Speak Out : Interest in Other Males
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(This post was written by a member of A4A, if you wish to submit an article too, send it to blog at adam4adam dot com)
In late March, I posted an article on A4A concerning profiles and sexual interests. Since that time I have read subscriber blogs describing personal preferences for specific sex acts and their desires to have compatible partners in those acts. In your searches, physical attraction is often present in the process and the “eye candy” factor is always visible.
One common bond among sexually active males is a desire to enjoy sex as often as possible. Most guys can participate in some type of sexual activity at least once a day—more often if your partner/playmate has similar interests. I am an advocate of frequent climaxes to maintain and sustain semen production. If you do not have a playmate with you, then you should masturbate often—a poor substitute for your playmate’s hand, mouth or ass.
NOTE: My communication with males in their early to mid-twenties is that they typically masturbate daily—often more than once daily if not with a partner/playmate.
Males are divided into two categories: 1) Those males desiring a monogamous relationship with one special partner/playmate and 2) Those males wanting to enjoy a broad spectrum of playmates. The trade-off if any, usually involves partners who have less sexual intensity in monogamy versus exciting new guys “cumming” in your bed.
In summary, you are usually happiest and most content when you have a stimulating sex life and experience “horny conditions” anticipating quality time with a hot, sexy playmate/partner!
Members of A4A, how do you describe the quality and satisfaction with your sex life?
DAVID M in Texas
Yes, I agree. It’s really nice to have a friend or two so you can relieve your sexual feelings from time to time. Being down low as most of us are, it’s hard to get away when you have the need for sexual relief. that is why it’s nice to have more then one friend with similar desires.
I enjoy a very active sex life involving numerous fuck buds and discreet liaisons with masseurs and sometimes escorts. I was once in a monogamous relationship but the sex got less exciting after a while. Kind of like buying a new car but before too long, the excitement is over! I also like jerking off regularly. Actually, some of the most intense orgasms I’ve had have been when climaxing during a JO session. I know just how to handle my cock resulting in maximum pleasure. I think we gay guys are very lucky as men think alike regarding sex. Straight friends are extremely jealous as for many of them, their wives turned cold after a couple of years of marriage. A healthy sex life is important for our inner being and because as gay men, we have little or no inhibitions regarding sex, we can enjoy an active and exciting sex life. I always tell newly out guys to take advantage or your sexual orientation and fuck your brains out! But, always play safe and educate yourself regarding STD’s.
I wouldn’t state categorically that masturbation is a poor substitute for ‘real’ sex. Sometimes it’s exactly what you need, and it can be a superior experience to one with an inferior partner.
When I was younger, I used to say that sex is like pizza– even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. Since then I’ve had a lot of bad pizza.
Decades ago, I couldn’t conceive of going weeks or months without having sex. Now it’s not a big deal.
Quality over quantity works best for me now.
I’ve been in both open and closed relationships. Advantages and drawbacks to both. Honest communication is key in making either succeed.
This sounds like it was written by some hussy who just stepped out of the closet and started banging everything in sight. Monogamy is less exciting than multiple sexual partners cumming in your bed? Whoever wrote this is the worst kind of cliché.
really hard to find good fun consistantly in my caribbean island,especially because I do have a sexual preference,so the pool here is very small,very frustrating to say the least
Love the article,I am definitely the type who loves to cum more than once a day. I a single Bisexual Male who like to meet clean, handsome Men and Women to share my Cream with. I would love to find a Man who love’s the taste of my Huge Cock and Sweet Creamy Loads.
24Kplay
WOW all that just to say that we are happiest when we have sex!
Sounds about right. For me at least
My partner and I had what I thought was an awesome sex life, spontaneous, anywhere and everywhere. Unfortunately monogamy is not for him. After multiple affairs the sex feel like nothing more than a hookup. Still great during the act but left with an empty feeling after the climax. After 10 plus years our relationship is coming to an end.
The quality of my sex life does not exist. There is lots of masturbation and hopefully once a month i might get some sex. I love sex enjoyed by both men and women and do wish I could get more.
Well for me i desire a serious monogamous relationship….however while i actively pursue that……..i do enjoy my myriad of ecounters with men as i explore the depths of my sexual appetite in a safe manner.
I have sex 5 times an hour 3 times a day. homey don’t play.
Great topic!
Far too much pigeon-holing, however. For sure, I’m not going to cover all the options, but here’s a start:
– “the “eye candy” factor is always visible” Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One guy’s Mr. Hotness is another guy’s Not on Your Life. Men come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, ages, etc. THANK GOD! Men are attracted to a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, ages, etc.
– “Most guys can participate in some type of sexual activity at least once a day—more often if your partner/playmate has similar interests.” Some guys are happy/needing three times a day (more if given a chance). Others take it whenever they can get it … with many days (or even weeks) in between because they’re happy to wait until they have a man in their grasp. “Solo” is just not something they can get excited about.
– “If you do not have a playmate with you, then you should masturbate often”. A guy should masturbate as frequently or rarely as he wishes.
— “a poor substitute for your playmate’s hand, mouth or ass.” Is that all? Dude, you’re missing A LOT!
– “males in their early to mid-twenties … they typically masturbate daily—often more than once daily if not with a partner/playmate”. See above. Some wait happily.
Males are divided into two categories:
– 1) “Those males desiring a monogamous relationship with one special partner/playmate.” Some, yes.
– 2) “Those males wanting to enjoy a broad spectrum of playmates.” There are few who still are hooking up with whatever club or truckstop offerings they can find. But there are also those who invite only select few “buds” into their partnered beds. Some only when both partners are present, but also some when either partner is present.
– “In summary, you are usually happiest and most content when you have a stimulating sex life and experience ‘horny conditions’… ” but only those “horny conditions” that match your spectrum of sex-capade desires.
I in my late 50s and have “buds” in a variety of age groups. They encompass a variety of ages, heights, weights, hairiness, etc., etc., etc. I don’t pick by races or ethnicities and am open to all; the area I live in is just not diverse. Most are single; there is one couple that I have the honor of playing with one or both of.
I seem to be getting MORE sex than I ever did in college (except during a two year stint of “dating”.) I generally get to play with one of the buds each week, but sometimes it can be three. Several times a year, several us find an open schedule time that puts several of us together (yee haa!)
I usually try to hold off masturbating for up to three days so when buds do unload me, it’s “fruitful” for them. But hey sometimes I just have to do “what a guy has to do” and unload several days in a row.
So let’s not try to pigeon-hole. Let’s just work on understanding that guys can find guys to play with in WHATEVER capacities they’re all looking for and agree to.
Can’t wait to hear the input on this post!
men are men–bunch of me, me, me…sluts….as long as they get off, doesn’t matter with whom. still single since i can’t find a man that won’t cheat!! so be it.
To 24Kplay
You better come find me and let me be the person your looking for…I can be that person and love it
Even if I had a partner, it would have to be an open relationship.I was just not made to be with one man. Variety is the spice of life!!!
I totally need dick as much as possible. Hell, that’s why I’m on here. I’m always cruising every place I might have any chance of getting fucked, and of course, I jack off constantly. I have a couple regular “lovers” but, I love a variety of dick. And yes I need to cum as much possible.
I’m still in the closet and I have had numerous fucks with men. The mystery of exploring with different guys has been fun to me. When I can’t play with a guy, I still enjoy jerking off 2-3 times a day to release the sexual tension. I have considered finding a fuck buddy, but the right situation has not come up yet.
Sex is more better with Armenians, Latinos, Middle Easterns, Blacks and Whites. Of course bigger cocks is better too. No Ugly Asians Filipinos.
Seldom Sexed Bottom Here…Due In Part To The Shitty Quality And Quantity Of Guys In My Neck Of The Woods. So Fucking Sad(SMH) #Dildos R Boring. Are There Any Other Humanoid Species Of Bi Guys In This Damn Universe Of Good Quality?
I haven’t had sex since right after mom died. Which will be 4 years in Oct. I just haven’t found guys that can rock my world in the bedroom. I tell them upfront condoms are a must. They try to get away without one. I tell them I like to be the bottom. They don’t do anal. I say kissing is a must. They don’t kiss guys. Why bother at this point. Why should I go through the process of making sure I am clean all over, if I am not going to enjoy it and get what I want out of it. So blah. Guess I am in a committed relationship with my right hand.
Well, I have no desire for relationship. I was married (woman) for 20 years. Never stepping out on her, I found myself masturbating 3 times a day and having sex with her several times a week. After I left her I began to explore my homosexual urges. Has been 9 years, now I am 50 130 5’9″ well defined form. I discovered the men my age are pretty much jerks and stuck on themselves or not attractive and unfit. Over the past 9 years I have had a total of 10 men I have been with. All but one was I their 20’s. Fit young under 26. And no I don’t pay for sex. Being the submissive that I am, I have found it much easier to find a fit attractive young man than a fit attractive 40 or 50 somethings. And the younger men are always wanting more and are willing to try new things. Don’t have a problem with good quality sex. Having a few buddies to be with is much better than the same thing in my opinion.
I am not out of the closet, but since I have been playing with other guys, I enjoy the intrigued, excitement of hooking up with somebody different. I have thought about a monogamous relationship, but I enjoy having sex with different men as safely as possible. When I can’t have the sex, for me masturbating 2-3 a day relieves the stress.
Last year, I had eight cream pies in one week. While it was fun, I was a butt fuck fest on my part and hungry bottoms eager for hard big dick. I would go out and practice my flag pose out on a street pole and go back upstairs and bang more ass…I miss my Venice 90291 days now.
This must be written by a 20 year old. At 45 I am lucky if I jack off once a week and damn lucky if I get laid once every 2 months.
Living here in the south in a very conservative small city it’s very difficult to meet men. Gay people are hated here. Im out and its a problem. So the best thing for me is masturbation. And I have found no guy can jerk me off as good as I can. But it’s always been that way. So you do what you have to do.
I keep it simple – and perhaps I’m something of an anomaly in my local area, as a reasonably fit (but certainly no Adonis) 40-something white guy with a 9″ member: I live to get my DNA inside as many horny cum-thirsty bottoms/verse boys and even the occasional top (I powerfucked such a “top” today and dicked him down good…)
I love watching my cock spread a man-cunt open, getting it moist and gaped. And I do it regardless of race – I’ll breed my loads into any fucker who wants it – Black, white, Latino, Asian… (though lately I have taken particular pleasure in breeding my brothers of African descent … blasting my loads in their bubble asses and pushing it in deep)… but really, I don’t care about race. Or age – I’ve bred 18 year olds up to men in their late 50s, and it makes me rock hard knowing I’ve owned their cunts. What’s even more interesting is that I get about twice as many 20-something’s seeking my loads than men my age. Either way, just learn to enjoy sex on your own terms and you’ll go far.
Just WAIT until you testosterone level drops to below 2, like mine did due to medications. Then, you just don’t care anymore. AndroGel et al.? Risk’s a bit high. Oh yeah, I’m still neg, too. Hmmmmm…wonder if the meds had anything to do with THAT? Uhhh, yeah?
It’s a balancing act when you are online and you’re trying to hook up and having three conversations at the same time, hoping that one of them will come to your place. Meanwhile, you are horny as hell and strongly tempted to masturbate but you don’t want to because person x might hookup ad come over. The thinking then is (and it ha happened) that right after masturbating , person x or y NOW wants to hook up. Damn I should have held off a little longer. It’s also embarrassing when someone comes over and you know you’ve jacked off 3 times already but think you can do it again.
im past 40 now but when I was 22 I either got sex or masturbated 8 times a day every day!! Still going strong but not like 8 times
This is infantile.
I’m 52 and I still want sex 3x a day just like when I was freshly out at 17. If I have someone to have sex with that’s AWESOME! If I don’t well, I know me best, so naked time and masturbation it is.
I’ve been in monogamous relationships, I’ve been in open relationships. I have a strong libido. As long as you talk about your wants and needs and assuage any worries your partner might have about seeking sex by yourself or with a different partner, you’ll be fine as long as you let them know it doesn’t affect your feelings or lust for them. That your needs don’t affect the relationship you have with them, you just need other outlets to fulfill yourself without putting additional pressure on them to perform if/when they don’t want to but you do.
I want as much dick as I can possibly get. It’s pretty much all I think about. And I constantly jack off…4 or 5 times a day.
Its very hard to fine s gd honest man r a gd fuck buddy.
had a closed relationship for a awhile, I was happy and so was he, so I thought, he’s moved on and so have I, things are good now, enjoying a active sex life living my role as a top Dom Daddy have been getting my share of younger nice ass n cock, but still looking for the special ONE guy to take it to the next level, would go for a committed relationship, but until I find who makes us both happy, will carry on as it is…. Dean
fisting pretty much ruins a sex life and especially if a recipient starts young as a fisting bottom as well. so many young under 30 guys are getting hardcore into fisting at 25, 20 or 15 even!!
Nothing against those who enjoy it any age and I have tried it as well but there is almost zero sensation from my fists if I’m the fisting top. I am totally vers so have had all kinds of cocks and up to 4 fingers. Would take the cocks jumbo or small hands down over boney hand or fist.
I will fuck the hell out of some of these guys or date whatever and then some of them call me up awhile later and say “I forgot, are you into fisting? Uh no, I have a big cock that gets hard and plenty of guys top or vers I know.”
They must be hanging out with large groups of bottoms or tops who are high and can’t get hard.I just don’t understand it especially with easy to find pills to get most people hard (especially the 15-30 guys) ..
I have fucked guys up to 60 who have been fisted and some feel great.. but I can definitely tell the lifelong frequent both handers and not fun to fuck it all