A4A : Suggestions For The Blog?
Hey guys,
I would like to get your suggestions. I have created this blog 5 years ago and sometimes it is hard to get new ideas for posts and always be fresh and relevant. Do you have any suggestions? Any opinions you would like to have from other members? Any “hot or not” suggestions? Any porn stars you would like me to interview? Do you have any sex stories you would like me to post on the blog? Would you like to submit your profile as a member of the week? Would you like to share with other members something important that happened to you recently? Would you like to see more porn? More videos?More A4A members? Please write your suggestions in the comment section below and send your text or profile submission to blog at adam4adam.com! Would you like contests?
I was thinking about having a page with all the access and promo to porn sites, would you like that?
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Have a great week guys and thank you so much:)
Dave
Hi there.
I have a neighbor who is really really hot. Cuban 6″2 bald muscular… macho Cuban guy.
I know that he knows i am gay and i know that he would like to do something with me but he has a girlfriend and i don’t know how i can approach or flirt with him.
Please advise me what should i do?
Thank you.
use disqus.
dangit.
update this comment section!!
How about some “non-traditional” or “non-real” gays conversation. Gay guys come in a variety of shapes and sizes, many far from stereotypical or traditional models. They’re not trendy. They don’t swoon over female musicians. They’re not urban. Many are guys who buried their sexuality years ago when society was not as tolerant and became “functionally straight” (marrying women and becoming fathers). As far as society is concerned these guys are “straight” and it’s not a simple matter for them to “change their spots” or “flick a switch” and inform their employers, families, friends, etc. that they are gay. (This is very hard for many younger gay guys to understand. They howl “shut up and just come out. Just stop being on the Down Low.” It’s just not so simple).
So about gay guys who aren’t part of “the scene” or who have never participated in the movement, or who are not part of “The Community” or who are “functionally straight”? How about some commentary from these gay A4A members about their lives?
Hey Dave – I’d love for you to interview that hot new ginger, Bennett Anthony! He’s so fine and a GINGER! mmmmm
I recently went to the Laundromat and had a nice conversation. The questions posed were…
What is it that attracts you to the same sex?
Do you think you are BORN gay or is it a choice?
Why does the Gay/Lesbian community want the same classification as MARRIED?
Why do you think St8’s have a problem with a same sex couple being married?
How many times, have you or someone you have known that was struggling to come out, contemplated suicide or hurting yourself because you felt like you didn’t belong or you were disappointing someone else?
I think a blog that head on questions like these would be beneficial to all who read the answers. Maybe this way we can break down the walls between the str8’s and the same sex couples and learn and grow together. We may not agree on a lot of things, but I think if we all put our differences aside for the sake of learning more about they other and why they feel a certain way…we all might have a better understanding and something might happen that will change the world to where everyone is accepted no matter what orientation you are.
How about a more functional blog format. Right now there are those that are addressing someone’s comment, but the reply is not ‘attached’ to the original comment (keeping the thread together).
How about sections written by a qualified authority (like a health section written by a doctor).
How about a search feature to find articles that have already been discussed. You wrote an article about ‘sounds’ but will a new member know that going forward?
There are some great gay webcomics out there. How about promoting them here? e.g. Dale Lazarov, ‘The Gardner’, ‘keyle’s Bed and Breakfast’, ‘Adam and Andy’, ‘The Young Protectors’, ‘Artifice’…..many, many more…
Tall_btm: there’s a “search” option already on the blog.
Open relationships
Hey Dave I’m relatively new to the game here and am curious to be rimmed, I’m just not sure how to thoroughly clean myself down there. Could you have an article on proper cleaning techniques/practices so I can be sure of my cleanliness before asking a potential partner to rim me? Anyways I know it’s kind of gross but I don’t know who else to ask and I’m sure the article would help a lot of the newer bottoms out there with their confidence in the bedroom, thanks for reading
Allo Dave, I am aware of an interesting situation right now and wondered if you could bring it towards group discussion.
Can we discuss the topic of men with small penises, how it affects their social / dating life / sense of self / sense of manhood?
Can we discuss with the group if they would or would not have a man with a small penis as a sex partner / life partner.
How do men who are average to above feel about men with smaller penises? Do you reject such men?
Can we hear from men with smaller penises about how they cope with any perceived or self pe.rceived pressure about the small size of their penis? How are they treated by other men?
Thank you Dave
What about an article about coming out when you are older. In the process of that right now… I know it’s the thing to do… But scary as hell…
I know I would most definitely like to see a sudden increase in A4A membership in Antigua. There aren’t many guys in this country with profiles. And I understand there are persons who create more than one profile at a time with dishonorable motives.
contributors who can write well
More personal accounts from people who have discovered they are HIV +
So many guys on here do not know their status because they are promiscuous and are scared to get tested.
I know sex sells, and I know that now alot of dudes are on PreP they think they are invincible, but there needs to be more of a community on here. We have to get the focus back to personal responsibility and less fantasy.
NO MORE “Penthouse Forum”-esque stories. If we want to get titillated we go to Xtube or hook with with guys on here.
I’d be interested in a discussion about escorts. I’ve never used one and generally don’t like the idea. But sometimes I just crave a level of physical hotness and perfection that is too hard to come by naturally. I’ve seen some escort ads that really turn me on but it’s so sketchy. Some of them are obviously fake. Different ads with different guys but the text was clearly written by the same person and same phone number. And other red flags. Are these cops doing a sting, or jerks looking to rob customers? I’d like to hear a discussion of escort experiences and tips to do it safely. Although I’m sure there may be some judgement and bad attitude in such a discussion.
I’m pretty sure you’ve already blogged about HIV and std, but I feel like you should blog about that again. There’s still people who need to understand the dangers of sometimes going bareback with someone you barley meet. And some people, like myself, don’t really understand how someone can get hiv infected or an std. So, that’s just an idea I wanted to put out there.
You could go into sub-cultures. It would require some investigations, but a lot of people might find it interesting.
How about an article discussing the use of ED pills such as Viagra. I am curious how many guys use them, if they actually need them or use them only for fun, how often they use them, and if they have had any side effects from their use.
Im kind of new here so not sure if topic of fetishes comes up. Interested in those realized and still longing
need a local chat rooms
Lose the “Hot or Not” posts. They’re utterly pointless. Some guys will be into whatever/whomever it is, and others won’t be. No surprise there, and the vast majority of responses aren’t even the least bit entertaining. Not posting anything that day is actually preferable to another “Hot or Not” piece.
How do we politely say “not interested in poz guys?”
Interacial dating and sex
Can you interview Hot Rod? He’s a porn star I’m sure a your members would like to get his views on.
I, as I would assume have erection problems due to reasons such as medications, self confidence, (most likely because of smaller size dicks), etc. and therefore miss out on the oppertunity to meet other men such as themselves because they don’t message other men on this site because somewhear down the road, it’s gonna get sexual. Some men, like myself are satisfied with just being with other men who are mutually attracted to each other or just cuddling to avoid that moment when the “sex” happens and they may not perform good, or at all, for that matter.
I, myself feel much more secure/confident when the guy your with has and/or is aware of your little problem. Speaking or myself and probably other members are more likely to get an full erection when when both partners are aware of the situation. (cuddling and making out gets my erection started, but as soom as the guy goes and feels my crotch, I loose it) That being said, why nott have a special section, or spaces to fill out for guys who have or are tolerant of this problem, whether it’s from medications, lacl of self-comfidence, etc. I’m suremany members will thank A4A for that extra courtesy, I sure will!!!
Why are so many white bottoms, so into black guys? I know there’s a bunch of us!!
Should have started out as: I, and would assume many other men on this site have erection problems (correction for above post)
Maybe Bi/Bi-curious guys…everyone has their own opinion on the matter and I feel like it would start a cool dialogue
We know it’s not a choice. But if given the choice, how many guys would rather be straight?
The benefits of sleeping in the nude. Why do people wear cloths to bed?
face sitting, sausage parties, sleeping to the top, do guys actually date?, how has online dating changed in the last 20 years, mentally unstable hookups, poppers, Laser Liposuction and cake.
Hmm… how about maybe offering an advice column and letting it be open to other members? There are so many people who are in situations that they are unsure of what to do… sometimes we all need that sense of reassurance that we are not alone or thwe we arent simply crazy or weird just becauze of whatever it is that is bothering them. It could possibly unite us as a group by allowing us to open up to each other.
The issue i see with us as homosexuals is that we are so obsessed with youth and perfection that we forget that we are humans outside of what we do in bed, so we isolate ourselves emotionally and prevent ourselves from connecting with others… any thoughts?
Hi Dave……i like all the guy’s suggestions…especially the one from Rustt dog 2201 cobcerning coming out when your older. That just seems impossible for me to do and i would maybe like to tell my famiky i am gay. Just not sure how they would react. I have 3 children….two males n one female…..also have 3 grandsons. I think thre grandsons would be ok with my gayness….not sure. My oldest son wouldny understan it at all……..he is just so homophobic n he has tried to brain wash his boys to think like he does. Dont see my daughter much with her working so much. NOW to understsn my youngest son. I think he is gay or bi…….have seen some of the sites he gets on the computer…….mostly he watches gay porn. Also saw him borrow one of my gay pornos so he knows i at least watch gay porn n maybe feels i am gay. I would like to talk with him n try to mame him feel more comfortable about himself. Even though its considedec wrong ………i would like to see him naked n gaze at his cock………
Janus, I wrote a similar sugestion and it wasn’t published, lucky you got the word out, apparently gays who are small and/or have erection problems are not wanted on this site
I read this blog almost all the time. I guess what I’d like to hear in conversation is “Why is it so hard for some gay men to honestly communicate with other gay men” or why some gay men just never feel it’s important to understand them selves. I grew up when it was impossible to come out for fear of life, home and family.As far as we have come over the last let’s say fifty years, there are so many still trapped in their own personal closets. And that my friends is very sad.
With the elections coming up, please post a profile of each candidate and their views on gay people. Some of the Republicans have already said stuff that is so bat-shit crazy that every gay person needs to know how they are thinking.
Maybe an interview with the cool porn couple Jessie Jackman/Dirk Caber.
How about something on being gay and Christian in America today?
It may be interesting to discuss how the ethnic and cultural background affects the way being gay is lived out in daily life.
Guys who wear panties and guys and guys who like it.
We know being gay is not a choice. But I’d be interested to hear how many gays would rather be straight if given a choice.
Whoops, didn’t mean to post twice. Didn’t see the first one, thought it didn’t go through.
how about a section on bi married men and how they juggle m2m and their marriage
i know it is contraversial but there are a lot of us here
would be great to hear form like men
I must say I like the 10 suggestions so far.
I would like to know other members experiences (discovery, Coming out, first time, possibility of love or ltr, etc.) and also their take on culture and some of the issues presented here. So much of general society is negative, would really appreciate people from diverse backgrounds and different countries sharing what it means to be bi/gay where they are.
I have dated women all my life, and I stumbled upon this site accidentally; been here two years and discovered: lies, drug drama, disrespect, and self-hatred. I also met two great supportive MEN. I read this blog occasionally with the hope it will help us all be more supportive of one another when we share so many similarities here. Is it too much to hope for some brotherhood and respect?
Natural pubes vs shaved or clipped, men who have natural smells vs squeaky clean, features on older men who are not muscle gods,bad gay business owners, pierced men, long foreskins, small cocks, big balls, the list could go on and on.
What about doing a blog on guy who have become disenchanted with being gay because of the lack of love and romance that has been on a steady incline. We know that we can’t change our feeling but it would be encouraging if we could get some expert advice on the blog about changing our perception and how to deal with this dilemma in a healthy way.
I also would not mind reading a blog in the growing number of heterosexual men who have sex with gay men because either women won’t have them or they just want them, how is it effecting gays and how it impacts gay life.
Sex is great, but delving into the sociopolitical realm is good too, since none of lives in a vacuum, topics such trans-sexism, racism in porn advertisement, intra-homophobia in the gay community, how to navigate sex with gays with disabilities, body dysmorphia, PnP cultural prevalence, gaymers (as in video game community),fetishism V.reality in human sexuality just name a few.
Can you post an open discussion as to why Caucasian men are more susceptible to being relationship oriented than African American men.. Could it be the race? Could it be the location? I know both raves have their hookup& fling moments but when I begin to connect with someone and we date often I find myself getting in interracial relationships a lot more than the same race.. I think Africa American men are afraid of commitment or are still worried about what others think. Most single guys my age are still into sex, you have to have a 26inch waist and look like a model with a 6 pack and worship Beyonce. No one has realistic qualities anymore& they either smoke weed, don’t have a car or are sleeping on their “sisters” couch. What’s the problem?!
A few ideas:
Social:I live in a lrg metro area in the south w/ large gay population. Im bi, married and act appear totally straight. Gay men are often snobbish and rude, Im not hitting on guys in public but find some go out of their way to dismiss me. Assuming because they think Im straight. Just wondering if other guys see this pattern. Ive slept w/ many guys in my same situation so I know you have members that will understand.I would want gay men to know not all straight people are looking to judge or condemn you. Its ok to talk to a straight guy about the weather.
Health: good no details left unwritten info about how to bottom, I see some porn stars where they just take a dick like nothing and some it hurts. It always hurts for me and wonder what I could change
Health: i love to swallow cum but always experience diarrhea afterwards, is this normal? common? Doubt ill get much info from my Dr on this topic
Being a gay male in his forties,I’m hoping there other gay men my age that might agree that coming of age in the eighties presented a few issues,the big one being the AIDS crisis,just when gay acceptance seemed to be gaining steam this horrible illness threw us back into the dark ages! So at least to me its small wonder that our view as gay men tends to center around ourselves,i.e. I want my rights,don’t judge”me”!you can’t stop me from doing what I want.etc.. now please don’t get me wrong this is not meant to imply all gay men are this way because we know full well they are not,but it does bring me to my ending thought,how about a discussion on as individuals what do you,or we,do for others,what altruistic thing do we as gay men do for others,it could be a family member or a total stranger,and Im not talking about the “gay” agenda,were not all like Sir EltonJohn and have millions to donate to a very public causes,but to me thats not what makes the world go around,its the little,unseen acts of kindness so..there you go,thx guys!
I would like to know how guys feel about boots and colored socks??? …… I would like 2 know what type of clothing turns guys on?? (that type of clothing and were are you wearing them)
How about the danger of legal issues when an idiot lies about his age in your website and fake identity? ??
You may blogged hairstyles but none the less different styles add to hotness. It would be nice to have a search category for hairstyles or look, long, short, shaggy, fade, braids and on and on.
thanks
Hot stories! Chat room would be nice too.
For years I have enjoyed the benefit of meeting some great guys on this site. Here in Maryland, you have the geography covered pretty well with smaller towns and regions, but when I go to Maine, the rural area has no nearby town mentioned. I know there are plenty of guys looking there, because the rest areas and ABSs are always loaded with willing mouths. How about adding Oxford Hills to the Towns included. I know there are lots of ADAMS there !
Anytime I post on the blog, it says “your comment is being moderated” then whatever I type doesn’t actually appear. What causes this?
I’m in my forties and have only been out a few years, I was married to a woman for 17 years and have 2 children. Why is dating or finding true friends in the gay world so difficult? I’m tired of guys that are only into hooking up. Or a fwb situation that just ends up only being about the sex and nothing else. When did gay men become so rude, impolite and shallow?
I think you do a great job – I read all of them. My favorite recently was not wanting to be gay. The ones that make me think are the best. Maybe it will help the younger guys enjoy life more before it’s too late…
Suggestion 1: Once every 2 weeks you should post an interview with a gay porn star. Their movies are all over A4A, so we should definitely hear something from them other than what we already see in the videos.
Suggestion 2: At the start of every month tell the men of A4A about a featured city and/or invite them to travel as a group to vacation together to get to know each other in person. Travel in group of 10 – 20 individuals.
Suggestion 3: Become to place to launch silent protest e.g. those whose are close enough and can make it on a Sunday go to Westboro Baptist Church and peacefully participate in their church service. Lets shake it up without shouting at those who think we are not Christian enough by worshipping with them.
I prefer a man to have a small to medium sized penis but am not opposed to any size. Uncut does excite me though. It seems the majority of men here are quite content with a good man with a small penis as well. One thing is for sure though I am yet to see a man with a small penis in the live videos on this site and don’t ever expect to. It aint the cock but the man behind it that counts!
Scenario: Tuesday, met a guy only that I’m feeling. .. conversation and chemistry is great… then I meet another guy o
thefollowing week who has the same qualities. I see with him. Should I feel guilty?
I have a couple dating stories i think are funny. Should i send them to you?
How about explaining basic manners – so many Gay men are clueless when it comes to basic social skills
@ Mac (4/7/15 – 19:39) “How to politely say “I’m not interested in POZ guys?” Answer: “Respectfully, my interests do lie elsewhere. Good luck in your A4A online search.” It’s polite, to the point and non-threatening.
@ Smoothbottom4BBC (4/7/15 – 20:36) / Young&Lonely (4/8/15 – 8:46) “Why are so many white bottoms so into black guys? I know there’s a bunch of us.” Answer (1): Taboo. That which you were conditioned/taught to be off limits growing up, now fuels your passions, desires and interests to find out the “truths/myths/facts”. There is NO secret, only preferential choice. @ Young&Lonely: just a recommendation regarding what you think some of those black guys want, do, and are afraid of: find others. A good number of blacks DON’T smoke weed, have outstanding careers and are self reliant. However, there is much truth to the stigma in the Black community with respect to homosexuality … that it is much less acceptable in the Black community than others; hence the reluctance to establish meaningful relationships We are very much aware of that reality.
Blog recommendation/suggestion: Are older white men the only one’s that the term “Daddy” applies to? Too often when ready profiles or posts in search of a “Daddy”, that ultimately, the preference is an older white male. Do ethnic males “qualify” for the “Daddy” category?
addendum to my previous post on 4/14… damn typos … anyhoo, with respect to my comments, I would like to add, for any of those who wish to exchange meaningful and thought provoking dialogue … my A4A subscriber ID is who_r_u in Austin, TX. Not looking for an argument, just willing to share different points of view that solicit logical and insightful thoughts and opinions. :)) Cheers!!1
Blog about why gay men have no clue in having true friendships. Its all about sex. Cant you just simply just enjoy each other’s company without always ending in bed. Why is it when a guys comes to visit me he is offended when we don’t go straight to the bedroom. Then I never see the sob again. Im 58 and this has always been true. Gay men can never be real honest to goodness friends with each other. They just don’t know how.
How about a survey and request for suggestions about what good main profile pictures are all about? Is a “Holland Tunnel” ass hole good? A cock shot (hard or soft)? A guy outside with his pants around his knees or ankles? A guy sitting on a toilet? A shot showing the guy in a bathroom? A guy making a very odd face into the camera?
There are many different kinds of guys seeking many different kinds of sexual satisfaction. What do members in general value in main profile photos? What makes them say “Yeh! I want to know more!” Sure “anything goes” when it comes to hidden photos a member has ready to reveal, but wait about main profile photos?
I got a story for you that happened about 3 years ago.
I was broken down on the side of the road in between my hometown and the next town which is 10 miles away. After 5 or 6 cars pass me by, the perfect guy in my opinion pulls over to help me. I had ran out of gas so he offered to drive me to the gas station in my hometown. I grab a gas can in the back end of my car and locked it up. We started talking and we both found out we were both from the same hometown, not only that but my grandmother and his mother were good friends until my grandmother passed away. I introduced myself and he said his name was André. I had no idea at the time but that I was talking to the perfect guy for me. After I. Had gotten gas, we drove back to my car and he did something I didn’t expect, he touched my leg and moved his way upward toward my cock. Now I admit, my gaydar is screwed up, it tells me gay guys are straight and straight guys are gay. I asked him what in the world he was doing since I assumed that he was straight. He told me that he was at one time attracted to women but recently realized that he was in fact gay like me. We got to my car and I filled it up. I turned around and thanked him for the ride to the gas station and back to my car. While no traffic was passing by, he leaned in close to me. I could feel his hot breath on my head and suddenly, he kissed me. My heart stopped pounding as if I had no heartbeat and I began to wrap my arms around him. We exchanged phone numbers and didn’t talk for a few days until I bump into him at the WalMart in town with his mother. Right there in front of his mother and my aunt and dad, he asked me out on a date. Inside, I was jumping for joy and on the outside, I was stuttering to say yes but all I could say was ye-ye-ye-ye. After I got home, I texted him yes to going out on a date with him. The following Friday, I went over to his house and found myself greeted by André and a candlelight dinner with my favorite dish that he somehow found out. After finishing dinner, I begin to get up and grabs my hand and takes me to his bedroom. When he turned on the lights, I found pictures of his mother and my grandmother playing dominoes along with pictures of us when we were little. I turned to him and found that he had gotten undressed and his body glistened with body lotion. He then asked me to spend the night, and I quickly found myself stuttering to say yes. As he wraps his arms around my 5’8″ body, I was still stuttering. Suddenly, he kisses me and I find myself undressing and climbing into his bed. He layed down right on top of me. My 5’8″ body was nothing compared to his 5’11” body. His cock began to get hard as did mine. We both had 9.5″ cocks but mine was thicker. He grabs my cock and strokes it slowly as it start oozing precum that he rubs all over my cock and uses more of it to lube his ass. As my eyes look into his, without noticing, he slides my cock into his ass and begins to kiss me. I begin to thrust my cock upward and downward. After about 3 minutes of thrusting, I had the feeling I was about to cum. As I try to pull out, my cock begins to spray my cum all over his and be fore I know it, he begins to ride my cock while I’m still shooting my cum. As my cum begins to go deep inside of André, he begins jacking off and remains seated on my cock so my cum has no where to go but in him. After about 5 minutes, he begins to shoot his load all over my 150 pound body. He falls forward on top of me and kisses me deeply as my cock pulls out of his ass because it had gotten soft in his ass. As I wrap my arms around him, I finally stop stuttering and whisper in his ear that I’d love to spend the night with him. I begin to look into his eyes and find myself finally at peace on the inside about being gay. As he gets off of me and lays beside me I turn over and find his arm around me and his soft cock touching my asshole. The search for the perfect guy for me had come to an end and the beginning of a long term relationship had begun. Thank God, I ran out of gas and he had drove into my life but all of may have been wrong for having bareback sex but we both have been tested and find ourselves still negative after all of the sex we’ve had together. I have had thoughts of asking him to become more than my boyfriend even though it seems that everything points to his answer being yes.
Hey Dave,
What’s up with odell beckham? You see the latest video with him in the hot tub with another dude singing the song sexual healing? I think he is really hot and I def would do him. Interested to see how many dudes would do him. I always adored masculine straight looking muscular athletes. Especially guys that goes both ways.