Speak Out : Community and Pride in The Face of Terror
In the twenty-eight years I’ve been alive, I’ve seen some disturbing things. Yes, everyone can truly say that, but today for me, it really hit close to home.
I know I was not the only one watching the news on days like 9/11 or the Boston Marathon. But in this day and age, do we really think or wonder what our fellow humans think or feel during these times?
As usual, the Internet is cluttered with “Stand With Orlando” or “love for Pulse” and there’s a slew of images and memes, There are outsiders that mutter “it’s just herd mentality.” Allow me to put those lines to rest. Right now, droves of people are waiting in the hot Florida sun on a Sunday to donate much needed blood in response to a sudden demand. As reactive as the citizens of “The City Beautiful” have been, why was it necessary?
It is popularly believed we now live in an age of easy outrage and entitlement. As if we are no longer worried about personal perception or empathy, with our own feelings mattering over those of the masses. No longer having the ability to put yourself in someone’s shoes because, “how could that happen to me?”
I mean after all, I didn’t go to a rock show in Paris, I’m safe in my neighborhood nightclub…..
So when you wake up to the headlines, “50 dead, 53 injured in nightclub shooting”, it really makes you think.
June is Pride month almost internationally, and all over America most bars have events and parties. Very few places rival Orlando and it’s LOADED calendar of events that just came to a close last weekend as they have for the past several decades. Every fetishized part of our culture has an event, party or more, in one of our several nightclubs, our attraction parks and in general, flooding the city with light, life and fun. Both family friendly and naughty alike.
But once again, the shadow of tragedy is cast along the tail end of our parade. Tragedy seems to rear its ugly head on the LGBT community all too often. To the world, it becomes a sad mass shooting. As a gay man, I can’t help but be reminded of this attack toppling the disgust of the New Orleans Upstairs Lounge being burned down in 1973, resulting in the death of thirty-two. That was an act of homophobia and bigotry: a hate crime. Yes “terrorism” but in a Nation currently in an ouroboros of social/religious conflict and political rivalry, this social climate certainly breeds it’s fair share of tragic targets . And it seems the aggressors race, nationality or implied religion are more villainized than their deeds.
While information is still being processed, 50 of our community members will not be seeing the rest of Pride this month.
I’ve been to Pulse Orlando, many times. Like most I’ve hit the Orlando circuit both with friends gay and straight alike, or the rare solo night out. Ever since the age of seventeen, friends and I spent our three day weekends taking the backroads to Orlando from the East coast. So many memories: the lights, the sounds, laughs and tears. Like most, the dance floor at a gay bar has seen it all. But what do we do with a massacre on the dance floor in the face of Pride?
We’re still struggling to piece together the why’s and what’s. Police are holding their press conferences as Facebook is being consumed by friends and family in outrage and mourning.
The sad truth about tragedies and events like this is that indeed, they can happen anywhere. But now what? What can we do now?
A lot of people are in a state of “I can’t believe it”, and rightly so, but myself am a why guy. Why would this man do this? What could cause someone to go into a club and kill at random fifty people?
Was this man unwell and couldn’t afford medical or mental health treatment?
Was this man a Trump following extremist?
An American ISIS conscript proving himself to the world? Was that call a legitimate pledge, or convenient justification to relieve personal guilt?
Or maybe even sadder, was he a man that was not accepted into the flock of Gay Orlando and like Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold of Columbine, was this the retaliation of an unwell man firing back at a community he never felt he belonged to and was in fact excluded?
Pride to is more than a word, or an event. For Florida, it’s an industry, it’s a lifestyle mirroring a modern Mardi Gras. Pride in Orlando generates millions into the Florida economy and if you know your way around, can be very fun, in making friends, lovers and memories that last the rest of your life. It can also be very intimidating, scary and unwelcoming if you’re not a “white adonis” with little to no body hair, who doesn’t know their way around. The perfection you see can cause years of damage and harm to someone’s ego and psyche.
“But there’s a Bear Bash is over there, and the Blacks have that club, and the Lesbians have that club and there is a party for everyone!” Correction, there is a fetish fest for everyone. Being fetishised, like having a BBC or a hairy bear belly, or being middle eastern and uncut isn’t respect, it’s sexual objectification. And having all these events at different bars and clubs isn’t a pillar of a unified community; it’s segregation. To be in-demand for a sexual role isn’t the same as being the man you spend the whole night with, let alone who you imagine coming home to. Years of actions have their consequences, be they small or large, intentional or not.
The gay community is comprised of a bit of everyone else’s communities ya know since there are more than just one, so it’s no surprise that there are a lot of conflicting voices on how an event should look or run, and who it’s main demographic are. Just the other day I saw a friend post a “Why the gay community needs a Black Pride celebration” and I sighed. If it were up to me, I’d vote for a Futurama inspired “Parade Day” holiday where it’s one day and everyone gets a float, drink and be happy that we’re all unique people who all live together….
To me, I don’t understand, because not everyone needs their own party. Not everyone needs their own event, they just have them because the main event excluded them. Maybe instead of separating ourselves from each other in tribes/cliques/troops or whatever, we should be gathering our community and remembering what’s important and what Pride really means. I believe it’s the right to be who we are and love who we want to. Not the newest flavor of Absolut vodka or that awesome “hottie”by the Bud Lite display. I feel it’s the right to be who I am in public and be accepted by my community, and that I don’t have to hide or be considered a mental disorder, or illegal.
I’ve never been quiet about my distaste when it comes to inequality within the Gay Community based on our superficial rating system of “hot or not”, and I find myself really struggling to think, “what would drive a man to do this?”
I don’t believe it was his religion. As a Satanist my religion is persecuted all the time, and I wouldn’t do anything like this, nor would any of my Muslim friends, or I’d imagine my much more populated list of Christian friends and so on.
So his name sounds “Middle Eastern”, to most Americans: so does Mahatma Ghandi.
Extremist’s come from all walks of life, just like heroes, because there are more than just “good” and “bad” people. We the LGBT community cannot allow this to be turned into a media circus calling for the blood of Islam. Not long ago, it was our blood they called for. Sexuality isn’t who we are, just as religion isn’t who they are.
These are all circumstances of a much bigger problem. And it’s important we don’t let our shock and outrage become blind fear and compliance.
To a shooter, we all look the same. To scary religious zealots, we all look the same. To the political/corporate superstructure, we all look the same.
In the face of tragedy don’t JUST change your social media profile picture “in respect” for.
No, make a real reason to change.
So this Pride, let us honor not what makes us different, but what makes us the same.
The same hearts that want love, the same hands that just want to be held and the same blood that courses through our veins. The same blood that now in Central Florida is needed, and sadly still as sexually active gay men, we can’t donate to our needy community. But our allies and City have stepped up
It doesn’t matter what our religion, skin color, weight, sex or even our society tells us. We are a community whether we like it or not. And now, in the face of this tragedy, is a time to remember these brave and traumatized souls, who to a mad gunman were just targets, not people. And remember, who at the time, were safe in their neighborhood bar.
This Pride, please, let’s all take a bigger step towards unity. Make a new friend that is outside your comfort zone. Be all that you can and help when it’s needed. Pride events all over the country and world always need volunteers, they always need help. Be the change you want to see and it can make all the difference, even to at least one person. But we shouldn’t do this because of this or any tragedy, but rather do this because it’s the right thing to do. To be a decent, caring human being is he right thing to do, now and always. Computer or phone screens be dammed, nothing beats a real face to face human connection.
Because the sad truth is, you will never know what your actions can may cause people to do. Be it feel more confident because you treated them well, or they become bitter and lost because no one would treat them with civility and kindness. When it all boils down, we’re still just the most highly evolved animals in charge of this breathing rock hurtling through space.
This Pride remember, Pride is about unity, love and understanding. Not about abs and drinking. Celebrate our lives and friendships and welcome every new face you meet, as your actions leave effects. Doesn’t mean you have to keep them forever, but a warm welcome and a conversation, followed by a “You might really hit it off with ___” is much better than a cold shouldered glance over your phone screen.
As a Floridian whose closest major city is Orlando, this day weighs heavy on my heart. Reading the pages of news reports brought me to tears a few times. Most of us have all been there: drunk and happy at the end of another Saturday night at the bar. But just one man can change everything. It’s the greatest fear of most in a big city, and even more today now. But we cannot let fear win or stop us.
For locals, a lot of support is being raised already for these victims and their families and anyone in general affected. I urge anyone who has the means to please give and help. For our straight allies and friends, help drive your straight friends to donate blood. If you can’t do that, then please, help your own community then.
This could happen in any club in America. What will make or break this situation is how the community responds. How would yours? How will mine? How will ours?
The truth about safety is: it’s only there because you have faith in your immediate surroundings/ company or community, no matter who you are, or where you are that can be shattered.
And what about his new feeling, you know, that anxiety you have now about going out to a bar ? That dull ache, fear something Earth shatteringly terrible will happen. Well in war torn areas, that’s how a lot of people live everyday. To them that’s a normal day when faced with the idea of going out.
Judgement, fear and hostility shouldn’t be a priority for any community, but rather acceptance, education and compassion should be the right of everyone.
We all cope in our own ways, and some people cope by doing horrific things. And now we grieve over this horrific incident and again I have to ask myself. Am I safe in my local bar?
Now I’m not asking or encouraging a public out in the open vigil or meeting, in fact everyone is agreeing that ‘s a bad idea right now. Private Vigil’s are popping up all over the world, I honestly don’t think this is a time not to live on and honor those lost.
If you can’t stand being alone, please go someplace and talk about this. If it’s a local gay bar, try to talk and communicate. Turn the music down and just share for a moment what those poor people lost just for having a good time. Embrace new faces, welcome them. Put down your phones. Talk and share, the middle of Community is always U.
If you’re a reader from Orlando, and you find yourself having no one to turn to, please call one of the hotlines in the link above. Be smart and perceptive, and some bars are staying open just to be there to support you. Please grieve responsibly and invite that person sitting alone for a drink.
And in the wise words of a personal idol,
“A reminder to anyone horrified by the #PulseNightclub atrocity:
#VOTINGMATTERS. A #Congress dominated by halfwits & whores will do nothing.”
@Damon Suede
Each of us has a heart and mind that are capable of anything. And we as a community now have a responsibility to show that we will stand with each other, while we may look different we are all linked by a heartbeat, a Pulse.
May the Gods watch over you and yours with the warmest regards,
BloggerBear
As long as the USA has the love for guns and easy access to guns, this will happen more and more. It’s sickening. Why isn’t this happening in the UK, Canada and other countries with gun control? (the gun crimes in Canada are isolated gang related crimes with guns smuggling in from the USA) I couldn’t imagine living in a country where any lunatic can walk into a store and buy a gun.
When a gun get’s into the wrong hands that’s when things like this happens. When it’s easily available, more and more mass shootings will happen. Until they change the laws down there, nothing will change.
Whether it’s mass shootings against children, gays, blacks, whites, it’s against Americans. ISIS wants Americans eliminated, they’re sick and twisted shit holes who will rot in hell.
Any radical Islam fuckhead in the USA that worships ISIS has easy access to guns right now and they live among Americans, they want to cause mass destruction and that’s the scary part.
The 2nd Amendment (the right to bear arms) was written in 1790, hundreds of years ago, it doesn’t work in today’s society.
How many mass shootings it will take for the government to fuckin wake up and make change? No one has the balls to do it. Until then, more shootings and more terrorism on American soil.
It doesn’t matter if someone has no criminal background when they do those checks, it doesn’t stop a lunatic for buying a gun. All it takes is someone with anger and hate.
Even now the world is bleeding
But feeling just fine all numb in a castle
Where we’re always free to choose never free enough to find
I wish something would break ’cause we’re running out of time
And I am overcome, yeah
I am overcome
Holy water in my lungs
I am overcome
These women in the street pulling out their hair
My master’s in the yard giving light to the unaware
This plastic little place is just a step amongst the stairs
And I am overcome, yeah
I am overcome, baby
Holy water in my lungs, yeah
I am overcome
So drive me out, yeah out to that open field
Turn the ignition off and spin around
Your help is here but I’m parked in the open space
But locking the gates of love
And I am overcome, oh yeah
I am overcome, baby
Holy water in my lungs, yeah
I am overcome, yeah
I am overcome, oh Lord
I am overcome, baby
Holy water in my lungs
Holy water, holy water
I am overcome
Beautiful drowning this beautiful drowning
This holy water, this holy water, is in my lungs
And I am overcome, I am overcome, yeah
Heh, I, heh, I, heh, I am overcome, I am overcome Lord
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Throughout my whole life, as a reporter, a businessman, a gay community leader,
I have tried to make people realize that the rainbow flag of the LGBT community is a symbol of love that welcomes everybody.
We are not only out, we are America. Hate cannot triumph over love. It never has. It never will.
So take pride in who you are and where you are from; and remember the simple acts of courage that it took you to get here. And let’s embrace each other as we grieve and grow.
This isn’t a hate crime towards us.
under govt watch?
He,s been going their for 3 yrs?
how many guys did he play with?
Nobody new he was crazy?
He new it was a crowded spot.
I live in tampa and I am terrified. I saw San Bernardino, I saw Paris, and Germany. I saw college and high school shootings and became almost like it was everyday life, I shook my head and went on. Sunday however, I was crippled, I still am. All of a sudden I have this fear of anything public, today I had to do errands and almost had a panic attack leaving my house. I know I’m safe, but I don’t feel safe.
It ain’t the guns, y’all… It’s evil. Wake the fuck up. Hitler used gas ( and other stuff ) to kill. Tim McVeigh used a fertilizer bomb. For the record, I’m a gay and black. But … I’m also educated and can still think. Don’t let this be turned around and twisted into a gun control issue. Do you not understand that the Muslims want US dead … along with the Jews and a list of others ?? Hell, women mean the same thing …. Kill em all. In the Muslim world, they throw us off the tallest building. Obama has protected them…. Hell, let’s bring in more of the worthless scum… by the thousands.
Hillary…. more of the same. We can’t absorb all this evil. If your religion instructs and teaches that you kill non-believers… my friend, you need a new religion. Wake the fuck up people. Don’t keep drinking the Cool-Aid…
I am active in my church… my partner and I both. It is a fairly large, 99% white …. they could not be nicer to us. ( he is white ). Fight the evil. Wake up.
Leon, you could have not said it better.!! Amen brother. Maybe if security or other people carrying, this creep would have been killed instantly.
This is Evil, in every form, it wasn’t Trump extremist, this a war that nobody is paying attention to, Obama isn’t making a stand except for gun control and when we have nothing to protect ourselves from infidels, who will be crying?
I have been out for 34 years. I find the Gay community is no different than any other part of society. We clamor and scrape for every right we get and fight those that want to suppress us. We spend generations getting the basic right all the time answering those that oppose us with the same refrain that LOVE will triumph.When events like this happen we gather together and speak as one, and yet like the rest of the world in a few weeks we will turn our attentions back to the reality that faces us. Gays will argue with lesbians, transdender will try to find a home in our community but will segregate themselves and gay men all over the world will make decisions that are superficial and shallow. I never worried about whether society as a whole could accept me for who I am. I have never been accepted by the gay community. usually because of superficial reasons. So lets keep the love in our hearts always not only in the time or loss but in our everyday lives.
JD: A mind is a terrible thing to waste.
Leon, you are exactly right.
Evil always finds a way to destroy everything in its path and will use any and all means in its arsenal of devastation.
This mentally ill individual could just as easily driven his vehicle through the front doors and may have killed more innocent citizens in an instant than the method he actually did use.
Religious extremism and radicalization are to blame here.
They will accomplish their goals using any means necessary.
Thank you BloggerBear for a thoughtful commentary.
I agree with everything you have said.
As for “Our Community” Well, You or me or someone in this community needs to start preaching that message very Loudly and Proudly!
We are nowhere near the “Community” we should be and need to be for one all!
It has never been welcoming to me, and a lot of others, and even more so now that I am a senior Gay man!
I am and have always lived my life Out and Proud regardless..
When I was young, I turned heads, that doesn’t happen anymore and I’m actually glad it does not. I am not a piece of meat, I am A MAN!
A Man that is passionate, thoughtful, compassionate, loving, giving and Proud!
I do not pray…To me it is a useless thing to do because I believe the world and the people in it only care about themselves for the most part, and if there is a god above…It is now time for that god to show the world how he or she or it, meant for this world to be and not the freeforall that it has become.
I wish there was a community feeling and people that we could gather with everyday of our lives…but that is a dream world.
I will keep the love in my heart, the compassion for all, and the hope we someday see and live in a better world than the one we have now. Even if it is a world that happens when we are all dead and gone from this hateful Earth!
Peace out…
Ron
“There is no such thing as moderate or liberal Islam. The West is on the road to sharia….Against people who are ready to die in the cause of destroying freedom, people who are not willing to speak up for freedom or fear of being called a racist or Islamophobe don’t stand much chance of victory.”
–Bruce Bawer. “Surrender: Appeasing Islam, Sacrificing Freedom,” New York: Doubleday, 2009.
“How dreadful are the curses which Islam lays on its votaries… the fanatical frenzy is as dangerous in a man as rabies in a dog… In Islamic law every woman must belong to some man as his absolute property, either as a child, a wife, or a concubine…. the influence of the religion paralyzes the social development of those who follow it. No stronger retrograde force exists in the world. Far from being moribund, Islam is a militant and proselytizing faith.”
–Sir Winston Churchill, from his book “The River War,” 1st ed., 2: 248-250. London: Longmans, 1899.
“Islam’s Jihad Against Homosexuals,” Ayaan Hirsi Ali, in the Wall Street Journal, June 14, 2016 http://www.wsj.com/articles/islams-jihad-against-homosexuals-1465859170
And let’s not forget about the bigot Donald Trump, with his smart ass attitude, we are all doomed. He is just adding fuel to an already volatile situation.
Amen, Leon. Stand tall and be heard.
Come on people, shit like this happen every presidential election. This isnt some random act of terror, this is to sway votes for gay rights and gun control. I feel sorry for those who died, but i also know there is more to this story. Wake up, same game is being played just different players
JD… I just don’t know where to start. PLEASE get some more accurate information. First off, there are countries where the percentage of guns, per capita, is higher than the U.S. And they aren’t having mayhem in the streets.
And as far as some countries with stricter gun control goes, you’re right — in some cases. They may have lower rates of gun violence, but they have higher rates of other types of violent crime. You mentioned the UK. Have you ever heard of “glassing”? It’s where you take a glass bottle, break it, then attack someone with it, hoping to cut or puncture them. We don’t have THAT problem here, right? Or maybe the Brits just need to outlaw glass bottles, especially the “high capacity” ones, you know, the ones that hold over 16 ounces, right? The problem is the PERSON, not the tool.
Since the mid-1990’s, violent gun crime in the U.S. has gone down by about 30%, even as the number of privately owned firearms has doubled. And BTW, since Australia outlawed (also in the mid-1990’s) most privately owned firearms, gun crime has dropped by about twice what ours has. But again, other crimes, e.g. burglaries and robberies, have gone up. Why? Because the criminals KNOW most citizens are now disarmed. Just like the mass shooting events I mentioned yesterday. The theater shooter in Colorado INTENTIONALLY scouted out a place that said it was a “gun free zone” for that exact reason. So again, the lesson here is that the criminal is the problem, not the firearm.
So for those want the gun laws changed… I have two questions for you. First, what, exactly, are “sensible” gun laws? Second — EXACTLY what gun law could be passed AND enforced that would have prevented the shooting SUN? Mateen obviously ignored the “gun free zone” sign, so, what other law would’ve stopped him?
And here are two more points: the VAST majority of guns that are used in crimes are STOLEN, not purchased. So again, what gun law would stop a criminal with a stolen gun? Here’s the other one: the 2’nd amendment was designed to protect citizens from harm AND to protect them from an oppressive, tyrannical government.
If you look back at the history of despots and dictators, one of the first things they did as they rose to power was to DISARM the populace. Hitler, Stalin, Mao, etc.
If we REALLY want to cut down on gun violence, here’s an idea: when someone commits a violent crime with a gun (or how’s this: when they commit a violent crime with or without one), they get locked away for YEARS. No plea deals, no early parole. They serve a full sentence.
Making a citizen less safe does NOT make a criminal less dangerous.
Leon: spot-on!
Bill: we are FAR more likely to be “doomed” by a politician who allows highly sensitive national security information to be kept on their private server (which was likely hacked by SEVERAL countries that don’t like us), placing who knows how many people and programs at risk than we are by Trump’s attitude — and no, I’m not a Trump fan, but I AM someone that’s been in the security business for 30+ years now, and as such, I say we’re less capable and safe now because of her actions.
And don’t even get me started on how many MILLIONS of dollars she (or her Foundation) has received from countries that torture/imprison/murder homosexuals.
Oh… one more question for the gun-control supporters: what’s the violent gun crime rate like in Chicago? They have THE most restrictive gun laws in the U.S.
Let me help you out with that: last month, they had the most shooting deaths that they’ve had since the early 1990’s. Yeah, they obviously need more gun laws there.
Richard : Yeah, they can just cross the street and buy guns in another state. It’s also about the citizens, education, unemployment, crimes and many other factors. Look at Australia, they banned guns since 1996. ZERO (0) mass shooting since 1996. What more does it take to make u understand?
I am sorry that some asshole had to kill innocent people. Put aside the politics. We All must take control of our personal safety. When I go out in public I make sure of knowing where the exits are, where the car is parked, listen to what is going on around. If somebody can murder an American President, anyone can get to us. We can legally take steps for self defense. Find the tools you are comfortable with and get the training. Criminals hate it when would be victims fight back. Being safe starts with you first.
I was not in Orlando, so I really don’t know what happened. However, I do know one thing for certain: The media is reporting FAKE news quite a bit of the time. The Boston marathon alleged bombing was a staged event. Ferguson, MO was a staged event. Aurora, Colorado theater shooting was a staged event. People who witnessed the San Bernadino shooting reported 3 WHITE shooters which is contrary to the alleged 2 Muslim patsy shooters.
The media is controlled by corporate elitists with an agenda: Create staged events to fool the people into demanding a ban on guns. Once the guns are banned and confiscated, total ENSLAVEMENT follows. WAKE UP people and see the the elitists assholes (George Soros, for one) who are hiding behind the curtain.
CIA is nothing more than an organized crime syndicate causing wars, toppling governments, creating staged events to further the elitist Satanic agenda of creating one world government–The New World Order that Gramps Bush spoke about. Al Qaeda and ISIS were created by the CIA to create fear and perpetuate the phony war on terror. And no planes hit any buildings on 9/11. The media showed us what looked like planes hitting buildings, but that was simply lame CGI. You would think they could’ve hired someone like George Lucas to create some top notch CGI of authentic looking passenger jets–planes with windows and painted with colors that match the airlines–“hitting” the buildings.
Also, anyone who knows a little about physics should know it’s an impossibility for an aluminum plane to penetrate a highly fortified steel structure and completely disappear inside the building. A piece of paper is not going to slice through a rock no matter how fast it’s flying. Those buildings were brought down by explosives by our own government to create the phony war on terror. Now anytime we fly, we are subjected to illegal, unconstitutional searches. If more people don’t wake up and see these scams for what they are, we are doomed.
Toby : not because u heard that at Burger King on a Tuesday afternoon that it is reality. Yeah a government kills its citizens to ban guns…WTF are u talking about. Are u an idiot? Check all the stats about guns and who can buy gun etc… its easier than buying Kinder Surprise at the corner store.
Bloggerbear, I’m not quite sure where you wanted to go with this blog but one thing that I would like to address is your perception that if someone hosts a, ‘Black Pride’ event and that ‘Not everyone need to have their own party’ and that you would rather have a, ‘Futurama themed party’.
Huh?
Has it occurred to you that by you not going to a party because it has a black theme that you are separating yourself from other members of the gay community? Has it ever occurred to you that it’s okay for blacks or other groups to make money during gay pride? Are you suggesting that because a party has a black theme that you are not welcomed?
I have been to many black themed or asian themed parties and have had a blast! I take the opportunity to go to as many parties and to meet as many different kinds of people as possible. I am always welcomed!
Of course I am not going hoping for a hookup of any kind but instead to take a breather from the status quo.
I always enjoy the people, conversation, and the food!
Two weeks ago I went to a party hosted by Georgians (the country Georgia) and I had a great time! I live in Italy so it was great to be able to do something different with people who have a different mentality than I have. The food was excellent and I discussed topics which I would not normally be able to discuss. And, I learned some new things!
I believe that it may be a good idea for you to get from behind your monitor and see the world for what it is. Travel a bit even if it’s outside of your neighborhood.
Blacks are wonderful people so I am sure that you would be a welcomed guest.
And remember that diversity starts with you so diversify you life and try not to be so uptight!
I commend the author for suggesting that a closeted Middle Eastern man who beat his wife and hit on male college friends may just have, might just have, felt excluded and angry at the treatment he received. It is also equally likely that he was an alcoholic (he apparently was loud at the bar at times), abusive because he was abused, or just plain mean. This does not justify his action but tries to understand it. If all of the above except meanness can be ruled out, it was his decision to act that way. If not, anyone who failed to reach out to him or condoned the abuse he received or put out is part of the problem. Nothing, however, nothing justifies terminating so many incredibly young (in the 20’s mostly) and largely Puerto Rican (but not exclusively) gay people who escaped oppression at home and found some kind of freedom and opportunity in Orlando that this person extinguished — perhaps because he did not have it himself. We’ll never know. But, we do know that classism, agism, weighism, and racism are alive and well in our “liberated” and “liberal” gay community. Let’s put an end to that so if this happens again, we won’t know why but we will know why not. Until then, fellow tribe members, look at ourselves and break down these lavender segregation walls. I’m sick of it myself.
I think gay voters need to get a lot more intelligent with how they vote. Granted 2016 is a lose/lose proposition with Trump and Clinton, but I digress.
In 2012, Obama did not want to face the reality that he had DOUBLED the all time debt of every President before him in 2.5 years, so he made noise elsewhere.
The “Republican War on Women” was manufactured and sheeple women whipped into a frenzy about an issue that didn’t exist all in the name of getting votes.
Obama then banked of sheeple gay voters not being able to connect the dots and came out in favor of gay marriage despite his prior vehement rejection of gay marriage.
He wanted voters to think he could make it happen, when in reality it was a Supreme Court issue that was already in progress, but he whipped gay sheeple voters into a frenzy to get votes.
We now have to elect a President that will be vicious against terrorism and will bring fiscal sanity to the budget.
But, we have entitled sheeple Americans who believe they “deserve” only the best without working for it and earning it.
Gay voters need to stop being gay voters pidgeonholed in a closet by a party that thinks they own the gay and become voters who look at the big picture rather than getting caught up in the marginalia.
There is one issue in 2016 and that is how will we ensure our national security. Everything else stems from that.
And yes, I will not be voting for Clinton.
Perhaps the wrong thread but what has A4A done to help the police/FBI? I just read that the killer had profiles on a number of gay sites, including A4A. Likewise, A4A members in or out, if you had any contact with this guy you have to come forward.
I agree that guns are not the problem. If several employees were conceal carrying, could the shooter have been killed prior to more more innocent people loosing their lives, why could the fire escapes not be used? Where is the responsibility for the club owners, etc – those facts are not popular in the media (and most likely not available in the 1st 24 hours) – gun control is the easiest and most popular national conversation (so we as a society ran with it).
I see that we (myself included) have such a short term attention span that we don’t want to wait for the full story – the news media (ALL of them) manufacture what they want the story to be by clipping 30 second videos together and writers write opinion because they must fill 24 hour broadcasts – how many times can you repeat the same 10 minutes of “we don’t know from law enforcement”. It is politically icorrect to start broadcasting sitcoms during the tragedy – where’s the respect?
We as a society have forgotten mutual respect, agree to disagree (a lesson that we could all learn from Antonin Scalia and Ruth Bader Ginsburg). Everything in social media is Republicans are “evil”, Democrats are “evil”, Obama is…, Trump is… and so on.
Yes, there are some fundamentals that change the fabric of the country, we have always worked through those times – but our leaders have turned everything into an agenda opportunity. We as a society juge each other based on emotion and what we see on Facebook, Twitter and so on rather than seeking new the truth then making a decision. A very good friend once told me; I disagree with you (topic does not matter), but it is not my place to judge you – we are still friends today.
Im rather surprised the number and ferocity of posters who are educated and aware about the obvious usage of this event to further gun control. Im glad you all spoke up, i was worried that the gay community mostly was a bunch of pussified cowards willing to hide to behind the lame govt promises of protecting the public. Im glad at least some of the outspokn here are not reflective of that cowardly and frankly Constitutional rights hating stance.
In the human race there are real men and the rest are snivelling cowards. We see that divide pretty clearly in the comments.
This is a terrible tragedy for our society as a whole. This is why our constitution gives us the right to bear arms. If liberal politicians weren’t trying to constrict us in this right, the tragedy would not have been so disproportionate–someone would have handled this individual and so many people would not have died. Unfortunately, although I do think this was both an act of terrorism and a hate crime, it is not an isolated incident—this poison is reaching every demographic in our country. Nobody is 100% safe. The most important thing is that we not allow these horrible crimes, no matter how heinous, to keep us from living, with a watchful eye, as we normally would…it is both a tribute and an honor to ALL we have lost. We cannot allow our society to be molded by this insanity.
My heart goes out to all of the victims, and especially the Latin community, to be targeted like this is unthinkable.
As my heart go out to the victims. I have to say after listing to many people and my on views and in my life. This murderer was as a coward, but more important this man was gay. He was looking for our help in the gay community, maybe he needed to talk with a gay man and open up about his feelings find love, we know that the Middle East will kill their gays. This man was turned down by the Latino community, but if you listen to the survivors, he asked if what race or color you were he would let them go( black men)! This was not a hate crime — it’s a crime of rejections of the Latino race that he had hit on or tried to date. We say we are a community of LOVE but look at our profiles in different states I quote No blacks,no Latino, no Middle East no fats no old guys the list goes on and we say we are all inclusive.this saddens me to hear that, yes we are strong people a loving people. We are not …. We are only Strong when something like this happens, I lost friends to a shooting. Again May god bless the lost souls that were lost on that night.