Health : Guide To Clean And Prepare Your Ass
So yesterday’s post got lots of guys questioning on how to properly prepare their ass before anal sex. Anal sex is not just for gay men and not all gay men do it in the butt, but most gay men will have butt sex sometime in their life.
First, anal sex is not just about pleasing the top, your anus and rectum have tons of nerve endings and pleasure from anal sex can come from simple penetration and/or the stimulation of the prostate gland.
Taking care of your butt is an important part of taking control of your overall health but it is not always easy to talk about with your doctor about your ass. As gay men we need a doctor we can talk to about anything especially your sex life and your ass. Your doctor need to understand the health concerns that are unique to gay men. If you do not have a doctor that you can be honest with the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association can help. Now back to your butt…
Anal hygiene is important but you should be careful when you use enemas as flooding your rectum with water on a regular basis can dehydrate your colon, making you more likely to get an infection. To be as safe and clean as possible, you should first, wipe your ass with a moist cloth to clean the outside, avoid eating a few hours before anal sex to help ensure your bowels are empty, and then before bottoming, fill an ear syringe with warm water and gently squeeze the water into your rectum, learning out any feces that may be lingering.One of the most important factors in caring for your anus and enjoying butt sex is getting to know your body. Before bottoming you should really know your ass well. Spend time exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter muscle (the muscle that controls the opening and closing of your anus) and how it reacts to being penetrated, when and how it relaxes and when it tenses up. Playing with your sphincter muscle can be fun alone or with a partner. This form of butt play can be something you can both enjoy prior to anal penetration (rimming can be a great way to start). Once you know your ass well, anal sex will be smoother and more pleasurable for both you and your partner.
It is important to communicate and to stop if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or have any bleeding. Try different positions, a position where your knees are bent and drawn to your chest (on your back, chest, doggy style, etc.) will straighten out the anal canal and make penetration easier.
RELAX, breathe deep, take your time, and make sure you are comfortable physically and emotionally, as hot as it may seem to get pounded, remember, fantasy and reality can often be vastly different.
The more you care for and know your butt, the better your anal sex will be.
Dave
You really should post an article on how tops can be better tops, including tips on how to pleasure the bottom properly. This bottom doesn’t give second chances to lousy tops.
EAR SYRINGE? REALLY! Get a rubber enema syringe. Holds more water, goes in further, cleans out better. Fill, purge, repeat. Wait a few minutes, repeat. Water should come out clear! If not, repeat. Another option is use a Fleet Enema. Both can be found at any drug store. Syringe may also be used to get a little lube in there! Happy grinding!
Great Blog, I agree there is nothing better than a clean Ass.A sexy clean, freaky guy gets my cock as Hard as Diamondsso boy’s clean that ass and cum get some Clean Hung Cock!
I know I want to be clean before butt sex lol. But I have found if the guy is long it seems he gets further in and up that it seems sometimes not always. I get a bit of an issue not bad but I get embarrassed if it happens. I guess being what it is I shouldn’t get to worried about it. My boyfriend has never said anything so I I’m not going to get upset about it.
thank you for the information, very well done. i find it funny that when you meet someone and they want to have sex, they expect you to be ready in minutes. they dont realize the time it takes to make sure it all goes well. so thanks for the info
mark : I just saw that there’s 2 mark in this convo. One mean and arrogant and one kind and nice! So to the kind and nice one, thanks for the compliment, am glad you liked it! 🙂
First thing I do is drink a cup of dark coffee–caffeine helps me “evacuate”. Then I use a SEPARATE ear syringe to clean out any debris. Personally, I eat a small bowl of rice or a oatmeal bar to have a little on my stomach.
I’m not a public throughway or a “gotta have” top so when it it comes to anal. The guy has to be pretty damned special for us to get to the point where asses are involved. And long before any cock was up any ass, some thumbs would have been so the status of the landing site would have been known.
Anal is one of the last things I think about when it comes to the toolbox of what can be fun on the workbench. By the time I get to that point, the guy and I already are on such great terms whatever is up the shit pipe is up the shit pipe It’s all matter of nature and little consequence. No one is at fault. No harm; no foul. There are towels and showers if needed.
If you can’t stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen.
Am I the only guy who eats like a man…..what do all these bottom boys eat all day..lettuce?…..a syringe w water and a couple pumps doesn’t do the job……I do get paranoid and over do it sometimes but my life as a bottom is not a porn where every moment I m ready to get fucked…..it takes preparation and an hour long shower…..thankfully I m verse and topping requires 99 percent less prep time
It seems to me that millenials do not understand proper preparation when it comes to being a bottom. You ass needs to be cleaned thoroughly out.
Nothing kills a moment or a hard on more than poop. Douche until the water you are discharging is clean and clear.
I hate to tell but I havent had anal sex since 2004 and that was with a friend. I could never relax and it always hurt even with guys with a small penis. But anyway I am a top but willing to try again as a bottom. Scared yes but there isn’t a guy out there who will be understanding and gentile. Im a super clean person so no worry there. Anyway ive known guys that douche like a woman. But ive heard and read that to do so continually damages you. Hate to sound like im advertising myself but im not just a few thoughts.
I started out buying the double bottle box of a cleansing enema’s, after awhile I purchased my personal refillable enema bulb. It was a procedure, filling a bowl so you could can syphon into the bulb and constantly lube the tip…ugh I graduated to the nice stainless steel hose, stainless tip. It doesn’t matter, either way 90 minutes to rinse clear. Sometimes I had cleaned 24 hrs b4 and still 90 minutes. Just when you think you’re done, holy shit, lol
Ive really enjoyed reading these articles. Ive just starting exploring with a enema an dildo. So cant wait for the next read.
I’m not sure if most gay guys know what the purpose of an ass is. Feces should be coming out; penises don’t belong in there, but obviously it’s acceptable. The natural state of an ass is not clean as a whistle and if you guys think that evacuating the stuff that’s SUPPOSED to be there to make room for your small penis is ESSENTIAL then you have several issues.
And to bottoms that have a lot of sex: please stop starving yourself and vigorously cleaning out every day. It’s NOT healthy! You’ll probably end up with irritable bowels, dehydration, and malnutrition symptoms, among other things.
Guys, shit happens and being grossed out about it & bitching about it is childish. You are sticking YOUR penis in an ASS. You should know what you’re getting into and know the risk of shit and almost EXPECT it.
Also, if it kills your boner than I suggest fucking something that doesn’t produce shit such as a fleshlight or sex doll…I would suggest a vagina, you know the self-cleaning organ that is specifically made to take penis, but if you’re here then that probably isn’t much of an option. Oh well. Man the fuck up.
Mark : calm down man! No need to scream! And oh because we don’t like shit we need to “man the fuck up”?
Pffff
Yes, an ear syringe. Normal defecation removes most everything above the sigmoid colon. The ear syringe is just enough water and douche to remove the last little bits and to help freshen the area for all concerned. Too much water or chemical douches cause more trauma and sets up the bottom (and the top) for a bad time.
Some like to use the syringe to inject a bit of lube to make things go even more smoothly.
Have never had any accidents ever using a enema bottle and filling it up with warm water repeatedly until the water is clear. Weird I knos but also you can use a empty Summer’s Eve bottle and that works even better.
Remember guys, one of the best things to use to clean out with is a douche. They’re easy to get and the nozzle goes in pretty far for a good cleaning. You can also clean and refill them!
It’s called an asshole- SHIT HAPPENS!!! and taht is the expectation. Personally I am versatile and can never be 100% prepared no matter how I try when I am taking dick, too much work, hence I am 98% top. Now, I love my bottoms clean & more power to the clean bottoms I fuck but I am super hung and I go deep – being the deep fucker I am but at the first sign of pooh, the fun is done! When I am getting fucked, once I feel that I am no longer clean, I end the fun too. It’s never easy but as I understand it- it’s an asshole,hence again, SHIT HAPPENS! Much love to the super clean bottoms!
Cleaning out gives me more confidence. Not doing so makes me self conscious and I tighten up. One suggestion, relax the sphincter the second third time around and just let it flow out. Suggest you do this over the bathtub.
As another precaution, have a towel underneath so when he pulls out, wrap the towel around his cock so neither of you see whether he has struck oil or not.
Big guys or long guys, you’re bound to get some at one point or another.
As a bottom who loves to rim, I find ass is so hot when it’s very clean. Very sensual. If it’s not clean – it’s disgusting and the whole sexual experience is ruined for me. That said, I always douche until the water runs clean. I know nothing is hotter than a pure clean asshole. One you can eat and not worry about fecal matter or scents. And as a bottom, I do NOT want a guy to pull out with shit on his dick. That’s not my type of sex. So clean it out good, boys!
Haven’t read about using a condom to make it less icky if shit happens.
I recently started to bttm w/i the last 10 months. So far I have had pain bleeding 4 of the six times.
2 were fucking great any tops and bottoms wanna help a newbie out.
Btw last cock in me was in January.
I’m a total top and I’m hung long and thick with a mushroom head which sort of has a toilet plunger effect when I’m fucking. I am so appreciative when a guy takes the time to thoroughly clean out as it makes the experience so much better for both of us. It’s not unusual the first time I’m with a guy to run into some problems and I try to not make a big deal about it, and simply suggest that the dude return to the adjacent toilet room for a quick touch up. We seldom have a problem on subsequent sessions once the dude understands what we’re dealing with. I have great respect and admiration for all of the men I fuck and I’m flattered by their attentions and their efforts on my behalf.
As a bottom, I always use an enema to clean out first. I will do it several times until its clean. This helps me enjoy sex better. It does require a couple of hours though so I like to plan ahead of time so it doesn’t take away from the moment. I understand what the anus is really for and I’ve changed quite a few diapers for my kids but that doesn’t make it sexy. Just mho
BLOG: No, guys need to man the fuck up and accept the fact that they are sticking their dicks in a place where it doesn’t belong. If you don’t like shit then don’t fuck a shithole. It’s that simple. You can either deal with it like a man or act like a 12 year old girl who just seen a bug.
There was nothing mean or arrogant about my comment. What’s arrogant is tops who require bottoms to endure 6 hours of hunger and 2 hours of cleaning out. That’s insanity.
Mark, your comments are both mean-spirited and unhelpful, if you don’t have the capacity to hold an intelligent conversation, perhaps you should find a blog better suited for a different kind of asshole. Comments in this blog are meant to provide a platform for open and constructive feedback that helps individuals better enjoy their sexual and relationship experiences. Its obvious that your views on sex and sexuality are both myopic and shortsighted. My recommendation is that you either keep your vitriol to yourself, or learn how to man up and walk through the world without that chip on your shoulder.
Mark has some truth despite his delivery. And to the comment made about bottoms only eating lettuce…Having actual shit left in your rectum is a sign that things aren’t working well. There shouldn’t be any if very little left over. It should not take you an hour plus to clean your ass out!
So if “eating like a man” (…an American man) means all you’re producing is sludge you need to do a few things.
It happens and a healthy person wouldn’t need to douche if not necessary. I don’t douche and I’m always clean. But I’ve fucked guys who aren’t. Diet is so important to this subject especially just for overall health in general, diet is EVERYTHING about your body’s condition.
I really wish there would be a post about other beneficial steps to take regarding cleanliness and regularity. In fact I will contact the blog! But
1. Use a stool or anything to prop your feet up in the squatting position to poop, that ensures (granted that you aren’t like the only guy that eats like a man apparently and produces sludge that takes over an hour to clean out) that everything has left your bowels. It actually is a biological anatomical fact and if you don’t believe me, google it!
2. Fiber AND Probiotics. It’s no secret that we need fiber in our diets, that produces full stools. But probiotics, which you can get from a variety of fermented foods such as kimchi and sauerkraut, kombucha, yogurt and kefir, or you can get a supplement.
Probiotic foods or supplements would especially be helpful if you are are douching consistently, especially if you are using a deep cleaning device that cleans into the colon, you are washing away good bacteria and drying the lower intestinal tract out. So fermented probiotic foods would be beneficial to add in your diet to counteract that and keep you in balance.
Which brings to my final tidbit that you shouldn’t be cleaning out into the colon. No cock is getting into your colon (google image and anatomy picture). A cock is going in the rectum, possibly the lower sigmoid colon depending on size. If you are regular, chances are you don’t have physical feces left over, but this is not the case for everyone. But purging water into the colon only stimulates the colon to rush feces out. So the reason you are cleaning for an hour is because you keep stimulating your body to move out whatever it has brewing that otherwise wouldn’t come out until it’s ready.
In the end, it IS your ass you can’t ALWAYS be prepared and if the idea of anything brown scares you then anal sex would seem to me to be pretty nerve racking and time consuming.
First make sure your stools are relatively solid…if its very soft or liquid dont bother as you will make a mess. Eat some cheese or drink alcohol and avoid foods that are obviously terrible on your stomach like chili or loaded nachos, get an in shower douche wand and unscrew your shower drain grate so you can properly abort the lingering fecal matter. Be careful not to make the temperature too hot or too cold and definitely not at full pressure…imagine 10 times your piss stream max. Insert shallow and flood for 7 seconds max then remove and squeeze to abort the first cavity, then same pressure squat some and lightly and repetitively insert until you reach the end of the wand then remove the wand and squeeze to abort then do this several times until clear water appears. once that happens bounce your body while massaging your stomach deeply with your hands then repeat the shallow purge. if the water is clear and you dont feel air pockets or pressure at the sphincter then you are pretty much good to go.