Speak Out: (Why Do We) Fuck and Go?
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In one of our previous posts titled, “Hookup: What Are Your After-Sex Rituals?” we received comments from A4A members like, “Shower. Brush my teeth, use mouthwash. Get depressed because I realize he was just using me and I’ll never see him again; because he was a lousy lay, because he didn’t care if I came, because he came and went, because he couldn’t cum or get it up, etc. Back online to find a replacement.” And, “I clean up and see if he wants to do it again and if not I look for someone else to breed me.”
There were some other comments along the same lines.
We all know what it is called: hooking up, hookups. If we want to be academic about it, hooking up is defined as “brief uncommitted sexual encounters among individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other.” Regardless of sexuality and age, the hookup culture is said to have “taken root within the sociocultural milieu of adolescents, emerging adults, and men and women throughout the Western world.” We even have terms for our hookups: friends with benefits (FWBs), fuck buddies, and booty calls.
No one’s judging. Been there, done that, but why?
Why do we just fuck with guys and have a hard time getting attached? And then after the fuck we get depressed because in the end, we are still alone. Sex makes us feel good for an hour or so, sure, and then we go back to loneliness. We move past this feeling only to repeat it over and over. It’s a vicious cycle.
Personally, I think deep down we are hoping that the next one will be the one who stays and when he didn’t, we continue with the search. We’re running on a loop but we couldn’t stop until we find the one. Or perhaps it’s just the romantic in me.
What about you, guys? Why do you fuck and go? Have you ever, in all these years, even once considered of staying? Did you stay? Why or why not?
On the other hand, did someone stay with you at all? What is your story? Share it with us in the comments section below.
I don’t fuck my friends, and my fuckbuddies aren’t my friends
Oh yeah, I don’t play that blur the lines shit. That’s definitely a red flag when a guy says he’s just my friend oh but we dated for 2 years. Clearly means an ex to me. I’m not one for up and running but I have made release some steam stops in my time.
Sex is fun but he uses me
I think it’s still a bit of animal instinct in us. You know, spreading the wild oats and seeing if the next one is better than the last. I, personally, prefer staying for the “afterglow.”
Good for you!!!!
To be honest I dont have NSA sex or random hookups, if I wanted that I would use my hands and to be honest my hands are much more comforting than some random stranger Idk, never had any love for the randomness of different men or women, there r alot of risks such as disease, bad hookups the crazies and after guilt if u have a heart. That kinda scene isn’t for me, I do have a regular buddy I and him are friends and we enjoy each other sexually, we may not be In a relationship but we have a very good understanding and the sex is fire .
Same for me. When I was younger I did, but at 35, I need more than that. Really need to be attracted not only physically but mentally with the person. That’s why I very rarely fuck. I rather jerk off to my favorite porn.
Yeah Dave, I’m 26 and I am well aware of the risk, saw it happen to other ppl, so I learned from their mistakes and never did it, some ppl after the random hookup got a std, or were robbed after or were being stalked or phone ringing off the hook, personally I gatta be attracted to u physically, sexually and especially mentally and emotionally aside from that I would feel empty and my cock wouldn’t stand up, and i never liked empty feelings. I always say when someone is having sex they either loose or gain something and they leave apart of them selves with that person and vise versa and if that person is a negative person trust me u will pick up those qualities.
Interesting that you quoted my comment extensively, but didn’t post it.
It has to do with our original intention, to service our genitals, or is it to connect joyfully with another human? Too many of us are engaged in base instincts, due to emotional stunting, weakness, fear, foolishness, negativity, low self-esteem, etc. etc. It also takes maturity to realize that engaging with someone does not mean giving up control of yourself. I learned that from wealthy people, they are friendly but always maintain control over access to them. Then there is the confusion of having a crush on someone and not understanding how to process it. The chemicals involved prevent clear thinking. And if one doesn’t have a so-called “support system” (urban myth) to help you get over someone, how can you let yourself fall for them? Then, males need milking on a regular basis for their health. Hence, the porn industry. So, what are we to do? Be kind, at least. Follow the golden rule or better.
I’m looking for more commitment than a hookup but less than a relationship. I (usually) only meet up with guys that I think I could have that with. It’s hard to tell what a person is like online and often hard to figure out what they really look like or even whether or not they are the person in their photos.
When I meet someone I often know right away if it’s someone I really click with or not. But by the time I’ve met them I feel invested and my body thinks I owe it something. I don’t want to disappoint the other guy or my other guy, so I do it, but when it’s over I don’t always feel like prolonging my mistake.
I feel sad that the times I did find someone I clicked with there was a reason it didn’t work out. Hopefully I will find what I’m looking for (or maybe something I didn’t realize I wanted). I kind of have a theory that most people that stay on dating sites have unrealistic expectations or have a flawed strategy for finding what they are looking for. That probably includes me 😉
Although of course I flatter myself that my expectations are unrealistic for all the right reasons.
Those kind person aren’t humanity, no heart, and user
I stayed and then became the brunt of an abuser. I have a scar on my forehead. I’ll never stay again. Fuck, cum and go.
That is horrible and unforgivable. But not everyone is a piece of shit like that guy.
I don’t like to fuck and go Once I stick it in It’s gonna be there awhile
I like a longer session Bill, cum on over!
I feel the exact same way its nice to know I’m not the only one thank you
The few times I do seem to “connect” with someone, they seem to usually go by the rule of FFFF – find them, fool them, fuck them, forget them.
Because lust after ass and dick.
Men think with their dicks. Not their brains or hearts. I’m undecided if most men even have the latter two.
John and Jay have good points. I like it when fuck buddies can be more than a replacement for masturbation (it helps if we have some other things in common) but sexing up your best buddies usually changes the dynamics of your friendship.
And we’re still manimals with a sex drive, hopefully who know the difference between sex for it’s own sake and sex for/with love. There are different degrees of emotional connections and adults should be able to discern the differences. Sometimes you meet a good guy who’s good sex but not BF material so you continue to meat up; sometimes you meet a guy that you don’t want to see again; maybe you’ll find a soulmate. Until you know what you’re expecting of yourself can you hope to find what you want.
And Jay, I’m with you on the afterglow!
I think most of us hookup because of the initial excitement and also out of loneliness, as it is a quick fix. But then when it doesn’t lead to more we are left feeling sad. I’ve stopped hooking up and now believe in getting to know someone a bit. Dating, friendship, and eventually sex once the tension has built up so much that we feel like we’re going to explode. Good things come to those who wait. And if he really wants you, he will be willing to wait.
I’ve been hooking up with the same guy for the past 3 years. It was great until he said 3 little words (I love you) and started talking about us going away together!
Why ruin a good hot regular hookup by letting feelings get in the way?!
I’m a bi guy and most of my male encounters are with married guys…And sInce they plan on staying married, it’s pretty discrete….I offer them something different and have a few regulars….We have a great time, then they go home and hopefully fuck their wives…Lol
The male animal is constantly on the prowl to share his seed with anyone and almost anything that will accept it. It’s in the basic human nature to want more than one partner for males. Feelings and emotions are not necessarily need to cum with a temporary partner.
Well said.
Kind of a complicated thing to tackle—answering this question. Part of it for me is exploring other guys/men…I get bored quite often but never a day goes along where my dick is leading the way. Basically I feel no one person can fulfill all of another persons needs, wants, desires, etc.
So…if I want my night to include edging and being tied up I go to guy X. One day I might only be into recip oral with guy Y. Guy Z will ride me with guy B sucking guy Z. Maybe I want guy Q to make out with passionately with A LOT of body contact and get ravaging turned on to where we fvck each other’s brains out.
Long story short I need variety. But also there is an inherent instinct that’s animalistic. All in all – if anything – it’s a ‘release’ (pun intended) from the dull and drab routine of normal life. Also the good ones remain after weeding out the boring ones.
I just want the dick not the baggage.
Word.
i guess for me its kinda like,when i want sex thats what i want..i use condoms im overly protective of myself and my partner…but stranger sex turns me on so much..ive met some really incredible guys sexually,and ive had my share of bad ones..but being a bottom and knowing some random guy is using me for his pleasure and going about his business as i go about my everyday routine such as work, ect..turns me on..maybe im a whore,freak what ever the world may call it…but im me..i enjoy being single,i thoroughly enjoy being a bottom and all the feelings that come with that..amd i do have a reg.but hes not available any d345 will do..and if that one didnt curb my appetite ill seek out another..but again im me
Well said
Log back on and find the next one
I was literally just researching this… researchers tie it to our emotional dysregulation caused by feelings of rejection in other areas of our lives. This “self-treatment” is often a form of conditioned escape response enacted to help alleviate stress and turned into a sexual compulsivity as individuals seek affirmation of worth and attractiveness through sexual contact with others, where they may not normally participate in sexual behavior because they have a need to feel loved when they may not be receiving it from another source.
Because only bitches need cuddling. Big boys don’t need the emotional blackmail time that women require.
It twue
I met a top at a bathhouse with a massive dick. I was attracted to him and the sex was hot. We had a hot 4 way. (he fucked me, I had a guy sucking my large cock and I was sucking on another guy.) It was hotter than porn.
Anyhow, I gave the top my number as I would love more hot sex in different positions etc.. One cant ever get too much sex.
Anyways, after we exchanged phone numbers and had contact, I found him to be cold, unexpressive, and put zero effort. No thanks. NEXXT! Sure if I stumble into him at the bathhouse again Ill take his cock. Why not! However I wont seek him out He’s too much of a dick (pun intended). At the same time, he wasnt the only one I hooked up with .
Yet, I really believe if there is chemistry and a healthy personality, it will happen. Some people carry their own issues that no one (even a trick) can permeate
Just my thoughts.
Because monogamy is a stick up the ass of human relationships. My husband is black, and sometimes I am in the mood for a piece of white ass and dick. Or an Asian piece, or a Latino piece, Indian piece, or, hell, just a different black piece because his dick hooks to the right while my husband’s sticks straight out and his chest is smooth.
It’s really that simple, and that is why we enjoy each other as well as a nice little stable of fuck buddies.
Everyone is different, and every encounter is different… “JUAN IDE SNAYK” basically nailed it on the head for me… I like variety, but at the same time I am not looking for a relationship like most of the guys that responded. If I meet a guy, he knows what I am there for. For whatever reason he decides he wants to talk, then that’s what will happen. I am not going to force someone to have sex with me (force myself on to someone), but I am not going to meet that man again if I didn’t feel a connection or didn’t get what I wanted out of it.
Like many men mentioned on here sometimes it was just instinct. If you didn’t feel it was a right (connection, chemistry, sex, his dick was too big or too small… etc.) you would not stay or want to stay. For the most part I stay, cuz he wants to chat and feel like I am not some complete stranger to him… However, if we meet it is because you know what I am there for and what is going to happen. If I stay it’s because they did something right and we are going to do it again, or they didn’t do something wrong and just want to chat.
Sometimes I feel like sex is all I have to offer so that’s what there is. Guys don’t seem to want anything past the surface and the ones that do aren’t usually the ones that I am interested in sleeping with. I suppose if you have a lot of gay friends it’s easier to find someone for something other than sex. But usually even the illusion of intimacy is better than none at all so I let them stay till they feel ready to go. I’ve been burnt before but that’s a rarity.
That’s easy…because we’re men. We’re wired to fuck and go. The function and act of fucking shouldn’t be overthought.
Adding bonds or relationship status to the equation is quite a different topic altogether. Related, yes, but not at all mutually exclusive.
Mutually exclusive means that two qualities cannot exist together. I would agree that they are not mutually exclusive. Sex and relationship can most definitely occur together. I think what you meant is that sex and relationship are independent of each other and mutually inclusive. That means that they can either exist separately or together. I will concede that. Sure, they can be separate. But that doesn’t mean that that they are separate for all men. Humans are complex, and sometimes our needs change over time.
There was this guy I met online, we got along pretty well and started playing around. I thought it was going to be a casual fuck because I wasn’t looking to get my heart broken again. Well, that was almost two years ago. He’s currently in our bed snoring. Lol It’s funny how things can work out.
Why do we fuck and go you say? Well because we’re filthy sluts, whores, diseased, we’re full of lust with no morals and no class. No respect and no shame for ourselves. It’s plain and simply. This applies to mostly all of us.
Their sex paryners.
Too many gays chase after the “bigger better” concept. Bigger dick, bigger ass, cuter looks, etc. A lot of why most are constantly on that loop is because of superficial reasons. Instead of finding a guy and getting to actually know the person, they rather fuck him and bounce. Too many a time you come across profiles quoting the same mess “no fat no fem” etc. But then you have to think to self, if theres more profiles toting how many masc types there are someone must be lying or if there are so many of these types why has no one linked up to attach themselves to one another.
Gay guys live in the purgatory loop of lust. Its like the level of hell from Dantes Inferno. For eternity youll be doomed to be scattered to violent winds never finding satisfaction because of how one lived. Gays dont seek true substance. This society today is void of emotional structure and stability. With such a heavy influence of sex fucking and looking masculine gays lost track of actually living life. Too many place such high expectations on others but yet have nothing to show for them selves to even ask for something better. Gay guys lost the artship of courting and wooing. Its all about wanting to be freaks fwbs and nsa.
What so many fail to realize. The time you spend chasing after whats not meant you could have spent that time investing in someone for you. Now youre old 50+ talking about you want to settle down and find love. Welk thats kind of what your late 20s to 30s was for. But most carry on the sexual escapades of ones teens to early 20s into their later years not realizing that now youre old. Not many younger guys find you appealing anymore. There are some but not many.
Theres this level of confusion amongst so many gay males. Half dont know where theyre going in life. Half are washed out on drugs. Then you have those who want to be sluts. Not one for slut shamming. Then that small percentage is left that seek substance. But because of the influx of undesirables theyre usually left with the brunt end of the stick.
If more gays guys took the time to actually “speak” to one another theyd realized whose good and whose bad for them. But because they gen pop only knows the following types of dialogue while online “sup, wassup, whats up, looking” and the personal fav “pic, unlock”. Conversations never really go anywhere. You dont need a photo to chat with someone. Especially if you have no intentions of meeting and learning who the person is. Some people need to be honest with themselves. If you know youre a broken emotionless hoe. Dont try to shot the shit as if youre about substance and seeking quality.
Everyone needs to wake from their slumber of delusion. Majority write woe is me speeches on their profiles. Instead of writing why theyre shitty choices as a potential partner. We all are flawed. You simply need to find the most suitable gay whose equally flawed as you are and find happiness. Stop trying to put on the aires as though youre better or this and that. No one cares.
Just be simple. Live life. Go outside. Put your phones down, get off the apps, talk to a human. Interact with each other. This quick sex app life is whats destroy social interactions. Sites like adam bgc scruff jackd grindr. These sorts of platforms only promote that nsa kind of lifestyle. So I find it funny that theres this contradictory sort of post trying to figure out why theres no love.
Where is the love, you ask? Offline!
Put clothes on, engage, hang out in a non sexual place.
Why do we fuck and go? Because most men aren’t worth any more of my time than 1 night, have way too much baggage I don’t want in my life and are boring as hell.
I know this is a gay site but heterosexual couples or hookups are the same. I had sex with many many many women and it’s exactly the same. After we nutt, we have a cheesy cheap look on our faces. Hard to explain the feeling but it comes about a minute after the explosion. After I clean up I usually turn my back to the person I’m in bed with a go to sleep. All sexual feelings completely gone!!!
If we hook up for sex, isn’t that what we bargain for? Nothing wrong there. It’s what we agree to.
If neither of us sets any expectations about what’s going to happen after, neither one can complain about how the hook up ends.
So what if while during the discussion about the hook up the question is asked about what will happen after? And what if we were to take control of our lives and say “no thanks” to a potential sex partner because we have different expectations about after?
I’m all about the intimacy, that only occurs when they’re interesting enough to spend significant time with, as you become more comfortable with each other; you are already physically appealing to each other, hell, that’s what drew you together in the first place, eye-candy, right?
I mean, that’s why “tricks are for kids”, you gotta know what the hell you’re doing in the first place. I’ve always kept that “kind of action” to a minimum ’cause there’s not that many people you’re really going to really like; find value in anyway, in my opinion, so how are you going to wind up in bed just because he’s physically attractive? Those in the habit of such behavior, can answer that for themselves, I ‘m sure.
I learned long ago, being able to hold a conversation does a lot. I had a best friend who once said, “you always manage to have a really good time on actual dates, rather than having actual sex, you attract more sexual curiosity/attention from guys and you don’t even notice them looking at you.”
Honestly, watching what women go through with men, who have no idea what they’re doing, secondly, I was at that time (20’s) I knew, I hadn’t a clue as to what I was doing or all that much about myself. What I had then were little romances, that was when I was having actual sex, learning my way around another man’s body as he was doing the same. I so very, very rarely had those kind of encounters where I’m putting myself at risk or left feeling cheap or empty or whatever.
Otherwise, if you have to have a one-niter: its just about sharing a kiss or “fooling around”, I’ve been called a prude and an untouchable at times and you know what, I’m REALLY GOOD with that as oppose to the alternatives. I keep saying; when one finally grows-up, and knows ‘who’ he is, its about quality, not mere quantity, its when you know what/who you want and when. Otherwise you’re just wasting yourself, giving it away to a bunch of nobodies.
Some people don’t know what they want because they have no idea who they are, or, they don’t love themselves enough to allow someone to love them. There’s just a plethora of psychological reasons in the end as to why people don not seek love, real and meaningful relationships, none of which are good to be sure.
Im bi and married. Had one friend that was the only guy i played with for years. I was content with that. Then i moved to another part of the country and figured id look for one guy as a replacement. This is like 5 years now ive been trying and it hasn’t worked. Everyone I talk to claims they want “the same thing” but it always ends up being a one time thing and on to the next. As ive always posted (and thought in my head) that im “new with little experience” it finally dawned on me recently that its actually BS. It feels that way because of the randomness of the encounter. I think that i had my regular and a couple other encounters but when you actually add it up. Im successful once or twice a month with hooking up. Over 5 years, its 50+ guys. Was never my intention and i hate it. But still keep trying
I love being a bottom guy and I love sucking dick…. i love going to porno theatres and being used like a slut by random strangers… especially other races than my own,,,I’m white,,, I’ve got several straight bi and married men I service on a regular basis… sometimes I think it would be cool to have one of my very own, but other times I think I’m lucky so many hot guys like using my holes to get off…
Don’t look at the dog, talk to the dog, or ask the dog’s name–you’re not staying. If I am hooking up it’s for the sex. Not for conversation, or a date. I always make that very clear.
Gay, Straight or Bi, MEN ARE DOGS
Agreed!
Males are shit.
Too much of the dick and less of the brain sadly.
Thats the factors as to why one need not be bothered by them
I never stay or have the guy stay when I host, I am not looking for a relationship with anyone just sex.
I recently met a guy from a different website. We met once at a restaurant. The second date I went to where he lives. In the beginning, he did tell me that his 96 year old mother lived with him but when I got to his house, there she was, up front, ready to inspect her son`t date. Not an easy feeling going to a guy`s place and having his mother close by. Secondly, his bedroom smelled like pee, lol. Thirdly, he told me he was a diabetic, but, I shook my head in amazement when he had a Pop Tart for breakfast, and I noticed loads of sweets on the table. What`s with that? Suicidal??? We`re not seeing each other any more. He claims that since I work weekends that we`re not compatible. Moral of the story: expect guys to have issues in their lives and be very careful as to what your expectations are going to be.
There are gay mens who are interested in a serious relationship and do not participate in random sexual encounters, I am sixty-nine and have never gotten myself involve in casual sex, Only been in a couple of committed relationships. When mentioning this to other gay guys the comment is you poor thing. (lol) I miss a lot in life huh? No I don’t feel that I have, I have miss all the rejections, everything else that come alone with, I will call them hook-ups. Now looking for another serious relationship, I find it hard to meet quality guys who are intersted in something that will last.
This is so true and I’m experiencing this now at 40 years old. Trying to find someone for a relationship is hard for everyone only wants NSA’s…..
Reading these comments is a joke. Gay guys trying to pretend to be pure and hold out until the right guy comes alone. But yet, they have a profile on gay hookup sites. in my mid-twenties I was celibate for 5 freaking years, and it got me nowhere. I have been having random sex for the past 20-plus years and I’m okay with it. There’s no attachment, it relieves my stress, and I feel okay after coming and going.
Interesting topic. I think in today’s modern digital culture people believe they have so many options and so much time. You can fuck your way through the entire world aimlessly “looking” for that perfect someone. Little do we know, there is no perfect someone. There is only the person you agree to be with. Also, we don’t have all this TIME that seems endless. You’re 40 before you know it and feeling outdated and overlooked because your contemporaries are all looking to bag someone younger.
We spend so much time on a merry-go-round; trick in–trick out and lose sight of time that we forget to actually settle down with someone meaningful. We never establish roots because I think we are afraid to be vulnerable. Afraid to show any sign of perceived weakness. Instead we are looking for “fun” around every corner.
Don’t look at the dog, don’t talk to the dog, don’t ask the dog’s name. You’re not staying.
I feel just fine with coming and going. After spending the majority of my 20s into my mid-late 30s alone, I gave up the notion of finding someone meaningful to call my own and morphed into an Ice King (Now that I have me together, I’ve finally realised what gay men around me are truly about). So, since gay men are notorious for placing such high, outlandish expectations upon others, but, yet have nothing to show for themselves, to even ask for something better, the only thing I can see them for, is a one-sided extravagance. It’s amazing how porn stars can land themselves a bf, but someone with their ink on more than a birth certificate and REALISTIC STANDARDS about who and what they are, has spent the majority of their lives by themselves. I’ve considered selling out…
Boyfriends are too much like boats; the fun is about 25% of the time if you’re lucky. Otherwise they’re expensive, a lot of work, and not terribly useful except for one thing. I like to take a ride on someone else’s once in awhile and let them do the maintenance.
yea for the most part everyone here is right. I for one, -once I had my first, it was like wow, I didn’t have sex until I was over 21. First time, it was more of myself giving in to someone I didn’t care for, but the beers and wanting to know how it will feel made me an easy target. It took a few years later on, when I met a man who knew what he wanted and made me feel like never before. I was in the military, so I had to leave him, being assign some where else, but wanting more. Once over seas, Germany, it was not hard to find those hot German men doing wonders on me. Back in state site, I met my true mate, in which we shared our love, joy, sadness, anger, and the ability to understand each other, though thick or thin, and raise his to kids together for over 30 yrs. We met in the early 80’s and back then it was hard for us to have the same loving, caring people now a days where they offer help and assistance when needed. After three years from the day he passed, I have met two guys here A4A, one has a partner, but has an open relationship, the other 30 yrs younger who, I still can’t understand why he enjoys my company, so they are my friends w/b. I enjoy there company for the hour or two I send with them, but in the long run, I know I will be left along for a few days or weeks before we see again. So for me the comfort and enjoyment of hooking up for sex is enjoyable, refreshing, and gets me going to stay healthy, work out at the gym, guess if it wasn’t for them I would just sit here, eat my self fat, and watch TV. They are my, (get ur ass out of the house and enjoy life, because someone still thinks you are worth living for.)
It’s not just a gay thing- heterosexuals do it as well
Hello guys, have you not met yourselves? If 99.9% of you aren’t batshit crazy, I’m sure the number is close. First, congratulations for surviving a world where the vast majority of people would rather see you dead than a practicing homosexual. You know there’s pyschological blow back from that. Especially when it’s coming from your own family…..those supposed unconditional love types. If psychological baggage manifested itself physically, it’d take a 53ft moving van to get each of us to the airport. I consider myself fairly mentally balanced though I do dwell too much in the negative. I tell my straight friends how to pick out the hidden gay guy in the group, he’ll be the guy bitching about EVERYTHING! I find it amazing how stoic straight guys are in less than perfect conditions, they put up with an incredible amount of shit before they speak out, mostly because they’ve adapted to put up with the second craziest group of people…..women. The number of times I’ve bedded a guy, found him to be spectacular in bed, clever conversationalist, even wise cracking funny, this spark lights in my brain that I may actually want to see more of this person. I will then invite Mr. Damn-close-enough out for a recharging breakfast only to watch the hope and aspiration curl up and die because the bitch waitress didn’t get his lordship’s breakfast order right. Not a look of disappointment, but a full blown tirade to where I am soon concealing myself under the table to escape the storm. Gay dating, it is to laugh.
Anyone who feels a sense of loneliness after a fuck and go situation should not be in the sex pool. it’s inbred into everybody that sex is a necessity from time to time. It is not an important issue to your committed relationship; but, instead a plus. If it’s just plain, lustful sex you desire, you are just doing what nature intended you to do.
I read all the comments to this question and I think can put them all in a nutshell: Because we fucking hate ourselves and therefore we hate each other.
I met a married man with 3 kids, He came into a gay bar that i was working at. We started talking what seemed for hours, It was a Sunday, so he asked if there was another place to go, I said yes and it is on the next block, After we talked for a few hours, He knew i was gay, So i locked up the bar and we walked a block, we went into the club, 2minutes after we got are drinks he started getting very close to me, He pushed me to the wall and stuck hie mouth all over my neck then he went to my mouth it seemed like are mouths where locked together for 15 Min, and hey, He was a great kisser we danced and made out more. Last call was called there about 75 people trying to get a drink, So we left while we where walking back to our cars where i worked, he started kissing me hard on the mouth , Swapping spit Then he pulled me into his car then we both had our Pants around are feet, we sucked each other off and shot are loads in each others Throat when we where done we sat in the ar about a 1/2 hour just talking from that day om he called me every day wanting to get together in his van, he came into me work every day at 5:15 every day. would wait till i got off work, To make a long story short he left his wife and we got a place together. on the lake front, we put are money together, So we bought it out right cash, we lived there very happy for 15 yrs, He divorced his wife and all 3 of us remained friends, till one night he was drunk started punching me around he had never done this before, I knew he had a mean streak Because the way he would talk to his wife, Well anyway one night we started fighting and he got a knife, Thank god I called the police, when he started getting weird, When the police came they found me in the dining room corner With a butcher knife to my neck. So you will never really know someone till he cracked. He was charged with assault I
I had to drop the charges, Because he would have lost his job, And he has 3 children to take care of so he bought another condo in the building, And i lived in what was our condo, I sold the condo, then we split the money, We put up a page on the common board it was sold in a month.
Please remember your life change in a minute even after a 15 years together. I am in my 50’s and still alone, He is married to someone or maybe not, I have not talked since 2001
If you develop a friendship first, before going to bed, your friend won’t fuck and go because he’s your friend and likes to hang around with you. But, guys often have sex first and think by having sex with him, they will become friends. To be honest with you, it rarely works that way.