Sexuality: Five Differences Between Porn And Sex
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Thanks to the internet, porn has never been more accessible to the general public. But in much the same way that the availability of porn has made it easier for guys to explore their sexuality, it’s also raised expectations when it comes to sex to an unbelievable degree.
Here, we’ve listed down five easy to spot differences between pornography and what actually happens in the bedroom.
1. Every straight guy is down to fuck
Fantasizing about sucking straight guy cock or maybe even getting drilled by them isn’t an unusual fantasy. And having someone reciprocate a gay guy’s advances has probably happened every once in a while. But in porn? Every single straight guy will happily suck your dick. Plus, they all seem to have no gag reflex!
2. Nobody ever gets soft
Over the course of a session with your partner, it’s normal for your erection to flag at certain points. Sex can definitely be tiring, and you can’t be expected to always be hard if the session is taking too long or getting a little vigorous. But erections never flag in porn, and you never see the fluffers or the Viagra that’s keeping that erection going and going.
3. Tops are indefatigable
A nice long pounding from a hot top is definitely something to remember, but in much the same way that erections flag during a session, even the most physically fit top is going to tire at some point. So don’t expect your top to drill you non-stop because that’s just physically impossible.
4. Bottoms are equally tireless
If you think sex is tiring for tops, imagine what it’s like for bottoms. After all, they’re the ones getting pounded. It’s totally normal to take a break when the session is taking too long, but you wouldn’t know it from porn. Those bottoms take those dicks like a champ!
5. Lubes and poppers don’t exist
It’d be so much easier all around if getting a top’s dick into you involved just a few minutes of rimming. But some bottoms just take a little longer to loosen up, and may even need a little more help than a skilled tongue. But unless there’s product placement involved, you’ll probably never see any lubes or poppers in a porno scene.
Any other unrealistic things you’ve seen in porn? Share it with us in the comments section below!
I have, unfortunately, heard, “Ooo, I want your huge, throbbing mancock to shoot hot baby batter in my tight spasming hole” delivered in the same fey, flat manner one hears in porn scripts. He actually thought he was being sexy. I had to tell him that real life is not porn. He didn’t get it. Showed him the door.
Only thing that I can think of is the unrealistic personal hygienic scenes unless some guys are just plain out nasty. Secondly which goes hand in hand with hygiene, is the spur of the moment rimming/ anal sex without douching or even freshening up first. Example: I remember a porn scene with young black guys playing basketball on a outside court. They had their shirts off, wearing sexy gym shorts. They were very sweaty and looked quite sexy. Naturally after the game, they retreated to a room and the orgy began with the tougue kissing, rimming, oral sex (licking nutts) and deep, deep fucking. As a young black man that plays basketball and work-out regularly at a local gym I would never entertain such grossness. When I entertain my company before sex, we both take long, hot, soaking (lots of lather) baths from head to toe. We brush our teeth and use mint flavored mouth wash before we retreat to the bedroom. I aint licking nobodies sweaty nutts and azz. Lol. Also I’m 100% top, so naturally I entertain bottoms and you can bet the house and kids my company douche out his azz before we get down to anal sex..
Matt Black hey man I totally agree with you on the being totally clean before having sex with someone. Clean sex is good sex. I am a bottom now due to ED but I do believe in using enemas before anal sex.
Man I just gotta disagree with most of what you said. Sweat is a natural bodily secretion, mostly water and salt, nothing gross about it unless you have some kind of skin infection, and if you do washing is likely to make that even grosser than it was before you started. Besides, do you ever work up a sweat during sex? What then, break for a shower?
I do agree with cleaning before anal sex, that’s a definite health risk if you don’t. But the rest of it isn’t, seems more a matter of your personal attitude. Makes me wonder if you’re uncomfortable with kissing, or having jizz splashing around? Again, for healthy men neither of those should be a problem, but it seems a lot of guys have problems about them. Another thing that’s missing from porn, btw.
The men are all handsome, muscular, and hung (particularly if black or Latino — racist NOT!), with Asians, Pinoy, and Indians all bottoms craving white cock (another racist NOT!). Get my point as a white bottom? Lol.
No and don’t want to
I look at them because of the desirability of the actors, not, to get ideas or be influenced to duplicate what I have viewed with any expectation, have my own fantasies-ideas.
This is why I watch mostly amateur vids on xtube and pornhub. Real peaople with real limits and real non fake reactions. Sure quality is something to be desired, but you are watching real sex. Not a 4 hour shoot condensed into 40 minutes.
Bingo. Staged porn bores me
The number of porn movies featuring raw sex is staggeringly bigger each day, as are guys asking for unprotected sex. Could porn be influencing sexual behaviour? Never saw a porn actor asking “u clean?”
I think porn actors are more “open” to having sex with positive men even if they are negative. It’s all about education, and being professionals in that field, they are well aware that someone who takes his meds cannot transmit the virus.
FYI- asking if someone is “clean” is extremely offensive. People that are HIV positive are not dirty. Terminology has a lot to do with the stigma attached to HIV positive people. Saying HIV negative is much more respectful and creates no stigma that HIV positive people are any less clean then the rest of us.
If someone asks me if I’m clean I presume they are asking if I’ve had time to douche, not what my HIV status is
“Clean” has nothing to do with not being, or being Dirty. So tired of hearing this line of BS. It is a medical term meaning something is lacking pathological findings and not whether something is dirty or not.
It is not a medical term. The word I think you might be looking for, medically, is “non-reactive.” Are you HIV+? No? The STFU.
Lol you’re being ridiculous. It’s all a matter of context. Obviously we’re not in a lab running tests (as your definition would suggest). In the case of people looking for sex, asking someone if they’re clean means if they’re HIV neg and STD free; which is not an unreasonable thing to ask, but a very disrespectful and demeaning way to ask it.
Asking someone if they are “clean” among men that have sex with other men is universally known to be asking if they free of stds and hiv. It is not disrepectable, however I understand how it can be a stigma for those men who are hiv positive and do have stds. So, I agree that a better way to ask would be what is your hiv and std status which is more accurate and less stigmatizing and less confusing in case someone naive or just being a smart ass would say, “yes, I showered!” Its just changing the language to make the whole experience more positive for everyone involved and having empathy and compassion for one another
Talking dirty is not always sexy. What they do is staged and choreographed. It is not good sex or love-making in most cases. You do not grab a cock and jerk it up and down for half an hour. You do not simply bob up and down on it with your mouth. You do not suck it in to your ass like a vacuum cleaner. Sex includes a lot of boredom. There’s rarely enough, if any, foreplay. Nipples hurt if they are pinched, bitten or flicked endlessly. Threesomes don’t happen much and are awkward. Also risky. Etcetera. As they say in the opening, it’s all fantasy. If they bareback, YOU DO NOT. Porn “models” are not stars, they are not role models. They are exhibitionists and prostitutes. They are not someone to emulate.
Oh, and tattoos are really ugly. If you get tattoos, you limit your options in life. People will lose respect for you. You cannot get tattoos if you are any kind of performer. If you must, use temporaries. It signals poor judgement, shallowness, lack of taste, and lack of consideration for others, more than anything else. Most are poorly chosen. And nothing is dumber than a tattoo that spells something wrong. They might look enticing now, but in 30-40 years, they will be horrible. They trap you in your past. They are nearly impossible to cover up with make-up. For dancers, actors, they are not only a major distraction, they make it impossible for you to be in character.
Luigi, That’s your personal opinion and believe me it’s well respected. But do you think you have the authority to tell adult people what to do to their bodies? I think you should mind your own business and not get tatooes on YOUR precious body if you CHOOSE not too. 😉
Where in his statement did he “tell adult people what to do to their bodies?”
NOWHERE.
He gave his opinion about what he thinks of tattoos.
I really can’t stand when people can’t follow what someone actually said and then put words in their mouth to make an argument.
I’d say it’s you who should mind their own business and move on if you don’t agree with his opinion. Take some reading classes so you can follow along with what’s actually being said and spelling classes as well.
“Tattoos” and “to” in your last sentence are both spelled wrong.
I couldn’t agree more with his opinion but also believe to each their own.
It’s funny how the people responding are so righteous with their virtue signaling but in reality they’re the ones spewing hate and judgment towards a fairly benign opinion. This is called being a HYPOCRITE.
Your comment couldn’t be more offensive. You must be friends with Postgaygranddad with your complete and utter disdain for tattoos. I have a very large tattoo on my abdomen. I chose to get the tattoo to cover a 14-inch scar from a surgical procedure I had nearly twenty years ago that left me with a very nasty scar. I was self conscious about it for many years. I looked into getting scar revision surgery but I was told it wouldn’t completely cover my scar. A friend suggested getting a tattoo to cover my scar. After researching my tattoo options for a year, I took the plunge and got a tattoo last year. I couldn’t be more pleased as it completely covers my once ugly scar. Your comments about others getting tattoos couldn’t be more wrong. I’m most certainly not shallow, have impeccable taste, and am very considerate of others, which is ironic coming from you. And for the record, tattoos can indeed easily be covered by make up. Do your research before spouting incorrect information. Be kind to others. I have found that people that say nasty things usually don’t feel very good about themselves.
In research to your post, I looked at 50+ (Wikipedia has a great alphabetical list of every guys who has ever sucked a cock on camera)porn actors. I’ve come to the conclusion you have NO idea what you’re talking about. I’ve seen more porn/models with tats than I have without tats. Your statement is wrone. I will keep researching this. Maybe write a thesis.
It’s 2018. Tats are becoming more popular now than ever before. They are accepted and so common most ppl don’t think twice about them. The teller at my back (yes I still go in to talk to a person vs my ATM) has tats on his arms, hands and next right up to his hair line. He is SMOKIN HOT! It’s only a matter of time before I get to see the rest of his tats.
I do think that a lot of the tattoos are fake, that is to say temporary, painted tattoos. While watching some free porn previews (I don’t watch porn, I prefer amateur sex videos on xtube for instance), I have seen actors who had different tattoos on different body parts in different movies.
The magic condom. You know where we go from a top teasing the bottom with his hard raw cock and then the camera moves up as you know he’s about to start ducking thinking it’s going to be bareback, only for when they show the penetration shot a condom just magically appeared (or the top just grew one). I don’t mind if the top wants to use a condom and just find the sex between two beautiful men to be nice. But please at least show the top out the fucker on. The jump like that usually jars me out of the moment.
I concur with the hygiene comment and being spontaneous with sex lol. For me as a bottom tho, I don’t eat 4 hours before sex, I have to douche and make sure I’m clean. It sucks whe. tops are ready like “right now” and bottoms have to frantically get ready and clean up… and sadly a lot of tops are ignorant with that process and have no patience to wait lol we cant just shower and go hahaha just a thought… like unless a guy is douched out everywhere they go… the spontaneous hook ups at work, gym, club, in public, are a little unrealistic without it getting a little messy…
The bottom and tops are very flexible, the spontaneous sex that happen out of nowhere and the top and bottoms r clean and most if the time r fit and muscular, always ready to go, and the amount of step dad and step son or step brother and brother or sister porn out there is staggering not forgetting mother etc
Having lost my own virginity in the Nixon administration (talk about a tricky dick!), My opinion about porn is somewhat extreme. Porn is so prevalent now, it feels like I’m competing with somebody’s mobile porn or what one should have playing on the TV.
Dear God, I would be willing to donate both my testicles for the opportunity to make out with some that didn’t need to have his one hand on his phone while his other hand is playing fast forward with the TV remote.
Has everyone gone so phone and porn crazed that we are forgetting how to make out sexually with each other. I’m so tempted to say one of the days ” Frankly my dear, you are my porn but apparently you don’t give a damn”
One thing I’ve noticed in the porn films is that nearly every guy has a huge hard dick, especially if it’s a black guy. Another thing is that most porn actors shoot a lot of cum. The guys also are always muscular and good looking, have nice smooth sexy bodies. Another thing is that the porn movies play up the racial thing a lot. Yes, as many of you might know from my posts, that I am white and my BF and love is black. He doesn’t have a huge cock, (just average). Neither of us have tight muscular good looking bodies, were just average looking, and really care about each other. Sometimes he or I don’t always cum and get off, but so what, it doesn’t matter, we love each other. Also the racial thing has no bearing on our relationship, as we don’t love each other because of our difference in skin color, we love each other for whom we are. In reality a true relationship involves a lot more than just sex. We do lots of other stuff, like going out to concerts and dinners. But movies, be it porn or something at the theaters or on TV, is not reality. My BF and I just live a normal life, not expecting perfection, just great companionship, and friendship, along with some fun sex.
To respond to another comment about tattoo’s, that is one persons opinion. All of my tattoos have a deep personal connection (memorial, turning points in life) I don’t think they show “shallowness, lack of taste, and lack of consideration of others” if you don’t like my tattoos by all means don’t look at me. I’m ok with that. Who wants someone that judgemental anyway?
My thing about porn id rather see “average” looking guys that you’d meet on the street, guys if you met them would actually be in my league. I always head for the amatuer section because the guys DON’T like male models, but everyday guys you’d see anywhere. That’s hot.
Pointing out the unrealistic aspects of gay porn, is a service in my opinion.
Every consumer of porn should be aware of the proven negative effects of addiction to porn.
While I enjoy good hygiene, I also know one or two things about why we have healthy bacteria and other things in our guts and colon. By douching out what we consider ‘germs’ are actually the good fighters against disease. So while I’m all for being clean, there’s a point of going over board in which cleaning out too much results an an easier transmission of disease or STDs in my opinion.
The problem with porn is as it always has been . . . it’s a media driven item that pretends to suggest that this type of person is more attractive and should be something everyone in the gay community should aspire to be like. I was never that clean cut guy with a hairless chest. I had to shave constantly to achieve that . . .and even if I did, my dark features, that could be characterized as middle eastern or Iranian, or even Eastern European given the right angle, left me out of that model type . . . went home often alone from Leather Bars because most Tops back in the day wanted that cute little blue eyed blond baby to take home. My first Master, in an attempt to make my butt hole hairless, would pluck my hairs out with tweezer! Torture for me . . much pleasure for Him. And that’s what I mean about what someone wants versus what they will actually get. It’s like moving to the Desert where cactus is King, only wanting to plant Roses. The Porn Actors are just that – Actors. When reality strikes and one realizes that true happiness through decades of a life together produces a bond that goes beyond sex, caring for someone, and that type of intimacy, is something pornography can’t capture.
Porn for me is like cotton candy … seems like a great idea until you get half way through it.
It falls flat for me, regards of how built or perfect the guys are. The scripts are blame silly. The lines are flat out ridiculous. The music never-ending. The sets are either Hollywood mansions or absurd workplaces where someone would get fired when caught.
Hey, if it helps a guy in those couple of minutes needed to jack off, all’s good. If it becomes the prime outlet for sex, maybe we need to rethink what’s up.
And I agree with other guys here about tatoos … why GREAT looking guys mess up their bodies with tattoos is beyond me. Their choice of course, but why ruin a GREAT thing?
As a bottom that “accidents” don’t ever happen. It’s just as uncomfortable and gross to us but even with douching it can always happen. As I’ve matured I’ve stopped starving myself all the time because I was gonna have sex later. I still douche before sex but with long dick Blk men they often go deep so I tell tops “I did douche but enter at your own risk” lol
Well, not all those in porn movies have clean asses, (although most do) There are some that like the dirtier side of sex. Go to websites like thisvid, scatboi, or brownhanky, and you can enjoy the dirtier side of sex. Honest it really can be a turn on seeing the reality of sucking, rimming and fucking a dirty ass. I will say I don’t do it with just anyone though. I have done some ws and light scat with a few that I trust, and yes it can be fun and a turn on sharing each others most intimate moments. My BF a while back said you might not want to rim me back there as I just took a shit. I said so what, and went and rimmed him deep anyway. Actually when you love, care, and trust each other, it actually provides a turn on.
In porn dudes pull out of a butt and are clean then the bottom sucks it. It’s not always clean, sometimes yes. Been there top and bottom.
There is anti-tattoo bias on our society, and what I have advised younger male friends is this: No neck tattoos and be sure that whatever you get can be covered with a polo shirt. And with that last part, it sort of turns me on when a guy peels out of his shirt and has a really great tattoo that was totally covered….
Please research Jake Bass a young Canadian porn star. Then re-read your comment. I wouldn’t care if he tattooed FUCK YOU DYLAN on his face. I’d still eat that ass until he begged begged me to fuck him.
Lol SMH. YOU are the one with the BS. It’s all a matter of context. Everyone knows the basic and most popular definitely of clean is the opposite of dirty. Are we in a lab running tests??(per your definition) no. This is being asked to a prospective sexual partner, to find out if they have HIV and/or STDs. It’s a good question to ask but an offensive and demeaning way to ask it.
Porn And Sex, Is Their A Difference:
I think they are basically the same, except Porn is used to sell Sex. Thus no emotional feelings are expected.
And Sexual Intercourse comes about from some initial physical appeal and desire.
Interesting conversational threads here. Like all the comments I’ve read hear about porn. Maybe one sort of myth is…everybody’s always horny and sex happens all the time and all the cute little twinkie boys (bois?) just can’t wait to hook up with an older guy like me…ha ha yeah right. And like Hollywood films, porn is a business, so of course they’re going to give you this hot-great product, reality is way different.
“Talking dirty is not always sexy” -Uh…so what is it then when its not sexy? what is “always” everytime any people anywhere have sex? how do u know when it is and when it isnt sexy? When the one hearing it think so and is a bit too judgy and uptight in bed?
a lot of us are “into verbal” and always get verbal to some degree- my mainstay as a bttm is “ya fuck that ass” in i feel the top switch into a higher gear. its hot & supportive- we r now in era where its weird to talk on the phone before a hook up and in person we boys get to what we’re there for…taking dirty during sex is often our only verbal communication…and similar case watching porn since scripts scenes are now mostly gone..its a character its an actor enjoy
WTF ARE U talking about next? no one grabs their dicks and strokes for 30min? are u ..watching solo masturbation scenes tht are hidden cam? or a 1on1 30min hand-job scene ? and “you dont not simply go up and down” sure…but that is ESSENTIALLY what you do.
I see what ur saying with the vacuum cleaner but..they jst open him up a little before they start shooting with a dildo…or perhaps when you choose a profession that involves a lot of anal sex u get better at it.
As for every single thing you wrote from that point on…..I’m sorry Luigi, but I think you believe all this to be true because you bad in bed and have a very dull sex life. I have group sex about 3-4 times and its always hot.. nothing’s awkward unless you define it as such and get tripped up as 3 personalities, 3 opinionated minds 3 embarrassments. ….group sex makes it easier to consider everyone as anonymous bodies and sexpigs.. —
no one says if they bareback u do not…when gay porn was safe only..i was safe only. but it doesnt work the other way…and why? because guys in porn ARE our role models….they are heros…our entire subculture is based on our sexuality….its been historically illegal and shamed upon to have the sex that is natural and most appealing to us…that is why people stay in closets.
these people? they are fucking each other and getting rly into it- gay porn has always been a source of empowerment and community..and are you saying that gay sex workers and gay exhibitionists are trash>>
Yes the sex positions they do.i have had a lot of guys be dead fucks,boring one position.