Sex : The Fisting Interview

Greetings once again to the A4A Blogo-sphere,

So this was a bit of a stretch for me (pun intended)… but we here at the Buddy team had the opportunity to interview two Falcon Studio performers Axel Abysse and Brandon Moore.

For those that don’t know, I am pretty vanilla when it comes to my sexual proclivities. I’ve had my curiosities, for sure, but I can honestly say that I am petrified of the sportier side of sex… more specifically, FISTING. I am not going to write too much on this topic, mostly because I ain’t got the foggiest idea of what to say on the subject… that and I think the performers can do a better job than me. With that, I am going to shut up and let you folks read the interview! Got a story or spicy thoughts to share on fisting? I want to hear it. My favourite comment will get a free 30 day membership to ClubInfernoDungeon.com!

Oh and if you want to see these two take it like champs, check out their scenes here and here!

Enjoy!
Neal

What is fisting and why engage in it?

Axel – Fisting is more than putting hands in holes. For both fister and fistee, it’s a very unique intimacy. It requires trust and confidence. It’s about literally opening to the other. I personally don’t think it’s a dom/sub interaction. It’s never a punishment: it’s all about pleasure, the best massage your prostate can get. And it leads to the best orgasms you can dream of.

Brandon – Fisting is either putting your entire hand, arm, or hell even both of your hands and arms up someone’s ass or allowing someone to put any of those things up your ass. Sometimes even your own hand. You should only engage in fisting if you’re really up for the exploration of a more extreme side of sex. It can be really hot when everyone is really into each other and down to wreck some holes. You should not just do it for bragging rights or to satisfy your ego though, that’s when fisting becomes a chore.

With respect to fisting, how did it all start? 

Axel – Nobody really knows when and how it began. It used to be a niche. Although, internet and porn are clearly the reason why fisting is getting so much more popular in the past few years.

Brandon – I’m not sure about the history of fisting; I think it had something to do with the guys down on the docks in 70’s NYC looking for really machismo sex in an underground culture that could only operate in the shadows. I’m sure I am romanticizing it but it was a major player in pre-HIV gay culture when we were experimenting with what we collectively saw as masculinity for homosexuals, you know before they realized they could sell it to us. Males of any species I think have a lot of aggression which is linked to our sex drive so fisting is a nice blend of two really stereotypical “male” activities, f**king and fighting. Also maybe it takes receptivity on the bottoms part and makes it more of an athletic challenge than surrender making that experience more aligned with masculinity. But I honestly have no idea; I’m no expert I just stumbled upon it on the internet in 10th grade.

How long have you been doing it? 

Axel – Almost 10 years.

Brandon – After I found some fisting website on Angelfire or something when I was 15 I was pretty traumatized for a week, but you know what they say, curiosity caused the cat to put on a jockstrap and start trying to shove a bowling pin up its ass while looking in the mirror and wearing its dad’s work boots. I was always super curious and when my family wasn’t home I played with my ass as much as I could, the contraptions I made up were insane; crayon shaped piggy banks, hammers, tiny hand weights, a really long emergency flashlight wrapped in duct tape, and everyone’s favorite, the baseball bat. I remember using bar soap one time and almost getting my whole hand up my ass. 

Ever been fisted yourself? How did it feel?

Axel – I’m versatile from the beginning. The first time I took a fist was a revelation. I came after a few moves inside me, and then couldn’t stop the spasms. My first anal orgasm. Addicted since.

Brandon – I remember my first fist was with a guy I met on some website when I was 18 and just fresh to LA. Clean out took forever, I didn’t have a sense for the full relaxation necessary, his hands were huge, I was too nervous to do poppers, but god damn when he crested his knuckles and slid down to his wrist I almost went blind. I’ve never experienced a full body religious experience of an internal orgasm like that. The first fist is the best. I still actually fist with him occasionally, he has an INSANELY talented hole, and I should hit him up.

Is it safe? (STDs)

Axel – As for any sexual practice, it is safe if the top keeps in mind a few elementary rules: gloves on, one lube for every fistee (no sharing) and a good cleaning between every hole. I play only safe and would advise everyone to do the same. Hands are definitely the dirtiest part of the human body, with all sorts of germs, and you don’t want to put that in your guts.

Brandon – I mean, as safe as putting your rectum through some pretty extreme stuff can be. Be it fisting, or just a blowjob in the back of a car you should always discuss your current status, when the last time you got tested was, and if you’re sexually active you NEED to be getting tested once a month for gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis regardless of what PrEP you’re taking. Even if you have a casual attitude about STD’s like most of us do, other people don’t, and getting an STD is uncomfortable and a hassle to take care of, especially for those of us who utilize the free clinics. Sex is fantastic but so is the collective health of our community. Let’s respect ourselves and each other and discuss this stuff, you know, like they did in the 90’s! 

If one wanted to fist someone, what preparations would one have to make?

Axel – Cut your nails!! Very short, please.

Brandon – If you want to top, do your research, seek an experienced bottom to guide you through it. Everyone’s hole is different and if you want to top without the valuable experience of bottoming you have to learn to be mindful of another person’s insides or else you can seriously hurt someone. The walls of someone’s insides are your guide, start slow, and get a feel for the shape and direction of their hole. And for god sakes clip your mother f**king fingernails!!! 

Are there any other precautions one should take to prepare?

Axel – Get the right size of gloves (loose gloves will fold once inside and it’s the best way to make your fistee uncomfortable).

Brandon – As a bottom you have to become comfortable with the workings of your guts. Take the time to clean out. Light some incense, put on some music, and spend some quality time douching. Use toys to ensure the deeper parts are cleaned as well. I find that poppers help me relax and release. The more confident you are on your cleanliness the easier it will be for you to relax and get your hole stretched out. If you spend your time clenching, concerned about being messy it’s going to be a miserable experience. Also 2 Imodium once everything is cleaned out is a big helper. Oh and never let anyone who is gonna freak out over a little blood or a speck of sh*t put their hands up your ass. We are men playing with each other’s holes, if accidents happen, clean up, make sure everyone is fine, and continue playing. It’s not the end of the world.

Is there a right lubricant for fisting?

Axel – There’s basically two types: lubes and cream. I personally prefer lube such as X-lube. I like it almost liquid, very slippery. I love being wet…

Brandon – You have to experiment to see what’s right for you. J-Lube is incredible and cleans up easily from surfaces with sea salt, use hand soap and determination to get it off of your body. Crisco is fun and a classic, but it’s for more advanced players, more friction, and more fun. Crisco cleans up really well with dawn dish soap. Hell I’ve even used almost an entire bottle of Swiss Navy while out on Fire Island one time, someone slipped on the floor after though, so be smart about the boundaries of your fun.

Suppose I wanted my partner to fist me, how do I know if I’m prepared?

Axel – In most case, the first fist will require some training. Lots of play with your partner’s fingers and dick, for example. Step by step, never rush it. And please: no drugs. I believe those who need to get high to take a fist will never really understand the beauty of it, that intimacy.

Brandon – This is where toys and your own determination come into play. If you want to experiment with your partner you should be able to experiment with your partner that goes without saying but it’s really up to what you know your body can handle. Get a toy or toys that increase in size, like classic butt plugs or big dildos with a good taper. You need to become really in tune with your own hole before any extreme ass play. You need to learn how to fully relax, and how to stay relaxed. One trick I use is telling myself “it’s not my hole anymore, it’s theirs” and the idea of them wrecking me completely opens me right up and lets me get nice and sloppy. Experiment with your hole; see how you respond to intense stretching. Fisting takes hard work and determination at first, but once you get opened up your world will change.

Outside of your professional life, do you find it difficult to bottom?

Axel – I fist myself every day and get fisted by my friends every week. I find it difficult not to bottom…

Brandon – I love bottoming. I love getting my hole f**ked and fisted, the wilder the better. At the same time however I like a very high quality of sex so I’m extremely picky. I like experienced guys who like to experiment. I hate quickies with dudes who don’t know how to dick me down. I don’t just get f**ked for the hell of it, it’s more of an excursion for me and the guy I’m with needs to have the endurance to go along with me. I’ve had too many encounters where into the first minute I’m like “is this over yet?” because the guy was hot but a boring f**k.

Are you exclusively a top? Versatile? Bottom? 

Axel – I’m “exclusively versatile”. I don’t enjoy a total bottom or a total top (ok, this might not be true). It’s all about that link between a fister and a fistee. The eye-contact, the breathing, the kissing, the smells… It’s a communion, a fusion. I live for it and I need it at all time. It’s difficult to describe how good it feels, and I couldn’t compare to simple bottoming. It’s not only about the size; it’s all very chemical, very animal.

Brandon – Versa-bottom I’d say. I love bottoming but I also love to top and fist another bottom. It’s kind of like a brotherly bond to me, a symbol of solidarity. If you’re a good bottom and have confidence in yourself I can’t help but want to put a part of my body inside of you.

Can other men “live up” to the feeling or sensation you get when fisting vs. bottoming?

**Axel answered this and the previous question in one – see above for full answer**

Brandon – Absolutely! It’s truly all about attitude. I get more enjoyment out of flip fucking with a guy who turns me on than I do from getting fisted by a boring stranger I don’t connect with. Yeah I love getting fisted because it’s an athletic challenge, it’s extreme sensation, it’s pushing the limits of the human body, it’s beyond ecstasy, it’s surrendering your entire body to the will of another human being; but if the fister and I aren’t aroused by each other on more than just a superficial level, then sex, let alone fisting, isn’t going to be very satisfying. Now when you find someone you click with on a social level, who turns you on and who can stretch you wide and get your hole hanging open, nothing can beat that, that’s a spiritual fucking experience.