Sexuality : Height Difference, Does it Bother You?
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Does height difference bother you? Like if you stand 6’0″ tall topping a much smaller guy, say, 5’6″ or 5’3″, do you find that hot or are you simply into guys around your height?
There are certain guys who are apparently into that, like this one guy. The reason being that some guys who are taller love the idea of “dominating” a smaller guy while the latter love it when a tall, burly guy’s frame towers over him from behind—hugging him or fucking his brains out.
On the other hand, there are guys who find taller bottoms hot. There is just something, they say, about big guys that totally lose themselves to lust and transform to power bottoms. Others lament that they meet guys taller than them and expect them to bottom. Has this happened to you?
Does height matter to you? Do you have a height preference? Does our height influence our preferences in the bedroom? Are you of average height who prefer your guy to be much taller than yourself? Or are you a tall guy who prefers a smaller guy?
Is it even a conscious decision? Do you go looking for hookups thinking, “I am tall so I’ll look for a shorter partner?”
We are asking because there is actually a study made by the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health that said men who “preferred to be more dominant towards their partner preferred relatively shorter partners, whereas those men that preferred to be more submissive towards their partner preferred relatively taller partners.”
How true is the study above for you? Does your height preference have something to do with power dynamics in the bedroom?
Anyway, which one are you guys? Tall and bottom? Tall and top? Small and bottom? Small and top? Versatile? Do you find sex hotter when there is a height difference between the two of you?
Share with us your thoughts and stories below.
Personally, I’m more of a bottom, and a pretty submissive one at that. If a guy is my height or taller I tend to stick to that role but I find that if a guy is shorter then myself then I tend to be a lot more dominant and aggressive.
Its gross when taller guys want to be the bottom for a much shorter guy..Something just wrong about it..Taller guys are naturally made to be the top..nothing more of a trun off than a tall bottom.
why is it gross?
It’s gross because he has preconceived rules that make him less authentic with the men he meets. LOL
I have a friend who is 5 feet tall and is a very hung top. His husband is 6’4″ and they are perfect for each other.
Pretty stupid/ignorant comment…..
Ha! I agree. I don’t even think a top should suck dick or have his ass rimmed either! Guess I get locked into roles
So according to your thoughts since I have a penis I should only be interested in women. Your comment is one of the most stupid things I’ve read in years.
I’m ave height (6 ft). And I love little pocket bottoms. Maybe its just my dominant side. But I do have a bud that is 6’5″ that I play with and he is just as fun. Super submissive and loves my unit. So all in all… If the shoe fits, I’m going to wear it.
I’m a tall man, and there is nothing better to me than a short guy. Especially if he’s hung and makes fun of my smaller cock. Hit me up you st louis guys
HeigHt makes no difference to me. Bottom guy here. As long as the dick is big I’m down for it.
I’m short. Some tall guy come do me.
It doesn’t bother me as long as he has no trouble getting inside me.
I like both tall AND short guys. I’m just barely 5’8″, and rarely do tall guys
even give me the eye. Oh, well. It is what it is.
I’m a tall top and it doesn’t really matter to me tall guys are fine, short guys are cute too.
Yes ..i find it difficult to 69 position with someone isnt around the same height as me.
I’m 5’7″ and about 125# or so after a good breakfast. I love size difference! (Just happens to be my favorite type of porn, and nice homage to Rizzo up there!) I prefer men over 6′ and at least 180#, but always interested in bigger and have been with one or two really tall muscle beasts lol. I do think it’s cute when big tops think they will hurt me by laying some really good pipe, as their size would demand. I just quote my motto: I’m small, but I ain’t fragile!
Love the idea of a much smaller man topping me. At 6’2 230, I had a 5’5 130 pound man mount me. It was a huge turn on that much smaller man dominating me sexually
Haha I’m a 6’5 bottom . It’s so hard to find a guy who can match me if you know what I mean. All these guys wanting to fuck me is like a donkey fucking a giraffe haha it don’t work
I usually use the “Chiquaqua doing a Great Dane” analogy
Yea.. but you “Giraffes” can be sooo damn sexy! Especially if you look like an over grown kid!
Personally I love taller guys. When they hug me I feel safe
Oh I know what you mean dude! It kind of brings out the little kid inside me in that aspect.
Yes! That and I love reaching up and wrapping my arms around his neck when we kiss.
Oh yea dude! That’s feels kewl to do!
I am only 5 5 130 27 in waist and a total sub bottom boy !! I love men talker bigger showing dominance over me !! I love the feel of his strength and rowing over me summiting to his needs
I am a short guy at 5’4″. As a bisexual guy I have experience with height on both sides. I have found women to be very superficial when it comes to height. As for guys, I haven’t found it to really be an issue.
Height difference can be arousing as much as similarity. Sexiness comes from within. We’re not packages. It’s not shopping. Some short people are taller than a giant inside. And tall guys are not always well hung. So don’t judge by appearances. Period.
i’m 5’9″ top and love dominating smaller skinny bottoms. bigger guys are a bit intimidating. guess i need to feel physically bigger. i try to find guys smaller than me. love macrophiloa websites.
I’m a tall bottom who stands 6’1, and I’m mostly attracted to tops who are at least 5’10 or taller. Unfortunately there are too many short tops where I live (Houston, TX), but I come around a few tall tops every once in a while.
It only looks stupid with straight couples, when the woman is taller than the man.
I love little short bottoms.
Not really stupid looking, more like off and maybe weird. But then again there was a well known really hip couple like that back in the day called “Sonny and Cher”.
i’m average height 5’11” i love short petite bottoms, i can wrap my arms around them and move them around where i want them, my 2 hottest bottom guys were both much shorter than myself. I’m versa but if taller top wants me to bottom i’m down for that anytime
I’m 5ft5. almost everyone is taller than I am. doesn’t bother me, and I never fetishized it.
Short men are best .. shorter is better
I’m 6’5 and have only been with 1 guy taller than myself. I’m predominantly a bottom. I’m often chased by guys that are significantly shorter than me and they think I’m a top. If I’m just hooking up with a guy, their height doesn’t pose a problem, but if I want to date/be in a relationship with a guy, I’d prefer someone I can stand beside and not have to lean over to hold/be held by.
I love little guys. I’m 6’3 215 big dick top. First experience with a little guy, he was 5’1 105 flyweight wrestler and he could take it like a man. We fucked for a long span of time. He’s #1 on my list and always will be. More recently I have been amazed by this little little guy, 4’11 about 110. How he fits it in there I don’t know but he loves to make me cum inside. Little guys rock!
5’6″ with a long fat pipe to make my tall very masculine bttms weep… Short guys are easy. I prefer the challenge. #tallbottomslayer
I’m 5″7 and versatile. I would rather not top someone taller than me.
i just think thats the problem with labels, cause perhaps people just end up judging a book by its cover and take it as the absolute truth, , i like both short and tall or my height as well! i can be interested in many things sexually, i don’t mind seeing a tall guy being a bottom at all, the bigger they are the harder they fall, and ya ever meet a guy very short good shape, and a monstor cock to go with it, but than at times i do too like a tall guy to be able to cover every inch of me hehe, and sometimes i like my height too, because even if there are many similarities, u can have something in common but yet discover the different likes and wants with someone who still has somethings in common, but than again i am nuts, but honest,
I am 5′ 5″, everyone is taller than I am, why should it bother me, you are what you are, nothing can change that
My husband is a Dom top. 6’6″ I am a sub bttm 5’8″ works great for us in many ways
Im short bottom. I mean its not a huge deal but im 5’6/5’7 and id prefer a taller top, but there are times i like guys my height for the cuteness. I do feel safer with a much bigger guy, as i tend to not defend myself because i dont like conflict but back on topic, as a shorter bottom, i do prefer bigger guys, in height and/or size.
Seems like everyone here equates height with the mechanical sex act, but I don’t see it that way at all. Yes, height is a major thing with me, but for a different reason. For the record, I’m 5’9″, and sometimes it seems like almost every gay guy is over 6ft and it’s getting harder to find guys that are my height.
The reason height is important to me is that I want to be able to “tune in” to a guy on as deep of a level as possible…..and most importantly, I want to be able to look into his eyes on a straight level, not up or down, on a equal one to one level…..to be able to feel a special and deep connection with him….and yes, this is all before any sex takes place. I know it sounds corny and all, but I’m a very romantic person….can’t help it, it’s just the way I’m wired. And yes, being this way makes it almost impossible to find a guy, but I would rather do without sex than go around hooking up with guys that I can have no true connection with. Yeah, it’s very lonely, but that’s how I am, and that’s how it is….what do you do.
I’m 6’4 tend to bottom more than I top, but what position I’m in doesn’t make my height preference any different. I prefer someone in similar height. Shorter men just require much more flexibility when in the bed. Nothing is worst than having someone kick you in the shin while laying next to them. My reality is though most men will be quite shorter than I am.
Stereotypes and research are nothing more than social constructs and hypotheses partially proved. I’m an uber-endowed topman who stands 5’7″. To this day, it amazes me that potential suitors, 95 percent of whom are much taller than me, always know that I’m a top. I’ve never gone out of my way to masculinize myself, and am muscular but lean. What’s even more amazing is that I am almost 64, fifteen years older than I own up to – and I get hit on constantly by much younger men. I always ‘fess-up post-sex – and they cum back. Want an even better one…? I’m Black and usually attract VGL, well-educated, intelligent, professional white men – who are exactly my type. True story: I raised my two as a divorced, custodial parent. My younger offspring, who graduated from Williams College, took me to Cancun to celebrate her 25th. After a few hours on the beach, my beautiful daughter remarked, “Dad, you’re getting more attention than I am”. She couldn’t have been prouder. A younger couple actually stared at me for a full hour, so I finally took a short swim and watched them gasp as I emerged from the sea with my EnormousCock lurking beneath my white Giorgio Armani barely-there swimsuit. Yup, Dad’s looking for a husband.!!
Tall man here that loves guys like you.
In my 30+ years of dating, I tend to follow that…when I was younger and more sub/btm, I went for taller (and older), and when fully vers, about the same size. Now I do enjoy fun-sized (btm) guys quite a bit. But I also think my dates self-selected along those lines as well in order for it to work. But plenty of exceptions – lol !
i am 5″7, and i love guys taller than me, i feel overprotected when i am in his arms, taller and bigger than me. as a bottom and i know most bottoms feel the same.
I have dated both taller and shorter men, I have also dated guys the same height. I have never found any differences in height being a problem. It’s the man you like or love not how tall or height challenged they are.
I enjoy getting a sucked more than I do bottoming.
I think height differences are hot AF, but it’s only when I bottom that intake note of height differences. Maybe it’s the established concept of dominance society created, but getting topped by a tall guy is a lot of fun. When I man gets on his knees for me, I couldn’t care less
Totally versatile guy, here. 6″1″, 185 . . Love sex with men. That’s all.
Nothing better than feeling a 6’6″ muscle guy quivering as I lay pipe! Also love to buck the stereotype that me, a trim, decent shape guy is topping the muscular, masculine guy. My height range is usually 5’8″ to whatever. Picking up and changing positions with a smaller guy (top or bottom) can be fun. Physically dominating my sex partner has nothing to do with being a top or bottom. Lots of options. And I like to explore them all!
What, I don’t have a choice, I’m well over 6’6 even. It’s all I’ve even known, I wouldn’t even know what or how to act with someone my own height, lol!
5’5″ here & tired of people thinking I’m a bottom or verse. Total top here.
I’m 5’10” totally top and consider myself short. All my friends are over 6’2″. Never really gave much thought to it until the other day. I met a guy that was 5’1″. I came to his place and the size threw me off. I read his stats but it never dawned on me. I am not really hung up on a persons stats so I don’t care. When he opened the door I was taken back. He had a towel wrapped around him and I could see he was already hard. The clothes came off and I got him in His bed and fucked him. It was amazing. His shoulders were like right there. I was Able to pull him onto me real hard and he was moaning very loudly (my kryptonite). I felt like a giant. He looked at me with the rolled back eyes. I knew I did my job corectly. I’m now adding short guys to my fetish list.
I am a very tall bottom in clevelnd/akron and have found 2 in many years that are taller than I. More of a bottom, constantly asked to top. Although not opposed to a thick thighs bubble butt. I have found many men turned off by my height and being a bottom.
I am a total versatile guy, and I have dated men taller than me and also men shorter. A persons height doesn’t matter much to me it’s “Who” he is of his physical stats.
I’m a submissive bottom. So there is something utterly sexy about standing in front of my top and looking into his eyes while i reach down his pants and feel his cock grow in my hands.
Just my thing.
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