A4A : Your Profile & Sexual Interests
Males who establish profiles on Adam4Adam have desires for sexual contact with other males! Therefore, assume physical contact is important in the quest to establish relationships between males on this site. Whether males are str8, bisexual or gay is not subject to debate in profiles. The basic intent is for sexual contact between two or more males who are attracted to each other—emphasis on “attracted!”
Your sexual desires, interests, and practices should be stated in your profile, and elaborated on in later communications with your potential playmate. Some males want very passionate encounters while others are more reserved and even avoid kissing—although the lips have erotic appeal to many. Whether to take cum into your mouth may be a turnoff to YOU, other males may find it very appealing. Although safe sex practices are advocated, it may not occur between monogamous partners.
Your profile should be a description of YOU within the constraints of space allowed—and your primary pic should be rated “G.” You will have fewer false starts in your relationships if you are in sync with your potential playmate. Try to include your leisure time interests and some hint of your work—especially if you travel extensively and have erratic hours. If you are interested only in sports and your potential playmate only wants to visit art galleries, you will need to find common interests for the relationship to be more than a “hookup.”
While “hookups” may provide immediate sexual gratification, many males want something that is more enduring! They are interested in the prospects of being “friends with benefits,” or achieve a “Long-Term Relationship.” If you are on this site seeking only platonic friendship, you are probably not going to achieve success. However, if you are physically intimate with another male on this site—long term, sustained friendships may develop!
David M in Texas
Good article David
I’ve placed a profile here on A4A with the limitations of the amount of space given. It’s is somewhat difficult to put down a few words, enough of what one is seeking to share and enjoy with another gentleman (be him younger or older).
I only hope we all on A4A may find that gentleman we are seeking.
I disagree with the statement about friends with benefits. I’ve never met anyone where this situation worked. OK, maybe if one of the guys was partnered and the other married and cheating, but if 2 single guys are attracted to each other, it doesn’t work as just a FWB. One of them usually gets bored or one falls in love and it forces the other one to end it. We just had this discussion the other night with a bunch of guys at a bar. It was unanimous that it doesn’t work and they never have known anyone where it lasted for more than a month or two. Sex yes, but you don’t see them hanging out together or doing anything in public. It’s all sex, not really friends. I’ve had suck buds and that’s all they were.
It also says that most guys want more than just a hookup. I disagree regarding this site anyway. And have you noticed that about 95% can never host but have a million restrictions upon whom they will even consider? They want it all but seldom get anything.
Me? I’m easy and I can host so I don’t have any problem with guys over 40. Under that and they seldom come through. You have to be flexible to get what you want on here sexually. Anything more is unlikely.
And guys, don’t forget that if someone messages you or you message them, be kind in your response. You have to remember that interest was shown and although they may not be your type or you theirs, a simple “Thanks but I don’t think we would be a match” is sufficient. It’s basic manners.
I think this article is spot on. I know when someone initiates a conversation with me they know exactly what my goals are as far as sex with them. If they stray from what I desire or i don’t feel an attraction to them I immediately cut the conversation. I am aggravated by guys that don’t take time to read my profile.
My all time favorite is the guy who states he is in a committed relationship with a wonderful man and only looking for friendship. Yet here he is on A4Aevery single day… And his pics are of his hard cock and spread open ass. I don’t know about you other guys out there, but my friends have never seen my cock or ass!
I meet plenty of my friends from this website and a lot of them I’m still friends with (not with benefits). We have things in common and actually enjoy doing activities that doesn’t include the typical gay stuff such as doing drugs, clubs, bath houses, and spending 24-7-365 on here looking for whatever. We actually just enjoying having a good time when we hang out. I also meet several of my boyfriends on here (some good, some bad) as well. The website is what you make it. If you using purely for bootycalls, than that’s what it is for you aka another Craigslist, grinder, or jacks. Now if you use it for something more you meet some amazing people. Now I will say this, there are those certain individuals that no matter how many times I or someone say no, they continue to bug us, all because they want sex. That’s the downside to this website, the lack of respect and understanding when people think that they can change someone’s mind by constantly HARASSING & ANNOYING someone by contacting the individual. Fellas take it with a grain of salt, if someone is not feeling you, move on and leave them alone. Rejection is part of life and though no one likes it, we deal with it, get over it, and move on. Its that simple.
you are kidding sex site like this one are fuck em and forget em nothing more nothing less
when it comes to writing profiles, clear is better than clever.
say who you are and what you’re looking for without qualification or apology.
do not be surprised when people you’ve never met take a generic statement you make about yourself and make it all about them in specific.
ex: my profiles on various sites tend to state that I do not have sex with married, partnered, closeted, downlow or bisexual men. yet at least once every few days I get unsolicited male that begins ‘how dare you judge me….?’
I tend not to respond to those.
knowing when not to respond is important.
it’s also important to say ‘thank you but no’ when applicable.
blocking someone should be a last resort, not a first choice, but when I read profiles that say ‘thanks in advance for the smiles/woofs/oinks/cruises but if I don’t think you’re worthy of me I won’t respond,’ I tend to block them and delete the trace so I won’t accidentally waste another second wandering around in their ego.
that said, I’m not in favor of the delete trace option. if someone is checking out my profile multiple times and not contacting me, I want to know.
David M, I was with you up until the last paragraph, and then you went from intelligent to stupid. So you’re asserting that the only way to be successful is hooking up with people? Spreading your legs (or getting on your knees) is the only way to make friends? FUCK YOU.
I’m not on here for platonic friendships, but I have several friends with whom I have — imagine! — a friendship that developed from similar interests. I’ve never wanted to have sex with them and I’m pretty sure they feel the same. It’s the interests that are paramount, not me getting into their pants.
Congratulations for reciting the same tripe that anti-gay folks love to wheel out — that we’re really only out for sex.
I like how you post this. I’m a total top who prefers foreplay with someone who has a fem side. I can do an in btween if they are fem leaning. I’m not into the random sex thing I like the fire and passion that comes with hugging, cuddling and kissing. I prefer someone whose smooth with soft features and soft voice too. I’m discreet and prefer someone who can keep their business private. I want someone who won’t trip out if I use fem terms with them and yes I do respect you even if you’re fem. It’s a waste of time dating some who you don’t respect or have feeling s for.
Your profile on any site ‘should’ be whatever you want it to be. Don’t tell me what should (or should not) be in my description of ME.
`be nice if we didn’t have that 492-character limit. . . . .
(it says “500,” but we know that’s not quite accurate)
damn Wayne I just read your post on Mar 23rd…..damn i wish you were close to me….i loved everything you said and is what I seek.
Interesting site and comments. Bi total sub bottom.