Gay Stuff : Daddy-Son Sex Play and More
Age differentials have always existed in personal relationships, and currently sex partners born decades apart are active and flourishing! Age disparity also reflects on the high number of young males today who are either unemployed or under-employed and have feelings of despair. Thus, young guys may need assistance in many ways: physical, mental and financial. Some also feel the absence of biological fathers in their lives.
In the absence of employment, young adults are often turning to whatever source of existence they can find. One source for young gays and bisexuals is supplied by older males who desire the company of sexy, young male playmates who have lots of energy, enthusiasm and vitality. Older males offer opportunities for support through counsel, companionship, habitation, and financial aid. In a loving, caring relationship the idea of $ for sexual favors is not an issue.
If you surf the net, you will find examples of intergenerational relationships that mention the “daddy culture,” friendship, companionship and statements that “age is but a number.” Some older married or divorced males have grown sons thus causing them uneasiness in entering into sexual relationships with males of similar age. However, intense sexual desire and its fulfillment can usually overcome apprehension. Acceptance is easier if the younger male is overtly affectionate and expresses a genuine personal interest in the older male. Some of these relationships are sustained over many years—not just a few weeks.
Many relationships are between two males near the same age and factors other than age usually determine whether relationships at any age are successful for long periods of time.
Members, what are your thoughts on how to sustain relationships?
Counselor4U
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I had an amazing time with an older gentleman, who was mr right in so many ways now that I look back on it. I messed it up becuase I was young and stupid and left him. If I had to do it all over again I would have stayed. This article made me look him up/google stalk him, he is happily married now to another great guy. I wish him all the best. Now I’m going to eat ice cream and pizza. Happy new year all!
My buddy is quite a few years younger than myself. He is almost exactly following the path I took as a young man, we have a very lot in common on many levels. We can do nothing about our age difference. We both have high sex drives, he is very mature for his age, I get complaints I do not act my age. I will enjoy his maturation into manhood as a friend first and a fuckbud second. I feel we are both fortunate.
Counselor4U seems to be coming at a topic from a lop-sided viewpoint. In this case, “what’s in it for the younger guy?”
Daddy-son relationships offer satisfaction for both individuals, not just a situation where “Thus, young guys may need assistance in many ways: physical, mental and financial. Some also feel the absence of biological fathers in their lives.” The “Dads” are seeking something as well.
This post does little more than attempt to reinforce the stereotype that “gays” are always young, urban, and trendy. Always looking for what they feel somehow entitled to receive … what can a “son” get from a “Daddy”.
On the street, gays come in all ages, races, nationalities, etc. looking for a variety of sexual experiences. But more important than any of that, they’re seeking to be valued and accepted. Really, who isn’t?
Being valued as the “Daddy” or “son” or good “bud” is what sustains relationships. Relationships last when both parties understand and commit to giving … and are not just looking for “what’s in it for me?”
Sometimes age difference is not a hindrance – there are other qualities and aspects to a person that might determine attraction. When that happens it is great. Being older and maybe more established (not always the case), I don’t mind treating a younger guy to dinner or drinks or take care of a hotel room if need be. However…really need to know the other younger guy is really interested in me and not simply being a polite prostitute. If he is more interested in my wallet than me it is ultimately more satisfying to pass. Might not be as physically satisfying to just jerk of to porn instead but my own personal belief is that it is more satisfying emotionally. We need to connect as real people, different but ultimately as equals – just two guys enjoying each other for nothing more than the emotional and physical connection.
I’ve always dated older. Younger guys my age have never really done anything for me mentally. I like intellectual conversation about politics and current event beyond reality tv, older men just know how to have those conversations. Not just that, but the sex can be amazing
I like daddies if they’re horse-hung tops.
Then again, I also like younger men if they’re horse-hung tops.
When I was a teenager I serviced 4 men who were 55+.
They were a lot of fun.
I’m coming up on 30 this year, but damn I loved fucking old men.
There are a lot of horny twink bottoms here in Hawaii looking for older hung tops. It sure would be nice if there were also more younger tops here. :-).
for a therapist, you sure bring a lot of yourself to the table
At my age, the “daddy-son” thing, when suggested by the current crop out there, generally means thus: “I will let you fuck me, but it’s going to cost you.” That’s why when I get the slightest bit of breeze of this, whoever it is who’s suggesting it goes on immediate block ‘n toss. It’s always been this way. You need a blog post to find out what it is???
Love this topic! For me I have always been attracted to older men. Although I have never been in a relationship when i think of a future I see myself with an older man. I feel a mental connection with them,and can’t wait to meet the right guy.
-VersedudeNj
I find it disturbing that exchanging money for sex is not an issue. Here are my thoughts on that:
1. Technology and the speed at which people can access information and resources has created a generation of entitled young people. Why use your own resources when you can use someone else’s?
2. If you are in a relationship where sexual intercourse has some financial component to it, you are a prostitute, plain and simple. I think what amazes me is how many young men get offended at being called a prostitute (whore, whatever) when that label is simply assigned based on one’s behavior.
On the flip side, if you are an older man and you are doling out resources to keep a young man in your bed every night, then you, too, are part of the problem. Mainstream society still looks at us as a bunch of whorish brutes with no morals…..why exacerbate the problem just to relive your youth?
I am a 43 y/o divorced single parent of two children. I have been with my share of younger men and been approached by countless others whom I’ve turned down for various reasons.
Anyone who expects monetary consumption or the provision of goods and/or services for your love and affection doesn’t truly care about you. You happen to be the one they are whoring themselves out to and when the well runs dry, your bed will be empty as quick as it was occupied, and they’ll be on to the next “client.”
And that’s a fact!
I think the Dad – Son relationship is great as long as the guys love and care for each other regardless what the younger one is looking for to fill the void in his life. The sex part is tricky and depending on how far apart is the age gap and the age of the older guy compared to the younger’s. Sexual satisfaction is important in any relationship. A 20something energetic horny guy is fine with an older guy in his 30s, 40s, even 50s but 60something is another story. I haven’t been in a relationship with a guy younger or older than me although I tend to get along well with a more mature older gentleman 50something or less probably because I always look for a father figure in my life like the post mentioned above. I make good money but still yearn for some male guidance so I often joke that I need a Sugar Daddy to take care of me. In the past I just enjoyed these older guys company since I have an old soul in music tastes and similar old school of basic belief in life except the sex they couldnt go all night or for long periods of time. Its not easy to sustain such Dad-Son relationship if the Son guy is way too young and too horny because he is still growing and needs to learn from his mistakes that he will make if exposed to his peers. The Dad guy will have to release the Son guy at some point in time whether letting him have extra sex outside of the relationship or what we called opened partnership or just giving up on him knowing that the relationship has turned into a friendship. I think these guys are OK with this arrangement because they know what they get into or when they get out of it and guys don’t make such a big deal about relationship since we already know it rarely last even for the best intention. We often see the Dad guy has much more to offer the Son guy but rarely see the opposite. I look much younger than my age so even when I go out with my friend within 5 years to 10 years of age people often assume he is my Daddy despite the fact I take the tab most of the time. Now in my 40, younger guys approach me and seem to want me to take care of them but I don’t feel that old yet, still haven’t found my own Sugar Daddy yet. LoL
I am in a relationship with a man 18 years my senior. I make close to double his salary. So ou our relationship is not built on financial dependency but on similar interests. We both enjoy playing video games going out to eat and working out. Plus age appropriate sex is just so, appropriate.
Mismatch! I’ve not seen a poor older man with a hot young guy yet. In other words, no money, no stud.
I have been involved in several Daddy-Son relationships and I always end up paying emotionally, spiritually and financially. I have to ask myself, “Is the sexual thrill of the moment worth everything else?” Yes, younger men have revitalized my sex life and life in general. But, they always move on at some point and that could have been time I could have spent with a long-term partner not an extended flung. However, there are no victims here. No one is forcing me to do anything. I am willingly and often gleefully leaping into bed with youth and beauty. I just have to look in the mirror and ask why I am not really attracted to guys my age. Narcissism? Superficiality? Fear of Death? Expecting other 50 y. o. Men to be in as good a shape as I am? I am not sure. I can’t recommend daddy-son for a LTR. But, it sure can be fun at the time.
It really sounds to me like the author has made the case that the bad economy is the reason to start dating older males. The post takes the tone of how older men offer “financial aid” to “sexy and enthusiastic” unemployed young guys or younger guys having a hard time. Sounds like buying love or sex to me. Dating is not Social Security or unemployment benefits.
This is an example of how the economy influences our personal choices and why we need reform in this country. These young men need a living wage and real opportunity to make it for themselves. They shouldn’t have to exploit people or worse yet be exploited just to get by.
Relationships need to be about love.
You know what I say fuck it age is nothing but a number really to me.
My friend just texted me you don’t talk to no one under 30 and I said no that isn’t true actually I’ll talk to anyone older than 25 as long as you don’t have any baggage of drama, baby mama, the dl lifestyle.
I have a boyfriend omg it’s so good to say that now but guess what he’s 50 years old and guess how old I am 22. I know there is a big gap but I really don’t care I like a man that knows what he wants from life. Got his shit together and he doesn’t have any baggage with either and is fucking way better than these guys I had since I was 18. And I really love this man to death… ❤️ So again I say “Age is nothing but a number as long as your truly in love”
Well,this is classic subject something that’s always really been going on… forever! Especially now with the situation of under/unemployment issue affecting the younger generation dudes,so it’s not just for having a yerned “dad” figure. What I mean is to just keep in mind,there are still alot of cute young dudes out there and not to fret too much over that one you see with that oldtser isn’t the last cute dude in the world! Guess foggies deserve a break too, that kid may have even been meant for that. You’ll eventually snag your own cute dude(who’s interesyted in a dude not as dad) and you’ll get to be the one envyed for what you’ve hooked yourself!
Wow. Could you stereotype these relationships any more rigidly? Probably, but you sure did it already.
I had a 2 year relationship with someone 31 years my junior. It was an equal relationship on all levels and, indeed, he was often the more patient, ‘mature’ one of the relationship!
Finance, fathers whatever – it’s two people who fall in love (or like). Who cares where the desire comes from?
However, your comment “Acceptance is easier if the younger male is overtly affectionate” turned my stomach and made me realize that this blog is utter crap and I won’t waste my time clicking that blog link again!
In my 20’s, I rarely got laid. In my 40’s, the majority of guys who hit on me are younger than me–mostly in the 20’s and 30’s. I remember in the 90’s when my friends would have thought a guy my age was a “troll”. Now, I am a “hot commodity”. I’m not complaining. Perhaps at first I was skeptical…that it was about my perceived money or position. And maybe that is mixed in there. But I get hit on by guys on A4A who have no idea what I do or if I have a nickel. It is definitely a thing. I am glad that the stigma of going out with older guys has started to go away. I admit that I missed what could have been a great relationship with an older guy when I was younger because of my friends. He wasn’t “hot” by their standards–Never mind the fact that I rarely got guys who were. Now that I am older, I get hit on by guys who would not have given me the time of day twenty years ago, even when I was a skinny dancer. I’m okay with that.
Young guys only want guys my age for money no other reason. They don’t care anything about me as a person. I see it all the time and hAve had for many years. I don’t do it and will not. Love me for me if I’ve got a penny or a million dollars. That’s just the way it is.
Honest communication, allowing another to ttruly know you and trust are the only things that can sustain a relationship. Tell your partner everything. Allow yourself be vulnerable. Trust them with all of you and give each other the freedom to have thier needs satisfied. If that satisfaction involves another it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Ensure their needs are also satisfied and above all else don’t try to hide it. It is rarely the infidelity that hurts so much as the feeling of betrayal from being lied to. Honesty, vulnerability and trust.
When I was in my late teens and and early twenties I loved the attention of older males and daddy types. It was always a major turn on for me for dad/sin role play. Always enjoyed being able to entice a married older man.
I feel older men have more experience to show younger guys. I would love to meet a friends 40’s to 60’s that can give a younger (29yo) bottom guy like myself more experience. My a4a is same as my name here. California Bay Area guy here
I am one of these older males that just love young guys, but they are hard to find. I don’t mind financial assistance at all but the pickings are slim. If anyone knows of a source to find these young guys please let me know. I am 49 bi and DEEPLY closeted so can’t cruise the gay bars…..HELP….
I have had many sexual encounters with young men 20 years my junior. Those encounters are all good, what is consensual between two adults is just that. However, the one relationship I had with a man 17 years younger was built on untruth. I think older men need to be very careful when entering these types of relationships especially if the younger member is too good to be true or says all the right things. Because a 12 month relationship can do a lot of damage when he decides he’s gotten enough and he drives off in the new car you bought him. Deciding what is genuine and what is not can be a hard lesson learned but not so hard on the one driving a new BMW to his next victims house! Just sayin’
I’ve bee in several Dad/Son relationships. A 62 year old white, athletic, 6′ 0″ silver haired Father (vers Top) who enjoys the company of young, fit 22-32 year old, well endowed black sons (vers bottoms). You might be surprised at how many are out there. I avoid the hustlers just out for money. No passion there.
I’m 23 years old & I love older men especially older BLACK men! I don’t need money from them or anybody either
First of all, you start out with the topic “DADDY-SON SEX PLAY AND MORE,” which I think is going to then be an article about a kind of sex play…only to have you end by asking, “Members, what are your thoughts on how to sustain relationships?”
I would agree that you could assign this title to a form of sex play that many gay men would like to engage in and you could fervently have a discussion as to how they go about it.
But, at the same time speaking as a 53 year old man that has in fact been engaging in sex with younger men, I don’t think of myself as the younger man’s father or of them as my son. I just think of it as two men of different ages that have chemistry and an attraction for each other. And, not for any of the reasons you’ve mentioned above. No money has been exchanged and in fact I have been the one with no employment as I am HIV positive and on disability while the younger, HIV negative man has been employed and has his own home which he in fact was renting out. We only did meet for sex and I have to say I believe it was equally satisfying for both parties. I in fact would always wait for him to contact me. It ended as he moved away.
Later, an older, generous friend of mine took me to the city where this younger man moved away to for my birthday. We met for lunch and then he took me back to his home. We talked and I helped him a little with a new bedroom set he just got. Then he changed as he wanted to go to dinner with my friend and me. We had a wonderful dinner and it felt as if it were our first date even though my other friend was there. It was in fact the younger man that I had been engaging in a sexual relationship with for the past two years or so that picked up the tab for dinner. I was quite impressed. We all then went to a bar for a drink after which my other friend retired for the evening to give us some time alone. We then went to another little club and we stood by the bar with our drinks while we moved a little with the music. Finally, we walked back to the hotel and for the first time we spent a night together; actually slept together. I wanted/longed to do more, but as my friend was in the other bed all we did was sleep. Okay, there was a little more that happened, but nothing like what we normally would do. The next morning my other friend actually got up early and left the room to give us some private time. I guess we could’ve used this time then to have sex, but, I felt the need to talk and let this other guy know how I felt about him(I’m such a girl.) How much I didn’t realize I would miss him after he moved away, even though he said I could visit. The younger man was mostly quiet and just listened and before I knew it my other friend returned and we needed to get ready to check out. I was sad thinking about leaving when I had just spent my first night with this younger man. There was not a moment where I was bothered by his leg on mine or not once did I worry about how I moved or he moved. I was just as happy he was there in the morning as I was each time I would see him when we got together for sex and as I was when went to bed together for that first time. One of the last things he said was…”what’s next?” I just looked at him and he said we could alternate driving to see each other. The thought of his suggestion made me happy. My other friend said that if my friend wanted to take me back to his house for a few hours again that he was fine with that. My younger friend replied that if he were to take me to his house again that he might not let me go. Of course, I was taken aback a little by this and it made me feel good as well. We said our goodbyes and parted.
The day before I had asked him what he would have called what we did…were we just fuck buddies or what. He said we were lovers. I really thought that was a great response as I felt that in his touch and I knew it was in mine though I never put the words to it.
Sadly, because of calling him at the wrong time and sending a text and waking him up and having gotten grief about both those things we are now estranged. Perhaps these things are not even the reason, just excuses.
So, I guess like your last question about how do you sustain a relationship…I find myself asking the same thing…in addition to a few other questions. How do you get one started when it seems the other person doesn’t want to talk to you so you can get to know one another? Was it just sex we were having? Or were we making love as he said we were lovers? Can you have sex with someone for two years and not have deeper emotions about it? Is it that our age difference mattered not during sex but would in regard to a relationship? Is it that my HIV status mattered not in regard to sex but would in a relationship? I will say this and I did tell him this…he never made me feel like I was any different. Or, did he just not want a relationship? And, yes there is that response…perhaps, “he’s just not that into you.” Though it sure did feel like it while we were being intimate. It never felt like a quickie as it never was quick. And, for me, each time felt like the first time. I was always excited to be with him.
I know I was wondering what a relationship could have been like.
My first LTR was with a man 15yrs my senior. I was newly out of a failed heterosexual relationship, still finding my gay self when this mature, sophisticated, educated and stable gay man took an intense interest in me. I was 31yrs old. Originally from a small town in Northern Ontario our dating was frantic and surreal. I also had a 16yr old step son living with me. Both of us (me and bf) were in the the closet. His was because of his work. We eventually started co-habitating as “friends”, but all his friends and those few trusted colleagues knew the truth. I was in dire need of affection and understanding, and love. He was, too. Wish though that I had taken more time to get to know him. The first years seemed to be good, but I was not aware of his proclivity to younger men.
Especially, while he was on the road 200 days of the year. After 6yrs of faithfully loving him I found out about his other life the hard way: phone call from our Public Health Agency regarding possible transmission of an STI to me. It was then that as sat in my doctor’s office talking about stuff I began to see patterns, and alcohol abuse in my partner. He was a hurting man forced to hide himself for so many years, he did not know how NOT to tell a lie. After 8 yrs we broke up.
Now, the proverbial shoe is on the other foot. I am the 19yrs senior to my partner. The biggest difference though is that I have not forgotten my past experience. I know my current partner is the person I used to be, and rather than see us playing the field separately and secretly, we have agreed to explore our interests together.
For many this might seem like a dangerous path, but for me and him it is our mutually agreed upon path.
One we do together. Not apart or exclusive of the other. I am not trying to be his saviour, nor does he require one. I am his loving, tender and emotionally supportive best friend, lover and mentor/guide.
What do I get out of this LTR? Besides unbelievable great sex…love and tenderness, and a guide in this technological world.
For my partner some of the things we do together are new and wonderous to him, and some of the things are new and wonderous to me. Sharing that with each other is an amazing journey of self discovery and mutual discovery.
Will our LTR last forever…not likely, as I am 19yrs older it is more likely that I will leave this mortal form before he does. Will it last 5, 10, 15, 25yrs? No one can truly say any relationship will, but as long as he is in my life I will treat him with the same respect, compassion, love and understanding that we all crave. And, I will enjoy and savour each moment we have together.
It is possible to love and be loved no matter the age differences. Just remember to love and grow and learn new things together. Always. Share in each other’s wonders. And be honest, be real, be true.
What has help me sustain relationships with my husband of 19+ years and my oldest buddy who is 32 years my senior and has remained a friend for the same number of years are the following: 1) I genuinely like them as they are. I remember them before the ventral hernias and small bellies. They are still wonderful men. 2) Honesty. Never lie. 3) Show some appreciation. Say thank you often. 4) never steal. 5) Pay back all borrowed money and on time. 6) Never humilate him in public or in front friends. 7) Help with chores. 8) Be reliable. 8) Accept love from the other the way it is expressed and given. 9) Shut fuck up and listen before you react to what the other person has to say. You really wabt to understand why you want avoid kicking his ass. LOL. I’ve never had a fight or heated argument with my husband. There are many many more. But in the end, you gotta accept the full package, talents and faults and be willing to change as you mature together.
Daddies apply within 😉
I love the company of a smooth older guy for their level of experience, travel and stories.
My father went poof when I was 2 and my mother was a waste of human flesh. She was good at getting pregnant but not even remotely good as a parent. When I was 14 I met a man who was 60 at a vintage car show and I admired his car. He took me for a ride in it when the show was over and popped a boner, so I just flat out asked. We went to his house and I flowed him good. Although we don’t have sex that often anymore, I refer to him as my grandfather. I also got to know two of his friends so I had 3 grandfathers. They put me through college and for that I am eternally grateful. Two have since passed and I inherited well. Yes, I went into it for the money, but along the way I learned a lot about life and how to love someone.
Great! An article telling young people to prey on the older if you are unemployed or otherwise financially unstable. This is a load of shit. What reader published this?
Lots of money — the younger guys are very willing to spend YOUR — which they feel is THEIR — money.
I’m attracted to men of any age group, however I will not be called Daddy or become someone’s Sugar Daddy. I don’t mind hooking up with a younger man, but I won’t adopt him. I’m oaky if other men do this, but it’s not my thing.
Relationships only work when both parties are working together to support and fulfill each other desires and goals. Age should never be a factor in relationships because the attraction and sexual attraction will be the center focus of sustaining the relationship as long as both parties continue to communicate to one another to keep the relationship long lasting.
Thoughts? How do I find me a daddy that will provide financial aid? I loooove older men, this shit sounds like a dream! Gainesville is a wasteland and I’m a student! Helloooooooo! Hahaha!
Daddy/son roles don’t always fit the age brackets. Always exceptions to the rule. I was in a relationship with a guy that was younger but liked being “daddy” and I enjoyed being the “boy”. It worked very well for us even though I was 6 years older.
I wouldn’t have a problem with supporting a younger guy that I was emotionally involved with, but the idea of paying for sex alone is negative for me. I’d have no problem having a younger guy move in and help me physically and be a housemate as long as we were involved on some emotional level. And even then, he’d have to help out around the house and do his share of work if he weren’t employed and helping to pay for the bottom line. The whole “boy toy” concept of someone getting free room and board just because they’re young and hang out at my house? No way.
“In the absence of employment”
in other words they’re lazy hoes who don’t want to get a job and there are plenty of jobs out there
Your article rings true with me. Previously, I always dated guys my age who had similar income and similar goals. I’ve had long loving relationships but for for various reasons they all cam to and end. For the first time in my life I’m dating someone much younger than me -18 years younger. He has only been out for two years and we’ve been together for 1.5 of that. What this relationship has opened my eyes to is that I can’t stifle his growth. When he asked that we open the relationship, I thought that’s exactly what needs to happen so he has the chance to lead and grow. …I now believe that no matter the age differential, or career goals, hobbies, or whatever. It’s important to let your partner be himself. The other side of that coin is to not compromise your own goals and growth.
Growing up me and my dad shared a close relationship. He taught me a lot about loving men and preserving my masculinity. He has since passed. I’m 40 now and still enjoy roleplaying with older guys. Also enjoy being a dad now for sons looking fo their dad.
MATT, come to me, i’d love to have a 30 yr 0ld fuck me anyday of the week
once I hit 40, I was referred to as a daddy. having 2 kids, I don’t like this reference or culture in the gay community. daddy/son porn turns me off as well as the to thought of having a sugar baby. if a guy calls me daddy during sex, I m done at that point. Many gay men were molested as kids n or were abandoned by their dad’s but to seek a relationship or sexual relations n make it a DADDY thing is gross n borderline on mental issues. I ve had my share of hookups w younger guys n often being around them for too long is annoying as young guys are ignorant about many things n that gets old. I get the money stuff but plenty of younger guys have jobs n are successful..being older doesn’t guarantee financial stability or maturity.
Hey fuck you pal. I’m a younger guy attracted to older men but I want a piece of their ass before I do their pension/savings. How is it that we can get past the whole same sex attraction but an age difference is taboo? Even straight people glorify milfs or boytoys. I’m a young, independent guy but if I want to hook up with an older guy I’m only in it for his $ right? No way. I think it’s funny they say only younger guys are in it for the money when there are still escort and porn categories labeled “daddies” or “mature”. This goes out to all you bitter men who have gotten played by a twink before. Have some pride, a little more common sense, and don’t blame a whole generation for one asshole.
As a 61 year old man I feel I can speak on the subject. I’m underemployed, masculine, outgoing, opinionated, honest, hardworking, blue collar, not rich, car fanatic, sports fan, traveler, in semi-decent shape 6ft/208/average hung 6.5-7″ truly versatile guy who enjoys many things. And younger men is a very important aspect of my life.
Currently I have a 20 yr old bottom I see several times a month for nothing more than our sexual satisfaction, always late at night I will get a call or a text, he lives about 1 hour away so I always have time to shower and get woke up When he arrives most times he’s ready to play immediately, on occasion he needs to shower we will talk or shower together. He is here for 1-4 hours the sex is intense and passionate, the only thing he wont do is kiss, I’m ok with that. We are both in the closet. No money or any financial aid has EVER been offered or asked. We have never been together outside of my place. this young man found me on another site in September of 2014 and he was my NEW YEARS MORNING CELEBRATION. I don’t have a problem with this kind of thing although if he wanted to carry our relationship farther I would not be against it. Recently he was working closer to my home than to his I offered to let him stay here. He declined 🙁 He has a beautiful GF so this is just about man sex pleasure Daddy/son is what this is between us.
Recently after a extended time of chatting with a 29 yr
old hung handsome versa latino from about 35 miles away we agreed to meet. I reserved the room at a hotel in his town where I used to reside years ago. I picked him up at the time and location we had set. Went to the hotel had to wait a bit because there was problem with the original room, the room they moved me to was a upgrade due to my being a member of their chain club. We waited in my truck while the room was cleaned we talked and got to know each other a bit. I could feel the heat building, finally we went inside and wasting no time we got naked and had a great sexual afternoon. both of us are versatile I was expecting a daddy/son time but he surprised me by taking control we both had a fantastic time. I knew going in he had time restriction so we showered up and as I drove him back to his car he gave me half the cost of the room, we agreed to meet again with my 20 yr old bottom for a 3 way. We stayed in close contact text & E-mail pics included then come time for day of the 3 way things started coming up on his end. Also the holidays. we agreed to reschedule. I understand the holidays and family stuff messing things up not a problem with that. Also knowing he was on the DL he would have further limitations not sure if it was a GF/BF situation he is in. But then out of the blue he sends a message no longer interested. All I know is we a had a great time and I would have loved to continue see him. Just makes me wonder WHAT changed so suddenly????
I would love to continue with these two fantastic young men and if it has to be a DL thing that’s cool.
I have hit on several younger guys and many of them think cuz they are hot that they deserve to be paid for what they think is their sexual prowess. HaHa as some one said here that makes them a whore and not on my $$$
Experience makes up for many things…. DDDD
This make it seem as if if the younger guy is a paid hooker , I’m a man of 57 years old and have meet and had sexual encounters with young males but no money was exchanged . Many say that they enjoy the way older male speaks and treat them and the act of sex was what they are looking for,theses young men have their own employment ,resident and transportation.. some profile state that they would prefer contact from males over 30 ..yet they are some that don’t want to deal someone the age of their father or older .. But if the daddy want to pay for what he want there is a section for the pros
is this guy a therapist? as a retired therapist myself i am greatly concerned about all the guilt and recrimination in his post…some guys are attracted to older and some guys are attracted to younger… it may not be your cup of tea, but why try to make those in an inter-generational relationship feel as though they are being taken advantage of? (daddy issues, money issues)…a good therapist would never bring these “problems” to the forefront, let alone state them out loud! unless, of course, the therapist was trying to figure out his own dilemma ….. i’ll give him quite a few hours of consultation in my chair for free!
physician…heal thyself!!
if the guy is older n bigger then me id doit only for sex tho
Sometimes you just have to “pay it forward”. Invest time, emotional support, sometimes some bucks here and there in a younger man. Not everyone has a loving and supporting family to get them through the rough times. A hustler is a “working rent boi” and should be acknowleged as such, no illusions here.
@SFDAD…and your “fun” will cost you a bundle eventually. These kids hit up “desperate” oldsters like us, and they don’t give a SHIT about our status or what our thoughts on that are…just how big a wallet you have, what you drive and where you live. Hell, why delude yourself further?? Go get a rent-boy, fer chrissakes! It’ll probably cost you LESS! They’re probably more on-the-ball about HIV/HCV, too.
I’ve always been attracted to older men, but as I’ve gotten older, I find myself attracted to younger men and vice versa. I used to find it strange, but now I can’t seem to stop checking young guys out. I think it’s really sexy when a young top guy approaches me and wants to date me. At 41, I get hit on more by 20 & 30 year olds than men my age. I guess the saying is true…age ain’t nothin’ but a number!
After having read all these comments I’m wondering if guys my age have any self respect at all. I will not pay a young guy one penny to be with me if I have to be by myself to the day I die. I have never been so desperate to compromise my values,self respect or self confidence. I know guys my age who do this and it is beyond me to understand why.
I’m in my mid fifties and have had many Daddy/Son relationships the last 20-25 years. I won’t say romances because some were purely for sexual gratification. However, others were romantic or developed into such and a couple became true love affairs. (Including my current one). I readily admit to supporting my younger, less financially well off partners and I’m well aware of how society looks upon those type of relationships. Some young men have been callous hustlers and it showed quickly enough. Others were just a fling in which both parties got what they wanted without debasing the relationship by making it all about a transaction. Several ran their course but we developed nice friendships in the process. Two became true love affairs and I don’t care what the motives were going in (on their part); I just know how we grew to love and respect each other despite the age difference. It’s not for anyone to judge. My current love interest makes me happy, makes me smile, makes me feel young again. And for that I’m grateful.
this ‘article’ seems to be a conflation of bunch of half-baked ideas, with a lot of bias, little logic and no follow-through.
here are a few of my random thoughts on the subject:
gay middle age– too old to get a daddy, too young to be one.
I’m turning 50 in a town where most of the guys are 18-25. I get hit on all the time by young men who want to work out their daddy issues on my cock. I usually say no.
younger guys can be fun to play with, but they don’t know how to leave.
through examples good, bad or indifferent, our fathers teach us how to be men. throw burgeoning sexuality into the equation and it’s no wonder certain attachments are formed.
and it runs both ways– we look at our fathers and see the future, they look at us and see the past. links in a chain that become strands in a web.
I notice there’s no mention of real father/son sexuality, only pretend.
I know quite a few couples with younger daddies and older boys. it’s just a question of energy and chemistry.
I should’ve added on more question…is it that I’m on disability and he works that could be an obstacle to wanting a relationship. Or maybe it’s a culmination of many things.
Though I still want to believe that love…true love overcomes all obstacles. But, it must exist to do so.
Depends on the age difference, when I read that Sarah Paulson (41) was in a loving relationship with Holland Taylor (72), the coffee spit out of my mouth.
I’m 40 and won’t date nor have sex with someone more than 10 years my junior or senior. I get hit on by younger guys (low to mid 20s) all the time on the internet and I decline.
But if there’s a 20 or so year age difference, it’s time to seek psychological counselling. Because there’s something else going on in the mind that needs attention to.
Nothing wrong with this… this is how most women find there lovers.older Established is better.. I would Like a said relationship n I wouldn’t consider myself a who’re… if I have to make my own money I honesty don’t have time to spend with some one I need to be making money… simple
For the last year I have been pursued by a young man 37 years my junior. It is very flattering to my ego that he likes a chubby older men. But I’ve been reluctant to let a relationship develope. Is that too much of an age difference? I welcome comments from anyone with experience in a May/December relationship. Thanks.
Hey bud. I’m a younger guy who happens to be interested in older men but I want a piece of there ass before there pension or savings. I was raised independent and hardworking so just because I want to a good time means $ has to be involved. I will earn my own. Glad to hear stereotypes are still alive. We can get past the whole same sex thing but an “age differential” is considered taboo. Even straight people glorify milfs or boytoys. I find it funny that some believe younger men are only in it for the money when we still have porn or escort services coining the category “daddy” or “mature”. Shame… Well this goes to all you bitter older guys who have gotten played by a twink. Have some pride, use common sense, and don’t blame my whole generation for one encounter of poor judgement. You are still beautiful men don’t poor the dirt on yourself yet.
I dont understand why young guys feel like they should be “paid” to have sex with a daddy. If you’re one of rode people, I have some advice for you: Get the fuck over yourself. It pisses me off when young guys abuse this shit (I’m a young guy btw). Daddies deserve as much affection as anyone else, plus they’re usually much better looking then the young whore they’re with anyway.
I just turned 51 years old. I always hookup with guys who are 18-30 years old. Just my preference.
I still have the energy and stamina that I had three decades ago…but now I have the experience to match.
The boys in Las Vegas and Key West are always on the prowl for an older man
This is a topic that has as many different perspectives as the number of men you ask. I am one of the “doubters” though. I honestly cannot see how any relationship, homosexual or heterosexual, can be of legit, long-lasting stature when there is more than a ten year age gap. Can it happen and can they be long-lasting? Absolutely, there is no questioning that. However, my only caveat to that is I am sure they are few in the making let’s say 1 in a 1,000 for sake of argument and example. The “May-December” gay relationships that I know of always consist of a “barter” arrangement. You know.. his 20-something smooth ass for room and board in your house. Also, if you are foolish enough to give some random guy money under any circumstances for a sexual relationship, what you are basically inadvertently saying is that you yourself are as meaningless as the so called budding relationship. It’s 2016, learn to love and respect yourself guys and others will also.
When I had my first experience, I was 16 and he was 38, I was a repeat at his place twice a week, great experiences I had with him. Then after about 3-4 years he moved away and after that, any sexual encounters I had, the other guy was always older by 8-10 years. Maybe it’s because they’re more experienced, it certainly isn’t the money, I have a well paying job. Now that I’m 50, I’m wanting more closer to my age bracket.
BatmaninRobin I have to agree with you, I’ve had some younger lovers that were one stroke wonders, I’ve met a guy 10 yrs younger that is prob the best lover I’ve ever had. I feel my experience ability and stamina has never a issue we have done things together and always go dutch. I don’t mind buying drinks or dinner or the cost of a room, if they come right out and ask for $$$ I’m outa there.
7top I’m glad you feel that way, and your right
Youngbuck your so right a little common sense and pride does go along way, so far my gut feeling has been right on point regarding a hustler or scammer and no I wont be played.
PHD you got it right.
BJ 37 years is just a number go for it, it may turn out better than you could ever hope or expect. Or it may only last a year or two. But DO NOT DENY yourself that possibility……DDDD
Am I the only one who thought this post was condescending and mildly ignorant? Read like a NYT Article on what Millenials should be doing with their lives. It stereotyped and debased an entire group of people for their age, and a caste of relationships that is incredibly diverse. Maybe it’s precisely BECAUSE I AM a younger male, but this seemed so far removed from actual fact it bordered republican.
I am a big fan of the top son fucks bottom dad club, and quite by accident. I have not neen that interested in younger guys but a few have contacted me and convinced me to meet. At first I was sort of self conscious about the age difference but have learned to deal with it and more than a few guys said the sex with me was way betteer than they’d had with younger guys. Now I am more comfortable if a youngeer guy shows interest and I am more open to meeting, dating, hooking up with guys nearly half my age. I just decided to go with the flow and not be so concerned about a number.
I am also a big fan of that “club”. :-).
I am a very young looking and acting 55 year old man. I have a huge sexual appetite and high testosterone level. I usually won’t bed a guy over 40 or under 20. I do have standards. Never had a complaint. Guess I am lucky in the sack.
The daddy-son relationship isn’t just a financial aspect as so many people assume. My partner and I have been together for 7 years. He’s 56 and I’m 27, and I’m not even his physical type (he likes the Twinks and hunks and I’m a chubby cub.) We connect on an emotional level the way you imagine the e-harmony folks dream of. Hell, we even take care of his elderly parents now.
Yes, we have sex, but because we both have different sexual needs, we either bring in a third, or play separately. Relationships are complicated and can’t be summed up or generalized the was that people like to with everything else in this world. Just let two people be happy and in turn, be happy for them.
I really have a hard time with the term daddy/son sex, I wish it were called something else like older/younger or daddy/twink etc.
MATT,,, come get me.. you sound aweome, I’m all yours
I , too, needed love and affection, as a young guy.. and found it easy to “show ” older men that I was eager to be with them . I never saw it as perverse . It was natural and very pleasing to me.
I had one mentor who showed me his passion and was loving and gently acted as my teacher,, and I,, his behaving student .. very early on he realized I loved this role and introduced me to 2 other men about his age and older .. he was 45.. again.. I very much loved this.
I was with them for long term relationships .. ongoing..
I’m 58 now and still seek to be with older men .. who can offer me closeness and sex ..
Gaylynn