Better Sex Through Gay Porn?
When I was 19, I remember being in my college dorm room – covered in cum. My boyfriend and I were on top of the bed, basking in the afterglow of what I thought was great sex. I reached for the towel and he said, “We need to talk.”
When you’re 19 and covered in cum, “we need to talk” moments usually don’t end well.
I felt my heart race as I braced myself for the worst.
My boyfriend leaned over and frowned, our jizz-covered bodies pressing together. He whispered, “Having sex with you is like being in a porn.”
I was relieved, elated and completely unaware that this was not a compliment.
“You’re welcome,” I replied with a smile.
He was bewildered.
Growing up, I learned about gay sex from porn. I wasn’t going to learn about gay sex from school and I certainly wasn’t going to learn about it from my straight parents. So, I turned to the internet and used porn as a resource.
The thing is, most porn isn’t designed to help you have better sex. It’s designed to get you off. You watch it, and cum. Porn directors know this and have created a product that is highly effective at achieving that goal.
But the things that look good or hot or sexy on camera rarely translate to real life. Porn sex is hot sex to watch, but porn sex is not good sex to experience. This was a truth that would take me many years to learn.
Now, I’m 34.
For more than a decade, I’ve been making YouTube videos for gay men under the name Davey Wavey. In recent years, those videos have focused on sex and sexuality as I discover and share everything that I didn’t learn growing up – but I’ve increasingly run up against the restrictive nature of YouTube. I couldn’t really do what I wanted to do and couldn’t show what I wanted to show.
So, I launched my own platform. It’s a website called Himeros.tv and it uses erotic videos to help gay men have better sex. If the intention in porn is to get you off, Himeros.tv is about getting you in. In touch with pleasure. In touch with connection. In touch with desire.
Make no mistake: Himeros.tv is hot. And the videos feature a full range of performers. Some are the hot porn stars that you love including Blake Mitchell, Joey Mills, Calvin Banks, Josh Brady and others. But other models look a lot more like the rest of us. One model is even 83. The idea is to see the porn stars that you enjoy and also reflections of yourself on the site. Because sexual fulfillment isn’t just available to hung twenty year olds with six packs. It’s available to all of us. It’s our birthright.
Is Himeros.tv for everyone? The answer is no. It’s a different flavor of erotic content that has been created by talented directors and cinematographers who believe in our mission – and we’ve collaborated with a team of tantric instructors, sex coaches and educators to build a different genre of erotica. It’s a departure from traditional porn, and not everyone is ready for a change. I understand that.
But if you are ready for a change… If you are ready to experience something new… If you are ready for better sex, then join us on Himeros.tv.
Wow. You’re actually using this blog to promote your own business? Making porn videos is pimping and prostitution. It doesn’t matter how “positive” or “educational” you are trying to make it.
The problem with all videos, unless of couples, is that love is removed from the equation. They are also heavily influenced by straight porn or gay-for-pay guys, whose only concept of sex is roughly jacking a cock, then roughly fucking someone in the mouth or ass. Few spend any real time on foreplay, and as a result, most gay men have no clue how to make love.
If you wanted to educate them, write a book. Not more videos. Unless your “models” get to freely choose their partners and are volunteering, they are whores. And you are pandering. That’s why porn is illegal.
Porn is illegal? Where do you live? It’s very legal everywhere in the world…..
Promiscuous “father panderer” creature, how come you have landed here?
Go away and confess your sin looking at gay dating apps and educational porn.
wtf
Davey, I have always liked your outlook, your humor, and your appealing looks(mainly because you have goodness-starts-inside looks). What you said today is something I knew for a long time. Even when it comes to kissing, people ruin flow by doing it like a porno.
I believe in lips hugging each other, not those sound-effects smack kisses. Would a series of chest-bumps feel intimate like a caressing hug? Too many guys trust porn and ruin a moment. Oral sex is more than just engulfing him. There are do many delicate stroke variants (the herringbone is awesome!) that porn never touches. The Argosy distraction is another. But getting the partner to trust it and let it work, can be thwarted if he thinks, because it’s not like porn, I must not know what I’m doing.
So anything you do, to awaken people to the joyful infinite variety of personally influenced, spontaneous, responsive sexual possibilities in real life, is wonderful, especially since you already have a personal style that is genuinely appealing.
You mean to tell me that after all this time it’s been Davey Wavey posting on this blog? A person I’ve been subscribed to on youtube for years and never put two and two together? Wtf
Adore Davey Wavey.
This kind of vid ain’t new, in my country at 11 in the night back when I was a kid I learned about erotic love making from a educational show that came up at that time that’s when I was introduce to porn after I was confused cause the erotic bids showed how to please ur lover and get pleasure in return, how foreplay should be done and stuff, having gay, bi, lesbian vids based on teaching u appropriate love make techniques is excellent but noting new.
Gay lit or porn movies, they can teach you things, however, I think most folks have an idea of what they, already, desire as well.
There is no better sex than the one you feel intensively and end fulfilled. Yes, porn is the way many of us learn about it but with time (and I as a porn actor) we learned that is just a fantasy and not a total guidance that we might agree or not.
Don’t tell my fuck bud. He has been enjoying what I learn from porn videos for 20 years. He’s a hot Ron Jeremy type bear and loves to watch str8 porn while I pleasure him. I try to have something new every time and I don’t know another couple that the sex gets better every time.
We have learned a lot about better positioning ourselves and evolve into positions we would not have come to enjoy. Must say your site ain’t cheaper rather costly and I don’t ever put my credit card into any porn site. No need to there is plenty available for free for these few minutes per day, week or month depending who you are. I think Tumblr pretty much sums it all up depending who and what you follow. Thanks Yahooooooo