Speak Out: How Accurate is Your Gaydar?
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Gaydar—the colloquial word for our sixth sense that allows us to identify who is gay or not—is a portmanteau of the words gay and radar and is said to have been coined in the 1980s.
We all know what the word is of course but we are asking the question above because there’s a recent study regarding the gaydar phenomenon. The participants were reportedly asked to identify who is gay and who is straight from a pool of sample where 50% was straight and 50% was gay and their results came out with 60% accuracy rate. The study proposed that gaydar is nothing but an “alternate label for using stereotypes to infer orientation.” Like how some men into fashion, theater, or shopping are automatically seen as gay and guys who love sports and cars are straight when this is not the case. There is also an argument that said a person’s sexual orientation can be inferred through their facial structure.
Given all of these, do you believe gaydar is real or do you agree with this study that the term is an alternate label for using stereotypes? If you think gaydar is true, has yours ever failed you? Most of all, how important is gaydar for you and how has a broken one affected you and your dating life?
Whether the existence of gaydar is true or not, we cannot ignore the importance of being able to tell whether someone is or isn’t gay. For others a broken gaydar actually poses a huge dilemma especially when we are eyeing a particular guy as a potential sex partner or romantic interest. Of course there are also other reasons outside romance being support and a sense of community to name a few.
Check out some of such dilemmas below that we gathered from whisper.sh.
What do you think guys? Do you agree with them or are you the type who resolve the issue by just asking the guy you like out to date (or bed) straightaway? How did that go for you? Share with us your stories and thoughts in the comments section below.
my Gaydar is pretty good, tho here in Fort Lauderdale kinda unnecessary. I am working on my “time-waster/game-player/tweaker/hot mess-Dar” . Sadly, that is Very Necessary here.
Definitely believe in the gaydar. In my experience I’m right about them being gay 90% of the time. Not to be confused with the “please be gaydar”. I think that makes up the other 10% lol
Gaydar is a joke. Gay guys tend to think many men are gay, when it is few. Personally, I’ve rarely been right in my predictions of who is what.
Some people seem to have good gaydar – I sure don’t.
A guy could practically be sucking me off before I suspect a thing.
I wish I were better at this – it would make things a lot easier!
My gaydar is broken or not activated. Unless the guy is flaming, only way I’ve often found out the other guy was gay is when they hit on me.
I have really great gaydar, even me beening bi I can pick up on it quickly.
I think A4A is excellent for gaydar. Hasn’t failed me yet!
When I hear “straight guys” talk about gaydar it almost always is bigot speak for how the divide guys on their scale of alleged masculinity verses effeminate (like guys who “prefer white guys” then tell other races to stop “bothering” them) OR bi or gay guys who trying to cover their shortcomings. As bad as that is, the gay man gaydar is typical worse because it comes through the same bigotry. Self hatred is indeed the worst.
The truth is ones sexual orientation is not who they are but whom they attracted to, just as ones gender, race, color, creed or nation of origin are not who they are but whom or what they have been influenced by. You may be able to somewhat predict a group but not an individual.
I don’t all the time try to determine if a guy is straight or gay. Sometimes I just want a guy to be gay because I’d do him (or want him to do me) in a heartbeat. However that’s not gaydar. It’s only lust. Then there are times in public places where I might watch a guy and think he’s gay. I may try to make eye contact, etc, but usually get no response. I can only conclude that he and/or I have no gaydar, or gaydar doesn’t exist. I’ll stick with Adam4Adam where my gaydar works every time.
I think the lines are getting blurred, many straight guys can dress as fashionable as gay men, so that stereotype doesn’t quite exist much.
I guess I can guess some guys based on my so-called gaydar, but to me that idea seems childish past the college years. My unpopular opinion.
Gaydar?! What is that? Men literally have to get in my face for me to realize they’re into me/gay. Many times a guy’s actions have me fantasizing/wishing he was gay but sadly it’s often not the case.
The fact the gaydar is being questioned speaks volumes. Years ago when most gay men met the general stereotype of femmie fairy flamboyant fasihon-loving diva-loving, gaydar easily worked. Now, many gay men mirror other men in society. These guys don’t fit the stereotype. With them, the only was a guy will find out if another guy is gay is to either get to know him over time and see if a door opens or take a risk and ask.
my gay friends gaydar very good, invited him over for dinner drinks one night, told him I wasn’t BI and kissing him his job hit the floor we were lovers for years
My gaydar is spot on. It’s a real thing. 99.9999% accuracy. My friends talk about it all the time. I’ll look at a guy and know right away. Then look at them maybe give them a nod and ask what do you think? They are always like,”you’re fuckin crazy.” “No way.” “We betting lunch on this?”
We were at a fine restaurant and the waiter was SMOKIN HOT!!! Everyone wanted him to be gay but he was very professional. He didn’t “look, act, or sound (if that’s a thing?). But there were zero signs. My friends are all very good looking and we happen to cover the spectrum (tall, short, chubby, young/old…etc). The waiter never looked at anyone. Not even a simple check. Most professional waiter I’ve ever met. They all said no I said 100% no doubt. Gaydar jokes soon followed. I knew I was right. I went in the bathroom to take a piss. 3 seconds later the waiter walked in. We nodded, said “hey what’s up?” Im at the urinAl and so was he. I never looked at him (but I was kinda hard). Then I looked sideways and he was staring into my urinal. I walked out with his number. He said,”just plead be cool with it. This is my job.” Of course I was. I asked him the next night. We met for drinks then went back to his place. He took a Selphie and sent it to me if us in his bed room on. The second night. I never told my friends. We all got together a few weeks later. I pulled out my phone and asked,”anyone remember this guy?” I could have gotten a great blow job as all their mouths were wide open. Again, followed by the “no ways!” And “prob photoshopped” bs.
Oh the waiter and I, been seeing each other two months now. He’s fuckin awesome! The sex is also AMAZING.
I agree with the guys who trust A4A and gay venues and sites over their sense of or lack of gay-dar. I’ve been attracted to guys for over 50 years now, and it’s so much easier to simply hang around known gay places and guys than guess who’s queer like me and who is not.
I travel a fair amount within a 300 mile radius and I am always on the lookout for gay cruising spots. On numerous occasions I have connected for a bj with guys that didn’t trip my gaydar, but I found them to be not even bi, but str8 and pragmatic. Married, or LTR with female but not getting it at home.
Not wanting, or able to find a NSA hetero partner, so counting on oral from guys. They’re usually clean and appreciative but you have to exercise caution that you don’t get your nose caught in their zipper. It’s coming up quick after they shoot. I call ’em “Cum,N,Go guys.
I don’t have gaydar. More power to those who do haha I could never tell.