Love : We Found Love On A4A
***Valentine’s Day is coming, so until VDAY, all posts will be about LOVE. Love for younger guys, love for older, love for HIV positive men, love love love! Happy Valentine week everyone! <3
Many members used to say to me : “Why are you even on here?”
I would say I’m not on A4A to hook up, I’m just here for friends. To me A4A is what you make it.
So one day I was just searching for guys in my area that would be down to kick it sometimes and I saw this guy who seemed to be looking for the same thing. I won’t lie and say it wasn’t his looks that caught my eye, because it was. He was very cute. We started talking back and forth and one day I invited him to go to Club 21 in Downtown Sacramento.
When we met, we hit it off really well!! We started hanging out pretty regularly and eventually we realized we both liked each other more than just as friends and decided we should try being in a more intimate relationship.
To make a long story short, this guy literally had his mouse pointer on the button to remove his account. When I sent my message to him, his curiosity got the best of him and he responded to me instead of deleting his account.
That was almost 4 years ago. We have been together since December 18, 2009. We made Adam4Adam what we wanted to make it. We made a friendship and then we made….love (puns intended )
-Chris and Francisco
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You would be the exception, rather than the rule. But congrats.
I met the love of my life on this site. We had actually met a sex party with my friends more than two years before our first date. It wasn’t until well into the relationship that we remembered this earlier experience.
Anyway, I was hit up by a guy who lived a good distance from me. We chatted, and I think he asked me for a date. I did everything I could think of to make him lose interest in me. I simply wasn’t interested at the time, and even the revelation that I was in the porn industry didn’t deter him. Our first date was long and unexciting. I promptly forgot about him and went on with my things. Later in the autumn, he asked for another date. I still wasn’t interested, but he clearly WAS, so I gave him another chance. It took time, but we found a connection. Just before Christmas, he asked me to be his boyfriend. I accepted his invitation, but I didn’t know how I felt about him. It wasn’t until mid-February that I realized I loved him. And we were in love at last. It was a good relationship. I gave up the porn to be with him, but it wasn’t enough. I think he simply lost interest. He pushed me away too many times, and I did things that indicated I didn’t love him anymore, so we split up after thirteen months. It may not look like much to anyone else, but to me, those thirteen months were some of the happiest days of my life.
1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails ..
Huge congratulations to the Guys that found Love on what is clearly a Meat Locker of a site. You all are an exception to what’s going on here on Adam. I am Bisexual and would love to find a Real Sexy Bottom Guy to change that.
All we need is positive thinking, understanding of the universe. And the rest will follow. Good for you both. life is short ( i know i sound redundant but..) I wish you both all the best and please continue to spread your joy, its so refreshing to know love is still out their, looking for love.
-GDJ
I wonder if they now have an A4A account in which they’re looking for group sex with other A4A members? Just a thought lol. Very sweet story btw
Yea, but what does that really mean? Many on here find love, then bring in a 3rd and sometimes a 4th. Everyone fought to be married, just to have orgies later on. I just don’t understand it.
I never dreamed I would have found my husband on the internet. I came on A4A as a diversion several years after my first partner passed away with cancer. I was looking for some friends with possible benefits but was basically just “looking”. One day I saw SOMETHING that really caught my eye. It was a picture of a very nice cock….LOL…I made contact and we met face to face and THAT WAS IT!!!..We clicked from the very beginning with one glitch..he was married. Long story short…he was outed by a mutual acquaintance and eventually divorced. Once he was outed, he moved in with me,we have been together 9 years,his ex-wife is a good friend, and we married on Christmas Eve 2014. LOVE can be found on A4A, but it is rare because of the distance factor in so many connections. Valentine’s Day is this Sunday so I wish you all good luck in your search for love, if that is what you are looking for, and I want to tell my MAN that I LOVE YOU and wouldn’t change a thing. XOXOXOXO
Chuck : That’s amazing!!!!
In my several years of experience on this site (including reliance on it while travelling), I think many (if not most) of the profiles are here are emotionally troubled because they never meet, frauds because their profiles sound great but somehow they find a way to reject everyone, or downright strange as in making one want to leave not long after we meet (in the instances where that even happens). Now, that much being said, when I’ve connected with the rare healthy, honest, and interesting and we connected, it has been a great refreshing treat. What else can i say? You have to sift a lot of chaff before you get any wheat.
Found the love of my life on t his site 9 years ago. Stumbled on his profile, met in person and it was LOVE from the start. We have been together 9 years now and got married on Christmas Eve 2014.
Guys in this screwed up city find out I am in my 50’s they run, They block me. They freak out.
A bunch of shallow shit heads who think they are invincible.
I have a bunch of news for you boys, Youth is not an accomplishment, it fails sooner than you may think.
Life is what is happening while you are looking for what you think you want. What is usually not what you need.
Good luck
I, met my Partner on here 6/2012. We are together still. We, both were looking for the same thing. Both our pics and profiles were nice. Both looking for Friendship & Love.
Thank You,
A4A
When you have a open mind and stop being so judgemental you can find love friendship or any kind of positive relationship anywhere. I feel that a lot guys think that all guys that are online or on Adam are somehow not worth anything but sex so dating is not question “key word” All Guys even though they are online and feel that they are worth it,,,, I now to many like that!
I wish I could find love on this site. But 1st I’ld love for the 1st date or hookup!