Health : Sexual Orientation
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FROM THE AMERICAL PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION (APA): “Sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction that one feels toward men, toward women or toward both. Although sexual orientation ranges along a continuum, it is generally discussed in terms of heterosexual—attraction to the other sex—homosexual—attraction to the same sex—and bisexual—attraction to both sexes. Sexual orientation has not been conclusively found to be determined by any particular factor or factors, and the timing of the emergence, recognition and expression of one’s sexual orientation varies among individuals.”
“Sexual orientation is not synonymous with sexual activity. Many adolescents as well as adults may identify themselves as lesbian, gay or bisexual without having had any sexual experience with persons of the same sex. Other young people have had sexual experiences with a person of the same sex but do not consider themselves lesbian, gay or bisexual. This is particularly relevant during adolescence because experimentation and discovery are normal and common during this developmental period.”
The paragraphs above are quoted from an APA document entitled, “Just the Facts about Sexual Orientation & Youth.” [The document is available on the internet.]
Substantial study and research have been conducted over decades on the many components of sexuality present in humans. Although too lengthy to present here, a substantial body of evidence has found that our ancestry provides a chromosome basis to determine that we are born with inherent genes causing us to be heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. In other words, we were created in one of the three categories.
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Well isn’t that special, this whole time I’ve been busy just being me. Come to find out it’s just natural selection for me just to be me, unaware that my genes had more to do with it then my jeans did.
What a relief, I’ve always considered “normal” to be a setting on the washer and dryer, so I’ve always embraced my sexuality as my own, and rather I meet or conform to anyone else’s standards, taste or view of the world has never carried a lot of weight in my book. But now I know that being try-sexual is just in my genes. Not that I was ever considering morphing into someone else.
In the end we seek what we seek because it feels good.
I totally agree with this, which is a surprise. The new slew of terms people are using to describe their sexuality are absurd. I have heard enough of kids using stupid terms to describe their orientation. There are three sexual orientations not an infinite amount that can be created at will.
i have had a girlfriend all my life but when i turned 50 started having sex with guys…i am now 54
Good god and we wonder why this country is devisive. We need to quit dissecting everything into a category, no one needs to get pigeons into a sexual box. We hate it in describing race and ethnicity and yet the mainstream thinking is everyone needs to know and care where I put my cock. My life, my business don’t label me!
I think we are all bi and just fall on different levels of the spectrum. I don’t think anyone is 100% heterosexual or 100% homosexual.
i feel as luckybichucky does, everyone is born bisexual, and they become what they are brought up as. Some parents force them to be hetro but later in life they go there own way and the bi comes out. I know that is what happened to me, alter boy hetro to bi guy
Although I enjoy the company of women, I am absolutely 100% homosexual. I get what luckbichucky is saying, but for me, you could put the hottest female supermodel naked on my lap and a crane couldn’t get it up. I am exclusively attracted to men. I think most men who identify themselves as gay would agree.
Ive never felt “GAY” but sure do love everything about a guy and his body and sexuality. I’ve neve felt “straight” either. I never had any complaints ever, just maybe 3 times is enough.
Categories, categories, categories. Civilization is going to hell, and blogs like this are speeding up the process. Enough Dave. Get a life and stop dissecting every little thing about us. You’re obsessed. Jeez!
Great! Now, if we could just accept that and move onto something else more important.
I am attracted to both sex equally and loving having a relationship with both. I get different Stimulation from both and love and cherish what both has to offer.
What about people who are attracted to trans people too? Mayb 3 catagories doesnt quite cover everything…
Luckybichucky has is almost right. Kinsey proved that male sexuality (as well as female, although his seminal work on the subject only examined the male)runs the gamut. Back when I lived in the gay ghetto of West Hollywood, “biphobia” was just as prevalent as it is now among the übergays…a jealousy thing, really. MOST guys out there are bisexual to some degree. I’m sort of right in the middle of the scale, and neither the übergays (a tiny minority, really) nor the überstraights like that. OH WELL! Their loss, MY GAIN! What worked well for me was dumping men entirely while we sorted out the whole HIV issue and here I am, neg and healthy. That still doesn’t ease the pain of seeing a lot of my friends die, though…but…to thine own self be true.
I have long felt that each of us is born with the propensity to be gay or straight. The level at which you are prob, one way or the other combined with your upbringing your life experiences and general environment then goes to set your sexuality. You could be genetically predisposed to be 30:70 gay:straight. If you are subjected to events in your life that help to push you over that 50% threshold you become gay and visa versa
Thanks for the info.
But what I want to know is this: what does ass licking have to do with the subject at hand?
So people are black, white or gray. Who knew?
I would like to thank the asshole in my family that gave ME the homosexual gene and my brothers the heterosexual genes.
@Luckybichucky: I disagree. There is absolutely nothing about a pussy that interests me. The only reason I’d watch straight porn is if the guy(s) are hot.
Yeah, he’s over simplifying things a bit with the ‘it’s in your genes’. In essence, this is the ‘nature or nurture’ question and as far as science of sexuality goes it’s a big ‘I dunno’. While it’s true that there does seem to be a biological component to sexual orientation it’s only a part of it. Environment does play a role. The most famous study of this is with twins. When gay men who have an identical twin (and grew up in the same family thus having relatively the same experiences) were studied the percentage that the other would be gay also was only 50%. if it was purely genetic the rate would be MUCH higher, closer to 80 – 100. But, 50% is way higher then the general population which is just 10 – 5%. So it’s fair to say that you have ‘gay leaning’ but in no way does that mean you have the ‘gay gene’.
oh and just to be clear what i mean by “gay leaning” is that you MIGHT become gay it doesn’t mean you WILL be gay. or even Bi.
I grew up in a seamless world of hate and violence. My sexual orientation has always been whom you hate.
I sort of disagree with this one. Simple reason being that there are far too many porn stars that fuck and get fucked by guys, then turn around and claim to be straight as a board. I’m sorry, but even when you are desperate for money, there are so many other things a real straight guy would resort to before cock in the ass. Johnny Rapid is a fine example of this, claims to be straight, but has had more cocks in his hooch than some glory holes. He’s a gay slut that claims to be straight. Yeah right. If you fuck one guy ever so many months because you need it and it doesn’t bother you, then yeah, maybe, but your still not 100% straight. Sexual activity may not define your sexuality, but it is certainly influenced by your sexuality.
I don’t think Bi exists at all, it’s just an excuse to deny being gay. I’ve known several Bi guys, and the only reason they claimed the Bi label was because it gave their families hope that they’d someday have “normal” lives, meaning wife and kids, with wonen. Or because their faith denounced homosexuality. Or because they thought being gay was somehow less masculine than the Bi label.
I do think we are born as one of the three. I grew up in the early 70s when being gay was not very easy. I felt like I was the only gay man in my town. I dated a couple of girls and got married. Being Catholic and all it seemed like the thing to do. I hid my true sexual feelings. With the internet I was able to start meeting men and the first time I had cock, felt like the first time having real sex.
@mistrfistr…why do u turn everything into commentary on ur celibacy and hiv? Getting counseling, life is quickly passing u by. U r missing out on love, sex, companionship. For the umpteenth time hiv is no big deal in 2016. It’s just a pill. Reclaim ur life, go have bb sex with an undetectable!
BigBlackSnake…I so don’t get your logic in using the sexuality of twins to prove it’s not in the genes, particularly when one twin is gay and the other isn’t. How do you know it’s not in the genes for them both to be gay or different. I know it’s in the genes and I don’t need anyone to explain or to prove it. I just know it. I don’t question it as I’ve always known I was attracted to men sexually and was always comfortable with knowing it. I was raised by heterosexual parents(as far as I know) with three older heterosexual brothers(as far as I know) each of them athletic and into sports. How did that environment make me gay? Oh, and unfortunately, none of my brothers ever made me suck their dick nor was I molested by any of the catholic priests in the Catholic school/church I attended. I never got the idea that my being gay would be embraced by anyone. And, like others here…I am completely homosexual. So, to whomever said we are all bi…you know this how? Though I have read that there is something to being the last child in the womb that possibly has some bearing on things in regard to your sexuality. In that case I will concede to that environmental regard(being the youngest) that the “environment” has some import. At 53, I have never been with a woman, have never had the desire and I can tell you with all certainty that I never will be with a woman. And, yes, I have had the opportunity,believe it or not….given how ugly I must’ve been as a child to have never had a brother make me suck his dick. Though, if Shane Diesel should ever happen to be in the mix( 😉 ).
I fuck my wife. She fucks other women. I fuck other men. I am in a heterosexual relationship but that does not mean I am constrained to it.
Twin studies don’t disprove a genetic basis as one poster implied. Sexual orientation is clearly a product of genetic and epigenetic factors. Just because identical twins come from one divided zygote doesn’t mean that their epigenetic histories are going to be identical. What is clear is that same sex attraction occurs all through the biological world, and it is chiefly the religious traditions which seem to get it all messed up. The religions having been developed by the particular society’s “brainy bunch” to help civilize the people, in the days of uncertain health and short life expectancies, it made sense that they would weigh in on the side of encouraging reproduction rather than supporting same sex unions with equal dignity. Today with the horrendous, crippling, environment-destroying world overpopulation, it is mind-blowing that the Pope and other religious elements are not praising the homosexuals for NOT contributing to the destruction of the world.
One day (probably sooner rather than later) the science on same sex attraction will be elucidated in its details. What is already clear, however, is that one is born gay, straight, or bi to one degree or other.
Wow, I can’t get over the blinding narcissism that consumes the gay community that it can’t get through a single day without being obsessed about a self descriptive label, obsessed about how much dick they are going to get in their ass in a day, obsessed about what everybody else MUST think about them, nor how much they obsess about their pathological hate towards each other and anyone who doesn’t think the same or favorably about them. Sheesh…pathetic.
Matt! Damn can I get in the middle of that? I love to eat pussy and play with big titty balls while getting fucked and seeded BB!
@Prax07, I am definitely bi and not just because I don’t want to be labeled as gay. I truly enjoy what both have to offer. I’ve always felt like something was missing when I try to constrain myself to just one.
I think there’s a difference between sexual identity and sexual preference.
In my 6 years of university and 14 years of the US Army, I had sex and relationships with straight guys. Still do, for that matter. I had two 3-year relationships with straight guys in the Army, one whose wife, who hadn’t followed him to Fort Bragg, NC, but stayed in Puerto Rico to work in her family’s business, was aware of our relationship. She and I used to talk on the phone when he would call her. In both cases, the guys were both sexually and emotionally attracted to the person – me – but probably wouldn’t have been to another male. You might view it as a situational relationship, I suppose, and I’ve found that it’s not uncommon in the military, although probably less necessary now that gays can openly serve. And I know it’s not limited to the military, either.
A straight guy I dated on the side (I was in a “semi-open” relationship with a gay man) in Portland was only interested in sex, for the first year or so, but then we developed a deeper emotional attachment. He had a GF at the same time, and she knew about us. Our relationship outlasted my own which had been on the rocks before he and I met. His relationship with his GF ended months into our own.
In all of the cases I cited, and many more on a more sexual note, the guys identified as straight, they just liked the sex they had with me, a gay male. I know I’m not alone in that experience because I’ve discussed it in detail for years on social media.
I’m glad that we’re beginning to move away from labels. I hope that in the future, when asked about sex, the only answer a person needs to give is, “Yes, please!”