Speak Out : Hooking Up With Pure Strangers…
(photo : Raging Stallion)
I have a hard time to meet a stranger and fuck with him as soon as we meet. I used to be able to do that when I was a horny young chicken, but at 33 years old, I need more than sex in my hookups. I was in NYC last week and I have to admit that meeting hot guys is easy. So many gays in this city! My RADAR app was gonna explode….
I talked with an handsome man who invited me over. I told him I would rather know him a little bit and spend time with him before we fuck and he totally understood. We went for coffee and walked on the high line for few hours then got to his place and had awesome sex. I feel like when you “know” the person a bit, you can share more intimacy. I also feel like when you kiss and look at each other, it is more real… I don’t know if you get what I mean? Maybe I’m crazy and in need of affection and love lol!
Let me know if you too like to spend time with your hookup/date before having actual sex.
Dave
Heartwarming to see old-fashioned romance is aive and well
I totally agree with you Dave. I have a better chance at remembering the guy I played with if I know him a bit before getting intimate with the guy. Some, sorry to say, could care less of who you are, much less your name.
I tend to agree and the short getting to know period gives time for the sexual tension to build and if one or the other is not attracted – time to back out before feeling awkward.
Sometimes a fuck hole is just really hot. Jus’ sayin’
I agree Wholeheartedly random Fucking is so yesterday. I was never one to whore around with every Tom, Dick or Harry anyway. I like intimacy and familiarity in my sexual dealing.
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I would love a fuck and suck buddy that was steady but hard to find
I do love seeing a huge cock and knowing it will be down my throat. Sometudes it’s just great to get a fix…
I actually like to get naked real quick .If I am at my place or hosting , I will be ready when my friend arrives and require very little chit chat . If I am invited over , I will take my cloths off very soon after I arrive . Small talk makes me nervous , I feel more comfortable naked , but that is just me .
Nope. The less i know about the guy, the hotter the sex. The more I get to know about the person, the less sexually interested I am. I wish I was a different. Hard to keep a boyfriend with the way im wired. But it is what it is. I’ve had some crazy hot guys in my time but no matter what, I always get bored sexually when i start to learn all their nuances.
I prefer to spend some time but it’s not a requirement. Sometimes i just want to buss with someone else and that’s all. I’ve recently gotten into videos of bathroom play and public jo. I’ve met up with a couple of guys for some fun. I guess the anonymity is kind of a turn on. Don’t get wrong tho i can’t and don’t fuck just anyone but i will lend a hand or mouth long as they are doing the same lol. Anyone in tally wants to meet for public play lemme know.
Fuck first and see if dinner would be a waste of time.
But if that’s not for you, don’t do it.
I totally get it and agree with what you said. I’m the same way at least it was my approach to meeting guys in general. Getting to know a guy first, makes me feel more comfortable shall it get to a situation where he and I are ready to become intimate. What can I say, I being wooed b4 jumping on some random guys bones. Lol
I would totally buy you coffee before plowing your hole 🙂
CoffeeDate: ahahahah 😛
I usually chat with them on line and explain what I’m looking for before we meet. This way we both know what our limitations are.
I have met with guys for coffee before going to his or my place.
I agree that I need a little feel for a guy first. I like a sense of what he’s like, and how he reacts to what I’m like. The truth is, a few factors play into it. First is trust. Part of me holds back, if I know nothing about him. Next is interest. If we see more common ground with knowing more, that makes it more likely we’ll find more interest in the bedroom. Next is desire. If he and I are both investing the effort, there’s energy in the air. I’m more likely to enjoy something I have to put effort into, especially if it looks better the more I explore it. Believe it. It’s either a screening if you find out you don’t click (which saves a lot of aggravation) or it’s actually foreplay if you realize you want each other. First the look, then the talk, then the seduction, then the private time. Making out, teasing, then the deliberately orgiastic. It’s good sense. You don’t order a new dish at a new place without asking what’s in it. Sometimes hearing that nakes you order something else. Sometimes you like what you hear, anticipate it, and really enjoy it when it arrives. It’s the same thing. I want satisfying sex, not a frustrating fumbled quickie. So I agree with Dave. I don’t need to know his whole life, since we’re not getting married, but I need enough to know there’s fun ahead or not. It’s just good sense.
Yeah guys that just hook up are ho’s, by definintion.
Most of the guys here are ho’s.
Love to meet up with straight his who wives won’t blow then and get them off. .feel them explode in my mouth and swallow unlike their wives
Very hot and many return customers!
You don’t “know” someone from grabbing a coffee and spending an hour with then before getting naked. To each his own, do what makes you happy but let’s me be ridiculous here.
Dee : That is why I wrote “know” like this….
I hope you don’t consider 33 old!!!!!
BushBilly: no I’m not old, but I’m not 18 anymore 😉
By the way, I love the pic you used with this blog. Nice change.
I am the same age, and feel the same way. It is better.
However, I am still comfortable with stranger sex. I feel I know who I want to get to know, and who I just want to have sex with..
🙂
Hilarious premise.
I totally understand I like to get to know someone before jumping right into sex I like to go on a date first then have awesome sex
Agree, Dave!!
Random sexy as no meaning for me….
I have to know the person and be connected mentally before taking the clothes off….
I am new to this and never been with guys yet but would like to “know” the guy on here for the time I am ready…..
My profile name is cur-bttm
I am the exact same way. I love sex but just cannot connect with a perfect stranger. It’s flattering when all the 18 to 20 somethings want to hookup. Once I meet someone out for coffee or anything really, sometimes you get a firey spark that leads to hot sex and sometimes you just leave with nothing. The trust you can get is very important.
I’m scared of pure strangers and I agree about instant hook ups. I need someone whose into me and I him. To me sex without feelings is empty sex to me and I can have more fun jacking off and using my memories. For those who like it I won’t judge them… let them have their fun.
No!.. nothing wrong with you dude! It’s kewl to want know the dude you snagged yourself little. It’s kewl to look at him and wonder if this is the guy you’ve dreamed about. And if there will be more where that came from with him.
I love meeting random top(s) for sex without getting to know them.
I totally get where you’re coming from. Now that I’m older (41), I actually need to connect with a guy before I decide to get naked. Some guys expect me to stop by and fuck them into next week. I’m just not wired that way ( anymore). I need to sit down, converse a bit, to see if there’s any attraction or chemistry to build off of.
Lol I laughed I’m sorry to say. “I would like to get to know you a little before having sex”. Coffee…then sex hahaha. I don’t know why that struck me as funny. I guess I feel like if you want to get to know someone you spend significant time with them. I mean, what great mysteries did you learn about this guy from an hour of coffee? It would have been better to just go ahead and bang him without wasting time and money on coffee.
I think I’m just too honest with people. If the end game is sex then why bother with dinner or coffee? But if you want to get to know me then we sit down and get to know each other. And then we can determine whether or not we should have sex.
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Chat first, MEET second, probably go out for a beer/drink or lunch, THEN get physical if things are right. I’m an adherent to the “back to the bars” movement…you get to voir dire your dates before hitting the sheets. My online hookup-for-sex experiences have ranged from bad to horrific, so yes, I have to meet them FIRST. I got over the cruising for quick sex thing in my late 20s, and it’s a damned good thing I did. Those who still kept doing that mostly all died. After all, as Judy once sang, “I’m old-fashioned….”
I always want some discussion first. Usually meet for coffee or a beer someplace public as well first. Often over a few days or weeks. Not big on surprises, especially when it comes to kissing, sucking, ass play, nipple play, reciprocity, dominate/submissive, etc. If you’re big on the Thrill of the Unknown, fine. But don’t go bitching that the Mr Right Now you chose to jump on the workbench with turned out to be Mr Nightmare and a Half.
Well you went for a walk and chit chat with the dude before fucking . so what happened after you guys done fucking? Nothing ..you left empty handed. That was a glorified hook up. No different than any other lest meet fuck bye ones
Nope don’t need to know you as a matter of fact if you start talking I will probably lose interest, being a bottom and liking masculine tops is a turn on, usually once they start talking I can hear way too much femininity coming out there mouth. So shut up, fuck me then get out quickly don’t want you hanging around because if you start voguing I will feel like I have been misled and raped.
I feel that it’s weird to get to know someone because what if it’s a one time thing. A4a is all about sex. When I do try to spend time I often found myself getting a little attached or they did . I guess I’m not at that age yet.
I’d have sex on yhe first encountern but not without a pic. And not without knowing a little detail. Have a cup of coffee or a light snack to offer me. I am company, after all. If you come to my crib, I’m gonna offer libations. I expect that kind of coutosy no matter what we do after.
I like the idea that the less i know the better. If it’s just sex i want, I don’t need to know a whole lot about you. As you as you look appetizing and we’re into compatible roles it’s all good. On the other hand if your looking for more than just sex, then i need to get to know you.
I agree that getting to know a guy before we have sex is a good thing and it has happend to me. Most guys just want to go straight to sucking or fucking. I have ones tell me let’s wait and then once we are alone they are ripping my clothes off and ready for action. I too wish more men would kiss and be affectionate. I have also found that if the guy wants to hang around and chat after the sex that is a good sign that I will continue to see them again.
I met a guy at Starbucks.Had a coffee,after which we went around the block to an alley and with a touch of spit he proceeded to fuck the hell out of me. I’m in love.
jc: lol
For myself, (from what i can recall)
I tend to need a hit of a warmup. Getting to know
someone a bit is a form of foreplay for me.
When i was younger i was more likely to not
require as much to get going and to play with
a guy.
Now at 145 years old, it’s pretty much mandatory
for me to talk to and get to know a guy before we
do the dirty deed.
The irony, once I’ve gotten off,
I have little to no desire to continue on with
getting to know him. Unless of course we truly
have sparked sexually.
So far, that has yet to happen.
Still, if someone is sexy enough, a random (safe)
hookup would not he turned down or scoffed at from
myself.
Damn…now i want to fuck!!
Fuck first talk later. So many single guys looking for love on A4A are so fatally flawed, if I knew them first I never would have let them fuck me!
I’m older than 33 and still have no problem with stranger sex. I find getting to know someone (or not knowing them at all) never guarantees great sex. I’ve spent a day or two getting to know someone and still had bad sex. Then the worse part is you have someone who “thinks they know you” and it’s hard to just say later that it was only sex and move on. But to be perfectly honest, anyone who thinks they “know someone” even a little bit after a few hours is a fool. If it’s a stranger and the sex is bad you haven’t really put yourself in a place to never meet them again. The one thing I can’t stand with stranger sex, or even someone I’ve known a few hours is the kissing part. I can get into sucking and fucking with people I don’t really know, but when a “booty call” starts to kiss me I get turned off. If I want tenderness and love, I’d be looking for a relationship not just sex!
I think love is important. I can’t have sex with someone and not think of them as a human being with feelings like me. If I never see them again I want the best for them. If I meet someone now or 20 or 30 yrs ago they are gonna have to sit down and have a conversation maybe watch TV together. Most gay men do not want to do that. You are not gonna just jump on me cause your butt might end up in the emergency room. I have to say gay men back in the 70s wanted to go on a real date. Dinner and a movie. Didn’t have to end in sex. We didn’t have cell phones and the internet. Has ruined everything. If you wanted to meet a guy you had to put yourself in your car and went out to meet them. You know face to face if anyone even knows what that is. It was so much better. Now with cell phones, the internet, twitter and Facebook everything is ruined. I’m 58 yrs old and I just two weeks ago joined twitter and facebook. It is the worst thing that ever was. I am totally regretting it. I have never in my life seen so many completely self obsorbed , mean, nasty people in my life. I said well I’ll try. So I have been following brent corrigan, real name Sean Paul lockhart. He needs serious help I mean lIke right now. He’s really a pathetic person but at the same he knows exactly what he’s doing. Pitiful. He’ll find out. We’ll anyway my fellow family members, young, middle age or ma ture I’ll finish for now. Just remember the older you get the more lonely and more love you need. Time waits for no man even gay men. Aging is a certain in an uncertain world.
I love hooking up with total strangers, I just want to get laid. no names necessary just your hot cock and cum in me and I’m a happy man.
Fun. Usually. Unless they turn out to be a second cousin who never went to family reunions, wedding or funerals. But the sex was still great!
Totally agree!!!
If I’m unable to have a conversation with someone, why would I want him in my pants? I’m with you Dave
You guys crack me up. A “few hours” (translation: 45 minutes at most) of coffee is “getting to know someone”? Is “romantic”? Hint: sipping a latte doesn’t make it any less a hookup, and if you’re feeling “love and affection” during a hookup because it was preceded by coffee, that’s a little crazy.
I like to have some sort of a connection. Doesn’t mean I need a ring but I have to at least like you beyond sexual attraction. However, I seem to be in the minority with the guys that hit on me who are usually younger. I’ve also noticed a lot of guys online looking to cuddle with complete strangers. I find that funny. Cuddling is a thing I don’t really associate with strangers.
Being from a small, closed minded town where being outed could hurt me in countless ways, I hook up with guys when I visit someplace else. Do I like being a closet case living a lie? Absolutely not. But I’m stuck in the situation for at least a few more years and I have to make the best of it. Hooking up with strangers is kind of my defense mechanism – if im 50 miles away and we don’t know each other, then the chances that you can blab something and ruin my life are pretty slim. Im a nice guy, and if you want to go out for coffee or a drink first, or go for a walk, or go to a movie, thats cool. But in the end, I absolutely agree with @Jose Antonio: it’s still a hook up, I’ll still be doing the walk of shame afterward, and in all honesty I’ll probably never see you again.
@Chris had another really good point.. Sometimes you dont want to chitchat, because it could mean finding out things you don’t like about them.. I hooked up with a guy one time that failed to disclose during his pre-meeting chat that he does drag and CD (would’ve ended the deal right there), but mentioned it while we were “getting to know” each other after we met – and then proceeded to show me his wigs and pics of him in drag. He was very lispy and swishy, and that just isn’t the kind of guy im into. He wasnt bad looking but those new thoughts really just killed it for me and I couldnt even stay hard to fuck him. Best I could say is he gave an awesome blowjob but even then I had to think of someone else.
I agree with the blogger and with some of the profiles, like Chris. I have always needed some sort of connection and a date beforehand is always nice and great. Though, I have not changed from when I was younger, it was the same then. Unlike some in the replies, I do no think having a date, coffee or just talking is really getting to know someone – but it established a sort of connection I like. You can tell with speaking with someone for a bit, if they seem like a nice guy or an ass or on drugs or the like (or like the one post above into drag and CD – no interest here – though it has nothing to do with being lispy or swishy as stated with that one person – even the most butch guy who is into drag would turn me off). I am in no way stating that you would know the person, but you get a feeling about that guy or make some sort of connection and if he is a dick, ass or on drugs, then I will say, “Good night” and not hookup with him, even if he is hot. Certain things are a turn off while others are a turn on and you can tell if they possess more of one or the other in speaking with them for a bit.
I feel the same way. Instant sex is fun but when I kinda know a guy the sex is better and the intimacy is better.
I’m old, life is short, get down to business, so I can move on to the next round. No time for talk, I’m here to fuck.
At the end of the day it is still fucking and moving on to the next guy. Chit chat is mundane and honeslty I dont really give a crap to getting to know the guy. Most guys end up turning me off when they go on about their lives. Dont give a shit. Just shut up and fuck
I completely agree, if it someone that i could see myself going somewhere in life. Or if they’re just really cool and would make a great friend. But it isn’t necessary…. Just say what it is you want from the start, to avoid any confusion. I hook up with this hot guy from work from time to time. 6’5 230lb solid toned hairy bear type…. beatiful blue eyes! I’m madly in love with him! Being that he isn’t clear on what he wants i don’t want to push him away, but i don’t want to seem uninterested. I want this to be so much more than a hookup, but if thats all he wants I’m ok with that as well. It would just be nice to know.
Perhaps I’m just a slut, but…..I tend to meet them at the door totally naked. Get it all out in the open from the get go, and if they don’t like what they see – they can turn around and leave. It’s really not a problem! So far……no one’s left, and many have come back for 2nds and 3rds, and so on. When I was younger, I wanted the dream man – but, I found that he doesn’t exist (or is already with someone else)so….once you take “love” out of the equation – you’re just left with sex and (if you’re lucky)intimacy. I dislike the ones who pull their pants on the moment after they’ve gotten off. But the one’s stay for conversation and a relaxed after sex cuddle – are extremely appreciated. Makes the experience feel worthwhile and not just a need that once satiated is history. NEXT!
i like getting to know somebody at times it does help break the ice. especially after we have had sex hehehe. i do like random sex most times, because of my busy schedule it is hard to find the time to get to know someone before we have sex or we blow each other.
The less I know about someone the better. At age 56, what’s the point?
Really? After being with someone for an hour, do you really believe you know him? People are great actors and liars. It takes me hours, days & months to get to know someone. You better think!
It all depends on the situation, some guys it is nice to meet hang out and get to know them, even if you do or don’t have sex later. Other guys you want to walk right in and get busy. One of my longest relationships started from an a4a hookup that was definitely not about getting to know each other at all.
It’s part of being human. I am 28 years old and I love sitting down with a hook up and talking, laughing and enjoying his company before doing anything sexual. for me, intimacy is a big part of sex. I met a guy on here a few days ago and we hit it off. The conversation, as well as the wine, was flowing and it was fun! After the fantastic sex, we showered together and hooked up again. When he hugged me at his doorstep, he whispered in my ear “hope to see you soon.”
I am closeted and unless I am outed always will be. All you judgemental guys can call it what you want; your comments are as random as my hookups. I’ve secretly loved cock all my life but only since the Internet have I been able to indulge in my true desires. Prior to that I relied on adult book store encounters; even now I can’t pass up stopping in one for totally anonymous sex. I have been with all ages, sizes and scenes. I could be with 1 guy but I am looking for my twin and he isn’t out there. I admittedly am not happy however I truly live for those moments when I have a hard cock in my mouth or ass or I am eating a sweet asshole.
I so agree. Makes it so much better. Special.
Okay how pure are we talking. I see these ads that say my hole is open ass in the air blindfolded door unlocked cum fuck me. Basically an open cattle call for any body and probable a guy looking to get HIV if he doesn’t already have it. I mean those freaky. I did that once years ago in my youth the guy was pretty hot didn’t seem like he would have trouble finding sex yet he did this I went in and there was a line I took my turn and left. After thinking about it I got freaked out and went thru 6 months of worry and test that thank god came back negative. Now days we have Truvada but then all we had was prayer and hope. Now that being said I don’t mind the causal hook-up and I’m probably a little more promiscuous now that I’m in PreP. I have hooked up with guys for years and still to this day don’t know their names. I have met guys for a one night fling and know enough about them to write an autobiography. If I meet a guy and we have been leading up to sex I like to get there I short order. I’m not gone get there and then say lets go have coffee and a bagel if it is just going to be a hook up then let it be that. If the sex is amazing then you can numbers and become Facebook buddies. But if the sex was lousy you can drop him like a bad habit. I learned my lesson took a guys virginity and next thing I new he though I was his bae 30 txt a day planning out life and get this he wanted us to never see each other we would always and forever meet in dark rooms and never see each other ever. Well when the iPhone got update with block feature he was first to get blocked.
Since we are talking about HOOK UPS, my idea of a perfect hook up goes something like this. “Hey, (sound of a zipper) I’m Dylan, nice to meet you, very long pause…….., thanks (insert name here). Hit me up if you want to do that again!”
JC – I work in Boston. In the bottom of my building there is a Starbucks and we have an alley. Sooooo fucking HOT!!!
I do agree to get to know each other a bit more b4 having sex
It is nice to get to know someone a little before jumping into the sack but there are times when just meeting and blowing them or bending over for them (condoms of course) is also hot, And be sides the guys I normally meet from this site (few and far between) they say they want a regular thing but after getting what they want , never to be heard from again so I take what I can get
I recognize that my need to feel emotionally connected to a total stranger is completely false intimacy. A fantasy, basically, but there it is. What gets me off while having sex, even with a total stranger, is the idea (the fantasy) that we will be together forever and have sex just like we’re having now–every day for the rest of our lives. And then I shoot. So, totally false, yes, but more than once, that total stranger has ended up being a boyfriend, and once a long-term partner. And even those who haven’t, I still usually think fondly of, and am happy that we took a go at it.
I don’t see the point in hooking up and then looking for intimacy with that hookup. Get into a relationship if you want all of that. It’s a waste of time and effort. If we are going to fuck then let’s not waste each others’ time and get to it, especially if it’s a one time thing. You guys are just a piece of dick and or ass when it comes to hooking up, and if it’s that good fellas, then that session would be easy to remember.
I like the article a lot. I usually get to know a guy before hooking up. That way it feels like I have a connection with him and it’s more real. Meaningless sex is great sometimes but it depends on my mood and if I feel like talking or not. Especially if it’s a strong sexual attraction I want to jump his bones and skip the intro and just get to bending over for him.
This is a major problem for me. I am on a4a and I am one if the few big black dick Brooklyn guy who get so many requests for dick4now. At 40 year of age. I need intimacy and connection on some level. My big dick wants more then easy ass. My ass wants more then a quick dick.
As a gay monk. I often hear the other side of the story when 40-50-60 year olds pour their hearts out. Lonely…and sometimes afraid of the future they see that becomes more and more evident with each passing day.
They were so into sex, they forgot how to emotionally connect outside of it. Nothing sadder than a 40-50 year old still chasing guys in their early 20’s. Basically they are still into the sex…that feels like love…and isn’t. They now want a fairy tale relationship with young dudes who are still into just sex and who sometimes want just a brief rest from the chases.
Lots of tears there, dudes, and they use my robe to wipe them away. Sometimes, I wear my robes to a gay bar…sometimes I don’t. Get overwhelmed by their pain when they approach me. Lots of smiles covering up a flood of tears waiting to break through. When they open up, the dam breaks.
All isn’t as it appears to be in the world of fun and games.
Dear Byzmonk,
I am going to be 60 next year. When I look at a younger buff fellow, its just a bit frustrating but nothing more. Iit not at all as pathetic as you portray. I’ve had some mind blowing times years ago; let the young folk have theirs too.
That’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it.
As I said, as a monk, I often hear the other side of the story accompanied by a lot of tears. Yours is another side. Some can deal with where you are at and even prefer it….some can’t.
Most have had mind blowing times, including myself. My first gay experience was at age 17 followed by 15 years of party time. My own favorite years began about age 32.
Memories before that time are pretty elusive and shallow. Memories after that time are rich and fulfilling. I wouldn’t give them up for anything.
Every today makes our tomorrow. Just depends on where you consciously choose to go. No choice is the wrong one if you end up with what you want. It’s only when people end up with what they don’t want that there is a problem.
I know what you mean. I have had so many hook ups that have turned into nothing more than a cum dump for the Top that I’m beginning to lose interest in NSA sex altogether. I would like a little bit more spark/heat in the sex I’m having. Most of the Tops that I’m meeting don’t seem to know how to do that. They just want to bust their nut in my ass and move on.
Age needn’t be a hindrance when you can connect on a deeper level with people. I’m 76…and this poverty-stricken old monk got a marriage proposal last night by someone I’ve known for awhile who is in their 50’s. We’ve never been to bed.
I go to another dude’s house once a week for dinner and movies. It’s called dating. We’ve never been to bed either. Just hold hands and cuddle at this point.
Learn to form deep relationships in your younger years…and it carries over into your older ones.
The last words my previous partner of 32 years said to me before he died were: “Thanks for loving me so intensely for so many years…ditto”. Shortly after that, his heart gave way. We dated for several months before we hit the sack.
I can get excitement from Disney World, etc. It doesn’t compare to what I get in a loving relationship. I suppose it depends on what a person wants from life
When a young good looking and hung (8-plus inches or bigger) guy wants to fuck me, well, I feel gratitude and never turn down the opportunity. Occasionally, not often, a hard stud wants to fuck an older middle-aged guy like me – mostly college students from the university – and I will always comply with their desires. However, my experience from spending lots of time with young adult college aged males is that they only want to flirt with their professor. Sure, I flirt back but if they want to “give me some” all they need to do is ask. But, most just want to flirt and be on their way! That’s good with me too.
Man, I love your post and feel the same. I refuse to allow a guy to drop to his knees to blow me or bend over and try to force me to give him a ‘hard pounding’ as soon as we meetup. I also prefer to making love and not just fucking. If you have chatted beforehand, that’s somewhat different. Some guys DO NOT have standards and seem to behave out of desparation…glad to hear that you are NOT in that category. My best sex has been with both gay and ‘straight’ guys who I share time and conversation with, and in a short time it leads to sex. Don’t allow others to influence your belief and actions. Thanks for sharing–you are not strange and there are others who feel as you do.
many good points and opinions here, for me it’s mostly about a hook up. Lets get naked n have fun. if you stick around for a beer and conversation and the sex was hot and we want to do it again i’m good with that. I’ve had 3 LTR that lasted 1-2 yrs. That all started as a quick hook up meanwhile. During time that i used to discover my gay self. I’ve found out what i like and what i like to do with a man and what i don’t want in a guy. if we If by chance HE is out there anything is possible