Survey : Hook Ups or Relationships
Some A4A members are online to connect with their next “hook ups” —while others are online to find special guys to begin the next chapters of their lives. Thus, A4A serves distinct sexual interest categories for gays and bisexuals.
DEFINITIONS: “Hook ups” are online searches for immediate contact and sexual activity. “LTRs” are defined as searches for playmates/partners whose personal desires and philosophies are in sync for a long-term relationship.
Some members become self-defensive and critical of other subscribers whose ideas on sexual encounters are not similar to theirs. (Sometimes “put a sock in it” should be stated when unthinking, insensitive bloggers deride views not in sync with their own.)
Now for the survey: (One answer only, please)
- ____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
- ____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
- ____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Therefore, members should be able to respond to this survey without commentary.
Survey responses will be monitored and results updated on the blog.
DAVID M in Texas
Hookups
I get on a4a to talk and make friends mainly but im always up for some fun. and if we connect I wouldn’t mind a relationship.
YES
NO
NO
Personally, I’m online to hookup. I have, at times, met someone while hooking up that becomes a friend, and once even a romantic relationship. But for me, A4A is a “short term relief” resource.
Usually looking for “LTR”
Hook up
Hook up, but not giving up on an ltr.
Hookups. I don’t think I’d want to try to use this as a relationship site. I’d always be wondering whether or not they’re looking for hookups too.
Hookup
I personally would like an ongoing relationship as a posed to hooking up. Now I am no Angel, and have hooked up on a few occasions especially if the guy is. Masculine, sexy and a Bottom Boy then he can receive the Inches!
The choices are far too limiting. Why is “both” not an option? Where’s friends with benefits? (my choice of it existed) where’s just friends?
I usually always look for a hookup
Why even list “Friendship” as something you can be looking for if not even the blog will acknowledge it as being an option?
I mean … from a general sense, the idea of friendship can be skewed as a long-term relationship … but it’s a stretch.
Both, married guys are great for relationships and hookups. you get the fun of both worlds.
__✔__Are you usually looking for a hook up?
__❌__Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
__⭕__Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
I prefer hookups, because as a 23 year old man, I have many things I need to experience, and growth I need to achieve before a LTR is established with anyone. I have goals. Doesn’t mean I’m a slut. Just means that I have physical needs that I take care of without the possibility of emotional harm to others because of my inability to hold a LTR at this point in life. I need to establish myself financially, and come out to my family prior to having an intimate relationship. Nobody wants to be hidden from their lover’s family.
Hookup
Every LTR I had started with lust and a hookup. Online can work just as well as bar. Make a good first impression and you might a night of whoring into a LTR.
“Some A4A members are online to connect with their next “hook ups” —while others are online to find special guys to begin the next chapters of their lives.”
Well for sure the folks at the A4A are trying once again to pigeon hole all men into extremes. In this case, into one of only two camps…hookup vs. LTR.
Yes there are guys who scour mandom seeking the next one-time sexual conquest. And there are those who seek finding Mr. One and Only For Ever and Ever. Both are viable options for those guys.
But there’s a middleground. All kinds of guys who regularly play within a group of men who are important to them, a herd so to speak. Not much different than straight guys’ Poker Buddies or Fishing Buddies. An addition is Sex Buddies. Even within this herd, some guys come and go over time. The point being, within the herd, the extremes of one time “hookup” vs .”LTR” disappears. Yes, some guys do ultimately pair up “one and only”. Some pair up as “main men” but still value some others and share their sexuality. For the rest, it’s not much more than poker, fishing … or mansex. The bottom line being they have real, caring, ongoing relationships with several guys.
A Red Flag on the blog here for trying to place men in one or the other of only two camps and further dividing guys into “either/or”, cantankerous groups.
Anyone category not specified is also friends. Some of us, who are ugly & don’t meet superficial standards looking for platonic friends.
I enjoy talking to platonic friends. I make it known upfront I am fat & ugly as to not waste people’s time who are looking for hot guy to mess around with.
Stewie_Griffon (A4A)
I decline hook-ups, usually, because I would love nothing more than a monogamous relationship with someone, and I do not believe that can happen for me if I do not have some respect for myself. If I meet a guy and we really like each other, then maybe…but never nameless and anonymous. Always safe.
Usually loolomh for a ltr
I am usually looking for a potential LTR?
Hook up
RELATIONSHIP all the way! I would rather be alone, clean and disease free rather than be in constant worry over what I got from one night stands. There are WAY too many funky diseases out there! !!!
I’m most of the time looking for some regular fun encounters while waiting to see if a LTR should come across my path. When it does, I’ll feel it in the pit of my stomach. I don’t see what the problem is with having some hot fun times with other guys in the meantime.
Only looking for hook ups
____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
Hookup
Hookup
Usually looking for a hookup
Usually looking for a hookup.
I’m usually looking for hook-ups although I’m not opposed to an LTR. I figure whatever happens happens.
I’m looking for a possible LTR, however it can be very difficult at times.
Whatever comes my way I’ll keep thinking positive and maybe I’ll find what I’ve been looking for.
Usually looking for a hook up.
Just looking for hookups. I prefer hookups repeatedly with the same person, just not looking for a romantic relationship
I am usually interested in both. A hook up and a potential long term partner. I can be very open and also very conservative.
Usually looking for a hookup.
Would prefer to find a potential LTR but most guys on sites like this aren’t into them.
I mean come on your splash page says “The Worlds Largest Gay Hookup Site”. Sounds like self fulfilling prophecy to me a bit.
____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
_X__Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
I’m selecting this one because it’s not that I’m uncertain, but because even though I’m prioritizing to find partner, I’m not opposed to casual encounters. Most of the gay social media and “dating” sites/apps are about hooking up anyways.
(If this falls better under potential LTR feel free to change it)
Usually hook up only.
It depends on the night and how horny I am, but most of the time I am:
USUALLY looking for a potential LTR.
However some fun along the way isn’t out of the question.
Hookup
No LTR!!!
Survey answer: Just hook-ups. Though willing to connect on a regular basis (but that’s not a relationship, right?)
Look for LTR, ends up as a hook-up.
Only hookups no relationship..love to have safe fun and experiment
USUALLY looking for a potential LTR
_X__Are you usually looking for a hook up?
____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Short Answer: I am usually looking for a hook up.
When on A4A, usually looking for a hook-up.
usually looking for a hookup
Potential LTR
Usually looking for a potential LTR. But then again, I’m in my 30’s. It’s been my experience that younger men tend to not be worried so much with relationships and more interested in physical connection. No judgment, just observation.
I AM USUALLY LOOKING FOR A HOT HOOK UP!
What I’m looking for is a fwb thing , but gays are fickle n not to mention we are all guys. I hook up with a guy after communicating for a while so it seems like we have some sort of connection, then we arrange a time to fuck, we fuck then thats it no more communicating, they always seem like they are going to be more than a one time fuck but that’s not the case.
I’m certain that my personal desire is to swap loads. With one guy, a few, several, or many is the only part that varies.
I’m usually looking for a hookup, and am warily open to the idea of an eventual ltr.
I wish that ‘auditioning fwb’ was an option.
HOOK UP!
Hook ups
B), #2 Usually looking for LTR…
Yes, Yes, and Yes
Only looking for a hook up. I am just looking for a dick or six to suck or ride.
Hook up for me
Looking for a potential relationship.
I’m almost always looking for a hookup when I log in to adam… and as long as there are horny cumslut bottom boys logging on to look for a muscle top to load their cunts… I’ll be here to fill them.
I am usually looking for a hook up.
__X__Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
•____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
•_X_Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
•____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Usually looking for potential LTR.
I’m usually looking for a potential LTR
potential ltr
____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Online for Hook-ups until the right one comes along..
Potential LTR
Ltr would be cool, but these guys play around too much, can we get a relationship site or section only? That would help a lot of us out.
Hook-ups are irresponsible, inconsiderate and dehumanizing. They may seem convenient, but when you find out you have gotten an STD or other disease, or find a watch missing after a hook-up, you’ll wish you knew the guy’s actual name and address. The fact is, having sex with someone IS a relationship, so it should be treated as one. You should always divulge and know the basic facts about each other, and try to see each other at least up to three times. It doesn’t have to go on from there, but it gives you more time to be comfortable and have better sex together.
Hook-ups are dangerous, foolish, and should be unnecessary.
I was just approached by a “hot-looking” guy who apparently wanted a blow job. We were setting things up when he apparently decided it was quicker to watch porn and jerk off. Now what kind of experience would I have had with such a literal Jerk? I’m sure it would have been cum and go, and maybe only him cumming. I am not a sperm receptacle. You have to be willing to communicate enough not to push someone into unsafe sex. If you like someone enough to meet and spend a half-hour rimming his ass, you should be willing to let him know your name and occupation. If you feel you have to hide everything, you are eliminating your chances of falling in love, because your blocking yourself off. When you limit someone else, you limit yourself, too. I would love to see Adam4Adam require profile photos to not be nudes. Maybe you can’t require faces, but it would put less pressure on potential meets to be hook-ups only. It would humanize members and make it less like a meat market. It’s much hotter to treat someone like a piece of meat when you know each other. Maybe you all need to have more confidence in yourselves and your ability to manage relations with others. But the only way to get that, and to be more skilled in bed, is to be in relationships.
P.S.: I don’t see any way to respond to the survey questions. I am looking for a relationship, but will hook-up.
I am usually looking for a hook-up.
I’ve been getting the milk for free for so long, it’s hard to think about shopping to buy (LTR) a cow…
Are you usually looking for a hook up?Always
Dave, sorry but I am always looking for both. Ultimate goal LTR but until I meet him I am totally down for right now!. I don’t fit the parameters of your questionnaire.
I am uncertain at times about my personal desires
Hook ups
Hookups
Yes
No
Yes
Someone told me all this is is a sex site nothing more. I responded what’s wrong with finding a friend. He said you need to join another site that is only for friendship and relationship seekers. I think he’s wrong but I receive that same attitude all the time. When I do meet a guy and feel I can trust him to have him come to my home I always will take them to the living room for a nice conversation. But they become offended when we don’t go straight to bed. That makes me feel cheap and tacky. So I don’t meet many guys because of that. I don’t try that hard. I’m a human being with feelings. I’m nobody’s whore. Respect me as I respect you. But for the most part guys I found are just looking for hookups. Not me. Sex is great but you pay a price for it. Why do for the most part gay men have such a hard time being friends with each other?
Relationship/LTR.
Hookups. Looking now
____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
_X__Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
_X__ What happens will happen- you have to try on a lot of shoes to find a pair that fits-it doesn’t make me a slut but an shopper looking for the best quality and comfort
Hook-ups
No to hookups
Yes to LTR
No to unsure
Hookup
I 1000% agree with Baron Z!!!! I will not settle for less than what I deserve and I deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me FOR ME, and not just for my dick, balls, and two holes. I am interested in LTR’s, and will not settle for for hookups or “FWB’s bc I am working on the best me, I can be for me today. For me, I cannot fuck my way into a healthy relationship. I cannot “fwb” my way into someone loving me. So for those reasone and many more, I cannot do the one night stand hookup deal. It cheapens me, and makes me feel like I am just a sexual object and I don’t like feeling that way and so I try not to engage in behaviors that will bring up those feelings for me….
I would like to find someone to start a potential friendship, and then slowly see what can develop from there…Every single time I have meaningless, noncommittal, hit and run hookup sex, I feel less and less connected with humanity and its sort of like spiritual death for me… It takes me places that I am not willing to go today! People can only treat me the way that I let them!
Hookups.. but usually no luck hahha
Hook ups only. Done with all the BS. I don’t need another person to make me happy. I complete me.
I have a successful and fulfilling open relationship with a guy I love with al my heart. I look for hook ups only. Have made a few good friends on here. It’s great!
Mainly Hookups
LTR for me.
Both as have needs until he we find each other to take each other OFF the market.
LTR
for me but that’s NOT easy to find around here. This is mainly a hookup site, but you never know. I don’t know of any other website where guys can get together to meet up but not necessarily for sexual encounters If it ends up going to bed with him, all the better, but that’s not a priority.
Whatever happen to chatrooms where A/S/L was used and was purely for sex or relationship (depending which one you went into). A4A claims to be a site for friendships and relatioships or a “dating” website.. in actual reality a4a is what you make it
• X Are you usually looking for a hook up?
•____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
•____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Hook up
hook-up
Love the responses here. I have decided to stop hooking up with people just because of the cheap feeling that it gives. I’ve had guys say to me “I don’t need you for conversation or friendships, I’ve got enough friends in my life already?” Now really??? If that’s the case, why don’t you let your friends fuck your ass then?
It’s sad that gay interactions are such a dehumanizing and honestly degrading experience where people are just belittled to what’s underneath their jeans! The million dollar question is… why are gay men so turned off by the notion of friendships? It’s crazy and really causes many to believe that this lifestyle is inherently flawed!
In the meantime, I’ve been focusing on work, building new skills, working out, looking and feeling the healthiest that I’ve ever felt and I’m getting the most winks on the streets and on the gym than I’ve ever gotten in my life! What has changed? I don’t rush to having sex with every Dick and Harry that I see online anymore and I feel so much healthier and affirmed for it. You gotta respect yourself. No one else will do it for you!
Yes
Is looking for an fb or fwb considered looking for a ltr?
No
I am normally settle for a hook up. I have stopped seeking a LTR. I do not have a good history with LTR. I know what my desires are. I do not want to support a man or be supported. I want an equal partner. I have only found true love comes from a k9 dog. Nothing sexual. Nobody ever made me feel so very special, other than one of my bull dog bitches. Not even my parents welcomed me home like my bitches do.
____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
_X__Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
But I have hooked up – on a very rare occasion – and become friends with some men form this site.
Hook ups
The survey results explain neatly why I never really bother trying to meet anyone on A4A…they’re all new HIV infections waiting to happen. To hell with it all.
Hook up because I am not gay, I will not live that lifestyle. I am a bi guy and always will be. I still like women sexually as long as they do not talk.
Relationship and I wouldn’t turn down a hookup.
I am married and would prefer something more stable. Even if someone has looking for friends I send a message with no response from the other person. Seldom if ever I get a hookup or get a response see from anyone. It is a sick depressing lifestyle.
hooks ups, definitely. I am on this and craigslist and silverdaddies and they are all about hook ups. I love when a guy on here just says I am here for sex, who are we kidding. it is so true. baron, u have to be kidding me. love hottopftl’s comment about the cow, cracked me up. and so much milk in that gay slut capital, fort Lauderdale. having said all that I have made some nice fuck buddies on here, I wish I had more, would love to have about 5 who are more available when I want but that is rare. and met men who I hooked up with who we still say hi and are chat buddies on here, real nice guys. and the guys u think are really nice and the sex is hot and they wont’ say hi to u again. a lot of gay men are a bit superficial, but according to the poll on here so far, most of us are just on here for hook ups. bless our dirty pig slut little hearts! 🙂
Hook up
I am looking for both but preferably relationship. I also like hookup as well. Casual sex can be fun but after all I feel still very lonely. Relationship is definitely better, a ++++ if by any chance I’ll be very lucky to find the needle I am looking for or a diamond in a haystack if there is compatibility. In the meantime, let’s hookup at least for some fun.
I am looking for a LTR, but it isn’t easy on this website.
I would never try to have a serious relationship with someone who is into group sex, threesomes or posts nude pics online. Those things are inconsistent with the type of person who is capable of commitment.
Hook ups
Love hook ups
Often here for a hookup. Never here to find an LTR. Never uncertain about my desires
HOOKUP
Hookup
Usually looking for LTR
I love my hook ups!
usually looking for a potential LTR.
bars are less smoky these days which is good but i’m still not a bar type guy, never have been.
tried other apps that say they aren’t geared to the “hookup scene” but the same guys on here are on those so i keep this and hope for the best…
Im picking both. i would like a good relationship but i would also still like to invite other guys or couples into the bed with my man
__X__Are you usually looking for a hook up?
__X__Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
to hookup…in the beginning. Then eventually, exclusive fuck buddies. Don’t want a relationship, just that one guy to kick it with when I have that “feeling”.
Hook up
I’m not sure self – defensive is a word.
Hookups. I like to chat and make friends but most guys are here to fuck so I try to not be offended if that’s what they want to do. It’s a hook up site. People ate going to hook up.
Hookup. Test drives are nice, no husband yet from this site.
____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
•__X__Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
•____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
This survey leaves out friendship. I don’t believe that hookup are sexually satisfying to those that do it. There is nothing better than being familiar with a person, knowing their likes and dislikes. familiarity makes sex so much more gratifying. I tend to believe that people who exclusively hook up do so because their sexual needs are never truly satisfied, so they run from person to person trying to find total satisfaction.
I have learned that having a close friendship and understanding and knowing the other person can lead very satisfying sexual experience. Being with someone you know and respect greatly out ways the hookup that you know absolutely nothing about. Just my opinion
ltr/dates (to find the ltr) – no hooking up along the way
Hookups. FB’s
Hookups, however there are so many players on this site, and others as well, I usually just end up pleasing myself. Not really sure why most guys in my area are on a hook up site just to fuck with you. I have more blocked profiles than I do open. Is this just a CT thing are is this site wide?
Used to be looking for a relationship but all people want these days is sex so I do not want anything. It’s so disappointing just who are all about hookups then you come along they want a relationship then don’t have sex with you because they care about you and area afraid of hurting you with what they might have. So no hookups or relationship for me I’m just me born to die alone I have my two hands a dildo and a job a house that’s all I need
YES
NO
NO
When online I’m looking for a hook up.
Hookup
Am on for usually long term relationship but that has to be started from somewhere. It has to be what one wants and pressed to the goal.
Hookup
I’m looking for a potential long-term relationship
Aboslutely and 200% HOOK UPS. If anyone wants a LTR, they should go to a different site –one that detaches sex from all the online browsing that goes on on A4A!
A4A is a great site for hooking up only. I would not even consider this site for developing friendships at all either.
I am looking for a steady fuck buddy. I am not interested in sleeping with everyone, but the issue I have is eventually they want more. I am married, so very discreet with this side of me. I get off knowing my holes got another man off.
LOL Yea, A4A is no way a relationship site. If it was there wouldn’t be 90% of guys with their cock size in their profile. I am here for a hook up. I am 50 with a body of a 25 year old and have almost only younger guys hmu. Very few over 40 guys hmu. And then they show they cant read a profile.
There are way to many fakes, liars and players on this site. It is no different than craigs list. Most of the guys in my area Iowa are jerks. And many cant read a profile more then one sentence and never look where your at. Then there are the guys with no car and cant host but still want to hook up. Or the guys that want a (donation) and have no car lol And the guys in their 40’s that are unfit but think all the young guy want them. lol
I have found a few guys to just chat with about sex and so on. But for the most part this site pretty much sucks. The gay community is by no means tolerant. Which is why I don’t do the gay scene or get into anything with it.
You also see these guys that say I am only here for LTR but have all their likes and dislikes and their cock size and a pic of their ass for all to see. If your looking for a relationship why all the sex info?
Hookups — and the bigger the cock, the better.
Long-term relationships on a sex website? Doesn’t exist.
As for A4A I am looking for Hookup. People’s attention spam is so short that anything other than a hook up is out of the question.
_X__Are you usually looking for a hook up?
____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
hook ups
NOT INTERESTED IN LTR, FAMILY ISSUES , MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES, EX’S, PAST LTR, JUST SHUT UP , SUCK FUCK AND GET OUT!!!
NOT INTERESTED IN LTR, FAMILY ISSUES , MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES, EX’S, PAST LTR, JUST SHUT UP , SUCK FUCK AND GET OUT!!!
Hookups
Yes____Are you usually looking for a hook up?
NO___ Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
NO____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
For me, hook-ups are the way to go.
Hook ups
• X Are you usually looking for a hook up?
•____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
•____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
__X__Are you usually looking for a hook up?
_____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
_____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Safe Hookups!!!
Come over bust one on my face and keep it moving lol
This blog has the most responses I’ve seen yet.
I came here for a hook up.
And found a LTR.
Go figure.
__X__Are you usually looking for a hook up?
_____Are you usually looking for a potential LTR?
_____Are you uncertain about your personal desires?
Ltr
I am mainly looking for an LTR but I am a man and the occasional hook-up while I’m trying to that one and only man for me is okay as well.
95% of guys on A4A are usually looking for hookups while only 5% of guys are looking for a LTR. no survey needed lol.
Sorry but this survey is kinda flawed. I’m 25, don’t care for one time hookups anymore & not at a point where I feel the need for an ltr, even though I’ve had 2 relationships each lasting more than a year.
At this point, I like a fuck buddy or 2 & it works out fine for me and them. The sex is better than what you have from a flimsy one time hookup, and all guys involved understand it’s not a committed ltr.
usually
Sometimes
Rarely
I come to a4a looking for hookups. However, many guys hit me up wanting a relationship before we have sex. I am confused with that mindset. A hookup could lead to a ltr over time.
I am looking for Hook-ups only. I find that many here are just to post pics of themselves and have no intentions of hooking up.
Every once in a while I do find a guy who wants to hook up.
hook up
Definitely a hookup.
HOOK UPS ONLY!!! Come over and use me to get off all you want then get out… My boyfriend is on the way home
Into hook ups but would definitely like Ltr. I say 1. Yes 2. Yes. 3. No
Hookups!
Hookup
I like hookups. I am bisexual and I like sex with men. I prefer my hook up is bisexual and that he likes women too. It is strictly about the sex with men. I feel nothing emotionally with men. For me, the turn on is a nice cock and ass although I only bottom. I just like to shake it up on occasion and sucking cock is so awesome. I also love having my ass played with and on occasion I like to get fucked. A few women have pegged me over the years with a strap on but it is just not the same thing or feeling as a warm, veiny cock versus a plastic or rubber toy. It doesn’t feel nearly as good and I want my creamy reward. I am not a player and I do not like multiple partners. I play safe only. Unfortunately, there is way more bottoms in the bisexual world. Probably 90% are bottoms. I am a bottom. Because there are so many bottoms, my toys and glass butt plugs are my alternative. My profile on here is: littlbuttcheeks…I would love to find a bisexual total top to please orally and work towards being his insatiable power bottom. I do not believe it is possible is Northeast Ohio. The man I am looking for does not exist.
Hookup only (fwb or repeats are nice too)
It’ll be interesting to see the results. I’ve found most guys on A4A are looking for hook ups as compared with Grindr and other sites, regardless of what their profiles say (I have to laugh at the profiles which state “FRIENDS ONLY” and their opening line is “can I suck your dick?”).
For me, I’m looking for a potential LTR. My profile is pretty clear that if a mega-hot guy comes along and just wants a hook up, I’d be up for it, but for the most part, just looking to get to know some cute local guys and see if a relationship can blossom.
and / or is more like it not always one or the other…
LTR
Looking for a high intense hookup.
I prefer LTR. I would like meet up with the same person on a ongoing basis. Constant hook ups are not really safe these days.
Hookups only
I always log on to adam to find sex
Sex is food….sex is air
without it, I can’t fucking live or breathe
Last month i met the man of my dreams and I can’t think of myself without seeing him….
What a trip…
Do we even know what we want or need?
And if we are lucky enough to know the difference, will they remain the same for very long?
last year i was trying on leather hoods with for puppy play
last week we wet to the pound to pick out a puppy…the most savage little chihuahua on the planet…he’s a biter all right…but not as aggressive as he seems
reminds me
of me
Yes
No
No
Hook ups only! Plenty of guys on here are bi married / partnered guys on here are just looking to satisfy their man lust once in a while. A4A is a step better than craigslist for that.
A want a LTR. Hookups are nice and Ive had a few but there comes a Time in everyones life where the hookups just don’t do it anymore and that’s where I’m at in my life
would also like to add that I have met some really great guys on this site that I would love to be in a long term relationship with but it seems like men in general are afraid of commitment and also afraid to have A family I believe that men in general on this site should be more open minded to something long term
Hookups, but if a relationship comes out of it that’s good
LTR
LTR….why settle for scraps when you can have lifelong gourmet?
Hookup.
Potential ltr
Yes I’m usually looking for a hookup
Hookups, definitely…
Hook-ups
LTR
Freaking Hookups ! relationships are a drag !
Hook Up.
Term “hookup” sounds like ya catching a fish! No matter what ya call it, it is still a meeting date! It is how you and him get along if there is that potential for sex. How else can you get to know someone without some form of communication. Who knows the one guy you chat with might be that special one!
Well because of not living in a big city finding bi and gay guys is really hard so I use this site for quick hook ups but my main objective is to find friends wanting to hang out and be ourselves and possibly a ltr with the right guy.
I was one of those weird guys who didn’t like sex unless I had a strong emotional connection with someone. My partner had to date me nightly for 2 months before I’d go to bed with him.
Once I did, I moved in and we had sex about 5 times a week in the 32 years we were together..until he became fatally ill and died. Heart failure. I never had an interest in anyone else.
It would be nice to have a companion at my age…sex or no sex. Either way is fine with me. It gets lonely sometimes. I hate watching movies or TV alone,and when I watch a horror movie, I need to cuddle.
I’ve always preferred a relationship to hook-ups. Never liked hook-ups. Maybe that’s what saved me during the HIV epidemic years ago. Most of my friends died.
Mainly I’m looking for a hook up situation if friendship or a regular thing comes out of it great but I’m already in a ltr and not looking for another one
sex without bullshit questions first
Are you usually looking for a hook up? Nope.
Are you usually looking for a potential LTR? Yes, very much so.
Are you uncertain about your personal desires? Nope. Pretty sure I’m ready to feel like I’m not just a piece of meat.