Speak Out: What’s Your Favorite ‘Ordinary Body’?
When it comes to the gay dating scene, there’s an intense focus on ripped and muscular bodies that it’s not surprising to find many gay men ending up discouraged or having troubling body issues.
It’s also no wonder that “real” bodies have also become something certain parts of the community have come to find exceptionally attractive. It’s even spurned groups like the London-based queer publication meatzine to celebrate “real guys” through a calendar they’ve been releasing since 2010. Their latest calendar continues the tradition with 12 new un-retouched images of meatzine models posing as naked as the day they were born.
We’re sure you guys have that specific type of “real” body that turns you on, and we’d like to hear about it.
Do you prefer the dad bod, currently best exemplified by actor David Harbour of Stranger Things 2 fame? Or do you prefer the skinny frame of Call Me By Your Name actor Timothée Chalamet? Or do you prefer a hairier body that hasn’t undergone manscaping, like Burt Reynolds used to embody back in the day?
Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below. If you’ve got any fantasies that go with those bodies, feel free to share them as well!
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“…there’s an intense focus on ripped and muscular bodies that it’s not surprising to find many gay men ending up discouraged or having troubling body issues.”
So that means we dive into a blog post focusing on “… that specific type of “real” body that turns you on…”
There’s just as much a focus by some guys on finding guys who are not ripped or muscular, but who “have beauty” or are “handsome” or “good looking”.
Twisted. Yeh, that covers it if these are what drives a guy’s thinking.
The men who are important in my life all have different body types. Across a wide range, actually. Their body type is inconsequential to me.
Setting up “a preference” which controls whether you’ll even try to connect with a guy is as shallow as it comes. If that’s how a guy is navigating life, he just better plan now on ending up alone, bitter, and feeling himself ever so a victim of what he’ll blame is “a cruel and unfair society” when he just doesn’t find “Mr. Perfect”.
I can fall in love with most bodies once I know the man inside. Old and saggy can be hot, thin has driven me wild, some extra meat on the bones to wrap my arms around, lots of muscle . . . It’s what’s inside that makes the outside irresistible.
Beefy bear body types
This is still objectification, still part of the superficiality we need to be rid of as a community.
My favorite ordinary body consists of a man that is height-weight proportionate with average-sized genitalia. I’m not sure what the fascination is all about with men that have Godzilla-sized penises, but that doesn’t appeal to me at all. This is where it ends for me though. The guy has to be both attractive to me and smart to get my attention.
The guy’s smile, the guy’s intelligence, the guy’s politeness and manners — the body, well, it figures in the equation, but it certainly is not the whole equation.
mine ranges from smoothie skinny twinks to average hairy dad bods but chubs n fats dont do it for me
David Harbour for sure! I’ve always preferred regular guys to ripped muscle heads.
Skinny only anything else feels like I’m trying to sleep with my mother!
Wait .. what ??
I like real bodies. Yes I’d love to get naked with a buff stud but if i like the guy i like the guy. Last guy i did the nasty with i knew from when we both used to hit the gym regularly. He’s gotten a bit chunky, but he was a hot fuck! My only regret is that i was out of town when he wanted to meat up again.
muscle queen’s or a firm tight body.
Corn-fed farmer guy, John Hamm, my cubicle mate who has what would be a ‘dad-body’ (great bulge though makes for crazy fantasies). All in all I think extreme musculature can be grotesque and detracts from the other goods (think big truck/fancy car guy syndrome and overcompensation). Likewise not personally attracted to wiry thin or rotund guys—keyword “attracted”.
OMG. I’ve grown into a dad bod and it seems that attracts thinner, otter type guys. I’d like beefier than me guys but the chemistry seems less intense. These thinner, younger guys tend to stay wrapped up around me and I’m always trying to explain the old me. I’m seeing now that doesn’t matter and I just have to accept and flaunt my new curves. Hey if his penis is jumping he likes you is my inside voice screaming at the critical side. I always liked Adam Devine’s thickness even though he’s more sculpted now. Manscaping isn’t a requirement but it might affect what all I’d do in bed.
I am partial to the dad bod look. Sure ripped muscled bodis are nice to look at but sometimes they maybe to much. Prefer the dad, otter, bear look to most.
I think its crazy how many people complain about certain body types but at the same time those people have been alone and out here screwing everyone for the last 20+ yrs… Then all of a sudden when they catch sum disease from the so called beautiful guys, they all of a sudden have a change of heart and wanna date men of different body types ….I cant apeak for every state but Memphis, Tn is one of the most challenging cities to connect because of the superficial requirements people have. I agree with Dan” It’s what’s inside that makes the outside irresistible.”
Thin/Lean Guys with lots of body hair does it for me !!
For me; usually the slim/slender type – like my own. But not set in stone.
Funny, I’ve always had quirky tastes in men, as it has everything, increasingly, to do with “the man himself”, most times they’re much shorter than myself as I’m in the ‘stratosphere’ of tall. Sometimes they have a bit of a belly or hairy (I’m just wild about hairy) lol; sometimes they’re redheads, brunette or dark-haired/brown eyed- also drive me wild, bald or grey, ect., I’m not giving the “it look” any energy, a ‘favorable’ personality has to come through.
I find that “ripped and muscular bodies” come with no substance or realness. All you’re going to get is a superficial mean girl attitude and no focus on life other than how many selfies they can take at the gym while working out to boost their failing self esteem. I find myself with an average body, I’m 5’11 and 150lb. I’m not over weight nor underweight, but the big city I live in (Dallas), being “normal” earns you being ignored. Unless your gym ripped or a muscle daddy, socially, it won’t get you very far. People will judge you from across the room and decide if they want to even be friends with you or not based on your looks. It sad, but it’s the truth. Not everyone is like that, but it’s what we get for portraying the gay man as some Chippendale fantasy to society. Even on here, you don’t see any “average” looking men advertised, it’s all muscle bodies fantasies. And it seems a lot deeper than that. Even websites like this and apps like Grindr and Scruff, it leads to people using fake photos of people who they know everyone will find attractive because I’m sure they’ve been body shamed before and it’s the only way to get people to even speak to them, and sometime that’s all people want. To feel included. But the problem with the gay community and it’s shaming practices span much further than just the body. It’s an epidemic. Yet we are the ones who preach to outsiders that we want equality and acceptance, yet we don’t even accept each other. It’s a disaster.
Thanks Dallas, a very well thought out response to this blog question.
The guys on “The Big Bang Theory”. All of them are your average looking type and if you dress them up, they can look quite attractive. A nice smile melts my heart whether fat, skinny, muscular, smooth or hairy.
That was easy.
i like most guys bodies as long as there isn’t a vagina on it. A handsome face and good personality is much more a turn on than the body for me.
I am a man in my 50s married to a woman, but I am gay at heart. Not only do I have to suffer hiding my sexuality, but also because I am not ripped or muscular (rather bearish type), I feel unwanted in the gay community. The image projected in the media is making our lives difficult even though I know there are men around that do not care much about looks. The stereotyping of gays as Adonis looking men should be replaced by ordinary looks.
Someone who takes care of themselves. HWP, not that u have to have a “gym” body, but at least take care of yourself, because I mean if you don’t, ” Where are u going to live.” Insides are more important over all tho, but personally if someone is grossly over weight, I would not be sexually attractive to them for sure.
If we are only talking physical…
Hopper is HOT!
I’m a sucker for a big hairy belly and a beard.
Any body type is fine with me as long as he (or she) is safe and sane to be with. I find most guys who are younger don’t want much to do with me since I am older, however I enjoy being with anyone regardless of age. ( legal age of course). Doesn’t matter if a person is young or old, fat, skinny, white or black or any other race. As far as a relationship, similar interests is a big factor.
What is an “ordinary” body?
My favorite body is one attached to a wonderful man. Big dick optional
one that’s connected to a beautiful mind