Dating: Five Tips When Flirting With A Disabled Guy
Here at Adam4Adam, we take pride in the fact that we have a very diverse group of users. African-Americans and Latinos make up the bulk of our non-white users, with Asians, American Indians, Middle Eastern, and Pacific Islanders making up the rest of the site’s demographics.
People with a disability can also be found on the app, with photographer and advocate Robert Andy Coombs being one of the more prominent. And as they’ve revealed in a post we’ve made before — “Speak Out: Would You Say You’re Disabled On A Dating App?” — dating can be pretty tough for someone who isn’t able-bodied.
If you’re an able-bodied person who is also open to dating a person with disability, you might find yourself understandably worried about saying or doing the wrong thing. Here are five tips we can give so you can avoid committing a faux pas.
1. Don’t be offended if they don’t immediately disclose they have a disability.
The gay dating scene is already tough for able-bodied people so you can imagine it being doubly hard for those with disabilities. If they don’t immediately disclose that they have a disability, they probably have a good reason to do so.
2. Don’t say you’re sorry for them.
You might be saying this to sound sympathetic, but you don’t know how that person feels about their disability. It could be something that they’re proud of, or something they’ve learned to love about themselves. You run the risk of sounding condescending just by saying those three words.
3. Don’t ask them how they ended up in a wheelchair.
That question is already invasive on its own, but using that as a conversion starter is particularly heinous. It makes you sound entitled, and doesn’t take into account the fact that the person with a disability may not be comfortable talking about it right off the bat. A better way to go about this would be to say “Is it okay if I ask about your disability?” This way, it’s up to the person with the disability to decide if they are going to talk about their disability or not.
4. Don’t ask them if their dick still works.
Just because someone has a disability that requires them to be in a wheelchair, it doesn’t mean that they have paralysis. Asking this is just as invasive as asking them why they are in the wheelchair in the first place.
5. Ask them how you can make sex good for them.
You should be asking this of all your sexual partners anyway, but it’s especially true for people with disabilities. It shows you’re considerate and interested in what works for them as a person with a disability.
Of course, this isn’t all the tips when it comes to flirting with guys with disabilities. To our Adam4Adam users with disabilities, what other tips can you give? Also for guys with able bodies, have you ever dated a guy with disabilities? If so, please share your experience below.
Flirt means “behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.” Doing that with anyone is bullshit, in my opinion. Don’t be a jackwagon and lead guys on.
If instead of “flirt” we really mean in this blog “Five tips when initially chatting with a disabled guy”, let’s add: 6 Treat Him Like a Man Without Making Issues About His Physical Attributes.
Just as you should with any other guy you initially chat with on a website or face to face.
I am 27% disabled, meaning that you can’t tell from just looking at me that I am different. I walk talk and move just like anybody else. But I live with chronic pain due to a spinal cord injury. The hardest thing is talking about it, but it further strengthens a friendship if people are open to it.
I found your article on dating and disabilities contained good information. Generally speaking there are two types of disabilities, Seen and Unseen. I have a disability that is unseen, Bipolar II Disorder. Having a disability can be uncomfortable whether it is seen or unseen when dating. Being unseen indicates your date has no idea you have a disorder. Depending on your diagnosis the date may not see symptoms. I prefer to mention my disability as soon as I am comfortable with the person and it appears a relationship may develop. The disclosure may be had during the first date or subsequent dates. If you have a disability that you are disclosing you will want the environment to be comfortable and stress free. Don’t give a lecture about your disability, just a brief overview so they are not overwhelmed with information. Provide time for their reaction and encourage questions. If they are overwhelmed provide the option to continue the disclosure in the future. I am not ashamed of my disability. The more comfortable I am with the disclosure the easier it is for them to accept and understand how the disability may affect the relationship. Delaying disclosure gives the illusion that there is an issue of trust, yours and theirs. Finally know most disabilities have support groups for the one with the disability and the significant people in their life.
This reads like five tips for guys who are normally tone deaf, insensitive, morons.
I have dated guys with CP and honestly they are wonderful love makers. They are even more passionate than most of the men I’ve known. Being with a man with a disability you just have to take things a little slower but most of the time the heat is HOTTER.
not all disabilities put a guy in a wheelchair and some disabilities can’t be seen….
What advice would you give to the disabled guy who’s trying to get back into dating, that’s disabled from time in the military? Not every disability is immediately visable that is still a crippling disability, like lung injury, brain injury, spinal/neck injury, and for me, the VERY public thing of needing supplemental oxygen. I have to walk around with a nasal cannula on all day, night, and in between. I feel like I’m a dog on a leash, and when the tubing gets stepped on, or I trip on it myself, I feel like that dog on a leash! How do WE deal with introducing that little turd into the punch bowl? It’s hard enough to find a date, much less one where I have this tube hanging out of my nose and a motor running on a 5lbs portable machine.
I was in VA and this guy invited me over to his place to hook up. We met on adam4adam (thanks guys). He left the door open and I cane in as instructed. He was sitting in a wheelchair in the kitchen. We bs for quite some time. He was wounded as he was a member of the Army. He asked if it bothered me. I said,”does what bother me?” He laughed. He was so cool. He made me feel easy. He was drop dead georgous and I wasn’t leaving without at least checking out the rest of that body. He had a very light racing style wheel chair. Not like one you’d see in a hospital. He got around fine. His arms were AMAZING to say the least. Perfect chest you could pound on. Smoking hot ripped body. Beautiful face. We were heading towards the bed room and he stopped. I stepped beside him and bent down to kiss him. He was about to “let me off the hook, one last time.” I told him wild horses couldn’t drag me out of there. I pick him out of the chair. Not because he needed help but I wanted to hug the fuck out of him. I place him on the bed and I got in. We made out and hands found their way to each other’s cocks. We got undressed as fast as Superman and this guy had the same body. We sucked, 69 for a long time. I positioned him ass up face down and rimmed that ass. He could def feel it as he moaned at the right times. He had a triangle hanging from a chain to get into bed over the bed. After rimming him into a frenzy, I knelt behind him and said,”hey, I’m just gonna play back here if that ok?” He said,”fuck yeah!” I massaged his hole with just the tip for awhile. I was rock hard. I held onto that triangle. And braced myself. He used his arms and pushed back. I fucked him like no tomorrow. He was an amazing bottom. I spent the night. We showered together. And had a lot more sex. It was so hot. The next day we both had of so we went to breakfast, then lunch. Went back to his place and had more sex. Dinner later that night. He cooked. And then more sex. I was there for a month. We hooked up every night. The sex was amazing. We are still best friends. I went to his wedding as a groomsman and maintain a great friendship with him and his husband. I am so glad he is in my life. If I left because his legs didn’t work I’d be the one who was missing out.
I had a fwb who was in a wheelchair. I had grown up with friends in wheelchairs, so I didn’t think anything of it when he disclosed it. He and I had a great connection, and we had hot naked fun in bed. If I had been out, we might very well be married today.
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Such as some of the poorest of living areas of some of the people of that particular region; the towns, the villages, several abandoned cars and military vehicles that were destructively destroyed by the bombings, either by roadside mines or air raids on convoys of vehicles that were supposedly approaching the Heavily Guarded Residence of Sudan Assain —and as life and time prevails to all who dwell on this planet, we do not live forever in these bodies that we currently use to Host or minds and souls …So, let it also be known that He Himself has been destroyed now, In this day and time!!!)( ?) (-Represents ; Camel-Ass : Destroyer of Men and Nations, and even His on People) …Now would you please, Just tell me how Any Red Blooded American have any Love, and especially Heartfelt Feelings of Remorse, Sympathy of a caring nature, that I Wish for and Hope that the Oral Majority of Americans do and would show for their fellow Veterans Mostly (because They along with Myself tha have Served in the Military of these United States of America for which I/ We Stand United together to continue to Protect and Serve in a Respectful Nature for Our Families, Friends, Neighbors and all those unrelated to us that have displayed signs of their very own Needs to Care, and be there in their Own Rights of a Sympathetic Nature to offer their assistance and assurance to try to make things better in the obscure , hard dealings of others and their problematic times of troubling situations and circumstances throughout THIS NATION, WE AS AMERICANS, CALL HOME SWEET HOME !!! (And Trust Me, if you have seen the Living Conditions of the Majority of the Overall European Towns, Cities and Villages Locally. You would Quickly Realize How Blessed and Fortunate You Actually are to Live HERE in this WONDERFUL COUNTRY ,THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA for WHICH IT STANDS), Under God (if you’re an American, You do have the Right to Honor and Praise the Highest Eternal Being of Your Faith to Your Personal Reasons along with others of the same Faith or Alone within your Own self, just Remember to Be True to Yourself as well as others in their beliefs, try not to discriminate against other for who they are or what they are…For You yourself may be Discriminated Against by those you yourself think highly of in other ways, Let It Be Known Here And Now, These Are My Opinions, My Knowledge I’ve Learned and Seen throughout the Span of My 59 Years of Life on this Planet we refer to as Earth !!! I Sincerely Hope that You as the assigned representative for http://www.Adam4Adam,com did take the time to read, give an Honest thought to My Situation and Circumstance , being in the not so very popular aging group of “The Older Gay Man”, that’s very much interested in Quality Sex and Yes, I do still Require a Great Deal of Sex in the Quantity also!!! If You Wish to look and Offer Substantial Changes to My currently Updated Profile , Let Me be Upfront and Honest with now and in the near future of any interactions you should deem neccessary to Enhance Me having a more Professional Profile in Appearance and Detailed to an Interesting Aspect of Looking For A Manley Man that is Responsive Sexually, yet Discreet in Certain Circumstances through Life and the Concerns of other Peoples sense of their ability of understandings,,,
Before closing, let me extend this longer than expected letter of my Eventual Partnership Longing/Searching for a Manley Man, also I usually prefer a Man Taller than Myself,of Average weight size compared to his height or the ability to carry it well , like Ive been told that I do, and that comment, comes from My Nurse and My Doctor at the VAMC&H (Veterans Administration Medical Center & Hospital) @ 1100 Tunnel Road in Asheville,NC!!! WHERE I ATTEND for all My Medical Needs & Supplies thereof that are needed for My well-being and
help of certain healing situations ( basically for the healing process of My Leg, the lower right portion pertaining to my Shin & Ankle Area. FYI (Unless You think You feel the necessity to use any of this info in My Profile, I personally dont see the need for it to be included anywhere in My Profile, but as stated, Im Open to all Your Personal and Even Private Input about Me and or/My Profile as You see fit, in the order and fashionable way of entertaining the type of Man As I have previously listed before and above on numerous occasions …Please Note, even though My pics dont appear to be current, actually they are with-in a knats ass of being almost the same as what I look and appear as now. I know its really amazing, but I do take pride and extensive care of my appearance and the overall appearance of My Body and ASSets as they are My Greatest Attributes in being myself to hold on to my ability and high level if confidence to others, especially when we get the opportunity to visualize on our way to meeting for the 1st time…FIRST IMPRESSIONS are LASTING IMPRESSIONS to Most Men in General from my Experience!!!…! I want to meet for now or eventually long term another Respectful, Respectable Man with the wholesome appearance along with His very own Personable Attitude of a Reasonable Manner with also a vocabulary of candor and knowledge of actually knowing what He is Speaking about in idle conversations with Me or in the company of and or at a Social Gathering in any type of setting ,whether its in a countryside Barn Wedding to A Sut Down Established Fine Dining Dinner Party! Good Ediquite of a Well Bred yet Educated & Established Gentleman Type of Man ( I wouldnt even mind if His overall appearance shined with the style of the Model that just stepped off the Runway or from the Photo Shoot of a GQ Expose’, but on the other hand like Nyself would feel right at Home and comfortable in a T-shirt & jeans/or loubgewear / to sports shorts & and tank top curled up on a couch/sofa or in the Bed with just Me & Him, doing what We Wanted in that Moment and Time just for Our Happiness, (QUALITY TIME to be PRECISE)…PLEASE, Let Me know ASAP if You can Actually Help an Aging Man seeking A Sexual Encounter to build on with Someone that could possibly become Compatible With Me, as I will be Honest and Upfront with Him in Every Aspect of A1 (ONE) NIGHT STAND OR A WEEK IF HE WISHES TO RETURN NIGHTLY FOR MORE INTENSELY PASSIONATE SEXUAL GRATIFICATION Or to Continue even Further ,,,, providing He and I (Both Parties are in Agreement with the ongoing situation)… Thanks For Your Internal Help, I Hope it will be Beneficial for Me to Expand upon as well as for any promising Men that I want to Please and let them achieve to the point of Sexual Satisfaction & Gratification through their Wants, Needs, and Deepest Sexual Desires…. But they must First and Formost Meet All the Requirements Mentioned Above to Qualify for the Long Term Partnership of the Repetative Eternal Long Lasting Love of A LUSTING FASHION,where I dwill have no Stopping Point for My Lust For Their SATISFACTION& GRATIFICATION of Their SEXUAL DESIRES, they might even Refer to Ne ad being Related to The Energiser Bunny!!!
Thanks, Please do what you csn for Ne to still enjoy and also be able to share Ny Talented Sexual Desires of a Passionate, Very Pleasung Man to Honor A Really Nice Manley Man with My Bottom Puortion of My Eager to Please Body of Great Passions of Extensive Eexperience and Great Pleasures until He reaches His Own Personal Satisfaction and need of a restung period of time delay (perhaps to acquire some replenishing sleep in otder to functipn in a couple of hours at His Workplace or job… Let Me know if You can really HELP AN AGING MAN OF 59, actually I dont really feel that the age listed represents My Mental Attitude, My Thoughts that others of that age (The Married Guys) actually have been worn out by the younger activities of any children if any were produced ? The Eternal Nagging from their Wives if allowed or expressed everyday from then , and Even their Jobs to earn money to pay for all their expected educational expenses of grade, junior, high and for some even the technical Schools. For so many others there’s the Higher Educational Levels of achieving Collegiate Degrees for a better start in the lives of the upcoming professional person of Certain Fields of Employment, then there’s the prompted Areas of Military Schooling of which is usually started out at a younger age, because of differences at community schools usually noticed of a child acting out in the early years like in Grade School who is removed, because the teachers and the parents just dont have or take the time to deal with their problem child in most cases. Very few actually attend for the Scholastic Academics that can be achieved through proper channels of learning through Discipline, Respect, Honor, Proper Ediquite, knowing to speak only when spoken to, unless You, Yourself is giving a Speech, or performance that requires You to Speak in order to get You Point across to another person or group of people in General. You know I should have stopped my Schooling many years ago, Eliminating Public Speaking, Extensive Writings, and other invasive subjects that have procured me to retain so much knowledge, that I thought would be useful someday throughout My Life, before it actually came to an end. DEATH!!!! Yep, thats when My thoughts will stop, I’ll write or speak no more. And all those who know Me or have known of Me, will either Miss Me or Rejoice over Me for dying !!! My legacy will be the useful knowledge I leave with those who wanted it, to learn the differences, and the ability to understand what it all means through My Personal Thoughts and Explanations derived from all the extensive schooling and traveling I had Achieved in My Lifetime!!! Perhaps I should start writing my Autobiography through the Anthologies of the above information, before My Death, well heck far, knowing Me and My Lifestyle Ill more than likely live way beyond the 100 year mark which has often been favorable through the extended lives of My Elderly Family Members, that well exceeded that mark in their lifetime of living, actively and alert as well. I remember a Great Uncle that was still said of him having Sex with girls/women in their early fifties down to the upper forties up until 2 years before his passing on (Death @ 112, He smoked and drank Moonshine everyday of His Life He said up to the 2 year mark prior to His Death the following 2 years later, and that was 1 week prior to His Birthday which He would have been the ripe old age of 113…He was always Happy too, one of his Sister the Baby of the siblings, and She said he was the 9th child born living the longest duration of time, and rarely saw a Doctor in His entire Lifetime, but was always sex crazed, since the time She can remember as a teenager when He was at What She thought was His Prime Sexual years in His Middle 30’s, and that was only the beginning of him growing more and more sex crazed . She told me that She vividly remembers His 50th Birthday Party, at the ending of the event that was like the Social Gathering for the Entire Town to turn out for, 5 of his Older Brothers each paid for a different working girl to stop by at different times throughout the rest of the evening as their present to Him from the Older Brothers, for Me I only remember meet only for a short time 2 of the Older Brothers at Uncle Bob’s 60th Birthday Party, where Uncle Bob approached Me and My Dad’s Sister’s Oldest Son, about My same age, that we should know of some Older Women that would like to come visit Him for a Rifling Good Ole Time in the Barn up in the Hay Loft for more Privacy , With His Request came a time frame…Please make sure They can go at it and take it fast and hard for a minimum of at least 3-4 hours, for me to really enjoy My Birthday!!! We actually got a late start going into 3 nearby towns to locate the local working girls still on the streets at 8:00pm to come to His place around 11:00 or Right Now as His instructions were very clear in order for My Cousin and I to recieve $100 cash from Him (Uncle Bob) for the cost of the woman in the age range of 35- 50 so She would have enough energy and stamina to endure a good ole pounding from our Great Uncle who was Well Blessed with a Huge, Long, & Fat Cock to use in working women only, there the only ones that would go for it, poor old Uncle Bob couldnt keep a Girlfriend more than a week at the most, He loved having Sex so much and the Good Girls in His area of the Mountains ( All Family Members on that darn Mountain), so She came with Me as the 8:00pm delivery Girl in order to get her fee of $35.00 for 3-4 hours if hard intense Sex with Uncle Bob to get what She was working for that evening so she would have enough money to pay her rent on the far side of town where no-one ever went to for the fear of being raped, molested, and or even beaten-up or robbed, heck, both of the last two could happen if they wanted money as well, but the thugs would most always take your jewelry, cause they could trade that at their liquor store in their community for the almighty alcholic beverage of their choice without any questions ever ask as to where it came from ever period…
It’s amazing that I just found this article! I had a doctor’s appointment a few days ago and the receptionist there is a man in a wheelchair. I’ve been going to the same doctor for years and the first few visits I didn’t even realize he was in a wheelchair. I’ve always thought he was attractive and we have enjoyable friendly conversations even though it’s just small talk. On this last visit he seemed very flirty and much more attentive to me than during previous visits. He really caught my attention this time and I’ve been thinking about him ever since. His being in a wheelchair doesn’t matter to me. I would date him if there’s actually something there between us and it’s not just my imagination. Him being in a wheelchair would not matter to me. I am honestly concerned about the sex though. But I would deal with that when it comes to that.
I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder chronic depression anxiety. I also am deaf in my left ear have arthritis in my legs and epileptic seizures and I am hiv undetected. Yes to some I may be broken but I dont let any of my health issues stand in my way I continue to push myself and overcome the stigmas and judgement that is prevalent in the gay community, Life has tried so many times to break me and one thing I do know I will not break. I have been single since 2008 and I have tried dating and get rejected over the whole hiv thing and its scary when your fighting the battle alone and people judged you with out knowing the real you. I can honestly say the somewhere along the way humanity and dignity have been stripped away from society and there is no morals or grace left in the heart of man. It saddens me I am only 31 years old I have seen more than my fair share of hate and violence but also seen very little of kindness in life. I am not broken and realized that I don’t need anyone to be happy I am perfectly fine with being alone I am comfortable in my skin in me life and very happy with what I can do and any man who tries will have to prove themselves to me trust is not easy love is not easy and neither is life. You make it what it is you want and try very hard to stay positive.