Fantasy: Anonymous Sexual Encounters
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Hey, guys! Anonymous sex—how do you really feel about it? Do you love it? Why or why not? Do you find it hot or not? Do you fantasize about it a lot but you’ve never acted on that fantasy? Whyever not?
PsychCentral says that the psychology behind the fantasy is the enjoyment of the “feeling of being a sexual object and/or using others as sexual objects – without strings” brings. The site added that it is the “commitment that only lasts for as long as the sex act itself” that attracted people to anonymous sex. PsychCentral further explained this is “especially true for those already in committed or marital relationships,” people who are “seeking quick and easy sex on the down-low.”
Are these things true for you?
Whatever the case is, we’d like to emphasize the importance of safety be it from violence or about our health, or even our privacy. Whether or not you have already tried anonymous sex in the past or maybe you’re contemplating to do so in the future, it pays to always read and bear in mind A4A’s Safety Tips which you can read here.
That being said, we’d like to know how you truly feel about anonymous sex encounters. Do you fantasize about it a lot? What is it that you find hot about it? Have you ever acted on your fantasies or do you like to err on the side of caution instead? Share your thoughts and stories with us in the comments section below.
A few years ago I was in Pittsburgh on business I was in my room and checked out Adam4Adam the location feature said there was a guy who was 20 feet away from me. I immediately sent him a message he got back with me quickly but had to go to dinner with some coworkers. When he got back to the hotel he sent me a message. I gave him my room # and told him the door would be unlocked and the lights would be off the tv would be the only light source on. He came up I heard the door open I was naked with my ass in the air and my face in a pillow. He came in and started eating my ass. Then he started jacking my cock and fingering me. Then he lubed his cock and my ass and slid his rod in me. He fucked me like mad then changed positions a few times, always from behind so I couldn’t see his face. I shot my load into the sheets while he fucked me. My ass clenching on his cock was the final straw and he climaxed with his dick inside me. He then collapsed on me and stayed inside me till he was soft. After he relaxed he got up kissed my ass got dressed and went back to his room. I never saw his face and he didn’t have a profile pic. We did it again a few days later. I have no clue what he looks like or what his name is
WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous sex is basically the only sex I engage in these days
Anonymous spontaneous sex has been the best fucking sex I’ve ever had. It is strangely uninhabited and primal. If people weren’t so uptight all the time it could happen so much more often….
Mine was on a picnic table in the dusk in a back yard–I came around the corner and this cowboy-like dude was waiting for me in the nude. I normally top, but this guy started kissing me and I quickly turned into putty. I soon was on my back and was oblivious to anyone that could have been watching. Not only that, but a real light rain started, and that just seemed to add to the magic of the evening.
Im a married mil guy and am very much into anon play. Im a top and alot of mil bases are small, so I leave no room for drama. I have a btm that Ive been banging for a year and he has never seen my face. I either wear a mask or we leave lights dim/ off. Its so hot and we have fun each time we meet. We meet, fuck, cum, and part ways. Alot of guys are not into this, but Ive never had issues getting guys to agree to it.
I like anonymous hookups mainly the search on various websites and apps for the guy you like that will actually come through. Then have sex. It’s the excitement that can last for hours trying to find someone..almost ritualistic.
It turns different after the orgasm, the awkwardness and then an empty and lonely feeling. Maybe it’s just me.
Sometimes you meet someone that ends up hanging out and showing interest and then never hear from them again. It’s depressing.
I love these type of hook ups. The butterflies of the first kiss and touch. The not knowing is a turn on. Getting hard and holding off load for as long as possible. Fantasize about it often, live it frequently. Yummo
Ass up anon fuck and go, is the hottest!!!
Are dangerous and stupid period
I am married she doesn’t know that I love having sex with men. I’m a bottom who rarely gets fucked but every day I fantise be fucked by multiple men getting filled with their cum. They must be disease free. I find it hard to be able to meet because of my being married
Definitely hard to meet when you’re married…they’re out there though…I feel you on that
I hear you. That’s why I take I take at least 2 vacations a year by myself. There are times when I need to be around men who think, act & feel like I do.
I am married as well and I do the same; go on a “business” trip once or twice a year just to be around men and have Safe sex with anonymous men.
I have anon sex many times and actually prefer it due to the fact of not wanting a relationship and just like the fact of getting people off
I think that it’s something you do when you’re just “coming out” or exploring your sexual being, finding out what you like sexually, learning how to give and get. As an experienced person, once you’ve done all the playing around-“sowing-your-oats”, if you’re progressing mentally; ideally, one starts to look for someone that’s a good match. To date and take thing further, a relationship of “exclusivity” two people who find each other special. Sadly enough, these things seemingly have become taboo, not cool or out-of-style, at least all too often anyway. I think it does great harm, not to know what its like to “love and be loved” and everything that goes with it, ’cause its not all fun and games, its about making thing work, resolution and thing like that, which involve “maturity.”
If, you happen to be between relationships, I think its fine, but then again, its better if you keep them far and few in between, those one “night stands.” Sometimes, you need to have a more “feel better session”, to simply feel fully human; touch-feel someone, some physical intimacy.
However, we all know that these things all to often, are addicting, yep, another type of addiction, that is all too prevalent these days, it another disease or sickness. In these cases, its something to be overcome, you gotta be honest with yourself, if you happen to suffer this. All other areas of your life are adversely affected, just like with drugs, actually….
Oh dude that is all so true. It’s fun for a while but then it seems to start getting old. It’s just like porn, when you first got your hands on some it was so hot to look at those hot pinup guys/boys or watch them getting it on with each other. But sadly after some time it starts to get a little stale and that special “Boing” to your senses has faded abit .
Single male in my 20s here. I’ve fantasized about anonymous sex for a long time. To me it’s not about the commitment of it, it’s the mystery of it all for me. I also have rape fantasies, so I also like the thought of having my control over everything taken away.
For me, anonymous encounters are like cotton candy, renting an apartment, or wearing the latest trendy clothes. They’ll all well and good, but there’s nothing enduring about them. For guys who are wired for them, they’re perfect. Me? I prefer to get to know the guy with whom I getting very up close and personal. I like to know more about him than how he operates “on the workbench”. It’s more sexually satisfying to know something about his career, family, social platform, beliefs etc. And even more sexually satisfying to get to know him over time and learn what makes him moan and groan when it comes to sex.
I like the way u operate 😉
I was in Chicago near Wrigley and was staying with family and i logged onto a4a and saw a guy was 2 blocks away face down and ass up. I was instantly horny and i made an excuse to go take a walk. I buzzed the door and he let me in. He was already naked and lubed so i pulled out my hard cock and slid it in raw for 2-3 pumps and then put on a condom and blew a huge load. I then got dressed and left. It was hot!!!
They just may be now more than ever these days. Times have most certainly changed alot dude! Not just with stds but also with this homophobia waking up it’s ugly butt no thanks to these hate groups besides some stupid ignorant school kids!
My anxiety gets the best of me I always think it’s a good idea until I’m having a panic attack on my way to get blown by some Twinkie I met on here or grindr!!!! I either need more 420 or more alcohol to not be such a prude plus I always have this vision of someone slashing my throat or beating me and leaving me for dead I live in a small town so there’s a lot of close minded people around!!!!
Yea, i am a big anon sex scene fan. As a top I enjoy the NSA part of it but it is also a matter of control and dominance. They don’t know me, can’t judge me, they are just a sex object used for my pleasure.
The only times i caught an STD were from anonymous hook-ups, even with a condom. Same goes for putting my dick in a GH… never again.
I like anon sex for the same reasons most of the guys here do. I also have a couple of buddies that I meet with on the regular, some are married and some are not. We’ve come to know each other better over the years but we understand that, when it all comes down to it, it just sex. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Bi married here. I love the anonymous encounter, but I love the familiar better. One of my fuck buds is on A4A, but the other is not. Guess which one I feel safer with, have BB’d with? The one not on here. Stupid, and risky, maybe. But I trust him. The only thing I trust about the other guy is that he plays around.
TL;DR, I like annon, but I love those I know and trust.
Bi Marries on DL here.
Hooking up is never easy but always sought after.
I chat here trying to find just the right friend that will make everything perfect.
Found this chat bud here that sounded too good to be true, which made me very jumpy and nervous. He and his partner liked to have anon Thresomes.
It was all so exciting and desirable but also so scary.
One day he contacted me telling me that his partner would be away and that it would be ok with him if I came by. I was to walk into his house make it to his room, strip butt nake and put this hood over my head that would only have holes for my mouth and nose.
En as I write this I can’t believe I did this but sometimes after a while I just can’t stand it anymore and have to do something.
So I went to his place and did as told and layed down on his bed.
I heard the door open and felt him come in the room and his hands on me. I was moved around on the bed so that my head would hang over the edge. He had told me he was Big etc but my mouth could discern that he was not making up stories about that.
He quickly put me on all fours and got a firm grip on me around my thighs.
He was not hung, he was a Monster but it got delivered over again in a way I had never enjoyed before or since.
We played one more time before he moved away but even thought it is been years we still chat here and keep each other up on where we are in our lives
Bi married guy here on the DL. I travel a lot for business and usually get back to the room late after a work dinner. I love putting up ads on Craigslist for dark room anon ass up safe sex action. I jam the do not disturb door hangar in the lock so all they have to do is push the door open and come in. I leave condoms and lube on the nightstand but most of the times the guys don’t use it. I get extra hard and excited when i feel them slide a raw cock in me and blow a load deep in my gut. I think the danger and risk is what gets me off now. Been doing this for 3 years now and so far nothing bad has happened.
Anonymous hookups can be a lot of fun, especially in an arcade booth or theater. The one thing I worry about a lot is picking up “bugs”. I feel a lot safer in an adult theater or booth, as I’d be a lot less likely to be assaulted, robbed, or hurt. If I meet at someone’s house or apt. I really want to know more about him first or I would get very nervous, not knowing what I’m getting into. However there is a lot more to being gay or bi. It’s not just about the sex, it’s about the love, care and feelings for each other as well. My BF and I both have anonymous sex. We both respect the idea, but still have a very close attachment with each other. We do many other things as well, and would do just about anything for each other.
it is the only thing I do as I am not looking for a lover or bf or any type of committed relationship. we may see each other faces but its still anonymous for me I don’t ask or want to know their name and if they ask mine I use my profile name which is not my real name so for me its totally anonymous and that’s what I like about it. I am only looking for sex to get off and have him get off as well. we both feel good and get dressed and go our separate ways.
Married as well and long for guy time. My infrequent travels help quench some of my desires, but I’m always on the lookout for an impromptu anonymous rendezvous. So love to intertwine our bodies as we pursue mutual enjoyment. Absolutely love that feeling of a hard throbbing cock gliding in me!
Every month or so I check into a hotel room in a predominantly Latin or black area and post on cl white slut for use… I leave door unlocked and invite guys to use my holes… I leave condoms out but most don’t use them,, they also like using other guys cum for lube… I know its reckless but I can’t help myself sometimes…
I have had lots of anonymous sex in theatres. Usually on adam or craigs or silver daddies i will talk to the guy for a while, sometimes months, so they are more like fuck buddies. but nevertheless i have only known the last name of one of the many hundreds of men i have been with.
ps nothing hotter than sex after only talking on line about 10 mins. many never are repeated but i have met many great fuck buddy friends that way and been with them on and off for years. that’s what is so hot about it, you never know what you are going to get. also the hunt, the chase, very hot.
Anon or very little talk and lots of action is Hot! After a few nice chat sessions about my interest included a few pics back and forth. I was definitely nervous at first but he assured me that he knew exactly what I needed and everything would be ok, he said several things that really made me feel comfortable so I decided to host for the first time which lead to plans to continue our conversation in person.
I’m in to this only for the moment, I’m not looking to find a relationship, I only want to escape from reality for a moment and enjoy pleasures from the unknown. This makes it difficult to find the right playmate.
The plan was for him to pull up out front of my place, I greet him at the door wrapped in a towel from just coming out of the shower, I was going to lead him to the shower but he said something in a low calm voice that made me a little warm down below I kinda forgot what I was suppose to do. He begins to undress as he was checking out my big sleeping bag laid out in front of my big screen tv where I had some really hot porn playing for our play time. He told me to relax, sit back and watch the video so I did. As I was kinda looking at the tv and trying to check him out he asked me if I like what I see and I said in a quite nervous voice, yes I do… ( and I did in deed ) he had this really nice cock all smooth and freshly shaved from what I could see, at this point I was nervous and starting to get a little warm inside. He came over and sat down in the edge of the couch where I was leaning up against facing the tv and he took his foot pushed my towel to the side so my cock was now out where he could see, he then dropped down on his knees right up next to me with his cock resting on my shoulder, ohhhhh I could really see his cock now, he starting telling me that if I wanted to touch it I could and whatever else I wanted to do…Sooooo I rubbed my cheek along his cock and slowly worked it into my mouth a little, he slowly moved around a bit so now I could have a better angle on his cock which I really liked how he was basically feeding me,.. Now just so you know this is the 2nd time I’ve had a cock in my mouth. He was using my mouth real easy just barely moving in and out as he was telling me that this it’s what I wanted and he leaned forward and said here breath this in as he took a big breath in of what he had in his hand, so I did and then something happened… I found myself really enjoying what I was doing, this went on for probably 15 minutes then he pulled away from me and moved over in front of me just a few feet away, he grabs my ankles and pulls me down so I’m on my back, he leans over me with his body on mine rubbing our cocks together slowly nibbling on my neck and he says here get another one of these and after he did, well so did I.. He then starts kissing my chest and stomach all the way down till he had my cock in his mouth, ohhh my goodness this felt so good that I began to squirm a little, next thing I know is he has me pulled up a little and he’s rimming my ass like I’ve never had it done before, it felt incredible! He continued to pleasure my ass for several minutes, I know I was all over the place with pleasures unknown. He then comes up in top of me and pulls me down a little to where he’s over my chest and his beautiful cock was now just hanging down with the head barely touching my lips,… I could not believe how much this really turned me in so I began to such his cock into my mouth, I think how he wasn’t forcing anything but simply putting his cock where it needed to be and doing things at the right way was perfect that I thought this was going well.. Until what happened next, he slowly pulled his cock out of my mouth and moved back down to rub our cocks together, he whispered in my ear how hot I was and it felt real good with his cock in my mouth, folks…I was melting here and knew I’m about to blow and when that happens I’m basically down with “the moment” and I was not wanting this to end yet.. He whispered in my ear how he would love to fuck me if that’s something I would let him do, he already knew that I’m not into pain or discomfort but to answer his question I said I’m not sure, he assured me that he won’t cause any pain, (hell……who was I kidding I was so hot at that moment I think I was just holding on to a bit of reality and trying to be safe) he puts on a rain coat and begins to lift my waist up with his hands and pulls me up to where I can feel his cock right at my inviting hole, he’s slowly moving up and down and side to side, in then out .. I’m moving around some myself and it was hot! This went on for 15, 20 minutes and he was not in me yet, I took it upon myself this time and reached over to his little magic bottle and I held it up to his face and he took the biggest breath and I followed … I could feel every inch of him as he slowly side his cock inside me and it felt sooooo good, he just slowly pushed in and stayed in one place,.. As I’m experiencing this for the first time it wasn’t so bad I thought to myself so I began to pulse back and forth against his cock and I found myself fucking him from underneath… I was doing all the work and he was just kissing on my neck and holding my waist up (which helped support my body) off the ground as I did everything I could to ride that cock from that position.. We stayed like that bit a while, lost track of time and I didn’t care… After that we where but ready to explode so he began to slowly pull out he removed his rain coat off and put our cocks together in his hands, he stroked for about 2, 3 minutes and we both covered my stomach, which is gross by the way but this time it was pretty hot..
After a few nice chat sessions about my interest included a few pics back and forth. I was definitely nervous at first but he assured me that he knew exactly what I needed and everything would be ok, he said several things that really made me feel comfortable so I decided to host for the first time which lead to plans to continue our conversation in person.
I’m in to this only for the moment, I’m not looking to find a relationship, I only want to escape from reality for a moment and enjoy pleasures from the unknown. This makes it difficult to find the right playmate.
The plan was for him to pull up out front of my place, I greet him at the door wrapped in a towel from just coming out of the shower, I was going to lead him to the shower but he said something in a low calm voice that made me a little warm down below I kinda forgot what I was suppose to do. He begins to undress as he was checking out my big sleeping bag laid out in front of my big screen tv where I had some really hot porn playing for our play time. He told me to relax, sit back and watch the video so I did. As I was kinda looking at the tv and trying to check him out he asked me if I like what I see and I said in a quite nervous voice, yes I do… ( and I did in deed ) he had this really nice cock all smooth and freshly shaved from what I could see, at this point I was nervous and starting to get a little warm inside. He came over and sat down in the edge of the couch where I was leaning up against facing the tv and he took his foot pushed my towel to the side so my cock was now out where he could see, he then dropped down on his knees right up next to me with his cock resting on my shoulder, ohhhhh I could really see his cock now, he starting telling me that if I wanted to touch it I could and whatever else I wanted to do…Sooooo I rubbed my cheek along his cock and slowly worked it into my mouth a little, he slowly moved around a bit so now I could have a better angle on his cock which I really liked how he was basically feeding me,.. Now just so you know this is the 2nd time I’ve had a cock in my mouth. He was using my mouth real easy just barely moving in and out as he was telling me that this it’s what I wanted and he leaned forward and said here breath this in as he took a big breath in of what he had in his hand, so I did and then something happened… I found myself really enjoying what I was doing, this went on for probably 15 minutes then he pulled away from me and moved over in front of me just a few feet away, he grabs my ankles and pulls me down so I’m on my back, he leans over me with his body on mine rubbing our cocks together slowly nibbling on my neck and he says here get another one of these and after he did, well so did I.. He then starts kissing my chest and stomach all the way down till he had my cock in his mouth, ohhh my goodness this felt so good that I began to squirm a little, next thing I know is he has me pulled up a little and he’s rimming my ass like I’ve never had it done before, it felt incredible! He continued to pleasure my ass for several minutes, I know I was all over the place with pleasures unknown. He then comes up in top of me and pulls me down a little to where he’s over my chest and his beautiful cock was now just hanging down with the head barely touching my lips,… I could not believe how much this really turned me in so I began to such his cock into my mouth, I think how he wasn’t forcing anything but simply putting his cock where it needed to be and doing things at the right way was perfect that I thought this was going well.. Until what happened next, he slowly pulled his cock out of my mouth and moved back down to rub our cocks together, he whispered in my ear how hot I was and it felt real good with his cock in my mouth, folks…I was melting here and knew I’m about to blow and when that happens I’m basically down with “the moment” and I was not wanting this to end yet.. He whispered in my ear how he would love to fuck me if that’s something I would let him do, he already knew that I’m not into pain or discomfort but to answer his question I said I’m not sure, he assured me that he won’t cause any pain, (hell……who was I kidding I was so hot at that moment I think I was just holding on to a bit of reality and trying to be safe) he puts on a rain coat and begins to lift my waist up with his hands and pulls me up to where I can feel his cock right at my inviting hole, he’s slowly moving up and down and side to side, in then out .. I’m moving around some myself and it was hot! This went on for 15, 20 minutes and he was not in me yet, I took it upon myself this time and reached over to his little magic bottle and I held it up to his face and he took the biggest breath and I followed … I could feel every inch of him as he slowly side his cock inside me and it felt sooooo good, he just slowly pushed in and stayed in one place,.. As I’m experiencing this for the first time it wasn’t so bad I thought to myself so I began to pulse back and forth against his cock and I found myself fucking him from underneath… I was doing all the work and he was just kissing on my neck and holding my waist up (which helped support my body) off the ground as I did everything I could to ride that cock from that position.. We stayed like that bit a while, lost track of time and I didn’t care… After that we where but ready to explode so he began to slowly pull out he removed his rain coat off and put our cocks together in his hands, he stroked for about 2, 3 minutes and we both covered my stomach, which is gross by the way but this time it was pretty hot..