Gay Stuff: Five Tips For First-Time Bottoms
As any experienced bottom will tell you, taking a dick is no joke. Lots of preparation goes into it, even when you’ve got plenty of experience at it.
Now imagine what it’s like to be taking a dick for the first time. It’s not something you go into blind, so we’ve got five tips for all the guys out there who are going to be taking a dick for the very first time.
1. Lube, lube, and more lube
Unlike a vagina, assholes do not self-lubricate. And unless you’re aiming to replicate a scene from Brokeback Mountain, just using spit isn’t going to cut it either. You’re going to want your first time to be as lubricated as possible, because otherwise it might not just be difficult, it probably will be painful as well.
2. Make sure you’ve cut your fingernails
What do short fingernails have to do with bottoming? If you’re going to take a dick, you’re going to have to loosen yourself up with your fingers first. It goes without saying that long, sharp fingernails aren’t good for your ass. If you end up scratching or, god forbid, wounding yourself, it may leave you vulnerable to infection.
3. Learn how to relax
Your body’s first instinct when it’s about to get penetrated is to clench, and that’s not going to be helpful at all. You’re going to have to fight this urge, and one thing you can do is to work on your PC muscles — the muscles to which your anal spinchters are connected. You can do this by trying to stop the flow when you pee. The muscles you are clenching when you do this are your PC muscles.
Once you’ve located this muscle, an exercise you can do is to inhale deeply and contract these muscles, holding them for a few seconds. When you exhale, relax those muscles. Constantly doing these helps you to learn how to relax when you finally take that dick.
4. Pee first
When you get dicked down really good, you’re going to feel the need to pee because of the continued stimulation to your prostate. Peeing beforehand ensures that you only feel that need but don’t actually need to pee. It definitely kills the mood when you to stop your partner’s momentum just so you can relieve your bladder.
5. Don’t be afraid to take control
Your top won’t have any way to know if what he’s doing to you is pleasurable or not, so don’t be afraid to speak up when you feel pain or when it feels good. Unless your partner is a douchebag, he won’t have any problem slowing down or switching positions in order to make you feel more comfortable as you take his dick.
Hopefully, these five simple tips are going to make your first time bottoming a great experience!
Adam4Adam blog readers, are there any other tips you want to share for people who are going to be bottoming for the first time? Share it with us in the comments section below!
Don’t forget to clean yourself out first. Douching will help prevent you from painting (I.e. shitting) on your partner. Even though it does occur at times, don’t feel shame. (You’re getting fucked in the ass).
There is no need to douche. Tops always suggest this and its never necessary. Just shower and go to the bath room before sex
The first thing you do is to understand the structure of the Anus; it has to openings: the outer sphincter and inner sphincter. The outer sphincter will probably be the most painful while the inner sphincter is recessed and somewhat less sensitive?
A larger penis is less painful than a smaller one as the smaller one will create more friction than the larger one….because of the more exposure of its head.
A good, thorough rim job will loosen the outer sphincter as well as a nice, rather warm bath or a prolonged shower.
A bit of weed, smoked prior will reduce anxieties and help the sphincters relax. A thorough bowl movement is an absolute must as the relaxation and stimulation will cause a proficient bowl movement. A good douching is required, too, prior; however, it tends to remove both the good and harmful bacteria.
And, of course, a high quality condom, properly fitted and pulled…accordingly.
6. Clean it out real good.
That was easy…….
Yea, please douche that ass good and clean yourself out
Have you ever F*cked?! …doubtful…Of course it’s necessary. I don’t want to be gross and tell you about specific incidences that I went through with nice guy bottoms who didn’t douche but believe me, it was messy, bad messy. Yes, at any given time f*cking can be fine without it, then at any time without warning it can go nasty bad. Douching gives you peace of mind that you and your partner can have a totally great time without any “sh*tty” surprises.
Douching is not healthy at all. It removes flora that are part of your digestion. You are only supposed to rinse with warm water at most.
I think it depends… as a very active gym guy, I eat like 6 meals a day, and I really have to douche with hot water to remove everything. if I don’t do that, it will be a complete mess. It happened in the past and it made me feel VERY uncomfortable and shy so I always clean inside now. I don’t get fuck very often though, just for that reason actually. I don’t like to douche and it takes a good 30 minutes in my case to remove everything and then make sure that no water is left inside.
You can use a mild solution of distilled, white vinegar and warm water. Put about a 1/4 of distilled white vinegar and it will act as a cleanser and help maintain the PH level within your duodenum
Kasper I think you mean rectum… the duodenum is the bend at the bottom of the stomach that leads into the top of the intestines. Had an ulcer there twice… believe me I know what I’m talking about. Doubt any cock is going to reach the top of the intestines. .
One of my first Tops gave me what I thinks was the best tips ( double entandre was purposeful).
1) Relax. It was so good that even now if a man tells me Relax I get Super horny. Yes I’ve been cock Pavloved.
2) when you start take Cock bare down on it as if you are trying to poop it out. The action allows for easier penetration instead of the opposite.
Agree with all. You have to clean yourself well. Its a turn off for both of us when shit happens.
The first thing should be to bottom for the first time with a guy you know well. This isn’t something you do on a random hookup with a guy who says he’s top. You need to do it with a guy who you know and who knows you, a guy you already have good communication channels.
Having it with a random hook up hoping for the best .. then don’t bitch when it doesn’t go well because the top you chose only saw you as a tight hole and his next conquest.
I think you are totally wrong in saying that douching isn’t healthy. What are you talking about? The fecal matter that douching removes is already very near the anus and will soon be expelled naturally. The desirable bacteria and flora rests in the colon walls and is continually replenished. It is in NO danger of being significantly reduced by douching. Boys douch away! It is the nicest, safest thing you can do in order to ensure that you and your partner have a great time together!
Douching does NOT significantly reduce beneficial flora or bacteria in the intestine or colon ..total BS. If you want to ensure a total great time for you and your partner without any “shitty” surprises, then douche away, always!
The issue of removing beneficial flora is not the issue if it was only that. The problem with douching to the point that only clear water comes out is that to some extent any protections from contracting STDs are removed. The flushing out of the colon can result in easier bruising or tearing and therefore the transmission of disease. So, add to the mix a good stimulant or weed or anything else to make sex more fun or less anxious and that makes it easier for a nasty virus to enter the body. This isn’t to say that not douching won’t result in catching an STD or something else . . .but by completely washing out an area that really wasn’t designed for it in the first might lead one to think about the consequences.
I agree with Arthur Keeler, Anyone who thinks douching is unnecessary just do not know what they are suggesting ! The Rectum will always be holding faeces (shit) unless you do douche (hose or flush it out). A clean arse is essential if both want to enjoy a good clean fuck.
its true this sissy started sucking a cock which tasted strange , uky the top guy wanted to fuck my sissy butt raw and i said no , he said he just fucked the twink bent over next to us , me kneeling getting bukakked not seeing he just pulled out of the twinks ass , he laughed at my whimppie face which by now was covered with ass slim and cum
@ David,
Sorry you should not be making comments that are related to your body that you obviously know very little about. The walls of both the Rectum and Colon are both mucus membranes which offer little or no STI protection. (BTW..STD is no longer used as an abbreviation for a sexually transmitted infections.. (STI)).
Douching is not going to cause bruising or tearing. Not unless you don’t know or understand what your trying to accomplish ! If you use a high pressure hose then obviously you will do damage. Such behavour is dumb !
I have to wonder what you are referring to with your comment about a stimulant or weed ? Using a stimulant like a popper or weed will not increase your chance of contracting an STI. Using hard drugs might, but only because you tend to lose control of your actions ! That’s a dumb comment.
Douching your arse will ensure both you and your partner will have enjoyable sex., end of story !
I’m a true vers…
I always douche and I do it properly and have had very few messes in a lot of years, just douche if nothing else it relieves “that” worry…however…eliminating waste is your butt hole’s “other” job so it can happen to anyone, no matter what you do.
Yes, lots of lube, then more lube, then relax. If you haven’t practiced beforehand the best way that I have found to help a newbie relax, is while gently rubbing his hole while having him clench it tightly. Then relax, then clench tightly, then relax. Just keep doing it all the while massaging his well-lubed hole. After a while, the muscle will get tired and relax much more easily. Then whether you start with a finger or a cock, continue to get the bottom to clench and relax. Soon he will see how much better what you’re doing feels when he relaxes.
I’ve used this process with several virgins and newbies and it has almost always worked!
Hope this helps…because getting fucked is amazing!
First off, thank you, Adam, for the article..My two recommendations: next time target your headline to both bottoms and tops…i don’t know if this has always been the case but it seems to have been exacerbated by the internet and online hooking up but way too many tops are of this belief that bottoms are always ready to get fucked..They don’t get that sometimes douching can take longer than expected…and since i am on team-douching-before-getting-fucked it was my understanding that comsuming some yogurt the day after helped restore proper flora and bacteria levels.
i always douch before getting fucked , it is so much more peasent for both the top and bottom bitch , and being a obediant sissy for real men , it is my humiliating task to lick clean the cock after fucking my sissy pussy
I’m a 38 yrs old sraight male that fantasies of being drugged and rape