Dating: How to Keep Yourself Safe
There may be something exciting about meeting a stranger online and having that instant spark of lust or attraction that leads to either hot sex or a relationship, but there’s also dangers that come along with that. In this day and age, it’s always better to be safe, and we’ve got some tips that you can follow.
Meet in public, if you decide to meet
If you’re comfortable enough to meet someone in person after you’ve chatted, still be vigilant about your safety. Run through any personal information they’ve given you and see if all of it checks out. Ask for a recent photograph of them if you want, and even ask for ID if you want.
Choose a public place to meet them in, so you always have witnesses if they decide to do something untoward towards you. Make sure that a close friend or family member knows where you’re meeting this person, and make sure your mobile phone is with you. This is so you can call someone if you feel the date is going south, or have someone call you sporadically to check on the situation.
Stand your ground
No means no, and don’t feel bad for saying so. If you don’t want to do something, whether it’s sexual or not, don’t do it and don’t be forced into doing it. If you’re the one being told no, accept that and don’t take it personally.
Make sure transportation is close by
If you’ve got your own car, make sure it’s easy to get to from your meeting place. If you don’t have your own transportation, make sure your meeting places is near bus or train stations. And if you feel like you’re being followed, make sure that the route you’re taking home isn’t one you usually take.
Stay sober when you first meet up
If you’re drunk or high when you first meet up, it’s going to make it so much easier for somebody to take advantage of you. Keep an eye on your drink.
These are just some tips on what to do if you’re meeting someone in public. If you visit our Safety Tips page, we’ve got advice you can follow when talking to someone online, if you’re going to their home, or when you’ve decided to take them back to your home.
Let’s make sure that all of us play safe out there! If you wanna share your personal tips with other users, feel free to write them below in the comment section.
I always ask to meet in public. The one time I did meet a guy at a room I checked every closet and the bathroom to make sure no one else was there. I also insist on using kik to exchange face pics, as the app allows you to take a picture and you know whether it’s a real live photo taken right then or just a saved picture and potentially a catfish situation.
Avoid any guy looking for Mr. Right Now. And don’t be a guy looking for him. Keep your penis in your pants long enough to chat with a guy several times over as many days. You’ll learn what he’s looking for and he’ll learn what you are as well. You’ll also find out where his story waffles giving you a better chance to weed out any guy who’s not sane, not safe and doesn’t understand hygiene.
At one time I used to be more trusting, but that was a number of years ago. I used to cruise the parks, go into the woods, get off with other guys there for the same thing. But today things are so much different and it really spoils the fun. First, most areas that used to have discrete bathrooms are now replaced with those stinky portables. Also cops love to patrol the parks, etc where guys hang out. So that’s something I do very little of any more. Also so many robberies, theft of cars, shootings, etc, makes it very scary. Yes, best to meet in a public place, but where?? Very few good places left.
Many adult adult bookstore/arcades have closed down do to local laws and pressures. So things have gone online, which is great, but there is still a lot of risk. Guys hide behind fake profiles, and most can’t host. Mainly because many cruisers are married and have to be very discreet. I am one of them. No body wants to give out their real name, address, etc, but upon occasion someone does. When a guy does, I check him out. Usually typing in a google search for name, or address, phone number etc. will give you the info you need to make a decision. Also of the few adult arcades and theaters that are left, they are a great place to meet up. So are hotels, so if you go into a room and don’t feel comfortable with a guy, leave!. Talk a bit to him in the hallway first, before going into his room to get it on. Usually you can tell if he’s ok, safe and serious just by a first chat and impression. Same goes for meeting in adult arcades and theaters. I met a very nice man in an arcade booth. I was in there jerking, and he came in as I left the door unlocked. We talked a little and I could tell he was there for action and fun. He gave me his phone number so we could meet up again. We had fun, did the usual stuff, and by his actions I could tell he was a trustworthy guy. I called him and asked if he would like to meet up again. Sure!. Got his address checked him out and picked him up as he doesn’t have a car. Generally I wouldn’t do that, that is give a guy a ride to an adult theater/arcade. But things turned out great. We went into the theater and had a great hot time together. I since then I have met him several more times, found out he lives alone and he is the nicest man. I treated him to lunch afterwords, and still have a great relationship with him. We plan on meeting weekends regular, and both of us look forward to it. We text and call back and forth, talking about our family’s, jobs and problems in our lives. One unique thing about our situation is that he is a black man and I am white. The issue of race has never come up in our conversations, and doesn’t have to. It may be a unlikely way to make a friend (being in an adult arcade, but occasionally one can make friends and hookups in the most unlikely places. We agreed to have an open friendship, and I would trust him with anything of mine.