Gay Stuff : Tips To Be A Better Top!
Written by MakeMeABird, member of A4A.
When I think about topping I honestly don’t give it much thought. Mostly I think, “I’m horny…I need to fuck something” and generally the mindset is to find an ass that catches my attention…get in, unload and get out. But to effectively make your bottom beg for more, here are a few things that every top should know:
1. Know your Weapon
There’s nothing more annoying to a bottom than a guy who seems to be unfamiliar with his own dick. The “top” position is a position of dominance and power, it’s an Alpha position. Confidence and self-awareness go a long way. Know whether you’re average, hung or super hung. It’s really annoying when you’re 6″ and you’re waving it around talking about your 10″ dick. There’s nothing wrong with a healthy degree of confidence; there are plenty of guys with 5″, 6″ and 7″ cocks who can make a bottom’s eyes roll back in their head. Be confident and be realistic.
2. Bottoms are like Snowflakes
Sexuality is complex. The human body is complex. Understanding that will get you miles ahead of the game. There are a lot of different kinds of bottoms. Some bottoms like to be thrown around and slammed on the bed, fucked senseless and left in a pile of cum. Some bottoms like to be aggressively fucked and other bottoms like to aggressively use their ass to work a hot load out of you. Some bottoms like to push their own limits; they want you to fuck them as hard as you possibly can. Other bottoms like slow, sensual fucking – for them it’s the buildup of energy and chemistry leading to the climax that gets them off. It’s always important to understand that a bottom’s main job is to get you off…how they do that is what you have to navigate through. Getting a little bit of information before sliding in can help you get the most out of the guy you’re fucking.
3. Fantasy vs. Reality
In the fantasy you see the way a guy is looking at you, walk out of the club, slam him up against the wall, pull his pants down and stick your dick up his ass. You fuck him hard and fast until you unload deep inside him. Then you slap his ass and head home. Realistically though, there’s some preparation that goes into bottoming and understanding that can help you. Food usually takes about 20 – 30 minutes to digest…give or take. Different kinds of foods are processed differently in the body. If you go out and enjoy a nice garden salad for dinner…chances are your body won’t have that much waste as most salads are healthy. If you go out and eat Burritos, Fajitas and Beans then you’ll definitely want to wait until your body has processed all that or it’s going to be your Willy Wonka in his Chocolate Factory and that is NOT exciting. Bottoms need to know their own bodies; they aren’t just magically ready to fuck at the drop of a hat. Make sure they shower and clean and douche before you get in there. It’s just the realism of the act.
4. You better work, b*tch
I know…#s 1, 2 and 3 are blah blah blah. But it’s important to know that stuff. Now…lube is important. People use spit and that’s fine; it’s a lubricant but it dries up fast so you have to reapply. For a regular ol’ a4a hook up I am going with lube. Water based lubes are fine but some guys don’t like them because their skin absorbs the moisture too quickly and they have to reapply a lot. Oil based lubes work better for them and they might work better for you. Don’t be stingy with the lube; your ass doesn’t generally produce natural lubricant. There is a mucus that men’s bodies produce to help facilitate bowel movements, but this isn’t the same as lube. I usually apply lube on the hole and around it and on the globes of the ass because there’s a lot of friction happening when you’re fucking. Then I lube up my shaft and head and get it real slick. Then…well…I slide on in.
My cock is about 7″ and it’s pretty thick so if I have a power bottom this isn’t an issue but mostly I have to let the bottom ease it in so their holes can stretch and accommodate it (again, know your own dick). Some guys are good at this kind of muscle control and other guys need to be coached a little. If a bottom isn’t ready for it and I just slam it in, he might just go home and then I have to go out and find another one! So…as much as you want to unload, make sure of your bottom’s talent level before you just plow on in. Once I’m in (and I like to get it all the way to the base) I let him breathe a little then begin fucking him. Usually I start slower and then I like to get aggressive and really fuck that hole. Again, it’s about understanding what your bottom wants and needs; sometimes a hard fuck is exactly what they need and other times they want that energy to build – a good top knows how to give them both of those things. Once they’re used to my cock pounding that prostate I’ll switch positions and get fun with it.
Being a good top isn’t just sitting there expecting them to do all the work. A bottom might be aggressive, but mostly I’ve found that the position lends itself to a certain level of submission. Even an aggressive bottom will give in if you embody that Alpha energy and slam fuck him. Remember that it’s about THEM getting you off, not just about YOU using them to get off. They get you off by letting you fuck their hole. We get off by using that hole however they like it. It’s a symbiotic relationship, whether it’s long term or just something you connect with for a night.
Have fun boys!
-MakeMeABird-
I know that,as a bottom, most guys just like to slam their dicks in me, cum, and go. I cant take it like that, so its very frustrating for me when a guy tries to do that. I need to have my hole well lubed, and relaxed by my top with his fingers, or by some other means. I love to get fucked, ut like you said, each guy is different, and a good top will understand that
Great post I am a bisexual Top, who appreciate a bottom who knows his role in the Heat of sexual Play. I know my role intimately and never waver from it. Being clean is a two way deal, I love smelling and looking inviting for a sexy Bottom Boy. So when he slips between my legs, there is nothing but. A huge sweet smelling Cock and Balls for hit to enjoy.
24Kplay…
“Food usually takes about 20 – 30 minutes to digest…give or take.” Yeah, give or take 6-8 hours. Do you do ANY research or just make this stuff up? Unless someone has severe IBS or other medical issues, this simply isn’t true.
Im rather well hung and thick to boot. None of this is new information to me. But from what ive been told by the bottoms ive had in the past. A large number of men do not know this nor how to use their cocks as the tools they are and not weapons of destruction. Take note men, theres plenty of ways to be a good top and plenty of ways to help prepare your bottom for ongoing fun.
Ahhhh…can’t say I agree with a lot here. I’m versatile so topping and bottoming is what I’m into and as such, I’m on both sides of the situation, so to speak.
“It’s about THEM getting you off, not just about YOU using them to get off”. What the fuck? Sorry, but I’m reading this as being one and the same thing. Problem is tops I run into only think about themselves and getting off which leads to lackluster, mediocre sex. This comment then ending the paragraph out with “it’s a symbiotic relationship” is a bit baffling.
Knowing you weapon is important, yes. But also how about knowing what you’re doing. Problem with tops is honestly, you don’t get fucked so you really have no idea how much preparation, physical and mental can go into bottoming. So imagine if you will, someone sticking a cucumber in your ass. Imagine the possible pain. Add to that anxiety and a host of other factors and maybe you’ll get it.
When I top, I go into it knowing that first off I’m both long and thick. That said, I make it about the dude on bottom. I know he may want it and I definitely want to give it to him, but it’s gonna take a lil work, time and also some patience. I play with him, stroke him, blow him, whatever it takes to get him aroused. Most importantly, I’m working on relaxing him. I’m not out to hurt him. I’m out to have a pleasurable experience for both of us. So when I put it in and he says stop, I freeze and wait for his go-ahead. After a while, I stop anyway. Why? So he can straighten his legs and get the stiffness out. Relax the muscles of his back. Take a breath. Grab a drink. Smoke a blunt. Change positions. Then we can get it going again. Hell, I’m not in a rush and plan on being there a while.
Speaking on that…nothing is more irritating to a lot of bottoms is the whole work up to get some dick lined up and once you get it, you’ve got 5-10 minutes of pounding then you bust your nut and are ready to go. WTF? He could’ve had a V-8. Take your time, dude! Learn how to alternate between slow strokes and pounding. Pace yourself.
Being a good top is more than just making sure he’s clean and he gets good dick and loaded with cum. I am suggesting if you want to be a good top, give him an experience that’ll make him want to call you over again and again to satisfy both of your needs. Otherwise, you just become yet another dick in the crowd. But of course, if that’s you thing then by all means have at it…
Don’t think of it as topping! And do it at all if you don’t have any feelings for the bottom. If you do have feelings it should be called Making Love – not topping
Forgot something else…
It takes about six to eight hours for food to pass through your stomach and small intestine and up to 24 hours or longer before waste is eliminated from your body, not 20-30 minutes as stated.
If food took that short of a time, we’d die of starvation because the body wouldn’t have enough time to actually absorb nutrients from the food we eat.
So generally, when the whole enema thing is done you’re most likely cleaning up after the meal the day before…
I don’t buy all that submission stuff…. talking very explicitly to know the bottom’s needs, laying ground rules (what they like and don’t like), and being observant to their mannerisms and cues (both verbal and non-verbal) while fucking helps both sides enjoy.
Not getting it all right the first time is understandable, but after 3 or 4 fucks, you should have a good understanding of the bottom’s body, energy, and feelings. That “its the bottom’s duty to get you off” nonsense doesn’t hold for me.
why they rush? unexperienced? most likely, i left a tops apartment one day, because he sucked, and then got fucked the next night the right way!!!!!!!!!!!!! hey!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with the poster who prefers making love as opposed to just getting off. If I just wanted to get off, I could watch pork and jo. I love all the passion and body contact that goes into the experience. There’s something different about physical intimacy with amother man. I’m a vers top and while bottoms sometimes prefer that they take a submissive role and I am dominant, I prefer that it be mutually pleasurable, with me just taking the lead. When I’ve bottomed, I’ve made sure I was super clean. There’s nothing worse than an unclean bottom, even if it’s just the odor and nothing of substance coming out. Give me a bottom with an odor and I’ll give you a flaccid cock.
oil-based lubes are not compatible with latex condoms.
(you can use polyurethane condoms)
water -based and silicone-based are.
I am lucky to have a curving-upward & not very sensitive dick, so I can take the time to get to know what gets my partner(s) off. It’s not the destination, it’s the ride.
Notice the whole article is about barebacking?
Keepitreal: I did kind of make that up, sorry. I think what I meant to write is that I usually take about half an hour or so after I eat to let everything settle in. I probably just wrote down my thoughts wrong, but you’re right. Food takes about 6-8 hours to fully digest…I think what I meant was that it’s kind of like swimming (this I actually did ask my doctor) in that you should wait about half an hour as a rule of thumb before plowing in. My bad!
Maleficus: Good points, mate. I think writing a blog is difficult in that you have a short space to cover such a large topic. Covering every aspect of topping would require a whole book, haha. These are just a few tips. But just to clarify – the symbiotic relationship thing was just an allusion to the idea that the best sex experiences for me have been when it’s both of us getting something out of the experience, not just me seeing him as another hole to bang.
I like reading the comments because other tops have a lot of different perspectives.
Maybe this article should have been written by a bottom. This article doesn’t reveal anything new. However, I was quite amused to read that my job, as a bottom, is to get you off. To this I say, may your dick go forever limp. You sound like the type who fucks every pig bottom you meet, and this is how this article is written. I’m the classic type bottom, in that you’ll only get yours if I get mine, and if I don’t get mine, there will be no encore, and your reputation as a quality top will be slandered!
Was 100% top for years and had many bottoms, some of them, long-term lovers. Most of my prowess was instinctual being a bi male but some things I grew to appreciate more after becoming somewhat versatile. When Im having a new ass, there’s no way I can contain myself to last for a long pumping and grinding session. As for me, once I’ve had a bottom a few times, that’s when the fun really begins…longer sessions using various strokes and positions to bring myself and my partner to climax. The lube is paramount since too much friction isn’t fun. I love the German silicone-based lubes. Being a good top means taking the time to get your partner relaxed and ready for sensual fucking because with all that prep no bottom wants to fuck for 3 minutes. I always make sure my partner comes first, usually with my cock inside him. In the few times in my life when I had long-term exclusive lovers, nothing ever beat bareback, but otherwise, the condom can be a part of the sensual play. Being a great top means always calling, texting, or messaging the next day, thanking your bottom and making him feel special.
Quickies are fine but I find spending time focusing on guy’s ass before I fuck him usually makes for great sex. Lick his hole really good, grab it, smack it and rubbing my cockhead across his hole makes them anticipate what’s to come. Add this to lots of kissing, stroking, etc.
Let us be clear about something: penetrating does not equal dominance. Nor should you think of your penis as a weapon (unless of course you don’t know your HIV status and go around having unprotected sex, but I digress). If penetrating did equal dominance, then every single heterosexual coupling of a man penetrating a woman would equal asymmetrical power relationships. Bottoms can be dominant; tops can be submissive; and women who enjoy both anal and vaginal penetration can be both deepening on the situation and the individuals involved. Using such violent imagery as a penis as weapon puts us back into a stone-age and it runs the risk of destroying healthy views of sexuality that rely on some mythic belief that slamming your penis into something makes you stronger. That is part of rape culture and I am appalled that Adam4Adam would publish something that seems to engage and recapitulate such rhetoric. Lets educate instead of repeating patriarchal dribble!
This hits it right in the Ass. The art of being a good Top is knowing what gets you, and your Bottom off. Sure a big Dick is visually impressive, but if he knows nothing about fucking, then it’s nothing more then a waste of time, and a sore hole. If you treat your Bottom right, and give his hole the kind of fucking he really wants, then the way his body ,over, the sounds he makes, and the amount of cum flying out of him tells you are a good Top.
I have decided that I really enjoy bottoming. I usually only host because I do an enema and use my dillys before a top guy gets here to prepare my self for play time. I really like bigger cocks because if I am going to take a cock I want to feel it deep. I want to play for a while not just pump and dumb. I have played with my dillys for hours at a time. I like long slow strokes and can do it for a long time. Wish I could find a hung top who could last for hours or go multiple times. Take your time fuck me right and you could have it when Evers you want it.
I am a dedicated bottom and I’ve had everything, from the 9 inch “stud “that sticks it in and shoots his load in two minutes to the 6 inch by 6 inch that fucked me sooo good that he made me cum hands free. Bottoming takes preparation, and topping is not just about injecting your cum as fast as possible. Make it last, feel your cock and your bottom as you pump me slow, fast, stop, make it swirl and twitch inside my hole. I will let you know when to breed me, especially as I fuck back your cock and you made me hungry for that warm, calming nut injection.
I am a firm believer that part of being an excellent top is knowing how to bottom well AND having enjoyed it at least a good handful of times. That being said the two most *annoying* things to me and many of the folks I play with are:
1. minute man tops with no self control or accountability. Cum before the bottom even gets used to it and do nothing to stimulate him or turn him on. (no biting, no nip twists, no kissing, no nada, basically a dildo with legs)
2. super needy bottoms who come with a laundry list of requirements and demands of the top. Also insist on choosing the positions regardless of what works for the top, and dictate foreplay activities or just lay there motionless.
In that sense I agree with the original poster of the article having been both the top and bottom. Although it is a cute gimmick once in awhile to have an in charge bottom giving you orders or tying you up and riding you — there is a natural dominance of the one doing the pounding, and in that sense the “the top is in charge” and “its the bottoms job to make the top get off and stay hard”.
BUT I DONT MEAN CUM. If the bottom enjoys being fucked by a skilled big dick top its in his best interest to allow the top to be in charge in terms of picking the best positions, doing everything possible to keep him hard and going for as long as possible. Many bottoms who try and control everything will downright make my dick limp when its working fine by things like insisting in their favorite positions that bend my dick weird so I can’t keep up momentum or the worst is guys who try to squeeze the living crap out of it. Maybe just because I’m big, but I can’t wait till I’ve gradually broken the btm open completely and no squeezing or very minimal gripping of the anal muscles.I and most could tops grab the legs of the bottom and move them to get the variations in tightness. a bottom trying to second guess the top usually is just annoying and out of sync.
I am a pretty large guy 9×5 and the worst thing is when a btw insists on everything for his own comfort. The bottom being hard is irrelevant, bottoms can cum if semi, not tops.. LOL
so it is the bottoms job to serve and service that cock, maybe tease and pull a way a bit to prolong it but thats the role. bottoms who don’t submit and try and insist on riding me in angles that don’t work for me get a very short and not very enjoyable experience. bottoms that let me lead and follow orders get my cock for hours and hours and love it and want it back again and again.. : )
And since I’m verse, I can also say that nothing turns me off worse than a tentative nervous top with no self confidence who asks me a billion questions like “is this okay, oooo sorry did I hurt you? what position do you want?” LAME!!!
im vers but lately ive been mostly bottoming. as a top i tried to be as in tune with my bottom as much as possible. i can tell by their ad or profile whether they like a rough or gentle top. one of my regular fwb has told me that the way i fuck his perfect, because he likes a very rough dom top. as a bottom i tend to go for older hung men (shocker) and normally i dont have a problem seeing as how im totally ok with them being the alpha, and telling me what to do. however i do have some complaints. recently i had a man (8 in) just hammering it in doggy style. he was getting too deep and it was just uncomfortable.. if you want to go deep thats fine but going that deep and slamming that hard just wasnt feeling good. on top of that he refused to acknowledge that i would rather him fuck me while i was on my stomach. thats just my favorite position. with his size that wouldve been a perfect position to go as hard as he wanted without hurting me or causing any discomfort. on top of that he kept adjusting me, bringing my legs closer, pushing my lower back down, bringing my ass up. its like he didnt know what he wanted me to do and it was just a mess and while he was fucking me my face kept hitting the wall in front of me. guys, if you’re gonna top its ok to be a little considerate of how your bottom feels. especially if its a guy you see regularly as was my case. i pretty much filed him under “never again” after that night. he still messages me but im so not into him anymore.
As a total top I’m only into fems and not just any fem. I only like someone whose a total bottom whose smooth sexy and soft(woman like). I love alot of foreplay with someone whose into me and vise versa. I’m in no rush, that why I must have some feeling there or it’s not for me. I like mutual talking before, during and after sex. I like taking my time and make sure they are enjoying themselves because that’s what gets me excited. I don ‘t care if I nut or not because I enjoy the action more than my nut. I like mixing it up with various speeds as to keep them guessing while enjoying our convo about our pleasure. I like the kissing and mutual nipple play. I like skilled bottom where I tell them things like “make that pussy suck my dick or tell them my dick belongs to them. If it’s your dick prove it to me, when I pull it out to just the head and you use those muscles to suck and pull that dick back in with your muscles. Now put it anywhere you want it in that pussy. I f want to sit on this dick act like it’s your and use your skills on it….show me some positions the more the better. Earn this nut make that pussy suck it out now get mad at this and snap at it trying to break it….OOOH YEAH BABY!!!!!!
This article if whole pile of misinformation and bullshit that sounds like they did all their research watching bad porn. Calling the penis a weapon and bottoms snowflakes, really?
I completely disagree…you sound like a selfish top. I’ve topped and bottomed..but prefer top. It’s all about mutual pleasure, and I love it when a bottom cums while I’m still inside him. I want to pleasure the guy I’m with in every manner, so he totally enjoys the encounter…making love is so much better than fucking.
One thing missing is that both parties should be satisfied. If I get with a top who is only about pleasing himself then I wont see him again. I can jack alone. In addition to what was stated above, give the bottom time to prepare. Expecting to just giving few minutes warning will eventually result in unwanted surprises.
Love a guy to suck me eat my ass and build me up to penetration. Like to then lick him all over .down to his pubic area and work on hia balls and cock. Then take the sitting on top roll and let it slowly penetration me. Love taking charge in the top position slowly milking him. Till he cums. Having him jerking my cock so when he cums inside I explode all over his chest. Mutual satisfaction
The author of the post needs a reality check. Being a good top is not just getting in and getting off. Both guys involved should get off. The top should put as much effort into the bottom’s pleasure as he puts into his own orgasm.
Since this is all about being a better top, can I pose a question to anyone reading this? I’m a closeted bi-top, middle aged, and I have little problem getting incredibly excited by a hot partner. But something happens once I grab that condom and start to unwrap it – I go limp. I’ve had this happen on a few occasions – been in bed with red-hot guys; we’ve made out intensely, done hot 69’s, and then it’s time to fuck. But out comes that condom and down goes my dick. I know I’m still excited, but on a few occasions, we’ve ended up just jacking off rather than me fucking them. And when we do j/o or if the other guy blows me all the way, I go from being limp to being almost hard and coming real fast. Very frustrating. So, short of using Viagra (and I don’t believe that’s the solution) anyone have any ideas or stories to share? Help!
the idea only tops need to get off is BS!
the idea only tops need to get off is BS!
@James of August 7, 2015 @1:20 YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE MF’n HEAD! You have said it best in my opinion! May the FORCE BE WITH YOU : )
Matt K – after several years of only being with men in fantasy or occasional short experiences, I started to explore the world and be with several guys. I consider myself versatile, but I pretty much have the same experiences as you. It is made me wonder if I am “gay enough” and don’t really enjoy being with guys, or if it’s just the years of porn made it hard for me to get excited in the real world. Also given that I’m mid fifties, it might just be that I need viagra. I’ve not tried to be with a woman I haven’t had sex with my wife for over 5 years so on that count I’m not sure. But I know that have no problem edging while I jacked porn and eventually coming in a satisfying way. So I’m trying to abstain from porn , or at least just use it less. But the jury is still out. I’m going to try via viagra and see if that helps. Post in here if you have any success.
James your post on 7 aug was spot on. Im verse too and nothing shuts me down faster than a top or btm that is a fucked up attitude lacking personality, a liar and a drug addict, unclean, not ready, not confident or incapable of doing anything that lasts under 5 minutes and done… I get over looked because of my age and not being “hung” at 7.5 cut. Said and done ive had awesome times with 9 inches and thick and 6 inches and slim..i dont look for extremes, i like fit with stamina and confidence, and i’ll take that before beautiful and hung with a crappy attitude, though my own standards often screen out most issues, you can be assured there will be no second chances to make good first impression, so i put my best forward everytime or i dont hookup… you know what makes the best top or bottom, respect both ways.
as a top a huge part of the experience for me is knowing that the bottom has enjoyed himself thoroughly. massaging the rest of the body while fucking, talking dirty, kissing intimately while fucking – the whole experience is whats important. i was married to a woman for many years and i think this was good training for me in term of knowing that getting my partner off is a complete turnon
@Matt K & Kyle – You are definitely not alone, and it has nothing to do with being ‘gay enough’. I’m a little younger than you two – and I am completely gay. I went through a particularly long dry spell and as such was jerking off a lot and watching a lot of porn. Last week I made the acquaintance of a pretty hot guy, and we decided to hook up.. I was able to get hard while we were in ‘foreplay’, but just like you as soon as that condom went on, limp city. He started working my cock like no tomorrow but I couldn’t get back up.. I was fingering and sucking him and made sure he got off, but I never did – even though I was incredibly turned on..
It really bothered me, and I started thinking about a little ‘helper’ so I fired up google and found that there are two types of ED, physical and psychological.. Physical ED – the kind that can be helped with pills – is evidenced by an inability to get hard (or any more than ‘al dente’) at all, regardless of the type of stimulation. It’s because of reduced blood flow to the penis, which is where the pills come in.
Psychological ED is a whole different animal.. Pills don’t help at all, because it’s got nothing to do with blood flow, it’s your brain subconsciously blocking the erection for some reason (yes, your brain is literally cock-blocking you, lol!).. It refuses to ‘close the valves’ that make you get hard. You can tell this is the cause when you can easily get/stay hard in certain situations (like jerking off while watching porn) but not others (when the real deal is in front of you).
I’m pretty sure in my case a major factor has to do with my porn habit. It’s been a LONG time since I have jerked off using fantasy alone. I mean I was a bit nervous and that probably didn’t help either, but I am blaming porn. Now armed with my new knowledge I went cold turkey. In the past few days I have been able to get hard and cum without porn, but I really have to concentrate on staying hard. The only ‘helper’ you actually have in this situation is a cockring of some sort – you need something to physically ‘close the valves’ if your brain won’t cooperate. I bought myself an Oxballs Cocksling 2, and it makes a tremendous difference. I had considered some others, but I’d never used a cockring before and the ‘rigid’ and steel ones were kinda scary to me. I tend to imagine worst case scenarios, and while considering a steel ring I got a mental image of being on a hospital bed with no pants and a raging hardon, with the janitor coming at my crotch with a pair of bolt cutters, lol!
Bottom line, ditch the porn and go back to your built-in spank files, and try the Oxballs.. I think it’ll help you. If either of you want to talk it out, email me.. (my name)785 -at- gmail.
Matt K: Have you tried female condoms? It’s a larger latex sack that is made to be inserted in the vagina, but can be used in the ass. There are 2 semisolid rings, one of which is at each end. The outer ring lies on the ass cheeks. It’s covered in lube like a normal male condom. After insertion, the top can pretty much fuck as if it were bareback. As a bottom, I prefer a regular condom; I think the female condom does take a bit of sensitivity away, but the female condom allows me to have sex with guys that have condom-limp dick syndrome. Bareback is not an option.
I think the responses to the post may actually be better than the original post – no offense intended to the original author. I’m a big dicked top and I’m aware that having a large cock has opened a lot of doors (throats, asses) to me, but I’m also aware that if I treat a Bottom right, it’s a better experience for both of us. Long sensual make out sessions, rimming, fingering, and more making out send the message that you value your bottom bud, and he’s going to be at the receiving end of your cock, you SHOULD value him. I’ve had several of my buds tell me that getting off during the course of our session is not important to them, that it will instead fuel jerk off fantasies for some time to come. Still, I think it’s really hot when a dude comes from the fuck I’m sharing with him – as long as that doesn’t mean that he’s done when I’m not! I also hate to rush a guy out the door. Holding a sweaty guy in your arms and talking about everything and nothing when you’ve just shared each others bodies in the most intimate way is almost as good/sensual/hot as the sex !
To Kyle and Taboi…thank you for responding to my inquiry about going limp as soon as I put a condom on. I read over both your posts again and you both make a lot of sense. Not sure I want to try the gadgets you suggested Taboi, but you’ve both convinced me I’m O.D.’ing on porno. Damn – I watch it nightly after my wife’s gone to sleep. It must have a lot to do with it. And Taboi, your breakdown of phys. vs. psych. E.D. makes a whole lot of sense. I can feel my mind cock-blocking me at times and it drives me crazy! Ironic thing is, the times it’s happened have been with the hottest guys. There were these beautiful asses all spread and ready for me, and there was my dick saying “not gonna do it.” I was like WTF??? Well, I don’t know if I can wean myself off my nightly dose of porno, but I’m going to try and see if that helps. Thanks to you guys again and if you’d like to correspond with me, I’m at matters2webb (at a synonym for “yea!”).
I’m a top who loves to watch my bottom cum and enjoy the way I’m fucking him. I look for reactions and pay a lot of attention to their body language. I guess I’m a top who loves to please his botyom
I like to lay on my back and have the bottom ride me with a condom on with plenty of lube.if hes got a big dick ill suckit while he rides me until he comes and if hes got a med or small, i’ll rub the head until he comes or let hm jerk off while i place my heands on his hips and fuck him good until i come right after he does. I love to see and feel their hard dick and balls bouncing on my tummy shaved or hairy and then leave it in and cuddle and kiss until. I plop out, then carefully invert the condom as i pull it off to keep any ass surprize in condom.i dont mind getting com all over becase i like to rub it all over my stomach and chest and neck and face/ hairand smell it until we stop hornicating and jump in the shower. Together. Losing an errection is part of being a man. It is okay. Maybe. You or i need more mouth Stimulation and or sleep or relaxation or deal with stuff thats fucking with our heads. My mantra is: I am ok with what I like to do. And if i am not,I’ll. Only do what i like. I always do what i like. Imet this hot sexy blond guy whose house i went over and we watched porn for a while then i sucked his soft big dick and i thought he was gonna kik me out of his house and instead he saw my hard cock and said, Wanna go upstairs and fuck me. Ok!
He laid on the bed stomach down and we kissed , rubbed bodies together and we both were really hot and sweaty i loved kissing his neck and his hair face shoulders he reach around with some lube aand put my cockhead at the entrance and i grinded it in slowly and we fucked for a good hour then i came deep in his ass and continued to fuck him until i was tired.and he said God your dick is stll hard ,and you came, right? I said yeah. He had come all over the sheets and i rubbed my cheeks on it and tasted his cock head dripping cum for a while then i licked his balls and cum smelling stomach
slowly and then i got on my back and placed him on top of me and we kissed deeply and then layed cheek to cheek. Dick to dick until our man coming lazyness went away and we showered together. We scrubbed each others back,kissed some more,and finished bating and i left. When I got in my car and looked at my watch, five hours had gone by. I slept like a baby. Mmmm papi was hot And 22yo. When i got home he texted,”I hav never been fuck like that, you couldnt be 54. Your lying. Next week?
Not wearing protection is risky. Do not play Russian roulette with your cock friend. Be safe.