Speak Out: Would You Agree To A Polyamorous Relationship?
Being part of a sexual minority, us LGBTQ folk have a much more adventurous and open-minded view when it comes to sex and relationships. Just look at the comments section of this Adam4Adam blog post. A lot of us are sluts and we own it!
But polyamory is an entirely different deal than threesomes or gangbangs. While you and your partner can have a threesome and then not have to think about the other person afterwards, a polyamorous relationship is a romantic, sexual relationship with more than one person, with all parties aware of it.
Not surprisingly, LGBTQ folk are some of the most prominent practitioners — or at least the ones willing to admit it publicly. Bisexual singer-songwriter Amanda Palmer is in a polyamorous relationship with English writer Neil Gaiman. RuPaul’s Drag Race alum Derrick Barry is in a relationship with fellow drag queen Mackenzie Claude/Nebraska Thunderfuck and visual artist Nick San Pedro.
Even The Huffington Post’s Queer Voices section featured an article on polyamory, listing down reasons as to why some couples choose to be in one. The reasons range from the poignant (“Because when I put everything into one person, I always get my heart broken”) to the practical (“Because I’m in love with more than one person and their [sic] in love with me and each other too.There’s no possession or jealousy. There is freedom to love and be loved.”).
So, Adam4Adam users, is a polyamorous relationship something you see yourselves getting involved in? If you’re currently in one, what drew you to it and how do you make it work? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below!
I’ve been in several poly relationships, the longest lasting 6 years.
not for me.
Personally no i’m not into a polyamorous relationship, as your reasons states “Because when I put everything into one person, I always get my heart broken” to the practical (“Because I’m in love with more than one person and their [sic] in love with me and each other too.There’s no possession or jealousy. There is freedom to love and be loved.”. I believe alot of ppl don’t know whats real love and find satisfaction or settle for multiple partners leaving it as love should be shown through sex, i’m a 26 year old Bi south american male, and upon observation with males from March 2015 to now I personally see men are very sexual but what i find is that they are very lonely and confused as to what love is. Fine if you want to have more than one sexual and romantic partner go ahead but upon human observation there will always be jealously, anger and leaning upon one person for something than the other, and alot of people can argue with me but stop lying to yourself when you say you love both or how many partners equally, you would always love one person more than the next . So in conclusion if someone want to go do it go right ahead but don’t bring that bull to me, just figure yourself out and start with self love before seeking love in multiple partners that would leave you more broken than the next because they haven’t figured themselves out.
Well said!
Henry you hit the nail on the head!
Personally, no, I would not be in a polyamorous relationship. To me it is a return to our baser instincts multiple partners, just as I feel about open relationships.
Just because we are sexual minority doesn’t mean we have to further ourselves from society. At the end of the day, a monogamous relationship is a symbol of devotion, loyalty, respect, and dedication. For me at least. The rest of heathens can do whatever you want. 😉
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Yes, I could see myself in a polyamorous relationship. I am not a jealous lover, as long as there is clear communication.
Geez. Really. These relationships mean a very very …. did I say VERY … unique group of guys make this work. The chances are few and far between. We’re talking about something that probably has its roots before the guys in it have a clue. Connections would be made before they even realised they were in place.
I think I could be in one as long as the poly group relationship was only involved with others in the relationship. No open poly relationship if that makes sense. You
I don’t see how much different this type of a relationship is to an open one, except there being a third or more involved. I have to agree with Henry’s post on here. You’re just potentially opening yourself and your partners to eventual bad feelings. If you really can’t commit yourself to a true one, then maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship at all.
If you’re the type that can make this work for you, then my hat’s off to you. Just something that’s not for me.
Having a REAL relationship these days with one man can be hard enough. Doubling up on that –
i’m not so sure. I did have the opportunity for it several years back. But honestly I was into one guy and not the other at all. Muslims and Fundamentalist Mormans believe a man can have more than one wife. Any gay guys from those groups on here with an opinion?
Tons of pros and cons, but overall the pros outweigh the cons for me. A poly relationship is something I definitely would want to try. It would obviously require people that can engage in mature and logical discourse with not too big of egos. Also, it would probably require that all parties have had some previous monogamous relationship experience to see what works and doesn’t work in prior relationships that didn’t last.
Man was made with the instinct to breed. I do not believe men cane be monogamous. Better to be upfront in open relationship than to say you’re monogamous then lie to partner because you’re cheating. I know guys are going to jump in and say: “I’m monogamous”, and maybe so, but I feel the vast majority are full of shit. I know many “couples” that say they have been together for years and always monogamous, then you will see one later at a cruisy spot.
if guess if you need dysfunction…
Just as a parent can love multiple children; I could see loving multiple men. Communication would be the key. My fiancé and I have had 3-somes with the same guy numerous times without problems. Polyamory would take this to another level. We are not ready for that yet, but I could see it happening.
I would love to be in one. I find it ideal in many ways cuddles, stronger financial structure, more people to talk to, more dicks to suck, more friends, things are more exciting and your not stuck only focusing on your and your single partners life. I see holidays with the family being difficult. My partner and I have talked about this and are open to the idea of trying it. Just gotta find someone we both vibe with and get along with. I’m all for it.
Never been in one but I love 3ways and groups so I’d try one out. Let’s face it though, it’s hard enough getting a 3way lined up I bet it would be even more difficult to have a multiperson relationship
hard enough for me to find one guy, let alone two where the love flows equally among us three. kudos to the guys that can.