Speak Out : My Dick is Too Big For Many Guys!
I don’t know if anyone else has this problem. I have a big dick. The length isn’t the problem, it’s more that girth. It is 6 inches around if you use a measuring tape. I need to wear Magnum condoms, but those can feel tight and difficult to get on and off if I get really excited. Everyone agrees that it it is nice to look at, when it comes to taking its not many can do it.
This would not be much of a problem if I was a bottom. However I enjoy being a good aggressive top. I tried to go to either, but more often than not I don’t get to finish without pulling out. Nothing is more frustrating than that. I would love to see if anyone has any ideas on how to make this go better.
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Bring it, I’ll take that monster.
Dude, I feel ya. My ex was hung like you but he was a master at foreplay and assplay which heightened my excitement and “loosened” me up. A good quality lube, and lots of it, is key as well as finding the right position for you both to get off…..simultaneously if possible. Good luck!
I love thick men. Time and patience and lots of lube! I’ll take it!
I’ll give it a try any time
Man, you just got to get the right partners…..there are those of us who would so enjoy that fulfillment and bringing you to your fulfillment and not leaving you so frustrated. Find me and take a new look on life and “giving”.
I actually prefer a thick dick. With a good hard thick dick I can usually shoot my load without touching my dick which is harder to do with a skinny dick, even a long one. Six around is plenty thick although I’ve seen thicker. What works best for me is I ask my top if he will lie on his back and let me sit on his dick and take it all the way in at my own pace. Once I’m all the way down to his pubes and comfortable, then he can fuck me as long as he wants and in any position he wants. Trying to take a thick dick doggy-style is harder to do.
Nick’s approach works great for me in most situations where I discover that the size is proving to be a problem. This all goes out the window for one of my FB’s though. He’s 4’11 110lbs. Such a tiny hole and oh so tight fitting. The only way to get in it is by what I call “spooning.” This is where I lie behind him, hold his hips, and slowly but forcefully insert while being totally tuned into his body language. Backing off and going deeper until he’s both getting everything he wants and enjoying it. Oh man, do I love little guys.
You have a nice dick. I would like that. My favorite dildo is 6 inches around just like your dick. I use plenty of lube and I slide it in slow but steady. After that I just build up speed slowly till I’m pounding myself hard. I do have a buddy of mine hung just like you. When we do that he never lasts too long. I see that you want to be an aggressive top so what I would suggest to you is more lube and a longer build up. Then again you could just start looking for more experienced bottoms. Sometimes the eyes are bigger than the anus.
Sounds like my perfect top!
Damn I love a thick cock!
Challenge accepted!!!
But seriously, it’s all about patience, letting the bottom relax and lube. As a bottom who is a self admitted “size queen” it can be tough if a well endowed top just wants to shove it right in. Some well lubed fingers are a good start, then maybe a quick game of “just the tip” usually gets me ready to take the full length and girth. You’ll always run into bottoms who are afraid of a monster cock, but there are more than enough like me that’ll work to have you buried balls deep in short order
Uh….call me! Haha! I’ve not had much of a problem taking the larger cocks so far. It’s more about the desire of your Btm, not anything you are doing wrong. Again….feel free to contact me via a4a.
Totally agree with the rest! I would much rather take thick cock over length. Any day any way! Let me have it! Good lube does the trick, along with a lot of passion.
Make the bottom so hot that he is begging for it balls deep, man. Don’t pull out until you both shoot your loads!! There’s no going back once he has it. Believe me!! Good luck. Looks like you may have a lot of offers on Adam now. ✌
I’ve used a tape measure and found that I was 6 inches around but my bottoms never seemed to have any trouble taking it. Maybe I’ve been lucky to find the right guys.
I’d love to have an aggressive top that would stretch my asshole with his cock. But then again, I love that. (damn, I’m such a slut, lol). Honestly, I wish you lived in central Arkansas, Benton area. I would take it all.
Not sure where you live but in SoCal there are tons of bottoms who would give you a run for your money. There are a lot of loosey goosies out there. I have seen plenty of fist size penises just pop right in. I am mostly a top but have had my share of extra thick ones work their way in…hurt like hell but these guys took their time and eventually it started feeling good.
A hit of poppers and some nice foreplay and I’ll gladly take that dick!
I also have a girth of 6 inches and some guys have broken up with me as it was to big to take. Other guys went crazy with it. win some and loose some….
There is no such thing as “too big” lol. If you are gonna bottom, then you should know what lube is and proper relaxation for the sphincter. Shit, I’m 22 and I know this already.
I have taken dicks from 5 inches to 11 inches and super thick. Just have to learn how to relax yourself.
I have a big dick and a few times I’ve topped it has been a frustrating issue. Luckily for me I prefer bottom. A buddy of mine is about as long as me 8.5/9 but VERY thick. I need mags but on him they look tight.
I’m a tight guy and the way he gets it in is lots of foreplay. First fingers, then a toy, then his beautiful cock. It still hurts a little at first but by that point I’m so revved up it doesn’t matter.
Bottom line: many quickies aren’t in your future. Big dicks take time but are worth it
You are the man I have been looking for, for decades
That’s the problem all the hot bottoms that enjoy big dicks !! Where are all the aggressive tops that love giving it
Hey man. I think you and your partner should get advice from a sexologist. They have tons of experience with situations like that. I’m I bottom and don’t like thick dicks myself. However there are things you both can try out to make sex more enjoyable. Good luck!
Oh no! What a hard life you’re leading ! [/sarcasm]
As I can see from the comments, a lot of people seem they can take it so you just need to find the right partners
Also try to go slow initially. Bottom guys are not objects for you to use. They’re humans who can experience pain and orgasm. If a bottom guy would like to go slow at first to ease into so help with it. A little understanding could do wonders.
Shades, your absolutely right about that.
Apparently none of you have met Orca
Ten years later, I’m still in therapy
Fuck a guy with a big toy fetish and or gets fisted regularly like me. LOL
Mine is 6.5 inches in circumference. I have had complaints about the girth, too. One ex still loves for me to fuck him but only when he uses poppers. One got himself a huge dildo with which he would “practice” so often that my cock eventually became a mere minnow swimming in his wide SargASSo Sea. One loved it and came the first time we fucked when he groped it in my pants and discovered it’s size. The guy I’m currently living with loves to get fucked but rarely allows it to happen. When it does he enjoys it immensely but is sore for days after. I find people want to look at it and think they will love taking it but their eyes are often bigger than their holes.
Ok gents, let’s do the maths: 6 inches girth translates into a diameter of 1.75 inches (6 divided by Pi).
A Trojan Magnum has a diameter of 2.13 inches. Means, a girth of 6.7 inches.
Not sure what your problem is, but size surely isn’t.
Maybe, just maybe, technique is: I had tops with a thin 5 inches dick that hurt me. And others with thick 8 inches that didn’t. Check your technique, mate!
Thanks Bottomnerd, technique is probably his issue, not size
Damn thought I only had that problem..Im 8.5 x 6 girth…When Im top..in only few seconds they say cant take it…stop. So I end-up being the bttm most of the time.Im liking someone verst–but can handle my cock till I have an orgasm. Thanks A4A
I am in the dayton ohio area. I would love to help you. Love s thick cock using me for pleasure. And please go for round 2 and 3. Cum back often. I agree with all others. If the bottom cleans out, as they should, they are begining to loosen up. Then toys, which help the cleaning out, with lots of lube abd poppers. Go in slow, let me adjust, another hit of poppers and you can go to town. Please reach out to me. I want you to know and understand pleasure.
ill try it so bring it
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I always say to a top: “Open me up first by rimming me or fingering me then apply plenty of anal lube” However, the key is the top seducing me and making me hot for his cock!
Some tops un-seduced me and could not get in without causing me major pain.
Take it slow and easy. Id love to find a dude like u in Cleveland.
Yippie. Hooray Hooray..
Someone give this guy a medal for his penis size…
Anyway.. YAWN..
Aren’t there more important things to talk about? This certainly isn’t worth discussing
I know a good rim job gets me really wet and open to take a nice thick dick like yours
Bottoms need to learn how to take dicks of any size…js
I had a partner for 21 years. I’m built thick too. I could use thinner dildos on him but the second my head would slide in he would scream. We did lots of foreplay but no matter how much lube he would scream. So, I stopped trying
As time went by, he would cum fast from oral sex then roll over and start snoring but not until he told me to go finish in another room. For me, a fast J/o is about 45 min.
Oh hunty, 6″ around ain’t that big. That’s medium for me.
My last FWB was 10″x7″… that hit the spot, and I took it to completion. He got to cum onside me every time.
Yeah right, a hung top who can’t find any bottoms to take it. Anyone want to buy a bridge?
I’m 7X7 in circumference. It’s a problem. But I’ve found a few bottom friends who love it. Keep looking.
Sounds like you have a real problem. Time, patience and good lube is key. Fore play and twelve play usually helps to relax and get excited at the same time thus making the bottom more relaxed and opt and try to take you on. Finger play also helps. Maybe try sleeping with sloppy, loose cunts (LOL just kidding) It all depends on what’s happening the moments prior to that. You just can’t ram your monster into guys…that hurts
I have the same problem as you. Usually lots of lube and loosening up has to happen or I’m not going in. The other guy is always too tight. Hooked up with a guy the other day and he was so high on poppers, that I slid in easily and man did it feel good . Maybe some dildo play with a smaller diameter than your cock will let you slide on in better
Mmmmm …. the thicker, the better!!!
Maybe not being a self described “aggressive top” would help. Try bottoming a few times and see what it feels like for your partner…you’ll learn alot. Too bad total tops are clueless like that.
Wow, I’ve met one guy I couldn’t take. He was about 9″, but thick as hell. Wanted it so bad, but could only take about 4″. He got fatter as you went down.
In my wild days in my 20s, I’ve slept with a lot of sizes. I’m 40 now and the last thime I’ve had sex was like 5 years ago..from one extreme (promiscuous) to another (monk like).
My ass is tight and it’s going to stay that way, so no thanx to big monster cocks. Only people who can take are those who are loose as a caboose. And doing oral on a big cock is uncomfortable and not fun,
BUT and no pun intended, if the top knows how to do good foreplay and get a bottom ready for his cock, it makes it easier. But for that thick? You just have to be loose.
Sorry Joey…but if they is too big for fucking. Them true monster dicks — long AND thick — are made for sucking and licking.. my fantasy is being menaces and choked on a huge piece of rock hard demanding dick
I recently had a guy much smaller than you shove his cock in my with zero lube. Big mistake. I won’t let him do that again! Lube and foreplay and life will be good. Slow, steady, gentle.
You just need to find the right guy. If you’re ever in Mississauga Ontario Canada please send me a message, I’ll make sure to keep you satisfied. Thick is never a bad thing, it’s great to look at, hold, kiss, suck and feed the right guy in the bum. Just keep looking, you’ll find a guy that will put a big smile on your face.
I’m a recently separated and single gdlk Ginger; I’m 7.5″ cut and a little over 6.5″ thick around at the base. My soon to be exhusband and I were together for 10yrs and he had a hard time taking it in the beginning of our relationship. Single and out to have hot fun…. I have encountered the same issues with some fellas., while others can take it like pros. I find lots of rimming, fingering and sometimes toys help. Oh, lots and lots of lube and goooooo sloooooooow putting it in. I have the bottom either straddle me and go at his pace or I position myself behind him and have him back up on it at his speed. Then once it’s in I let everything adjust….and then after I get the “all systems are a go…”” I put it all into “motion”.
I’m almost 9 inches and 5.5 thick.
Most guys are afraid to get fucked~
In our inventiveness I believe gay men are too quick to forget what the anus and rectum are really designed for. Fucking ass is marvelous but it still is an ass….designed to eliminate bodily wastes. If a man wants to open his hole to you value that process. In Thad age of the hookup finesse and seduction often take a back seat… We have to reverse that….big dicks are great but knowing how to use it is an art
Mine is 7.5 in girth, it is not easy for most bottoms, that’s why I had to get reeeel good at rimming, for some reason, they seem to take my girth much better.
I’m 7″ circumference 7 1/2″ head circumstance. I’m totally versatile. I have never found a hole that I couldn’t tap! Takes foreplay ,good wet ads eating and slow teasing with tongue,fingers and head of cock. Trust me you’ll be balls deep in no time at all!
My dick is 6.5×6…maybe even bigger when I’m REALLY horny, and I’ve never had this problem. Sure it hurts everyone at first but they warm up to it. Personally I like to take dicks as big as big as 8″ around on the super rare chance that I find them. I really don’t understand why you’re having this problem…
iam a 8×5 ct
been told iam very big too
I tell all them as big as iam I will go slow
once I get goin the btms always love it
iam a power top
Best sex I ever had was 6″ x 4″, second best was 10″ x about 7″. I usually shoot for somewhere in the middle. But in general, it really helps, from my perspective as a bottom, if A) You like each other, and B) you kiss, so that there are multiple inputs going into the bottom’s brain to lessen the contrast of nerve signals. Likewise, for the previous recommendation of “spooning” into a position and slowly “playing” your way in.
I also recommend trying different condoms. I’m unbelievably sensitive to latex, and it took me years to realize that the un-enjoyable sex I was having was due to an allergy. Try polyurethane (like AVANTI or SUPRA or female condoms), or polyisoprene (a bit stretchier, and SKYN condoms come in an extra large size).
There is no thick dick for an asshole, you will be surprised how assholes can accommodate a thick dick. I have a tight asshole and I was always afraid of taking big dicks. I’m glad I have had good tops with thick dicks. You need to work the asshole to loosen it up. A good warm tongue does the trick for me. Eat that asshole, it helps a lot. You just don’t try to stick your dick in a hole without previous preparation.
Like previous person said……come to SoCal…..lots of loosey gooseys who feel like they regularly sit on fire hydrants.
Love a BIG cock in my ass or forced down my throat. Theres not a cock out there too big for me. If you ever get to cleveland look me up.
I had the same problem. I converted to being more of a bottom AND LOVE IT!
Now there are guys that want me to top them. Go figure! Where were they when I was more of a top?!!
Anyhow, only a hung guy knows how to satisfy another hung guy.
Analease is a very good ointment to use on top of lube.Its a little numbing however it works.
Man a six inch girth thick dick! I would take a dick that size anytime cuz I love big fat thick dicks which the thicker and fatter the better for me. Even though as a bottom, taking a dick that big is painful and uncomfortable, but I found a way to make it more comfortable by using different size butt plugs by using the smallest one first that you can take and then start using the big one that you want to take which will help your butt be more relaxed and prepared for the dick.
Would luv to see that big dick – they are so amazing to play with and suck on. Don’t know if I could take it or not but would be more than willing to give it a shot.
I hear ya. 7in around with a measuring tape here. It takes patience and PLENTY of lube.
My ass is tight and I take cocks as big or bigger than this. You can’t even get a pinkie up my ass unlubed. I might need a bit of a stretch before moving up to 6 or 7″ circumference (I’ve done 8″ too, but that’s rare to find) but that’s either rimming & fingering or fingering with lube. It’s minutes (though it can go much longer.) Any length up to 12″ is fine too. You just gotta maximize your cleaning with the biggest ones that hit your second sphincter. I’ve never met a cock I couldn’t take.
After we’re done, even if it takes hours, I start tightening back up. I do some squeezes down there the rest of the day. And the next morning, I wake up, my ass is tight again!
Big dicked guys who aren’t getting enough love hit me up.
Hi there everybody. I would love to comment on fucking with a thick cock and getting fucked by a thick cock. I am a big bear dad now my length is just 7.5 but my girth is 6.5 . so that’s pretty thick so as a caring top its my job to please the bottom I am fucking. So it takes a lot of ass foreplay and lube and the position you fuck in makes a big difference also. Now just because I have a big thick cock doesn’t mean I don’t like to bottom. I love a good fucking every now and then and I prefer a thick cock over one that’s long and lean. If you have a good top that knows how to fuck the bottom should be able to get off without having to touch his cock. A good top should know that if he stimulates the prostrate it will make for a great fuck for both the top or bottom
I seriously doubt your dick size is too big. I have the same girth and my dick is long and find plenty dudes that take it; some with a little pleasurable pain.
My boyfriend has a very thick cock. We do swap out but when it is his turn to top it can be difficult. I have learned to sit on it and go down very slow sometimes stopping and starting over till I am able to take it in. At that point we can get into different positions and have a really good fuck. It does hurt at times but it’s worth it to satisfy him
I am a total bottom. I remember meeting this guy and he was reluctant to meet and woudn’t tell me why until we met. When he told me, I was ok with it because I was used to taking a large thick cock inside my ass for years and actually prefered it. I had a beer can thickness inside me and i liked it.
Tops come in one of two types. The first are guys who get you to suck their cock until theyre hard and then they try to jam their cocks in your ass with no foreplay whatsoever. These guys are lazy lovers who only care about themselves. Once I realize I’m playing with one of them, I tell them to leave. The second type take a lot of time getting me hot for their cock and with very few exceptions they get their cocks balls deep in my tight ass. Fucking LOVE that!
Are you spending enough time getting your lover hot for it? Are you using lots and lots of lube? Good luck
LOVE my partners BIG cock..he is almost 8 inch long and about 6.5 in circumference when fully aroused…I have a tight hole…and even with poppers and lube it is painful….I have just discovered that coconut oil is a very slick lube…going to try using that the next time I feel like trying to take that monster cock. He never uses enough lube. And I MUST use poppers.
I’ve been told I’m a power bottom , I can take some dick, and I love it too ! Size does matter to me, bigger is better . It’s the really thick ones that I find more difficult to take. You got to start out slow! Once I get you in me, I can go and go. Strech me good man.. Lol
Well papi you just found your man, I can take it and then some….hit me up and I will power bottom it for you….
Well my dick is 13 in long and 6 in around and I honestly don’t and have never had a problem. But I’m also not an aggressive top I like to take my time I’m a pleaser so u would say u would have that problem is u took your time and learned how to fuck and stroke cus it’s not the size it’s the stroke
I have the same issues with my currently str8 fuckbuds. They like the look of 9 thick inches but have a difficult time enjoying it. An hour of eating a nice ass while getting sucked usually evens things out. Pure silicone lube, patience, distraction techniques work wonders. Ther are some things only a man can do for another man.
Hey there guys what’s all the fuss about a thick cock, A great top that has a thick cock should know how to pleasure his bottom and how to fuck him without killing or tearing up his ass. It takes a little time lube and I mean a good quality one. I find that coconut oil is the best for my thick cock and a nice tight ass. My biggest problem is finding a condom big enough for my thick cock. Nothing kills the mood for me quicker then a tight fitting condom. I know I am hung like a horse at 11 inches buts its my girth that’s the problem its 8.5 inches and that’s way above the norman. I tried magnums and they just hurt to much and cut my blood flow off. I am just lucky that I have a partner that can handle my cock and we fuck bareback. We both like to on occasions play with others. He has no problem because he’s 100% bottom but myself even though I mainlyba top I do love a good fucking. Now I prefer a really thick above average cock to one that’s long and lean. I find them less full filling I love a top that know how’s to fuck stimulating my prostrate, there’s know better fuck then taking a nice thick cock that knows how to beet up a prostrate. I have my most intense orgasams that way. Love to be on all 4 taking a good fuck and cuming without touching my cock. So it just boils down to the top just taking his time and not just a slam bam thanking stud and split. My god its called foreplay and love making forva reason.
I don’t feel sorry for anyone that’s hung. You could have been hated by God like me and got stuck with what I have!
A good rim job goes along ways in relaxing my ass, he has 8×6 and takes it easy until I get comfortable and stretched out, then it’s off to pound town!
I hear ya…. I suffer from the same malady, but I was blessed with a double dose: girth and length. I cherish my regular fuck buds – and simply refuse the majority. It saves me a small fortune on condoms and the frustration factor is totally negated.