Speak Out : Why Do Gays Take Drugs For Sex?

I know its harder then hell to find someone clean. I’ve been clean this November will be 9 years I had to drop all my old friends in order to do so. Since then I have had only 1 relationship and still pot was involved. I have left and now again and still can’t find someone not into anything like that. I mean I do drink only maybe once or twice a month alcohol was never a problem though, so I could handle someone that drinks all the time no problem. What bugs the hell out of me is when hooking up they break out the poppers or bubble or whatnot, I was all ready to go but then I’m all sorry got to go. They are come on just once will be ok. Sorry fuck that I dont want to risk it not even to get laid.

Drugs, never. Some alcohol, yes during a night of partying, but not get soused up for sex. I don’t want the sensations of intimacy be dulled. I want to enjoy every hot minute. And if I am getting plowed, I want to enjoy every thrust, every neck nibble, every word he says in my ear. Maybe I just learned to be high on life without any extra chemicals to help. But, this is just me and I will not judge anyone else. We already have too many people doing that.

I personally don’t use drugs either, but know people that do, I don’t think its so much a sexual thing as it is that they can’t deal with their lives being gay or straight

Thats a question I ask myself all the times. I can’t hardly meet a guy who doesn’t do some kind of drug to include poppers or are always drunk. I’m all for a few drinks and having fun but not getting drunk. I never did drugs and I won’t do them either and that includes cigerettes (eeewww, who likes to kiss an ashtray?). It seems from my experience that most gays who are into drugs can’t get their d!ck up or able to take d!ck without taking some kind of drugs. Maybe if yall stop doing the drug use you be able to have some hot sweaty passionate sex. I also noticed that the ones who do drugs tend to be (whats the word i’m looking for) more of “hoe” or “slut”.. Its not cute when i log on here and get msgs from guys telling me that they just had sex and some guy bust is nut in him and they want someone else to do the same thing.. Are you serious? Better yet is when tops say when i use so I can get hard more than one time and can have sex more than one time without cumming.. Either way I don’t date or hook up with druggies, smokers, or alcoholics.. Hell I don’t like meeting men who call themselves some kind of furry animal, gay label, or something that is offensive, not to mention trannies or drag queens.. To me you are the lowest of the low if you do drugs..

Poppers make being a bottom much simpler. Opens you right up! Won’t mess with meth. Hate anything that prevents sleep.

I’m not personally into the strong stuff (i.e. coke, Tina, X), but I do enjoy sex while under the influence of marijuana. Yes, it is great to be “high” off life, but it’s something else when you feel lifted! I’m not promoting drug use of any kind, but it’s my experience, with my drug of choice, that I am more in tune with the person. The connection seems to intensify! Sometimes you feel you can do more or take more, sometimes you want passion, and sometimes you want a bukkake! Depends on the drug(s)!

But let’s be for real! The drugs help people to relax and be themselves. All too often, we’re suppressed by our everyday lives and we need a release if only for that moment. We, more often, you want to share that experience with someone who is willing to take us at our most carnal self, our naked form, without the ample judgments and criteria set forth amongst the ample ads on A4A.

So now you’re thinking drugs alter your judgment and, sometimes, it does. That depends on the drug as some have a stronger affect than others. I personally don’t like feeling like a zombie, but some bottoms like drugs to take dick. Some tops like it for the adrenaline rush and aphrodisiac effect.

So there are many reasons why gay men like drugs. Now is it for everybody? No. And there are many others who believe the same. Finding them is the hard part, but they are definitely out there. I know because I keep running into them and don’t want to!

While I personally have not run into this issue… maybe this user is living in a heavily drugged area? That being said, I think the reason its become acceptable to combine drugs and sex is because our “traditional” sex act comes with an certain amount of pain, at least initially, and poppers and certain recreational drugs can help to alleviate that and let you just enjoy yourself.

cause it is so much fun! I have met so many kool peeps and connections from partying,,, and the physicalness is amazing. u can take it much harder and deeper then if u weren’t partying lol and it won’t bother u ether cause it feels so good and sexy!

Great question I am Bi use poppers when there is a big dick involved but that is it for me. I will have a beer once in a while.

There is a good deal of self loathing in the gay community still to this day. This self loathing is taught to us by the straight community through day to day discrimination, and violence. Many use drugs to escape their reality, thus the popularity to this day of the bars. Interesting that the institution that preys on our vulnerabilities is looked upon as a sanctuary of sorts. Drugs also give gays the out that starts out as ” I was so stoned last night etc, etc” This is a cop out for bad behavior . We perpetuate the sterotypes that cause us our grief to escape our sterotypes………hmmmmm!

The reason being is because they do not possess the neurons to distinguish good from bad right from wrong and left from right. One would assume that one generation would learn from the either, however the verisimilitude states otherwise. I’m part of Generation Y and sadly we have learned nothing. Thank God I’m An Intellect!!!

It’s not ‘gays’ it’s people… maybe you should start looking for better people? Because I never meet ‘gays’ wanting to drugs and then fuck, maybe you naturally go for druggies…

I like to use poppers since my ass is really tight and helps me relax but I don’t use anything else from 420 on up. Besides my company likes to random drug test and I’ve never had the desire to try anything more than poppers. I’ve hung out with guys who have large cocks, their hard as a rock and then shoot up and it goes down like falling hail stone. Needless to say I’ve had very disappointing sex with guys who “party”, them using a full bottle of lube to j/o and try to get it hard. I generally have no desire to hang out with or have sex with those who do because they cant get hard or stay hard.

Because there are a lot of loosers out there…

Good question.
I smoke weed sometimes with sex, I’ll admit.
I’ve accidentally and intentionally tried most chemicals (once or twice) and just can’t validate the trade off. It’s sort of an ‘anxiety-driven experience’.
Drugs have NEVER enhanced my sex encounters; actually ruined them.
So I’m biased.
Some guys, mostly bottoms have told me that it makes them ‘take it’ easier.
But why desensitize your sensations? Others have told me it makes them less inhibited due to their low self-esteem and insecurity. That’s a pretty bad way to deal with your ‘stuff’. Ever fucked a ‘high’ bottom? Pretty lousy interaction, isn’t it?
Even tops that do chems usually end up having to add Viagra to the mix to get things going again. But they’re still a lousy fuck. A drug to fix what another drug does? Really?
Virtually all my encounters with tops or bottoms on ‘drugs’ have been lousy.
But it’s not even worth arguing about this with pro-drug users for sex.
Finally I believe that anyone who thinks that ‘tricking’ your body into wanting super long sex sessions, and augmenting that with drugs, is doing themselves lots of damage. Repeated users are obvious examples. I’ve seen guys go from ‘hot’ to ‘not’ in a few short years. 23 year-old that can’t even get it up.
That’s my experience with drugs.

Perhaps some are uncomfortable being themselves and have to push drugs or drink in order to let go enough to act. A social lubricant, so to speak. Well have never been a fan of either and I like my sex alert and aware. Increases personal safety and prevents bad judgement calls. I actually like what I do with men, so don’t need a chemical to falsely make it better. If you need that, then maybe what you are doing is not your best choice for yourself?

I don’t understand that eithere.i never ever have taken any kind off drugs…seems to me many in the gay community are unhappy with with them self..is a escape . Find your self first is my moto.drugs and bb …..

Do gays, all of them, take drugs during sex? No. Some do. Straights take drugs as well. During sex or not.

Is the belief in this post borne from those gays who live in the stereotypical world of young, smooth, urban, trendy, club-attending, anonymous sex gays? Maybe drugs are a given in Stereotypical Land, but not for all gays everywhere. Yes, some outside of Stereotypical Land do it as well, but it’s not as prevalent.

Why does anyone take drugs? Several fast possible answers are simple:
Gotta get that high feeling!
Gotta escape reality.
Gotta feel good.
Gotta look cool.

Do any of those reasons hold up? No.

Only one of my regular play buds does drugs during sex. Only been with him a couple of times and was looking to be with him more. He’s fun to play with in a number of ways. But because he yanks out the poppers (a real brain cell killer) when we play, his hotness is fading fast for me.

Most guys that take drugs for sex, from my experience, fall into two categories. The first can’t lose their inhibitions without being high, and the other actually thins drugs enhance sex. I think that both groups are pathetic losers, and usually the “do you party” question results in an instant block.

I don’t like taking poisons in my body. Im not crazy about alcohol but more into wine nowadays as I pass 40 mark. Tried smoking around 8 years old and didn’t like it. My sex partner told me to try marijuana to get sexual high but it didn’t do anything for me. I guess I have high threshold for pain so always interested in sexual adventures and competitive in sporting events without ever resorting to pain killers or illegal drugs. I like mature guys but most of them tend to have some crazy drug history or substance abuse which are hard to make it into a successful relationship. Hopelessly looking for a healthy and great lover instead for now.

Have you seen what some of these guys have between their thighs? These bottoms have to be high on something to want to get fucked by those…….Just sayin’.

I Cant speak for any drug except for poppers. to suck a long cock all the way to the balls, poppers let me so that. to comfortably get fucked, by almost any size, poppers help as well 😉

Marijuana is a replacement for alcohol for me; I’m shy, been hurt more times than light bulbs have been changed on Broadway, and it creates a buffer betwixt what I would normally say and what actually comes out. Until I was 18, I was anti-drug, but my first lover (12 years my senior) introduced me to weed and I thank him for it. Alcohol leaves me incoherent and physically ill (either then or the next morning) which is not how I want to present myself on a first meeting. It simply depends on the kind of person you are, yoga or remote control, really….

I think a majority of guys take drugs is to release the anxiety before engaging in sexual encounters. Some may say that being high makes sex all that much better. Others may say that it make them perform better. What ever the reason.

I personally do not like it. I had sex with someone that did cocaine before having sex and the bastard couldn’t keep it up. Damn him! 🙂

I worked at a bar next door to a sex shop which were NOT in a gay neighborhood. It’s not only gay men that use poppers and I’m sure that’s the same for many other drugs. It’s brought up in the movie Fight Club when the woman dying of cancer begs for sex. I know girls that say weed makes them horny; same with alcohol – a legal drug that can also lead to dependency.

Living in a major city, I must say that I have never known someone to be on meth, gay or straight. I’ve had my suspicions, but then that was never because of one’s sexuality (or my guess to their sexuality), but because they were missing teeth and had scabs on their face– and that could be men or women, gay or straight.

To answer the broader question, I think people sometimes prefer to be under another influence because then they can be more open with their sexuality without feeling “shame”, allowing them to be less inhibited.

I do use poppers more often than not– and I feel like it enhances my experience.

The reason…..mcst of the sex being had is meaningless. Nothing wrong with one night stands or flings but I believe drugs are a way to escape the fact that basically you are only pleasing yourself. A hook-up is a selfish act about having personal needs met. You want the other person or persons to enjoy it but honsetly you are there to get yourself off. Drugs heighten the sensation of just that. They allow you to forget that you are just as much a piece of ass just like the person you are fucking with. Its also an excuse to fuck. I have no problem with guys on chems. I don’t use them but a good power bottom on chems allows me to get as rough, verbal and kinky as I like.

I feel like some gay/bi men may take drugs to intensify the experience. I myself have smoked herb to get a nice psychedelic experience while having sex. I’ve never tried the hard drugs but to each his own. I’ve heard the hard drugs are a hell of a ride also. Long story short throughout history people have used drugs to induce a good time, whether it be sexually, mentally, or spiritually. And us gay/bi men who do dabble in the “cookie jar” per say are no different than straight men doing the exact same thing. And I completely understand where you are coming from also because you do not need drugs of any kind to have an excellent sexual experience, but some men just want to have fun to knock the edge off.

Hmmm. Wherever you are finding these “junkies” you need to stop looking there. Their plenty of men out there that don’t use. But “ordinary” ? Don’t think I can handle that 😉

Well, I think this is a great question that does not have a blanket answer. I believe it all comes down to the person using the drug. As a former toker of the green herb (420 as a lot like to call it), I would smoke before having sex simply because of the stereotype behind it. I believed the person who I would be having sex with would think I was more desirable and more “relaxed” (for the lack of a better term) which would in turn make the sex more physically pleasurable. The opposite held true (or so I believed it to be true) that if I did not use before sex, that the said person would think I was less desirable and the sex would be less than pleasurable. My drug (let’s be real guys; marijuana IS technically a drug…) use was mostly stigma driven. I mostly “top”, so if I met up with my type of males to have sex with, I believed they would think I was more masculine and, of course, more sexually desirable if I carried myself like the senior class of my generation…*rolls eyes* I believed that if I smoked blunts like Wiz Khalifa or even had tattoos like Tyga, I’d be more attractive… When I bottomed (which was only for my boyfriend; not that that truly matters, but I had to say it…LOL), I believed [he] would only think I was relaxed enough to take his (rather large) dick if I smoked a L (blunt) before we had sex. Of course this wasn’t true, but I’d began to believe that because of the new sensations we’d discovered the first time we’d had sex after I smoked marijuana. It became something of an unsaid, unmentioned, but ever-present conclusion. Which in turn leads me to my opinion on the drug now, which is not a positive nor negative one but simply a more HEALTHY one. First of all, drugs are not good for you. Since I’ve stopped using/smoking marijuana, I have become healthier in every way and I have an amazing sex life now. If you do choose to combine sex and drugs, please, please, please remember: a drug should never be used to MAKE the experience; It should only be used to ENHANCE the experience. If a drug is needed for you to have sex then the essence of what makes sex what it is (unifying two bodies masterfully to induce pleasure 😉 ) is already lost. Over time, using a drug with sex will almost always become a threesome (or even foursome if your partner uses as well) every time you have sex, which is not always so great… Also, sex will become strictly physical with little to no mental and/or spiritual stimulation! At times I felt like I was cheating myself out of what would be amazing sex without the drug…and that sucked after a while! My advice to anyone who feels they have to combine sex with drugs for it to be pleasurable would be to evaluate why you are using the drug in the first place. Be honest with yourself if not anyone else.. In time, you will learn that sex can be and is more pleasurable not just physically, but mentally and spiritually without using drugs beforehand. In my case, I simply was not confident, sexually, yet (I am 23 now). So the lack of self-confidence, sexually, could be considered my catalyst into feeling the need to use a drug to be sexually competent. Since I’ve developed a healthy self-esteem, I no longer want or need to use a drug to feel competent, in any way.

Maybe because so many gay men are STILL so overwrought with with shame and confusion that they seem to have convinced themselves that they need to be numb to carry out the sex act as a cover for their actions?

Why do straight people do it

I don’t think gay men use drugs in order to have sex. Personally, I use them because it enhances the sexual pleasure. That is the sole reason that I use. If the guy I am with wants to use or doesn’t that is cool with me. I don’t have to be high to enjoy sex. I just don’t see anything wrong using something that is going to make thexsex even more incredible.

I’ll come right out and say that yes I have and sometimes do dabble in certain party favors which will remain nameless. I have found that the biggest reason I had been attracted to drug use along with sex would be the feeling of acceptance and involvement. In my personal opinion, I feel the gay male crowd can be ruthless, vindictive, childish, and just flat out mean to one another. Or in a nutshell, too much drama you’d swear was brought on by high school girls. This is the very reason why I do no hang out in the gay scene because it is less to have to emotionally deal with… It’s nice when you’re under the influence and a beautiful guy you’ve been “parTying” with finds you attractive and wants to have some fun. More so when you don’t normally feel like an attractive person (even though your friends, family, and sometimes even perfect strangers comment about how cute you look). I just don’t see it no matter how much I doll myself up for the public. When you’re under the influence, it’s an ego boost when you’re wanted in such a way by someone so beautiful. Of course deep in the back of my mind there’s a little voice saying “It’s just a mask… It’s all a drug induced illusion… That person doesn’t really want you in such a way… They’re just horny at the moment cause they’re messed up and you’re the closest thing to them they can have sex with.” Honestly, these feelings are terrible and a lot of it (at least to me personally) was brought on by nasty ex-boyfriends or so-called friends in the past that played the fake game. I’m currently single and I feel like any guy I go on a date with, never calls me again after the first date or even shows any further interest in getting to know me. My substance use was more or less brought on by self-esteem issues, the feeling of mental security or lack thereof, and being abused in the past by men. I won’t lie, the feeling of being on the substances is amazing! You feel like you can conquer the world, you’re ridiculously happy and nothing can get you down, and all you want is sex right then and there. But even that has its up’s and it’s downs…

I have honestly never had any issues with drugs. The guys I have been with have been far away, the closest they have ever done is a popper or Viagra, but none of the really hard stuff like cocaine or anything like that. Also, it is not just the gay community that uses drugs when having sex, you would be surprised as to how many straight couples use cocaine, ecstasy, pot, you name it, when they are having sex. I don’t do drugs for sex, but it is also not a gay exclusive act either. Heaps of straight couples do it too.

Because straight people do as well and why should we not be able to do something they do.

Here is my opinion: I love using poppers when I have sex but I do not consider them a drug since there is no long lasting impairment after and they are not illegal nor do they show up in any drug screen.

HOWEVER: The few unfortunate times I have played with guys who use “Tina” (Meth)the hookup 100% is about the drug and 0% about sex. So for them, the “getting high” trumps the “getting off” and that’s a turn off for me.

When a dude tells me he ParTies and Plays – it’s like “no with me you don’t – later gator” and he is summarily kicked to the curb.

Compartmentalization and self deprecation. Very often guys use drugs to numb themselves from behavior and/or identity they are ashamed of and want to be separated from.

I think the bar scene is popular for this type of activity but not exclusive to gay people. It goes main stream, I think people are so inhibited they feel they have to go to altered states to release their sexuality and sometimes not take the responsibility of their actions and besides it fun to open an altered state of sexuality for pushing the limits in sex and exploring possibilities.

I have a little experience with this…

First of all: drugs like crystal meth are HIGHLY addictive.
So regardless of why a person tried the drug, it can be very difficult to stop.

The difficulty is just compounded when a person associates the high with having sex.

So now I’ll try to answer the question more directly:

Different people have different reasons for “taking drugs to have sex”.
Here are some obvious reasons that I’ve observed:

-the drugs help them to be less nervous.
Without the drugs they would be too anxious to enjoy the experience.

-crystal meth is a well known aphrodisiac, it’s cheap (relatively), and long lasting.

-as well as being an aphrodisiac, meth lowers your inhibitions. So someone on meth is way more likely to do things they wouldn’t do otherwise.

I think a lot of drugs are used for similar purposes (poppers, alcohol, etc.).

A lot of users would probably try to deny any deeper reason for their drug use by saying “it just feels good”.

It is easier for a lot of people to do stupid things by just not devoting any serious thought to their actions.

It’s uncool, unhealthy, unattractive, and is kind of a serious problem in the gay community.

Hope my answer shed a little light on what is a pretty dark and gloomy issue.

in my experience it’s because some dudes cant take dick so they use poppers. personally it’s not my thing but hey if a few sniffs means you’ll be able to take 3 straight hours of me fucking your ass hole , then who am i to judge?

Root causes: narcissistic personality disorder (all about me), borderline personality disorder (the “snap” psycho effect), fatalism (nothing matters), and nihilism (life is meaningless).

Because of societal pressures, political pressures (to be a rainbow shitting unicorn), and the moronic “I don’t give a fuck” attitude of the gay swirl, a lot of psychological dysfunction is present in gay men.

Therapy scmherapy! Self-medicate instead!

Addiction and access is indicative of low self-esteem, brokenness, and a disregard for a healthy future. How many gays do you know who were initially ecstatic about being a flaming homo? How many were fortunate to not have bee mocked at some point? How many do you know who haven’t experienced shame? Few, if any.

Digging deeper how many non jaded gays do you know? Many of us are in an extended recovery from that one bad breakup. While many others are recovering from serial dating because they’re either too proud or simply don’t know how to heal.

Think that’s enough? Log onto any gay dating or hook up site and you’ll find the most vile, neurotic pickiest judgmental bitches who want equality known to man. Imagine already feeling like shit to only get attention by whoring yourself out. To be told you’re too fat, too skinny, your dick is too little, you’re too dark, too light, you’re left handed, etc. Pay close attention how few actually have the balls to judge the content of someone’s heart. They can’t . Theirs is still broken. In fact all of the bitchy profiles you read are mostly written by someone who is hurting and have yet to offer or experience forgiveness. Think about it.

Will someone sell me an eiighth?

Once again, I concur that we cannot use blanket statements to be all inclusive. With that being said, I personally drink socially on rare occasions and have sex a bit more frequently. I’m not a prude and have partook of a few party enhancers when I was younger but they never took the place of truly being “into” the person I was with.

I think that at least for many in my generation, it was a way of releasing inhibitions and for others it was a way of relieving (for many) the monotony of having sex with multiple partners who really didn’t “do it” for them. Some of my contemporaries had sex A LOT and I think that they felt the need to JAZZ IT UP. When an activity begins to lose it’s “specialness”, one often reaches for something to bring back that feeling.

I know that some media portray gay males as being excessively promiscuous and while that stereotype is based in reality, it puts a bit of pressure on those who may be less secure in themselves to conform to that perceived norm. Some may need enhancement to be able to participate/enjoy. I was lucky as a young man to have a great deal of “experiences” which were rich in diversity and enjoyed almost all of them. Thank goodness they were in a day and age when it was safer. That’s probably why I’m still alive—I was lucky. I subsequently was in monogamous relationships and thoroughly loved being in them. I fear for our youth who seek experience and for those within our community who find their self worth tied to the sheer NUMBERS of men who find them sexually attractive enough to bed them.

Perhaps as we dialogue about these things, we move the cultural perspective/paradigm to a safer place for our health, both physical and mental.

I thought it was just me who didn’t “get it.”
I drink on occasion and I’ve never smoked so much as a cigarette or taken drugs yet it seems everywhere I look gay guys are abusing their bodies every chance they get like they can order a new one online when the current one breaks down.
What they don’t seem to realize is that there is something to the phrase “everything in moderation.” Your body treats you the way you treat it.
There was this guy I used to hook up with every now and then who not only used poppers but drank like a sailor; he could never get an erection but it never occurred to him why. He continually tried to get me to take poppers with him and I had to keep telling him I get high “naturally.” Finally I had to cut him off because I couldn’t deal with him constantly trying to get me to do poppers with him no matter how many times I declined.

Honestly you are making it a gay thing it all depends on the individual. Personally smoke pot and have a few drinks here and there, thing is I don’t need them to have a hot time. Tend to use if going out or a quiet night at the house.

people are so brainwashed its ashamed almost every thread ive read does not consider alcohol a drug when it clearly is a stimulant! #education is paramount!
Just because its legal does not mean its not a drug

I’m not sure about the three hours worth, but poppers relax me enough to take a cock when I bottom (i’m versatile, 85% top) – can’t really bottom without them.

As far as drugs, forget them. Alcohol – no more than a social drink as an icebreaker before a roll in the hay…

Admitting – I do like the popper rush when I’m chowing down on a nice tube steak . That’s it though, No booze , no drugs. I just like the sensation of my orgasm I get when I do poppers. Keep in mind at my age my sex life is 99% me and my right hand

yep have to agree guys who do drugs are kind stupid that there asking to get some thing that cold kill then

I think this is a “human” phenomenon. I believe that it is also an issue in heterosexual encounters as well. Some people just have an inclination to drugs and alcohol.

One of the primary purposes of mind-altering drugs is to lower inhibitions in order to overcome little awkwardnesses and discomforts so people can socialize and have sex. This has been true since we first discovered alcohol. Sure, some religions use drugs for other reasons (or do they?) and some people use drugs to change perspectives, or to change their mood. But really, one of the primary reasons has always been to overcome social obstacles in order to have sex.
The reason gay men do it more than heterosexuals, obviously, is because they don’t have children.

I do poppers. I don’t do them as drugs but to facilitate anal and sometimes oral sex. I have a tight hole even when I work it out. Unless the guy is young or otherwise rock hard, he is going to have some trouble getting it in. If he is at all floppy, it ain’t happening without poppers. Poppers make that work perfectly because of the muscle relaxation properties (this helps with deep throat as well). So the fact is, in my experience, without them, many guys are not even going to get in. So, depending on whether the guy is the rock hard type or a little floppy, I will work out my ass before stopping by, but I ALWAYS do poppers. I have only done it without poppers twice (I forgot to bring them), and it was a hard time for the top, at least initially, and it only worked because they were rock hard otherwise.

I am a big non-druggie and never took poppers when they were offered thinking it was something stupid they were doing, but I also didn’t like dick in my ass. It hurt and I couldn’t get into it. I didn’t see what people got out of it, and that was mostly because the pain prevented me form relaxing and focusing on the other sensations. When I tried poppers one time, I had a good experience and orgasm. Using them to experiment with anal stimulation, I finally saw the light! I was a bottom from then on. Pain was the problem and poppers got rid of that problem, and I was able to learn to enjoy anal, so now I can do it without poppers, though I almost never do. Still, it is more of an enhancement to make it easier for the top to mount me.

Even so, if the guy is especially big, I may still need poppers to take the cock easily even after initial penetration. And the fucking has to be well controlled even then if they are over 9 inches. Poppers don’t take all the pain away. Recently, I tried ethyl chloride (also known as chloroethane) and it makes even 10 inches smooth as glass! All the pain goes away temporarily and you can be fucked real hard. I wouldn’t use it all the time as it is fun to feel it all as well, but the big dicked tops love being able to swing for the fences with their fat bats. 🙂

Again, I don’t do it to “get high” and always try to stay in control, though EC is stronger than poppers. I still don’t think of them as drugs per se because the effect is so short-lived, a few minutes tops and it has to be reapplied if the effect is desired. By then I am usually enjoying the ride!

As for the guy who said studies show that nitrates are associated with dementia, there is no evidence of any harm like that coming from poppers. The danger with poppers, as with any drug, is the lack of judgment. I always play safe, but these drugs do lower inhibitions and may be a factor in risky sex. Here is a link to the wiki article on poppers. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poppers If there is a link to the studies on poppers being associated with dementia, please supply them.

I personally don’t understand people who mix drugs with sex. I’ve tried practically every drug under the sun and I understand why anyone can do any of them for fun, but of all of the drugs I’ve tried, there were only two (MDMA and LSD) that made me want to have sex, and neither of them are popular among the community who likes to mix drugs and sex together (One of which also hinders my ability to maintain an erection, albeit I’m more of a bottom). Which, is another thing I don’t really understand: most drugs tend to make it hard for me to obtain and/or maintain an erection and/or reach orgasm. Not that it’s impossible if I really force myself, but if I have to force an erection or orgasm then it isn’t really enjoyable at that point. So I don’t see how men can do that. I’d really like to know though, because I tend to enjoy most drugs and I enjoy sex, and I would love to understand how to enjoy both together.

I have never read a string of more sanctimonious BS than I have in this thread, with the exception of Scott and possibly a few more.

Almost no one who has commented here has any idea of what using drugs is like. They are all like, “Oh, I don’t like people like that.” Poppers ugh! 420 Ugh! Tina, Oh God! Escaping from reality! Losers! Not able to cope with the beauty of sex as I see it! They need to lower their inhibitions to take a big dick. What a pile of crap from a bunch of ignorant people.

Taking drugs is a dangerous thing, especially if you inject them, but it can be an incredibly intense high. Using anything to excess has its downsides, and using a narcotic like meth has lots of downsides, but when it’s good it’s so fine. Most people who have commented here have no idea what they are talking about besides what they learned in Sunday school or someplace else that will earn them a “Good Boy” badge.

420 is a good all around drug. Gets some people horny, most people intensely aware of physical contact, others sleepy, and most people hungry after a while. Meth (Tina) is a primo sex drug for bottoms. Gets them in the mood to be fucked like a cheap whore. For tops, it’s not so good since it’s a narcotic that restricts the blood flow and prevents getting an erection to the disappointment of their bottom partner. But when you have a Tina orgasm it’s like sky rockets!

I know all of you just came from Sunday services and feel the need to preach, but just give it a rest. We all know you are God’s gift to the world and choir boys to boot, but preaching is not your thing, since we’ve seen most of you on your knees at the bookstore.

well,I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF,HERE ON ADAM,IT’S DISPLAYED “”‘ DRUGS,YES,NO””,AND THEN THE ATROCITY”””DRINK,YES OR NO””,DRINKING IS A FUCKIN DRUG PEOPLE,AND SNOBBERY,LIKE NO “”WEED,ECT'”,BUT I “”DRINK'”IT SHOULD NOT BE SHOWN NOT,UNLESS ONE WANTS IT,MY MAJOR PROBLEM DRUG WAS ALCOHOL,DID LOTS OF LSD,MESCALINE,WEED,ECT,NEVER HAD A PROBLEM,NEVER DROVE,ECT,BUT LIQUOR CREATES A “”FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY””,AND THE SNOBBERY OF “”OH I DRINK,I’M GOOD,OH YOU SMOKE YOUR BAD,STUFF IT UP YOUR TAILPIPES GUYS,YOUR GONNA FIND OUT SOON HOW BAD ALCOHOL””THE DRUG”” IS

Truth is: Sex is WAY BETTER on drugs. The majority of you won’t do it, and that’s ok. Some of you will get the meaning of this post, and that’s great.

If you’ve not, you simply don’t understand the experience.

PS: I’m HIV neg, a “recreational” drug user. In that… just like everything else in life.. there are users and “abusers”. I’m in my mid 40’s, “party” on occasion. I’m careful and conscious of what I do.

Drugs to be free from government as listed above is a farce. The reason the government is looking the other way while pot is being legalized, is it’s just another easy way to control people. Enough pot and alcohol, and your stupor makes you complacent. If you’ve never read 1984 for example, perhaps you should.

Gay folk do what feels good primarily. It is what it is. If an individual wants to fuck up their life that way, fine go ahead. More for the rest of us, who prefer to think clearly.

I know plenty of tina and meth smokers. I think its gross and I do tell them all the time. That stuff sticks and some of my friends who use meth participate in raw or bareback group sex. Out of 6 friends who do the drug and has the sex romps; 3 0f them are now positive. I was told so much about this whole meth thing for me to feel bad for the ones trapped under this addiction and making themselves become diseased so easily. There’s no way I’m getting gang banged by 5 guys in one night and its all raw. Its risky and dangerous but we’ll never understand what some of the users and abusers are feeling.

If someone manages their habit, and doesn’t let the habit manage them, then safely/discreetly doing drugs and having sex is an awesome, enjoyable thing. PLENTY of people at least do drugs, enough that many who express opposition here would be shocked to know who in their lives do drugs that they’re not aware of (family, neighbors, relatives, partners, coworkers…even cops, clergy, teachers, drs & nurses). If people work hard, earn their way, love & care for family, and treat people decently, then who’s to judge them if they like to unwind however often, partake, and enjoy the company of another like-minded person. If all parties consent, are adults of sound mind, and no one’s being forced against their will, then why not party up, get wasted, do some piggy/kinky things and cross some stuff off your bucket list. That said, I’m off work next week & house sitting for a divorced straight bud (a Dr., btw) who likes to do recreational party favors, chill, watch tv, talk & BS on out laptops. We’re gonna get wasted with another straight married Dr. buddy of his, prolly pass out late night. After they leave & my bud’s travelling, I’m taking off work do watch porn incessantly all over his house, get/stay naked & wasted as hell, and connect with guys that want to come over to party & freak/fuck me senseless. I can’t wait to suck hard dicks, tonguefuck hairy man-asses, kiss men passionately, and lick hairy nipples and sweaty funky armpits while they jackhammer cocksnot up my hot hungry faggot fuckpussy – hopefully with porn turned up loud, curtains open & lights on so mailman, neighbors, whoever the fuck can see. Jesus fuck I love drugs, porn, cock, cum, sex, exhibitionism…and confessing it to therapists, physicians, and priests!

I first tried poppers only months ago, not into anything else except alcohol and maybe I’ll bum a smoke (tobacco only) if really drunk. I wish I had not been so averse to them for so long, it makes bottoming a lot easier.

As for anything else, I am just not interested and will not date or have sex with anyone who is on them.

Though this whole thread is months without a response I figure I’ll still give my thoughts on it…for me, I really don’t have too many (actually, any) gay experiences while anything less than completely wasted. Why? It’s about the whole nervousness with “oh my god, I’m doing something gay”. It takes getting rid of being nervous to do anything; if I were more secure with my sexuality there would be no problems.