Gay Stuff : 6 Reasons Why You Are Still Single
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1. You’re not interested in being a sex toy
Many gay men like sex more than anything else. You like sex too, but it doesn’t define you. You rather know your partner’s last name before he moves in and become your lover.
2. You you are not in a position to commit to a long term relationship
Many things in life take precedence over a relationship: a job, finances, illness, family and the list goes on. If you can’t give enough of yourself to your partner, maybe you will choose to stay single.
3. You believe in love, but you don’t love him
You’ve found that guy all your friends think is the perfect match. He’s smart, successful, sexy and, even better, he wants you! If you move in with him, and/or get married, you’ll be guaranteed a spot as Gay Couple of the Year, with fabulous Instagram photos to prove it. Problem is, you’re not in love with the dude…
4. You haven’t met THE one
Social media and some dating apps make you believe that YOUR man is just a click away. But meeting men has never been easy, no matter where you live, whatever your age or what you do for a living and meeting a guy who makes your heart flutter just doesn’t happen that often. Concentrate on, and love, yourself. He will come when you won’t expect him.
5. You like to be single
You like to travel, go out, have fun and meet new guys. You simply don’t want to commit to one guy only. Maybe you broke up with your ex recently and you need some time to breathe and enjoy new experiences.
6. You are not perfect
Many men seek guys who fit their idea of a perfect partner: perfect job, perfect look, perfect friends, perfect for an ad. You want a guy who loves you for your individual nature and your imperfections. Not your body, clothes and Louboutins shoes.
Dave
I could never love a man who doesn’t put a skeet blanket under his naked ass on the couch.
gurl, speak for yourself, i am perfect in every way. i look good, i smell good and i fuck real good. lawd have mercy missy, youve got to get over yourself . btw. happy chanukah, merry christmas and have a fabulous kwanza… and to the rest of the infidels out there. HAPPY SASHAY OLE !!!
You’re single because you’re a man and most of them aren’t wired for “one and only”. Fostering solid relationships with a handful of men works for me … and seems to be working well for those guys too. We’ve all been at it a few years now.
1 4 and i will admit it some of 6… now what? just deal with it and learn to like being single? :-/
“Concentrate on, and love, yourself. He will come when you won’t expect him.” Ok, I’ve not been expecting anything in ten of the past 21 years. Just not expecting something will not make it happen. When I met my partner 26 years ago who died 5 years later, I WAS Looking and hoping and expecting love to happen. If you are looking for anything in life, you have to be open to it and ready for it. Now, forcing something to happen is bad, and will not result in a good outcome. That I will go for. Not some magical mood of pretending not to want it.
Wow…..groundbreaking!
Number 7: you are not entirely convinced that “love” as described in fairy tales and Hollywood actually exists. You have never experience it nor ever known anyone who experience “love” (not to be confused with obsessing over someone or getting used to being around someone).
Number 8: You don’t understand why “being single” should be considered a bad thing or a fault/failure.
The main reason why I am single and have always been single is the fact that today it seems to be the norm to have side chicks and side dudes as if its ok to have them when you’re in a committed relationship, but that isn’t commitment at all, if you want to have sex with multiple partners then why not stay single instead of causing heartache for the other guy that seriously believed he loved you and only you? I don’t ever want to be cheated on and it seems a lot of guys and girls these days view it as ok, in my opinion it isn’t just stay single . . .
7. You’re a bottom.
70% of guys are (total) bottoms, so the competition is fierce. And chances are, you’re just average.
I’m like 89% sure that this blog post is plagiarized from a recent article on the Huffpo.
or could it maybe be that:
* You’re not 20 something and beautiful.
* Not fabulously wealthy–there is no shortage of men who want a free ride(sickening)
* You’re HIV Positive–and NOBODY wants THAT!!!
* You have standards (vis. a vis.-you don’t want to date someone else’s husband, boyfriend or lover, whether or not it’s ok for them. You really are not interested in knowing everyone in the Biblical sense. Maybe if there were fewer men doing that, wanting to have their cake and eat it too, there’d be more men left for the rest of us–yes you may have guessed I’m single.
* this “Wonderful guy” only wants sex, when HE wants it, How HE wants it, and he usually has less than an elementary understanding of foreplay–because he essentially doesn’t care about your needs–HE, is a narcissist.
* He has not grown up yet (Hell, how long does it take?)
* Not to mention, there are a lot of guys out there with VERY high expectations. Expect nothing, and be pleasantly surprised!
* There are many men, who are simply average–nothing wrong with that at all–they just have very unrealistic expectations.
I am a good looking, intelligent and caring person, who does like himself. (that is the lamest of all the reasons a person is single–another trite dismissal, I imagine penned by one who is and for most of their life has been happily coupled. That last point is a clear testament to the adage, if you don’t have anything positive to say, don’t say anything. When you say this to a single person, you are essentially blaming them for not being blessed with a partner or a mate. I’m sure that makes them feel a lot better about themselves when you for all intents and purposes tell them it’s their fault that they’re alone.
Maybe people should blog about something they have experienced and truly know something about.
1,2,3,4,5,6 go thing someone can count but not high enough that is hell may go to 1000 and still be a heart breaker…….. love ya
A4A? What’s up with the timing on this “Blog”? Don’t you yet realize in your infinite knowledge of why people are single is coming at perhaps, one of the lonliest times of the year for singles? I would have preferred a card and a “Happy Holidays”, thank you very much.
And to all the wonderful, beautiful (inside and out) single lonely guys out there, for my part, I wish you a very special Holiday season. Maybe even that guy that re-affirms your true value as a person, whoever you may be, whatever you may or may not have–intrinsically, sees you for the beautiful and worthwhile person that you REALLY are!
1. I totally agree with. Guys today base datability with how much they like you in bed. 2. Not in a position to commit? Thats a cop out. Budding relationships do not occupy so much of your time that you cannot date someone. You can spend several hours a week taking random dick but you cant commit that time to one person? 3. If you dont love someone and they obviously love you. Then be man enough to tell them so and end it. 4.”THE” Right one is an illusion. If you seek love with naive expectations then youre in for lifelong disappointment. 5. If you like to be single then leave guys who arent a part of the nsa whorish lifestyle alone. 6. No one is perfect. Our flaws are the things that make us unique.
Last guy cheated the entire 6 years. I spend more time with his kids than he does. My young “str8 boyfriend” is way more honest,loyal,loving. You never know who, what ,when the man for you will materialize. Just be ready for him.
I was in a relationship for nearly 20 years, although the last several were pretty f*#ked up. My partner was an alcoholic, and in spite of multiple rehabs, he slowly committed suicide with his drinking. I loved him deeply, even through the darkest times. He died August 1st of this year. It sucks being alone, and I miss the simple things of being in a relationship. So, I haven’t been single for very long, but I’m not in any hurry to jump right into another relationship. I hope to find someone wonderful again.
Guess that wasn’t really an answer to your blog question, but I’ve had my say. Considering I’ve spent nearly 30 years defending our rights, including free speech, I’m going to have my say! 🙂
I’m believig in I haven’t met the One yet..but i’m not seeking either.. it’ll come when it’ll come.. i ‘m learning how to be patient and wait…he’s out there..i just gotta wait…
For me it’s 1 and 2! Hands down
after I read this, i don’t feel an asshole.
I love sex but those who I mess around with they want something more than hookup and I have been honest with them I don’t want to further .. I tried many times but never work or I guess I met people who was never satisfied. But but now I’m enjoying my indepence and feeling better. Enjoying 100% (:
Maybe you’re still single because you have far too unrealistically high expectations and requirements for anyone you date. Or that you expect Mr. Charming to knock on your door without you having to do any effort to find someone meaningful. Or you live in a state like Alabama where most gay life is totally repressed and guys are depressed.
You forgot number 7:
You have a restraining order against you from @brandon.seancody!
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This article absolutely changed my life! Wow!!! LOL!
1..guys lie too much
2..guys are players too much
3..guys won’t commit
4..not attracted to those attracted to me
5..guys take to long to know if they like someone
6..guys want to date too many guys at one time
7..guys want to pretend to date but really want to fuck around all day long.
the lost goes on and on
The lack of communication is part of the problem guys live in fantasy and not reality at least in the situation I’ve been in to much pull n tug drug abuse n random cheating solutions besides a breakup
I’m single because relationships are pointless to me. I may flatter myself, but I don’t think there’s a complement out there for me…
#1 is all too common. People are so prudent with themselves, in my area atleast that it’s like a joke that lost all of its humor. They’ll join apps like Grindr, but they won’t share any sexy or attractive photos of themselves. It’s awful to even try to converse with them because they just seem so lost.
From what I’ve seen though it’s most popular in guys ages 18-22 who are semi-decent looking and seem like virgins still.. Which is acceptable because they’re still young but in retrospect just seems sad.
But it’s even sadder when a 30 year old man is still doing it too. People need to learn to let go and have some faith and trust once in a while.
It sounds as if thisperson is expert at relationship. I think the reason why so many of us are single is because we have no structure to follow and is all sex. We gay people should define ourselves as people of principles and respect. Sex is not something that should define us but courage and equality and toughness should define us because we go through hate discrimination oppression and AIDs. We should not let sex define us because it majes us look dirty and thats why we are subject to disease such as AIDS because we let sex rule u see
7. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Yes it’s truly sad to have to admit to the harsh reality that we are always looking. I’d venture to say that when ever we do find Mr. Right, we’re still looking out of the corner of our eye, looking for Mr. More Righter.
As humans we are in constant motion, change has always been part of our evolution. When we find the perfect house we alter it to make our own, we do the same with cars, office space, we do it with every aspect of our lives. And once we have finally found the one in the bedroom we seek to make it our own, but just like people who move from place to place, we do the same in the bedroom, because he might be hot but the one over there is even hotter.
I know a wine snob who is always searching for that elusive perfect glass of wine, and just like him, I’ve spent a great deal of time looking for that guy who can suck start a Harley from 50 yards away. And once I find him, I’ll reset my sights for the one who can do it from 100 yards, and all because I’m human, it’s in my DNA to want it to be ever more perfect, I just can’t help myself.
I’m single cause I’m not gonna put with all the nonsense you have to go through just to have someone in your life. Someone told me men always cheat, always leave, always disappoint, always break your heart. All true. Unfortunately it’s just the way it is.
1) Gay Men want under 30 only
2) It is easier to give your Dick away, then your Heart
3) They always cheat
4) They always Lie about it
5) They are always looking for the next best thing
6) They want HIV -, even tho they are a bareback whore
BTW, nothing wrong with being a btm lover. Red Btms (CL) are the BEST!
Cheers y’all!
I couldn’t find any greener grass, Marko. I just chose to want my partner to be exactly as he was from moment to moment….and presto…he was always perfection….and he stayed that way until the day he died 32 years later.
People go about this relationship thing backwards.
There is one they forgot to mention:
7. You’ve met the ONE, but he passed away before the of you could not spend the rest of your lives together so you’re looking for someone to take his place or you’re reminded of him so much that it hurts to move on without him.
There are three issues here:
Looking to make love happen.
Looking for it in the wrong places.
Allowing yourself to be used.
Whether straight or gay, the guys I know who found themselves suddenly out of LTRs each said after trying to “find” love again quickly they actually found it over time when they stopped seeking it at bars and dating sites. They found it through connections made through friends, relatives and work. Stop trying to make love happen.
Dating sites. Not places where love is often found. Sex is, but love is not. Stop looking for love on dating sites.
If a guy doesn’t like being used for hookups by men seeking one-time sex, he first needs to clearly state what he’s seeking in his profile. Then he needs to stop quickly meeting up with guys he has only chatted with a few times.
Finding love is a difficult journey. While you can’t control the outcome, you can control a good portion of the trip.
I am belong from divine and spiritual family I’m gay and someday I want to get
married.m proud to be gay &I consider being gay among the greatest gifts God has given me am 26 year old I belong to a spiritually inclined Hindu family from india.i live in gujarat m decent guy loking for perfect gay partner for marriage n share luv fellings hapiness,and to take care each other I believe love will come at the right time I don’t believe in going out looking for it.I’ve been single havent met anyone suitable to date thank you for reading god bless you !!