Love : From Married To a Wife To Married To My Man
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Steven and I met on Adam4Adam almost 3 yrs ago. He messaged me asking if he had met me some places before…. Then once we figured out that we didn’t know each other, we started talking to one another. I was at the time still married to a women with 2 kids and custody of my nephew. Also in a relationship with a guy who at that point left me to be with someone else. I was online looking to see if I could catch him. Hoping that he would change his mind.
Steven was on looking for some one to chat with hopes of finding a friend. He was at the time with a baby and a girlfriend. After we started talking, we ended up getting along pretty well. We agreed to meet in person after speaking with each other for about two/three weeks. We spent a wonderful night together. We both were in the closet and weren’t looking for what came….
A week later, he found out that he was going to be a dad again and I knew then that I have met the man of my dreams. That was on July 14th 2013. In October, he told his gf about us and I then told my wife about him. Early January, we moved in together and I divorced my wife. September 30th of 2015 we got married. Today, we have 4 boys together along with our cat. A new house and even though our families disowned us we are still blessed and we thank you Adam4Adam for starting our journey together. Best regards,
The Mumfords
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Great story loved it, I haven’t found a Guy that makes me want to leave females alone and be exclusive with guys yet. However I am happy for you two.
Sterling.
Good luck in this; as well as all your future marriages.
What a wonderful love story! Congratulations and best wishes. My only sadness is that both families have disowned you guys. I mean, it’s 2016: what is wrong with people? I know a Dutch gay couple, and all four sons disowned their dad. Anyway, best of luck and love.
If this is true,congratulations to u guys.
Aww a Chicken Soup for the Soul moment …
/s (end sarcasm)
Yes, it’s wonderful for you but what about the two women you mislead? You forever altered their lives. You both cheated on your female partners, will you cheat on your male partner?
I’m still married to the wife, and live with her. Men? Ick..who WANTS one? Fun now and then, but 90% are fucked up in some way, shape or form. NO thanks!
Great story! Two cheaters found each other.
I fought for marriage equality for this?
Sadly things like the above story only adds to the famous steryotype of homosexuals gay/lesbian as spouse/girl/boy-friend stealing ,home wrecking selfish “converting” “gay-dar”driven perverts! I saw one of those bitches involved on a “Cheaters” case around a year ago who had literllly wedged himself between this dude and his girlfriend and caused turbulence between them by persistently seducing the dude!
I read it while thinking what Dr. Phil would say…so you meet a closeted cheater like yourself online….find love…a loving relationship and expect it to last…
sounds like putting the cart before the horse to me… I think Phil would say that each needs to do some serious self work before advancing to have a real relationship…and I say how could you trust a cheater you met online? Won’t they cheat on you too eventually? You might have love but where is the trust? Isn’t it time for gay people to end the stigma of perpetual dysfunction? And note this is from a guy who’s voting for Hillary…
Why do you say that¿¿ i got married because of fsmily pressure and religious fears i was taught growing up. Counting on her to fix me… well after 25 years of begging and trying, i realized that i wasnt broken… no fix so here i am still married to her loving her and totslly empty inside. What is the difference in hetro’s divorcing for another and another…. why does the word gay always make it worse…. my family is more important than my dick so i made the choice to stay, but why isnt as wrong for regular people to do the same as men who realize they made a mistake, or just that they are gay…
Gents, life is short and loneliness is a killer. Happy that you two found each other. Hold on to each other, work it out when things go wrong, celebrate and be happy when things go right. Be happy. Congrats!
Wait…. Wait….. Am I supposed to be happy that a guy who cheated on his wife, and a guy who cheated on his girlfriend found love? If I was both of them I sleep with one eye open just in case some wants to find love again.
to the guys commenting about “cheating on their wives” …. are you attached in an open relationship? To each his own thing. It’s hard for married men to come out of the closet sometimes…you gotta do what you gotta do.
Dave
Good for you two!!! I have quite a few friends that were married to women and had children and for what ever reason couldn’t be truthful to themselves. I’m glad that you two found each other!!! And let’s not be so quick to judge unless we know what it’s like to not be allowed to be our true authentic selves!!
Let’s not be so quick also to cast judgement. I know tons of gays that drool over straight married men offering oral to them non stop. So let’s get off our soap boxes!!! There’s enough anger and hatred for our community from outside let’s not let that kind of cancer fester from inside!!
It takes BALLS to come out, be honest to your partner. That said WTF! With HIV and everything else out there to bring home to a pregnant wife and unborn child, risky,selfish,immature and reckless behavior at best. I’m sure someone said to you at some point, ” Grow The Fuck UP” “Get Real”. Flipped out queen really applies here, not an English love story set in Victorian England. Save the dramatic rebukes, I live in the real fucking world, with real persons doing real life things.
I’m surprised at the judgmental attitude on here. Life is complicated and sometimes we make poor choices. Best wishes to these guys, their kinds and their former partners. Hopefully everybody can move on with their lives and find fulfillment and happiness.
I think i was not born to find love, that thing became an obsession for me, and made me cry each time i meet a guy.
So, this story was an awful one to post. And don’t call it an open marriage . The author didn’t. Also, you discover your soulmate when you find out he’s going to have another child with the woman he’s with? Wow. That’s rich. People like this are why gays “ruin lives” and are “sneaky.” I’m ashamed and I have nothing to do with the situation.
DAVE-
Maybe develop an ethical code and choose stories that uplift instead of make me realize why I’m single.
Josh : No I post love stories of all kind. If you don’t like it it’s ok, some other guys seem to have no problem with it.
Every happiness to you both for all the years to come!
This is as synonymous with any cheating people “finding love” gay or straight. If this was a straight couple we would be up in arms. Sorry, I am not impressed.
And before you argue. No, I have never wanted to or been with a married man. I might not be the most virtuous person but even I know that cheating for any reason is wrong and now you have wasted the time of some woman who will in most cases feel resentment and wonder if you ever loved her for anything but a beard to cover up your latent homosexuality.
Call it what you like but there are many hurt parties in this “love story”.
Still making babies while looking for a man to spend the rest of your life with? This makes no sense and I can’t see this marriage lasting without a third (female) being in the relationship. Sorry, no congrats from me. Hope the kids will understand.
Amazing how someone can make something so fucking disgusting sound so sweet and clean! If either of you were real men, you would have done right by your women before you broke up 2 families. I see one happy “in love” (DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT LOVE IS?) couple screwing up 2 marriages. I’m gay myself. How easy do you think it will be for these women to find love with all the baggage you left in your wake? Sounds like you really “LOVED” them! The height of self-absorbed narcissism! If I didn’t have a much stronger sense of myself, this would make me very ashamed to be gay. Homewreckers!!!
Setting an awesome example for your kids! “Don’t worry son, it’s okay to cheat, lie, and ruin lives if you’re doing it in the name of love!”
if they cheated on their wives/gf give it time they will cheat on each other and divorce again..continue cycle….once a cheater always a cheater
To all the haters: don’t be so quick to criticize a life you haven’t led. I’m married to a woman and I fuck guys on the side. It keeps me sane and makes me a better husband. If I wasn’t getting regular sex, I’d be a lot harder to live with. If I divorced her, she’d be broke and lonely. I’m making the best of a less than ideal situation. If I could redo the past, I wouldn’t have married a woman, but redo wasn’t an option. When I married her, I thought I’d be able to be monogamous, but I was mistaken.
Btw, she knows I’m bi and she probably knows I’m not monogamous, but we don’t discuss the details. I sneak around. She could divorce me if she wanted to, but she doesn’t. It works for us.
Frankly, if every marriage had to be 100% monogamous, the failure rate would be even worse than it is.
Well doing on the side on your wife isn’t exactly appludable,but at least you’re taking care of her. I’m of mexican descent and the men are known for there machoistic ways and playing around like they were still single is not unknown . But if one does there still are ethics to follow however! Make sure the Missus has everything and taken care of,it is the man’s responsability and descretion to see to it that niether parties know about the other or even cross paths much less meet. It’s based on the old philosaphy rule “Your wife is the CATHEDRAEL,all the “other” Dames are merely “chapels”. Yea, I know that’s in the str8 world but it’s the point of it.
It’s one thing if you guys where in an abusive relationship with your previous lovers, but I honestly don’t know how I feel about this.
Everyone deserves happiness but if it gets to a point you might even destroy someone else’s love and happiness then what are us gay guys fighting for when we’re basically promoting the stigma? I would rather in the closet gay guys who have been married several years talk to their wives and discuss what’s going on and what they should do, not just our right cheat on them because “you gotta do what you gotta do”, it is 2016 after all, your wives might be open about it, maybe even find it hot
What a huge load of crap. You’re in love and happy, but fucked up a lot of lives and demonstrated to your children that it’s OK to cheat while in a marriage. One of you left a pregnant woman. Bet that child will totally understand & have no issues at all. You discovered after you married you were gay. So what happens when one of you “discovers” you can only be satisfied by a huge cock & Bruce doesn’t have one? Probably wait till you adopt another child & take off on him. You both were totally dishonest and cheated on previous spouses. Why wouldn’t it happen again? You both are very good at living secret lives and telling lies. A perfect match. Wonder if your apples will fall far from the tree with such great examples of true love and honesty.
FYI, I fucked a lot of women but stopped when I started fucking men. I ended a relationship but never cheated on her. Oh I’m bi so it’s OK for me to fuck anything warm.
When i got ot the part where he said he had met the man of his dreams ,i physically shuddered. WTF? I’m divorced with two teens and didnt discover my own interest in men until my 3nd divorce was in progress, however I never chrated on either spouse, i waited until after it was all done papers in hand before i even entertained meeting anyone. Im disgusted and shocked that these two have so little regard for anyone but satisfying their own urges…sickening actually that they care so little for their kids mental health and anyone elses mental stability..disowned by their families was for the best as it will be the only clean break anyone is gonna get out of this selfish abortion if a relationship. Uuuggghhh. Foul.
Woww.!! I long for the day that I can find a man to call my husbandd.
Congratulations to the two of you in your relationship and marriage.!
Extremely happy for the two of youu.
Hoooooly. This whole situation is fucked up! Lol.
They are crazy and deserve each other. Damn straight their families disowned them because what they did was not right. Shame on them.
Good story BUT…why is it that when the guy found out that his partner was going to be a dad Again, that he knew at THAT MOMENT that was the man of his dreams??? That part completely threw me off
ALL YOU GUYS BEING JUDGMENTAL SLAMMING THEM For CHEATING LIKE YOU HAVEN’T? YOU CAN ALWAYS TELL THE SISSY’S FROM THE MEN!
Wow. Maybe they got it right this time. I think about the failed relationships I’ve had before I met my hubby now of 20+ years.
So we are supposed to be happy that you ruined 2 women’s lives in the process? Why were you even with those women in the first place, trying to please the families that disowned you anyway? I think you are both the worst type of gays. Ruin some innocent girls confidence and sense of self so you can have a beard and look straight, then when you can’t take it anymore just start butt fucking some guys on the side and eventually leave her anyway. Disgusted.
Dave-
Cool. I hope you find the love of your life and then he leaves you for the piece he’s fucking on the side. Maybe then you’ll understand the pain caused by these situations and you’ll rethink your stance.
But no, I don’t wish that upon you. Because no one deserves to go through that.
Josh, it happened to me already so I dont have any pity for anyone 🙂
shit happens!
Let he who is without sin……..