Speak Out : To Douche Or Not?
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The other day I was talking on Adam4Adam with a guy, who in his late 40s, is now coming to terms with his m4m side and experimenting with it. We got into the topic of “what’s the wildest thing you’ve done?,” and I told him it would have to be a half hour long session of shower water system enema play.
He was dumbfounded and went on to remark “I read that douching is actually bad for you.” I quickly laughed, or I should say “LOLed” at him in my response and said…
“I would NEVER bottom without douching first! That’s just common courtesy to the top. Besides, you don’t want a reputation of being THAT KIND of dirty bottom to follow you do you?”
Now, this guy is new to the scene as I said. But surely, there CANNOT be any seasoned and tenured bottoms who have this same logic and feel this way…could it?
So, the question I feel I want to ask the A4A community is “To Douche, or Not to Douche?” You know where I stand and it is with my enema system in close reach. Ready….Aim… Spray!
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Personal choice is often a really messy thing. If ya don’t believe that, read some of the “likes” of activities of people on this site! I won’t even talk about opinions of kewl guys regarding “their own kind”! 🙂
I’m a top and there’s been only two guys that I’ve been with on this site who actually was clean. My profile states I want a clean bottom thank God I practice safe sex only.
I’m more oral and into foreplay than anal; however, as ab occasional top , I once topped a friend that didn’t douche. Once the bad smell of dirty hit, it made my cock go down. I couldn’t finish.
I won’t even let my top rim me if I haven’t douched and showered.
Preparation is the key when having Anal Sex. I can’t tell you how many times I have had a few dirty Bottoms in my day, and I could let things slide up to a point. It’s a sign of respect to handle your business when it comes to it fella’s. A clean hole is a joy to play in especially if you’re going to rim that ass first. How would you like to have a taste of that _____!
Douche, I would not want to have a mess all over the two of use, let along the top catching a yeast infection for the bottoms dirty ass. Try to explain why you are on meds for a guy getting one to his friends let along if he’s bi to his GF.
I would not even consider bottoming without first douching. I not only douche for hygienic reasons. I find that allows me the freedom of enjoying the sexual experience without worrying about having a mishap. As a top, I have no interest in playing in a dirty hole.
I think it all depends on the guy. I’m a vers guy and know that its a booty that im fucking. It can never be completely clean. And if its a sexy dude I’m feeling I’m not about to stop fucking because of a little dirt. Cleaning also takes the spontaneity out of the situation. I agree with the person you interviewed. I think the seasoned men thats been dealing with men for a while know that a man’s dick and nuts smell like dick and nuts and booty is always booty. Cleaning can range from naturally taking care of business or douching. Accidents happen, man up or stop fucking a hole that wasnt made for dick.
I am a top and I appreciate bottoms that take the time to douche. I have fuck bottoms that didn’t duchess, I couldn’t deal with the smell or having the condom covered in “dirt.” Thanks for the bottoms that take the time to clean. As you can tell I am for bottoms that douche
This day and age I cannot see anyone not douching. I understand sometimes there’s mishaps even when you douche it can get messy during intercourse but CLEAN YOUR ASS BOTTOMS! Now, there are some people that are into scat. UGH! That’s just nasty. I remember seeing a profile on A4A from a guy who was having a party and wanted guests not to douche; he wanted them to come over after eating a hearty meal, and you know the rest. I gagged when I was reading that. I could never do that or be with anybody that does. I make sure I’m cleaner than the Board of Health when I’m having sex.
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I douche frequently and not just when I plan on having sex. I have done this for years with no side affects. I have been told that adding water to the rectum can cause constipation but so far it has not worked that way on me. I like the feel of a clean bowels and you just never know when you might get lucky.
YES! a good bottom will always douche before getting plowed. I’ve had this chat before with younger guys. One wiff of poo and i’m outta there (and they are banished from my sling).
As a versatile, I always douch for the benefit if my Top. When a top eat my eats my ass, he is never turned off by a foul smell, and there is very, very little to NO mess when my Top penetrates me. On the other side of the coin, when I Top, I appreciate a nice, freshly scrubbed, freshly douches Bottom! There was one Bottom that I ate ass for over an hour! It was clean and delicious. I fucked him for another hour, and there was no mess. After I nutted, and threw the rubber away, I went back to eating his ass until he came! Best bottom EVER! J R. You know who are!
Just recently, I hooked up with a dude in Cincinnati, a bottom, and I got all shit, showered and shaved before going to his crib, and he had texted me that he was getting ready for me. When I arrived at his house, I was a little put off that his house was dirty, not messy, DIRTY! A quick finger test told me that I was not eating his ass. But the once I penetrated him, and so much shit came gushing out of his ass that literally covered the rubber and got all in my pubes! I was so pissed off, I wiped myself off with his shirt, and left right then and there! He wanted to hook up again, but he blew he one chance with me!
In conclusion, I’m for bottoms cleaning themselves thoroughly on a daily basis, and a good douch before giving up that ass!
My understanding of the subject is that repeated enemas with plain water can be detrimental in the long term, but a quick rinse once in a while won’t hurt you.
If you’re gonna be flooding your intestines more than once or twice a week, add a dash of liquid soap or a spoon of Epsom salts to the water.
I have a streemaster mini portable cleansing kit that I’ve been using as needed for years with no problems and great results.
No idea about guys who use the showershot for erotic play. No experience with that kink. Yet.
HELL YEA!!!! Definitely need to clean out before bottoming…….There is nothing worse than Fucking a dude and all of a sudden you get that odor(you all no what I mean) and you get a limp dick. I am totally versatile and love to Fuck and get Fucked, so I ALWAYS make sure that my ass is ready for ass to mouth……….. ; )~
HELL YES if i’m topping or going to bottom the hole is gonna be cleaned out and GOOD, I’m a cock sucking ass eating butt fucker, if my dick or face is gonna be close to your hole dam well better be clean and fresh or i’m OUTA THERE…. NOTHING KILLS A BONE FASTER THAN A WIFF OF SHIT
Oh yes I think it is necessary save some embarrassing moments.
As a top…I would definitely want any and every bottom boy that I encounter to douche. SQUISH SQUISH!!! I’m not into scat play AT ALL! That’s exactly what it is and unforgivable. As a teenager, I had a horrible and traumatizing experience with a pastor in his empty church. He expected me to continue through the sight and smell of the “number 2” being pounded on my cock. I couldn’t….
I was disgusted with the whole act to where I threw up all over the guy. After that encounter…I couldn’t have sex with a guy for years because I could still smell him years after the experience. Now I’m back at it and appreciate the guys that are avid douchers! I would fuck each and everyone of you!
Bottom here definitely douche!! I use equate enema or I’ll pump 5 or 6 shots of liquid soap into the empty bottles of equate with water n use that, but I have to douche for my top or no sex….
If your bttm. And u wanna get fuck. U gotta douche. Like the post said. U dont want that reputation as “dirty bttm”.
I try to clean up…inside and out before I leave to go hook up. Like you said, it’s sort of a courtesy to the top.
Yes, definitely douche! Anyone after a bad experience in the earlier years as a gay man should know that douching is a necessity! Whether you are topping or bottoming no one wants to see or smell that, it’s a total mood killer!
HELL TO THE YEA! Douche!!! I Do It As A Daily Regimen, No Side Effects Here Except For A Squeaky Clean Ass. As For Douching B4 Bottoming, I’d Highly Recommend It. Some Tops Do Not Like Their Dicks Resembling A Snicker’s Bar. To Any Bottom This Concerns, Go To The A4A Store, Purchase An Enema Device, Fill That Thing With Luke Warm Water, And Clean The Hershey Highway Until You Pass Clear Water If You Want To See Your Partner Again.
Douching is only necessary if the top has a large dick. Most dicks are not long enough to force through your first internal rectum (you actually have several throughout your large intestine that your body uses to separate food that is in various stages of digestion). Past this first internal rectum is where waste, not yet “ready” to be expelled, is kept. Otherwise, the top is fucking your anal canal which should be empty (when it’s full, it triggers the sensation of needing to use the bathroom, then you use the bathroom, and it’s empty until another “batch” passes through the first internal rectum). In short; take a shit first, if you have to, and you’ll be fine.
I have also found angle and position make a big difference; a guy riding has gravity working against him, whereas face down with ass up has gravity working with him. Lube amount matters; too much and it can make things “soupy” whereas too little allows for unmitigated contact between fecal matter and the top’s penis. Aggressively pulling out and slamming back in and can create a “suction” effect, pulling shit down into the anal canal from the upper reaches of your colon.
Personally, if I want bottom for a big dick thats going to really “get up there”, I can tell if it will be dirty or not (with about a 99% accuracy) by taking into account my recent diet, recent trips to the bathroom, and how hydrated I am (the body naturally uses water in the colon to lube bowel movements… if I am super hydrated, I know things are more slimy versus if I am somewhat dehydrated I know things are a bit more solid).
I can also literally feel a difference, as well. It’s hard to describe, but it’s partly intuitive; I ask myself “If I take a nice long big dick right now, would it be dirty?” Somehow it works for me, like I said, I am accurate about 99% of the time.
Only 1-time have I ever douched and it was a huge mistake. Not only was it unpleasant, but douching washes away the colon’s natural protective mucus (not shit or bile, but actual mucus) and exposes the anal walls to direct absorbtion of whatever is traveling through it at the time. In my case, what was traveling through it was Vyvanse, my Doctor prescribed ADHD medication. For those unfamiliar with Vyvanse, it is a stimulant, like Adderall, but it works through the colon (and not the stomach). Since it was able to quickly and uninhibitedly absorb through my colon, I was tweaked out for DAYS and I realized I could never again douche after I had taken Vyvanse (which is a daily thing or else I am a total bitch).
As mostly a top during a 15-year very active sex life (most of those with boyfriends, but some casual/hook-ups) there have been quite a few times the bottom has been dirty in the range of let’s say, a “streak” and other times, a “crime scene.” I have never ever cared. I am just mature about it. I mean, I stuck my dick up his asshole, what did I expect, roses? Depending on the severity, I either wipe it off and just keep going or we can move play into the shower. It’s not something to get uptight about. I’ll sleep with him again and unless it’s happening more often than not, I really honestly (ready for it?) don’t give a shit.
The times that I have been “dirty”, the top has always been a good sport and has slept with me again. I have never ever met (or perhaps better said; never ever hooked up with) such an uptight loser who wasn’t pretty relaxed and willing to give me the benefit of the doubt that the occurrence was a fluke. I am quite embarrassed enough and the top hasn’t ever “piled on” with an overtly negative reaction. What good would it do anyway? What’s done is done, and you do what you always do when a hook-up goes south; you as politely and quickly as possible end it.
And I think it’s a pretty presumptuous statement to call it a “common courtesy” to the top. A common courtesy is holding a door for someone or letting them merge into traffic. Do you think women are douching their asshole before they let their boyfriends stick their dick in there? If you randomly meet a guy at the bar and he takes you home to shag you, do you say “STOP. I need to douche… see you in about an hour so I can make sure everything has drained out.” Do you think the first time a new gay, say in high school or college, starts to have receptive anal sex for the first time and is mind-numbly excited about losing his virginity, thinks about douching first (or even know gay men do it)? No fucking way to all three of those situations is douching “common”.
Ultimately, my view is if I don’t want to risk “shit dick”, then I shouldn’t be fucking guys in the ass. It’s just a reality of having anal sex and I don’t think gay men should be forcing a heterosexual dynamic (in this case, trying to make an asshole function as a vagina, as some penis utopia where penises play without repercussion all day, everyday), which can be very unsafe (see below) on to themselves.
Social convention aside, here are some facts about the inside of your ass;
The lining of the colon is extremely slippery, in fact it’s a very similar membrane as the one that sits atop of your gums… unwanted/harmful infectious viruses/bacterias literally slide across it and cannot take “hold”. The lining of your colon also does not have pain receptors, which makes it very easy for a douching implement to inflict microscopic rips/cuts/tears in the lining without you even knowing it. These rips/cuts/tears, in addition to douching away the protective mucus that I mentioned earlier, allow STDs, particularly HIV, direct access to you blood stream.
Ever heard “don’t give head after brushing your teeth” because you might have tiny or microscopic bleeding in your mouth from the toothbrush? Same thing.
[[ And don’t even try to sell me that B.S. that you “play safe” only… no one believes you, so just stop it. ]]
And finally, douching eliminates natural “good” bacteria that your body needs to digest food; washing them away will not only potentially cause short-term digestive issues, but can cause long-term issues as well; without good bacteria, there is an opening for bad bacteria to “take over”. This is a real medical condition as evidenced by probiotics (good bacteria) being loaded into foods like yogurt.
With all that said, DOUCHING IS BAD FOR YOU and it’s nothing to “LOL” about. If you don’t believe me, then Google it.
I can co-sign with 30 to 45 minutes in the shower. However, when it’s that time I think every bottom should have a complete cleaning. BTW for me when I douche It’s no need for me to use lube. 🙂
To have anal sex WITHOUT douching first….is unforgivable, disrespectful, unclassy and down right DISGUSTING….Any self respecting bottom would NEVER not clean out before sex….its unthinkable…..the mere idea of not doing it is appalling, why wouldn’t you? I’m a verse, so I dabble in both worlds……and as a top, I find it helps to show much respect when respect is given. As a bottom, I would NEVER degrade myself by not cleaning out prior to my get together….those who dont? WHO TF RAISED Y’ALL?….lol
The writings on douching do say it can be harmful, but i would imagine that depends on how. BUT,(lol) being top and bottom, and enjoying Rimming and being rimmed. I opt for douche. By The Way, AWESOME Ass in that Pic !!!!!!!!
I think everyone should douche for cleanliness. Tops as well they like there ass played with who wants to rim or stick your finger in a shitty ass, all men should douche shower and be clean, its a turn off
I’ve been bi and bottom a long time. And yes I douche regularly. I would never play and not be clean everywhere. We all know what goes on “back there” and if your gonna play back there you should always be clean. Very clean!
It is common courtesy to douche unless it is agreed on by both partie not to douche. There is a community of scat fetishes out there. While I don’t get into scat I prefer my bottoms to be as clean as possible. It makes for a more pleasurable experience for me and my bottoms.
Most guys are not into scat so douching is essential and a clean hole allows for rimming and extended fuck sessions… I always douche and expect the same from any guy who wants me to fuck or rim them… It is just the right thing to do
Oh god…dirty nasty bottoms that dont clean out…talk about bad disgusting experiences..no self respecting guy would put it onto an unsuspecting person by being…filthy inside….f*cking puke….i say it up front before i will meet, be clean inside and out or i will disrespect you on my way out the door When you waste my time.
I’m 49 years old and I agree with you. Even though the ass is designed for the expulsion of body waste, when using it for sexual pleasure, “PLEASE CLEAN IT OUT”. If you don’t, you are nasty! Who wants to smell shit in the middle of being intimate. Please clean your ass. I clean mine.
Douche, absolutely with out question. a clean bottom is a happy bottom, not to mention better clean than dirty reputation you might carry.
I douche before and after each time I have sex. I makes it nicer and clean for my lovers when they go down on me. Some times I have to douche 4 or 5 times a day.
I think douching is a good idea. In fact I have been looking for a douche. But I am having problems finding out what one uses. Just plain water or soapy water.
You are right about the courtesy of the douche for the clean fuck, but it is common knowledge medically that frequent douching tends to dry out the anal cavity which can lead to problems.
Yes, freaking douche, shit smell is a turn off for some of us.
Respect yourself, respect the guy you are meeting…be clean inside and out. Dont be part of the problem with the stereotypes for gays, dont be nasty. Its not cool and is not hygeinic.
Definitely you should do it, otherwise it is gross!
I don’t douche mostly because I am top. Being a top man, I just take a quick shower. include clean and wash my body and cock. It is very easy and advantage being an top. In the other hand, I do care for my playmate wash inside because I don’t like he has some kind of accident not being clean. It will be lose my mood for this happening. I understand it is normal human biography. I would like everyone read my message and give me some feedback. Thanks
Few things are worse that pulling out a shitty cock. Just the smell is a major turn off for most guys. It’s said that if you don’t eat for several hours before that won’t result in a dirty dick.
But as to if coughing being bad for you… The soap in it does damage the cells lining the colon. Thus it makes bb sex more dangerous. Then again, my fav enema is a red wine enema. The alcohol goes quickly into your system. Not good for your ass, bit makes for a hot drunken fuck!
DOUCHE!! I am a bottom that loves to get fucked and I am into major ass play. It absolutely is a courtesy to your top man and it feels so good! when I douche out with my shower shot it primes my hole for hard core penetration. I love to hit on poppers while I clean out.
I would never bottom without being well douched and showered. It is not only common courtesy to the top, as others have noted, but I don’t want my own shit getting on anything either. My issue is that it takes me forever for the water to “run clear”. I even do a test as deep as possible with a finger to make sure it comes out clean and all the water that might be stuck up in there is released. Maybe it’s my diet is not the best… Anyway, I do worry that I do it touch much and too hardcore though and that I’m damaging my digestive system in some way.
When I first started bottoming I didn’t douche and I never had an issue. I did however shower and clean up externally and a little inside. But at one point I was chatting with a guy who was 10 inches long, at the time I had only been fucked by average guys. When I talked to another friend about meeting up with this guy they asked me if I was going to douche before hand and I had no idea that was a thing. Growing up with sisters I knew that women douched but I never thought about it for me. So, I tried it out and had no problem with the guy when I first hooked up.
Then there was this one time that I was unexpectedly asked to bottom and the entire time I was so self conscious that I couldn’t enjoy it. Ever since then I learned to take certain precautions. Such as if I’m going out with the intention of bottoming then I’ll be sure to have a bowl movement, if possible. Then douche with a premixed saline solution, shower, eat foods I know aren’t likely to irritate my stomach (I have a sensitive stomach) i.e. Salads or chicken. I never take a chance on seafood or consume dairy. There really is a lot more prep that goes into bottoming than most guys realize.
Also, I don’t think it’s unrealistic to expect not to have crap on your dick. I’m vers and I would never want any hint of waste even if I am wearing a condom. For the person who said a man’s ass wasn’t made to take dick must have never had one up his before. The internal stimulation of the prostate is euphoric.
I am a top.. a dirty bottom is disrespectful to themselves and the top.. hygiene is proper; douche, whether u getting dick or not..
I am a bottom, I would never have anal sex without cleaning myself properly, it is just common courtesy. Even in my long term relationships, I made sure I was always cleans, inside and out.
I LOVE TO EAT SHIT. I LOVE IT WHEN A GUY DOESN’T WIPE HIS ASS FOR WEEKS AND THEN I RIM HIM. SHIT TASTES LIKE TACOS. I GET MY DAILY DOSE OF VITAMINS THAT WAY.
Men don’t douche. Women with vaginas douche. I find it insulting to men to call an enema a douche. It’s disgusting.
Well, I am a bottom and I have never douched. Never have I experienced any messiness. There are things you can do throughout the day (if u know u r getting f&4%3d)that would eliminate the act of douching. Like, don’t eat so much during the day, drink a lot of water.
Chronic douching is an unhealthy practice for the reasons you read above. But douching before sex is not unhealthy unless you always keep yourself ready for sex. Like everything else in the world we read about and experience, balance and reasonable practice can make sex between men good and healthy. These posts attract many respondents who dwell on and state the extreme. Steer toward the middle of the road on this one, you won’t regret it.
DOUCHE—–for Gods sake yes It is a bottom’s responsibility to be clean. If you’re against being clean then be celibate
How good i feel right after i bottom and the man takes his time to take the condom off and say ‘that felt like a pussy’. I dont think its about personal choice here. I just think some of us are clean and some fags are just nasty and irrelevant (excuse my french).
If you know you are going to have sex, then one must do this. If not, then it is foreplay and oral only. Also, tops should make sure they are clean as well. Tops should take a shower, put on some deodorant, brush their teeth, put on clean clothes and for goodness sake, stop the smoking and drug use.
I definitely douche. Out of respect for both of us.
How in the world can someone even think about sex with even the possibility of shit being in the mix??? Ugh!
Just the idea of smelling that or having shit come out while a guy is fucking me….I would be so embarrassed
And I couldn’t get eaten out either, which I love!
So I douche often, even if I’m not planning to have “company” lol
I do it just to keep clean
I’m a top and prefer a clean ass. The smell of an unclean bottom is a distraction not to mention a turn off.
It’s a two way street here fellas, sometimes there is no problem at all just stick it in and fuck, but then other times you clean out, and the water will lay in a pocket in your colon, and you think your cleaned out, then you take a big cock, he fucks deep, pulls out and then the back-wash of shit water flies out of you. So, tell me how do you win here. It is an ass, a waste removal out-let for our waste, so you know you gotta take it from there. Not to say a smelly nasty ass is good, but neither is a washed out ass with all the waste NOT removed out of it! Hey it’s all a risk, but are we living in a world of “RISKS” everyday? Think about it…..
A dirty hole gets no pole : )
To me it’s a MUST DO plus another enjoyable/exciting part of the whole m2m experience
As a total VERS, I always douche. I use a considerable amount of lube before, during and after the procedure so that any “damage” I may cause to myself is minimized.
If I am going to bottom, I want to avoid any unwanted smells, tastes, or messes. Even when I am planning on Topping or don’t know what the evening holds, it helps me feel clean, confident, and crap (and smell) free
Isn’t the concept of a bidet tied in to anal area washing, which Europeans are familiar with yet not well practiced in the U.S.A.? I purchased a shower device about a year ago and now its a daily regiment I would recommend to any man; most of us “go” in the morning and this “rinsing” leaves me feeling completely clean, the water removing any remains and odors. I recommend a dash of 2014hour antibacterial soap. The majority of my life has been as a 100 percent top; I will never shower without a douche included again; and the experience of water/nozzle/anal has no led me to enjoy receiving anal sex.
I have been a bottom for 30 years or better I douche at least three times a week whether i have sex or not . I enjoy the few minutes of pleasure to my self to be very relaxing . I would never let a man put his cock in my ass or tongue if i was dirty and i dont care if it pisses a man off no douche no touch . I dont ever want to have a embarrassing smelly moment .
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NEVER USE LIQUID SOAP IN AN ENIMA! The only soap that should be used in an enima is castile soap! Other soaps have ingredients that can irritate or even damage the lining of your bowels!!! Some epsom salts are ok, just remember that moderation is a good thing.
I agree with almost every poster here. To quote Steamworks “Nobody like a stick in the mud!”. Being versatile, i go where I’m needed, but if I hit pay dirt, and strike it rich, the job is over. I have come to accept that accidents are going to happen, and I’m not going to shame someone when it does if it seems unintentional. But when it’s obvious that it wasn’t even a passing thought, and youre an “exclusive bottom”, well than Huston, we’ve got us a problem here. If i have any notion that I MIGHT be bottoming in the near future I always take the time to clean out, and if I don’t then I don’t.
Finally, I really hate the word douching when it comes to men. Douching (in my NEVER-to-be-humble opinion) is what women do to their vaginas(am I allowed to use those words on here, or will I be censored? lol), which probably stems from my dislike of men using words like “ass-pussy”, “mangina”, “boi-pussy”, or whatever incarnation of the idiom is used now. I am a gay man, which means I like men, not men acting like women. I’m not judging if you aren’t masculine or use those words, do you boo, i’m just saying if you’re trying to get with me, using those words will make me loose intrest just as fast, if not faster, than striking the motherload of paydirt.
If anybody is interested I have a soapbox for sale. It might just be a castile soap box, but sorry, no soap included, box only.
I don’t expect my partner to douche per se, just wash your ass. I like to eat big, round butt, so if it stinks. Its not happening!
I douche everyday, and if I know I’m going to have sex it can take up to two hours even when I’m clean. I have never made a mess, I’m deathly afraid of that to the point of the way I douche I make myself to sore to even have sex. And that’s a bummer. But I will not do anything without douching
i’m pretty new to m2m sex, at first i thought i was all top, but found out i love being a bottom much more. i’m very much into sucking cock, as well as having my ass pounded, i douche extra well, because first of all, i’d be super-embarrassed to shit on someones dick, and like i said, i love to suck cock. i keep my ass squeaky clean, enough to go ATM without questioning my cleanliness first.
the few dudes i’ve been with have commented on how clean i was, so apparently they appreciate it as well.
Got to clean that Ass, before I stick pipe. I sure don’t want shit on the end of my condom.
When I know I will be having anal intercourse I always douche. I do have one young guy that prefers that I don’t when I hook up with him.
Never used an enema, didn’t know it’s a ‘requirement’. Normally I just take a shower and focus on cleaning my hole and avoid eating spicy food or anything that can upset my stomach for the day (so does my bf, we’re both vers) is that good enough?
I couldn’t even enjoy sex if I didn’t douche. I wonder if porn star’s douche?
I almost always douche as a bottom and I like my bottoms clean as well. It’s sometimes a LOT of work to get ready, though. Saturday night took no less than 20 shower douche rinses to finally be clean. Longest time ever. Ugh! Sometimes when I go unexpectedly to the adult bookstore for fun, getting fucked isn’t always in the plan but happens. I’m not always prepared and the tops understand that. The unexpected sometimes happens in those situations and other times I’m clean as a whistle. Lol
The cleaner you are the dirtier you get
There isc nothing and so disrespectful then not to clean out you *** before you bottom. Come on who want a “shifty deal” it’s a turn off and word gets out fast. Douching has been done for years by bottoms it is strange that a lot of brothers fail to clean out first. Douch men both parties will have happy endings .
Most tops want a clean bottom which is fine….but what bothers me is that they have no patience with the time it takes to do it. When I get on Adam I haven’t yet cleaned out…after all, who knows if there will be anything happening other than talk and I’m not going to do an enema just to chat…yet the tops get pissed if you tell them you need time “to prepare”. Tops need to understand that bottoms aren’t walking around all the time ready for action…sexual readiness for a top means getting your cock hard…for a bottom it’s much more complicated.
Douching is a definite must…especially as you get older. When I was younger…until my mid 30’s…I could get away with a quick shit and a good scrubbing. As one gets older you don’t evacuate as completely as when younger. It takes considerably more effort to clean up throughly. Your bowel movements change with age so it is doubly important to clean up more throughly and that takes longer….just a fact of nature. There is nothing….absolutely NOTHING … that will spoil the mood faster than the smell of shit filling the room!!! Mistakes happen…even with the best of attempts to clean up and I understand that, but those things happen occasionally. Like the saying says..”what I use to could do all night now takes me all night to do” definitely goes for cleaning out your hole for some good clean fun!
Hey! That would be a good topic. the A B C’ of clean out!
Sometimes you clean out like crazy and by the time you get to your partners place there is still stuff up there! Very embarrassing. What are the secrets to a super clean out with no fear of a messy surprise later?
Any guy that is offended by this should realize some try to clean out, but bumps in the road and time brings it all back down.
So, a very good topic of “How To” for your forum?????
Collin, good idea!
Yes a good bottom has got to clean out good! It’s hard to do 100% when your buddy has a 9″+ dick and pounds you deep and hard many different positions for more then a hour 😉 not being good and clean can ruin a good hot time!
I have to agree with Logical Freak. While most men do not want a dirty ass we must remember we are fucking or being fucked in the ass which is NOT it’s primary function. Even with the all preparation and preparedness sometimes shit happens. I’ve been a top and bottom and out of respect I always have a level prepardness if sex is anticipated. I have fucked bottoms who were clean and after awhile of fucking they weren’t so clean. So we stopped showered and prepped for round number 2. No big deal. Have we really fallen to the point that we really think 24/7 we should fuck ready?
Others have stated about being called a dirty bottom, well it’s one thing to have known what was about to go down and not prepare but spontaneity of life puts in situations were we are always not prepared. Personally I would just say it’s a no go and would not allow for sex to even be a thought if I didn’t feel clean. And truly one encounter can’t label you as dirty bottom and who would know unless afterwards you went and gossiped to your friends like a school girl.
We are becoming so unrealistic with things. Most people I feel just need a reality check.
I’m glad to see so many positive responses here. I am a bottom and believe strongly that bottoms should clean out before sex — if you know your body and don’t need to douche, that’s great for you. Many guys find they need it. An enema before sex gives me confidence that my top is going to love fucking me and want to come back again and again. Accidents happen, but any guy who thinks “dirt” — and let’s be clear, it’s shit, not dirt — is a regular part of anal. Its no more normal to get shit on during anal than it is to get pissed on while sucking dick… Unless you’re into that!
I have been douching daily for many years. I had a frank discussion with my urologist on this topic. He reassured me that there is no downside to this. Wouldn’t have it any other way.
Im vers. I always douche before I bottom for anyone. I think is a polite thing to do, the last thing I want is a sudden “ewwwwwwwwww what a smell” also its nice to feel a bit more confident that everything is clean. Even so I always use a condom. When I top a guy I always ask him to make sure hes clean before he gets here. But sadly some guys idea of clean is not up to much and I have had one or two incidents where I end up with shit on my cock and that is smelly and not nice even with a condom on
Great topic.
As a versatile dude I believe in douching when I am on bottom. However I think a mature top knows that sometimes “shit happens” It’s an ass so being freaked out if you get a little “chilli on the burrito” is a little unrealistic. Cleanliness is next to botttom-ness..lol On the other hand, I have topped and gotten my dipstick a little messy and if the guy is sexy and the ass is perfect I am not going to let that stop me. I have bottomed for tops who love it messy. I am not opposed to it. Sure takes the pressure off of me. I’ve actually enjoyed it. It’s sort of hot. It just won’t be on my sheets.
It’s not bad to douche as long as u get that good bacteria in your body, ( yogurt etc) but yes shower & douche is important….not just for the bottoms but for the tops too…I’m a Top and I douche every time I have sex…not because I’m looking to get fucked on the DL ( never that) but it’s a courtesy of being clean….u wouldn’t go without brushing your teeth just because you don’t kiss…..right?…I mean if my partner is licking me ,sucking ME etc…I want him to know he can lick anywhere…besides when I guy gives u a Bjorn and sucks your balls he’s not far from your hole! ( smells) I say If my bottom has to clean….I. going to be clean too damn it!!!!…now if I’m cleaner then my bottom….something is WRONG!!!!!!!true story
As a true top I could care less, if I wanted to smell a rose I’d go to the garden n smell one, I know and love ass. I can just imagine if I woke up with a morning hardon and look over and said, honey, run and douche right quick…blah!, or I’m seducing some beautiful man and in the heat of the moment worried that my cock n balls smells like cock n balls…, that’s hormones, n it drives Emm crazy most of the time, lol prudes!, love ya!
I have to agree with the guys who want a nice clean ass but are realistic that sometimes things don’t work out as planned. I’m seeing a guy who is always immaculately clean. I rim him, finger him and fuck him for extended periods with no hesitation. I’ve told him how much I appreciate how clean he is. Recently, we had an opportunity to go up for some fun in a friend’s small plane (that’s a whole other story!). He cleaned up, but by the time we got in the air, things had changed. He was embarrassed and reluctant, but I told him that this was a special occasion and we shouldn’t let that ruin our day. So I wore a condom and we had a great day. It’s not the end of the world. I think it strengthened things between us because I was willing to look past the momentary nastiness.
Thanks for the warning about douching possibly stripping the natural, beneficial flora in the bowels. But I’ll take my chances. Been getting fucked well for over 40 years, and I always prepare. I find it best to prepare just after your first morning bowel movement. Then eat something light for breakfast and drink coffee because that usually stimulates any residuals to move down. So, I wait a little while and douche again. Then I’m good for the rest of the day. Anything left is so far out of reach, it will never be tapped. And most of my partners are huge, like I like it. I use a normal size squeezable enema ball because the idea of doing it in the shower with a shower wand is disgusting. Besides water pressure, and too much water can hurt, and possibly do damage. As for the natural flora being stripped, I drink liguid yogurt such as Kifur to replenish probiotics into my system. Recently had a colonoscopy. Happy to report I am clean as a whistle. So Douche and Get Fucked.
If you need a pristine clean man to top, fine. If you need to be pristine and clean as a bottom, fine. All part of the texture of mansex. You all just need to find each other.
I like guys to well understand good hygiene. But I also like men to men, not sanitized Ken dolls or pristine and perfect. They’re gonna deposit a hair or two in my mouth, smell like sweat from time to time, they might belch, they could fart, or … (gasp) have shit in their ass that my cock, thumbs or fingers could encounter. Granted, a guy should do his best to be evacuated and clean (well showered) as well as give you a “heads up” if he’s about to bottom that “there might be trouble ahead” so you can decide from there about whether anal is in the cards or if you’ll chose one of the other MANY forms for sexual manfun. An expectation/requirement that his hole be clean as the driven snow is just going to put a giant requirement on any sex experience that could well derail it completely (now or in terms of any possible future) if allowed to do so.
Moderation in expectations as well as flexibility in sex (flexisex?) go a long way toward ensuring long term sexual fun!
Been bttming since jr high and after the first few times I started getting my grandma’s red enema bag out and cleaning my ass. Warm, soapy water works every time.
Aside from cleaning up, and out, a great practice is simply to keep clean.
I’ve too often seen what I call “ring around the cock” or just as worse, a “landing strip” — both being the result of guys who fool around too much and have fungus scarring — you know, those dark patches that look as though they’ve been around every block in NYC? A landing strip is that ass-trench mark we all know is visually revolting and may even smell, or ring around the cock, where the inside of the thighs are fighting their own biological war — that stinks like a festering kitchen sponge, just the same! I’ve only been in two long-term relationships (10 years each) and I’m amazingly squeaky clean — it’s the best commodity anyone can have when dating. If I now see the “ring” or a “landing strip” I act accordingly and either say “see ya” or gracefully bow out. Clean for me is King.
Back to the “keep clean” thing … one-half white vinegar and one-half water in a spray bottle; for shower use. Spray all your parts leave on for a minute or two — do every other day. The vinegar kills superficial bacteria and best yet, it will get rid of that ass-musk smell your ass naturally gets. Test: Take a hair drier; spread ’em and dry your crack and recognize to what degree it smells like ass … then practice the vinegar thing … and you’ll notice it’ll come way down. Some guys are just musky, and this is a great help. Also, wet butt crack becomes a breeding ground for stuff … always fully dry with hair dryer; ball-zone too, after every shower. After sex: SHOWER up the first chance you get, unless your in a monogamous relationship and you’re bodies are in sync. To have sex and go the day without showering is like having your own personal petri dish below your belt — and that’s freakin’ gross.
Talk later…
Wash, shave, Fleet, bag, douche, arm and hammer, oxyclean, Clorox… Then you are ready for the lube.
That’s an interesting suggestion josh with the vinegar water. I’ve only had anal sex with my current partner of about 15 years and I don’t use an enema. If I’m planning to bottom I will limit my food for the day and watch eating anything that might upset my stomach. I make sure to eliminate my bowels before sex and spend a lot of extra time scrubbing my ass very well maybe even swirl a soapy finger up and inside my sphincter. I tried an enema a few times and found it very uncomfortable and felt like I could never get the water all out of my ass. I have never had any accident with my partner and we enjoy rimming each other and anal sex often.
I seldomly douche and I’m always clean. Eating a well balanced diet with fiber is the trick and probiotics can add to that. The inside of your asshole shouldnt be filled with shit if you are a healthy, regular person. A shower is fine, douching isn’t necessary to eat an asshole…you are not going inside of it! Also, the ear syringe IS a douche. you’re squirting in water and expelling it. Part of sex is spontaneity, so it’s an ass, it is what it is. showering together after is part of the fun.
Being a bottom and clean is a must. Douching is a better overall experience and helps when you take in those bigger dicks. When you are clean it keeps those tops coming back for more.
Wow, real talk: I thought this was common knowledge, that if you are going to be serving ass, clean it out! There is nothing like having the confidence of having a clean ass, its more pliable, and makes sex more enjoyable and keeps the ass server regular, I also recommend post douching as well, especially for those who use their asshole for cumdumps, after all nobody likes dirty chitterlings, less pain more gain is my motto, I think there should be mainstream enema commercials to teach guys how to clean themselves. Although, there are exceptions like if you’re cruising and are looking to do one particular thing and wound up bootie jukin’ or twerking on a piece of dick that you didn’t plan on is different, but if you going with the plan of butt sex you need to wash the inside like you do the outside thoroughly, yes I know, its a lot of work, or even in a long term relationships where you feel comfortable with the guy, you still need to do it,
I have bottomed since I was 21.. I’m now 27.
And I have NEVER douched AND I have never
Gotten my tops dirty. I don’t know why or how …
BUT I started to douche for hygienic reason. To
Get rid of build up waste. About 3-4 times a week.
I’m a full bottom now, but when I started, I topped from
14-21. And I can’t believe how many guys r dirty! Like,
Don’t you feel it almost out?? I don’t understand, how they can
Bottom if their gonna be Dookey there. The small, turns me
Off, and I go limp.
My tops LOVE me, my ass and fucking it hard. 9/10 of my tops
Are married men. I DO NOT like to fuxk around with gay men. Straight,
Bisexual , curious, or DL married ONLY.
Basically pussy fcukers 🙂 . Pussy is soooo gross , that it turns me on that
A man actually likes it. HAHAHA
gotta keep it clean, douche daily to always be ready for my top guys. not too many like a dirty bottom. I like to be ready to take it at a moments notice, anywhere. once you get used to it its like brushing your teeth, a daily habit…
Yes, I absolutely, positively, douche before hooking up. I do it for my own peace of mind because I have had plenty of accidents while playing with my dildos (alone) and don’t won’t that to happen when I with a guy.
Also, douching allows me to relax more so I can enjoy the sex more; and it encourages to top to rim my ass more often. I love getting rimmed out before a good fucking!
Actually, I have read that it is unhealthy to do so, but I can’t see myself doing anything sexually without properly preparing. Yes,I understand the health side and yes I go against it.
The douche process for men actually weakens the lining and makes it easier to contract an infection or disease.
But once again its unhealthy but I still do it.
I’m a 27 year old,versatile/ bottom, purebred/ thoroughbred gay (meaning I’ve never had heterosexual intercourse). So I’ve made quite a few distinct observations that I think most of you can relate to. Firstly, I don’t think douching is mandatory just to have successfully clean anal sex. It really depends on how big of a sausage you’re going to be riding. My boyfriend isn’t the biggest cock on the block, but it fits just perfect and we go at it for hours with no signs of dirt at all. Secondly, I’ve noticed in my younger, more promiscuous years, that guys with uncut cocks ( no matter what size) tend to be rougher Fuckers. I think it’s got something to do with all that foreskin. When you’re getting “pounded”, the chances of your partner getting a dirty dick are increased. If you stick to nice,standard, all-american fucking you shouldn’t have to douche if you’re tight. However,if you showed up for the gang-bang last week, and plan on getting “pounded” tomorrow then it’s probably a good idea to look into routine douching. Lastly, I think the top plays a big role in the event itself. For some reason it seems that guys that are either bi-curious, or bi, and have no experience fuckin’ assholes tend to get dirty dicks more often because they don’t realize that an asshole isn’t a vagina. You can do the Riverdance in a cunt, but when you tread up dirt roads you’re bound to get dusty. So take it easy and be prepared. If you know it’s gonna be a rough night with some married guy,then rinse out. If you’re monogamous with your lover then do whatever makes you both happy that’s how I see it.
This question shouldn’t even be a question. It is called being respectful and if you are going to bottom, it is not desired, it is not requested, it is EXPECTED you cleaned yourself out. Men who behave as if there is some surprise like it is alright to show up filthy, I just send them packing.
I wonder what the next question will be. If they haven’t showered in a month, is it ok to not hurt their feelings, put a clothespin over your nose and dive down into their nastiness? Come on, these questions are silly.
Here is my blanket answer. If I invite you over and you do not come shower fresh, I give you a single chance to go in the bathroom, take a shower and rectify the situation. Believe it or not, while that seems like a reasonable request, I have thrown men out that immediately try to be Mr. Tough Guy when I ask nicely for them to take responsibility for showing up filthy. If I knew them and they showed up to bottom filthy, I’d not only throw them out, I’d ask they forget my info.
I pretty much have a ‘clean-up’ system going that keeps me fuck-able 24/7. But, yes, if I am to bottom for a top, i def prefer a clean inside just as courtesy to the top. I myself dont feel comfortable knowing that the stuff come out of if I did not prepare ahead of time when the top does me; turns me off, imagine from the top point of view where he can smell and see
I prefer clean. But sometimes it is isn’t, and that okay too. It happens.
Shower, cuddle, and get over it.
I am a total bottom and to me it is more respectful to ensure I am clean because some tops like to fuck then pull out and cum in the bottoms mouth. I do not do ass to mouth because even being cleaned out it is not totally cleaned. If he uses a condom then takes it off I don’t mind him putting it in my mouth and shooting his load but never a bare ass to mouth. But without a doubt a clean ass is much more fun.