Dating: Eight Tips to Find a Valentine on A4A

Valentine’s Day is here and you still don’t have a date. Worry not, there’s still time to look for one. Keeping that in mind, we’ve gathered several tips for you to help you find a Valentine here on Adam4Adam.

1. Update your profile picture. Maybe you’ve got the same profile pic for the past 15 years since A4A’s inception and it doesn’t even look like you anymore. Or maybe it’s blurry or so small nobody can make out your face.

These won’t do as photos help you make a good first impression, great first impression even, depending on how interesting or awesome your profile photo is. And it means you should not post photos of your pets, memes, dicks, or assholes either. We already talked about the importance of profile photos in the past as well as what A4A members think are attention-grabbing photos here. For other A4A members, it’s all about a genuine, warm smile and they tend to ignore guys with bored or angry-looking face in their profile pics.

To change your photo, click here.

2. Add more photos in your profile. While we are on the subject of photos, one isn’t enough. If your profile picture captured the attention of A4A members, they’d want to see more. More photos tell them more about you—your interests and personality—but most importantly, they tell A4A members you are a real person.

3. Update your profile text. I’ve read how other A4A members bypass guys who put very little information about themselves. Don’t stop at saying what your interests or hobbies are: tell us why you love to cook, read, or to listen to music but also keep it short and sweet. More importantly, don’t put yourself down but don’t brag either. Be confident instead. Confidence is sexy.

If you are looking for love, remove the stuff related to “barcode orgies that you like to attend” but if you are looking for sex buddies, then don’t write that you “like to go on dates and receive flowers.” Update your profile here!

4. Send a smile. Here at A4A, sending a smile is a polite way to say, “Hey, I like you.” Simply visit a profile you like and click on “send smile.” Take note however, that some users have chosen to deactivate this feature so the button might not appear on their profile which means you’ll have no other choice but to initiate a real conversation. And why not, right? Go ahead and try, who knows where this might lead.

5. Be proactive. And send messages to A4A users to present yourself. For example, “Hi, my name is Dave. I saw your profile and it really caught my attention. I thought your photos are beautiful and sexy.” Don’t go with just a “hey” or “sup” because the idea is to elicit a response and engage him in (meaningful) conversation.

6. Ask him questions. So, he responded to your message. You’ve got to keep the conversation going by asking him the right questions but at the same time, tell him also something about yourself.

Don’t ask him questions like, “Do you like music?” Whether he said “Yes” or “No,” that’s the end of the conversation unlike if you ask, “What types of music do you like?”

7. Respond. Fast. Don’t make him wait three days before you ask the follow-up question, “Why do you like that type of music?” or “Who’s your favorite singer and why?” C’mon, man.

8. Ask him out! Because online conversations can only go so far. Don’t wait forever to ask him out on a date either. Ask him if you can watch together this particular Valentine concert but at the same time please keep in mind A4A’s safety tips which you can read here.

Happy Dating!