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Sexuality : Are You a Slut?

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Are you a slut? Have you ever been asked this question? Have you ever asked a friend this question? What about this: You are a slut. The question mark was removed. Have you ever been told this? Or told someone else this?

But what does being a slut mean? How do you define it? If you indulged in a meaningless sex once or twice does that make you a slut? Or is the word reserved for those who regularly seek out one-night stands? If you’ve experienced threesome or gangbang does that make you one? Does having, say, ten sexual partners make you a slut? Especially when you no longer recall the name of every person you’ve slept with?

I have a friend who is a self-confessed slut. He said he had experienced gangbang and threesome and that he had slept with every guy who had asked him to bed. He told me I might even find sex videos of him online if I could be bothered to search.

Personally, how many sexual partners a person has had or will have is that person’s business, not mine. But I will of course, remind them to be careful and to protect themselves always. For me it’s totally cool as long as they’re not hurting themselves in the process the way my friend had hurt himself.

No, he was not aware of it at first that that was the case but he really was hurting himself by equating sex with self-worth. The more he had sex, the more he felt loved and worthy. Desirable. What he didn’t realize is that the feeling of being loved, of being desirable after each encounter was merely an illusion, chipping away at his self-confidence little by little. But in the end, my friend did understand that sex had nothing to do with self-worth and as a result he learned to love himself more. He also no longer seeks affirmation through sex.

What about you? What do you think of the word? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comment section below.


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  1. Mark

    The definition of a slut is a person with an insatiable desire and often an undiscerning desire to do or have something, i.e a shoe slut for having so many shoes, a book slut for reading 5 books at a time. And of course this would apply to sexual desires. Therefore according to the definition, I can safely say or categorize all gay men as sluts, me included.

  2. Mark

    HELL YES. I’m a slut. Love it also. I’ve never been in a gang bang, but would love to be some day. Want to be totally used by as many men possible. Made to do what they want and desire. I’ve been with a lot of men and hopefully that will not stop.

  3. Father Hennepin

    There are good sluts and bad sluts, minor and major sluts. If you are carelessly having sex with multiple partners, especially gang-bangs, orgies, group sex and random encounters, you are a bad, major slut. A good slut is sharing himself and making other men happy. A bad slut is an ego-tripper who cares nothing for his partners. A good slut appreciates his partners and their interest in him.

    • MAM

      I would classify myself as a good slut according to your definition then. It makes me feel good when I make someone else feel good and/or great. I do wish they would exhibit some loving feelings in return, but that’s rarely the case.

    • Valentino

      I would disagree, I think a “good slut” is one who has sex with multiple partners, participates in gang-bans, orgies, and random encounters. When you’re fucking, you’re not “sharing” yourself, and if you’re not happy to be fucking, you shouldn’t be doing it. I would be happy to participate in any of the activities mentioned above, and I would hope anyone else participating in those activities would be happy to do it. There’s a huge difference between sex and intimacy. Yes, I get it, a shit load of people don’t have the mental capacity to tell the difference.
      I think a “bad” slut would be someone who genuinely wants to participate in all the activities mentioned above but is too afraid to do so.

  4. Matt

    I use to be more sexual than I am now being that I got older. When I was younger my sexual appetite was much higher. I purposely avoided the name slut because to me it illustrates a bad thing and I don’t think mutual sex is bad. I never felt used or any way after multiple sex partners as long as the sex is spaced out…. I felt I made a choice and it was the right choice during my journey. I had some very very good encounters. The 3somes were the best. I do think that people who constantly looking for sex and have two or three different partners in the same day are sluts. I also label guys that eat come from multiple people and let multiple tops breed them are sluts too. Lol. That’s just nasty…

  5. Jay

    I consider a slut/hoe someone that is in a relationship and is constantly looking for other sexual partners and is always cheating on their partner. To me that’s a slut/hoe. If you’re single do whatever you want

  6. Doug

    I once had an amazing hookup with a hot biker that I had met at an adult bookstore. We took it outside the bookstore, to a mostly abandonded strip mall and went at it behind a dumpster around back.

    Was that slutty behavior? YES
    Was it one of the hottest and memorable encounters I have had? YES

    I wear my slut badge with honor.

  7. R

    In the strictest sense, I think of a slut as anyone who wantonly and indiscriminately uses people sexually. A variety of partners, or even a variety of experiments, if done with mutual agreement and some forethought (even if it wasn’t much thought) does not, in my mind, constitute “sluttery “.
    I still recall the old joke, that a whore does it with whoever pays, but a slut does it for free, with anybody but me.
    I really do think the term is used for people who run around more freely than the person who calls them that. I only felt like a slut one time, when I shut off my selectivity and felt used. I really think it’s a matter of quality, not quantity, and of mutual respect, and some self control. Truly, the only actual wild sluttiness I ever saw was from a friend who stayed high on Meth. I really think sluttiness is lack of control. If he knows what he’s doing, with open eyes, a guy isn’t a slut. I just won’t judge him that way.

  8. Goredeck

    Oh yes I am a big slut. I have about a dozen guys I can call upon to fill my hole when the need arises. I love threesomes and group sex when I can swing it.

  9. Kenny

    I agree with Jay…someone who is a true slut is someone who is in a relationship and still trolling around looking for dick. If you’re single you should do whatever you want but partnered and married guys who are always on the prowl are the real sluts

  10. MattK

    I’m happily married to my wife of 30-plus years, but do men on the down-low. I have a pretty intense vetting system to weed out the dangerous players, but I still wind up having hot sex with plenty of men – probably over 200 different guys over the past 30 or so years, but always safe and cautious. So am I a slut? Fuck yeah! I make out, I suck cock, I get blown, I get my face buried up a hot hairy ass, and I drive my 7-incher inside many a hot ass and I’m LOVING IT!

      • Matt

        There is no need to be both judgmental and a bully, but that is what you are bing when you tell someone to leave his wife and degrade him. True tolerance means choosing to be OK with how another person defines himself. It is ignorant to say that just because a man likes sex with other men that he can’t like sex with a woman too.

        • bob

          go Matt go, I have enjoyed many men like you over the years. so many married men out there who are into men, bless their horny hearts. no need to judge here. just glad you guys are into guys. a real slut wants dick, does not matter whether it is gay dick, straight dick or bi dick. a dick’s a dick. so keep fucking Matt you hot stud

  11. jodibi

    yes i consider myself as a slut….i have never ever had unprotected sex and never will…i love to be fucked and suck cock…one weekend i went out of town and advertised on a local site and got fucked 11 times in one day and loved it….so yes i consider myself a slut and am not ashamed of it and plan on doing it again….oh and i am not gay just bi and DEEPLY closeted…

  12. Jockn2cbt

    I don’t know what you guys were doing in your 20’s and 30’s, but I was looking for as many hot handsome and hopefully hung guys as I could. Now the caliber of guy I would go to bed with had to be fairly high and a lot of sex in the 1980’s could be best described as “gay lite” with the fear of AIDS running rampant. I also had a fairly high profile position in my small town and never tried anyone local. I have never had any desire to develop any long term relationship. I’d rather be in some sham straight marriage and father a couple of kids if I had to go thru that kind of hell. So I would go on sex binges in larger cities that typically ran anywhere from four to thirty days trying out any and everything I could find. I seriously never thought I’d live to see 40, but I’m an oral top. What I can’t wrap my mind around are the bottoms running around looking to be “seeded”. I always wore a condom when fucking, threw one poor guy across the shower room at an LA bath the millisecond I felt the rubber brake. Shouldn’t ever have tried putting one on in a steamroom.

  13. Jboro4Fun

    I’m not a slut, I’m just easily orally and anally accessible!!! But really, I prefer mostly anonymous connections and have lots of them so I’d say I meet most people’s def of a slut. Its just fun to have sex, and who doesn’t like to have fun?

  14. Tyler

    I like to think I just have slutty tendencies! Yes, I go out with the main purpose of finding a one night stand. I don’t know the exact number of sexual partners or even there name sometimes. I’ve called another guys name out while having sex. Oops! Multiple guys in 1 day ✔️ Threesomes ✔️ Getting gamgbanged ✔️ Being filmed having sex for everyone to see: PRICELESS

  15. BendoverDr

    Yes, I am a slut. Always on the prowl looking for the next guy to engage with. At the cruisy beach, the adult bookstore, the bathhouse. Even at work. I am always looking for the next cock and ass to play with. The more at the same time the better!

  16. Josh

    I’m a totally proud slut. My viewpoint, is that everyone has sex, and it’s fun. So why hide it? and I plan to keep on sucking dicks until I find that one special man that I wanna be a slut for always. 🙂

  17. John

    I am without a doubt a slut. If I could have sex with different people every day I would. Sometimes I top however most often I want to be used. It’s just my sexual expression; I would never be in an abusive relationship but I enjoy the degrading, submissive role sexually.

  18. BottomBoy

    I’d say I’m a slut. Took 6 loads in my ass last night and loved it. Tasting the cum from my ass was so hot. Love getting my hole loaded up.

  19. JC

    Yes, I’m definitely a slut, I have a bf but I still look for guys to breed me. I always fuck raw and usually swallow the tops load. I still fuck guys I used to fuck when I was single, and recently had a threesome with 2 tops.

  20. Annon

    Hey, I’m a SLUT. self affirmed. I have been diagnosed as a nymphomainack by many doctors. I try not to let it run my life but it clearly does. I think about sex ALL DAY & NIGHT. I have sex on the way into work, at lunch, when I leave work and before I get home everyday. I’m so glad there are two adult stores on my route to help me out. I will explode and not be able to sleep if I don’t have sex. I’ve left my house to hook up at 3 – 4AM knowing I had to be at work at 5. This def consumes me. When I am on the T into Boston, at the mall, walking down the street I access EVERY guy I see and think to myself “would you have sex with him?” I keep a daily count. Going out to lunch in a big city is like a dog in a dog park. Gotta check everyone out. I can not even guess (not even close) the amount of guys I’ve been with. To me, guys are like a drug and I need my next fix. I’ve never ever had any stds whatsoever, get tested more then regularly, chew PrEP like tic-tacs and have a cleaning up ritual I never miss after meeting a guy. I am nothing special to look at by any means. But I know what I’m doing in bed (or gh, booth, alley, park, car, garage, on the T, stairwells etc). Love being with another man. Love every aspect of sex! The crazy thing…when I’m dating a guy, I’m real cool with a monogonamous relationship. I’ve never cheated. My BF have always took care of that. So yeah I’m a nympho slut. It sucks but that’s how my brain is wired. I’ll see you soon.

    • bob

      love your post. nothing like leaving the house in the wee hours when you have to get up in a few hours. a total high. very host post. love it.

  21. Josh

    These articles are usually good, but then I read the comments and my faith in gaykind is challenged. I used to consider myself sexually liberal, though never a slut – I was very supportive of everybody’s desires and kinks etc., but I didn’t sleep around. As I have gotten older my attitude has shifted away from such a sex-positive one, and the authors of these comments mostly seem like HUGE sluts (that word has no positive connotation to me whatsoever). There is no self-respect to be found in being a cumdump. There is no validation at the end of a week of seven different sexual partners. And if you think getting fucked all the time isn’t going to have medical repercussions when you get older – I will have no sympathy when you’re in Depends at 60. Get some fucking self respect.

  22. 55btmguy

    I would say I am a slut even though it’s hard to find guys in my area being such a small town but when I do my main goal is to ensure they go away completely drained and satisfied. I don’t care if they are single or attached and I also am not shy about sucking cock or being fucked in front of others, no surprise if by chance I came across a video or 2 of me being a slut for a few guys and a few gangbangs also. I don’t really care because I am easy and love being a slut

  23. Bottom51

    Okay, I confess, I’m a slut. I have no idea how many guys (or gals) I’ve had sex with. I found out how much I liked being fucked when I was getting a blow job in the restroom of a porn theater. The door opened and I tried to pull away from the first guy, but he held tight onto my waist. The second guy handed me a bottle of poppers and said it’s alright. As I inhaled the poppers, I felt something cold and wet rubbed onto my ass. As I took a second hit on the poppers, I felt his cock slide into me! It was the best feeling ever! He spread my legs out and began pumping away while the first guy kept working from the front. I came so hard I had to stay in the restroom for a while before I could walk back into the theater. One summer job, the owner let me wear shorts at work. I soon found out why. One night as we were closing, he grabbed my ass and said my shorts were too long, and that I had to wear shorter shorts. He pulled my shorts down and bent me over some boxes and fucked me good. The next time we closed up, as soon as the door was locked, he tossed me a half shirt and some really short cutoff denim shorts. I’ve had a thing for short shorts ever since. One of the best experiences I’ve ever had was when I was at a gay bar. I’d been making out pretty heavily with a guy at the bar when he had to leave. I was quite disappointed. Another guy who had been watching came up, grabbed my ass and when I stuck my ass out, he pulled my shorts to the side and fucked me right there at the bar! I didn’t see him come up to me until he grabbed my ass, but he had already pulled his hard cock out and was lubed up. The only thing that wasn’t great was how quickly he came. I think about sex constantly. I don’t have sex to boost my ego, I do it because it feels so good! So, yes I’m a slut!

  24. Maneatern301

    I am a slut and dayuuuum proud of it, My dad always taught me when growing up if your gonna be anything, be the best at it. So fuck yeah and the best slut whore pig or what ever you want to call me

  25. Rick

    I know I am a slut and not ashamed. I have more than 10, less than 20 regulars that keep me well fed. There is no place I would rather be than between a man’s legs worshipping his cock, balls and ass until he feeds me what I crave.

  26. dvgr1254

    I think this is a bad question to ask on a hookup site 🙂 If you are on line here you are looking to hook up that would define slutty behaviour in my book . I would not euate this with the general or larger gay or bi population though. I am a slut but many of the men I hook up with are not. Over the years I have come to know many men who now have my number , mostly married men so I guess I am a good slut or they wpuldn’t calling me LOL I find they are more responsible discrete and more eager in the sack as oppertunities do not come too often for them.

    • Bibottomn301

      Love servicing groups, cruising parks, truck tops, highway bathrooms, department store dressing rooms. I get in where I fit in. love being used by bi couples and in the bi groups. With that said, there is no shame in my game

  27. Jerry

    Yes, I most definitely am a slut. Sucked hundreds of anonymous dicks especially in adult book stores and theaters. Love having others watched. Sucked four or five guys in a theater within an hour, not a record just fun. Been spit roasted several times, a few times by two nine inch dicks, was terrific. Being married hampers my fun. I can’t get enough. Hard to get a place too. You have a place and need to be sucked or need to fuck someone, I can do it and do it well. Just let me know.

  28. Lamar

    I had a very very close friend that was most def a slut, he would have a couple of guys a day. That, was back in the 80’s, he has been ‘gone’-departed for quite some time now. I know, he’s enjoyed himself, but had some serious regrets in the way that he suffered, as a result of such recklessness. People always called me a prude or questioned, “what are you saving it for?” You know something, I’m now going on 57, mostly all my friends are ‘gone’ now, I watched them waste away at such young ages. I liken it to spending your abundance rapidly, rather than a little at a time, there’s just no intelligence, no respect in being a slut, but sluts among other sluts, then who cares, share and share alike, right? I’ve seen guys whom saw my ‘bestie’ in passing each other and didn’t even acknowledge- or seemingly recognize him, after having fucked the shit out of him just a few nights before, I’ve seen this happen a few times! The look on his face, I didn’t have to ask him, how that felt. It just gives me this sick feeling to this day, like taking a plunge-straight downward, free-falling. You guys aren’t even getting paid, man, I guess I just don’t need people-guys or to be sexed w/someone that badly. I’m pretty dog-gone self sufficient, I think its another “gift from the gods” not being that vulnerable to such needs…or addictions, no pun intended, lol… I just wait a for actual love (two times now) and masturbate as needed…

  29. Brian O

    Slut? Moi? Naw, I don’t think of myself as one nor would I want to call myself one. Now on another note; I have had or/and experienced “slut-ish” moments. I’ve been involved in groups ranging from threesomes to about a good maybe 10-15 guys in one setting, hooked up with a different guy on a different night. But slut? Naw. Then again a good amount of the times I actually got with somebody in a sexual manner – it was an actual friend.

    Although a good many people that were friends and even those that knew my friends and would ask them if I was or just plain out thought that I was (because I would have several friends that would let me know what they heard or was asked).

    Wait…. in one way I think most would have considered me a slut. I was pretty much a huge make-out whore. I would make-out with most of my friends (male & female) as if it was second nature to my being. And more often than not, in the clubs/bars you might have found me lip locked with somebody (I lost count so long ago how many times a friend of mine passed by and interrupted my fun time, lol). An even if I did go home with somebody from the clubs/bars, I rarely engaged in anything more than just more lip locking, mutual jerking off and oral and of course some good ole frottage.

    So once again, nope …. I don’t see myself as a slut but I know that others have before. Also I do have friends that are basically the epitome of the word/term and its way more out there than I’ve ever been or even gotten to.

  30. Manny

    I can fuck a few guys in a short period of time. My records so far has been 6 guys in 3hrs with full ejaculation. I am not a slut. i just enjoy getting and fucking clean guys all ages.. Ia m not one of those that says only 22-to 34. I am open to whom ever wants to fuck..

  31. Dylan

    Put me down as a yes!

    I have a condition (and I have it really bad) it’s called Satyriasis (male version of nymphominia). I have sex on my way to work, at lunch, sneak away during work “parts run” and on my way home, after dinner. Been like this since I was 17yo. I love a cock forced down my throat, my tongue and cock forced into a guys ass. There is nothing I don’t believe I haven’t done (no scat or blood). I hang out anywhere I can find cock and ass. Bars, glory holes, parks, hotels, adult video stores, on line (all day, many sites), stopping by my regulars etc. No fear of ever getting caught. I’ve had thousands of guys. And NEVER EVER had ANY std/sti/hiv EVER!!! Get tested very regularly for everything (my docs know my life style). They are amazed I’m actually alive. I can’t stop. Somedays it’s hard. To live like this. It affects everything I do. Needing sex just to function. I’ve lost a lot of friends over this but I enjoy that cock and ass. As much I can get. Hope to meet you guys soon.

  32. bob

    Why are gay men labeled sluts for being active in their sex lives? Sounds to me like a lot of studs here, that’s what they call straight sexual men. If only the world knew how many of them are into guys they would not believe it. So stud on dudes, get all you can, enjoy yourselves, be safe even though that bb is sure hot and sure as fuck feels good. I guess knowing the last name of only one of my several hundred guys qualifies me as a slut . Proud to be one, oink oink!!

  33. MITCHELL

    That’s what that’s called…so yup I’m a big manwhore that likes manwhoring and slitting around. Too many dicks and not enough time.

  34. John

    I am a reckless slut and much as I despise myself I know I can’t stop myself. I have no desire for a relationship. My only goal is to cum with as many men as possible and in as many ways possible. My last encounter was with a fellow versatile bottom. We took turns fucking each other bare. I shot mine while he was inside me. He scooped up my load and fed it to me then while my cock was still hard he lowered himself on my cum oozing cock and within a minute shot his sweet semen all over me which I proceeded to eat.
    My estimation is in my 61 years I have had sex with hundreds of men. Being very versatile has enabled me to enjoy a wide variety of experiences. I keep myself in shape and still occasionally hook up with 30 something men.

  35. Th

    So this is just truth and maybe not looking for judgement at all. I’m barely 60, a massage therapist now 5 years. The sexual adventurism started before the massage thing. Im in a 30 year relationship, now marriage. Pos/undetect. And I have had sex in many ways with countless(?) people. Slut maybe sex addict: again the judgemental deal. And I don’t know what to say after that. I do know that my husband puts up with me even though we have not not had sex for 7 years. My bad. We otherwise have a very good life. I have sucked so many dicks and loved every minute, but I know I have an inimacy issue or I am still looking for what, love? Or unil the juice runs dry.

    • Jay

      I love LMTs. They give awesome handjobs! I finally gave in and let it happen this summer and just cant stop letting it happen. I’ve beeen to 4 different locations and for some reason, they start rubbing there or around there. I’m responsive, lol.

      When I’m not in a relationship, oh yes it’s on. I’m 37 and an average looking black guy. I even have a belly but that seems to just attract twinks and thin guys. I really thought not having a flat stomach would be a doom signal but I think I’ve achieved the approachable look somehow. I’m a rideshare driver too and I often have experiences with the late night crowd. I went to Walmart at 2am last night and saw a memorable experience in the check out line. He didn’t remember me though and granted he was again intoxicated plus other things. I left him with the trying to remember me face. He was fun and I still have his number, Snap, IG, etc.

      • Bob

        Love the massage therapists. I have been with two, one guy once and the other guy many many many times. Love to rim his hot muscle ass. He is one hot guy.

  36. Ben

    Define slut. May experience with most gay men is a slut is anyone who has had more partners than you have, and a prude is anyone who has had fewer. I quit playing that game years ago. No one wins.

  37. Eric

    I have a boyfriend who lives in LA I live in a different city I have my friend that I met here who I get action from!!! I have another boyfriend lol who we are just starting to heat things up with and then all the other dudes that hit me up sooooo……. I consider myself a slut!!!!!


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