Dating : Being Single on Valentine’s Day

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So, it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow and you are single. It’s no big deal although I must admit there was once a time I used to agonize about it. And no, I wasn’t single because of the lack of people to date as there were plenty of fish in the sea. It was because I wanted to be with the right person, the one. 

But then I realized that Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love. It doesn’t matter what kind, it is love and that is all there is to it. I have, therefore, learned to celebrate the day of love in a fun way from then on

1- As a family day. Go out with the entire family and it is sure to be a happy day. Take them to a nice restaurant, eat good food with them, and maybe watch a movie together at the theater afterwards. These are simple activities but the smile on each of the family member’s faces is priceless. You are spending time together, sharing love, making memories as a family, and that’s what makes the day precious.

2- As a Day of Love and Friendship. When I was in college I used to spend the day with my friends. We went hang out at the park and then eat lunch together at our usual café before watching a movie in the theater. It was fun, I tell you. You guys don’t have to go out, just watch a movie at home with them, or maybe play a video game over sushi or your favorite pizza and wine or beer whichever you prefer.

Or, you can throw a party. Again, when I was in college, Valentine’s Day was the only day every single dorm in the university was open to everybody. We decorated our rooms, just balloons really, to make the atmosphere more festive. Then we served food which we kept simple and cheap (hotdogs, fries, fruits, juice) as we were after all, students and broke, but we had the time of our lives and that’s what matters the most. I got to know my roommates’ friends and they got to know mine and we took tons of pictures together. That was fun times.

If distance and time don’t make these things possible then maybe send them chocolates, gifts, and greetings cards. Just a way of saying: “hey, I remembered you today and always. Thanks for the friendship.”

3- As a Me Day. Ever heard of the saying love yourself first before you love another? There’s a reason for that, which is: we need to love and be happy with ourselves first if we want to love and make others happy.

We live in a rat race and it can be tiring. We may have cars, money, a house but we work sixteen hours a day and we are exhausted. When was the last time you spent a quiet day by yourself? If you’re always working or hanging out with friends and family, why not spend a quality time alone? Go watch that movie you’ve been meaning to watch, or read that book, or play that video game why not? Or go on a road trip, maybe check out that hot spring, or this: get that much-needed quality sleep (although you don’t have to wait for Valentine’s Day for this, seriously. Sleep is important!).

It’s just that a relationship with another person is built on the quality time we spent with them, the memories we share together, how we make each other happy. At the end of the day it boils down to this: how can we make someone else happy if we cannot make time even for ourselves? If we cannot make ourselves happy? Always remember that everything starts with our relationship with ourselves.

With that said, advance Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! How are you planning to spend the day tomorrow? What is your most memorable Valentine’s Day ever? Share it with us in the comments section below.