Hot or Not : Gay Sex And Crossdressing
(This article was written by a member of A4A and doesn’t reflect A4A’s opinion. If you wish to submit an article, please do so by sending it to blog at adam4adam dot com)
Some people like feeding pigeons in the park. Some like to watch the sky or water, enjoying the spinning of this big world we all share with approaching eight billion other human souls.
I take a more perverted appreciation of people and the population. Be it the slew of apps I have on my tablet, the few websites I keep tabs on or just the late night classified trolling sessions, I LOVE watching the migratory movements of the gay men online.
Who doesn’t like seeing the never ending buffet of men online? Hard bodies, soft bellies, beards, abs, white smiles, dimples, baby faces, foreskin, low hangers everyone has their preference and has their own love an affiliation for men and the male form. And even though I’ve never sexually been with a women I can say that there are women I can call beautiful or hot.
But in my scouring of the internet I’ve started seeing something that really sickens me. Literally, I lose whatever wood I was working on and it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Cross dressing….. or I guess more specifically feminization. Even just the request of wearing panties during sex.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for doing what you want and enjoying a happy, healthy and most importantly safe sex life. But honestly, what the fuck?
Maybe it was just the idea to me that a gay man, is a man who is attracted to other men, having sex with MEN. Maybe it was growing up to become the bear of a man that I am now, but I’d never pictured sex in any way including feminization. Being called “bitch” “baby” and while I LOVE being pounded in my ass as much as the next gay guy, I detest having men “Wanna tap that boi pussy”.
It’s been pretty established that a “Tranny/Transvestite” is a STRAIGHT man, that engages in cross dressing for sexual fetishes. And the tumblr/vine terms of “Traps/Catfish” give us the understanding that men can say they’re women and play other guys for nudes and such, but what do we call this seemingly large growing populus of gay men plastering their panty wearing, skirt up photos all over the GAY sex sites?
Again, don’t get me wrong. Do and fuck how you want. But coming to sites for gay men, wanting to dress up as a woman and be called a bitch while a guy plows you face down wearing your sister’s old dress doesn’t sound like gay sex to me. Of course I guess the same thing could be said about living life as a slave in a S/M relationship by people like me who don’t understand, but is it?
While with easy clicks I can jump around Florida in the NSA section of CL, and it’s far from isolated, but it seem VERY prevalent to users in my immediate vicinity of the central east coast. In Orlando, the average cross dresser ad like that pops up in maybe 1 in every 15 post. In the Space Coast section that ratio is almost half, some weeks higher. Now I should add that my area Brevard “Bizarre” county is the longest county in the state. And my city is bordering townships FULL of conservative republicans, senior citizens and lots of guys on the DL.
Should ads like this exist in a m4m section? Or should this fetish, one that goes against everything in my personal opinion as to what is considered GAY sex have it’s own section or tagging system? Do they belong with the outcast and forgotten dregs of our LGBTQ Community, the T’s?
I understand it’s a fetish, I understand they’re dudes, engaging in sex with another man. But if you’re wearing a wig, and stockings and full garb how are you a dude? How is a gay man supposed to be attracted to this? Now I’d like to think I’m far from an ugly man, even being a bear, and I discovered at 19 the fun world of drag.
Being a thespian it was a fun time building a character and putting on shows at our local bar, I even won a few amature nights at the infamous Parliment House in Oralndo. But NEVER did I consider or even think about having sex while looking like that. I love my penis WAY too much for that. Yes I was approached by a few men who wanted into my spanx, but echoing the wise words of Gandalf the Gray, “You shall not pass”, and none did.
Now yeah, in my small town I may have indeed went to meet a hook up, pulled off his pants and found a pink frilly G-string. I pulled it off fast or if they insisted, worked around it and tried to ignore it. But I told them after that I had zero interest and infact never met with a few of them again. Even seemingly normal guys on CL, nothing in their ad mentioning it say, “It cool if I wear panties?” And to which I respond with a “No, I like fucking dudes, buy some Aussies”. I’ve had partners of all shapes and sizes, ages and races. I’m not that picky of a pig when I want sex. But seriously guys, what’s up?
Does this bother you too? Am I the only one that thinks gay sex shouldn’t involve women’s clothing?
So give me your opinions, give me your accounts and ideas?
Crossdressing for gay sex, hot or not?
(And please don’t jump on me saying I’m Intolerant. I’m not saying they need to go away, round up and shot or anything radical or stupid, it’s a peeve and one that a few friends agree with me on and said “That could be a cool poll/article for A4A, so here I am)
Until next time,
BloggerBear
You go around calling someone your master… and yet here you are – kink shaming? I like men myself, but i’d never present the uneasy feeling I get the way you just did. Scumbag.
Anyway – I read this blog on my phone most of the time.
I haven’t been able to find where i’m to post in the comments on the new “updated” mobile reader (which is garbage). Can anyone help? Thanks!
Mikailj: I told our developer to check it out. True, we can’t leave a comment from mobile now.
Thanks
Dave
Man you say don’t jump you, but what did you just do? Hell I love fems who dress by they got be smooth and can pull off the woman looks, feel and voice. Have nice life… I bet you vote republican and fuck them too.
Not hot.
I’m with you. What ever turns you on is fine with me but I just don’t get it. I want a man that whats to use another man for his pleasure.
Well you asked , so here’s my .02c
To me ? Sorry , NOT hot . Sure , to each his own and all of us have out own fetishes , preferences and fantasies but I don’t even like it when guys make having the latest , and often feminine , male underwear a must have fashion issue.
Complete turn off for me. But to each his own .
Ok to feel as you do. Compelled to restrict others? Pure unadulterated homophobia. Seek counseling.
I did it with a friend that wanted to cross dress. Came up and he had a librarian look. I did it becaus I new what was under that dress a tight ass and a huge dick. But I couldn’t get the taste of lipstick out of my mouth. The sex was good but didn’t kiss because of lipstick. Not a turn on for me but I could deal with it.
Gay sex: very very hot.
Cross dressing: not
But to each his own!
While I personally don’t like a man to be dressed as a woman while I am having sex with them, I don’t have a problem with those that do. Next time you see something like that just look away, not everyone likes bears either. Its not fair to call them outcast of the LGBT community. We fight for the equal treatment of all homosexuals for a reason and its not right to call someone an outcast for not liking the same thing that you do.
I don’t think it often that I come across gibberish this closed minded. I don’t find it attractive, personally I can’t tell others there is no place for it. as a group, we suffer enough persecution and discrimination without pushing it on others.
Everyone is entitled to be attracted to what gets them off. Some guys get off to the fantasy of fem guys or cross dressers. That’s just what some guys are into. So demeaning cross dressers for your own personal gay self hate issues are annoying.
I Agree, some gay men like feminine boys. And I totally understand that. I myself, when I was younger dressed up to meet a man. A cross dresser is no less than a man dressing with girl’s clothes/attire.
I agree, and I believe most gay men will agree with us. If we wanted a woman, who dresses up with all the makeup and lingerie, why would we go for a guy in drag? Most guys who dress up are not passable as a woman, they have all the garments and makeup on, but still have a mans body. Anyway, that is my opinion. I will never understand why people have the need to dress up as a woman or the need to be degraded for sexual gratification.
Totally on point, and I agree – it’s a growing trend that seems to be corroding the M4M areas. Your logic seems perfect to me, but maybe that’s because I see it the same way for the same reasons. Props to you for taking the time to write on the topic, it’s not easy to speak your opinion on this stuff because as gay men we’re supposed to be tolerant of all – which I am, just not in my “space”. I feel shunned when I speak up on topics like this with gay friends, but truth is I simply can’t comprehend where these things mix or are similiar – they’re NOT.
Perfect example of the reverse bullying and shaming that goes on towards gay men because they have opionions like this:
“Ok to feel as you do. Compelled to restrict others? Pure unadulterated homophobia. Seek counseling.”
HOMOPHOBIA?.. seriously? I’m a homo, who just isn’t into guys that dress like girls! And POOF, you’re the intolerant outcast who is ignorant and close minded. It’s some stupid, name calling, aggressive, trolling behavior.
“Reverse bullying” basically means you admit the OP is a bully meanwhile you’re over here whining about feeling persecuted with your fellow internalized homophobia /misogyny feeling brethren because people are calling him out on his terrible bullying language (not bullying at all). Yes, HE is the bully if you actually read the piece. I mean, right off the bat he says it makes him physically “sick” and then rants about this “troubling trend” and how he doesn’t like seeing it.
I am in agreement in that I like men for being masculine – or at the very least, not being specifically feminine in demeanor, personality, or presentation. That definitely includes cross-dressing.
I tried dating a guy who cross-dressed, and as much as I liked him as a friend, I really could not get over a couple things. One, he like to wear panties and nighties, and did the whole get-up occasionally, including female public persona for socializing in that context. More significantly, really, was the feminine persona he slipped into when we started getting intimate. Of course, those are two different things – not all cross-dressers have a feminine ‘side’ to their personality, and visa-versa. But in any case, I just had zero sexual interest at that point.
However, I would point out that just because society likes to try to put people into a few buckets regarding sexual identity and orientation (straight, gay, bi-sexual), I think we can all acknowledge that what one guy thinks of as “gay” isn’t the same as another – even though each of them might only have sexual interest in other men.
There are a lot of different factors that play into what we each find erotic, and while female clothing plays zero part in that for me as a guy who likes guys (I don’t even feel that “gay” appropriately describes me), I think it’s unfair to expect that all other guys who are into guys feel identically about that. So while I don’t get into it, I wouldn’t condemn it as “not OK”.
But here’s the flip-side of that same claim (gay guys can’t like guys in girl’s clothing) – that a straight guy should only be attracted to a woman if she’s wearing feminine clothing – no tomboys or strap-ons allowed! Otherwise, that would make it what… “gay”?
Not for me. I prefer my man to be a man..masculine,rugged hairy…abs, muscle well you get the pic…
Well, gee…of all of the weird and some downright unsanitary and ugh things I’ve seen out there, why the op is so off put by cross-dressing is beyond me. We do all have our preferences. I love hot passable cross-dressers and if they have a nice tool, all the better. I also think it is fun to cross-dress sometimes, but wouldn’t bother unless going all-in (wax, shave, tweeze make=up-hair heels, perfume, etc…just something so fun about either being a hot man-woman, or being with one. As long as everything is clean and consensual, and to each individuals taste, then why is it so offensive to you. Sure there are a myriad of things that give me pause, but I would then just politely say,to them, “no thank you”. Go in peace. Now I’m wishing a had a “girlfriend” (fellow c.d.) to play with tonight….
Total total gross out
Funny thing I’m married and consider myself bi. Problem is I’m only attracted to real feminine men,smooth Asians or cross dressing and transgender. I love being attacked by men when I like sucking cock and f******… So does this make me not totally gay or just interested in my type? We all like what we like and we should never judge someone… it’s just a personal preference of what turns you on… I look forward to my Next hookup with a transvestite or transgender it’s totally hot to me… Your thoughts are no different than mine being and I would never really be attracted to a bear. I would never consider saying take all bears off a website because I’m not attracted to it…. we all like what we like
Its not just gay guys who use those places. Im Bisexual, prefer women but I also like sex with men. Crossdressers, Transsexuals give me the illusion of a woman but they have a penis which I like as well. Just because you dont like it doesnt mean someone else doesn’t. As for being in the M4M category they have a penis and therefor is a man. People who live is men but play as a CD are not women and dont typically identify as one, but full time transsexuals can call themselves F as long as its a commitment not just that time of the night.
No you not the only one. I myself agree with you 100%… what is the big turn on about some dude wearing panties and claiming to be gay? I mean if you want to be a woman be a woman, you want to be a tranny be a tranny, but don’t sit there and say that you’re a gay man and you wearing women’s clothing,, cuz I would look at you funny and probably knocked the hell out of you… I personally I’m sick and tired of every time somebody hears the word gay its associated with being & acting like a woman, doing drag, and being Flamboyant.. you are a dude and as such you should act, dress, carry, conduct, and present yourself as a man and nothing else.
Wow! Now I’m going to change all of my profile pictures to panties, lipstick and fishnets. I know it’s a base reaction but not in regards to anyone having an opinion. More the irony, absurdity and blatant ignorance associated with the need for this “Blogged” & “Re-affirmed” one. Though some of those backing it claim to each his own, “Not”! What I respect about your opinion though is that you had the courage to put it out based on your true convictions. Kudos 🙂
Oh heeeeeeeeeeeeeeere we GO…today’s “gay community” (which isn’t) taking potshots at other gay men AND women for their particular likes in their sex life. GET A GRIP, chief…YOU are not the final arbiter of what’s hot and what’s not. OK…CDs sicken you? Go out to the dumpster and go hurt. I’m not a tranny chaser either, but hey…to SOME? It’s their WAY OF LIFE, whether you choose to put your damned imprimatur on it (There, Dave…new word for you to look up) or not. I know there are a lot of “coming out sorta” bi guys who are into the “feminization” thing, and like stuffing their junk into fishnets and stepping around the house in stilettos. SO…WHAT? Let THEM have THEIR life, YOU take care of yours. As a frequent flyer being the victim of “biphobia,” I’m sick and tired of you guys who seem to feel you have credentials enough to point and say, “THIS is hot…this is NOT” when there’s probably a sizable crowd out there who probably think you’re NOT so hot. Get a life, dude…and quit raggin’ on your brethren…lest THEY do the same to YOU. We get that enough from homophobic straights, don’t you think?
I’m with you. What ever turns you on is fine with me but I just don’t get it. I want a man that whats to use another man for his pleasure.
I was always drawn to dudes just acting themselves from my teens on. If they were “acting” super masculine or “acting” femme, it turned me off without me getting to know them. They came across as phony…as plastic.
For some, cross-dressing comes across as “natural”….as themselves. I never had a problem with it.
Never had a type…other than personality and who they were inside. Their true inner selves were always way more important to me than the outside trimmings/appearances. Call me weird.
Some tell me my first partner was the ugliest man they’d ever seen. I didn’t see him that way…until he began haunting bath houses. I was young and naive….made an error by not seeing through his B.S.
Personally, I think its hot, but I’m bi and love the curves and softness of women. So fem guys don’t bother me. But everyone has their thing and to each their own.
But it makes me wonder, do lesbians have a fetish where they want their partner to dress like a lumberjack or wear a fake beard?
Cheers.
you sound very close minded and homophobic.
people have different taste and desires, there are guys out there that are into feminine boys. ive had guys turn me down because they didn’t think i wasn’t feminine enough for then. everyone is different, youre just gonna have to accept that.
A guy in women’s clothing is even more of a turn of for me than an actual woman. I am not into fem guys or crossdressers at all. Guys who are overly flambouyant/swishy/lispy is another big turnoff. Dare I say I wouldn’t want the first impression of someone I hook up with to be “Holy fuck this guy is gay!”. I’m a masculine guy who likes other masculine guys. But I’m not judging anyone else’s likes/desires, because if we were all the same, the world would be a pretty fucking boring place.. If that’s what floats your boat, ride it all night.
I agree with Joey. It’s a turnoff for me but to each his own. I understand it to a degree. It’s fantasy, Halloween and dress-up all rolled into one. Someone could fault me for liking silk boxers. Man, there’s nothing like having that soft fabric rubbing against my cock when I walk!
Honestly, I love crossdressing doing the dressing or other guy. I’m bi so I still like women but when it comes to women underwear, I LOVE the feeling of it.
I believe it falls into the category of “role play” if it’s not your thing that’s fine. In your example of the guy with the “pink frilly thong” that you had disdain for his choice of underwear yet you still fucked him and so proudly say “I wouldn’t ever see him again;” what a classy piece of trash you are.
You want a man? Act like one don’t use people then proudly talk about it and put down the person you’ve used as “unworthy.” I’d rather a guy in panties then a douche-bag prick.
Cheers.
I have heard similar rants from white guys who don’t like men of color, disabled men, old men or poz men…..”can’t they just get their own site?”.Ummm, no.
I am a total bottom and not into being fem. I just ignore ads I don’t like, and politely ignore men I’m not attracted to, without shaming them. If some gay men like panties, It’s not my thing either, who cares?
This insecure queen ranting about his masculinity and fetishes like someone here is supposed to care is a huge turnoff.
I think I speak for many gay men who think Diva behavior is a bigger turnoff than panties or fem guys. I would like the hysterical drama queens on a4a to get their own site too.
To some who conclude that this is homophobia, well I say they are being hypocritical. I am being rejected by some for being Asian (or nonwhite) and yet those who do say its just a “preference”. Well then I can also declare that not wanting to have sex with men who dress like a woman is a turn off and is just a “preference” as well, and I cannot be judged based on that. If you are into “white only”, then I am into masculine men only. Plain and simple.
Based on my experience and my predilection for such things, I largely expected these responses. There are 2 messages I have. First, it is not for everybody, that has been made evident in this blog. While I have a feminine side that I love to share with a man (or woman), I have found that most gay guys do not like it. So I just put that facet of my complex sexuality away, again, even though it can provide me with great pleasure. The feeling of lingerie is sexy and stimulating when I wear it. I have thought of it as a sexy bondage, but I am multisexual and it doesn’t really define my sexuality completely. And I know that I am “gross” appearing to many people that way, so I am reserved. Further, the point to this blog is that we have been asked, once again, to categorize a facet of life. True, the penis, and testicles!, define men, so this fetish belongs there somehow, but can also cross reference in other categories, which I have done, and it is a pain, LOL! But please also notice how marginalized this type of behavior, this facet of my life, is. Many guys here can’t relate at all, that’s the way it is. Needless to say, but saying it anyway, no hate! Life is hard enough.
I think guys do that because there are men like me out there. I am really not attracted to men. I am attracted to women but the problem is, is that women suck at sucking cock. I have found men suck cock 1000 times better but I cannot get excited when looking at a man who looks like a man. So the best thing for me is to find a man who looks like a woman. Then I can get the great blow and I can be attracted to them. However, for me, they need to look more like a woman than a man. Guys who just look like a man in a wig and women’s clothes turns me off but the ones who can pull off the female look naturally are hot. But at the end of the day, if I want sex 99% of the time I want it to be a real woman but for the 1% of the time that I just need the great BJ, then I want it to be a natural looking fem.
I have always enjoy men in panties, it just adds to the fun. Also I have found them to be nice guys always. It is just another kink. If you enjoy just enjoy. No thinking needed.
I’m an equal-opportunity critic, so I’m going to pick on everyone.
Blogger Bear, your post was too long and rambling. You could have made your point with a lot fewer words. For that reason, most of the readers only skimmed your post and did not comprehend your position on the topic.
Those of you who got your panties in a wad (see what I did there?) did not carefully read and understand the post. Blogger Bear is not calling for the banishment of anyone who enjoys sex where traditionally female attire is involved. He just doesn’t “get” how cross-dressing heightens pleasure in men who have sex with men, whether the fuck-er or the fuck-ee.
Neither do I.
I identify as 100% gay and 100% male. I am physically, intellectually and emotionally attracted to men. I am not a misogynist. I respect women and the roles they play in our culture, but I am not attracted to women in any way. An ex-boyfriend revealed that he was into drag after we started dating. I tried to go along with it, but I found that when he was in drag, he assumed the most obnoxious traits I associate with women: bitchy, vain, judgmental and demanding. Although he never attempted to wear anything feminine during intimacy, just the residual effects of his female persona put a damper on our sex life.
Final point: Most commenters misunderstood Blogger Bear’s (accurate) observation about the “T’s” in the LGBTQ Community. In fact, transsexuals are the most marginalized segment of our culture. If you’re honest, you’ll admit that fact. He did not recommend that this should be the case. It just is.
Personally I wouldn’t do it but here’s my issue …. If there’s dicks only involved it’s gay sex and that’s it and I fail to see how what a man wears to be an issue
While I totally respect the rights of guys who wish to dress and/or behave like women … and the rights of those guys who are attracted to them … to do so, I’m quite un-attracted to femmi-men.
My preference for men includes them being a bit rugged, hairy, scented, etc. This does not mean that they be ab-endowed, gym gods and practically picture perfect in every way. That’s not realistic. Give me a guy with a decent personality, a gentleman, someone who has a life, a family and friends. And, of course, a guy who’s a bit of a scoundrel when it comes to play time.
I am personally not turned on by the acting. I did have a guy that was on the DL and wanted to be fucked dressed as a cheerleader. Mind you he was a former football player and it looked awkward on him. He did have a nice ass, and loved getting plowed that way. It went from just wearing the skirt underneath sweat pants, to bring over the entire outfit and getting dressed in my bathroom, putting on a wig and shoes, and wanting to get fucked like that. I kept telling myself this is what gets him off, and to not focus on the outfit or his wig.
This was at least 7 years ago. Today if it were to happen, I probably would suggest that he find somebody more inline with his kink. I have mostly passed on guys in some of the ABS here if they were dressed. I guy did not pass on, had long hair and nice lean body, and it would help him get off if I told him he was good girl sucking my dick. He wore a wedding ring by the way.
Everyone has commented on the dressing, what about those that want to call the asshole a “boi pussy” or “mangina”?
Dudes, I am GAY…if I wanted to have sex with a woman, that would make me either BI or STRAIGHT. Having sex with a man dressed as a woman makes all of you seem like you are telling ALL those bible thumping people out there that you agree with them – you should be having sex with a woman, and not a man…
absolutely, positively not hot to me. I want a man. But to each there own.
Dressing in clothes and or intimate apparel of the opposite sex has been around for a long time. Truth be told this type of sexual role play has a wide base with hetero and bisexual men who enjoy it. There were times I’ve thought about doing it although I’d be wearing makeup consisting of
pale colors. Another way of looking at it if a man has long hair already he wouldn’t need a wig just add a few details and poof instant crossdresser.
I’m perfectly fine with those who want to cross dress. I’m fine with whatever people do in their bedrooms. For me, when I want sex with a man I want to be with a 100% man. When I want sex with a woman, I want a real woman and most decidedly not a chick with a dick.
There’s probably some psychology to it. On occasion I’ve thought, “if I were a woman I could get these guys to fuck” but it’s only a passing thought because I don’t want to be a woman. It seems like a means to an end, like when gay guys try to get a straight guy to drink to lower his inhibitions. In the end I’m not into any of that. If I want a straight guy, or any guy, to have se, with me I have to rely on charm and building trust and hope that works. I get turned off by cross dressers in the bedroom. I don’t want a weak, fem boi. I’m an Alpha personality looking for a strong compliment to myself, another Alpha probably or at least someone with ambition and a powerful mind. I love a good drag show and go nuts over a great drag Queen, but that’s performance factor. I just love a good show. It’s not judgmental to not be into this fetish, but as with anything falling outside my preference, I respect it and applaud guys who are into it. It’s just not part of my sexuality. (I did all this on my phone by the way, so I’m not sure what the glitch is)
I cannot do anything but whole heartedly agree with this blogger all the way. while I do advocate the to each his own theory I must say if a man is attracted to another man sexually being effeminized then why isn’t he with a real life woman? I mean when I see effeminate/cross dressing guys I have to ask why would another guy who is attracted to other guys want a woman? and then I hear so mant fem/crossdressing guys complain that most of the men attracted to them aren’t as masculine as they would wish. I always feel that’s because they sre looking for other “MEN” not “WOMEN” or they would be in heterosexual relationships if they wanted a “WOMAN”.
is like eating a sundae w/o toppings
Myself, I am not into women’s clothing, especially on a man I want to be a man with. Or excessive hair. I like to feel smooth skin. I so not like hair in my mouth.
From suites to mountain man wear. That makes my boner bounce and my balls hang wanting attention.
Thanks guys. Play Safe. Enjoy life.
Personally, I love cross dressing. Obviously, I find nothing wrong with people who enjoy cross dressing in the company of another man, it is a massive turn on for me. But it isn’t something that is a deal breaker for me or something I will demand my guy to participate in if he isn’t a fan of it. To each their own though. It really shouldn’t matter to you if some guys like to cross dress, you seem overly hostile towards cross dressers for silly reasons, OP.
“Do they belong with the outcast and forgotten dregs of our LGBTQ Community, the T’s?”
This comment is cruel and inexcusable. I have a transexual male friend and I do not consider him an outcast or a dreg of our community.
As someone who dresses up to get fucked, i find men gross. I like dicks and assess. Guys are nasty. There’s nothing i find appealing, except the dick in my ass. So, we’re not seeking gay men. You guys are too busy peeing on eachother and sniffing armpits. We’re looking for bi married guys, not you nasty gay fuckers.
I been reading these comments and figured I would add mine, First off I have been with a few guys that wanted me in sexy lingerie or just panties, I keep myself smooth because I like the way it makes me feel not because I might end up in women’s underwear. I am submissive/passive when it comes to men and like to please them and if wearing those things is what they like I will do as they want. But it seems that most guys that enjoy this are in it for the fantasy of having the best of both worlds and are bi not gay. So it is not for anyone to judge, If you see a post where someone is into cross dressing just pass it by. And there are sites just for those who enjoy that but not all have local areas so they come to sites such as A4A to find guys into them. Bottom line they can be gay because they just want sex with a cock or they are bi and want the best of both worlds.
Sex is sex. A guy fucking a dude in a wig is still fucking a dude with a dick,despite your otherwise stated beliefs.
If a gay dude wants to crossdress while getting butt plugged, you don’t write a seemingly discriminatory article asking what it’s called, you acknowledge it as what you stated, a CROSSDRESSING FETISH.
I wear panties… I feel good when I do. I feel just a little sexy, which after 50 years can be difficult to maintain.
I’m certain there is some catastrophe that occurred in my brain induced by my parents incessant weirdness. My erotic fetishes till now have been singularly private. Your unfortunate and somewhat narrow view really only means that it is unlikely that you will ever get any of this… lol
Seriously, It’s all good. I love pleasing men my way…
Be well
Oh fuck that shit! Those guys have some SERIOUS issues. Having to dress up like a chick so that they can get some deep dicking is some truly fucked in the head thinking. I’ve known some seriously hot guys that I would have fucked in a heartbeat but at the first mention of “panties” I’m out. Those guys come with some baggage I don’t have the time or inclination to even remotely deal with.
I’m gay. I’m a man. I’m into MEN. I like the characteristics and behavior of men. I’m NOT into chicks. If I wanted a chick I’d go get a real one and be done with it. Act nelly and it’s an instant turn off.
It seems to me like a deep seated issue with a persons masculine security when they feel the need to distinguish dude from non dude.
Should we judge? No. Do wevunderstand? No.
Prostitution being the worlds oldest profession and catering to every kind of fantasies their is, why would anybody give a damn about what other people may like? If something doesn’t turn you on don’t do it! If something turns you on then so it! To criticize anybody for something they like or don’t like is pure BS. If a man like a man to wear women’s clothes while he fucks them, that is his choice. If a man likes to wear women’s clothing while being fuck, that’s his choice. To judge anybody for anything they do for their own sexual satisfaction is the same as all those who stand in judgement of the gay, lesbian, bisexual, TG, CD lifestyle. As the say “different strokes for different folks”. There are lots of things people do that I would never do, that is those people’s choices. Do your own thing and if you like it, so be it.
You come across as a hateful asshole, bloggerbear. I don’t think Dave should allow you to continue writing for this blog, as you certainly are not a positive representation for the LGBT community. I’ll speak for everyone thinking it: Your hate is not welcome here.
Enzo (Socaltuffguy)
It makes me feel sexy dressing up for a guy and getting fucked. I think it is HOT.
For me NOT I do like guys in women’s clothes it is a complete turnoff not sure I can even stay hard. It is like having a woman in your bed why would I want that. Not into Fem men either. I know there are a lot of guys that are into this but what ever floats your boat I guess but not for me.
Gays chastising others sexual desires, hypocrisy is the real turn off.
Well this post kinda threw me for a second. I don’t find Men who Cross Dress scary, it does nothing for me sexually. For some it could be considered a Kink, others it could be a Lifestyle. The whole point of Sexuality is finding what truely turns you on. One Man’s Pleasure, another Man’s Fantasy.
I don’t think he’s hateful for homophobic, necessarily – just unconscious and unnecessarily outspoken. By presenting a a bunch of overstated opinions, all packaged in a seemingly-intelligent language and argument – he gets to feel smart… while stirring up a host of reactions. Then – regardless of whether people agree or hate him – he achieves his ultimate goal: attention and gratification for his ego. Meanwhile, all the people reacting to his ridiculousness – stirring up accusations of homophobia, etc – are just like sheep reiterating the same old reactionary cries of the wounded homosexuals we consider ourselves to be. What would be great is if everyone would take a look within themselves, find actual wisdom and compassion – rather than constantly play these games of intelligence and projection. 🙂
Hello Jared,
I am with you 1000%
It took years to even be comfortable around guys who are feminine. Such a huge turn off to look at a x dresser post. It’s your circus. It’s your monkeys. Just don’t expect men who like men for being men to understand you or find you appealing. (and thanks so much for the stigma you add to being gay) Yuck.
to each their own but I want my guy in sexy MENS undies or naked with a hard cock
After reading all the negativity here (and thankfully, some supportive comments as well) it makes me think, once again, that pursuing that lifestyle in the face of public opinion takes a lot of guts, don’t you think? And isn’t that one of the ways we measure masculinity…the trait of being true to yourself despite what others think? Which certainly applies to being gay as well, even in these days of (limited) progress. The whole crossdressing thing is not for me; but who am I to judge and exclude others…when not so very long ago, it was us? We just see more of it today because everyone is starting to feel more comfortable with being themselves. Relax, judgmental types….there’s room for everybody.
Hello bioralbuddy,
I respect the contexts you provided.
Men are attractive for being men. Woman for being a woman. As a guy, im pretty self sufficien, but if i had (i love this word) boobies i wouldnt leave my house. But hey, what ever lifts your skirt.
I’m not into guys who cross dress either. It’s fuckin sick in my opinion & I don’t care if somebody on this post gets offended by MY opinion. If you are a man dress manly please.
I consider myself a gay male and I for one love a guy in panties and women’s clothing. Nothing is more sexy or hot as a feminine guy with a sexy woman’s hair in a hot outfit for me. Add the walk and fame of mind and I’m a dog in heat after!
I personally love to dress up as sexy lady. Thighighs thong sexy bra. And have a hot guys cock in mouth and ass it really turns me on to do some hot role play.
I have been thinking about this and I think I can provide an answer to this.
I think that some of these gay guys who crossdress may be fetishising masculinity. They dress like women to attract heterosexual men. They are willing to trade their idenity as males as long as they can get that they strongly long for, that is, masculinity.
It may be that since their childhood they internalised the idea that femininity attracts masculinity, they have been bombarded with heterosexuality all their lives, with examples of men highly turned on by femininity so they began to fetishise the way heterosexual men behave when turned on by women so they also desire that happening to them.
This observation of mine stems from the fact that I have seen a few gay crossdressers on webcam sites looking for heterosexual men and how much they fetishise them, how much they get turned on by heterosexual men.
First of all, cross dressing is a choice. It is not to be looked as something inferior. Adam4adam is made for men that are entitled with personal liberties. Freedom of speech is one of them, however, it disappoints me to read your tone and message. I am man that wants to be in a female body. That doesn’t change my perception of myself as a man. My body may change but my mind is where I want it to be. I understand there are differences and that there are ways to cope. Work on your coping skills. My personal experiences involve coping with individuals differences so I know what am talking about. Also be more moderate in voicing an opinion, you might hurt your audience feelings.
My personal opinion on crossdressing it’s not hot in any way…
I am even turned off by guys who wear women’s underwear…
I am a total bottom and I love to get fucked by men but that does not mean I want to wear women’s clothes because I like to get fucked by men.
Some men might like to dress like women but myself it is a total turnoff to me.
who the hell cares what a person likes or doesn’t like. It whatever floats your boat. I would never like to be pissed on and swallow piss, yet I see these rugged masculine men in some films pissing all over each other and each others mouths. Then another person likes to dress up in women’s clothes and be fucked and some men like to fuck them. who the hell cares if they like it that way. do what the hell you like to do and everybody else leave everybody else the fuck alone. don’t be so fucking judgmental about sexual preferences. do what the hell you like and quit being a judgmental asshole. if you don’t like it don’t do it! if it floats your boat , enjoy it. seems like the so called “gay mentality” is to be fucking judgmental and prejudice about anything that doesn’t fit a particular mold they have predetermined. hypocritical!