Speak Out : I Don’t Like Anal Sex!
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Hi Guys, Happy Cinco De Mayo to all our mexican friends all over the world, I hope you are all enjoying your week so far! Let’s keep on talking about “ass” again today, I’m sure you don’t mind, do you? I received an email from one of our members and he wanted me to publish his question on the blog. Check it out below:
“It kind of feels like I’m the only one who is gay and not into anything anal. I like all the other stuff, sucking, kissing, touching, masturbating but anal doesn’t turn me on at all. Is there anyone else out there that feels the same way?
It is not the first time a member tells me that, so I wanted to put it up on the blog and have everyone’s opinion and maybe you can share your story as well like Shaun did here. I was like Shaun too until I turned 21 years old. I actually was scared of catching HIV and was not interested or aroused by anal at all. Until I met my first real BF. Then I became addicted to it… no I’m joking. I love anal, but I don’t need to receive anal in a hookup. I do need it in my mouth though! What about you? Are you like Shaun too?
If you too would like to submit a text, a blog post, a sex story, ask a question to other members or any other topics, feel free to send me a note at blog at adam4adam dot com.
Thanks
Dave
I had always been reluctant to have anal intercourse myself for many years even though I had topped a few guys and did love oral play very much; both receiving and giving. Much of my reluctance stemmed from the fact I had a very tight rectum and feared the pain involved. But I was tempted a few times during love-making sessions with various partners to give it a try.
Then a few years ago I had to undergo a TURP (Trans-Uthrethral Resection of the Prostrate) and afterwards suffered though a severe bout of constipation. Even though I was taking stool-softeners, my turds where huge and hard; often resulting is slight tears to the rectum and spots of blood present after defecation. But this did have the effect of loosening up my overly-tight asshole. Now, I had been called an overly-tight asshole before, but in the figurative and not literal sense.
But after this physical transformation, I figured I was now able to participate in anal intercourse so during one love-making session with a partner I had participated in sex with for a while, I let him fuck me. Wow! I wondered why I had waited so long!
But the trouble was (in case you hadn’t guess given my history) by this time I was an old man and not able to attract any virile young studs–those guys are awfully picky. But I do like anal intercourse now. I just don’t get to participate in it as often as I’d like to.
For me, anal used to be a no go. Just didn’t enjoy it. Felt like I had to shit and there was no pleasure about it. Good buds said I just wasn’t wired for it and shouldn’t sweat it. Now after some experimenting, I can “take one for the team” but still no pleasure at all so I don’t go seeking it.
For Shaun in the post here, it’s just a matter of being clear in his profile about what he is looking for. Bottoms may be plentiful, but not all guys are looking to be pounded or are looking to do the pounding. In the case of not being moved for anal play, a guy should just note what play he does like in his profile and that he is “not into anal”. Any guy who makes an issue of it, or applies pressure, is giving a good clue that play won’t be a good time for both parties. Pass on him.
I love getting fucked, best feeling ever. I couldn’t imagine going without it!
I’m with Shaun. Ass play really doesn’t do that much for me, giving or receiving.
No, I am not like Shaun, but the opposite. I absolutely love getting fucked in my ass. A Top that can fuck me multiple time in one session is the best! I just can’t get enough! All the other stuff, sucking, kissing, touching, and masturbating is foreplay to me.
If you’re not into anal, don’t do it. And do not allow anyone to belittle you for it or try to force you into it.
There are plenty of guys out there who feel the same way you do. I don’t understand it myself, but I respect it. Just make sure you’re clear about it so there are no misunderstandings.
I didn’t bottom till I was 22, but I had been using make shift toys since I was 11 I knew I loved it up my bottom since then!
No thanks. Too risky. Also, while I sometimes in the past have thought about it, even jerked off about it…reality is much worse than fantasy. It hurts. I have a toy that I can slowly, carefully insert to massage my prostate, which gives me a great orgasm, but a constant back and forth…even carefully…hurts.
So, put me down for everything…Right up to insertion…but no stroking.
I am no pressure Top, if a guy just want to suck my huge dick so be it. I don’t have an preconceived notions or expectations. If a Sexy guy wants his ass filled and mouth filled than that’s what he gets.
I am a total bottom. I love the sensation of a man topping me and giving every inch of his cock (no matter the size) as deep and as hard as possible. I used to be a top but now all I can think about is bottoming and have not gone back to being a top for close to 10 years now. Everyone is different. If it’s not your thing then hopefully your partner(s) will understand. I know that I enjoy a lot of kink and fetishes that not everyone is into and I respect that. I never force anyone to do something they are not comfortable with.
I am with Shaun. No interest in anal. Iva had enough bad experiences with bottoms saying they are clean, just to find out they weren’t. Total boner killer. So just don’t look for it anymore.
I’m with Justin & Tennessee Bottom…I love a Big Dick beating my ass up!
I’m with Shawn. I don’t like anal.For it is not pleasurable.It’s painful if you are the receiver.Wearing a condom doesn’t protect the receiver 100% because of the way the giver is pounding.Am also in the medical profession and have to tell the anal wall is very delicate and can tear easily and you open the gateway for HIV to make a home.
All the oral and affectionate stuff is safer :sucking,kissing,touching,etc. can be fully satisfying if you use your imagination on how erotic you can make it.
My boyfriend will not do anal and I will not fuck. We get along just fine after 10 years. We do everything else together. So no big deal for either one of us.
I use to be like Shaun. The first guy I was with we flipped. Didn’t really do anything for me. But I really enjoyed him sucking me. Since then I was a top for a while but later realized I enjoy the sexuality of being on the bottom. Sometimes it hurts especially if the top is not patient enough. I have never taken a cock I couldn’t fit in balls deep given I had a couple minutes to ease him in. But more than the size of the cock is knowing I have a man in me. That I am pleasuring him. Over time I have learned to love being fucked. I am not into all the other stuff like kissing or cuddling. Every once in a while I may suck a cock but once it’s hard I crave it fucking me.
Diseases scared me a lot when I first started living out my sexual prefernces.Sucking a man and getting sucked feels more personal and psychologically and symbolically seeing a face (caputo ,the head of a person’s entire being,spirit,management of self,the most valuable part of the body tied to brain and all the self-regulation issues.I’m not overthinking this is how symbolism works .It is immediate and we feel many different ideas ans issues INSTANTANEOUSLY !)is a big turn on.A butt stuck up to might face is not the same as another face.I love licking asses I love kissing all over a man’s body .I think in many ways I’m a very submissive masculine man.Everyone I meet wants me to be the top .It fits my demeanor and looks but what gets me off is anal.There have been a few times when a guy really turns me on that I have wanted the roughness of getting into a person’s physiology and tearing him into two.there is some violence and control issues involved with fucking.Very simply It’s a power play .I want to share and slave for a guy so it’s incompatible with my personality and instincts. I have a good technique when it comes to fucking – just not into it .
I am with Shaun …..the real deal, is I love the idea of being a bottom. However, my ass doesn’t like it. I have hemmoroids and have had sugery to remove some of them. It’s really too bad for me,because I really would like to bottom,but it just hurts too much. If I am correct,hemmoroids never really go away…you have them,or you don’t .
Not into anal either…..tried it and as one guy said, “just not wired for it”……much rather have long loving oral sex
I’m still on the fence. Usually it depends on the guy. I like to top, rim even more so but it’s like I have a booty “spider-sense”, to tell me which Guys I want to and which I never would. I don’t like to be rimmed cause I’m very self conscious and maybe bottom 6 times a yr, so ever time feels like the first time .
Ironically I think the concept of getting #*$/ by a huge cock, or flip flopping is insanely hot. In reality not so much. It’s not even the pain, it’s the weirdness and being uncomfortable that turns me off. My mind gets so busy, sigh. I feel left out, like Shaun sometimes, like something is wrong with me for not wanting it up the butt…
I’m a total top but I haven’t topped in years just too scared to do it. But I love foreplay… not many are good at that either. I love the passion of kissing, hugging ect. Head is ok but I can’t find anyone whose good at sucking uncut dick… I’m also thicker than normal so head usually hurts my dick. Add the fact that I prefer fems sexually my chance of meeting anyone is slim.
The pic was what I was just doing. Except the dick fucking me was black and useless rubber on it. I love getting fucked. Leave kissing, sucking and other boring shit to people in relationships. I just want as many dicks up my asshole blowing life giving fluids until the day I die
Well, I’d love to start with the whole concept of “Top” and “Bottom” and the bastardization of those terms in just the past 30 years (when did they become VERBS???)… but I’ll save that for another time.
I’ve been an out, gay man since 1979 and can count on both hands the # of times I’ve fucked. I can count on my invisible hand how many times I’ve been fucked. (Yep- virgin).
Obviously I don’t care for the feeling of anything in my ass, but I don’t really get off on fucking someone. I’ve never cum while fucking.
What really turns me OFF, though, is when I meet someone (usually online of course) who is all about getting fucked. They say things like “I’m looking to get fucked” or “I’m looking for a nice cock in my ass.” If insertion of a cock in your ass is what you’re looking for, I don’t understand the need for another person to be there for it. Dildos come in all shapes, materials and sizes. Obviously, you are only thinking about yourself and satisfying your hole, so why would a “top” have any interest in being a dildo?
Moving on… The words “insatiable bottom” make me laugh. Why would I want to play with someone when, by definition, he can’t be satisfied? Satisfying my partner is important, and if fucking becomes part of the play, hell that’s HOT! But when it’s the goal of the night, I’d rather play for a good long time then just stick my dick somewhere and make the goal of the night having an awesome time.
As in so many issues, once again, I thought I was the only one. I just could not take the pounding and did not like it. Early on in the game I was so tight it always hurt. Now it does not hurt but I still just do not need it. There are so many things to do naked with a guy which are fulfilling. Not the least of which is holding caressing cuddling. Intimacy is expressed in more than one way. And, yes, I do understand that type of intimacy can be pleasurable. The vast majority of guys put on their profiles that they are bottom. It gives me just a bit of irritation every time I see it because that is ALL they want. Even if someone found me attractive but I could not top them, they want nothing to do with me! Oh well, just another problem in gayland.
How many times have we heard this- the most important sex organ is the brain!
Now you might not like anal and that’s the end of it, but you might be depriving yourself of a lot of pleasure, so don’t rule out getting some joy back there, even if it’s just your own finger for now.
Don’t be afraid to try things yourself, some good lube, gentle poking and who knows. Some boys think they’re ‘tops’ just because they can split you open with their erection, that’s not the kind of sensual, sexual experience you might get if you check it out a bit more.
If you aren’t into it then be clear. Don’t waste the time of the majority since you have limited your pool of men to select from.
I am a very frustrated bottom. I want to get fucked and even have dreams about it but almost every time I try it, it is too painful to continue. I have finally found a guy who is patient and not very thick and the first time we tried it, it actually went really well and finally understood why guys enjoy it so much. Unfortunately, the two times since have been more painful again. Part of the problem is I’m a big bear and he is not real long so there are only a a few positions that work and none of them well. But, if I find anyone longer, they are also usually thicker so the pain factor goes up.
When I was younger and first experimenting with gay/butt sex… I love the tightness of the feel but never liked the dirty accidents.
Was too much pain for me to enjoy an ass fucking but I tried here and
Buddy with a thick long dick, decided he wanted my ass real bad…. so after a few drinks and my introduction to poppers… he fucked my ass and it was the best orgasm of my life, electrifying and cum leaked out without even touching my cock.
Have been enjoying ever since….. now going for a colonoscopy and cant wait to feel the stretching.
I have never like anal. I will suck, jerk and frot, period. There are more of us out there than one would think.
I am a totally versatile Man……………and LOVE to fuck and get Fucked………Dudes who say that they are total Top or Bottom bore me…..you have to experience BOTH to appreciate the feeling. I have a “straight” dude that I Fuck with every once in awhile and he has recently found the pleasure of being a bottom…………..it’s all cool, except now I have lost the Str8 dude that would beat my ass up for a couple hours!!!!!
I never enjoyed it until I met a guy who was a total expert at topping. He introduced me gradually to his fat 8 inch cock. It took 3 sessions before I could take more than the head. After that I couldn’t get enough of him. It is such a great feeling to know that you are giving someone you are with so much pleasure. I can’t think of anything more fulfilling than being used by a big sexy horny top. And by the way, he likes to get me ready and excited by sitting on my cock to get me turned on. Then, after I eat him out, he gets so hard and excited that I flip onto my back, throw my heels over his shoulders and open my ass as wide as I can for his enjoyment. Totally hot. I usually cum just from the wonderful feeling of being filled with a hard throbbing cock getting off in me. NOTE: We both got tested before I let him cum inside me.
I love receiving anal sex as long as it is with someone I have a connection to. I wouldn’t ask for it with a hookup but with a guy I really like or love it is the ultimate expression of love.
I grew up thinking it was great from my teens on until 1980s . I was so high it didnt matter if the act was less than clean . Mostly if i smell the slightest indication on feces Im done in by it . Condoms make me loose sensation and my brian cant work that hard , I need to feel it . Perhaps a committed relationship with a top will cure me. But for tricking , I stay with oral
I am a fit 54 yo man and I am with Shaun. I have given and taken one for the team, but I am simply not wired for receiving. I love body contact of all kinds, toys, role play, and oral. Massage is my forte and I can nut with just my hands full of supple muscle and skin. I like and appreciate much younger men and have found no shortage of companions who are more than willing and receptive. I am not into Daddy games except as play, so when the talking stops there is no power play, no expectations beyond a sensual erotic session. Edging takes on new dimension and I have had deeply connected sex for 5 and 6 hours that left us out of breath and covered in sweat. Pretty satisfied with that. :0)
Let love and respect be your guide.
Wish I could still enjoy it. I had a total colectomy and some other surgeries so now its prohibitive. I have a great partner who is understanding and we’ve been finding alternative ways to please each other ever since.
Love being on the bottom but so hard to find a decent top.
I have tried. but it hurts to bad. I want to try and have used butt plug, but cannot get past the small ones. I need a guy with a thin cock.
I love ass, looking at booty caressing, kissing it, all of that, unfortunally because I have a small dick (5.5″) is hard for me to find guys who would want to get fucked. As a bottom I have tried a few times but I still can’t get used to, is not the pain but more like a burning sensation in my ass I cant take, I have tried different kinds of lubes but doesnt seem to help, besides I am extremely paranoid about hiv and stds in general. So I guess I’ll keep searching for those bottoms who are confortable with getting fucked by a small dick, :/
I’m only into anal if I’ve connected mentally with the guy. Fucking someone I don’t have any emotional investment, big or small, doesn’t do anything for me. My dick won’t stay hard as my mind wanders of to think about things I actually do care about…I love to 69, kiss, nipple play all the passionate type stuff tho.
Maybe Shaun would be into anal a bit more if he was serious about the person??
Of the ten sexual encounters in my past I look back on the most fondly, the majority of them did not involve penis-in-ass anal intercourse. For a while I stayed away from doing so because I wanted to “save it for the man I love” (which kinda did work out that way). When that did happen, I was the top, and for some reason the sensation of being ridden felt like my hard-on was being made to bend in on itself lol. And the thing is…I am better at topping now than those many years ago, but each time I’ve gone to fuck an ass, I lose my erection EVERY SINGLE TIME. Don’t know if it’s that the physical sensation of that pink box going back and forth on my dick just isn’t as mindblowing as the “career” tops ALWAYS seem to make it out to be. Don’t know if it’s me crumbling under the pressure of trying to fulfill I the bottom’s wish to feel me cum inside his ass (which every bottom I’ve topped seemed to implore me to do EXCEPT one). Ask me to do ANYTHING else (EXCEPT bottoming) & I’m as hard as a damn GLASS dildo.
I never was into anal sex. I work in the health field and anal sex is to risky.
There are groups of gay men that are not into anal sex for one reason or another. I am a top, however, when I first started out, my lover would always have me bottom. Even though I told him bottoming gave me no pleasure and the only reason I enjoyed myself, was because of making out with him and the other physical contact.
Being a gay man, does not require you being into anal sex. However, it is the most iconic form of male-male intimacy. I know and have seen profiles of guys into oral-only, frotting (genital to genital grinding) and other forms of contact. All are normal and acceptable gay behaviors.
I enjoy being a bottom. I do want to say my first experience was a bit rough. I met a guy who was a very athletic guy, needless to say he had no problem taking my virginity away. i was nervous very nervous but he took me in bent me over, lubbed up and did not give me a chance to say nothing. he pounded me hard until a cam and than told me to go ahead and go. since than sex has not been the same it is slow and passionate these days. i still think about him today. i agree with a lot of you. anal sex is not for every one just like i don’t like kissing or letting another guy lick my ass. to me that just aint right. please tell me what is about licking another mans hole.
Go anal or go home!
The ass is a huge turn-on for me. I love to touch it, rub it, stroke it, lick it…and to have it done back to me. Fucking, however, is not high on my list of favorite things. I enjoy doing it, and I like having it done to me, but I can certainly enjoy a sexual encounter without it. I’m not an athlete, and I think that some of the positions are awkward and tiring—I get worn out and can’t enjoy the sensations. Fingering is a different story! It seems to me that you get the same pleasure without the uncomfortable positions, both as you finger and are fingered. Give me a great internal massage any time!
i am one of those who likes Oral best myself to sucking an getting sucked as well as sniffing licking an eatign ass crotch armpitts an feet is the major turnon for me an gets me off faster an most
I, like the author, like hugging, kissing, sucking but fucking never was on the favorite list. Have done it as I got older but could take it or leave it.
I love getting fuck I’m 23 but I love it so much if I can have it everyday twice a day would be great the feeling of having a dick go in and out and when he cums best feeling totally love anal sex
I have grown to like it but I still feel it’s overrated, especially as a bottom. The pleasure I get from it is more psychological than physical in that I have a vicarious feeling of pleasure from seeing and feeling the top having fun and cumming (and making me feel like a woman). Men also don’t really get orgasms from it without touching their own dicks (except for a very few who claim they do). The fact that you have to prepare for it also kills a lot of the spontaneity, which is part of what makes sex hot. And this is the reason I sometimes wish I was just a girl (or at least had a vagina…lol) just so I’d be able to cum multiple times (just by being fucked) and be fucked anytime, anywhere.
I’m a versatile bottom and I enjoy anal a great deal. I’m very masculine, a power bottom I guess you could say, and I’m open about my sexuality. I guess it always surprises people that I’m the “catcher” and not the “pitcher” for the most part, but I’ve been having anal since I was a teenager. I know the risks, particularly when it comes to barebacking (which I do very, very rarely) but to me giving up my ass to a masculine top guy is a huge turn on and quite frankly the essence for me of being a gay man.
For me, anal is just another way – perhaps the most intimate way – of being intimate with another man. In my gay “career” I have found relatively few men who are interested in that type of intimacy. But as I’ve discovered, even two bottoms can have the hottest, most intimate times without benefit of anal penetration. As the saying goes, It’s All Good.
Love taking it up the ass – but only if the top knows what he is doing. There’s nothing pleasurable about a cock being shoved rapid fire 3000 times a second up in your ass. That’s a sure sign a guy doesn’t know how top fuck. When a guy knows how to fuck he gets it in, hits the spot right with smooth strokes in and out, round and round, side to side, riding a piece of ass like he really loves it and doesn’t hate it (i.e. hitting so hard and fast as to punish it.)
Basically those who don’t get into anal haven’t progressed passed the type of activities you do when you’re 13-15… you’re still getting it off like a teenager. Boring.
If a man can’t play all the gay reindeer games, sit on the sidelines and don’t attempt to be tagged in. Unless you find another emotionally and sexually stunted dude. Then you’re set you can live like 13 year olds until you die. Woo.
I think each person has to make their own decisions regarding their bodies and what they do and do not find acceptable. For me, intercourse is not to be taken lightly because it is as close to another person as you can possibly get. Whether you be the Top or the Bottom. I have had the fortunate luck of having been born well endowed and being physically attractive. Many times I have been asked if I would bottom or top when meeting someone the first time and personally, I would never consider it.
I have to like the person enough past an anonymous hook up and I don’t mean the fake name they gave me. I mean I have to really know them enough to like them in order to even get hard enough to do that. This is the perfect scenario because the men that aren’t worth it, never stick around and the ones that are, do. It makes it so much more enjoyable when it occurs because it is a closeness you cannot achieve otherwise and I’d only want to share that type of closeness with men that I deemed worthwhile.
The ones that do 3-5 hook ups in a day, I am sorry, my penis will not even get hard if they suggest it and when they do, I politely ask them to put their clothes back on and leave.
On a side note, if you ever see blood in your stool, go to the doctor right away and get hydrocortisone suppositories because if that gets infected or you get injured, it takes a VERY long time to heal back up to the point you can just go and defecate without tearing yourself back open again.
Glad to see a lot of guys don’t getting fucked. Im a top but “think” i want to be more versatile. My issue has been the guys that want to help me become more versatile are BIG!
Still considering it 😉
Has a bottom I love it. It took time to get use to it. Finding a top who know how to break in a new bottom is the trick! Ya got to get stretched out a little. Lol
This is why porn is so appealing! You can meet a Random guy a go at it! Fuck til exhaustion!!! The reality is the opposite!
Receiving does nothing for me. It aggravates hemorrhoids and leaves me constipated for days. I have to totally relax, and it takes a lot to get to that state (it’s only happened once or twice, and I didn’t stay hard or reach orgasm). Ok so once I came quick, but that was the first time. Afterward it was just…meh. Then later I topped, and it was like angelic voices sang from heaven and rainbows shot out of his hole.
yeah. Sorry guys, top and staying that way. 😀
I was exclusively a top for my first few years, mostly because my bf was all bottom. But after we parted ways, new bf was all top, thus I tried it. Wow, i couldn’t have even imagined how great if felt to get fucked. Now, my profile says 100% bottom, and getting fucked is what I want in a hookup. I love all the foreplay we can tolerate, too… sloppy kissing, cuddling, explore my buddy’s body with my mouth, tongue and touch, suck his cock…. and end game is getting his hard, well-lubed cock into my ass. Once he’s in and I’m comfortable, he can fuck me as hard as he likes. I love getting pounded. Taking big cock is no problem.
I haven’t done anal with most of the guys that I’ve been with. There’s a lot that goes into it; you have to prepare in advance for it, there has to be agreement on what role each guy wants, you need lube and condoms, the top might be too big for the bottom to handle, etc. There does seem to be a misconception, not just among the general population, but also among us queer men that anal is the standard way to have sex. For one thing, images in gay porn almost always show an anal scene if there are two or more guys involved. This is not reflective of reality. Also on sites like this, there are so many guys asking “top or bottom?” as soon as a conversation starts.
There are many other ways that two guys can have sex. Oral, mutual masturbation, frot, cuddling, kissing, etc.
I dont care for fucking or being fucked. I do like to eat ass alot(Rim) and i like rubbin outer area with fingers. Also like the tip to rub it and the head in it a little.. but i go soft every time i go all the way in. So i lost interest. At one time i wanted to feel a load in me just from curiosity. But i am a Dominant lover o i never get those guys. I have fisted 2 guys in the 18 yrs ive been with guys, and guys only. The way i was shown by my first fistee was one finger in at a time till i get my hand in to my wrist. He had an intense and long orgasm and i eased out. The 2nd one was same, so they were more like hand fucks. But I prefer making out and Naked aggressive foreplay. Jerking and sucking each other, a lot of passion. Rubbing on each other cock to cock.. exploring intensely and gently. If hes a sub ill force feed, spit and watersports may be there. Some bondage, Tape, rope, ball gags. Im open to versatile to Dom/Sub. But I am never the sub. Any young guys 20s to late 30s wanta be my partner in love and sex?
submissive but not into anal is not into anal, but wants anal. Is he confusing or what? More than most gay guys. His post makes little sense to me
OMG,
I couldn’t imagine not having a hard dick in my ass, thrusting in and out of me.
Fear is a terrible thing, get to know your body and enjoy the abilities it possesses to make yourself and the man fucking you happy.
And life wouldn’t be the same if I didn’t have my man’s hole to plant my seed into. JO just doesn’t compare to topping a hot man.
No pun intended, but I can take it or leave it. I sort of have to be in the mood for it, and sometimes it’s just something I’d rather watch in a porn rather than actually do.
@Joe: Pig. Just because a guy has no desire to take it up the ass does not mean he is emotionally stunted or unable to play ‘all of the gay reindeer games.’ You aren’t some kind of sexual authority, and if you are God’s gift to gay men, I sincerely hope we kept the receipt.
To each their own. Some people like chocolate, some people like vanilla, some people like orange sherbert. Deal with it. If you don’t mesh sexually with someone else’s desires, then take my advice and DON’T HAVE SEX WITH THEM. Move on. There is no shortage of Dick in the world.
Personally, I’m with the OP. I’ve had anal, both topping and bottoming. It’s probably the most overrated sexual act ever. I agree with some of the commenters here that reducing male-male sexuality to simple penetration is a disservice. Life’s buffet has many flavors, and if you have your favorites, there’s nothing wrong with sticking to them. But how dare some of you look down on others or assume that because they don’t practice anal sex that they are less than you, or not legitimately gay.
Our world is full of judgment. We can do without passing it on each other. The most attractive trait in a partner is honesty. So be up front about what you will and won’t do, it’s the most surefire way to attract a compatible partner. And if any man tries to pressure or belittle you into doing something you are uncomfortable with, remember: No means no. If he can’t respect you, he doesn’t deserve you. Move along.
I only get fucked by fellows who I’m super attracted to. I want him in me and I want to give him pleasure, even though it might hurt. I don’t give it up to just anybody. Only then does it give me pleasure. Otherwise, it just plain hurts.
You do have to prepare ahead of time to avoid any bit of a mess. This will give confidence. Some time ago a fellow asked to fuck me. I answered, “well, I’m not too confident up there at the moment.” If you are the top, withdraw with a towel to avoid any surprises.
I was curious about what i will feel. I tried inserting different dildos but had no pleasure at all. Until one day i went out with this guy. He took me to a motel and when he saw that i was wearing panties he got so horny that grab oil ask me suck his dick while he start fingering me. The pleasure was incredible and he almost have me come. Then he move my panties and started playing with my hole with his dick. The pleasure and the need to feel that beautifull cock inside me was increasing untill i move and got the head inside. The pain and pleasure was incredible. That guy started presing that incredible cock inside me and after a while the feeling was incredible. He made me come withuout touching me and when he came the feeling of having that come inside me was incredible. Since that day if i met a guy and i like his dick i enjoy the ride.
If i go a couple of days with out a good hard ass pounding and lot of cum in me i go ape shit . I have to be fucked at least three times a week more if i can .i couldnt imagine life with out cock . I been getting hammered since i was about twelve and got so excited the first time i felt hot jizz in me . I am kind of a cum whore . I have even jerked off a horse while i was sitting under it and let the cum splatter all over me . Some thing about cum dripping down the crack of my ass leaking all over my balls is a real turn on
Most of the time I can do without, I’m so tight – need to be really into it. There have been a few times when the guy I’m with is really patient. It takes a bit of time, but when you feel that final slide of his cock up inside you, I totally get it. So fucking intimate…and i love to see him getting off on fucking me.
That said, not into getting fucked by random hook-ups. Seems like a lot of top dudes expect you to be some sort of porn power bottom…