Gay Stuff : Young Novices Need Assistance
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Most members are accustomed to surfing A4A after having already met and enjoyed playmates in the past. When members return to surfing, they often discover new profiles that get their attention. Sometimes they discover young virgin novices who are just getting started on A4A and need assistance and guidance along the road to their sexual fulfillment.
Reaching young adulthood, many young males are very passionate about wanting exciting male sex experiences. They are eager to learn more about the approaches of older guys who want to break them in! For this reason, mature males should consider being a positive influence—not one that detracts from the glow and passion of male experiences.
Recognizing the lack of sex knowledge in some novices, we should be willing to discuss sex details with them since they are seeking to maximize their sexual experiences. Here are some issues that should be mentioned:
- Are they interested in both oral and anal sex?
- Do they want to top or bottom, or flip?
- Do they want an older male or one nearer their own age?
- Will safe sex prevail?
- What do they know about BDSM?
- Are they currently using a dildo in their ass when they masturbate?
Asked the questions above, the novice can more easily open up about their previous sexual activities and what they are wanting to experience now with a male partner. If they are using dildos, they will have more pleasure with little or no pain when being topped. If BDSM activities are not to be included, that will have been determined before meeting one another. For mature males who enjoy young virgin males, make the most of a very special event by expressing tenderness and affection. Remember, you were once that age too!
Members, do you have any stories about young virgin males?
Counselor4U
This is Great. I am in my 30’s and I have helped quite a few younger guys start their journey. I love to see the look on a 18 to 20 yo face when they cum from me sucking their cock or fucking my ass. I have had a least 20 in the past 2 years that have told me I was the first guy they had any sex with or the first guy they have fucked. It is even more enjoyable when they want to come back and have sex many more times after and they tell me about the sex their sex lifes. I remember my first time like it was yesterday. We should all be trying to make the first time good for these Virgins. Sometimes the Virgins are in their 30’s and 40’s.
Old dudes looking to break-in virgins…..is SO GROSS!!! Thanks for sinking to an all new low…
I’d love to teach a,Novice a few Tricks. Like how to take some Dick. Both orally and anal. He’d be a Professional after a few sessions with this Dick.
24kplay.
Personally, I think it’s a good idea for a new young gay guy to explore with another inexperienced guy. I’ve been asked by virgins to be “their first” but I feel more like a teacher than a horned up partner with a dude who knows what they want. Yes, we were all young once and as a teenager, it was fun to explore with my friends. But as a middle aged guy who knows what he wants from another gay man, I prefer some experience so we both have a great time.
I’m still needing broken in. Help!!!
I strongly recommend to the newbies who contact me to not look online for their first experiences. It’s a special event and shouldn’t be thrown away on a stranger.
I’ve “broken in” my share of young virgin novices and what you said is true: you have to be willing to be a mentor of sorts to them and hold their hands since many things regarding man-on-man sex is new to them. You have to be patient especially when topping them, and be Ok with not having your “needs” met right away sexually as they probably won’t be able to take all of you the first time around.
One of my exes was a virgin and had just turned 18 when we met (I was in my 30s) and a major part of our first time having sex was spent with me “prepping” him to take just the head of my dick. I had to be very considerate of his feelings, pulling out when the pain of me being inside him became too unbearable, etc. and as you said, being gentle. After many “trial runs” his ass gradually got used to my size and soon he was able to take it to the base. Even though we “broke up” about 15 months after we met due to living in different towns, we’ve remained friends. He stays at my place when he’s in town–we have sex of course–and he still calls even though he has a girlfriend now, and never fails to mention how lucky he was that his first time with a man was with me because I was so gentle and patient.
Leave it to you to make mansex this complicated. ..
Yup- I am currently training a novice how to top- and that takes a lot of patience. I am also teaching hi about safe sex practices including the usage of PrEP.
i am a 53 year old virgin and im saving myself for jesus. so jesus, if youre out there, im here waiting …. and waiting…..
First let me just say I rather not teach anyone anything sexual n second people need to stop trying to perfect sex and just enjoy it it’s not a job that needs training just have fun and let go if your not a sexual match for your partner then move on.
Who knew that older guys having sex with younger guys cold ever be considered helping the younger guys out? Doing them a favor so to speak. And practically a public service for the betterment of the Community.
If guys are in A4A, they have lost their virginity long time ago.
And we’re talking about predators in more drawn out dialogue to make it sound better. A+
This sounds more like the scenario for some banal porn video than “real life.” I’ll have to agree with TooBright. Sex shouldn’t be like some mechanical “Sex Education” class with a “Teacher.” It should be more spontaneous, mysterious and romantic than that. This article is for sick old pervs who have too much free time on their hands.
After reading some of the comments about everyone’s treat encounters with these cute young dudes. I don’t where the hell YOU ALL find them or say to them when you do! On sites like this you can just get your message ignored if not blocked by those real young types. In clubs where your literally live in living color where they can see you and they make one feel invisible! From what I’ve read seems like boys are all looking for men! Well not all of us.
I tend to go for younger guys and occasionally a virgin will cross my path. I don’t like sex with virgins too much because the sex is usually stale, but it’s hard to turn down a sexy jock boy. I hooked up with a newbie just this past weekend. He’s a hot 24yo kid in the military currently stationed near me. He had a little experience with oral and jerking off with other guys, but was curious about bottoming. He had fantasized about letting a hot muscle daddy break him in, so he asked if I’d be into it. We had messed around a couple times beforehand so he was somewhat relaxed when we got together that night. Had to show him how to get cleaned out first. After that, we got into some foreplay and I started working on his ass. I bought a butt plug set to help stretch him open. He kept it in for some time before taking it out and resting then trying again with a bigger one. We did that for awhile until he was taking the plug in fairly easy with only a little pain. We got back to foreplay. I ate and fingered his ass really good, got him lubed up, put him on his back, and let him take the head of my cock. Alternated between kissing him and jerking his cock while gradually pressing in further. Eventually got all the way in and continued with slow strokes. After awhile he was totally relaxed and I was able to start a good pump. He was rock hard at that point and he was no longer using his hands to hold me back. Before I knew it his ass tightened up around my cock and he was shooting all over my headboard. We did it a couple more times over the weekend and looking forward to some more fun this weekend.
Am I the only young gay man who finds Counselor4u to be incredibly condescending of the youth? Each and every post reads like a cnn lost-icle about “13 things Millenials should be doing by 25”. The sheer audacity of characterizing sex with an age difference as some type of hand-holding session degrades a class of relationship, and two classes of individuals
Not to mentio. The fact that there is hardly a post about predatory old men, or the pressure felt by young people to accept, with doe eyes and a steel cock, the advances of rather persistent older men.
Finally, some noteworthy and important information. Not the usual shallowness of the “Dave” articles probably due to youth and inexperience! Mentoring works and provides safety to younger guys who want to educate themselves in the art of making love. LUST IS SHORT LIVED, LOVE IS GENTLE AND KIND!
Gee, “TooBright” isn’t, is he? LOL
Sounds like an awful young “Hater”, kiddo…
See…I think fresh faggots (I’m referencing a book by Larry Kramer, so don’t come for me) need to know where they come from. They need to know how ancient cultures revered Homosexuals and Trans individuals. When you can validate Self, then it’s easier to help them go from Tab Hunter to AL Parker or Armond Rizzo. Help a future bottom or top be Pleasure Masters by affirming them. Less guilt, less shame, less lives destroyed. I was mentored by a group of older leather men who enjoyed telling me what it was like in the 70s 80s and 90s. They made me understand the importance of understanding the AIDS crisis. That made me respect my body and my partners. But it stopped the constant cruising on multiple sites 24/7. They pass down some great tips/tricks/wisdom still…12 years later.
*Laughs* Another article about old guys being raised up as educators or helpers of young men. Its so sad to hear all this gibberish about how young people need all this help, you know because they don’t know anything about anything. It’s getting to be a disturbing trend how young gay men are being marginalized into sex toys for men old enough to be their fathers simply on the basis of their age. What’s really disturbing though is that a lot of these younger guys fall for it and become prey for these online creepers.
when I was young i was attracted to older men and still am, but there are far too many predatory old men, and I have felt the pressure to accept. Old guys see youth with doe eyes and wanting a steel cock. Most guys just want another notch on their sex belt. The advances of rather persistent older men for young guys is crazy…the stalking around not saying a word, staring at you like some piece of meat…like we should all be psychic and know what you want. Many older guys should have a partner…your own age-instead of using young guys like tissue paper or handkerchiefs.
But young guys want to learn. Teach them. Just get over yourself and actually teach.
Having been on the receiving end of many a horny older man’s messages, I can tell you that this scenario is not as common as the article makes it out to be. And why are you encouraging older men to prey upon younger men with no experience? This is really a very disturbing piece. How does BDSM even get brought up on conversations about the first time? A virgin may know they are interested in *watching* BDSM, but they’ve no way of knowing if they enjoy taking part.
I’ll also let you in on a secret. When an older man hits on me, and then gets pissed off for me not being interested in letting them fuck me, it makes me extremely concerned. Does a virgin understand the concept of consent? Does a virgin understand that no one should ever push them into anything? Most likely not.
This is really a horrible article. Older men, please note that unless a young virgin comes to you, unless a younger guy in general comes to you, we are likely not interested. Unless we expressly tell you that we are interested in older men, and message you first, please leave us alone. It’s bothersome, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s sometimes scary.
This is crazy as hell. This article and more so the responses to it have a pedophile feel to it. Please find something else to discuss.
I find some of the comments more disturbing than the article, older can be 5, 10 years or whatever, doesn’t have to be some 60 year old lusting after an 18 year old virgin–if the profile has an age limit or says no Daddies, I move on, don’t need some young fuck head saying we are all creepers. I don’t necessarily think all young guys are arrogant fucks but there certainly are many out there as well as creepers–everyone is different and has their own tastes, respect that!
Dude, this is predatory AF. Young guys don’t need help from older men. I know, I know, the idea of a bunch of 18-25 year olds who actually know what to do with their dicks seems so out there, but rest assured, it’s reality. Can we also talk about how the author of this POS article is being insanely condescending to younger gay men? Can we talk about how he’s encouraging older men to actively seek out younger men? The last comment asks why the subject of BDSM would even be brought up if you’re going to be someone’s first, and I think he’s right, but it’s deeper than that. Why are older men trying to get with virgin’s anyways? That’s some some psych 101 stuff right there. Sexy with virgins is not special, it’s not really fun, and it can really fuck with the virgin themselves.
To the older men on this site, please I not listen to this. Is you get men are not here waiting for our daddies to come find us. Honestly, we’re not. We’re not here to fill some void left by a bad familial or friendly relationship. If we are interested in you, we will approach you. At 25, I have no interest in talking to anyone under 21, so why would you try and hit up an 18 year old virgin at 40? Please, keep it to yourselves. If we’re interested, we’ll hit you up, we’ll talk about it, we’ll unlock our pics. Otherwise, leave is the hell alone, and for the love of God don’t be some predatory creep like the author of this article.
Guys that indicate a preference for my age group (40+) may get a message from me if we’re also compatible in other ways, regardless of their age. Sometimes I’ll send a comment to a younger guy if there’s something in his profile (Hey, I see you like Tuvian throat singing!) or his pic (The B&W, classic pose, contrast lighting made for a great picture, very classy.), but those aren’t come-ons and if he doesn’t respond, fine; if he does, we can converse without a sexual advance on my part. It’s nice to be nice.
But sex, hook ups and relationships are ultimately nuanced things. I have very experienced partners and some that are fairly new to sensuality and the mechanics of oral and anal sex. If I’m with a ‘new’ guy I start with sensuality because it’s affirming to both of us. It helps us communicate and build trust, and establishes to him my obligation to be observant of his responses to my stimuli.
Part of that obligation is to know when he *isn’t* ready to have his fantasy and what will help him get there. Some guys have surprised me – in 30 minutes they’re ready to take on a rugby team, others that after hours (across multiple sessions) still have difficulties. But across that spectrum I can confirm a few things:
1) The largest sexual organ is the skin.
2) The primary force in physical relationships is the satisfaction of “skin hunger”, or the need for contact.
3) The most important sexual organ is the brain.
I want my partners, regardless of their age or experience level, to enjoy our experiences enough to come back for more. That’s not predatory, that’s respectful.
I prefer experienced men, not virgins or bare “boys”. Ive had enough experiences where newbies dont know what they are doing or how to prepare ahead of time by good cleanings out. If you want to be young naive and grossly ill prepared, playing bareback with any and everyone, then knock youself out. You deserve all the shit and disease you bring on yourself through your ignorance and arrogance. I dont have to mentor anyone, if i do offer tips its solely to prevent continued embarrassment, but I expect any partner to be grown adult respectful men, not petty nasty dickheads. As far as older guys chasing youngsters less than half their age, while creepy in its own right, you youngsters could use some good mentorship but i suspect most wouldnt respect it anyway.
23 year old here and the best sex I’ve had has been with older guys. I’m not talking the ones who ask to worship my feet and try and put me on a pedalstal cause I’m young but the ones who have stupidly sexy self confidence and treat me like a man not some sex doll. I also find they are more sexually open than younger guys, which is why I’m vers
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I love the way you broke it down SayWhut! You couldn’t have said it better. And the ones that can’t seem to understand it I think need to lay off the porn and get real! Porn is what we love it to be,but it isn’t always like that in real life!
I’m 23 years old & I think it’s cool if older men want to show younger, inexperienced men how man-on-man relations are. Just as long as the younger guys aren’t being seen as “sex toys” I think it’ll be all good.
I have a simple rule: I NEVER get involved with anyone under 21, or approach them in anyway. I am in my mid-50’s and live in a college town (the state university has over 25,000 students). I often send compliments on A4A (great profile & pic! – things like that). Over 95% are either ignored, blocked, or a simple thanks from the nice young man. I respond politely, (you’re welcome, my pleasure, and so forth). It ends there for most of the young men who acknowledge my message. I admire, issue a compliment, follow-up politely, then disengage.
Occasionally, a student “hits on me” – this happens about a dozen times during an academic year – so very infrequently. Of those who do not ask for money in exchange for sex (I disengage from these $ chasers at once), and who want to come over, I have found they need no mentor. Indeed, these young men who want to hook-up with me (the older man) are always more aggressive and know exactly what they want than I am. They come to my house, tell me what they want, get their nut, thank me, then leave. Some even come back for more. Simply, they enjoy getting off with an older guy and are comfortable with themselves. Usually, they teach me instead of me mentoring them.
Most of the young guys that I have encountered were already more advanced in their sexual knowledge and skill, knew what they wanted (and I willingly let them take it), they got off (their objective), were polite, and they left satisfied. In conclusion, hell, they mentored me.
If they want something from an older man, they will come to you. Otherwise, leave them the hell alone.
UtFool I love the way you stated all that and the ways you go about it,some of us were raised with manners. I wish more people would understand it the way like you said it. I am over 21 but still not interested in older guys,and it bothers me when some of them don’t take a hint and go insisting that “I need a Daddy”,or think that your desperate for nut are the things that wear our manners thin. So it’s kinda bad when you have to be a little brazen to get them to lay off that your not interested,you want a dude not a dad. So much for not to be rude! If I see some young dude go off with some older guy,and a fogey even! Well,I try to respect that though inside me I’m going “lucky old bastard”. Hell,I’ve been looked away by other young dudes! I’m HM not a frump or dorky I remind you like “Little Ricky” all grown up, some chics flirt with me sometimes! Yet I encounter the same ignoring game from young duds on this site too. So it does cut both ways.
saywhat— i agree with you as a old guy and near a college town, i have been hit on and met several of the college guys. I’ve never pressured any of them but like to continue a dialog with them to figure out what it is they want $$$ or if they want sex and pleasure. i remember when i was a virgin to m2m sex it was a guy a little older than myself. He showed and explained how to clean out for anal, and i took that knowledge and moved on. If the young men here dont want or like DADDY hitting on them “PUT IT IN YOUR PROFILE WHAT YOU DO WANT” I have hit on many guys here if your not interested “JUST SAY SO” Didn’t your parent’s teach you any manners. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN n MEAN WHAT YOU SAY
I guess you would say i’m a forward person i see a hot guy i say “hi hot pics or great cock -ass” I’m not a stalker or predator a simple thanks or no thanks is all it takes. I’ve met guys from 19 to 72 yrs old. Ya never know till you try it.
The one that comes to mind is a 19 yr old guy hit on me 3 times in one night i thought he wanted to chat so i did., i was ready for bed and tired, so to move the process along i sent my # to him , to my disbelief he txt me wanted directions to my place. I sent them along with a dick pic he returned a dick pic and stated he wanted a experienced guy to take his cherry. He lived 40 miles away i told him txt me when he got to a town 15 miles away and he did. He had a idea of what he wanted to do so I knew he was for real he got here we talked more had a cig and a beer i asked if he wanted to shower and get busy he was so hard when we got to the shower i had to keep telling him to cool his jets to relax and i didnt want to hurt him but wanted him to enjoy the experience. So he followed my lead i showed him how to clean out with my clean stream unit even tho he only wanted to bottom for me. Then we hit the shower and i started with mild foreplay to build his excitement which he didn’t need. I can say after that he was here every weekend for months to come then he got a beautiful hot GF now and then i still get a txt from him late a night wanting some daddy dick. EXPERIENCED DADDY D
I was that young inexperienced guy and I was lucky to find a hot older guy to show me the way. We worked up to trying things little by little and it really helped me to relax and open up, literally. I went from being a tight virgin to taking 8″ with ease thanks to him.