Gay Stuff : Fetishes, Bathhouses and More…
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Since starting my contributions to the blog site, my primary goal was to engage the Adam4Adam Blog readers on some things that my friends and I debate frequently. You may or may not know – I work for Gamma Entertainment, the company that brings over 40 of the hottest gay sites to your desktop or mobile. My primary job is to actively promote our portfolio of sites, but I also want to engage users in order to gauge what piques your interests. Sometimes I am successful, other times – not so much. Today I am hoping to sincerely engage you guys in topics you’ve wanted to see here, all while highlighting some spicy scenes! Besides, after a healthy debate – some of us need release and what better ways than to watch hot guys get it on?
So what is on the menu today? Read on you lovely men, read on…
Fetish – This is something I have always had a hard time wrapping my head around. The world of porn has taught me that guys can be into pretty much anything. The extremes that guys will go to for sexual gratification, whether alone or with another (or many) sexual partners, is amazing. I’ve said it in the past; I am vanilla when it comes to my sexual proclivities. I still find it fascinating – but to partake in anything extreme is completely out for me. Just doesn’t do it. In August, I wrote a post about Fisting which had a lot of people talking – it got me thinking, just what kind of crazy fetishes are out there? And by crazy I am talking about something super whacky. Look up on your favorite search engine this: pedal-pumping, revving, and cranking (all the same). Trust me, it will leave you scratching your head in wonderment. In any case, is there a fetish you wish to share with me? Something you’ve tried or are curious about?
Cheating vs. Open Relationships – This is a sensitive subject for most gays. Including me; I have been the victim of a lover who cheated, and I have also attempted the open relationship thing. Neither left me feeling all warm and fuzzy. A new trend I have been seeing lately is the “thrupple”. I must be getting old, or I am completely out of touch with my demographic. If you’re in a monogamous relationship – ground rules should always apply. Communicate it to your partner before you go out and make a grave mistake, like f*cking that hot guy one drunken night out. Why is it that we succumb to temptation when things aren’t working out in a relationship? Why can’t we just do the other person a favor and end it before you cross that line and let another man into your bed? As for open relationships – you tell me? The lines are blurred. When is it considered cheating? When is it not? My first and last attempt at an open relationship was a disaster. My partner left me for the guy he was playing with on the side. Then he left that guy for the new guy, I concluded my ex is f*cked in the head and it had nothing to do with me, but seriously – how successful are these relationships? Are you in an open relationship? How about a thrupple? What are your ground rules? I’ve heard things like one’s partner being allowed to have sex with anybody unless their dick was bigger! How do you go about screening for that?
Saunas/Bathhouses – The sexual revolution of the 1970s, many gay men were exploiting their new found sexual freedoms. Meeting up for casual sex in the saunas with friends in tote was as normal as meeting them at a local pub for a drink. When AIDS/HIV reared its ugly head, a stigma was placed on the bathhouse. It became this seedy place reserved only for the undesirables. Why? How is cruising for sex in a bar any different than cruising for sex in a place designed specifically for said purpose? Look – the idea of going to a sauna for sex can be sexually appealing for a lot of guys. Seeing that hot DILF in the shower, soaping up … or would you rather, that drunken fool on the dance floor who you may have to cook breakfast for the next morning? What are your thoughts on these facilities? Are they antiquated in the digital age? Or do they still serve a purpose? I know some guys would rather sit at home and watch porn and jerk off and can’t be bothered with the “scene”. I wanna know, are you into it or not?
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Whats wrong with a Bath House or a Sex club. You can see if the guy is what you are looking for. Talk about it ask questions. Decide what you would like to do with the man.
A bar is blind and full of bullshit.
Who needs another drunk or druggie.
Besides it is not who you do that gets you dead. It is what you do.
Besides that. I like the view of a bunch of naked guys who all want almost the same thing.
It fuels the male desire.
Thanks
A lot of those drunks and druggies and hustlers leave the night club and head str8 to the bathhouses. You mentioned that “You can see if the guy is what you are looking for. Talk about it ask questions. Decide what you would like to do with the man.” How is that different from the bar? Another point: “Besides it is not who you do that gets you dead. It is what you do.”
Are you suggesting that AIDS and other STDs isn’t contracted by who you do, but what you do?
A lot of those drunks and druggies and hustlers leave the night club and head str8 to the bathhouses. You mentioned that “You can see if the guy is what you are looking for. Talk about it ask questions. Decide what you would like to do with the man.” How is that different from the bar? Another point: “Besides it is not who you do that gets you dead. It is what you do.”
Are you suggesting that AIDS and other STDs isn’t contracted by who you do, but what you do?
What’s wrong?
FEEDBACK: I was on here 5 years ago, it was simplistic, but good — you could have friendly chat and find what you were looking for, there were a few ads to boot.
UPDATE: You did a major upgrade about two years ago, it was not well executed, and it was obvious through the response and feedback wasn’t appreciated. Little changed, I was less invested in this site.
NOW: the rampant commercialism is out of control, I paid for a full month and something was wrong, I still saw ads, and still got hit up constantly with products in my mail — my messages deleted in the regular ten days (supposed to be 30 days), but the ads did not. NO ONE responded to my three requests to rectify the situation. Accidentally, the subscription renewed three months later, so I sent a terse letter, and got a rude response — still the ads, so a second complaint and my money was readjusted to my credit card — NO RESPONSE. It’s a business, correct?!? Why can’t I ask about my service that I PAID for? Why is anyone there too busy to reply? Not to worry there’s been plenty of other sites worthy of my money, but these were serious and NOT rhetorical questions. If I ran my business the way this site did I would be surprised if I were still in business in a year — I get that you DONT HAVE TO WORRY BECAUSE PLENTY OF GUYS ARE HOPPING ON TO GET OFF DAILY, but I’m saying if you are really interested in what your users want, there are ways to give it to them. I realize product placement generates revenue, I’m saying simpler is better, and treat your CUSTOMERS with respect, I still use this as a mail server, but it’s been more than a year since you’ve earned my money or respect. I now from friends on here that it is similar for them, I keeping hoping you might care enough to actually fix this.
I think I can help you with the annoying ads. Step 1, If you use Google Chrome, Firefox, or Opera, there is a really good ad blocker called Adblock(it’s free). Adblock also works well for preventing popups. Another advice I can give you is to check your computer for viruses. One of the early signs of viruses is annoying ads. One last thing to consider, If you are using Microsoft Explorer(blue E), you should change browsers right away. That browser is well known for getting hacked. Please note, if using Adblock, all the ads will not block automatically..You will need to adjust it accordingly to suit.
That’s kind of a non-reply, Ryan. The poster paid for a service he didn’t get and your reply is to use software to circumvent the adverts. He *paid* to directly support this site and didn’t get what was promised in return.
I do not go to bath houses. I find it to be very disgusting! As for the comment about meeting druggies at bars, you can meet druggies anywhere. lets be real. men going to bathhouses having sex all over the place with whomever, moving from one man to the next, seriously!! Not for me. That is asking for trouble.
The Tubs = HIV dispensary
Fetishes = sign of autism
Gay marriage = sham….over 90% of ’em cheat or just use it as a legal convenience
I think you need to do some study on HIV my friend, you can’t get it from tubs, HIV must be contained inside the human body to survive.
Troll often, do you?
gamma is the one probably sending viruses into our computers. and no one cares about your b.s. sex
As a bi married discrete guy I find the boathouse a great way to meet other men like myself.
I love, love, love bath houses. No place else has the quantity of stiff cock like a bath house. If one guy is a clueless top your night isn’t over. Move on and find six others. On one occasion I was thoroughly assfucked five times and sucked on 12 cocks. You cant do that at a bar, park, or highway rest stop. At a bath house you can walk around naked, jack off openly, stare at all the stiff cocks, and experience an incredibly hot orgy. Love the bath house gloryholes too. I hope they never close bath houses
Damn that sounds so fucking hot..
Cheating vs. Open relationships …
Most guys aren’t monogamous. It’s just not the way men are wired. Some are, but the majority are not. You’d think gay men would be the first to understand this and would know that monogamy, while possible, is unlikely.
So what do so many of them do? Play the victim card. “Oh there’s just no one guy that’s going to want to settle down with me for life.” they cry. I guess the whole gay stereotype of being the sad, helpless victim trumps recognizing reality for what it is. They keep trolling the waters and getting the same results.
I have several guys in my life. And I’m thankful for that, in a big way. They’re guys I’ve gotten to know over the years, guys I connect with on multiple different levels, a couple of them more deeply than others. When schedules permit, we a couple/few of us will play together. We even “cheer” when some of them could get together when we could not be there. A couple of us would like to find Mr. One and Only, but they admit the chances a few for that to happen. In the mean time, they too are open to having a few good men in their lives, guys who it’s great to play with as well as to be friends with.
So maybe it’s time more gay guys take on a herd or tribe mentality. Build relationships with several guys. Be part of a team instead of expecting the world to be all about them. Go with the flow of how men are wired. For certain, since all guys are different, this will not work for some guys. For me and my “tribe”, it has worked well for several years.
This is becoming the norm now. More and more guys are creating ‘groups ‘or ‘tribes’ , to where if their schedule permits would allow them to play together discreetly and safe from time to time. It works and it works well.
You are correct. Masters and Johnson found that men regardless of sexual orientation are not sexually monogamous, though they can be emotionally monogamous. That is, a man can dearly love his partner and have sex with others without seeing it as cheating. My wife knows I fuck men–hell she’s been known to fuck a woman or two–and we have an amazingly strong marriage because we know that sexual expression dies when it is forced into shackles of monogamy forced on people by Puritanical beliefs.
I agree with Matt. I like having sex with other guys from time to time it has nothing to do with my feelings for my partner who I live dearly. Maybe it’s just an excuse that I tell myself to make it ok but I think it makes me apreiacate him more and our sex life better. I have never met a better lover than him but sometimes you just want wild sex with someone you don’t know, just the excitement of seeing someone naked that your not familiar with is fun. It’s been my experience that the sex is usually not all that good so it makes me appreciate him all the more.
I love the bath houses in chicago,its such a romantic time going from one bath house to the other….
I’m a very modest, Conservative gay. This kind of perversion, (fisting, leather, bathhouses, ect.), was the main reason I feared being gay growing up. I am repulsed by such things, yet they were made to seem as not only “normal”, but as part of every gay man’s life.
This made for an extreme challenge in my self acceptance. How could I be gay, if THIS was what being gay was?! There really needs to be more good gay role models for our youth. Not all of us go to bathhouses and swing from slings. Some of us spend our free time reading books, baking cookies, going for walks and cuddling with our pets. We’re not all, “pigs, otters, bears”, ect. SOME of us AREN’T ANIMALS AT ALL!
I think you’re quite right .
I used to work with someone who used to travel to the big east coast cities regularly just to get the bathhouse experience. He died in the mid 80’s from Aids
My only foray into the ‘pick up scene’ was going to a few discos and mixed bars with zero success and that all ended in the mid 80’s
Since then I’ve been one of those gay homies who does regular guy things like you say . Cook , sure ! Help the elderly , look after neighbor’s pets too . Keep an eye on the parents as they get older . And a few ‘butch things’ thrown in to the mix as well like restore bikes , cars and boats , love gardening too .
Where are all these regular ol’ guys hiding , I can’t be the only one ?
The gays who bake cookies, read and cuddle our pets are all we’ve heard about for years as the marriage equality fight went on. You are vastly over represented at this point, and it’s gotten obnoxious even to fellow readers, cookie bakers and pet cuddlers like me. As for the youth, there probably hasn’t been a generation more sexually repressed since the 50s, so I’d disagree strongly that these are the traits of a good role model.
Timothy, you are part of the massive number of gay guys who don’t the stereotype pushed upon the world and the media by militant “the holders of the gay brand”. Not all gay guys are loud. Not all flamboyant. Not all love female diva music. Not all are enthralled with the latest fashion trends out of Europe. As I became aware of my sexuality, I was much like you.
These “other gays” have made lives quietly in society for years. I contend that while some guys helped foster gay acceptance by marching half naked in parades, these “other gays” also turned heads. They’re the one many straights looked at and said “he’s a great guy. He’s gay? So what.”
You may not be loud, but continue to be proud about who you are. Look for guys like yourself. That’s the road I took. It took several years but I now have a number of good men in my life, none of whom fit the stereotypical mold.
Congratulations of being part of the gay human spectrum. You aren’t required to be anyone other than yourself and hopefully respond by extending that sentiment to others.
Being gay is part of what led me to reject the conformity-required nature of social and political conservatism; it was later that I rejected the conformity requirements of certain parts of gay society. Leather is fun until you get involved with “serious” leather-persons for whom protocols and rules (and adherence thereto) are more important than the humans who are involved, for example… the same applies to the drag scene but curiously there don’t seem to be gay social expectations for gay accountants.
Being oneself requires a great deal of groundedness however that may manifest. You’re a strong person, Timothy. Just remember that what works for you is not, of necessity, what works for anyone else.
Some of us are Boring.
Well said Timothy. Hunter andhotassf4cocks you are the stereotype others perceive us all to be and give gay men a bad name. I am vanilla, I am monogamous. That doesn’t mean I am selfish. It means I have morals and pride in who I am. I do not need to sleep with someone different every night and suck many dick at once or 10 dicks in my ass a night- And we wonder why HIV is spread so fast- I also do not take the med they refer to as prep so I can have unprotected sex. I use it for extra protection as it is meant to be..Clean up men !!!! I am tired of being judged by people like you, slutty,Nasty!!! I do not have fetihes either other an I have likes suh as nice feet,nice men, clean men, monogamous men, hairy legs…….It is not ok o go around thinking so what if I get Hiv, so what if I give it to others- it is disgusting!!!
I’m a bi married guy. I’ll go to the bathhouses when I’m traveling for work. I don’t do anything more than a handjob and making out there. More often than not, I just shower while guys watch and then watch some other guys having fun then leave and jack off in my hotel room. I’m as careful as you can be to keep the diseases so many guys have from spreading more. I say try them and stick to your limits.
Diddo ICANTSEEYOU! 100% agree.
Timothy….some of us drive luxury, pricey cars, and some others drive practical, simple cars, yet others choose a bicycle, public transportation, and even walking. We all have the same goal…. we need to get from Point A to Point B. However, we have choices how to get around.
So much like your reply, you personally prefer “free time reading books, baking cookies, going for walks and cuddling with our pets.” And as you so beautifully state, “We’re not all, “pigs, otters, bears”, etc. SOME of us AREN’T ANIMALS AT ALL!”
Agreed! Yet some folks are otters, others are pigs, and some drive pricey, luxury cars, and some people rely on public transportation, and some guys swing from slings. There is no “one-size-fits-all.” I think you know that….and I hope you realize not every gay guy is all of the above.
Yet at the same time, guys who are more “out there” tend to get the attention from media, selfies, and the general public. I don’t wear leather (I dress conservatively) so I’m not a good candidate for a photographer. Yet I am a lover of bathhouses — does this make me less desirable? Or less human than your ideals? Does going to a bathhouse put me into a category of I only drive small, hybrid cars, or I rely on public transportation, or I am an otter or bear? No!
One size does not fit all ! Neither do jeans, neither do foods. Us gay folks ask for diversity, yet when given the diverse roll, we (us gays) seem to be so critical of one another. Send love, send acceptance, and accommodation. I may not like to bake cookies, yet celebrate that you DO like to bake cookies!
I gotta say, I like and respect and feel the same way Timothy does. I just couldn’t do bath houses and I went to one once; with a friend of mine, long gone now, and you know how and why. I have a very healthy libido, even at 56, but, everyone that you would ‘sexually encounter’ isn’t someone you’re gonna like, in the long run; just another passing ship. When I do (rarely) go for the quick sex, it’s always, a type of masturbating each other, cuddling, kissing; very intimate. I’m scared to death of HIV/AIDS, but its not only that, just want some depth-character; something they have of their Spirit/Soul that no one else is/possess. The going out in the woods or bath house, movies house thing, just didn’t seem organic enough. It seems just like those old gay movies, that made those of us who saw them; seem more like demons to ourselves, than loving humans, just wanting to touch/love and be loved. I felt ssooo ashamed, to be gay, that’s not me, I thought, so very strongly. Fetishes, are fine, just what do you fetishize, and how far you take it, COULD be a problem, bad for you, dangerous in fact, I can’t stand these names and labels of the leather world, though. I am, for the most part, monogamous, conservative, sexually, aside from my very own foot-fetish. Which btw, has been one of the most common and oldest ever known, and most common with hetero men and some women as well.
Just my 2 cents here with the whole bath house topic. While I do believe in personal freedom of choice, it’s not my call. I mean, not only would I have to pay a membership fee, be naked in front of many men, possibly not getting laid (no matter how gl you might be), but I would have to be extra careful with protection, condom use, etc The guys might not be bad itself, but the place has a reputation, and many have that ‘anything goes’ mentality including bb sex. Of course that also happens with most of the guys here too on these sites, but for some reason those clubs allows that attitude more? who knows. I mean risks can happen anywhere at any given time.
To be honest, with sites like these, I have gotten some action, planned things way in advance, checking our status and no, I didn’t need to go to a swingers club, bath house and whatever else is out there to get ‘laid’. And no, I do have an everyday life with work, friends, etc. It’s not always about hooking up lol
Who wants the social stigma of being seen in a bath house. At least in the steam or sauna, you can pretend that youre just there to relax, and you find mutual attraction you do from there, without having a demeaning label attached to you.
I miss the bathhouse. Wish the one in Honolulu did not close but the owner was an idiot.
Bathhouses, you can clearly see what you’re getting into or what might get into you. Unlike bars and clubs, alot of guys are searching for Mister Right who happens to be an asshole when in a bathhouse you are looking for right now and you can clearly see if the guy is a drunk or druggie or whatever they maybe. Its easier to judge on who you want to be with. And you make some awesome friends there too.
Granted there are men with attitude and they can go whack off cuz thats what they end up doing when they are watching me get fucked in the sling. And yes there are the old men but they are at the bars too. But to each his own. I rather meet naked guys at the baths than meeting guys at a bar.
Just give it a try. Once, at least. Avoid using words like “disgusting” or seem judgemental. There is a difference between the guys or the bathhouse being “disgusting” and the disgusting feeling you may experience in respect to the issue. Live! Process your feelings, don’t project.
First post ever on here, let’s see how it goes. Great topic. I personally like it all. Love baking cookies, cuddling with dog, mowing the yard, boating, flying, sports cars, pickups, camping, symphony, you name it, oh and some great sex 1 on 1 or 1 on many. I try to respect who I am with and where I am and expect similar. In other words, I like all life has to offer, after all we only live once. I try to judge as little as possible, but have as much fun as possible. Maybe some day I meat my mate, he meats me and it works. Otherwise just enjoy and have a great time.
too bad ones in new Orleans closed had tons of good (safe) fun and loved watching others get into the action too
After PreP and divorce, bathhouses became my second home. I would go into he steam room, bend over and get 10 or 15 loads pumped inside my hole. I would hold all that semen inside my hole, then look for the felcher to suck the loads out of me. Every month I would get my STD tests and then after the week reprieve and a clean bill, back for more semen.
I’ve never been to a bathhouse, but really want to check one out.. I’m bi married bottom love a hot hookup or two.. I’m sure I’d be a good Cumdump LOL . I love getting tag teamed. Just imagine crowd watching a couple guys sharing me, especially if they were hung black guys.. so hot just thinking about it !
Why cant we all be unique and wonderful, like were supposed to be? Who the hell said you were this or that? If you dont like it, dont accept it and move the fuck on. I know thats easier for some, but look at our gay community, its so divided, we have our young and pretty who judge everyone, then we have muscle men, judgeing peoples bodies, the older men who get judged by everyone unfortunately, etc, bur then we all come together once a year for a pride parade? WTF? PRIDE IN WHAT? OUR LOATHING IN EACH OTHER? There is no pride our community, if there was maybe we would of gotten our rights long ago.
i need a love
i was told before going to a bathhouse with a friend that guys that go are either looking or looked at bypassing getting to know a guy is he really interested ( breaking the ice). and most go for he same thing, nakedness and yes sex. my first visit with my friend i kept a towel around my waist as most guy did there. covering my arousal. so many men all ages color sizes . My friend didn’t wear a towel around his waist showing off extra thick 9 inch uncut cock.
he had me kneel and suck his cock in a dark public area. getting watched the first time my attention toward my towel was gone and my cock pointing upward. losing tracted of my towel we walk around as though my friend was showing me off, gripping my bare as we walk by a private room door wide open so all could see the two have sex. the top floor was open air. a guy came up my friend, asked he could suck me. he kneeled in front then asked me. I’m not sure this guy wanted my load in his mouth. i’ll tell you he was very experienced and less then 2 minute i ejaculated with a mouth full of my cum he kissed my friend. we found a semi private spot upstair in the sun.’ facing a wall he pressed me up against a wall and penetrated my hole and stopped just before he unloaded. my hole relaxed and now open glistened from his precum, we did have a few watchers.
beore we left we stopped in the steam rooom where my friend had me over a counter and pounded me so fast and deep in less then five min my hole was fill, I noticed a line of guy stroking i was about to get gang banged’ i have no clue how many came inside but i do know the last two guys jacked off on my face. shower right across from the steam room i walked for the shower face dripping hole dripping with a full hard on
ive been back but wasnt as good as the first, i always leave the towel priade around butt naked,
Ok Ryan..i would suggest that AIDS is not transmitted by who you do, but by what you do. I would think most of us have had sex with an HIV+ person and May not even know it. I know I have..and I am still negative. It depends on what you do and how you do it.
I personally agree with BOOTSWITHWINGS and those of you who are pro-bathhouses, but I think what’s missing and what hasn’t been said (or maybe it has as I have not read every comment) is that bath houses are one of the few remaining places to go and cruise safely and without persecution, or fear of being arrested or targeted by law enforcement and undercover police. Times have changed and have changed swiftly. Cruising in public places, like parks, rest stops, even some bookstores and bookstores with arcades have gotten dangerous, management and law enforcement are really cracking down on cruising, and undercover police and plain clothed cops are out in droves, not to mention that there are cameras everywhere now. So, other than bars, the one remaining physical place to go is the bath house. And, some of them are closing down. A popular chain in London was forced to shut down a couple of its bath houses.
The bath house scene has a culture to it, and like most things, it’s not for everyone. But a person still has to take care of himself and be aware, or cautious in a bath house just like anywhere else …. that’s no different. Just because there’s a certain “freedom” to being in a bath house, doesn’t mean a person has to be reckless, unaware or foolish. Most bath houses supply condoms for free, one can buy lube, and some bh’s offer free HIV testing. They offer these things to help the consumer make better decisions on “how” they want to play. And as far as drugs go, the ones that I have been to have a no drugs tolerance policy. If the person is clearly intoxicated, high, whatever, they won’t let that person in. But like any policy, it’s not foolproof, I’m certain different ones have gotten past management on some occasions. In the end it really boils down to personal taste and choice, but I personally believe they are the safer choice …. while they last.
I agree with you on all of that. from my experience the bath houses that I have went to all have a no drugs or alcohol policy as well as a safe sex only policy. and they have people that they pay to go around looking like a customer and ask people if they party and have any. or try to get you to have sex without a condom. and if you say that you have drugs or say it’s cool if they don’t use a condom they ban you and put your picture up so the people who work there can toss you out if you try to come back.
the people who think they are having sex with “clean” people are the ones at risk because they are more likely to have unprotected sex because they have a false belief that it is ones morals that causes disease. I can have unprotected sex with 1,000 homeless people and that doesn’t mean I will get a disease. and I can have unprotected sex with a person who only had sex one time but caught something and now I have it too.
it boils down to no matter how safe or how reckless you are you will either catch something or you won’t.
so we can just be smart take precautions and hope for the best. but that still doesn’t make you totally safe. the only safe sex is no sex. and who the heck want’s that much safety. life is about risk.
Back in the mid to late seventies, I was introduced to the bathhouse by a new friend who managed an adult bookstore, where the glory-hole booths in the back mimicked a bathhouse on a smaller scale. You went in the front door in a building that looked like a speakeasy, with a single door and a bare bulb over it for light. You paid your fee and were given a sheet and towel, and a locker key. Then you proceeded to find an empty room where you would strip and don said towel as your only covering. Then you just strolled the corridors while checking out the other towel-clad patrons. It was a lot easier than cruising a bar in that you knew immediately what most packages looked like from the bulge or lack thereof. If there was doubt a quick grope under the towel confirmed its hidden contents. You also got a good look at the whole body of each prospect. I am on the smaller side down there and so the guys looking for big ones, would grope and move on. This was a downer for me, so in an effort to stave off rejections, I just threw the towel over my shoulder and walked about totally exposed. This did greatly enhance my experience by immediately weeding out the size queens.
Back then there was a large amount of unprotected sex in these places. My friend and I used to sometimes have contests to see who could be with the most guys in one night. It would not be uncommon for either of us to be with thirty. The orgy room allowed for multiple partners at once. I once had five at one time, a dick in each hand, one in my ass, one in my mouth and a mouth on my dick. The AIDS scare changed all that. Many guys quit going to bathhouses at all and more began to use protection. It was an incredible experience to go to a place where you could see and trick with so many naked guys who were all there for the same purpose – sex. It was not a place for building relationships, but it was great at relieving any pent up frustrations. It was way easier than trying to read what some guy may or may not want in a club or a bar. Everyone at the bathhouse knew what the others wanted. It was just a matter of matching up to someone with whom both parties mutually “clicked”.
Never been to a bath house but would like to experience it some time but at 57 (even though pretty fit) I don’t think I would get much action. Living in a small town area it’s hard to find cock so I will admit I get desperate for cock and why I want to try a bath house
looking at all these replies and comments. I noticed one major thing. YOU ARE ALL SLAVES TO YOUR EGO’S!!!!!
all the reasons most of you give for why you don’t do certain things is out of either fear or some other person will have a negative opinion about you. which that is also fear.
your ego and mine doesn’t like when people see the real us and not the person we think we are or try to be.
and when we let our ego control how we make decisions we live a fake happy life.
while the people who don’t care what others think about them are living normal happy healthy lives, free from the burdens of “if I get seen at a bath house I will have to live with that stigma”
that’s the lie that your ego tells you. who the hell is going to see you at a bath house? the other people at the bath house is who will see you. and since they go there too they aren’t going to give you a label other than there’s that guy that likes the stuff I like.
it’s not like there is a giant sign on them that say’s GAY BATH HOUSE 24 hour SEX PARADISE FOR MEN WHO LIKE DICKS AND MAN ASS!!!
and if the off chance someone that knows you and knows what the place is and see’s you go in or out but they never go there. all they are going to do is go “hey I think I know that guy. I wonder if he will let me fuck him.” and two minutes later forget the whole thing.
none of us are as important as we think we are. and nobody that we know sit’s around all day discussing our actions like we think they do. how often do you sit with your friends and spend the day talking about things you learned about the mail man? you never have and probably unless he kills someone you never will.
also why should you give even a small percentage of one fuck what people think of you?
if I think you are a billionaire can you suddenly go to the ATM or bank and get huge sums of cash? so if I think you are a sleezy douche who cares it changes nothing.
now to the people who are afraid of a disease that is actually pretty hard to get. you should be far more scared of hepatitis then HIV.
but the thing is not one of us get’s out of here alive.
you can have safe sex with a single partner and get hit by a car on the way home from learning you have terminal cancer.
if you are afraid of death you are already dead.
everyone want’s to go to heaven but none of you are willing to die to get there.
the point is it’s not my business or concern what you are doing or not doing. that’s Gods job to watch you not mine. and so what if your actions may kill other people. they will only kill the ones who were supposed to die.
so bake dicks and suck cookies or cuddle with your pets after you have sex with them just as long as it doesn’t intentionally create a victim it’s perfectly fine.
nobody regardless of what they perceive as being the proper and good morals is any better or any worse than anyone else.
we are all equally worthless.
you can disagree with me but you are wrong. and it doesn’t matter. the moon isn’t going to fall out of the sky if you are wrong or right. the only thing that cares is our ego. and you and I need to kill our ego’s. mine is damn near dead but just keeps hanging there by a thread.
if any of this offended you then you are welcome cause you must have needed to be offended. now watch out cause the moon is falling from you being offended. just kidding it’s not cause nobody cares if you are offended not even God.
if you don’t believe me ask him. and yes he is a white guy. just because he came from Africa or the middle east doesn’t mean he isn’t a white guy. and it makes perfect sense that the friends he has all had European names even though they also came from an area where nobody would name you Mathew, Mark, Larry, Curley or Moe..