural and/or instinctive thing to do. Keeping your eyes open while kissing somebody is very awkward for both participants. It’s almost like staring at your own eyes in the mirror, just that you can’t control the set looking back.
Also I myself have kissed another with my eyes wide open. Some times it did result in the other person stopping and asking “what’s wrong?” or either one of us started laughing because we caught each other’s gaze. But for me, it never did actually stop me from continuing the “tongue wrestling match”.
And the last time I actually kissed somebody was a little over a year ago. And any intentions I have or may have to experience another kiss (whether with that same guy or with another guy) is pretty much not there or irrelevant within my mind. I used to make out with lots of my friends – so I’m a fairly adept and skilled kisser. However, I have had the displeasure of kissing some who quite frankly knew nothing about how to kiss or was just blatantly BAD at it. Most don’t know that there is a time and place for certain types of kissing and usually end up sporting the one that isn’t called for. lol
Kissing is an absolute must for me,in any of my online profiles its in what I’m looking for and is a 100% requirement and a deal breaker for moving onto sex.If the guy doesn’t kiss I don’t waste my time in a meeting or having sex.Perhaps it could be my past long term relationship of 8 years,my ex kissed me I think 3 times in 8 years.Many of his friends as well as mine said to dump him because it was simply weird LOL.Which when I finally woke up I did just that.kissing is a very important part me to be connected to a guy,physically,mentally and sexually.
Because if you open your eyes, you’ll know damn well that the other person doesn’t truly love you. Looking into their eyes, the window of the soul, you can know a lot more, even tell the future of the relationship. But hey.. don’t believe me.
Yes, most of the time when I kiss, I close my eyes, as it’s just seems to be natural. Although when my BF and I kiss, when I do open my eyes, his are usually open. Why, not sure, but it’s intriguing. We love looking at each other, our facial expressions, our bodies, etc. One reason I think is that when people kiss lip to lip, it’s hard for our eyes to focus that close on each other. However my eyes are very much open as I suck, rim, and kiss other parts of his body. I love exploring him and he loves exploring me, which is all part of great sex and love making. Sex for us men is quite visual. Just think, women seldom get off watching porn, men on the other hand can’t get enough of it. I love looking at every crease and feature of my BFs body. Sex is very much made up of visual cues, touch, talk, expressions, and of course sharing each others cum, sweat, saliva, and other bodily fluids and tastes.
This is a bit distressing… “…he stopped and asked me what was wrong. Lol.”
Wouldn’t then have been the perfect time to tell him how right the moment was?
That was so sweet
Why do we close our eyes when we sneeze?
Not sure I agree with kissing with my eyes closed. I love kissing with my eyes open especially when my partner kisses really well and I sense there is a connection betwen us. Its as if we are not just connecting physically through a kiss but it also makes a deeper connection when gazing into each others eyes…its as if your speaking volumes with each other without a word being said. Sorry I like kissing with my eyes open…it’s hot…
I closed my eyes when I kissed Felix-31 because I did not want to see his ugly and savage face!
Uh, I LOVE kissing as 1st-base, I-really-like-you, kind of thing. I tend to open my eyes occasionally, so I can see, visually take-in the handsomeness I’m feeling-tasting and enjoying. We go at it for awhile then part, seeing how the kissing is registering in each other eyes, lol, then start again, its wonderful!
I enjoyed kissing when my eyes are closed there is more
I love kissing I we’ll open my eyes for a second but close them
if you want to know if he he loves you so –
it’s in his kiss