Sexuality: Five Tips For Giving Head
When it comes to gay sex, there are so many things one can do to make the session memorable. But one of the basic things any self-respecting gay guy should have in his sexual arsenal is the ability to give good — if not great — head. If done well, giving head could be the start of a really hot and heavy fuck session. If done excellently, you might blow your partners mind just from your skills at giving head alone.
Whether you feel your skills at giving head could use some improvement, or if you’re a sexual newbie looking for pointers, we’ve got your back. Check out our give tips on how to give great head.
1. Focus on the frenulum
If you’ve touched your dick in a sexual manner before, you’re probably already aware of the frenulum, even if you may not always know that’s what it is called. The frenulum is the underside of the head of the penis, and it is a very sensitive spot for a lot of men. Don’t be afraid to use this to your advantage. Don’t just swallow that dick whole hog. Flick that frenulum with your tongue, kiss it, suck on it. You’ll have your partner begging you to take in all of his cock in no time.
2. Pay attention to how his dick reacts
The time for dirty talk isn’t when you’re giving your partner head — the fact that your mouth is full of dick should have tipped you off. What you should do instead is listen to him and his body. If he tells you what feels good, keep on doing it. If he’s not the talkative type, pay attention to how his dick reacts. Is it throbbing in your mouth? You’re doing good. Is it leaking pre-cum down your throat? You’re doing great.
3. Don’t be afraid to get sloppy
Forget your inner neat freak for once and let your spit dribble down his dick. Not only does it look hot, but it will feel better for your partner and make it easier on you as well.
Take note that your mouth will dry out at some point while you’re giving head, so don’t be afraid to take a break and collect yourself, in a manner of speaking. You could rub his dick on your face in the meantime, or have him spit on his dick or in your mouth.
4. It’s okay to gag on it
Not everyone can deep throat, and it’s okay if you can’t. If you’ve got a considerate partner, they will let you work on their dick slowly so you don’t choke on it. Plus, if you’re fine with a little bit of roughness, some guys actually find it hot when a guy gags on their dick. Just make sure the gagging is consensual!
5. Don’t be afraid to push yourself
Unless you’re going out with a douchebag, most guys will be okay if you can’t take them all the way into your mouth. That said, it shouldn’t be a reason for you to be complacent. If it isn’t a one-time thing, try to take more and more of your partner’s cock whenever you hook up. And just like the previous tip said, don’t be afraid to choke on it because that can actually end up being hot.
If there’s one thing to keep in mind when it comes to this tip, it is that you should also listen to your body as well. You could traumatize the tissues at the back on your throat, so while you shouldn’t be afraid to push your body, you should also be realistic as to how much you can really take.
These are just a few tips on how to improve your head game. Adam4Adam readers, do you have any other tips you’d like to share? Tell us all about it in the comments section below. Don’t be afraid to make it as detailed as you want!
I love these “how to suck a cock” bits whenever I see them. The fact is that with so many sizes, cut and uncut, old and young that 5 easy steps simply is not a cure all. Sucking cock well is a skill that is learned over time.
That’s some true but not all bc I have a fwb that absolutely CAN NOT suck a cock my cock that is lol. Extremely nice guy and friend with a nice size cock but do a terrible job at sucking. I’ve been known him for over 10 years and still not doing it right. However he said I did an amazing job every single time ❤️
I know a guy like this. Just puts my dick in his mouth like a thermometer and leaves it there as I feel his teeth touching my cock. Terrible. But he has a thick awesome cock so I deal with it.
Don’t forget his balls ! ! ! Personally, I love my nut sack teased & licked and my balls sucked. I’ve run across several guys who share that attraction. If you can get both of his nuts in your mouth at once, give a moan. The vibration feels good for the guy getting sucked and it let’s him know you enjoy it.
Another reason for a break from sucking is some stimulation of the taint. Lick it, rub it with your beard, nibble it gently, or not so gently. Experiment until someone says stop.
Go with the curve. If his cock has a downward curve then I find it easier to be on my knees and him standing, upward curve then 69, straight cock then lay on the bed with my head hanging off making my throat as straight as possible.
This is how I learned to deep throat.
And it’s much easier ( for me) to to deep throat a cock that reaches past my gag reflex than one that just hits it.
And stop watching porn for your cues on how to give head.
There is nothing worse than someone using their hand like a milkmaid. Learn how to tighten your lips. Learn how to loosen your throat. Use your tongue. If you played a wind or brass instrument, you know how to do a lot of this already.
And it’s a blowjob, not a variant of a handjob. Stop being lazy and using your hand to do all the work. Your mouth isn’t there to provide lubricant for the hand.
As Samantha said on that odious show about four gay men in NY, “It’s not called a job for nothing.”
Most important, swallow all the cum. He not pulling out and neither should you
Here’s another tip. Don’t eat too much before hand. Spit and throat slim is hot but puke is not. Can’t wait to find the next hung guy in Tucson to suck.
One size does not fit all…which seems to be the timbre of your advice and mindset with your forum topics and general outlook.
Having said that…some guys don’t like teeth dragging on their cock; some uncut guys like the foreskin manipulated, or moved back; fast or slow action? Read the guy’s reactions to your moves, and adjust accordingly.
Every body is DIFFERENT. And that is what makes life interesting.
When the guy is about to cum, let him shoot it in your mouth. I know some guys don’t like to swallow, but I love it when a guy swallows all my load and i love swallowing all of his too.
Ugg sounds hot but what about diseases ? Please give some thought about this. I want to know if swallowing cums is safe at all. I read and heard that it’s not safe. Sorry for asking
There is some slight risk of disease or HIV with oral sex, but it is much (very much) lower than anal sex. The turn on though is worth every bit by swallowing cum. The idea of having his cum inside of me and mine in him is a way of sharing our love for each other. It also turns me on by swallowing his pee, and he swallows mine. Urine doesn’t really carry much as far as diseases either. Having his piss and cum inside of me sort of makes a bond between the two of us. The idea that the cum and pee will go through our digestive systems excites me, as I will be pissing out his cum and urine and he will be taking care of mine. I love sharing!
When I start giving head I always go slow and take my time to work on the head before i go all the way down. I luv to lick and suck on the head and can feel the whole cock respond to my touch. I must admit that when i start sucking cock i go into a trance and all i can think and feel is that cock in my mouth. the taste and feel is all so good that if i could just swallow the whole thing it would be in me 100 percent. I luv sucking cock and taking a nice thick load down my throat. it feels so good pumping into my mouth i really work for every drop. I dream of sucking cock all the time. if you need to you can spread my cheeks and give me you load that way too. I am a hungry cocksucker and a very horny bottom.
Nice article. Couple things that I enjoy doing is 1) switching things up constantly like deep throating, then sucking hard, then not so hard, then using only my tongue and 2) swirling my tongue around as I have most of the dick in my mouth. This one can be a bit of a challenge, but gets easier with practice. One thing that I can’t stand & don’t do is make a lot of slurping noises while giving head… it’s not cute & annoying AF!! I’ve noticed that most guys really like it when you slap your face with their dick. Not sure why & never bothered to ask, just noticed how much harder they would get when I’d do it.
The five steps given are fine. They’re for giving “good” head. Let’s talk about “GREAT” head.
There’s more to a blow job than swallowing a cock ferociously until a guy shoots. It’s important to remember that the cock is only part of the equation.
1. Start slow. The frenulum is a good place to start, yes. But start with light stroking of your partner’s cock, balls, pubes, inner thighs with your fingers. Feel free to move below his balls with your fingers and gauge his reaction. (If he reacts positively, what he does and what your can do can be saved for the next time you meet!)
2. After some fingering, spend serious time on his tip with your lips and tongue. Lick the hole and work your lips along its edge. If you have facial hair, use it. He will for sure let you know if he likes to be “bristled”. If so, take your time bristling around his tip in between periods of serious lip work. Most guys I know find this a delight.
3. After several minutes, work up and down the sides of his cock with your lips, alternating the top, bottom and sides as you go. Add bristling if he likes it. (I’ve yet to find a guy who told me to stop!)
4. Explore his ball sack. Many cocksuckers ignore this part. Lightly suck it in and out of your mouth, a small portion at first. Then work you way to including his balls, one by one. Be gentle here! Most guys’ balls need to be treated gently. Allow his cock to rub against your face as you suck his sack. Feel free to let your tongue probe below his balls. See how he reacts. (Again, if he reacts positively, what he does and what your can do can be saved for the next time you meet!)
5. After a while, slowly work you way back up to the tip of his cock, repeating everything at least once as you go.
6. OK, so now … give the first 5 tips in this blog a go!
7. When you partner is ready to cum, be sensitive to whether he needs you to keep thrusting his cock and sucking him, or if he needs you to slow down and be gentle, or even stop. Ideally, you asked him about this AHEAD OF TIME! “When you cum, what do you need?” Most guys just need you to slow down a lot once they shoot and bring them in for a happy landing. When allowed, I do that, and gently suck and tongue them until their cock softens and is drained. Once their done, I’ll lick and kiss a bud’s cock and balls gently while he spends a few minutes recovering. And my rule here is if a guy sucks and swallows my cum, or me him and his, the reward is a good slow, long kiss.
The overriding rule is … take you time. This can be hard for “cum and done” hookups. That’s a choice you and your partner make. Most guys I know usually prefer to make the experience last.
For sure, guys here will have their own additions for giving great head. Bring them on!
I roll my tongue while i suck deep in a cock. I also flick my tongue tip into the shaft opening.
I LOVE giving head and my partners don’t mind a little gagging..I am getting better at taking more cock in my throat!
Making low bass like humming moans usually make a vibrating feeling as you’re deep-throating. It’s one of my sucking techniques.
When deepthroating learn to breathe through your nose. It feels incredible when the head of his dick is that far down your throat. By breathing through your nose you maximize the amount of time he feels absolutely amazing!
Doesn’t the dick block the trachea when you deep throat? How can you breath through your nose if the trachea is blocked?
I don’t think you can breathe through your nose with a cock down your throat!
Kudos by the detailed responses most of you like me actually KNOW how to appreciate it when a man lets you suck his cock by the way you treat him.
It’s not a race just to make him shoot. Realize for some it’s all about wanting his cum in your mouth and down your throat but it SHOULD be about his pleasure and giving your all. This is true especially if you expect a repeat or something potentially regular. Impress him and make him WANT to be in your mouth all the time, have him thinking about how amazing you made him feel and how hard he ejaculated from what you did to him. Otherwise he’ll most likely find someone else next time if it was nothing to write home about.
Some guys are turned on by the anticipation the tease of what’s to come. If he lets you undress him from the waist down, unbuckle his belt, pull down his jeans, but not his underwear. Put your mouth around his cock and balls through his underwear. Let him feel the heat from your breath. It’s a good way to start to work him up to full erection before you pull down his underwear and free him from it’s confines.
Kiss the head of his cock and run your lips or tongue across the underside and even along the length of the top of his shaft. Don’t forget the balls btw too many guys just think they hang there for decoration lol.
Try to be sensual being your probably exploring him for the first time. Basically I guess you could say I make love to another man’s cock with my mouth.
I find guys enjoy having their inner thighs or legs caressed as you suck them or let your hands travel around their crotch or through their pubic hair.
One thing I love to do is be between a guy’s legs, reach under his thighs encouraging him to bend his legs at the knees feet planted on the bed. Hold onto the back of his thighs as you suck him. A lot of times involuntarily he will start to lift his hips off the bed and start to thrust into your mouth as you are going up and down on his cock which is a big turn on.
As was said when a man cums and normally you can tell it’s reached that point, slow down as his orgasm starts. Simply run your tongue along the underside of his shaft as he’s ejaculating until he’s finished. I think it’s hot as hell personally to feel that throbbing against my tongue. Normally when a guy I’m sucking is cumming I’ll have his balls in my hand and gently stroke them as this goes on. Don’t increase the suction or speed up and down his shaft because he will already be super sensitive and it doesn’t feel good to be overstimulated. With some guys so much so they will want to get your mouth off of them asap because it’s too much. Instead you want him to come down from his orgasm and be totally relaxed when your done.
Probably the best overall advice I could give is to treat his cock the way you would enjoy having yours treated and what you love having done to you.
Jake, if you ever find yourself in Tucson I’d love to find your mouth on my cock.
forget the first section, that is absolute crap. Way too many guys spend WAY too much time on the end of your cock. A statement from a college friend comes to mind, stop messing with the head & suck the cock! Really if you need advice how to suck cock you might as well give up. faster, slower, watch your teeth, & don’t stop, are really the only instruction you should ever need. sloppy for the most part means less friction & less sensation. The bullshit about guys being better cocksuckers than women is just that. I fucked a lot of women & they all were great cocksuckers. I can’t say the same for an awful lot of men. Hands also have no business being involved, that’s called a handjob. you should be using your hand to hold on to a guy’s balls. One last thing if you are answering an ad to get your cock sucked & it says you won’t be disappointed, you will. Most guys who feel the need the need to brag about their skills most likely will have a 7 inch cock 2 inches shorter then my 7 inch cock.
The biggest turnon is when a guy lives for being sucked and watches and gives direction. I need him to know how much I love giving him pleasure and need nothing in return. Swallowing every drop is the ultimate reward.
Try to swallow his dick and balls at the same time.Once you perfected that,you will become a legend.Trust me,I can do it.
I luv doin oral and I luv givin deep oral haven’t had many problems with gagging either,just do it nice and slow and you’ll have a good time and so will he.
I always suck cock with dentures out. Initially, they have no clue and then you get an “Oh my God”. Long and slow, tongue around the head, licking the balls and ball sack. Instant cummers happen when I have two cocks in my mouth. You will get the Oh wows and great moans.
Without the dentures, there is so much more room for pleasure. On occasion, I have had three cocks in my mouth but the stature of those being sucked was on the thin side.