Speak Out : I’m Black And Bottom And It Sucks!
I received a message recently from a guy who said that “being black and bottom sucks”! I was moved by the message I received and wanted to get your opinion on the subject. I presume that being black and bottom WHEN you are surrounded by racist white people sucks, but if you live in a big multicultural city like NYC or L.A. or Miami, is it better? And what if you live in a city where the dark colour of your skin is not the minority? Is it still that bad?
I heard a lot from black people that the gay community fantasize about the “black top” or the “Big Black Cock”, leaving no space for the black bottom to exist. So guys I’d like to know your opinion. Tell me if you are white, black, yellow, green or what ever colour and tell me if you are bottom, top, vers or asexual and tell me how you feel after reading this blog post! Please be honest!
To all the tops out there who love black bottoms, raise your hand and leave your username at the end of your comment below! And to my hot black bottoms out there on A4A, I want to promote you guys on A4A social media! So send me your BEST photo (good quality, because bad quality won’t be published) along with your username and I will showcase your profile on our Twitter account! You can reach me at blog at adam4adam dot com.
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Dave
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When I first read this I was shocked. It spoke to me because I live in Iowa and this happens all the time. But there is hope. I have found my top and yes he is white. I mean it’s Iowa, what do U expect. The area U live in does play a big role. But yes before I found my mister right I would talk to Guys and the interesting thig is that they were my type but only wanted to Bttm. I do feel that the sterotype is that we only top and Hung for Gods and I’m sorry but that is not all true. I have seen some small black guys as well as white.
I’m white and had a blk bf for 20plus yrs. I was top, he was bttm. But we did switch every so often. His cock was a little larger than mine, but we were fine with that. I didn’t want a large cock on my man. Most guys seem to want large cocks, which baffles me. Smaller can be more enjoyable. I’ve got a preference for men of other ethnicities.
I like black dudes and they got the best ass.
I agree I’m vers black and tall 6’4. When I’m horny and just want to have sex it’s easier for me to be a top because being on a4a most people want sex and most of us objectify each other. I get portrayed as the black dominant top with the 13 inch cock. But my cock is only 7.5 while I think is fine but so many size Queens want 10 or more it’s crazy. But when I tell people I’m vers or I approach tops I get gawked at or rejected immediately. I feel be being tall and black contributes to lack of interest when I try to hook up or date in general. I’m always perceived as a dominant top nothing else. I just wish people were more open to roles and positions when having sex.
A 6’4 vers black? I would be in heaven
I am a thin white guy who loves black bottoms, not gonna lie. I have no racial hang ups but I love finding a cute black guy who loves getting fucked. Most the time tho they’re not interested in me. Oh well!
Where are you located. Masculine discreet black guy here here.
I’m white and I generally try not to make these sort of crass, stupid assumptions. But gaydom has a ridiculous need to label, stereotype and stuff guys into boxes from which they are not supposed to crawl out of. It’s all really sort of silly. Just find what interests you and have fun.
I am a bottom and I do like black guys as much as I like white guys and Latinos. There are hot guys in every race. 🙂
Since I am a bottom, I obviously usually look for a top. I have come across a few black guys I was very interested in, and yes I did automatically assume that they would be top, but as turns out they were not. I personally didn’t mind it. People are entitled to their own role preference.
I think the assumption that black people would be most of the times tops due to the whole tops are masculine, bottoms are feminine, black guys come off as thugs so they’re obviously dominant….there’s this whole set of stereotypes and assumptions that are taken for granted that lead to those expectations. Black guys are thuggish and masculines so they have to be tops because being a top means you’re a man and you’re strong. They were slaves at one time. White guys on the other hand are weaker, and being a bottom means you’re sissy, fem and weak, so a white guy is most likely going to bottom when he gets together with a black guy. I despise how gay guys and people in general tend to forgot that top/bottom are not equivalent to man/woman, strong/weak, the man of the house/the submissive bitch. Bottoms definitely like that aspect of being controlled, being charged, being handles, etc, but this does not mean that they cannot be strong as individuals on their own, or that they are the submissive partner who is on a lesser status than their top/dom partner and are incapable of being a decision maker in the relationship or the breadwinner or heck, even be a strong jock who bench presses heavy weights.
Blame the gender role conformity way of thinking, man/woman, hunter gatherer society where you’re a man, the true definition of a man if you’re the hunter and provider for the household and household members are dependent on you, whereas the woman is weaker, sits home and looks pretty.
I am black bi versatile and have a 7c member. Trying to find someone of any race and versatile has been tough because im not packing 9″-15″of penis. 7″-8.5″ is enough for me, otherwise anything bigger would be in dildo form. Total tops or bottoms seem to be a little selfish and not so great in bed(this is where the dildo comes in for me)not saying they are all bad, just the few that I have come across. One day I will find the right fit. Until then thr saga continues.
Cheers
I have experienced this. I usually end up being forced into topping because so many people want the “black top”. Sometimes it sucks but you know that’s life
I’m a white, versatile, bi guy. I think a black bottom is hot! To be honest, they usually have hotter asses, so certainly no shame in being black and a bottom!!
I’m a white top that loves fucking a tight black ass. It has a few thing going for it. First off you black men no that with you genetic give you a nice phat round ass and I love that second the stereotype is true in general a black man has a large dick. I love seeing that dick grow get hard and bouncy around while I’m pumping my white cock into the black ass.
A bottom is a bottom to me! I am simply for good foreplay and good sex when it comes down to it. I can see how being black there is the expectation of having the “big black cock” so that automatically means “hey you gotta huge dick be my top”, I think porn has definitely blown that out of proportion. I feel for the black men who are prejudged that way because porn is not reality it’s fantasy!
I’m a black bottom and I’ve never had any issues finding men of any race. I’m from Alabama and although the men there that hit on me are usually not my type, there’s never a time when I’m not hit on. I’ve also lived in Atlanta and now Houston were dick is plentiful and my inbox stays full. I think this guys problem is a lack of confidence which will turn anyone off.
I don’t know what to say other than I am versatile, prefer other vers. guys only, (I enjoy doing it all if I’m going to do it), but vers guys seem to be becoming rarer and rarer these days, at least where I live.
So many are either total tops or total bottoms and I can only speculate that this is something that is limiting so many of these guys in finding someone else.
I am a black bottom in VA. It does suck being black and being a bottom in this city for 1, there are a lot of bottoms out here. 2, mostly all the white guys that are into black guys, they are bottoms as well. Most white tops get offended bc I have a bigger dick than they do, but I don’t see why that would matter…I
Not interested in black guys in any position sexually. So I would have no idea.
Hispanic and Versatile though I do find that most the guys I am attracted to expect me to bottom simply because I am Hispanic…
To me it’s not a race thing. Whenever I see a hung guy, regardless of race, I HOPE he is a top. Just selfish, I guess.
I’m black and a bottom as well, and I have to agree. Any time I get a message the first question is if I’m a top, or if I have bbc. It’s quite frustrating, and where you live does play a big part, at least in my experience. However, I keep searching, and I keep hoping I’ll find someone for me .
The first guy I ever fucked was a black guy. I wanted to suck his dick (it was nice, though basically average-sized) but he really wanted to be fucked, so I obliged. It was great! Afterwards, though, he wanted to go so I never did get to suck him off. Too bad, too, because up until that time I had never sucked a black dick and wanted to do it. I got to do so later and discovered a dick is just a dick, no matter what color it is. But I still regret not getting to suck that guy off. He let me fuck him and I figured it was the least I could do to reciprocate.
I have several black bottom friends . We r all on the same page . Friends n lovers . Ilya75
I’m black and want to know why people assume if you don’t want to have sex with a black guy you’re labelled a racist but it’s perfectly okay for me to have a preference? I am well endowed and some guys do say I’m like a fantasy come to life. I guess it comes down to sensitivity. I don’t take crap from anyone and they know how to approach me, and if they don’t they hit the door, simple as that.
Interesting choice of images. I’m guessing this addresses a black/white issue rather than Black/Black.
As a bottom I’m frequently disappointed that some really hot black guys are bottom. I mean they’re hung like no other but are completely bottom 🙁
This is pretty much what goes on. As a Puerto Rican and Arabic bottom who also happens to be masculine, people expect me to be a top. A lot of times its white bottoms who are trying to live out a “BBC” or “BLC” fantasy and do everything to convince me to top them. Most white guys, my preference, tend to be bottoms for some reason. In general I’m finding less and less tops in general and I live in Cleveland, OH and that has many ethnic backgrounds and suburbs.
This is seriously shocking to say the least, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE BEING BLACK AND A BOTTOM! I live in Savannah GA, and I have never felt bad about being either of the two. I Actually feel the total opposite of this I’ve always felt it was power in being a bottom, or at least thats what it feels like not only in my current relationship, but in past relationships as well. My tops have always tried catering to me and my needs and it feels absolutely great! Plus here I’m approached by quite a bit white tops who exclusively date black bottoms, but they (white tops) always say its so tough here to find a black bottom because they feel like we’re trying to decide if its the fantasy thing or if he (the top) is really into him the person and not into him as a sexual object. I can only speak from my experiences, and this is what my experience has taught me.
I myself am a Latino make. I guess I would say I am a versatile make, I love to top and I love to bottom equally as well. The only thing that comes to mind why it would suck to bottom if you are black is if you have a huge cock and are a bottom? Even then, I don’t see why it would suck? I love having a huge cock flopping around when I get fucked.
Anywho, you are all beautiful and are loved. ❤️
top bi latino, don’t get lot of action here not sure if it is because of me being bisexual or what could be the reason, in Los Angeles I read someone claim you can’t spell flake with LA in it…
yes I have fucked a couple of black bottoms…:)
I’m a top, and I don’t look at or see color…I see a guy. Either I find him attractive or I don’t. I don’t have black friends, I don’t have Asian friends …I have friends. Only time I use an ethnic or race description is if I’m describing to someone who has never met my friends so they know who to look for when required.
I have no tolerance for racial discrimination, in either direction
For a bunch of educated erudite coastal liberals, you’ve really let your stereotypes run wild! Apparently black bottoms have a hard time because … Why exactly? Oh, well in some parts of the country people are overwhelmingly racist! And in the rest, all the gay men want is a black thug to dick them down. Sheesh
I’m a white top who loves black bottoms. I love the contrast of color. Also how thick a black guys ass is. Mmmmm damn
I’m a top who loves a hot black bottom and his cock size doesn’t matter to me. Race hasn’t ever been an issue for me and I’m in the South. What matters is mental connection and physical attraction, and in that order for me. And my name, is my user name on Adam.
I am top … and for all the men i have been with none never asked me if i am vers or bottom.. everyone just run with the idea that i am top even my ex who i have been with for 5 years never asked … I am from Guyana south america and there are alot of bottom guys here .. so u tent to ask and not presume …
There’s definitely some degree of truth in that. I mostly bottom and occasionally top. I tend to avoid meeting, let alone continuing to talk to, guys who use the line “big, black cock” at any point or ask, “Is it true what they say about black guys?”
They already have an idea in their head of how I am just because I’m black. On two occasions, I’ve had guys switch their electronic text vernacular to Ebonics when talking to me (it’s pretty easy to catch onto someone’s preferred way of electronic communication so long as they put enough words on their profile and to catch typos when typing, and these guys significantly changed their electronic communication style). On one occasion, a white guy messaged me. His profile read that he essentially wanted to live the porn trope of the white twink being banged by the homo thug (i.e. black gangster). I, in no way, would be confused by a thug by the way I dress and certainly not by my personality.
A lot of guys just have it in their head that all black guys have incredibly huge dicks and that all of them are tops. It annoys me, even though I do occasionally top, because people create a trope that they blindly apply and get disappointed when you’re only 7.5 inches instead of 10 or 12 inches or if you aren’t quite the straight-from-the-street thug they wanted. There’s a level of utter stupidity that offends even the shit from an elephant’s ass, and that’s what really annoys me. If I deem guys stupid, I don’t care how hot they are; I refuse to associate with them because it is one of the most unattractive things to me.
With all of that said, I am lucky to have found quite a good number of tops who enjoy when I bottom for them. They think I’m attractive and aren’t getting with me in the hopes of getting pounded by my “big, black cock” (though I’m definitely not opposed to a good flip fuck with someone who isn’t after the BBC).
I’m a truly versatile black male. I am short (5’6) but muscular so end up still getting hit up more from total bottoms than I do versatile or top guys. I like to think I can give as well I can receive but find that so many guys fantasize about a BBC so much it becomes borderline fetish. I prefer versatile or top guys though because sex tends to be mutual work instead of a dude just spreading his legs waiting to be plowed into submission. That being said I don’t tend to find it hard to meet guys who are tops (of any color) but am often uninterested due to other reasons (i.e. they are out of shapes or need to “party” to have sex). In NC, as I’m sure with other places, I inevitably see ignorant and racist profiles but for the most part being black and liking to bottom usually doesn’t present a challenge when I am genuinely looking for some hot action. I still, however, empathize with the original poster about how us black men are often perceived on hookup networks like this one.
I’ve had sex with a couple of black bottoms and they both had enormous cocks. Frankly, I’m not sure how they could be tops with such huge cocks. I’m a total top and would love to bottom but even the smallest dick can’t get past my tight sphincter.
I am a middle aged white male and there is nothing better than a hot black bottom in my book.
I have a sub boy that is black. He has a damn fine cock and one of the tightest asses I ever had the pleasure of working over on a man! I enjoy blowing him as well. The best bottoms I have had are usually the ones who go against type. And I enjoy having my ass fucked, I have a very sensitive prostate, even if I am getting fucked I am still a Top when it is happening.
I am a white, bi vers/top guy. I have been with a few black bottoms that were totally amazing. I’ve also been with black tops as well.
Since I started seeing men a few years ago, I’ve been shocked to find out just how “pigeon holed” the gay community is. If you’re “this” then you should be “that.”
If someone is telling you that you shouldn’t be what or who you are, it’s their problem and not yours. Those kinds of statements usually come from their own securities.
If you’re a bad ass black bottom, own that and rock on!
As a “black top”, I love masc black bottoms.
I am so glad I am not the only on with this problem! I am black, 6′ tall, and 225+ pounds. I’ve never encountered any one rude about it but it does get a little frustrating when most of the gay community assumes and hopes for me to be a top! (I am vers but love bottoming way more than topping lol.) I think it causes some missed connections when out too. I’m afraid to approach who I’m interested in because I think that they think I’m a top so they are not interested and the guys approaching me think I’m a top so I am not interested in them lol. It’s a mess! Doesn’t help that I’m more on the masculine side so I really throw people off.
I am an older white male who very much enjoys the black bottom man. I like my man to be more of an average size cock for those occasional times I want to spread my white cheeks for him to enjoy…
I’ve been with a black guy about 3 years. Cockwise he’s slightly bigger than me and I bottom for him. He has asked me to top him and we both enjoy it. Him being black has never been an issue, I love being with him.
What I found sad about your story is that being Black and a Bottom is a huge problem for you. It may just be the Men in your town that don’t see what you have to offer. As a Black Man who happens to be a Top, puts me in a category that works for and against me. All of us will be rejected because of something we can’t change, so I wouldn’t worry too much about you not getting any Cock. Trust me if that Ass is as beautiful like in the pictures, Tops of all races will want to hit that as much, if not more then you’re ready for.
I’m black and a bottom with a large cock and I’m tall too and it’s next to impossible to find a top that’ll fuck me. I have to lower my standards (dont have standards anymore) and settle for whoever even semi turns me on. I have a super high sex drive so it feels like I’m going crazy without a release. I have to jack off at least 4 times a day to cool it down but that’s not the point, I have guys begging me to top them ore do whatever I want to them even though my profile is blatantly ALL bottom. Black only seems wanted if you’re a hung bbc dom top bonus if your muscled. Everybody assumes I get all the cock I want but really take whoever bites.
I am black BUT I am not a bottom! I have sympathy for the black bottom who wrote on to you. It is true people have racist stereotypes they think all black men are tops! This is not true! When I was young people wanted to fuck me and I allowed it. But I was never comfortable being a bottom I hated it. As I got older I must admit the gay scene made me a top. I had so many white or Asian guys asking me to fuck them lol! But I discovered I love being a top o love the power it has. I love fucking a tight ass. I ejaculated from being a top I realized this is what I am into. But I do see the black bottom point.
I am A 26 yr old black guy. I’m a top. I live in Oklahoma THE WORST STATE FOR ME. I have always been attracted white guys not that that’s the only race I’ve dated or will date. I have always been a firm believer in commitment and monotony and there have been guys on this site and even out in public that I’ve tried to connect with. Everyone has turned me down people have told me on this site and out in the general public that they don’t like black guys as partners. They have told me I’m too young. Not hairy enough. Too skinny. And let’s not forget my favorite I want someone more reserved and the ones who haven’t actually said they’re not interested have shown it because when I send them messages on here they don’t have the decency to even respond they just block me. I never have understood the whole race card issue and maybe is not for me to understand but it is very discouraging for a guy like me who has dreams and aspirations who is working towards a career as a nurse who want to have a family with a husband and kids to feel constantly rejected. which is why to a large degree I have given up on ever having a relationship in Oklahoma so I have turned off my focus to God my mother and my career and if a man comes along so be it if not then I guess it just wasn’t meant for it to be I only hope and pray that someday people will open their eyes to change and not be so close minded because God created all of us in His image and he put us on this earth of different races and nationalities so that we can learn off of one another it is society that has turned this gift into hatred and I hope that someday this will change but that is my perspective on the whole issue
No problem here, I don’t care what race my bottom is as long as he’s a good person who doesn’t have a shitty attitude, is in decent shape and has good hygienic habits. All races welcome
Im a black top in New Orleans and it sucks. I can’t find a black total bottom to save my soul. All i know are tops and vers. Thats it so i completely understand
Funny thing is that I am black and a true versatile. .But I am so huge and hung that when I feel for a cock and find a top, he end up cant get his dick up or just want my big black cock in his ass. No fun! What I realize is that there seems to be about 85% bottoms in this world – should you know where the true tops are- send them my way!
First off props for bringing this topic up. And much love to Blp on his color blind world.
I’m a black btm-vers guy(yes there is a difference between btm-vers and vers-btm). I’m not a thug, feminine, have an arm size dick swing between my legs (and thankful of that. I DO have a nice tight ass…).
Can’t tell you how many times I have been asked by white bottoms if I could get my black top friends to gang bang them. I even had someone tell me he thought two black guys in a ltr would look for a white guy to fuck because we are all tops. Seriously.
I live in bear country Pcnw. I’m clean shaved smooth body 5’11 175. I am the anti bear. How often do you think I get laid? Now cut that in half. Lol. But you know I love me. My life isn’t centered on me being a black gay bottom, but on being a man. Guys with racial n age hang ups I feel sorry for them. I get it, kinda…no not really. But who am I to judge. Criticize n tease yes judge no
I’m flattered, honored, and humbled whenever a man turns his ass up to me for me to do the things that I do. It really floors me! I don’t care what color you are. Just be a man.
I’m bttm/vers and living in New Mexico, it’s been a challenge. I do agree its about location. I also believe that the gay community has become so racist. Long list of do’s and don’ts. I understand, we all have our preferences, I’ve dated all except Asian. So, I’m pretty open. I believe, being black and gay jsbhatf anyways. Most men want to date you because they think your hung or a top. I’m more then just physical characteristics. Get to know my heart and mind!
Ism older white top in Tn and I have a problem finding black bottoms. Most either don’t want white guys or don’t want older. But have had black bottoms and hopefully will again.
Lets be honest for once about this, nobody likes a small cock. Lets just all admit that. And no that doesnt makr you a size queen. Small cocks just dont feel good. I only recently started bottoming, started with a small cock. And it fucking sucked. I was in pain the entire time. I thought it was because it was my first time and so i kept pursuing small cocks after i while i decided to give up on bottoming because of that. When i was convinced to bottom again (after a year or so) it was with a 7.5 cock . Obviously it hurted going in, but once it was, and i relaxed, i enjoyed it 100 times more. Why? Because decently sized (not huge exceeding 7″) dont need to go back outside of your ass when theyre pumping you, small cocks do. I think this is a factor, black guys just have bigher cocks. Not only that, but depending on your area, there might be a very noticeable shortage of tops to go around (as it is with my area) which fustrates people. And so when you come across a bottom with a big dick its kind of like, what are you doing man? You were blessed with a big cock and youre not even putting it to use? Its kind of a waste to be honest. I think these are all factora that make people frustrated when coming across a black bottom. I dont think it was anything to do with race.
Dave I always thought you were mixed with black.
KJ : Im not, I’m 100% white. But people think I’m black and white, or PR or spanish, or latino, egyptian, arab…
I don’t care I like all colours. I don’t understand why some people are racist, I simply don’t get it.
I think my generation and the ones to come will be like me…
One of the dumbest things I’ve read in awhile. A top such as myself wants a bottom, regardless of his skin color. Are there far more bottoms than tops? Yes, it seems to be that way so bottoms are often complaining that no one wants to fuck them. Again, this has nothing to do with the color of your skin and the social expectations that come with it. Then again, I am neither black nor a bottom, so correct me if I’m being naive’
I don’t get it now matter what color you are you are either a top, a bottom or versatile. Why does one race over another mean you should always be a top. I have know big dicked men of all colors who are tops, bottoms or versatile. The size or color of a man does not dictate whether you are a certain only position. Just like there are all colors of tops, their are all colors of bottoms. Just like being gay doesn’t mean we all act like women. We are a world of many colors and men preferences.
OMG!
This is the story of my life!
I think a lot of white guys go around with some kind of Mandingo fantasy running through their heads about black men(which is narrow minded and has overtones of racism)
I’m on several dating(trying to increase the odds of finding a sex crazed decent guy lol), white guys message me all the time with variations of “I want black cock”.
I got sick of replying, sorry I’m a bottom too …lol So I just delete.
I’m a 100% total bottom who loves dick of every color, I have this fact specifically stated in my profiles but still I get “I want black cock”
I am black and a total bottom. I agree with the post. It does suck because there are very few total top men these days. The majority of gay/bi men are versatile or ver/tops. These men feel that bottoms should not be “selfish” because we have a dick. To further compound the problematic of the scarcity of total tops are the racists white, hispanic, asian and middle eastern men who refuse to date a black man unless he is mixed cublasian. I live in Nashville TN. For an up-and-coming holly doodee town, there is a lot of high-mindedness like what I described and plenty of men who are ready to sleep around with the latest choice brand of man. Where are the real total top men who like the neat bottoms? Rural men who maybe tops only want white on the farm. And please don’t suggest ATL, D.C., NYC, CHI and L.A. as the only destinations to find true tops. :-)(-:
Im a black bottom that has a great sex life. I find that its black tops that usually aren’t interested. Anyhow,I get my share of good cock of all colors, so no complaints. Its all in the approach. Happy Hunting.
Honestly this isn’t a race issue this is an mind game issue. Men (especially straight men) have the idea that getting fucked is a ‘bitch’ role. Men fuck women get fucked etc. These days I think women have proven that they can fuck guys as well as fucked them over. Been the one penetrated don’t make one a bitch its all personality. Top or bottom are roles. Top obviously is the dominant role and bottom is the submissive role however doing either one don’t make the person neither dom or sub. I’m a regular top when I top (I’m not dominant I don’t find ‘dominating someone appealing nor do I find a submissive bottom appealing) I like masculine fucking session. When I bottom I wouldn’t let a dominant top near my ass as I’m not a bottom nor would I find it appealing to be treating like a sub or have it in me to be sub. One day the gay/bi community will realize that in sex one penetrates and one get penetrated however doesn’t define neither parties personality.
As to the black community, black male are raised to be strong leaders in everything and black women (especially from Africa or central america) are definitely not supportive of a gay black men. And most ppl are familiar with such expectation from the black race. To be strong minded to be leaders to be dominant. And because a black men is always expected to be dominant he can’t take on a submissive role ie getting fucked. But a black man can be fully bottom, masculine, and dominant all in one. The black men in the bi/gay community don’t realize this as well as others.
Hookup should be fun… who cares who tops who bottoms do what you wanna do what you’re in the mood for. When I bottom I’m me when I top I’m me…. my personality remains the same in either role. I prefer to top because I can always top but I can’t always bottom not because the gay community have a stigma about men who get fucked. Yea I know there are sub bottoms but those ares are sub in personalities not cause they bottom. Just like there are submissive tops (straight guys who likes to be dominated by women are submissive but they still fuck the girl at the end) so idk why the top bottom thing is still an issue lmao
All the comments are so TRUE…..I feel like if there would need to be a change, I would feel like that as a People/Community/ or whatever you prefer to be titled, Change is always a factor. This is even if you do or dont have a problem with adjusting into it, In Porn/Media/ and or just Society itself. For example….If as MALES were to get excited over visuals, the way Black men are portrayed in PORN is very unfair, as a Bottom Blk male i would like to see more less of THUG and or MEAN MUGGING looking MF’s. It is Time to let those behind Cameras know that we (Black Males)are very Universal as the next ethnicity. Were suppose to have a open mind but were closing the door on the GLBT Growth…..Why?
Black and bottom….mmm nice! I’m versatile…but don’t mind topping a cute black bottom guy. That being said…don’t mind mind being topped by a cute black guy as well!
This blog had me like WTF cause I love my black guys it doesn’t matter if they are a top or bottom I still love them. Eastwood12
I’m top latino dark skin and yes most of the people alway think I’m black and I’m top. Dick size not matter what rice you are black,Latino or white. I love hot versatile guy all race
I can say that being a black bottom sucks, what makes it even worse is being both black and latino, seeing as how a lot of folks up north where i live are thrown off by the mere fact that I identify as latino but look at my skin color and assume black, they flip a lit when they immediately find out that im also a bottom because you know…the whole myth about all of us with a slight tint of melanin gives you a humongous 13inch cock. It’s a bit upsetting when folks make the assumption because I work out, am in good shape and im black that immediately I MUST BE an OVERLY HUNG TOP, newsflash…im a bottom with an average size penis. I dont subscribe to the thug culture to carry out anyone’s black thugged out top fantasy and could careless about what youre packing down there as long as you know how to work it. Though i cannot hide the junk I am carrying in my trunk, it is also upsetting when I approach a person and i am turned down because, I am “too big” or im not an effiminate “white or asian” twink. Ive been blatantly told to my face “no blacks”, I had to absorb that and realize that it was 2015 and not 1955, and I live in Pennsylvania. Ive had better experience down in Mississippi and Alabama than ive had in my own home state. I certainly dont like playing the race card but when I have been rejected by folks primarily just based on something so superficial as my skin color, i cant help but feel a little bitter about the lack of education and overwhelming amount of belligerent ignorance coming out of the mouth of folks, simply because you know….”it’s a preference”. It’s not a preference, those folks are simply being a bunch of ignorant racist fucks who carry a negative notion of one or various minority groups, but they sure dont have a problem looking a the big black top pounding out some white twink. And the porn industry sure isnt making it any better by portraying this stereotype. When am I going to see the opposite? I have to dig around to find me a big muscular top pounding out some skinny black guy……and that in itself is rare. Well i think im done with my rant, aside from, I am not anyone’s fantasy fetish, i am a black masculine muscle bottom that seems to have trouble meeting folks because of wrongful preconceived notions about a minority group, perpetuated by crappy porn companies looking to exploit the image of black men.
I live in eastern Iowa and the gay black people I meet here are always bottoms. Not that I’m complaining, I’ve enjoyed them all and always look forward to having fun with them!
100% black bottom here. Im not sure about the experiences of blacks in mostly white towns, but my experience in Wyoming, Montana and North Dakota is that the white tops fight over some good black ass…I mean it is pretty rare:)
I’m White and I think that Black Bottoms are Hot!!! 🙂
I’m a tall, black, bisexual top and I have an almost 9 inch dick. I’m only attracted to latino men and I’m a very dominant. Thank GOD that I live in southern California and very close to the Mexican border. I’m in HEAVEN!! Both black and white bottoms plus young guys as well all give me a very hard time for not giving them a chance. I even put it on my profile that I’m looking for latino men only over the age of 35. Most of us have preferences, and I’d rather not waste anyone’s time. I have never been a bottom. The thought of it makes me cringe so i won’t make any further comments. We all are different and have different needs. My suggestion to you is if you are not happy with your current situation, move to a place that suit your needs…..you only live once! Happy hunting everyone!!
I love being a black Bttm. Maybe I need a white top than can appreciate good ass.
I am a black bottom in a small town in the south and I never thought like that. It is frustrating in my area the amount of white men that won’t date you in public but will fuck you behind doors or want you to fuck them. You might as well call some “George Washington” in bed. Then I think about it and sadly the black guys in the south are just as bad if not worse. I would hope it would be better in bigger areas because the whole black and white issue is so ignorant and old school it actually deprives people of a lot of happiness they may potentially miss out on. It’s so different overseas where in most places black and white don’t exist and I honestly think it definitely makes for happier “black bottoms” to have a more normal life. If anything Id love to know where the white tops are that like black bottoms because in my town if they’re not truckers, married men or racists who act like black is kryptonite..it seems like it’d make for a happier non damaging life for both altogether.
Puertorican top, love black bottoms, can’t find many in PR though
Im happy to fuck a tight black bottom as long as he fucks me first :). Email me if interested.
I absolutely love black bottoms! But I love bottoms of all colors! I’m a white bear top, so finding black guys that are into that is pretty fucking awesome!
I’m a black bottom who’s lived in a few different places around the country, and in any place I’ve lived, I’ve experienced a fair amount of stigma for not fitting the stereotype of a dominant black top (or just as a black male, in general). I wouldn’t say that it sucks in a way that I let it bring me down or anything, because I still get a pretty good amount of sex, even with the prejudice. But it’s definitely annoying when it happens.
That being said, I do often feel like my dating prospects are a bit more limited than others because I don’t fit that stereotype, or because as a black gay man, I’m fetishized and seen mostly as a sex object, to begin with. People tend to only want you for those superficial qualities and not much beyond that.
im black top/vers never been fucked by a white guy here in s.a its mostly blacks but white guys i did fuck in 3sums/group have a few ehite friends but its mostly blacks,but race its never an issue though!
I’m a white top in Houston, Tx. I love black men that are bottoms. I’m single and would love to have one for my own. Hit me up Houston black bottoms!!!!
In Chicago…. if you’re a black male your role is to supply the “BBC”. Thats it!
Its gotten to the point that there is a lot of escorting going on. I guess black men feel used. So they might as well get a few bucks out of it to compensate for the lack of sexual satisfaction that theyll feel by the end of the night. either way youre still being used.
i am white top that kind sad that race come on play to me we all need love guy back white green eact that when race I like back guys who happen to be bottoms that back gus tend to far nicer to
The root cause of this problem is men and their selfish approach to sex. Add the fact that too many people’s entire knowledge of other people comes from pop/porn culture and what they’ve been told. No wonder blatant, ignorant and one dimentional stereotypes persist. If you actually knew some real __________ people and didn’t interact with them solely for the purposes of sex…. We all have our fantasies but there is a whole person, with feelings, thoughts and abilities that should be considered/respected when interacting. Unless you think that some people are here solely to serve your needs.
As a black androgynous bottom, it’s very hard to be apart of this community. Most white or middle eastern tops want a twink, while most of the Asian and latino guys are also bottoms. Then the other black guys want either a vers dude, to be the BBC fantasy to a white guy, or are bottoms. The only guys who hit me up want a cd or fem fantasy and that’s not my stigma.
Umm…why does it suck? Big muscular fucking black booty…I think I’ve fucked all the hot muscular black men in Austin.
I am a black bottom and guys automatically assume that I am a top. It bothers me, but I try not to dwell on it. I know that I live in the land of bottoms, San Diego, which makes tops and versatile guys a national treasure. I keep things oral and keep it moving.
Personally, I’m versatile but I cannot stand the smell of a black guy and I know it sounds racist or whatever, but it’s the truth. It’s a totally different odor unlike anything I’ve ever smelled. It’s sort of like burning tires or old leather. Asians aren’t particularly fond of a Caucasian’s scent and find black and darker skinned men repulsive in the scent department. I don’t think it’s a bottom or top issue.
Being an older black bottom has it’s drawbacks as well.we have to look out for the guys who thing we are looking to be a sugar daddy or that we are desperate or hard up & will do anything for sex (bare-backing, sex outside in public places, the list goes on)…
well did the guy specify why he thinks being black and being a btm sucks, i mean its a choice right, u like what u like and lots of white guys have huge jhonsons, its realy an odd statement, i go to like 3 different bath houses on ocassoin and a gay camp ground blk btms a plenty. there not complaining, i dont get it, could someone explain?
I’m a top and I like fucking; I like fucking a bottom who enjoys the stimulation I can give him. If he’s got a big dick and gets hard while I fuck him, even better – there’s a good chance I’ll suck his dick while I fill his hole.
What doesn’t matter is his melanin content. I like my guys in all colors (except purple with green polka dots, sorry, not my type /satire), most body types and a broad swath of ages. It’s about what we do together much more than what ethnic group we belong to or where our ancestors came from or the relative chronology between us.
I am a black man and a top live in Oklahoma and let me tell you I haven’t had any luck as a gay man here. I meet guys online and in public settings all the time that say to me I’m not into black guys, Im too young, Im too skinny, and my favorite line of shit Im looking for someone more reserved. It is very discouraging for me at times because I have a big heart and would give the shirt off my back if someone else needed it. I have so much love to give and so much I want out of my life and someone to share it with. but all I ever get is rejection, guys who say they want to meet and make plans then never respond back, guys who will date long enough to get screwed then toss me aside like trash, or and also my favorite NOT!!! the one’s who you send a message too and instead of responding not interested and giving me that much respect they just block me for no reason. Which really has made me re-evaluate the potential for a relationship in Oklahoma. But you know what in the end its their lost not mine because I have dreams and plans for my life at 26 years old almost 27 I have a house in my name a car in my name work as a med aide and in school for my RN and plan on starting a side business in real estate. Im working towards my goals and dreams. I would love to find a man that I can really love and who will love me for me. but because of the color of my skin it just doesn’t seem like an option for me. So I have turned my faith in God and my family. I only wish that people would be more open minded because age, nationality, race, looks etc shouldn’t matter god put us all on this earth and created us all different so that we could learn from one another and grow as a population. It’s society that has ran this gift into the ground with hatred, racial profiling, and stereotyping. I think everyone needs to open their hearts and minds and stop judging. we talk about heterosexuals passing judgement on us for being gay but yet we pass judgement on each other everyday kinda hypocritical if you ask me. I will continue to pray for growth and change as I always have but wont hold my breath for it. And I hope someday I find a man that I can grow old with, have a life with, have children with, etc and I will continue to ask god to give me the strength and knowledge I need to pass on to my future children to not judge not hate not stereotype but to love all people as god intended. have a good life, prosper, and enjoy the life the creator gave you while you can because tomorrow isn’t guaranteed GOD BLESS all of you 🙂
I think being a black bottom is an issue for black men who exclusively date outside their race. If are you are interested in dating black men, and go to places where gay black men congregate, then there should be no problems finding a top.
I’m a 25 year old fit black bottom, and I find it so difficult to find a top of “other” nationality than my own to have sex with let alone be in a relationship with. I live in Seattle washington, and it is virtually impossible to find a guy who is into being the top. They always want my “bbc” which news flash, my dick is above average, but definitely not a bbc. I need a top! Ugh!
I am a top and in the Portland,OR are and I personally could care less about the color a guys skin…connection and personality are much more important and and kind of racial hang UPS are just that and preferences are what they are so long as it doesn’t become racial discrimination
I am a top and in the Portland,OR area and I personally could care less about the color a guys skin…connection and personality are much more important and and kind of racial hang UPS are just that and preferences are what they are so long as it doesn’t become racial discrimination
I am a professional black guy. Being approached like my whole existence surrounds my dick drives me nuts. And the whole Mandingo thing makes it even worse here in Kansas
I don’t believe it. I’m a white dude who thinks that he was black in a previous life. I relate to the black culture 100%, I love men of color and half the time I wish i was a man of color. I’m the kind of person who chooses to find the beauty in everyone but i swear i’m wowed 9 times out of 10 by men of color.
I would just like to say that it’s sad to still see racism among us homosexual men, like we already don’t suffer enough bigotry.
I am a mixed raced( Mexican/Romanian/white) big bear top, and I LOVE black bottoms! I like all bottoms, but darker skin men turn me on to a whole different level. My user name is bear4freak.
I like bottoms of all colors especially delicious black booty…BUT…most nelly bottom “black girls” of the majority I’ve met,(and met way many) want no dick smaller than 6 inches (I’m 6.5)..1 or 2 obnoxious bitches even laughed about it…so I just tell them,”Well stay thirsty then, Queen LaQueefa!” ATTITUDE bitches!! Improve it!
I’m a vers top (mostly top), and I love black ass. My tastes do vary, and sometimes I’m in the mood for different things. Most of the time I’m into younger thinner guys. As for race, I’m generally into white black and Latino. I briefly dated a black guy 2 years ago and he was vers so we flip flopped. Sex was amazing. As for black bottoms, keep em coming! I love eating and fucking black ass. And I have to agree with Rodney above, I love the contrast in color.
Thanks to history, black men are supposed to be sexual deviants that take ass from white boys without guilt or reservation. If black men want to bottom for white men or their own race it’s their business and people in the black gay community should shut the fuck up and let black bottoms live their lives.
I am a tall slim black Masculine bottom. I agree. Most people assume that because of my masculinity and height that I am not bottom. I too habe been virtually forced to top on occasion. I am from a small town in the South that is predominantly affluent whites. I use to think I would never find someone I wanted. I finally moved to Atlanta and unfortunately I can not relate to most of the Atlanta black men. It began to wonder what I was doing wrong. Subsequently my job relocated me to NYC and there I almost felt like a celebrity to all races. I had no problem with white black or latino. It was great. I was there for a few years when I had to return back to Atlanta. I am in the same boat again. For me Atlanta which I love is very
clique-ish.
I’m a black bottom and this is so true. Almost every white and Latino guy that hits me up assumes I’m a top. Most wanna fulfill a bbc fetish. That’s a turn off for me. I love all races
My username is the sw as this one.
I fuck black guys whenever I can. Sex is sex so the color of his skin is immaterial!
I am a big dick white guy. I am Vers bit a black bttm ass is sexy.
I am a black top and I love black bottoms. I mean other races are okay too but there’s something about a nice big black ass milking me dry that I love. If a black bottom has trouble meeting a quality, black top then hit me up!
It annoys me when white guys say “I like the contrast” or “I don’t see color” unless you’re physically color blind I don’t see how that works unless you judging people according to their personal character,then would be different. Anyhoo, the first thing that came to mind when I read this article is that the black bottom individual was someone who is into white guys exclusively and that every time he hooked up they wanted him to top,because of the belief that black skin denotes masculinity/hyper masculinity or that he possesses the myth of the “sacred” BBC, as a black vers man, I’m constantly bombarded with requests from white gay bottoms and a few white “tops” to ride my “BBC” which I totally ignore, but then I remembered that there is always some black dude out there willing to play up this nonsense and keep the ball rolling. Just like Asian gay men being cast as perpetual power bottoms because they aren’t as well endowed in the minds in white gay mass media, which isn’t factual in all cases, far from it actually, but for every constricting stereotype, there are those individuals willing to play it up because it is either their true nature or they want attention or some other motive.
I am a black, heavyset bottom, living with HIV and genital herpes. Although undetectable, I am also a little feminine. Its become IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME to find Mr.Right!
I am a white total bottom and have been with all races over the years but when I am looking for a hook up I only look for total tops. I have been with several black men and some were average size while a couple were really hung. For me I prefer cocks of all color to be 6 to 8 inches and thin to average thickness, I think are the best because they don’t overly stretch your mouth or ass and the 10 inches feel like they are going in your ass and coming out you throat. I am okay with other bottoms if we just want to suck each other off. But I do not assume all hung men are tops
My screen name is bb4fun1964 I’m a black bottom man and can never find a top to get this. I’m in North Carolina. My other issue is I’m 50.
The African American bottom is probably most high risk for getting hiv as well; based on statistics
I’m a black top. I would like to bottom but I get rejected by dudes of other races when i say can I bottom for them . I’m 5’11 and 155 pounds with a 9.5 in Dick that 7 in girth. They either don’t respond when asked or say I prefer you to top me. It’s easy to find another black guy no problem there who’s a top and extremely hung for me most of my friends pack 10-12some cut and the two I love are the uncut ones .. But it’s hard to find other races that want a black hung bottom or even verse in Houston .
I am a black bottok and yes, it does suck.
Its hard to find someone interested.
Most want the bbc or thug.
Sorry but thats not me.
I’m Don’t feel attractive sexually to black guys at all. I’m Latino dark skin so I prefer white or Latino.but your rice don’t define how big is ur dick or u are top or bottom
No matter your race or role, there are tons of men out there who will objectify and fetishize you. Finding them is (supposed to be) the fun part.
You think that’s rough try being a total top who has on occasion sucked a dick or ate an ate or like my ass ate. I’m black but no one wants a relationship anymore and the always ask how big it is which a turnoff. What happened to skills? I haven’t had head in years because most can’t do it right. I haven’t had sex in almost eight years many because handsome or masculine guys turn me off. When notice someone interested in me I tell them that I prefer fems and I get called sick in the head. I’m not into quickies whether it’s head or sex. Too many have no sex skills, they think good sex is going back and forth at 100 MPH. I like taking my time and explaining the hole while talking to my mate. I view ass as a pussy and that turns many off. I like to kiss and passionate foreplay. I enjoy doing the act more so than cumming. I like the closeness that only a relationship can provide(kissing, cuddling, talking ect). I would say I sympathize with you but I can’t. Too few fems left or that look manly outwards and that’s a turnoff. Good luck in your search, as for me I won’t waste someone or my time by lying just get in bed knowing I can’t perform because I lied to myself pretending to like something just to get a nut.
I have been looking for Mr Right for years and haven’t found him. I am a black bottom and I like white men (latino, puerto rican & hispanic as well but, they’re hard to find). It seems hard to find one whose not married or doesn’t have a significant other. The majority of the white (bi / straight) guys I meet want me to screw them. Seems like being that I am older only married guys want to hook up but, you have no consistency in meeting them (once every month or three months).
I do concur with the statement. In certain parts of VA, it is really hard to meet people.
“…surrounded by racist white people sucks” Thanks Dave for perpetuating the false and insulting narrative that white people are racist. So if a white man chooses not to have sex with a black man he is racist? Does it work the other way around?
I am an older white daddy-type and I LOVE black ass….love eating it…and love fucking it. I also love sucking black dick (whether it is huge , average or small). I also love Asians, Hispanics and white guys.
Hi. Im a top and i live in miami and its hard for tops out here. i try to look for a nice black bottom but its mostly white and Spanish bottoms out here. most of the black people are either tops or vers and are looking for the same thing im looking for. i usually get the older white and spanish 50+ guys who try to talk to me and if i do find a black bottom, its either there visiting or they have standards in what they want. so its hard for me to actually find what im looking for down here. so he is not alone. being gay and black has its ups and downs wherever you go.
As a typical black bottom who is mostly into white guys it is indeed frustrating trying to find a top, most assume you’re the stereotypical big dicked black top, and having lived in Ohio and currently Baltimore Maryland, I’ve had guys hit me up just to see if I had a big dick which I really don’t. it is sad how we put ourselves in boxes based on stupid preconceived notions propagated my porn. I’m still looking for my white man, keeping my fingers crossed.
OMG I FREAKING LOVE BLACK BOTTOMS! Especially like the one in the pics im the article: young, toned and delicious! Light skin, dark skin and love those mixed boys!!! Let me eat it and breed it!!!
and to answer the question. im not a racisit, i just love black men. i have had sex with latin and white bottoms i just like blacks more. and in miami black people has it hard for they say miami is the new cuba for its mostly spanish and white people here black bottoms have either high standards or visiting or vers and looking for other vers so for a top like me. its kind of hard to find what im looking for. this topic speaks to me because i always wonder why is it hard for us (black men preferably top) to find someone of interest. im chillcut25 on a4a.
This is such bull crap.Any black bottom that thinks that he is less than anyone else, probably needs to be in therapy.
Welp I’m a 6’5″ MASCULINE muscular CLEAN CUT black top who gets compared to Tyson Beckford alot. The phrase that always pops up when im introduced is that im “Very Handsome” or “Fine As Fuck”… But the truth is they just obsess over the size of my bat (men & women) because of my height and when i show them pics of my dick which is just over 11.32″…they stop just short of trying to sell an organ just to physically touch it…& yes im cut…doesnt help that I have an INSATIABLY aggressive sexual appetite, which is why im currently in multiple relationships (yes they know)…BUT my thing is i like to top TOPS because masculinity turns me on..hence my name KingKevyn..and to give a RACIALLY CHARGED answer, DARK black FEMININE bottoms are hot headed and maliciously jealous in the first half of life… the dragons, dethroned queens & insidious ones who come after, are usually lonely..no thanks bro…be a guy…and if not BE A GIRL…#iSaluteCaitlynJenner…but different strokes for different folks. I personally am disgusted by ALL feminine bottoms…And FYI, I’ve tried bottoming..3 times in my 30yrs of living…my body’s not built for it.
Guess my comment was deleted!
A person ethnicity shouldn’t be a problem when it comes to having a connection with someone. Their will never be true equality until we all treat everyone equally….the gay community is just as bad when it comes to begin prejudice and racists!
Yes, it’s true, just because of perception – I’m vers/bttm and get frustrated if I see a black guy with a nice masculine slim body, who claims to be a bottom… (what a waste…) …and I actually prefer small/average dick size on my black top (not into pain)
All isn’t lost though, especially if you are in a large mixed city – you just need to be more selective …and patient…
I have to say. I am white and I only fuck with black dudes. I don’t care if he’s a top or bottom. I am pretty vers so I can go either way. I just am not sexually into fem dudes. Black dudes have fatter asses and usually bigger dicks which is always fun to play with, suck on and get fucked with but it’s not a requirement.
Everyone always asks me “why do you like black dudes” and all I can tell you is ever since I was in second grade, my best friends sister dated this dude who happened to be black. He was SO fine. I remember wanting to go to their house to play just so I could look at him. Ever since the second grade. I’ve only been attracted to black men.
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I’m African versatile with very nice around ass and fat cock , it’s very easy for me to find white tops than black tops when I want bottom , no issues here where I live .
I am a vers black male. In Los Angeles. I’m on the shorter side (5’7″). I’m lean, so not muscular, and I don’t post or advertise my dick size. Despite this, I am frequently approached by white bottoms with the whole “looking for my bbc” or “you’re a top, right?” Frustrated one night I even stopped to ask a guy why he just assumed I was a top. Again, not tall, not muscular, and smiling in a face pic where I’m fully clothed. His response was simply “Well you’re a black guy with a big cock; you’re supposed to be a top.” Mind you, he hadn’t seen a dick pic or even asked how big I was.
As a society, and especially in the gay world, we seem hell-bent on clinging to labels. So even if I don’t agree, I understand why we assume tall guys are tops and short guys bottom. Or why someone who appears to be aggressive or dominant or has a sexy scowlly face in their photo gets labeled a top. But as I don’t really check any of those boxes, it saddens me that guys see my skin color, DON’T read my profile, make a set of assumptions about me, and then feel comfortable enough to communicate those assumptions to me. Sex site; I get it. And I wouldn’t think too much of it if it happened once or twice. Or if I lived in a more rural area, maybe. But I live in LA, and this happens all the time.
Too many white bottoms in their 50s trying to get fucked by black guys in their 20s.
That sucks, too. Sometimes, older guys are hot, sometimes.
Most white guys only top other white, Hispanic & Asian guys. They don’t find black bottoms attractive. For whatever reason. I can name a few. Hey, I don’t care either way. Just telling it like I see it. Hit me up if you want to get pissy
I am a black man whose 100% versatile. And I take as well as I give. I don’t have a monster cock its 8.5 cut and thick. But usually that’s the first thing guys want to know is how big it is. So I understand the stereotype. But I’ve also found a key to that, it’s called a block button!! Versatile boys have more fun!!!
This article makes me want to give up sex completely.
I’m a black top who loves a sexy asian bottom.
Sadly, they are mostly into white. js.
From what I have been reading this seems more of a problem with black bottoms looking for white tops. Trust me; myself along with my other black tops from DC to the ATL think it doesn’t suck to be a black bottom in those cities. It’s called supply and demand. For you black bottoms who are only into white tops, well, it’s the bed you made so you have to lay in it. I gotta say from what I seen on here and other sites it is white guys ready to give the hole up to to dark meat when it comes too the black/white dynamic. I mean there are pages on other sites devoted to it. I rarely see pages devoted to black sub bottoms for white tops.
I’m a white vers top (although I don’t necessarily write that in stone, depending on the way I’m feeling) and I LOVE fucking a hot black ass! Black asses are among the HOTTEST asses on the planet! In fact I’ll be fucking one in a couple of hours. So, if you’re a black bottom, who loves white dick from a muscle daddy, holler back! Look me up, I’m “zmusclestud” on Adam4Adam.
I’m a blk bttm and I love me and no one else can telp me anything different. It’s a personal thing if you feel as though your confidence is lacking because of you are as a person and by what you like. I’m not pressed or stressed if I do or don’t find anybody to be my soul mate because if it’s suppose to happen it’ll happen. I’m a dominant blk bttm who likes and knows when to be submissive and when to dominate. In the bedroom I’ve been told based on my actions I like to dominate my tops but yet be submissive at the same time and it turns them on. Love has no color and love has no age all of that is based on personal experiences and preferences.
FYI….You can have a big dick and be considered a “Dick” or you can have an average or small dick and be the nicest person in the world. I don’t look at the size of the dick but the size of your heart. Your dick size should never be discussed outside the bedroom period.
I have the opposite problem. My masculinity is probably medium-well to medium if it were a steak. it doesn’t take people long to figure out I’m gay. I’m not flamboyant but I carry myself confidently and have good posture and walk evenly (I was a dancer and gymnast), etc. So people naturally assume I’m a bottom. I’d say I was 90% top but I do bottom occasionally. As far as black guys go, I love fucking a hot, black ass. I love their dicks but something about fucking their assess just gets me going.
I’m a 25/yo black bottom with a nice shape and I have no problem finding tops from any race. I’m in Michigan (Detroit area) and I get hit on all the time..Asians, Blacks, Latins, Middle Eastern but most of all I get hit on by white guys that are almost always versatile or tops. But I do get some guys who ask if I’m top and I kindly say no..then they either move on, or still want to hookup and top me.
My main problems with some of these same guys though is that they only want to treat me as a hookup but nothing more than that…
A Black Bottom is hot. I was dating this one black guy and he was a TOTAL bottom. Hottest fuck Iv’e ever had in my life. Everything about him was great. But Im not going to lie. His ass was spectacular and kept me cumming 🙂
Well, I’m a black bottom always been and loves white tops, but it is so hard to find everyone has there perfect guy. I live in a very small town but surrounded next to a fairly larger town in the southeastern part of the U.S. In the north Florida area. Most top whites only want white bottoms or Latinos except for a black bottom unless you have a big black dick and top. I think I’m a very cute guy I’m light complexion in my late 30s I’m 5″11 190 lbs clean very nice guy healthy, clean. I would love to meet a nice top white guy please hit me up. Just have your self together I’m not into kinky or weird just some clean safe sex.
Boo freaking hoo. So you’re black and a bottom and no one wants to have sex with you. Get over it. There is someone out there and if not use your hand and a dildo. Be proud of who you are and stop whining. I am an overweight middle age white guy living in a college town. I haven’t had sexy in three years. Guess what no one wants to have sec with me becAuse I am. It their preference either. I’m not blogging and whining about it though. Get over yourself.
I’m a White Top in Philly & although I love all Men of Color, I mainly get with Blk Bttms! But even though Philly has lots of bttms & is majority Black, a lot of the Blk Bttms here ONLY get with other Blk guys! And/or Latinos. Mix things up a little, guys! Variety is the spice of life!
I love blacks & Latinos. Tops or bottoms !
I love black & Latin guys. Tops or bottoms
I resent your remark about being surrounded by racist white people. I live in SC and it is mostly blacks that are racist, and yes blacks can be racist since they are no longer a minority here. I am white and I fuck them all as long as they are masculine!!!
It only sucks if you’re a blk bttm in a white community. Black guys are stereotyped as always having big dicks and that we’re all tops. White tops usually are into other white guys. In the blk community it’s 50/50.
I’m a black bottom and always wind up finding myself in the situation where I wind up being the top.can’t say I mind but I’d like to find a nice white top and swap up every once in a while but not every time.Coming across more first timers wanting to get the BBC I’m honored to be that first but kinda old by now.
It’s tough being a white bottom as well here in Charlotte. This city is 99% bottom. Just to get off, I would flip and fuck a cute black bottom.
I think that the stigma/stereotype about all gay blacks being a top and having huge cocks is annoying. Yes most of them are and do have that swinging, but not.
As a black (mixed; er with heritage from Louisiana & from Panama) and being versatile and not having such the wanted “bbc” it can be a bit difficult out there. Plus I live in NYC.
Most guys that contact me usually immediately think that because of the complexion of my skin that I’m ultimately going to want to top them with some huge pipe. For the most part most of the guys I’ve talked to or even been with didn’t care about that since they were basically the same. Plus for I date all colors/races/ethnicities out there – just be cute/attractive in my eyes.
But then on another note, most guys that I’ve come into contact with presume that I’m a bottom – just because I have a slender/slim build and that I look way younger than my age.
Well i’m a Black bottom. From My expérience, i will said that size doesn’t matter but Location matter. when i first started sex in my teenage, at 16y old, i met a lot of Guys and from my expérience i think that Not every Black person have a Big Black Cock. Even tho all my tops were very hunk, my dick is not that long. I’m 7,5inch and i’m fine with that. I have some top who were less hunk than me but they drive my ass to heaven :p
Interesting that we are still concerned about the color of the skin to connect with someone. I am a Black bottom guy, live in a large city and not wanting to be Topped by every slinging dick. No matter size or color. Yes there is an assumption that a Black Man is a Mandingo. And the fantasy is to be dominated by such. Who is looking for real life, meaningful connections, and can take the chance of getting to know someone beyond the color of their skin or sexual position. I think mature men should come together and get to know each other and explore how to give one another pleasure with no limits.
Just a thought
Black top in Philadelphia here I know what u are saying but as long as he is not to much darker than me I am fine as long as he has smooth skin…. and is not to fem…. I have dated and been with females b4 I came out so I don’t know how or why but looking back I looked for the same then as far as complexion went…. and I don’t have 10 or better but most guys tell me it fat or huge and a few of them have had bigger on them .. so I don’t know
Nothing better that fucking a black guy – watching his cock flop on my stomach while he rides me drives me wild. I’m 7″ thick so most black guys I’m with are bigger than me – I’ve tried bottoming but it’s not for me. Black guys are so damn passionate – happy to help anyone out who is having a problem getting fucked 😉
Lol. The black guy in this picture doesn’t even look black. Well, I myself am vers and I’m black. I dont have the BBC that guys look for. I’m about 8 inches. Most of my experience comes from topping. I’ve only bottomed for one guy and he was hispanic. Any time a guy who isn’t black find interest in me it’s to top them. I have a really nice ass for bottoming too. Just wish I could get more use out of it lol
I am an aggressive, gl, big dick (9.5) vers man from the Caribbean and I’ve been forced to top for most of my life. I’ve had situations where I invited a top over n he is fucking me and see my dick grow to full length and the person would stop fucking me and turn around n ask me to fuck them instead. in addition to my big dick I am aggressive and have an accent and that also “turns” the top into a bottom when they see/feel me being aggressive it somehow triggers the individual to be submissive and become the bottom….when in fact the reason they were invited was to be the top. can I not be a take charge kinda bottom?
Hi black versatile like white tops ,live in Houston , just me up at (meno) , let’s fuck ,clean guy here
The black community caused this not anyone else. Everyone else may have continued it, but the black community caused it. Also really had no intention on reading the main post after the whole “racist white people” when there’s just as many racist black people out there.
Tall hung white top here, handsome, live in Indy – love black guys under me taking it. But then I love white guys under me taking it. I just like to fuck. I love it extra when a bottom has a big stiff dick. I find big-dicked bottoms extra-sexy, and I have no problem fucking a big fucking muscle stud either – those guys need dick, too. Love love love a nice slim ass, watching this big white meat go in deep and make the guy cry out with pain/lust. Long and thick meat. Black bottoms are A-OK with me, man.
I am black a total top well hung older, 46 and it sucks , . I also live LA, BOY DO I HAVE PROBLEM FINDING PERSON WHO WANTS TO BE FRIENDS , WiITH BENEFITS . Every time i hookup with a white guy , the first thing they want to know , do i have another big dick black friends to play with together ? I am getting sick of it i can’t fulfill your fantasy , white guys , try and find a nice black bottom is also a problem , they want the white boys , so i am a top attractive good guy and well hung , professional etc , so being black in LA AND A TOP IS NOT SO GOOD EITHER . Oh yeah and i am not fat . i have a decent body
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Btm vers here – the issue I run into is that somanypeeps are looking for blkdick andnot blkAss. Its worse ifyou have a big dick too. All of a sudden that Top wants a BBCinhis ass and now No dick for me. Mark – no ones whining,this is authored by a friend who tooknote of someones exp. Bitter peeps step aside. Someone always has to be negative – go aWay.
I am very into black bottoms and yes, the visual aspect of my white skin in contact with his black skin is very erotic and stimulating. And anyone who says black men don’t have some fine roiund butts is a liar. My problem is that I am fifty and so many of the fine black bottoms I meet either want a young stud or cash up front. I am generous but generous with my time, my affection, and yeah my tallywhacker but I don’t pay out of pocket to bang anybody. In the last year I met one black guy,Mike who was shy, and seemed to like me for what/who I am. He never asked anything from me except my company. And to stay over the weekend sometimes . he had to move on due to family concerns and that was that.
I’m black and a bottom. I’m also very fit and hot but in the last 2 months I’ve only found one top.
My white friends who aren’t as good looking and in worst shape get way more action than I do.
It’s just not preference, it’s racism. I also get asked to top a lot because I’m hung (even though my profile says Bottom)
The worst are the black guys who don’t sleep with black bottoms.
hi..I’m a proud 28 year old black std ddf free clean tight long lasting balls deep total bottom.for me it was a natural position I was made for doing.i feel comfortable with bottoming and pleasuring my top,which he feels more relaxed and focused on sex.
It does suck if you’re in a small city. I’m in Atlantic City and finding it hard myself
I had a black bottom bf for a while and I’m a white bottom. He was the most gorgeous man I’ve ever met and my first instinct (in the bedroom) was to eat and fuck the hell out of his hot beautiful ass! I’ve never felt so satisfied – the chemistry was on point! Wanting to ride his big beautiful dick was definitely on my mind but being a total top with him was perfectly fine with me! Unfortunately he dumped me because we’re both bottoms. 🙁
lol… been breeding a hot black couple all night
Most likely this guy is a black guy who does not prefer blacks. I do not care what color you are, if you do not date or get with your own ethnic group then you need to first be addressing the albatross of mental issues or self-appreciation first!!
I consider myself a versatile top, but 99.5% of the time, I top. Practically every guy (regardless of race) I hookup with just assume I am this big dick masculine dark skin blk man who wants to fuck them. On rare occasions, I have this itch to bottom, but it’s extremely difficult to find a guy to top me; even if I encourage flip flopping. There’s just way too many bottoms out there, which is rather good for us tops. My last boyfriend was a true versatile bottom. When I had that itch to bottom, he scratched that itch and was eager to do so because I rarely bottom. Funny thing, when I did bottom 5% of the time, it was usually for small framed white guys, who surprisingly just roll me over and just work it in.
I guess it would be difficult for black bottoms to find tops. But, personally as a blk guy, blk bottoms really don’t turn me, though I had my share of them.
WHY DO YOU ALWAYS POST TOPICS ABOUT BLACK MEN? CRAZY ASS WHITE CRACKAS GET ON MY DAM NERVES..YOUR TOPICS ARE ALWAYS STUPID AND IRRELEVANT..
Yeah I love BBC for oral… A hot ass is a hot fuckable ass But I have a black fuck buddy with 9 tasty inches and who is totally bottom… So I get the best of both worlds from him. Like I said a hot ass is a hot ass. And I don’t care what color it is. Damn…. I gotta go call him
I’m white and a top. I’ve never have been able really to enjoy anal sex. I mean being a bottom. A top okay but never have been able to relax and enjoy the time with another guy. Hate to kiss and tell but I am. Exceptions sometimes but only very rarely. The Last time I was a bottom was in 2004 and that was with a friend. We had a good time, broke the bed and had to go to another bedroom. But still it hurt and I really couldn’t enjoy it. But again it was fun and we just laughed about the bed.
The first guy I topped was a black guy. I loved it. They are so beautiful and have wonderfully soft skin and great asses. 🙂 would love to find another. Black bottoms are awesome.
I’m a Blk Bttm in NY who prefers white tops. This has always been my preference and actually to me still really sucks to be a black bottom guy. I’m not being bias about geological areas or anything because I, myself, have lived in both the southern and the northern (where I currently live) regions of this country. Time and time again you’ll be told that the guy is a top, then as soon as it comes down to business, and they see my erection in person, immediately their legs will go flying up in the air. Then the excusses that are given make it worst. Most say things like, “I just have to feel you inside me too, because it looks like it would feel amazing” and “I want to try it for the first time” or my favorite one “I thought you were versatile.”, which I try only looking for tops so that wouldn’t matter. For the record, I always correct them by stating that I am bottom versatile and not a versatile bottom. I know it sounds like the same but they are definitely not. A bottom, like myself, loves and wants to only bottom but will top on rare occasions. They other does not usually care but if asked prefers to bottom. The fact that I hardly ever get to find a top who is truly top should speak volumes. Now I have NOT ONCE found a total White Top, who is into black men since I’ve been living in New York. I mean how many porns can one find on the internet, that focuses solely one White tops and Black bottoms. You won’t find many scenes, but that’s not true for the reverse. There are complete full length DVDs of that. I find myself feeling used or conflicted because I just end up basically being their proverbial black cock fantasy, which on turn makes me not even want to have seed. Either way if you could save a magic wand for me, I’d greatly appreciate it. Until then I’ll keep looking, because I’m not one to whine. Thanks for asking.
I’m a black top and I love my black bottoms. I love every nice tight black hole yum
WOW,, NEVER SEEN SO MANY WHITE MEN WHO LOVE TOPPING BLACK GUYS BECAUSE IT DOESN’T REFLECT IN THE VIDEOS THAT POP ON MY A4A SCREEN. I’M A 38 YR OLD BLACK BOTTOM AND YES THERE ARE BOTTOMS WHO STILL EXIST THAT ARE MY AGE. WHETHER IT’S A BOOKSTORE OR A BATHHOUSE THE ABSOLUTE FIRST THING WHITE GUYS DO TO BLACK GUYS IS REACH FOR THE DICK. I’VE NEVER IN MY LIFE SEEN A WHITE GUY REACH FOR A BLACK MANS ASS AND NOT WANT ANY DICK.. I’VE HAD WHITE GUYS HIT ON ME ONLINE WHO WANT TO TOP BUT SOMEWHERE IN THE CONVERSATION YOU CAN BET THEY MIGHT WANT TO REACH AROUND AND GET SOME BBC ALSO. THAT’S USUALLY WHEN THINGS GO SOUR. I DISTINCTLY SAID I’M A BOTTOM(not verse)”AFTER THAT COMES THE ARE YOU SURE YOUR A BOTTOM?? WHY DO YOU BOTTOM YOU HAVE SUCH A NICE BBC? SO BETWEEN THE PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND LOOKING AT HOW PORN IS PROMOTED BLACK TOPS ARE THE TROPHY PEICES(BBC) AND IF YOUR BLACK THAT’S WHAT YOUR EXPECTED TO BE EVEN BY OTHER BLACKS….
Personal observation is that there are more bottoms than tops in overall gay population. Not sure there is an objective fact based study to prove that. Personally I love flip fucking, any race, any time, any place, spreading and receiving baby batter any and every way. Both are drained, both are satisfied, and flipping helps teach how to be both a better top and bottom. Group flip fucking is man sex heaven. Every one goes home a winner.
I live in albany New York, I am Black and a bottom with a fantastic ass that no one wants to get in or who I have rejected for various reasons. Albany and the surrounding communities are overloaded with white men and most fit very well in the following categories: elderly and medicated, never brushed teeth or wash regularly, exceptionally bigoted or just your everyday troll. The black and Hispanic dudes are largely colorstruck and reject anything with dark skin and will kill for a white man in a heartbeat. So to answer the question, albany is NOT the place to be for a black bottom! They do expect you to be a Top here and most that don’t have that expectation want to just suck your dick or have you suck thier’s while calling you their black or Ni**er bitch! Don’t believe it? Look at the profiles and try to communicate with a few. Most are going to want to chat and store your phone number and address for future use so don’t provide it! The others will probably say no or I don’t do black! And the other probably want to make appointments. Albany is where experiments really should take place.
Gay men can be VERY racist. To so many, black men are only good for having big dicks and fucking ass.
Yep…living here in Cincinnati, being a black bottom sucks.
As a white man I’ve bottomed for white black Asian and indian I’ve topped white black Asian middle eastern and Jewish. Color isn’t important mutual interest in a good time or friendship. As far as black men are concerned, I found out to late in life that there is more passion in a black man than a white man
I feel this article was written for those who are searching for non-black tops. Black bottoms have no problem getting black tops. We love them. The issue comes when white guys think all black guys are tops or would top for them. This leaves out the strict bottoms guys who want white tops. Cheer up black bottoms, there’s a white top for you. I’ve seen it before…..and have helped white tops fuck their black bottoms. lol
I am a GWM. If I must stereo-type the black male, I must say that I am most physically attracted to thier beautiful full lips and beety butts. I could never date a black top(only).
I do love black dudes….Everything as top and bottom too! Today is 2015 those colors are matter to me. I fucking a cute black bottom boy…I see how nice black ass with beautiful glossy pink hole! Yummy!
I think as a black gay male it’s just hard to find someone to be with no matter if your bottom or top or verse because when I try to hook up with white or Hispanic guys they get turned off as soon as they find out I’m black I get the oh…. Your black I mean I’m into every race because I find men attractive point blank period but it just seems like men that aren’t of a darker hue are racist against other gay men that are darker than they are
I became a top by default- I realized if I wanted to have sex regularly I would need to conform to what the market demanded! I do like topping, but it’s not exactly my fav position.
I can’t tell you how many times guys say that it’s such a “shame” that I’m a bottom or that I’m a “waste” of a big dick often ones before they’ve even seen it!
I never get hit on by tops, I constantly get hit on by really young, usually white guys asking to be dominated. I usually find myself apologising for not at least being versatile to “make up” for the fact that I don’t like to top. It should be ok, but it definitely isn’t.
In a gay society where being called a bottom is sometimes seen as a negative, being a black bottom can feel like a cruel misfortune rather than an awesome bit of variety.
BttmH: If only I was in your area. The high sex drive I can relate to. Unfortunately, when you’re a total top with a very thick dick coupled with a high sex drive, most “bottoms” can’t take that kind of wear and tear on a regular basis. lol
You are truly one of a kind.
I’m a big black bottom guy. I love to be dominated by tall masculine men. Let’s face it, racism is just as prevalent and noxious in the “Gay Community” as any other community. Most of the guys who contact me on Adam4adam are bottoms, even though my profile states I’m a bottom. Some white men can be real nasty jerks when approached. Look at the ads on any hookup sites and you will see more “not into Black,” Whites only” and my favorite is “into Latinos, Asians, Arabs, Whites.” Why not just say what you’re NOT interested in? We know they simply are racists, who lack the courage of their convictions. Such wimps.
Oh but when I have found the White tops who were not racists, you would not believe the fun. I’m certainly not saying most gay whites are racists, but the majority seem to be. That is fine with me. There are “too many fish in the sea.”
Enzo: “Then again, I am neither black nor a bottom, so correct me if I’m being naive”
I don’t think ‘naive’ is the adjective I’d use to describe your comments. Like yourself, I’m also a top but unlike you, I’d never trivialize/downplay someone else’s experiences just because I’ve never had the same experiences. Try showing a little empathy toward the OP even though you’re neither black nor a bottom.
I’m 6’2, 230 and it’s assumed I want to go “wreck some ass”. Being black and 100% verse (actually a hedonist…go look it up already), I’m more focused on pleasure than “roles and positions”. Living in Detroit, and the polarized atmosphere that’s here, I see it a lot. Seems all the black guys “try” to play this “DL Thug” role, with the equal opposite from white guys – aloof, disinterested and sometimes a bit of snobbery. NOT EVERYONE, but way more than half. I even saw it in the profiles on A4A “no blacks” and “no whites”. Really.
Now, with the influx of Arabic guys, the mix is changing and wild to watch. For the longest time the white guys, even if they were interested in black guys, came off almost feeling dismissive. And if they could get to you in private,then the barrage of “BBC and ‘Thug'” came up, and an awkwardness in conversation that almost felt like you came as some diplomat from Jupiter, peppered with clauses that just came short of using the “N” word (which you can tell if it came from home and upbringing) that they tried to cover. (You just have to thicken your skin, and realize it for what it is. Like a non-english speaker trying to ‘chat” in ebonic-filled tv-speak.) The Arabic guys, come off even more “manly-man macho” than the blacks, which seems to have confused both the blacks and whites. lol. Love immigration! The Arabic guys also seem to have a “top-focused” meaning of sex. Real easy to get a pushy top off of you? just “touch” his ass. Like a cat on a hot stove! lol! (or the “thug” turns into a cat in heat.)
If the black guys find out you are verse, then they make some assumption that they have “first dibs” at all times, and almost “expect” you to bottom for them (peppered with phrases that include “pussy”. Not one of them has been with a woman in 15 years.). I started cutting them off as I don’t get into “slam it in, and fuck for punishment” (and get those damned fingers and nails out of there. Been 15 minutes and no lube!)
I fault porn for this stuff (and this recent “hauk a luggie” spit substitute for lube). For some reason, porn is like a 15 to 1 “all white” or “Black top/white bottom”. The few interracial films, it’s Black on White. The few White on Black, find the most effeminate black guys to bottom. You can find “butch” white guys to bottom, but no black guys?
I’d be curious of those guys who disagree with the premise of the blog, how many live in the “south”. Seems the south got over this stereotype better than the north, west or east. I also have to credit “porn” for some of the lousy sex folks seem to be imitating, because “cell phone” has made every wanna be a “porn star”. NOT! lol
Im vers and i dont care about what ethnicity you are, just be attractive confident in what you want and clean disease free. Ive had awesome white latino and black bottoms where dick size doesn’t matter. Bring it on, i like a hot sweaty fuck with a masculine guy…but will dominate a femme at his own risk.
I’m a black verse and I live in Albuquerque. It’s a big city with a surprisingly big (yet spread out and disorganized) gay community. I don’t know about major cities but being black here sucks. What’s worse is I’m mixed so I’m too dark for the racists (not that I’d want them anyway) but too light for the black lovers (although I don’t want to be someone’s fetish.) I understand that men (quite unlike myself) have specific preferences. But it feels like if you’re not fit, hung, young, and white you’re going to have trouble finding someone just to sleep with. Maybe a big, more open minded city would have better men to socialize with? But being black here sucks.
Seeing that my comment from earlier was not included here, I will assume that there was too much truth to it! Albany New York is a nightmare for the Black bottom. Blatant bigotry and discrimination even from other black men. An absolute horror story!
Im a black bottom who lives in houston, tx, and finding tops in this city is tough. Most of the guys here are bottoms looking for big black cocks. I stop posting my dick pics on Adam because i get flooded with messages of bottoms mostly white guys who want black cock and all of them are bottoms. Dont get me wrong, I love guys with nice bubble asses that i can grab and eat but I’m a total bottom so my ass needs more attention. It would be nice to find a decent white, black, or whatever guy who loves and gets turned on by black bottoms. I guess my dream guy would be a dude who gets turned on by a black ass and wouldnt dream of having a dick up his.
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i truly love black guys who are total bottoms. I’m white and I’ve been a total top since I’ve been sexually active. I’m 53 and in great shape but my preference has always been bottom black guys. One might think that being a bottom automatically makes you submissive but that is so not true! All the bottom guys I’ve dated (with very few exceptions) have been take charge and aggressive bottoms. They know how to edge me and keep me from shooting to soon all while I’m inside them. This I find is extremely hot. I’ve had 2 very serious long term relationships with wonderful black bottoms and I’m now in a relationship that is getting serious (I hope) with a beautiful dark skinned young man (he’s 29 and he’s the perfect bottom with a 10″ (yes 10″) dick. He loves being a bottom.
Being a black bottom now add being 51 yrs old and lil overweight, THAT’S THE WORST! So I have r things against me. I read the profiles and most of the profiles are either a bottom, no matter the color or don’t want “old heads” and they gotta be fit. I’m at the place now that I just go on just to see who’s on and that’s it. I’m not “Flavor Flav” ugly or Shemar Moore fine, but I’m clean and decent but can’t get laid. It’s all good though, I got hands, lotion, and porn, I’ll be fine.
Im a white top in westchester ny and love black bottom men so look me up lets chat
I must say Im so glad to have stumbled onto this blog because I’m a tall 6″3 solid/stocky young black guy from Indianapolis, IN and I have struggled with this stereotype for a long time. I’m a verse bottom but most of time forced to top if I want to have sex with someone . I meet guys, not always white, that say they’re verse but when they see me they clearly want to bottom. I have a double whammy because Im a tall black guy whose masculine for the most part and guys of any color will assume Im a top. The worst part abt my situation is for some reason I have always been very attracted to white men and that makes it harder because a lot of white guys dont like black men and the ones that do only want me for my “big dick” which is average btw. It just sucks because I don’t mind topping sometimes because I just love sex in general, it just makes me feel like a complete tool when men especially white guys only want me to fulfill their fantasy of getting plowed while I get nothing in return and it sends a message to me that Im not good enough for anything else. Not looking for sympathy just glad to finally have a voice on this and hoping this will make positive impact.
Being a top sucks, because everyone says they’re a bottom, but no one wants to fuck.
You like what you like. No need to make no apologies for it. Relax, it’s their problem, not yours.
It depends. I’m a good looking black bottom but most non blacks assume I’m a top. Or want me to be. A lot of black guys don’t assume. I think it sucks if you not the ideal black that non blacks like.
I’d love to be a bottom and. It cool. To please my Latin man
Brothas we are just as racist as anyone. I have never seen profiles from bruhs stating no blacks ….really. Most dudes wanting so call BBC are out of shape old white dude who are or have a std of some kind. Of course some of you brothas will settle for this. Bruhs look at the man in the mirror.
You are part of the problem and not solution. Treat all the same and quit safe hate which is disquised as a preference
I am a white top and I love black bottoms as long as they are in good shape, safe and nice to talk to. Get at me if you are in Washington, DC area (same screenname on a4a)
I saw this blog post by accident and must say that I can definitely relate. I may have missed something, but I didn’t see where the black bottom stated he thought he was less or had low self esteem (as some of the commenters have stated), he has just not had great experiences. I am military and in my mid-thirties and have lived in 8 cities as an adult and some of the things that I have been told by non-black tops would not believed!!! I’ve been told I was a novelty (which is the only reason why my profile was viewed). I’ve also been told “no one attractive would be attracted to a black bottom” and “the only reason why why guys want to get with black guys in the first place is because they have big dicks- they are never attractive in the face”. I’ve been told a number of other similar things on A4A. I do not have low self esteem (thank God), am comfortable with myself and really don’t need to be validated by anyone else, but it would be nice to meet someone of any race/ethnicity that was interested in me for more than my blackness. Not all, but a lot of the commenters on this post seem to be interested in black guys and one stated that “genetically black guys have bigger butts”…has that been proven? 🙂 I don’t know about that, but I am glad that this blog was posted!!!
Man it’s some serious racial shit here but I really don’t date anyone whose not black like me because they always asking my dick size or the they NSA or anything goes on their profile. I won’t mess with any race period like that or who don’t want a relationship. The white guys act like they’re in a meat market shopping for ass or dick. I’m a total top so it’s dick but they run away when when I ask if they are fem(my type only) I never understood racism especially in the LGBT community… society hates us anyway so why do we practice hate among ourselves. I guess I really don’t like dating you ( whites) because you vote republican while secretly being gay. Some sick shit.
I never thought about it because I am verse/top but most guys that I interact with want me to fuck them and since I enjoy topping more than bottoming, there are no issues there.
Now that I have been exposed to this information, I will be sure to take it into consideration.
I’m white. I am predominantly attracted to black mend and I prefer to top but will bottom if we are serious.
I have a regular playmate who is black and is a bottom. Not only is he a bottom, but he loves ass play. He has said it is very hard to find someone like me because everyone automatically assumes he is a top.
I’m a black bottom and it can be pretty frustrating. It’s very difficult to find someone I WANT to top me (based on attraction) as opposed to merely settling because it’s all I can find.
I am constantly approached by people who automatically assume I’m a top. Only other black men tend to be interested in me and it’s really not what I’m looking for most of the time as I am attracted to Latinos.
It’s unfortunate to have to deal with not being able to fulfill the BBC stereotype or else encounter myriad profiles that state “NO BLACKS.” Perhaps I’m too selective, but we all have our preferences, as I’m constantly having to face and I don’t feel that I should just have to settle for a man I that I have no desire for. What can you do, though?
One think as a guy of color is that I know a lot of black bottoms out there. I’m in Arizona and I see just as many bottoms as tops, but there’s a large amount of bottoms in general. I do think it’s annoying when someone assumes you’re a top. Some of the best bottoms I have topped for where black guys. I think since I’m not white I see it differently, because I’ve been approached by several white guy’s that assume stereotypes are true. I never seem to assume what race you are that your cock had to fit the stereotype and positions as well.
Gays and Bi guys out there… Listen… Like if I see your cock in a pic I’ll know what size it is and if you say your a top or bottom I’ll believe you. It’s that simple. Like idk why it’s such a big thing to wrap your head around. Like trust when someone says they prefer to be a position over another… But also know people are racist out there and assume stereotypes are true, so if you don’t put it out there then how will people know what position you are? All our profiles have options to put that info out there… Maybe use the resources?
Hmmm, black, white, hispanic…top, bottom, vers, masculine , fem,… Ahhh, the “politics” of gay male sex. I just trying to find someone to settle down with.
I never understood this. There are plenty of black tops but these guys want a white guy with no racial hang ups when they have racial hang ups themselves against there own guys…
You get what you dish out
As a GWM who’s basically a top, there’s nothing hotter than a nice beefy black ass…makes me want to make love to it.Not only just top it, but to massage it, kiss it, play with it, and so on.Dick size is not at all important to me.The best porn shots are those from the bottom of the bed where we see a hot black top’s butt bouncing up and down in the air doing a bottom.So to all of you black bottoms, there are some of us here who appreciate a nice black ass.
I’m sure race can be an issue for some people but I think in general there are more guys, regardless of race, wanting to bottom than top. This causes issues and makes it a bit harder to fulfill those needs. I don’t know how many times someone claims to be a top but legs in the air at 1st chance. I am versatile but prefer to bottom. Can’t count how many times was in the scenario where all bottoms and no tops. Now that sucks…and not in a good way!
it sucks being a bottom no matter what color you are…seems like 90% of guys are bottom, and the few who are tops are already taken or whacked…anyone over 40 and bottom really has it bad….good thing for porn
I am a married bi top in Cincinnati,oh I can’t seem to locate any bottoms that wants to play with a married guy and when I do they can’t host I must say reading the comments here have me all worked up wow so nice any bottoms or vers guys near me looking? Black/white?
maybe because those bottoms have standards and don’t wanna mess around with ‘married men’! don’t assume all bottoms (or gay guys in general) want to sleep with married men because of what you see on porn or read on cl!
While everyone experience varies, ultimately we are reponsible for our experiences. Black, White, Latino or whatever, you are going to run into people with ideas that may not be what you are looking for. As a bottom, I have clear expectations even if that means I have to wait a little longer for that one person. I find that when the communication is really clear of what you are looking for, thats what you get. Of course, you may have some that misrepresent themselves and that can cause confusion and disappointment. I would never want someone who has silly sterotypical ideas of any race. Clearly, all blacks are not thugs or tops. Just like all asian are not bottoms. In fact, i think that such polarizing assumptions is what causes such conflict. Ultimately, as a black bottom my experience has been a good one. Be selective and dismiss anyone who tries to make you feel different than who you really are and your experiences will be better.
coclr has never been a prob for me, Ex navy here and some of my best friends are black yellow and brown, had a long term latino guy was totally head over heels in love with him, but he had other ideas of his ideal man and moved on. I started out as a bottom and my latino begged me to fuck him and now top/versa and loving it. I still love to take a hard dick but it’s been almost 2 years since I got fucked. It’s tough to find a versa guy. Sorry got of base have played with a cpl back men one said he was versa but only wanted to top and I was ok with that but he was a brut type fucker not a lover, he was hot n hung met him a few times and had fun but his attitude was all wrong for long term. The other was a chunky guy with 10″ I was able to suck his dick while fucking his ass, met him twice and had a great time but he was only visiting, he would have been a suitable ltr, his great ass and cock would have kept me happy, but he had to return home still in contact with him and hope to see him again. Since then it’s been all white for me:( as a older white average body /dick guy it’s tuff. I love the black /brown men, if you guys like a older white average guy give me a shout we can see where it goes…Dean
I am a tal (6’4), black submissive bottom living in Houston, TX. I have a hard meeting men because most men mistake me for being a top. It mostly comes from white men who want my “bbc”. This is frustrating for me, because I don’t look like what men think a bottom “looks” like. I would love to meet a man that doesn’t want me to top them. If there are any men in Houston that are interested in getting to know me, I am pieces1974 on a4a.
Well, surely, I’m a black bottom. I have had this problem too many times before. It is irritating and annoying. I cannot bear the fact of feeling alone and rejected. I’m not your typical African-American with a huge penis. I would not call myself weak at all, although, I have weak moments when it comes to being flirtatious – I have feelings. Some people need to accept the fact that there are black bottoms. Not all black men are tops. If anyone cannot accept the fact of me being a bottom, forget them. I am not changing my sexual position. Due to the state I’m located in, it seems to be an issue. Maybe, I just need to move to a more acceptable state. I am not going to please someone and change my sexual position for that person’s satisfaction.
who are the pornstars in the pictures?
Talk about being african american and hung and a bttm: sucks.
But try being Asian and small framed and total top; sucks more LOL
It’s the porn industry and what they portray blacks to be and sorry but not sorry, it’s typically Caucasians who keep these stereotypes going,I mean come on, look who is behind the camera’s and directing, nine times out of ten it’s a Caucasian males putting his fantasy into film form.
I’m black and I have had to go out of my way to let guys know that I am a bottom. Yes, my dick is a little over 8 inches, but I have no interest in topping. Plenty of guys have tried. The annoying thing is when guys go out of their way to convince me to top when they know damn good and well I’m a total bottom.
Im a black bttm it does kind of suck i live in a small town in texas and ive had enough sexual experiences to count on one hand and im 23 it just kinda makes me feel ugly lol but i guess ive kind of given up on trying now
Seems like exactly the opposite problem here where I live: all the hot black guys claim to be 110% tops and/or completely uninterested in white guys. The small minority of black guys who DO admit to being bottom tend to be either skinny little poofter boys, huge sloppy fat guys who describe being 90+ lbs overweight as “just a little thick”, or hustlers who automatically assume that any white guy wanting to fuck a black bottom MUST be in the market as a sugardaddy. Very annoying/frustrating here!
I’m an equal opportunity fucker. I bottom and top, but when I top I like to stroke off the guy while fucking, so a bigger cock is better
I must say, I have lived in areas where I was the entire Black population..lol. I am vers and wouldn’t matter which way I get it. However, in these small towns where I lived due to employment (States of Washington, Idaho, Arizona, Texas and Pennsylvania), I have always carried myself without being so obvious. I was always pursued by tops (Latinos or Whites), though many still had that curiosity of how big I was to satisfy the myths they had heard. Although some tops love giving head before penertrating.
i am black , gay , total top and told i have large penis . my first problem , is i am a older guy , but , ghereagain , i have been told i am attractive . , now you are wondering why i comment on the subject that has been feature . well i come with a lot of questions and uncertainty.i am masculines n my way . What go through is once i tell someone , i have a large one , they come back , show me , back , , then show me another picture , , make it hard , i get sick of it, furthermore , i have the hardest times with really attracting , guys from my on race . , never a problem with latins , and a small group of white men .I understand you have to be a perfect specimen, which i m not , just a simple guy . , if i chose to expose myself , i would have so many men following me around . I am not about that just meeting a nice guy who i know i can please them sexually good enoughfor me . , So when you voice those words , another , bottom , you probably pass over a true total top .
I am a black masculine bottom and the difficult parts for me being on A4A or even in my personal life is that most men seem to be bottom on verse-bottom or verse-top. I am strictly bottom and it seems that men are no longer interested in those who are strictly bottom, or being on a social website there seems to be a thousand bottoms and only a few tops. So the tops are in heaven and have their pick, while us bottoms are either rejected cause we don’t meet the height weight proportion of some tops fantasy. It does suck being a bottom!! Thank God for porn.
It is so funny to hear black bottoms say they can’t find a white top. Now if you are not attracted to your own race, why in the hell should another race be attracted to you? Hell you don’t even want your own race and you really want to complain about a different race not wanting you. I am so glad I am attracted to my African American Brothers. And I find black men sexy as hell. I have had every race creed and color to hit on me and not to be there top but to be a bottom. I think this is because I am seen as a pretty boy. So people just automatically think I must be a bottom. I mean Which is weird as hell. And because I know I am very attractive, I feel I don’t have to settle for a damn thing I don’t want. There are absolutely plenty and I mean plenty of black tops and I am just glad I am attracted to my own race. Personally an average looking guy of a different race, couldn’t pull me even if he tried. Also I live in Houston, Tx. So I have no clue with these bottoms who can’t find a top. To me, there are plenty of tops in Houston and especially black tops. To put it bluntly if you are average looking guy, you just not going to get hit on a lot. So if your complaining about not finding a white top or another race to get with, maybe because your not attractive as you think you are. Men are visual creatures. And if you are a beautiful man no matter what the color is, people will take notice. I have had too many men and I mean too many men of all races to hit on me and most were all tops.
Too all the black bottoms who are complaining, first try loving your own race before trying to get with another race. If you are not attractive to your own race, why in the hell should a different race be attracted to you?
Race is not an issue, sexual chemistry definitely is. Top and bottom seem like things heterosexuals do. Boring. If a guy isn’t versatile we go nowhere, AT ALL.