Gay Stuff : Open Relationships & 3 Some
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Greetings and Salutations to the A4A Blogosphere! Did you all miss me? …didn’t think so.
Anyways, we’ve had a busy few weeks here at the office and I simply haven’t had the time to write all of you. I decided that while my team was away in Europe drumming up new business, I am going to take advantage of some quiet time and write a bit about a topic that I’ve discussed/debated with friends for years : Open Relationships.
I’d bet my paycheque (or paycheck for our American friends reading) that all of you reading right now have an opinion, story, and experience to share with the rest of us! **Disclaimer, I ain’t offering up my pay so just forget it. I need to buy a new sofa and we’ll get into that subject on a later blog post, so just forget it!**
I’ve never had an open relationship – I think partly because of my own internalized insecurities that the guy I am dating will up and leave me for someone better. Being from farm country, the grass is always greener phrase takes on a whole new meaning for me. Anyways – the idea of my boyfriend screwing around with another guy is something I just can’t accept personally. Call me a prude, rolls your eyes to the back of your head, I don’t care. It is just how I feel.
That said – to give me some form of redemption here, I do have a mini story to tell about an experience I had roughly 10 years ago. I was invited out to a club with some friends, night was great, music was awesome and the boys were cute. After my 5th double jack & coke I was invited to an after party at some dudes place with a buddy of mine. I decided to go since it was close to the apartment I was living at the time, and I didn’t have to shell out the $15 on my own for the cab ride out of the downtown core. We arrive at the apartment and unknown dude (I can’t remember his name) promptly turns on, what he deemed “mood music” and offered us each a beer. I noted the apartment was a small bachelor with a teeny tiny bathroom to my right and a crap load of DVD’s on the floor and a messy double bed. The guys come around from the kitchen galley – they’re both shirtless (I wonder why since I found it a bit drafty), the next thing I know they’re playing tonsil hockey and pants are falling off. In stunned silence I lower myself to the floor and just sit there watching, mostly because the only exit to the room was being blocked by my friend and his boy-of-the-hour. They sure got into things good and heavy before they realized I hadn’t offered to jump in. I have to say that it was a mighty hot experience from a spectator standpoint but after they started getting hardcore into it, and the fact my drunk was wearing off… full on prude mode kicked in and I left faster than it took for the two of them to start stripping.
This was a defining moment in my sexual exploits because up until that point the only sex I had been privy to was my own. To bear witness to a friend and his trick getting it on had a certain air of eroticism that got me wondering if I would allow someone to witness me and a sexual partner sit and watch me getting it on.
So tell me gents – I want to see some stories about an experience with or without your significant other. Did someone watch? Did you post it online for the world to see? Share with us your arousing memories of past or present escapades in the comments section. Don’t forget to check out the hot scene featuring the newest addition to NextDoorRaw Ty Thomas, and veteran actors Jake Davis and Markie More here!
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on the personal side I think that this is a bad idea for me. As most Cancer’s have a jealousy bone in them. However, with me I would be willing to try it. As long as both persons are okay with it. this also brings up the thought of marriage, that happens here ? And then there They would also have to be two male’s. And both of them be Gay males, and I’m not into females.
just the pic u posted was enuf 2 excite me ! very erotic!
I lost several friends to AIDS in the ’80s due to cheating spouses in a supposedly “committed” relationships, where “hubby” would traipse off to the tubs after work, telling other hubby “I’m working late!” By the same token, we’re seeing skyrocketing new HIV infection rates among couples in “open relationships” now. According to what surveys I’ve seen, 90% of gay male couples have one or their other (or both) partners either “cheating” or in an “open relationship.” I don’t think gay men will ever “get it” about monogamy. I know my experience with exes proves me right. What about yours? If you’re gonna be a ho, be a ho and at least be honest about it. At least the other half can put on the body armor as a defense…(which sort of negates the whole anti-disease benefit of being a couple anyway.)
You do know about condoms and PREP, right?
guys lie about prep, wear a condom!
Every relationship is different. ‘Nuff said.
Agreed. I’ve been in closed and open relationships. The only people ever cheating were the guys I played with. LOL
Ive never been in a relationship, i find myself always getting bored anyway. Plus like they use me for dcik i use them for ass. Anyway, recently i went to a fcuk session and the bttm was getting done right and there was a random dude in there. He’s the friend of the bttm. So after i do my thing lv. i text how awesome it is days later i get a message saying that ole boy wanted a open relationship with me. oil this day I’m stunned and not sure if I’m feeling it. what should i DO?
Wait, so I thought this was going to be a thoughtful discussion on open relationships or nonmonogamy in general, but it’s a post about watching a couple guys get it on and a solicitation for sexy stories that may or may not involve a romantic partner? Let’s file this one under Voyeurism or Erotic Stories maybe…
I think you first have to establish trust in a relationship which could take some time. Also, there needs to be a willingness to open up and be vulnerable. Make certain no secrets are left out. If a couple can do that then they may be able to handle opening up their relationship. But, I’d suggest starting with threesome and group play. If there is a tinge of jealousy from either side, then it becomes necessary to reevaluate the relationship and the complexity of multiple partners.
Your topic is misleading at best. Watching your friend get it on with a trick bears nothing on the discussion of open relationships. Though it’s appreciatedone that you want to cultivate a discussion about open relationships, you really missed the mark on the introduction.
With that being said…
Whatever ones thoughts are on an open relationship is just that, their thoughts. I find it ironic that as a community we preach openness and acceprance of a lifestyle that some outsife the community don’t agree with. Yet, we still chastise and judge within our own comminity whether it be HIV or relationships, as apparent by TIREDOFIT’s post above.
The fact is, what works for some doesn’t work for all. It is up to each couple to decide what works for them. Having an adult discussion with your partner should you wish to have an open relationship, is key. Partners who not only cheat and have unprotected sex is a completely separate topic. That’s not an open relationship. Setting boundaries, understanding what’s allowed and what’s not, and discussing safer sex is part of establishing a successful open relationship. Being honest and communicating are at the top of that list.
I’ve been with my husband for 6 years. We are both HIV+. We are also in an open relationship.
What makes our relationship work is that honesty and communication. We talk about out sexual encounters with one another (often in graphic detail), and are open about our status with out sexual partners and take the appropriate precautions.
It doesn’t work for everyone. Just like having kids or getting married. We need to stop with all the stigmas and start supporting one another. Just because someone is too naieve or ignorant to understand something, doesn’t make it wrong.
After I posted the latest comment, a longtime HIV+ guy I knew up here died in his sleep last night of blood clots in the lung due an out of control fungal lung infection that went acute because of compromised T-cell count due to long term infection. Anyone who thinks that this “Just take a pill!” shit that Gilead is promoting is real needs their head examined. It also proves my point about the value of monogamy in a relationship. I know most of you out there don’t like that “because you get bored” so quickly. If you’re one of those, you may want to consider treatment for ADHD from a competent psychiatrist. His hubby of 30 years (legally married for 3), although he was pissed at his partner’s infidelities and the endless stream of skanks in and out of the house, is devastated. Oh him? He’s still neg. Why? He kept hubby out of his ass and stayed away from the skanks. OK, tallying up a long-held list of mine, that makes 213 men I’ve known dead of HIV infection since early 1980. He died after just turning 55. The funeral is tomorrow at 3.
Yeas ago while living in West Hollywood, I met this wonderful man and we hit it off right away and I thought this it I have found the one. We had many things in common and he was always willing to try anything new and fun. About a three years into the relationship he talked about open relationships and what I thought about them. Although, I was curious I never went further than a thought in my mind. But he wanted to try and see how it felt. I explained that I didn’t want to experience it but would give it some thought. And I also told him must think about it as well. I had heard that one guy may like one guy more than they other and feeling got hurt. I was the built one and my guy was the hairy one and a swimmers body. Finally, a guy was found to join us and at first we all talked to get comfortable and then went wild. As it turned out the guy like muscle and hung, not into very hairy my guy. Plus I have more up front. My guy was devastated and cried. I got the both of us out of there and we went home together. We both couldn’t get past the mess and broke up 6 months later. So, I think open relationship are only for a special small group of men.
I imagine there must be a few guys out there that are single and would be happy with one man in their life. I think these double-dippers make it a bit more difficult for the rest of us. Personally, I don’t like to share; if my partner (should there be one) needed someone else to satisfy him rather than me, I’d let him go to pursue the other man—I’m satisfied with monogamy, but I guess there are all kinds of people out there….
I’m with you on this Kevin. I don’t like sharing the man that I’m with and having an open relationship or threesome shit is very confusing. If I’m with someone and he mention about having threesome then I would let him know it’s not for me up front whether he like it or not.
I think it’s a great idea to have a open relationship as long as everyone use protection and it’s a mutual agreement. I don’t think it should not be discussed at all and just done on occasions when your significant other is not available. Rules and guidelines should be agreed on like maybe no kissing or no oral or maybe no penetration. This is a very complex matter and I think I would agree to be in one. I tend to like variety in sexual partners. As a african American every once in a while I want a white guy to join me in my bed. I may like the way he eat ass or suck dick. In a open relationship I wouldn’t have to lie and cheat to sneak around and get that good white tougue and lips every once in a while…. Lol.
Thought this was about open relationships? Story is more so about watching your friend hookup with a rando.
Anyways, I’ve never done the open relationship thing before but wouldn’t mind being in one. The idea of a significant other and I being intimate with a 3rd party or another couple is pretty hot. As long as their a decent level of trust and open-mindedness behind it, shaking it up once in awhile is fun, exciting and rejuvenating.
I remember being drunk in a one on one before and got the idea to invite other people to join in. Even after the first guy came and went (literally and figuratively) we were still horny. Five guys later we were finally spent after having came several times back to back. The inclusion of each new guy brought on a new excitement and was pretty reinvigorating as there was no 10-15 minute rest required.
I had never been in a group setting let alone a threesome before then but afterwords I found that having an occasional romp with another guy or two to be a refreshing way to spice up a relationship, whether it’s with a significant other or a regular F-bud. I just have yet to find someone who is as open-minded as I am and doesn’t get jealous at the smallest things like a text message notification sound or a Facebook pic like.
To save the haters some time: Yes, everyone wore protection. No, no one has HIV. Yes, I get tested regularly regardless of regular condom use. Yes, I know all about PreP.
I was in love with s guy who pleased me in every way. Bad thing is I didn’t please him. He needed his Tina which brought on other guys and naked bodies
Which lead to cheating.
I tried to find a guy who I could let him play with to scratch that itch but I got moved out of the equation emotionally. Now I’m facing domestic violence charges cause when I asked him to leave and be with someone else. The lying started and he shoved me and now I have a broken heart and legal trouble
I allowed my spouse to have an open relationship during our 2nd year of our relationship. He was exposed to HIV. We broke up due to that relationship before he could expose me to HIV. To this day I would rather break up, end it, move the fuck on before “opening up” a current relationship. My cock responds way better(10% bigger) to intimacy coupled with genuine affection. No way that happens with a quick cumdump trick.
I love my man and he loves me, and we have a great time together in and out of the sack. But he has always had a thing for hot chocolate, so we advertised for a hot black guy. And we got one! He adds a different dimension to our love life and this has been going on for 3 years now. It’s been a good thing. We still treasure our intimate time together but from time to time we have our gorgeous marital aid Andre.
Monogamy
Monogamy can be the gorilla glue in a relationship. Good sex remains in our minds encouraging us to remember and miss that exciting partner. Good sex with my partner has me yearning for him and realize the importance of our sexual relationship so as not to squander sex with a bloke met in a bar, public restroom or any get-together. It’s important for me and my partner to look forward to being together and working on it as a team. Get the gorilla glue into your partnership and enjoy each other as fully as you can so both of you reach nirvana, or at least enjoy the journey.
My partner and I have been together for just about 6 years, in an open relationship from the start. I’m older than him, and when we met he was only 21 and hadn’t had much experience. I remember what my early 20’s were like, and I didn’t want him to one day be 30 years old and resenting me for not letting him live and have fun. It’s an arrangement that we seldom take advantage of, and we have very structured rules about it and communicate about each encounter and make sure all precautions were taken, etc. Only recently did we actually share someone together for a 3-way (his first, and it’s hard to find someone who wants us both due to our age and body type difference). We get tested regularly, and together as a couple. There’s never a fear of cheating mostly because we’re both good at compartmentalizing, and quite frankly, neither of us have time to try and establish anything regular on the side. It’s not for everyone, because you do have to keep jealousies in check, but if there’s open communication, it’s possible to have a healthy open relationship
Good for you Neal, for expanding your sexual inhibitions! Assuming you’ve watched porn, seeing a live performance does indeed have an “air of eroticism.” You shouldn’t have felt the need to leave, as they knew you’d be watching. Nor did you have to feel you were forced to participate. Simply stating you were enjoying the show most likely would have been appreciated.
If you are having high quality sex with someone on a regular basis, having a voyeur or two enjoying your action can be empowering. It doesn’t require them to join in, you can warm up to that later. A bathhouse or sex party would be a safer way to dip your toe in the voyeur/exhibition or threesome/group scene. Sex is supposed to be fun, enjoy it!
This is a subject that I could go on about for days……Early in life, I was married to a woman. We didn’t start out with an open relationship but it definitely ended up that way. Our first experience together involved her cousins husband. He was a truck driver and ended up staying at our house for a night (because it was closer than his place)
Long story short, his dick (massive and mushroom headed if I might add) ended up in both of us. It was our first extracurricular activity as well as my first experience with a male. It turned out to be a very bad idea. She apparently felt that it was essentially permission to sleep with whom ever she wanted. Tumultuous relationship to say the least. We ended up divorcing because she slept with everyone. The same day that we got divorced, she got remarried to a guy that she was fucking. 3 months later I ran into her in a store. We started fucking again, lol. Her husband found out and was pissed. Fuck him, he was an idiot anyway. She ended up popping out 4 kids and none of them were his. 4 years later, I ran into both of them. We all ended up naked and in a pile. And yes, I plowed his ass harder than anyone has ever seen. They are still married today.
An open relationship can work for some, but definitely not for others.
I am currently in a relationship with a very understanding man. I have been working for about 10 years as a “nude electrician”.
Needless to say, when working nude, there are opportunities every day. I have what would be deemed as “permission” but I don’t pursue it (out of respect). I don’t like the idea of an open relationship. If he (or I) find someone that strikes our interest, we talk it over and then make it a 3some. We don’t consider it to be open, but we also recognize that we are men and have urges and attractions. We are definitely monogamous, but not selfish enough to think that we should be shackled to each other 100% …..if that makes sense.
i normally do massages for practice on my days off during the week. i have a few local college boys who stop in for top to bottom rubbdowns and once inside my apartment back door they immediately lock it to keep anyone from walking in. i have a “just walk in” policy if they know i am off work that day, so some are just extra careful to be sure the door is locked. well one afternoon a local college basketball player comes over and the dude is almost 6’10” tall so he has to lay sideways on the bed. he is in the room about 3 or 4 minutes and i am starting his massage and the back door opens up and the sunshine bursts through and in walks a buddy who has helped me on occasion with doubledecker massages. the basketballer almost justs straight up in the air because he apparently forgot to lock the door.
so my helps says ‘should i leave’ and the basketballer says ‘nah, its cool’ and so i kept massaging while my buddy gets down to his underwear and starts to help me. another minute goes by and the door bursts open again and i start to laugh and said “hurry in and lock that damn door” so the buddy does as he’s told and sits on the bedroom couch to watch. the basketballer stops shivering with nervousness after a few minutes and whispers to me that my guest sitting on the couch and massage his legs if he wants to which of course my buddy obliges.
so its me at 6’3″ and my helpers at 5’8″ and the basketballer all listening to the music and helping this college punk get his tripledecker massage going. i kept thinking to myself that once the basketballer turns over all eyes were going to get the treat of their lives and I WAS NOT WRONG AT ALL. college brat turns over and 9 solid hard and thick inches is sticking straight up pointing to the ceiling. my helpers are STUNNED at the sight and i just nod my head and say ” go ahead and someone lick while i have a seat and enjoy…..
so one helper is sucking balls and one is trying to enjoy the massive piece of cock which he is struggling with since its a pure beauty and just leaking like crazy. they switch places a few times and i am just thinking to myself, “WOW this is just TOO DAMN HOT FOR WORDS….”
both helpers turn to me with that look of SHOCK and AMAZEMENT and give me a nod and i tell them, “SORRY guys this dude has a gf and only enjoys ORAL” so with that they both just take turns enjoying the cock and the body and the muscles until the basketballer explodes like a true horny STUD and not one drop of cum is missed.
the helpers lean over to me and thank me and i tell them to have a seat beside me because the show is not over yet. so once we are all on the couch, the Basketballer stands up and walks to the shower with the big hard boner still straight out in front of him leading the way. My friends were quiet for a long time and then saying thank you and thanks for that! Out walks the college brat drying off with a towel. we chat alittle about the day and the weather and once the basketballer is dressed he shakes both of my helpers hands and gives me a quick peck on the cheeks and out the door he goes. As he looks back before closing the door he says “I am really glad i forgot to lock that door, later!!”
I am a 1 on 1 kind of person. It would not be for me. I do know couples that have an open relationship but I am just not built that way. I give 150% when I am intimate so I just don’t see why he would want an open relationship! HE AIN’T MISSING A THING WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!! LOL
I’m with the user “nonmonogamous”, I’m scratching my head at the title of the blog vs. the content. What is you want to discuss? Open relationships or random threeways?
Hell no. Taking me this long to even get a boyfriend I ain’t bout to share
The simple fact of the matter is that if someone is going to leave you for “someone better” they are going to leave you whether you’re in an open or monogaymous (sic) relationship.
Gay men are so NOT monogamous, so why force that onto a relationship? Because people do not understand the psychology of monogamy.
There are three types of monogamy:
SOCIAL monogamy / we are a couple in public
EMOTIONAL monogamy / we are “the one” for each other but we can fuck others
SEXUAL monogamy / you sure as hell had better not be fucking anyone else
I can be socially and emotionally monogamous, but life is too short to have sex with only one person.
I will be savaged for saying this, but this is how many of us actually think behind the politically correct bullshit of gay couples being like straight couples except it’s two men.
We are wired differently and an open relationship will last longer than one with forced monogamy.
Men, in general, just have never really been good at monogamy. Maybe it’s they way they were built at the factory.
Gay guys are even worse at it. Many of them seem to fall into the “I just want a hookup” trap. It’s a place where connections are not made. It’s a place where “give-and-take” is only about “take”. Long term, these guys become challenged when it comes to the work and “give-and-take” long term relationships require.
While I understand some guys do truly want a “one and only forever”, the odds are against them. Few are successful, but they are rare.
Personally, I’m an “open relationship” guy. And the guys are hang with are the same, for the most part. Yes, a few really would like a “one and only” but they realize that the chances are that are low. As a group, this “herd” is open to being “open”. Over the years, we have played singly and sometimes in threes or more as schedules allow. There’s friendship between some of us; more between some others of us. But the one thing there isn’t, is “one and only”. And a second thing there isn’t … voyeurism. When more than two guys play, everyone plays. That seems to be an unspoken rule. For me personally, it’s creepy. And I don’t relish being used as soneone’s “free live porn.”
I don’t understand why gay guys in general don’t seem to embrace the “open” concept” When you hang out with your “buds”, there’s sex. There’s also discussion about work, life, family, politics and more after the fun is over. All in all, it’s a sane place between “hookups” and “one and only”. It may not work for all guys. That’s understandable because all guys are different. For me, it’s an option that fits.
I wish the advertorials were marked as such. I too was hoping for a thoughtful discussion.
some guys can make open relationships work. some can’t. some guys are in committed, monogamous relationships but their partners aren’t.
another mess
My partner and I have almost been together for quite a few years now (since the start of college) and started out having a very traditional monogamous relationship. We were perfect for each other in pretty much every way, and quickly fell head over heels. We started slow with sex, but when we got to anything more than oral, we both told each other that we preferred to be on bottom. We could have ended the relationship right then, but we were really such an amazing fit that we wanted to figure out a way to make it work. At first we both tried topping each other, but it was pretty apparent that something was still missing. Instead of giving up, we talked…a lot. We decided to try having an open relationship and see how it felt for both of us.
I’m the more outgoing of the two of us, so he wanted me to try it first alone, just to see how we both felt afterwards. I went out that night, found a hung top and got fucked for a couple hours. I felt great about it and he ended up being really turned on when i told him what had happened. He tried it too on his own and I ended up feeling much the same way. Instead of continuing to do it apart, we started to find a couple of tops who would come over and fuck us regularly together. We started having amazing consistent sex and both of us couldn’t be happier about it. I love watching him bottom for another guy and he loves watching me take it. We will still ocassionally play solo, but we still tell each other about it. Our only rule is that we keep it to just sex with the other guys.
This only works for us because we have great communication with each other. Some people will judge and say that we don’t have a true relationship or true love, but I will disagree vehemently. While we’re not monogamous, we’re committed to each other and have been making this work for us for years now. Monogamy can be great, but so can being in an open relationship. Both take communication and effort. Whatever you decide to do in your relationship, just make sure that your partner is on board. Talking about it can be hard at first, but my partner and I are glad that we did 🙂
Ditto. It has worked for me and my husband for 21 years and for two of my friends who have been together for over 50 years.
I was in a relationship 18 ,and after 2 yes the topic of open relationship came up,almost got into it but we look and each other and we just knew it was not right, and at the end we knew that most of these open relationship will end up bad.and u have the 1 guy is going to be more into 1,very rare that there will be a perfect match,so with that said, why be in a relationship
This topic is a debate I have had with myself for years. Mature man here ,professional educated, sexual masculine top.For what ever the reason I have always had the desire to share my partners and have
I have had three major relationships. Each one I invited men to share my bed and my partner, none ended because of it. Fair track record as gay relationships go, Ten years, six years and eighteen years, currently in forth relationship five years and counting.
I use to drive myself crazy trying to figure my self out, why I found it so sexual to share. and finally mid way in life ,I asked my self, even if you had your answer would you enjoy it less? or not want to do it? the answer was a resounding NO. After that day I stopped think about why.
I may remark, all my husbands were open to the idea .I believe it more common than even suspected, in the right situation. We are gay men.
To me to worry that you could loose your lover to an other just really means you doubt the importance of your relationship to your partner, sex is only sex! If you mated with someone that is only about or interested in sexual pleasure, well then the relationship is short lived any way.
To me it is a giving aspect, I really do love to turn on and pleasure my partners in every way, to see them leak over having two cocks at the same time, panting like a dog in heat, is the real turn on.
My current husband which I believe to be the last one , certainly the best one.
Smooth fit hung Latino , was recently a divorced dad when I met him.
Very low miles and basically little experience, He actually thought of him self as a top.
Being an experienced aggressive top man with much experienced, i enjoyed bring him out and showing him around a bedroom and what that was between two men. It was not long I showed him the bottom experience and he was a natural, all that nonsense of being a top quickly went away.
spent a year laying on my back letting him ride my thick seven point five at his on pace and breaking him in.
He had missed out on a lot of fun coming out so late in life,at forty five.
He looked much younger and had a very nice body. It didn’t seam fair to me he had missed out on the sexual experience of being gay.
I was the only cock he had taken in him and the guy was a natural submissive bottom,
A year or more had past by, we were tight enjoying each other and our life, we had moved in together, exchanged promises and commitments.
One day came along and I met this very handsome BI man, married,white masculine and very hung , a solid eleven inches ,on Adam 4 Adam , we talked online several times over a few months. He was intrigue about my relationship with this fresh bottom masculine Latino i partnered with, and to be honest, that he was a bit submissive.
I had always been open to my partner about my past and my interest that we at some point invite in a third.
One night everything lined up and I invited this handsome stud over, we had a few drinks and were talking, He stood up unzipped his pants and showed his cock to my partner , at that time I told my lover he was there to fuck him..
He was so conflicted , scared, so turned on, and embarrassed his husband was there .
The man walked up and just stood there that big white cock hanging in my mans face.
he was trembling as he reached for the huge cock and guided it between his lips.
I sat back, slide a hand i my pants and let them get to know each other and bond a little.
After nearly an hour of the ultimate male bonding experience, my guy sucking and licking every fraction of his cock and balls I suggested we move to the bedroom, My guy was completely torn scared to death of that huge cock and wanting it like any good bottom would.
He placed him on his knees in the bed, I remember him with this evil grin on his face as I watched him flex his pecs and abs as he moved in behind my little tight Latino.
He entered him and as expected a loud moan, just able to except six or or seven inches of the total shaft due to the large girth of him.
He fucked him slow, as was easy as he promised me he would prior to our hook up
I actually cum when he penetrated him. They fucked a little , my guy enjoyed it a little quicker than I expected, reaching down between his legs for the studs low ass slapping balls, and gently stroked them as the huge dick stoked his ass.My guy exploded,
The stud , determined to open this tight little Latino ass with that big cock, returned four time with in that next two week, He call, I was too turn on to say no, and my guy was in heat 24 hours a day, after the first encounter and by that time i needed the help, my cock was sore from all the attention.
Finally on the fifth time over in that a week or two, he put him on his knees again on the bed bent him over and gently fucked until he was balls deep in my man, I remember the moaning of pleasure, he kissed the back of my guys neck and took his ass from him and fucked him with that huge horse cock, My guy cum three times. When the stud finished he rolled of him and slapped my guy on his ass pretty hard and said “well now boy, your not tight any more!” I cum again right there and then. By the way it wasn’t true , two weeks later it was like it never happened. But I do admit the next day when I had to tie a two by four on my ass so I didn’t fall in , I was a bit worried.
So, at the end of the day. How could I have deprived him of this hot experience?
It was an experience him and I shared, the stud was nothing more than a tool to provide pleasure.
I also didn’t want him to thirst for other sexual experiences because he had none.
It would be a lot to expect a handsome good looking man to stay true not knowing.
AS I showed him how sex was between to men, I showed him how it was to have other men.
I did not make him choose, he has both.
Our relationship is very sound, The great amount of trust in a relationship is required for this open relationships to succeed. It takes two very real people, committed with the attitude they are maneuvering life together, They are satisfied and completed by the other,
To me although very different, a sexual experience enjoyed together is like sharing some great food, a beautiful sun set, or a view of the ocean or a roller coaster ride It is an experience, a memory,Together.
We still get hot when we talk about those encounters with the Bi stud.
If your curious what happened to my eleven inch buddy, satisfied he had opened a very tight bottom, and his conquest fulfilled, we never heard form him again.
Love and sex are not the same. I admit open relationships are not for everyone, but so glad it works for us!
In my opinion, I don’t believe we are scientifically created to be monogamous creatures in the first place. Both gay and straight, we are trying to make our minds and bodies do something they aren’t meant to do. Monogamy may work in the short term, but it typically doesn’t work long term.
What’s the point of having a relationship if once these guys get bored of having sex with each other after a bit, they both “agree” to have an open “relationship and end up having more sex with strangers than their own partners and won’t have sex with their partners if it isn’t a threesome where one of them gives more attention to the stranger than their partner during the sex!. If those guys want to sleep around they should stay single, get good close friends and enjoy sex, GEEZ!
I also don’t want to be tied up, give my time and energy to a guy I’m not having exclusive sex with anymore even though with get along fine. I’d keep him as a date buddy or close friend or something. This thing is too risky healthwise and also we both would have different jobs and I might be busier than him and he’d spent all day fucking around and then kissing me good evening after some stranger has cummed in his mouth an hour ago??? Not my thing sorry
I was 21 when I dated my first partner. He was 15 years older than me. Everything was good in the beginning but we had some issues in the bedroom. We were both tops. No matter how hard I tried (pun intended) I just wasn’t able to bottom for him.
It wasn’t long before I learned he was cheating on me with his ex. It might help to k ow that when he and I first met, it was at a club and he was there with his then partner and the night he came home with me, he broke up with his partner on the spot.
I of course was very upset when I learned that he had cheated. I learned that he had been cheating for quite some time. Being young and maybe naive, I didn’t want to loose this man so we agreed to have an open relationship. This made things much easier and relieved any of my jealousy that I’d had.
We even had some threesomes that was quite fun. The open relationship brought us closer as we had stopped arguing. It was working. He’d have his fun, I’d have mine and we’d still have sex wit each other.
Eventually he started having his “favorites” or “repeats.” What I didn’t know is that he was falling for one of them. One day he sat me down at his house (we never lived together) and told me that he wanted to move on form me and see ho things went with the other guy. I was devastated. We had been together for 3.5 years and this was the first guy I had ever dated and loved. My whole life had revolved around him.
He sighted his reasons for leaving me cause we had drifted apart. I used to go to his place every weekend and once during the week when I had the next day off. But gas prices had increased to over $2 a gallon (that was huge back in 2006) and I had to reduce the amount of driving I did. I drove a Camaro at the time and only made about $9.50 an hour and had to support an apartment and all the bills.
I cried, begged and pleaded for him to change his mind but it was made. He wasn’t changing his mind. So anger set in and I told him that this would be a huge mistake. He was Latino and English was not his first language. I used to go to doctor appointments to translate and ensure that he understood everything they told him. We made it through 2 surgeries with me right by his side to take care of him.
We had made mutual friends, my friends and mother loved him. I couldn’t believe that my world was crashing around me at 24 years old. But karma came back on him.
He and his brothers had bought this nice house in a nice neighborhood. After we split, they lost the house. He lost his dream car, a 2006 Nissan Xterra and lost his job. I am not saying that any of that had to do anything with me, but the timing was remarkably coincidental and I did get some pleasure out of that.
It is 10 years later and he and I are still friends. We’ve even hooked up a few times after the breakup which means, yes, he cheated on the guy he left me for with me. I too got some satisfaction out of that as well. I never met the guy that he left me for but I saw pictures and I def thought that he “dated down” as they say.
I actually just saw my ex and his husband yesterday at a local pride event. We hugged and spoke for a few minutes before going our separate ways. It took a long time, but i forgave him for leaving me and ruining my word. Eventually I was able to pick up the pieces and resume life. I’ve had 2 other relationships since then but they didn’t last near as long as ours did.
I’ve never had another open relationship after that for obvious reasons. But the lesson I learned is the grass isn’t always greener on the other side and to hold on to what you have cause there is always someone out there waiting to take what you’ve got.
I just don’t see how you can have an open relationship. If you are okay with your partner being with somebody else, how can you say you still love them?
I have been in an open relationship for the past 14 years (you could see in my profile I mention his own profile). There is no secret to share about how it has lasted so long but trust and commitment have been a key for this. We have certain rules based on what we like and feel and during our search we gravitate into guys (including couples) that are into play in 3 ways or group. We have had our share of failures but in the other hand we have met very interesting persons that have become into our friends. Also, being in this type of relationship have allowed me to experiment my abilities into the porn industry. True is that open relationships are not for everyone and I don’t blame anybody who are not into it. It could be risky like a drug but with open mind and control you would not regret it.
It would be very helpful to ur business and to members if u did a blog on how to take sexy pics of yourself, some of these guys have great bodies and lousy pics
jake wow i was so turned on by your experience with your hubby getting to enjoy the stud you found for him. I’m not in a relationship at the moment but still hopeful as a versa top i have a different dynamic that would be required in a relationship have had 2 two relationships the 1st i was ready to ask him to marry me but he had other plans. My only regret is waiting till so late to come out as a gay man, but no regrets in my life and i continue searching if any masculine latino men like older men look me up. i would love a ltr again….D
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Well I want two boyfriends that take me to bed every night and just give it to me. I’m the bottom for two hung tops and were all getting what we want and the three of us are in love! Life would be a fantasy come true.
Well, my lover and I are both strictly top. We’ve now started seriously looking for a 1RICKY2016. The willing bottoms are just not the type we’re comfortable associating with, and everyone reasonable is just way too reasonable, bordering on stiff!
I had a 12 year LTR and a 15 year LTR. Why do so many feel that non-monogamous sex in a relationships creates a situation where love can not flourish and grow and deems the relationship incapable of sustaining a long term ? I think monogamists place far too much importance on sexual desire and fulfillment, that they believe, needs to be squeezed from one person for a lifetime. That may be right for some. Wrong for others. There is a great spectrum from monogamy to fully open relationships. A couple may agree on not having any sex without one another, or maybe having rules that they both think are fair, or agree on having unlimited sex as provocative situations present themselves separately or together. As long as they are playing by the rules they set and compatible in their thinking, often the relationship flourishes. The sex 2 have in a new love will not be sustained in intensity and frequency forever. Lets face it, if there are no transitory aspects of any kind in a relationship, the word stagnant comes to my mind. There are many aspects of a relationship that can be or will be transitory. The strengths to grow on are loyalty, trust, devotion, and honesty. These characteristics build a home in each other, that stands strong. The commitment to spend your life together bound by these aspects is love. Aspects that nourish a commitment that tells us to pull away from a liaison that becomes too intense and threatens the stability of your home. Love is not the “recreation sex” that we engage in and are compelled to do by our sex drives. For many relationships, recreational sex has little bearing on the strength of love. Monogamy can also can work for many a couple, but either path, or even one in the middle. takes work, sacrifice, discussion , and honesty.