Speak Out : Your Opinion On Leaked Sex Videos?
You may or may not have seen a Youtube video circulating on various social media sites lately — that of a 24-year-old Singaporean gay man named Lokies Khan talking about what it feels like to have a video of him having sex circulating online.
In the video uploaded to the Youtube channel Dear Straight People, Khan doesn’t say anything about who uploaded the video online, but he does talk about how the Singaporean gay community reacted to it — namely calling him a “disgrace” and a “slut”.
Khan has been known to post shirtless pictures of him on Instagram, and the release of the sex video has inevitably made some people think that Khan should not be making quite a big deal out of this.
“The main reason why it affected me so much was because this was not something I wanted people to see,” he says. “Things that I post on Instagram are things that are within my control, things that I want people to see, I’m comfortable with people to look at.”
From there, he rails against the “backstabbing,” “slandering,” “gossiping,” “shaming” and “judgement” that he’s received, and says that he finds it hard to “trust someone in the community”. He calls the invasion of his — and other people’s — privacy a problem and an issue that people think is “okay”, when “it’s not”. He calls the invasion “potentially lethal” and something that “could destroy someone’s life”.
That could possibly happen in a country like Singapore, whose Penal Code contains Section 377A, which makes it illegal for two men to have sex with one another and could possibly result in two years in jail. The Economist notes that between 2007 and 2013, nine people have been convicted under Section 377A. The country’s Supreme Court even upheld the constitutionality of this same-sex ban in 2014.
But in a supposedly much more Western country like the United States, for example, does the same “backstabbing,” “slandering,” “gossiping,” “shaming” and “judgement” happen to gay men who may find their sex videos circulating on the world wide web? Has anyone else had this happen to them? How did you cope and how do you stand on sex videos in particular? Tell us what you think in the comments section below!
happens all the time,you’d be surprised how many “sex tapes” are on these tube sites.
this isnt the DR. PHIL show who cares, hes OLD enough to know better geez, LOL
We live in a day and age where there are tons of sex videos leaked to the public due to smartphones. It’s nothing for some guys to (in the middle of having sex) whip their phone out, and start taping. Maybe the partner goes along with it because they don’t want to spoil the mood, maybe they this it’s a turn on, and they don’t care, or maybe it’s with someone that they love and trust, and don’t think that it’s going to be fodder for us on Pornhub.com.
The bottom line is this….unless you’re name is Micah Brandt, Dorian Ferro, Colby Jansen, Draven Torres, (insert your favorite porn actor here), or unless you give consent to releasing said sex tape, when you are hiding a camera to tape someone WITHOUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE OR CONSENT, you, dear sir, are a *&^%ing creep.
Well Lokus Kohan, I can understand your embarrassment living in your country, and sex being a crime between 2 men, but I do believe you have learned a valuable lesson. Never let anyone make a video or take personal pictures of yourself you do not want publicly seen. There are always creepy people out there, you may or may not know, at the time, that will eventually put your image out there. They believing you did them wrong in some way so they believe you deserve being ridiculed and possibly jailed for this embarrassing moment in time. Unfortunately in today’s world you can not give anybody the power to hurt you so publicly. I hope you are not jailed for this indiscretion buddy.
If you dont want a sex video to leak, then DONT MAKE ONE!! IF YOU MAKE A SEX TAPE THEN U DESERVE TO HAVE IT LEAKED. How can you make a sex video and NOT expect it to leak out?? Idiot celebrities do it all the time, then get mad when it leaks. Duh! What did they expect?
First of all I wouldn’t let anyone near me with a camera or cam-corder or whatever. When I am in a bedroom with my clothes off with a guy – I’m not there as a wanna be porn star! I think photographing yourself or allowing someone else to photograph you during intimacy is disgusting. Whatever the Lokies Khan is feeling – he has no one to blame but himself for the humiliation he is now experiencing. I also feel that anyone who video tapes another person having sex with that person’s knowledge and then publicizes it should be prosecuted by the law and locked up for a long time
Gay or straight, making sex tapes is not smart. Putting yourself in a situation where one could be made without you knowing also not smart. Releasing one without the approval of those on it is unacceptable.
In this day I didn’t even know sex tapes were scandalous. My advice is…don’t record yourself having sex, case closed
All things said, not everyone wants or expect to have their seemingly private moments out there for public consumption without their consent. It’s simple as that. Host if you can, be careful if you travel.
That is the risk you take when you post anything online or even have it on your smartphone and it gets in the wrong hands…. that’s the way of the world today young man…. you shoulda known better. Don’t you see that on televised shows people would just record it from the tv screen and post it ?You shoulda known better. Sorry.
Many people take nude photos and have them stolen from one site and used on another…I was a victim of this by a French guy but then I had to let it go since it was a circus to get Adam to take it down.
Good luck and hope this dies down Mr.Khan… 🙂
Real Talk:
This community is straight up TRIFFILIN’. We are so quick to condemn others within the community until it happens to us. Just know it’s ILLEGAL and generally, most states prohibit the secret video recording of people in locations such as bedrooms, locker rooms, bathrooms or anywhere where a person might expect to find some privacy. Just know, you can get prosecuted. No one expects their private videos whether they consented or not, to be publicly posted without their permission. How sleazy can we get but scream equality and acceptance? SMDH…
If know you are being filmed having sex then you run the risk it will be put out there for all to see, so In this case you shouldn’t complain if this is what happens.
what I don’t think is fair is if you are being filmed secretly without your knowledge and without your consent then you should be able to sue the person who made it public for all to see.
Poor guy. I worry for his safety living amongst so many intolerant people. We still have so many bigots here in US & in our own backdoor but still not that bad, compared to many assbackward Islamic countries like mine or so many 3rd world nations and many of you have no clue how well you have it here in spite of the bigots!
“Legsinair1 on 28 July, 2016 at 05:24
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If you dont want a sex video to leak, then DONT MAKE ONE!! IF YOU MAKE A SEX TAPE THEN U DESERVE TO HAVE IT LEAKED. How can you make a sex video and NOT expect it to leak out?? Idiot celebrities do it all the time, then get mad when it leaks. Duh! What did they expect?”
It’s the celebrities who leak them!!! & then wanna try to blame somebody else for it. I’m REAL SURE you just “happened” to have those nude selfies on your phone that got posted. WHY ARE THEY ON YOUR PHONE???
i have many sex tapes of me and my partners they always know in advance if and when the cam is on, and have played on cam live with a cpl of them, they dont seem to mind and neither do i . i have even posted 1 vid on pornhub. enjoy life and make the best of it
When I was sexually active, I would have NEVER agreed to be filmed while having sex. However, in many cases the person does NOT know that he is being filmed. In fact, I do “know” a bisexual man who has been secretly filming men for years at his place while he is fucking them raw. How do I know? Well, this bisexual man told a second person that he knew for years about it and he even let that second person watch a number of his tapes which included men taking off their work uniforms before getting fucked. That second person then told me about it because that second person just does not keep any secrets, even his.
Why did that bisexual man felt so relaxed to tell that second person about it? Well, that second person was also filming guys at his place during hookups or group sex and told that bisexual man about it! That second person even brought me some tapes thinking that I had a VHS-to-DVD converter to transfer them onto DVD’s and that is how I found out that second person was filming men unbeknownst to them (that was about 11 years ago)!
So ALWAYS keep in mind that you might be secretly filmed when you go to someone’s place for a hookup or even as a sexual follow-up to a date.
There is no excuse for posting something without the permission of everyone involved. One guy might have been out and unconcerned his whole life, but the other could lose friends, job, freedom, or even life itself. If the playmate posts it, it’s inexcusable, because the private person typically tells his privacy concerns. The outsider who posts it, to humiliate the person, deserves any punishment he gets. Even if someone takes pictures for himself, that doesn’t entitle anyone to post them. I know plenty of straight pipe people troll the web hoping to find something scandalous about someone they know. Gay people face enough without being set up by the carelessness, mischief, or spite of fellow gay people. It used to anger me when Act Up would out people who were trying to help from the closet, and it would actually bring more anti gay backlash. I remember one guy who used to out people, got blackballed and couldn’t get a sex partner anymore. I can’t think of anything lower than publicly humiliating someone. The people blaming the victim need to have it happen to them.