Gay Stuff : Do You Cuddle After Sex?
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Are you the type who cuddle and snuggle after sex? Even if you are with a fuck buddy or a one-night stand, I mean. I asked because there’s a general impression that guys aren’t the affectionate and emotional type but I don’t agree with that because I’ve met my own share of guys who are.
On the other hand, as far as other guys are concerned, cuddling is personal. Plus, for some there are unspoken rules about one-night stands: that one isn’t supposed to cuddle too much or not cuddle at all because doing so is overstepping boundaries.
Moreover, others think that when their sex partner cuddled them—well, it gives them the impression that he expects something more serious out of their one night together. Further, some equate cuddling to clinginess and when one is clingy, nothing makes the other party run the other way faster than you can say hey.
But I think that a guy can still cuddle and snuggle and leave the next day without it having to mean something more. Do you agree? Besides, if we can have sex with a stranger, we certainly can cuddle.
So, which one are you? Are you okay with cuddling and snuggling with your one-night stand? For me there’s nothing like cuddling after an amazing sex but others think it must be reserved only for guys who we are in love with. Although of course the other party must want it, too; otherwise it’ll get awkward.
Share with us your thoughts and stories below.
Yeah I love to cuddle. I love the intitimacy as much as the sex. For me it’s hard to separate the two. I mean laying naked together after being fucked (or fucking) another guy is about as intimate as you get right? It doesn’t mean anything more has to come from it. Of course it’s different if it’s just getting off or a blow job in a club or public place or where it’s a hurried satisfaction of a cum and go it’s all different from a nice evening in your bed or his
Hang out next to each other and chat after sex? Yes.
Rub and stroke parts of each other while chatting after sex? Yes.
Lightly massage each other while chatting after sex? Yes.
Generally not a Cum and Run Guy. Not interested in those who are. Spending time with the bud after sex is important that me.
But cuddle? That’s what one does with Teddy Bears or puppies or ther favorite blanket. Far too over toward the sissy end of the spectrum for me.
But as with all things mansex-related, if the players like to “cuddle”, fine. That’s their choice.
Well, cuddling is nice, but I do believe it’s meant for lovers. In my experiences, guys don’t cuddle period. We dont even kiss..
“But I think that a guy can still cuddle and snuggle and leave the next day without it having to mean something more. Do you agree?” Absolutely. Drawing boundaries for different types of situations in this way seems like a lot of effort for very little reason.
That said, some of us, myself included, just don’t like to cuddle.
I get dressed, put my shoes on, slap a pigs ass and say “thanks pig” and leave. No cuddling. I go home to my boyfriend for that. I haven’t hooked up any other way for as long as I’ve been fucking.
Cuddle!!!!!!
No, I don’t ever cuddle after, normally I leave. Maybe because I’m married to female and the bi sex is about sex only. Its hot fun but for me when it’s overit’s over. At least so far.
It comes down to attitude. Some guys barely want body contact, focusing on genitals and ejaculation and selfish or self-aware detachment. The other guy is a prop or stimulus to the meeting of a need to release seed.
Some guys don’t mind contact, below the neck, incidental to sex. But some, like me, enjoy the friendly connection. I won’t get sexual with someone I don’t like. I enjoy the banter, the planning, the easier hints, foreplay with much contact, attentive to breathing, scent, reactions, warmth, comfort, excitement, mutual communication by body language and every means. I don’t rush oral, and I don’t pound anal. Skin contact and kissing just boost arousal, enjoyment, and continuity.
After the orgasm, some guys leap away to clean up, or to rest, or to leave. I prefer to linger, so we can enjoy knowing we’re not embarrassed by what we did or ashamed of who we did it with. I know that some guys get really sensitive in the groin right after ejaculating, but I also know a real orgasm leaves you hot during it, and very cold afterward. Sharing warmth till you warm back up is less abrupt, and it doesn’t leave the partner feeling “rode hard and put up wet”. A little talk about the fun, or other light subjects keeps it friendly but clear it’s not about marriage, but about complicity and comfortable company. It’s about respect of friends, not using and losing. I like to cuddle. Even if we decide the skin contact was enough and skip ejaculating, that’s more satisfying than cumming and then leaping away like he’s poison or you’re ashamed. That destroys all the refreshment he got out of it, and it takes a little of yours too.
I might chat with people at work but never go bowling with them. I can cuddle the guy I had sex with and not have to get engaged. It’s like you warm up and cool down on either side of exercise, for maximum benefit and reduced risk if harm. So, except for the obvious playful, partly dressed quickie, cuddling, even for just a minute, is essential, in my way of thinking.
Well said, “R”. My sentiments exactly.
I love to cuddle and show affection even tho I’m in a relationship. He actually is not very passionate nor that interested in sex. To me it’s all part of the experience.
It’s essential, especially as it can lead to a second orgasm or more. With the right (anal) stimulation, after a few minutes rest, you can get the cycle going again, bottoms up!
I love to cuddle in general. I see many profiles of guys who list cuddling as something they like so I generally am attracted to that. Even though if it’s a one night stand I still cuddle after sex. It’s my way of showing an appreciation to the guy after getting a good pounding ;).
I think cuddling is great before and after sex. Cuddling gets me in the mood for sex, and afterwards it’s like a thank you for the hot time. Cuddling isn’t a commitment, just an acceptance of each other. Hugging, Cuddling, Kissing, Making out is all part of the sexual experience be it with another guy or even a gal. It seems as most guys just want a suck, fuck, blow and go. I guess I’m more of a romantic type, being that cuddling is part of the whole experience. I love being super close to each other, feeling our body’s touch and mesh together. I don’t feel cuddling is a suggestion for a commitment, it’s just part of the whole experience. I love it when a guy cuddles, even if just for the moment. It says I accept you as your are and you accept me. Cuddling, hugging, and making out is something that is missing in most sexual encounters.
I enjoy cuddling, and since my breakup with my boyfriend, I really miss it.
But for hookups? I think it really depends on the guy and the situation. I tried to kinda cuddle with a guy after we had sex, he didn’t resist, but it was clear it made him uncomfortable. So, for hookups, no, I don’t try to cuddle. But if the guy is into it, I’m certainly not opposed to it.
I don’t mind. The one turn off I have is kissing. If I can smell their teeth have not brushed them I won’t kiss him. Sometimes I even just lay there with the dude naked until I’m ready to clean myself.
I most certainly think that this is based on a person to person basis, varing upon the connection. Even if it is a one night stand or a potential partner. Some nights you just wanna blow your load and them leave, it just varies for me personally. However I am usually down to cuddle.
I enjoy cuddling leading up to sex, but not afterwards. Once the sex is over, he leaves or I leave.
Mmmmm…… being spooned, my partner kissing my neck while I kiss his hands & fingers.
I am extreme romantic. I love to cuddle a gut before and after sex. After sex is better and we usually spend the night together. If a man won’t be affectionate with me then WTF.
I have to cuddle. I really don’t care for sex until we’ve enjoyed serious forplay (which has to start with cuddling), and feel cheapened and literally cold if the other person can’t stay around and cuddle for a lil bit at least. . . And don’t give me that “I gotta go” nonsense, cause you surely didn’t have any place to rush off to while we was in the middle of doing the wild thang.
Half of my regular fuck buddies cuddle, the other half don’t. I prefer the ones who do. Even if it’s just a fuck, the intimacy feels great.
I have a couple buds I will cuddle with, but usually after we both got off I want to part ways quickly.
It depends on who im with…. If its the fuck buddy who I have no emotional ties too then cuddling is a no, since there’s no emotions, just animal magnetism. But if its the FB who makes it sensual with kisses, then cuddling yes, especially after intermission. Then its a yes, if I’m in a relationship, where the magnetism and sensual is included..
Heck no. Fuck and get the fuck out!
I love to cuddle after sex. I’m a total top and if my partner is into it, I love cuddling and kissing. I’m also not a relationship seeking guy so it doesn’t have to add meaning to the experience other than two men really enjoyed their time together, which may never be repeated, or, a friend situation may develop out of it. I always discuss this in the banter back and forth as the planning for fun it going on so I know ahead of time, as does my prospective partner, what we both enjoy and how we will go. I’m not one to meet, fuck, cum and run. It is very enjoyable to have several hours together to get the bodies revved up for hot sex. Of course the occasional, quickie does occur.
Oh yeah, just closing our eyes and cuddling is always the best. I hate the rushing out after a great time having sex. After some cuddling maybe some more sex!!
I have had many of guys cuddle when they are inside me ramming their manhood deep in me and they tell me how good it feels and I’m better then their wife is. But after they shoot their seed in me they are done no kiss, no thanks, no cuddle, they are gone. Then a week later they are calling on me again.
I like to cuddle before and during sex. It’s part of foreplay to set the tone. After sex is like after playing sports or working out. Time to unwind and clean up. A shaking of hands before leaving, a simple good bye or a half hug is enough after sex. We must keep in mind that this is an alternative lifestyle and we don’t have to conform to things done in traditional man/ woman session.. That’s the beauty of this.
I do not cuddle at all. I’m just looking for sex only.
Love to cuddle a guy after a hot round of fucking but I know lots of guys don’t especially for a one nighter… which is why I prefer fwb. I find it to be an enhancement to the experience, glowing in our shared sexual satisfaction, showing my appreciation for what we just did, especially (even more so really) if the partner was willing to indulge my aggressive rough/ primal side.
It also tends to lead to another round or two 😀
Affection is very important to me even it it is an ( o so rare hook up.) I still wan to kiss and hold him close and gently scratch his back. Sometimes that leads to a second round of hot sex. I just give affection all the time…
Well some guys like to cuddle and some don’t, myself i do like to cuddle and kissing but lots of the guys I enjoy playing with would never cuddle or kiss but are still fun ,.Give me the choice between 2 identical guys and I would prefer the cuddle, but I like guys for a variety of different things and it’s the guy not the things that interest me
Wow! Cuddle or not says a lot about a guy.
To me, sex is not complete without intimacy. That’s just me and no judgment here.
I don’t want a cock up my ass unless the top is going to enjoy my entire body, taking his time
to explore before and after. Depending on the guy of course, I also like kissing, licking, stroking, gentle touch.
If a man can’t show affection, I’m generally not interested. I’m not a blow up doll. If that’s what a man wants, fine. Have fun!
That being said, I’m not opposed to a blow and go situation with the right hook up but I do prefer a total sexual experience if the chemistry is there.
I’ve had it both ways. Some guys like a nice cuddle after a shag, and other guys just like to get off. I just feel out the situation and go with it. Whatever happens happens. When you think about it, it’s rather funny because given the right situation with the right guy, some end up cuddling and kissing and all the stuff in between. There’s one guy I drift with now and he’s the textbook definition of masc (Gym, beach, gym, fuck, gym). He’d never hug a guy, let alone kiss or cuddle with one. We’re both verse, and to be honest, it started out physical, but we ended up with cuddling and all the other bs added into it. So, it depends on the guy, the situation, and yourself I guess.
My boyfriend and I not only cuddle before sex, but also after as well. Each time we see each other, we spend a some time hugging and kissing, even if were not planning to end up in bed. There is definitely a difference between love and sex, and yes they can go together. But many times there is love but no sex. Other times it’s more for sex, and nothing else. Most of those guys who just want to have sex only want to suck and fuck aren’t interested in cuddling and kissing. Well for me it’s great that my friend and I do both.
When I’am with a guy that I can truly relate to in more then just sex, then cuddling (pillow talk) is cool. That’s when you can get to know a person better, then just the physical act of sex. I have had some very serious and funny conversations laying naked with a Man and in that moment you can get a feel (pun intended) for whom you’re with. Plus it can lead to round two, if you get my drift. A few guys in my past just wanted to just hit the road after having sex, which made me feel like ok I got that errand out of the way. And I have to say that they haven’t been invited back, to each is own, right!
Depends. Did he pay for dinner?